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Adranidoo:
Women - Their "heartlessness" in putting logic over emotion and themselves over every other thing on the planet is a necessary survival skill.

Just like a girl will leave a lover who's sacrificed a lot for her in ten years of relationship and go for an older guy who's wealthier...only for her to later cheat with a young blood along the line....that's the kinda cold calculations one should do to be better in life and win. Cos it's a cold cold world out here.



Women?
I learn a lot from those species.

_{Pic below what modern women mean by freedom.
BTW this is a grocery shop}

In the olden days, women body were never objectified. Heck, ladies and men hardly wear clothes and still maintain their lanes. Modernity and religion made looking at the body lustful.

If you go to some villages, you will see some mamas top less during the heat season in and around their homes. Nobody cares.

Men were only boxers without briefs. They even were their joggers or whatever without briefs and you will clearly see the outline of the third leg. They sag their pants to show bums. Or you think thats not a sexual message to ladies?
Women have not killed them. Women are attracted to men's chest, we see men everywhere topless. They go as far as getting six packs to show off. You think it's to their fellow men?

Make we hia. Sexualising Women when men are guilty of the same thing.
I see this everyday.

This is unbelievable
But what can I say.
It's their lagos.

superCleanworks:
They Want? Who are the THEY?
who introduced the BLACK PLAGUE?
who introduced TB, ebola, genocide, poverty, war, malaria and HIV?
face the facts, The world is full of plagues and diseases and they will keep coming & coming.

You don't know nothing and you should be the one facing facts. You are not conversing with a dunce in the matter.

cococandy:
Funny how it’s usually women who are witches. How many wizards have you heard them banning?

They learnt very well from their colonial masters.

Let's say women liberation came less than a century ago. The atrocities committed against women in these developed nations were shocking. Not as half of what was obtainable in our culture before colonisation and in the 70s above.

Modern day women hating comes from religion.
You see them quoting the bible up and down for women slavery called submission.

My Grannies told me how powerful the umuadas were in the old. Look at our women now. Team u must submit to your husband.

But I'm happy that in those nations, women fought. It will take time but with things on ground in Nigeria right now, women emancipation is just a step away.

Women no longer see themselves as breeding machines only and they can actually walk away if they desire when the marriage dont favour them. This is a huge leap.

After cashing out from covid, they want to introduce another one?

After petrol dollar, the most powerful oligarch in this world is pharmadollar. They are more dirty than gun and petrodollar oligarchs.

Penguin2:
Good one!

If the Tribunal gives judgment in August, then the Supreme will have until October ending to rule on their own case.

The implication is that if Tinubu gets sworn in, he will only be president until October of 2023.

He will be the shortest serving president in Nigeria, Africa and the World.

Modify your post. If the case turned against him he will not be either in Nigeria, Africa or the world.
Shonekan was there though an interim.
Google the rest.

I usually read your submissions. Be as objective with facts and logic as always

VTJN:
What a useless country. A 2.1 graduate earning less than the mumu minimum wage. I think your country failed you Op and millions of unemployed graduates out there.

He asked for advice.

DownTime44:
I was told not to give up on him. My mum will develop high Blood Pressure seeing him wasting away. I don't know what else to do sis. At times i wish i had the mind to poison him silently. He was supposed to be supporting me helping the family. Unfortunately, he was a burden.

I was told not to give up on him. How is that possible please? How else can i help him? What can i do please? This is frustrating. I can't imagine crying over my elder brother. I'm tired

Listen and listen good. He is not your prerogative.
He has his life, you have yours.
Period.
I have seen many people become nobody when they started off well cos they carry loads they are not meant to carry in the name of "be your brothers keeper". They will make sure they reduce you to their levels.

2ndly, you should look for a place outside your family house. If your mum can't pay house rent, let her move back to the village with the younger ones. They can start school in the village. Mama can farm and do small petty trading. You can send something WHEN you can.
Third and the most important. It's your parents that gave birth to you all and their obligation to train all till 18. Its not your duty. If they happen not to, dont try to bevome a parent when you are not qualified for it. It will definitely crush you.
Every action in this life have equal reaction. The fantasy of God will train has turned to reality when we give birth like rats.

This will help you plan your life well and never make the mistakes of your parents.

Stress is one out of so many causes of high blood pressure and I tell you thinking about your brother will not make your mum have hbp.
One or two major factors must be inclusive.


What makes men are tough decisions. Your family will thank you later, including your future and kids.

