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[quote author=tpia@]he said they told him if he serenades the girl with enough poetry, she'd fall in love.[/quote]Oh, that! It works and she enjoyed the serenade so much that she even wanted to serenade him in return!

[quote author=tpia@]probably she told him to fall back but he insisted on serenading her?[/quote]She must listen, no falling back or anything! ...Under the sun, abi na rain sef, and she is behaving like this? *Chuckles*.

[quote author=tpia@][img]http://static.fjcdn.com/pictures/Serenading+Himself.+My+friend+Job.+Not+job.+Something+like+Jo-ub_578c3a_3652663.jpg[/img][/quote]And can you tell me why this one is crying? She needs a boyfriend or what?

[quote author=tpia@]https://fc09.deviantart.net/fs48/f/2009/159/7/6/Loud_Serenading_Charity_by_nintendomaximus.jpg

bros^^^^[/quote]Why's she not smiling na, when he's so ready to drown her in his embrace? ...She must have demanded something which he couldn't give! *Smiles*.

MicroBox: I dont really know what it is to fall in love. I m very expose and i know what it takes to make a gurl fall in love complete i.e call my lady pet names even when i m mad at her, yet i dont have any special feelings. She confess to me and to her parent that i truly love her, but inside of me i dont feel anything. I am just putting in practice all i hav read, i see and hear about love. Well i dont know maybe i am yet to find who my heart realy desires. But i tell you, i have being with couple of gurls and the feeling,the drama is the same thing.

You're in love according to Sossesam! It's not about feelings but responsibility and duty! Lol.

sossesam: Firstly, love is not an emotion it is a duty. Love is not about feelings its about responsibility. You can love as many times as possible. Only the rate of attraction differs. And our attractions decides our decisions most times. Love is a big word and is mistaken for attraction. Sorry but I no prepare for lecturing today. Just needed to make dat fact clear.

Whoever said that?

Adaeze003: Talk is cheap.

Meaning...? *leans over to hear what she has to say*.

justice00: True love isn't a myth...neither is it overhyped....from the Bible's point of view we are told to love one another as we love ourselves...but unfortunately,we have become trapped with material things...so the possibility of finding true love is minimal, lets get our priorities right.

I'm inclined to thinking that the OP meant Romantic love and not the one the Bible says!

[quote author=tpia@]Most of the women who posted on the thread, said the lines dont move them though?

(Unless there is pre- feeling beforehand)

So why are the guys insisting they do?


Besides, someone who uses too much poetry to toast somebody, is likely to be insincere.[/quote]Because I turn to a poet to woo you, I'm insincere! *Chuckles*. Anyway, before I go this way, I must have made you feel something for me and assessed my level of acceptance in your heart. This one would just be to spice up the wooing process; just to let you know that the feelings that it will evoke are what you will feel all through the relationship! *Chuckles*.

Oluwaadajo: In my opinion, real, lasting Love is an endearment that results from deeply appreciating another's goodness. That's why most women think there is no love in the dictionary of an African man.

According to my gran, most African men tend to have affairs when they have attained a higher position of comfort in their lifestyle . It seems they are likely to be more faithful when they are penniless and rely on the goodness of their partner to sustain them.

Statistics today supports her notion!

Love is abstract and it's the state of your mind at any given time towards whomever you're in a relationship with! Romantic love is conditional and dependent on other emotions; it intensity is dependent on how much you want those other emotions to be satisfied and to what extent they are actually satisfied! Over time, if those other emotions are not satisfied, your feelings (love) for that person is likely to drop and your mind will assume a new state! On the other hand, if those other emotions had been satisfied, the reverse may be the case! For instance, lets look at a newly wedded couple who never had intimacy (together); they developed love for each other over time and got married. The lady had an expectation of what intimacy would be, but to her surprise, the man is way below her expectation! Would she feel the same way about him as she had felt before their marriage? Depending on how much she wants that satisfaction, her feelings begin to take a different shape and her mind assumes the state of those feelings! This may eventually lead to other things, if that emotion is denied her for too long! Like every other emotion, love can come and go! If you want it to last, you work on satisfying the other emotions that make it stronger and keep feeding your subconscious mind with those beautiful feelings!

