₦airaland Forum

bukatyne:
TBH, any couple serious about japa today need to settle and agree on a lot of stuff before leaving like the poster I quoted yesterday opined especially if they run the 'Nigerian' marriage here.

Would like to read the dissertation. Did he also go a step further to compare and contrast with Asians?

What should they discuss?

Just get it right from the beginning. Characters encoded in the dna is hard, very hard to change. We often look the other way when the tale tell signs are everywhere during courtship.

How are you and family?

Mindlog:
It starts with the misconception about the field of Psychology as many instantly pair it with "madness" and studying the course is seen as 'how we for do am nah", which many reluctantly study in Nigerian Universities as their last choice rather than staying at home waiting for another year to sit for JAMB exam.

Many are not comfortable telling people they are studying Psychology. Once overwhelming majority of them graduate, they redirect attention because they never had interest in it as they only went through the motionns. 😂😂😂

Postgraduate studies gives one the opportunity to specialize in the field. During my undergrad, one of the courses we were taught was Child and Adolescent Psychology, that inspired me to decide that my specialty would centre around children and adolescents. I pushed hard to graduate well, got my British Psychological Society membership that gave me the eligibility to be accepted to study clinical child psychology for my Masters in the UK.

Fact is to study to become a child psychologist is not cheap, after investing so much, it will be difficult for one to come back to Nigeria to be earning N500k per month when the same skill is very much in high demand in the West because it is on their list of skill shortage.

Most Nigerians in the field of child psychology prefer working outside Nigeria, dem no fit shout because they don't have to be dragging with facility management or the government to provide what is needed to work effectively with a child.

To work with a child who have sensory issues, let say an autistic child, how many local government chairmen or state governors would be will be willing to set up sensory stimulation centres where I can work with such child?☹️☹️☹️

Child Psychologist in private practice in Nigeria are not CHEAP!

Sighs.
I love that discipline a lot.
Add a little bit of philosophy and u have a secret admirer for life.


Thanks for the explanation.

doggedfighter:
Ignorance on rampage.




Is that the baby that stayed 6years in the womb ?


Should be in primary 1 now
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This ignorance can be excused 15yrs ago and upwards but 2023, somebody is still spewing this nonsense. This is beyond financial poverty. It's poverty of the mind.

These miracles are synonymous with poor people.
Imagine Dangote's daughter saying she gave birth after 3 yrs pregnancy.
People will ask if she has mental problem and she will be attended to by the best psychiatric doctor immediately but all is excused when a poor man becomes the medical expert and likened to miracle by religious mongers.
Afterall the world is very deep and the spirit controls the physical.

Mindlog:
Listening to "noise", is part what brings food to my table.

I've been curious.
Why do we not have child psychologists in Nigeria?
Heck, why do people who study psychology in Nigeria not practice.
Can't think of renowned Nigerian psychologists.
The same with nutritionists. I only met one who wrote out some diets to follow for my FIL and she is a Prof.

mysticwarrior:
He is already serving jail terms in Nigeria for contravention of the Nigerian criminal code, he can not be extradited for now.

Guy is living large somewhere and of course, business as usual.
He is still serving Nigeria but secretly.

ganisucks:
Peter has moved from 50% to 71%.

The lion, the champion is here.

How did you come about this, if I may ask?
Care to explain?

Aarenasbaba:
You don give her to her husband

Na the husband go determine either to wear make up or not

Her husband will determine whether she will put on make up or not

Weak ass men wey full Nigeria. Only get strength on top woman matter while their fellow men all over the world are breaking record.

Look at common running of country that others do with pride and patriotism, Nigerian men only have one thing in mind while running for office. Embezzlement. There is this psychological breakdown that make Nigerian men have very low self esteem which they mistook as pride, and courage. Instead of facing fellow man, they descend on women to have the " I'm on top and the man" feeling.
Something is definitely wrong with the way we raise boys.
We need child psychologists in preparatory schools.

I also noticed this low self esteem is deep among religious people cos Nigerian men were not like this pre religious time. The more churches and mosques we build, the more men are becoming their own shadows through some religious indoctrination.

Biological clock don't wanna know you waited for 8 yrs.
Girls are wiser and smarter.

My beatie broke off with his babe after about a yr plus of travelling abroad for his masters though I saw his reason. He isn't ready to go back to Nigeria and want her to move on. She contributed some of his finance for school but this guy worked his ass of to pay her back. She is married with kid. He got a job after school, tried hooking up with oyibo, naija babes or whomever but it didn't work. He went to naija to marry plan D when others failed earlier this Yr.

Because Nigerians overhyped tomato so much like one can't make rice without tomatoes.
There are more than 100 ways to eat white rice, fried rice, name them.

Personally, I hate stew. Can stay one year without it yet I enjoy my white rice. Hit the net and look for alternatives people and be ready to experiment.

Alfatonji:
I served at Emekuku ( Ezeogba) in then IMO STATE Year1985/86

Caps off

sonchuks1:
I served at St. Joseph's Technical College Ado Ekiti 1978. Indeed, we were the first Corpers in the old Ondo State.

Respect

Goodman2023:
Afikpo south...amiyi Edda...2013/2014...but stayed in nguzu Edda... because I cannot go and kill myself

Hmm, is the place not safe?

His neck tells his real age.

Jashub:
Simps should move on

You know, I've been long enough in this social media space that I see most of you wrongly ascribe some terms to people.