Lunatics.

djon78:
We are talking of reality here and you are bringing Hollywood celebrities like Kris Jenner who God knows have done plenty cosmetic surgeries. Even celebrity preacher like Joyce Meyer has done plenty plastic surgery

So those ones are just exception, they are wealthy, worth millions of dollars.

I am talking of 65 years old around me that I have observed, not celebrity or Hollywood celebrities who are just one in a million

As for all those old Mama's coming for our young men
It's boredom and loneliness that is disturbing them.
Most of them there relatives like children are all minding there business. So they go for young boys here who use them as transactional ticket to get papers and migrate.

I know how lonely abroad life can be, even my sister that relocated with her family to Canada via PR couldn't stay after some months the first time she went there
She came back with her kids couldn't bear the boredom and loneliness then went back after staying back here for a year to prepare herself. Later went back, now have gotten her citizenship and passport.

She complained the kind terrible loneliness that was over there when she came back first time.

So all those Grannies that come looking for our boys do so to curb loneliness.

I talk about reality where I live and interact and yes, older women enjoy life more than older men both sexually and otherwise.
Men get erectile dysfunction as they age. Digest that. Unlike women. In Nigeria, culture and religion hold widows back. And the chain is breaking. She is not afraid of pregnancy or otherwise, just enjoying life.
Yep, life favours women as they age more than men. For those men who can still get it up in their 60s, kudos to them. The worst is this generation of concoction drinkers and smokers living aggressive lifestyle.
I think I've flogged this topic enough.

cococandy:
Female sexuality is really demonized in our society that’s why a lot of them never live their truth until they die. Just know that a 65 year old woman will get Dick if she wants. A relationship? Maybe not with a 25 year old man unless she’s a celebrity like Cher and co. But a relationship with another older divorced or widowed person is very very common.

But just plain no strings attached sex? Yes she can get it from a 25 year old boy if she wants.

We know all men are picky on the internet. But in real life…


https://www.millhorn.com/three-reasons-why-stds-are-on-the-rise-in-nursing-homes/

Here, she will even get a relationship if she so desires.

These people are more sexually active than some of us. That's what I've been trying to tell Acidosis and his friends.
Infact, these people know how to enjoy life more than us.

dominique:
The mayor of Newyork and cab driver have come out to bust their lies. It is virtually impossible to be involved in a 2 hour chase on extremely busy roads in Newyork without causing a multi vehicle accident. What they did was tell the cab driver go round the block multiple times till they decided the coast was clear. There was nothing like a "near catastrophic" high speed pursuit they claimed. Those two depend on attention as if their lives depend on it and I'm sure it's Megan controlling Harry like a puppet. How they went from beloved royals to objects of ridicule needs to be studied


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OUF03r2hMuU

Not surprised. Americans will soon vomit them out like the British.
Harry and Megan are actually alike in character. Just that Harry needed a little push and Megan was there to give her graceful hand for free .

If you see how the late queen cherished and mothered this selfish boy, despite all his shenanigans, you will never pity him.
Over spoilt boy. My annoyance is with the boy not Megan. She is just behaving like an average American.

Condom no dey Congo?

Anger with substance abuse.

djon78:
I have close family relatives that are in this age range you are saying.

A 65 years old woman is already a Granny
Where she get time for Love? Where?
They don't even have time for sex again

But a 75 years old man healthy can still be very Hot and still attract even younger women

I am not even talking of 65 years old men here

The secret for every man is to begin early to take proper care of his health and body

Latest from 30s they should start eating Clean
Excercise regularly
Do regular medical check up

Anyone that does this will still be balling in his 70s

I learnt this from my Dad
He will be 80 in 2 years time
But has been sound physically
Not on any medication
You can take him for a 65 years old
Because of good choices he made from early years
Never seen him taking alcohol
Very choosy in eating

Even so much stronger than my mum who is early 70s
Infact my Dad is the one that takes care of her
Because all of us have left home
Except the Nanny that comes within the week to clean and Cook for them

And you believe the 70 yrs old granny will not start early to take care of herself?
A 70 yrs old man isn't granny too?
Drs will advice a 60 something years old man to slow down if he is fortunate enough to be still pumping. Young girls that marry them know what they are after. Yet to hear an old woman die on top lovemaking. It's the other way round.

Simple answer, tired of this debate. Check out pictures of nollywood female and male actors from age 60 upwards.
Women most of the time suffer from pregnancy to childbirth complications that may affect them which is not their fault. Aside that, these ladies are balling. Both in and out of bed. Eg, look at Chris jenner and her young African American dude. I also read a lot about ita giwa.
It's still Nigerian boys that go abroad and marry these so called ancestors or don't they cuddle and make love?
Never compare. When you go forciuples seminars, you will hear what uou won't hear in public or stay near older women.