[quote author=tpia@]Why not "like" instead of "love".

Scarier?[/quote]What are you scared of?

Bolushalom: Meaning, I don't like stories. Few words, I don't like all those romantic talks, makes me feel like I'm starring a nigerian movie....*singing* more than words is all you have to do to make feel, and you wouldn't have to say that you love meeeeeee, cos I'll already know.... (I want to hear the "I love you" anyway, but not the long talks)

Keep singing, but please tell me when you're swept off your feet by a guy who connects with you in such an emotional way and you start saying, ''Ha, all this just for me?'', leaning towards him with open arms for an embrace! ''You're the one I want! Nobody has ever made me feel the way I feel now! I love you; yes, I want to be your lady''! *Chuckles*. When it happens please don't hesitate to let me know!

[quote author=Czar-Chris]call it cheesy call it mushy, but this format works everytime. But the trick here is to use the environment around you to your advantage. That's why am most dangerous to a chic when you make the mistake of taking an even stroll with me. I'll make the clouds, trees, stars, breeze infact the entire environmental elements will plead my case for me.
No woman stands a chance. Simple.[/quote]Very true. You must be a real man!

sleekymag: Even though i think this should be the case, i still believe you can't just truly love too many people over the course of a lifetime, else that would no longer be called love. However, could there be a figure to the maximum number of true love one can experience? Probably, like someone said an empirical study could be carried out.

Like I said before, love is abstract! It's a state of mind that you attain over a period of time and as long as you've not shut the door for love, which may not even be possible, you can love as many times as possible! Two love experiences may not exactly be the same but they're all unique in different ways! The fact that we have the most beautiful girl in nigeria or wherever does not negate the existence of other beautiful ladies! My point is that you can love in one relationship and love differently in another! We have often times in relationships assumed feelings we do not have just to get what we want from the other party; that's the reason the word 'love' doesn't seem to have meaning anymore to some people! So if you open your mind, love can come in at any time during your life time!

drnoel: why must people always attribute love to bf and gf stuffs,...their is no love there. I neva told any lady those words till I really felt it and I only said them to the lady who finally became my wife. But then, I dated like mad before I met my wife and wedded her.

Love is abstract. It's a state of mind you attain over a period of time! It's not a physical item you possess that when lost cannot be found! In the course of your life, you can attain this state of mind (love) as many times as possible, though no two love experiences are exactly the same, but they are all unique in their own way! The belief that you can love only once in your life is a myth that people's minds need to be disabused of! You can tell your girlfriend that you love her when you attain that state of mind, without pretending! If I may ask, did you tell her you loved her when you were still her boyfriend or after you married her?

boron10: It is boring

Ok, but she accepted him all the same!

If I were a lady and a guy whom I like said this to me, I wouldn't waist time to say yes!

yertyr: I'm lucky to still have my grandparents. Although they're slowly going senile... But we thank God. This morning, they hugged each other to greet... I cudn't help but smile as fidgety hands rested at each other's back. They say dat true luv wasn't xpressd by Romeo and Juliet who died together but grandpa and grandma that grew old 2gether.... Does love still exist at dat age? Wats ur take?

What's love, intimacy?

Mindependent: Why do you guys think insulting a lady or making her feel like shit will make her fall in love with you or become attracted to you?I just don't get it, please help me understand because Imo it only makes me hate you with a fucking passion!!! Fucking cunts

It happens and it's a mind game! Mildly being rude to a lady makes you odd and stand out in a crowd! You think differently of her despite all the positive attention she's getting from other guys and she may be curious as to why you think of her that way! She sees you as being confident and wants you to stop treating her that way. You make her appear vulnerable and she now wants to win you over, so as to prevent those attacks from you! If that's the guy's aim, he should know how to play his cards and she may just be his!

I love her because she is the picture of a lady I have in my heart, because she gives me attention, because she appreciates me, because she respects me, because she satisfies my desire for intimacy, because she makes me feel important, because she loves my company, because she makes me happy and feels for me the way I feel for her!

Sijo01: ...will only say yes if I have pre-feelings for him. Else the whole sermon will be irritating to me.

I personally do not subscribe to a guy pouring out his heart in that manner without first making her want him!