I'm sure you see yourself as alpha male, right?
Now let me tell you the origin of alpha men and what it means.
Alpha male are every woman's dream. Yep. You read right. They are 100% protective, committed and can do anything for their ladies. They can kill for their women and are quite possessive.
Alpha male came from romance novels.
Google alpha male romance novels and pick one to read.

What you guys preach and believe here is alien to romance writers who coined that name. Don't join a crusade when you don't know what it stand for. It will make you look very stupid.

Besides, simps are simply foolish people. Anybody can be a simp.

You guys should respect English language.


Rather, you will canvass for a very traditional man depending on where you come from.

That's what your mentors like tate canvass for.
Know the difference.

Sighs.
A day in the life of a Nigerian politician.
It is well

Mindlog:
That would be nice.

Managing a child who is autistic is not at all easy on their parents as they are usually overwhelmed, only just studying and doing assignments on autism in school can spin your head, not to talk of living with an autistic child!

Autistic children are very smart and intelligent.
We simply don't know their general or individual triggers.

All autistics hate noise. It drives them wild. Maybe, that boy is noisy around him. They hardly look for trouble unless triggered.

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Why are you on drip?
Is that necessary?

henrimoto:
.... True! When an extrovert is around an introvert, e no dey blend well. It's discomfort to the extrovert. Imagine trying to create a lengthy conversation, and the other person is not talking much.... Just nods, chips in yeah! Really! Ok! Good! Now and then. The talking is coming from one side. Hmnnn..

it's discouraging to the person wanting to create a conversation.

Extroverts loves introverts a lot cos they don't interrupt them when they talk unlike fellow extroverts. They monopolise the conversation. Give it to them. They won't even notice you don't talk. Introverts will prompt you to talk more. They really love it.

Anybody worried that introverts don't respond to their conversation isn't up to 50% extrovert.

Nice topic.
When you know who u are,marry a person who compliments you. Problems solved.

Dainy1:
I'm a Guy o.

Sorry, I thought you are a lady.

As an igbo man that want to start business in abuja, you don't need moving your family nor renting an accommodation first.
Go and learn the trade of choice first. You can share a place with somebody. Whatever happens there will lead you to your next move.
I'm not sure you are business inclined when you don't know this abc of business and relocation.

If care is not taken, you will look for that money in 2 yrs and will not see it.

ahnie:
I have experience it several times ,at some point it generally killed my feelings for him,infact it got better 2019 when cholera was at its ravaging peak and both kids were victims,he refused following me to the hospital at 1 a.m,I had to strapped one kid at my back and the other on my shoulder and ran like a mad woman to the hospital, because I knew if I wasted any time,I would loss both kids and oga was busy sleeping at home.how he slept comfortably that night still baffles me,all thru the duration they spent there he only showed up one time and was busy fighting the nurses.

Until I ran him street in my own way and everything changed,today if he notices a single come coughing from me,he gets jittery and clamour for me to be treated.

What changed the narrative.....he had an episode one night,and he was about dying,I sat there looking at him,he was pleading to use my left over drugs.

Omo I sat tight watching him.....at that point he understood how I felt those while he was misbehaving to me healthwise,before he pleaded n I gave him the drugs.

See sometimes you need to serve people bitter pills,make dem know say....water wey touch preek,must touch blokus.

Hmmm.

Dainy1:
The two kids

So because you have 2 kids with him, you will continue to be with somebody who don't value you at all?

U will now chose to live your life for your kids. Fastforward to when they are ready to settle down, you become the nagging and controlling MIL.

You will end up emotionally blackmailing your son any opportunity you get and your son will end up like those haters of women outside their mum type of guys we have here.
And guess what, he will end up like his dad. Go and do proper research on ladies staying in marriage cos of kids and the effect it has on those kids after.

Unless you have forgiven him and he has changed, don't ever say its for the kids cos you will stiffle and emotionally damage them.

Samantha124:
I'll wait for him to get sick and give him a taste of his own medicine.

I'll then explain to him later why I did what I did.

Wait for him?
And if he is among those who hardly gets sick?
You will continue waiting.

There are a lot of thing I can tolerate in a relationship but when it comes to sickness and stone cold attitude when a partner is sick, I have a phobia for it. If I am still in that relationship, it's 100% loveless and I'm there to make your life hell.
Who jokes with health?

Even enemies reconcile during sickness and after sickness can decide to continue being enemies or not.

What are you doing with such a person?
Them take super glue hold your nyash?

The worst thing to happen to any man is denying his root. The world will use him as foot mat.

This topic is for kids anyway.

MichaelSokoto:
ogbono seed dey use 4 cooking ogbono soup?

Wa oo!
didn't know.

There is the main ogbono seed from ogbono tree. That tree is popular in edo state.
Then ugili seed used as alternative cos its among the family of ogbono.
The diff is that while the main ogbono draws pretty well with small quantity and costlier. Ugili seed is opposite.
The interesting thing is that people who don't know the diff buy ugili seed as ogbono seed thanks to sellers who deceives them. Sometimes they are mixed.

Stereotyping is very bad. In other words, if I should stereotype,no part of Nigeria is good.

I used to stereotype south south men as cowards cos other parts of Nigeria will be the one controlling Nigeria with what they have. But is that the case?

mariahAngel:
Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha😂
O shi n'okpuru nkume puta. 😂
I nukwa ube bekee juru ebe nile.