₦airaland Forum

[quote author=ndu_chucks]The bolded above is not the main reason for these senseless and self destructive acts of the good people of Bayelsa. NDDC was established in 2000 with the mission of facilitating the rapid, even and sustainable development of the Niger Delta into a region that is economically prosperous, socially stable, ecologically regenerative and politically peaceful.

For the past 12 years, NNDC has received over N3.3Trillion ($20+ billion) to help improve the lives of these people. Additionally, the Governors have recieved more than $300 - 500billion in the same period. What have the ND governors and the administrators of NNDC spent the money on and why have they ignored the masses? These are the people who should be blamed for the demise of the poor people of ND.

This year alone, N250billion was budgeted for NNDC, but the Chairman of the commission, Dr. Chris Oboh shamefuly said it would require about N1.3 trillion to enable it fund several ongoing capital projects in the oil rich region instead of the N250, during a hearing!!

To show you how irresponsible these people are, let me use Bayelsa as an example:

The population of Bayelsa is 2million. I'd argue that a social welfare program which would make N20,000 per month available to 50% of the population or 1 million people is in order. It would only cost N20billion to fund the project for 1 full year!! This is less than 10% of NNDC's 2012 budget.

NNDC should focus on providing free housing to the masses, what da heck are they developing in the area? Let the governors partner with private businesses to provide infrastructure and other development projects. The projects which NNDC focuses on do not benefit the people covered in oil depicted in the posted pictures by the OP.

Bayelsans are robbing Bayelsans blind.

Naijaking, stop being disingenuous on this matter, stop blaming the the piping of oil to Kaduna or Lagos for the demise of these unfortunate people.[/quote]Good you said NDDC, and agreed there's corruption and mismanagement in it, but talking about your welfare program, if as you say 10% is taken from the budget to implement the program which would put N20,000 in the hands of 50% of a supposed 2 million population in Bayelsa state, then what percentage would go for other states in the Niger Delta and what percentage would go for other projects? Mind you some states are more than 2 million in population, and by implication would have less than N20,000 per person from the program and also take a longer time for everybody to benefit from it; by the way what is N20,000 to a man with children when he has no decent home, no water to drink, no road to move about and yet the nation's wealth is right at his backyard under his nose! I agree that the governors are not doing enough, but that shouldn't prevent the federal government from embarking on capital projects with dedicated commitment in the region; it deserves more attention than it's getting presently and ever before.
I see nothing shameful about what the NDDC chairman said; how big is N250 billion to be spent in the whole of the Niger Delta, with the difficult terrain of some states? It's not even up to some state government's budgets! Look at the east west road, is that what the people in the region deserve?

[quote author=tha_originator]you're the biggest fool I've ever came across on NL! What about the huge allocation that be goin to they state thru their govt. Agbaya! You must be an old fool!!![/quote]Do you know the cost of a kilometre of road in a state like Bayelsa? Please , go get some sleep or whatever.

How many of you condemning them would not do the same if you should find yourself in a similar situation? These are people whose land and livelihood have been destroyed by decades of oil exploration with no commensurate development! Now, stared in the face by the stark reality that life is a survival of the fittest, they engage in a venture as this and you call them thieves! Would you rather they died? Is it right that a people so blessed with this resource should be subjected to this neglect and abandonment?

LastApostle: These guys have and operate an oil well yet they don't look like Otedola,Adenuga and Tinubu. What the fucckk are they doing there upon the fact that they never get to pay royalties to the government?

Even in the face of oil, I still see and perceive poverty around them.

Are you jealous that you don't have oil to tap at your backyard?

imperiouxx: In fact, how do stealing crude oil RUBS the nation of income? Na wa oooo beefing no even let dem no wetin them dey say again.

Lol... When oil don intoxicated ya hed Ehn, you go dey see things differently! But come o, don't you know when something dey rub you? Anyway, that billboard is illegal! E jus dey dia!

[quote author=tha_originator]What do you expect from the kinsmen of a clueless president that doesn't give a damn!? BTW, who's that guy with a cowboy hat on?[/quote]I expect from them to do what they are doing! After all, the oil is just at their backyard so why would they sit idle only for it to be tapped through their noses for the enrichment of others? By the way, you must be a child!

[quote author=ola_pluto]This is hardcore chemical processing. Elf and safety thrown out of the window. It should never be like this. Shame on our leaders. Shame on the man from Otueke who has refused to help his own people.[/quote]Half-hearted comment! If he does you would be the first to scream blue murder!