Aafulenu: if i was liking u b4 and u said that crap, that will be the last tike u will eva see me or hear frm me. inshort i might even change my line cos of u.

i so hate mushy words/lies
i hate it when guys say they love me when they dont even knw me. smh
what happens to plain asking - would u be my gf/wife?
or most preferred- allowing the feeling develop mutualy.

any guy that makes the mistake of doing/sayin this crap don enter one chance for my side.

Aren't you being a bit hasty in concluding that he was lying and never felt anything real for her? If I undersand the post well, they had had time to discuss and he took time to assess his feelings to see if what he was feeling was love or something else!
By the way, about your changing of line; a friend of mine who had a female friend (ordinary friend) decided to express the way he felt about her and chose the option of sending her a text. That was the last day he got through to her on her line because she changed it after then!

korel9: Strange as it may sound, my ex, now married still wants a feel of me. I have been trying all means to avoid her but it's obvious she's ready to go to any length to track me down.
Two Sundays ago, I got my first shocker of my the year when I responded to a knock on my door only to find her with her baby strapped behind her. I had to lie to her that I had a girl in the bedroom who wouldn't be pleased with her presence before she agreed to go home that day. Since then she's been sending me stupid messages on how angry she was with the treatment I gave her (even requesting for an apology) and how jealous she is that I had another girl with me on her unscheduled visit.
Dear NL, who do I take this case to or what face-saving action do I take?
Constructive responses please.

Take a firm stand on the issue and make her see reasons why you can't continue seeing each other. You had something in the past, but now she is someone else's, so don't even think about sleeping with her anymore. You can have all the women in the world, if that's your wish, but once she's married just let her be!

Bolushalom: I find it boring.....

Meaning, you had a boyfriend you loved, you never felt anything for him or the words were not strong enough to make emotional connection or perhaps he seems too needy?

sleekymag: I am curious to know if true love can be found as many times as possible in someone's life. Is there a limit to the number of times one can fall in love or is TRUE LOVE really a one-time event? I am not talking about deep crushes you've had at various point in time, neither am i talking about you loving someone and the love was never returned. Am talking about reciprocal love to the point that you both feel you'd rather spend the rest of your lives together, until something happens and you unfortunately find yourselves out of love again. Is true love real, or is it a myth that's over-hyped? Your opinions are welcome.

You can love as many times as possible during the course of your life's journey! Love is abstract. It's not something you possess physically that when lost can't be found!

boron10: If you try this with a Nigerian yoruba babe, you would be welcomed with a looooooooooong hiss.

And why would a Yoruba baby give that kind of hiss at the above? Is it not good enough? *Chuckles *.

2buff: This one na serious long Tory sha.

After some pre-wooing and normal talking, invite her to something. In that something, after a moment of mutual laughter , change progress the emotional scene by tak ing her hand (don't ask) and say "Nkechi, I've been thinking about you and I together and I feel we would make a lot of sense. I want you to be my girl... Would you be my boo?"

She responds, or asks for more time.

The thing no suppose pass that.

If a (mature) girl likes you, she likes you.

She may like you and you may be aware of what she already feels for you but, in a bid to be more romantic and make her feel special so as to intensify her feelings, if you truely want her, you may decide to go the way it's done above--- even if it's not in your house!

[quote author=tpia@]do you mind? I just played around a bit with your write up.[/quote]No, I don't mind but, if it had been said that way, would you say yes?

[quote author=Table Leg ]Please do and do us a favour, dont come back here ever again with fabricated crap!
Tosspot[/quote]Like I said if you can't get what the OP is saying and chose to call it fabricated crap, it's your world you're living in, so suit yourself and dwell in your world devoid of self control, which is a virtue in my own world, and lacking discipline!

KateSpade: I can't. Its not that I hate them I just don't see how it will do me any good.

Nobody knows what tomorrow is bringing. One may need the other in the future! But, it 's ok as long as you're in good terms and are free with each other. At least if you should meet again tomorrow you could talk freely.
Personally, if I should break-up with a girlfriend, I'd try as much as possible to make sure we're in good terms. Besides, we once shared something, so...?

Why not? Yes.