I thought they went to court barring nysc from talking.
Nigerian politics is depressing.

Acidosis:
It's okay to say that women become less dependent as they age. I'll agree.

But to say that women look better as they age is flawed. No man will touch a 65 year-old woman with a long pole, except her husband and ritualists. Many simply retire to face their children.

Men don't look at a 65 yrs old woman because of the cultural tag attached to older woman and an old man is attracted by a younger girl solely because of financial protection and power.
An older woman don't care about marriage again, an older man may want marriage
An older woman has biological clock against her as regards giving birth which a makes a younger man look stupid courting her if he desires kids.

An average older woman don't really care in Nigeria, except enjoy life but I tell you, they fair better. And because they don't care, that's why you don't see them dressing up to kill. What am i saying, go to parties and see them balling. I will use where I live as an example, a 60yrs old single woman just want to be single. Yep, she is still courted and treated like a lady. You will hear statements like my mum's new boyfriend, etc and these ladies are old.

Leave naija stereotype. We demonised women to only live for their husbands and kids only thats why we think they have no life outside that setting and find it hard to believe an older woman will still be toasted like the younger ones. Black women are catching up now cos they no longer live for their kids. Check out youtube and see older men versus older women in action.
Even older male celebrities shine less than their female colleagues.

Acidosis:
Old age favour women? This is really new considering the rate at which old men become sugar daddies.

I still believe that old age will only "favour" women in a Tinubu/Oluremi or Buhari/Aisha kind of relationship. Buhari is 80 years. Aisha is just 52. I won't consider Aisha's state an advantage or "favour." Have you imagined an 80 year old Aisha? You have to imagine a typical 80 year old woman to draw this conclusion.

We also can't use Tinubu's situation to draw any conclusion. Even after declaring a fraudulent age, Tinubu is still 10 years older than Remi. Remove the fraud and we are nearing a 20 year gap. These are no advantages in my own understanding. Both Buhari and Tinubu have lived and seen it all, they have been previously married to other women with kids here and there.

A woman of 60 plus is still rocking life, Acidosis. How many men of 60 plus can do that?
Here, I have seen 60 plus ladies and men. Women are favoured darling.
Some men can go for young babes but can they keep up. I can remember when ffk and his baby mama were logging it out. She said he never got it up even once. You are talking of vegetables tinubu and buhari
What's a man if his manhood is emasculated. His wife will look outside. That is my message. Besides, In naija setting, mama is busy junketeering from one state, country to the other visiting children for omugwo and even relatives that she represents as their mum having good time. How many of our men has that privilege unless well travelled and rich guys. Infact, as una age una think more of home.

A woman can also decide to tune up with cosmetic surgery. Its her choice. Chris jenner comes to mind. Ladies have less worries at later age than men. Men are looking for successors while ladies are busy training who will help take care of them. Weary them out.
See the difference?

Lincolnburrows:
Are you the wife?

Yes, I am.
Can you rest now.

Money no dey acting. What!

Odingo1:
The point that that I am talking about is the wife brothers coming to the house to beat him. Physically tormenting the man because they from rich home. Is it Saint Obi sisters that is marring the woman. The woman and husband is living alone, what has it got to do with Obi sisters.

And climbed the wall to get into the house.
Maybe you don't know the fire married sisters can ignite without being present there.
It's saint obi we are talking about. Do you really know him or just following the crowd?

TheMostComplex1:
His problem was that he couldn't do without the luxury he has experienced hence he refused to go back to acting and when some producers were trying to relaunch his career he was demanding for 10m

Thank u. Guy see himself as Nigerian Arnold.

OGHENAOGIE:
u de mind them saint Obi obviously was a family person very quiet and introverted too to give up acting career for family means a lot... Like u said Dem Elon musk have divorce as option even before marriage

He didn't give up acting for family life rather acting gave up on him. Many like him stopped crying cos it doest bring money to the table especially in his case where the wife was loaded. A slap on his pride.
Saint obi introverted?
I guess you really don't know saint at all.

Odingo1:
Don’t you know that you can emotionally kill someone by the words you tell them or by your altitude towards someone, the person will be heartbroken and cannot sleep at night, mental illness coupled with depression will set in, then the person become sick and die. Haven’t you see people that commit suicide because of bullying.