Well, some are still of the opinion that love should be 50/50 and that if the man doesn't want to fall in love neither should the woman! Interesting opinion, but have at the back of the mind that love itself cannot be measured or quantified and that the man comes to the lady with a mission; to make her love him and accept him! Also know that her eventual falling in love may be beyond her will power as you will see as you continue reading.
Having said all that have been said, I thought I should highlight 4 steps that can be taken to make someone fall in love with you! Money is not included in these 4 steps as anybody can spend it on someone.
Before we look at the 4 steps, perhaps, it would be interesting to have an idea of the part of a lady's mind you would want to influence in order to make her fall in love with you; her subconscious mind! The subconscious mind is the part of the brain that picks up the enduring thoughts, blended with emotion, in the conscious mind or those coming from the Imaginative faculty of the brain and processes them. Thoughts from your reasoning mind, the conscious mind, can only reach your spiritual side of the brain, that's the subconscious mind, when they have energy great enough to propel them! If you spend time, long enough with a certain set of people, there's a very high degree of probability that you be influenced by them! Likewise when those thoughts you hold in your mind are kept long enough, the subconscious mind is led into accepting as true, the nature of the object of your thoughts and feelings! Have you ever wondered why so many people pray without results? Their prayers do not have the emotional force necessary to stimulate the subconscious mind, which is the spirit side of the brain, to pick up those prayers! Prayer is not by shouting o! And as we are made known in the Bible, God is a spirit! Without your connecting with the subconscious mind by getting your prayers soaked in emotion so that they can be relayed to God in the spirit, everything ends in your head and yields no result! On the other hand, when you begin to imaging the person, you call into action, the creative imagination which is the faculty that receives thought impulses broadcast from the subconscious mind of other brains. Associating the person with any kind of emotion, good or bad, attracts similar thoughts released from other brains. For instance, when you have a desire to compose a special message for the one you love, you would probably look for a quiet place to allow your mind to go in search of beautiful expressions! Those expressions do not exist in your mind but released from the brains of others; you invoked the creative imagination and it attracted thoughts, similar to those that are pounding on your conscious mind, from the brains of others; it's just as a radio would receive signals from a broadcasting station when tuned to its frequency!
This is already too long so the steps will be added some other time! ...

@OP:
I've come across quite a good number of your posts and each time I just scroll past them! You portray the image of a frustrated, bitter, childish, and a deranged child who is consumed in tribalism! By the way, how come you're all over the place?
As far as I can remember, you were still in an asylum! Are you not chained? Gosh, you're a nuisance! ...

Jan8: It depends. I let a guy love me more in a relationship however

How is this ever possible?
@OP -> Are you in anyway asking who (should) show(s) more commitment in a relationship? Within the limits of my knowledge, love is not measurable and can't be quantified! Or has become so? Please, tell.

[quote author=Gabriel_sylar]did ATM swallow ur card?[/quote]You can't buy love with ATM card alone!

preshuzpearl: I dont how it really happened but things are kinda going crazy now. Don't know if I should slow down, stop or let it be.

It would be bad if you schemed to get your friend out of the way to get him entangled with you! Otherwise, it's ok; but try not to give your friend the impression that you caused their break-up!

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You should have numbered your points to make it easier to read!

They never talked before she got married to him? What a woman! Smh.

I go call her best friend name too na, Shoo! Na so I go dey call any name weh enter my head o! Make we see how e go be. Lol.

emilyone: I like that word "interlocked"

Ok, but what about the girl? Would you blame her?

Wow, no advice!

spiro4real: Hello friends,
Please is there any other phrase to use instead of "i love you"?
I am bored with these already!

Yes! Next time instead of saying, ''I love you'', say, ''I am yours!''

[quote author=mondi_cheeks]How I wish my nephew could jus shiiit on the OP's head right now [/quote]*Looks at her and smiles*
Why your nephew? You could do it better!

Let's try viewing it from this angle and see if more light could be shed on it! Take a situation where a guy who desires to get married sees you, gets attracted and starts getting close to you in a bid to win your heart. He does this by showing you love and gradually your walls of defense started to wane. Finally, having seen the beauty of his heart and the magnitude of love it contains, you 'fall in love with him' and decide to give in to his desire and get married to him! Would you now say, because you have developed stronger emotions for him, that he doesn't love you enough? Or that it's not fair that you're in love with him? When he first met you, you probably didn't have any feelings for him or should I say as much feeling as he had! He showed you he has a heart full of sincere love, you saw it and was so overwhelmed that you said, ''Ben'', if that's his name, ''I misjudged you; i never knew you would be this loving and caring, but now that I know I shall be yours forever and you'll be mine till eternity. I pledge my body to you and it's yours from this moment; have me and do what you please with me!''....
Besides, if a woman can depend on her husband for other things, as even the Bible says, ''The husband (man) is the head of the home'' , why can't she depend on her man for her emotional needs? Why must it be 50/50 in this and not in others? As you may see from the above scenario, the lady fell in love, probably not of her own volition, but as a result of the acts of kindness and love exhibited by the man which had been filed in her subconscious mind! This man she fell in love with is still the same man he was when she decided to be his! Nothing has changed in him! Are you saying the woman should not give more in anything; even though she may not have control over that thing? Hmm! E get as e be o!

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Are you saying they should be on the same emotional plane?

tpia@:
Interesting post up there! But we seem to be saying the same thing! How do you fulfil somebody's emotional desires if not by satisfying them in whatever way that is applicable? And if somebody comes to you to have his or her emotional desires satisfied whenever they have them, have you not made the person fulfilled emotionally? At least the person will come back to you when the need arises again! Doesn't that make the person depend on you in that regard? This is one reason I asked many rhetorical questions in my initial post! There is a particular desire we all have that nairaland is fulfilling, huh? Don't we depend on nairaland on its fulfillment then? By the way love as it's stated in your reference is not biased. The man should be able to touch reality which may be elusive in the realms of emotion. May be I didn't make it clear enough to be understood; i never meant the man having some level of control over his emotions to be able to provide that balance in the relationship to be seeing the woman as a commodity! Tha's far from it. If you understood it that way, it must have been my inability to make it clearer. Good morning by the way.

[quote author=tpia@]Hmm, if the man doesnt want to fall in love, then neither should the woman.

Op, your post is interesting in a way, but not quite correct.[/quote]*chuckles*. Really? Please what's not correct?

Flytefalls: A person who is afraid to fall in love is a coward. And I don't think a coward can be a source of strength for me, sorry

Coward! I don't think so. Not falling in love but Loving you doesn't mean he is without emotion and can't be sympathetic towards you! It's just that it enables him put on his thinking cap and analyze things independent of emotions when the occasion demands it. Even the Bible says, ''He that answereth a matter before he heareth it, it is folly and shame unto him.'' Your man can connect with you emotionally, but when you, his lady, are becoming too emotional he can go into the thinking faculty of his head and say, 'baby', I think we're proceeding in the wrong direction; why don't we look at it this way!...

@OP:
An intelligent girl/lady can take you out without you even realizing that she is the one doing that. It's all a matter of approach and a mature and intelligent lady can subtly turn her initial wooing into you wooing her in the end! She only needs to create an impression and the rest is left for you to decide if you want her or not! It's when a lady's wooing becomes obviously desperate and subtlety is not applied in the tactics that guys display this despicable attitude towards them. I personally do not object to being wooed by a lady as long as she is mature and subtly does it.

ihedioramma: LOVE IS NOT ALL ABOUT HAVING SEX . IF YOU ARE HAVING SEX WHY YOU ARE NOT MARRIED YOU ARE IGHORANT AND YOU WANT JESUS TO DIE FOR 2TIMES . THERE IS SUFFER FOR PEOPLE THAT ARE DATING THERE SELF, SO MY BROTHERS AND SISTERS ASCAPE FROM GOD'S ANGER. ANY BODY THAT WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH YOU IS WICKED OR SATAN IS IN HIM OR HER . HE OR SHE DONT WANT YOU TO BE LOVED BY GOD.

Thank you.

Tasher is a beautiful girl from an average family! As at the age of 15 or thereabouts, when she was still in secondary school, her father got her a private tutor to be giving her home classes after her normal school ours. Sometimes, she would go to the tutor's place for these classes and other times, in her father's house. The father trusted the tutor so much that he never felt uneasy about all this!
Before long, this tutor started playing with Tasher's mind and as a virgin she didn't know he was manipulating her! In one of their classes, he asked her to follow him into his room. ... In the room, he changed into his birthday suit, while she was looking at him, probably timidly or otherwise! He persuaded her to do the same and before they would come out from the room, they had 'interlocked' and she was no longer a virgin!
After that day the only thing that existed in her mind was this tutor. She became obsessed with him. He was everything in her life and this drastically affected her performance, negatively, in school... In the end he got her pregnant and she had an abortion!
So be careful of the tutors you hire for your daughters!
And again would you blame the girl and why?
What advice can you give to parents whose daughters may fall victims to such unscrupulous tutors?

[quote author=illuminutty ]you sound like a victim. [/quote]And so? Is that a crime?

@OP:
Must it be a guru?

usermane: ... Although i don't agree with guys 'forming' for such type of girl as it could get her discouraged.

You're right. Such girls need to be encouraged. And thanks for understanding my point of view.

usermane: ... Although i don't agree with guys 'forming' for such type of girl as it could get her discouraged.

You're right. Such girls need to be encouraged. And thanks for understanding my point of view.