One can cause someone death indirectly through their actions towards someone.

You are asking what the wife did, the wife allows his brothers to constantly come to his house to beat his husband. They are from rich family so the husband was bullied to death.

Saint don't have any brother rather he had 8 sisters. He was the last. Cut that woman some slack, will you?
She saw hell. He literally shut his sisters off so he can have peaceful family. Go and read up his interviews before you start dissecting his ex wife. Personally, I wouldn't marry him. Its like entering the lion's den. He himself said it several times.
Even if he is alive and marry again, the woman will still run away. It takes a man with gut to fight 8 older sisters and Saint don't have the gut. The are like hyenas around him.

cococandy:
Any logical brain can deduce that he had an illness that hasn’t been revealed yet. He didn’t die from weakness. He died from the illness. All humans must die. Unfortunately he did.

However on top of being sick, he might have been missing his family which is normal. Not a sign of weakness. And he confided in his friends and what did they do? They used that information to chase clout when he died.

That guy has loads of sisters. If I can remember correctly, he was the last and only son among 8 sisters. Wish I can grab some of his interviews where he stated he pity his wife to be cos of his sisters. Upon his popularity, he married late cos nobody want to enter that family as a Mrs. Didn't even know he got married at last. His sisters were so protective and obsessed with him, choking the life out of him, he laugh at interviews on why he is still single but that was a suffering man. Imagine marrying into such family. They never gave him space.
Only if that woman can talk. No matter how I love a man, I'm not gonna dig my grave with such marriage unless dos and don't are specified and signed by the court.

Acidosis:
APAPATITIS ke


You're somehow right sha but I think that rule only applies to the old and previous generation where men marry women that are 20 years younger.

These days where married men and their wives are nearly age mates, I don't see that happening. Women age faster and, besides, women of this generation have become too obsessed with body damaging properties. More women may find themselves dealing with all manner of illnesses in old age due to what they did with and to their bodies in their youth.

Even if couples are age mates, old age still favour women. No pregnancy, kids are out and about and you start feeling like a teen again, doing those things you missed while nurturing kids. Most importantly, you can nack nonstop. An advantage women has over men. Men that age hardly get it up these days either.
What make people sick in old age mostly regardless of gender are what entered their mouth which accounts for more than 60% of sicknesses in the world today and believe you me, men are affected more in this area than women hence men die more than women at later age.

vickydevoka:
Why are you stressing on this nyash thing. Ok!! I'm sorry it also hit you in the wrong place

Why did you think it did hit me?
Or you think everybody commenting here is your mate.
Dear, at my age, its retirement money I'm chasing after. All others done and dusted.

People like me come here to feel the naija vibes from grassroot.

Sometimes my posts are for correctional purposes only. Pray to reach my age, you will start viewing things through my lens.

It might help you to learn how to communicate with class. Class will differentiate you every where both online and offline and take you where you never dreamt you will be. It has no age barrier but the earlier the better. Take care

Why lamenting online everytime when you know what to do?
Next Yr, u will come with another pregnancy and want faceless people to cuddle you.
You are not serious.

Thebadpolitican:
No worry when your girl they work and she nor dey obey your command again because she owns her money na you go still complain say them they rude
At that time you go they find the one you fit use money control

Come to benin to look for working class ladies
Who are educated, hope you can put up with their pride?

Who are you to command your girlfriend or even a wife?
Is your self esteem that low you have to ride on others to feel valued?
What I read here sometimes.

vickydevoka:
Women emotions can never be hidden. This is their only weak point. You can tell.. I have 4 sisters plus cousins that I lived with while growing up. Just tell one of them your flat nyash and you will see them shuffling around the room with mirror right infront of them

The same way you tell a man he is 2 minutes man or his thing looks like centipede.
Better still he shoots empty. He will organise guys to rape you. Which one hits harder?
In some countries, nyash is not their thing. Asia to be specific. Hard to see an Asian going for butt surgery. Its not a beauty standard( excluding India for some reason though they are not butt enthusiasts). This nyash thing na Africa.

dominique:
I won't be surprised if that attention obsessed sociopath called Meagan Markle staged this. Seeing how low their popularity has dipped, she had to take extreme measures to make news again. Harry don enter one chance with this psychopath he married

If you know the duo very well, then be rest assured it was staged. This has been their way since they came to public limelight.

The British were managing them before but after the coronation, hatred quadrupled.

The only thing that will placate them is Harry becoming heir apparent in place of Williams which is impossible. We are waiting for his second book.