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chikeorji123: Lets the lady fall in love while the man do the loving?.. Op l still don't get it..?

When you love a lady and, for instance, she makes a complaint or have an emotional problem on which she needs genuine advice, you can use your head and not your heart to appreciate the problem and give unbiased advice and probably, suggest well thought out steps to be taken. But when you as a man fall in Love, your reasoning, as regard the lady in question, is marred by emotion and her desire for genuine understanding and advice is left unsatisfied by her own man because he wants to use his lady's eyes to look at the problem and see only what those eyes can see, even if he knows when he uses his eyes, he will see the problem differently! Anything concerning her, he wants to use her eyes to see it! If you make a lady fall in Love with you by loving her, you become a pillar in her moments of weakness and she turns to you for satisfaction! Get it?

It is an established fact that emotion rules most of the people in the world. Most of our actions are driven by emotion. For instance, why can't you stay a virgin till you get married? Why do you want the best and most romantic guy/lady? Why do you want to own the latest car? Why do you come to the romance section of nairaland? Why do you want to be noticed in a crowd? Why can't you stay without a partner? The answers to all these questions and many more are supplied from the 'kingdom of emotion'!
As a man, you're supposed to be a source of strength to your lady! Someone whom she can run to, when she needs emotional satisfaction!When you as a man falls in Love, you've lost control of your emotions; you can no longer be the man you're supposed to be! You become dependent (emotionally) on the lady you've fallen for!
Your goal, as a man, is to make your lady emotionally depend on you; and by only loving and not falling in Love, you can choose when it's right to react a certain way towards your lady! So, make the ladies fall in Love while the guys do the loving!

justineu: i met dis girl on bbm we became vry good friends she always call me telling me how she feel abt me and we do chat vry well.S̤̥̈̊o̲̣̥ one day we decided to meet each other afta avin sex wit her she stop calling.pls ℓ̊ will like to knw y she stop calling.

Ha! chairman, she slept with you too? This girl, ehn! You're in trouble oo, big one! You better look for a strong man of God to pray for you before they put the thing inside bottle cook o. Don't say I didn't tell you. ... By the way, did you perform well? If yes she may have mercy on you but otherwise, ... do as I said asap.

[quote author=Le-African]i met a girl recently and collected her number
we have chatted just once but since then she has refused to pick my calls
i have called at all times of the day and she just doesnt pick, she really seemed as if she was digging me when we first met
ladies i need ur advise[/quote]Reasons could be:
1) You're below her expectation of a potential lover.
2) You did not impress her when you chatted with her.
3) She tested your level of maturity by not picking your calls to see how many times you would go at a time, which you did not pass as you probably must have called as many as a hundred times at a go if I must be moderate! This appears you're immature and desperate. A mature guy knows when it's enough, especially when calling to just say ''How u dey'', as in your case.
4) She has a guy better than you.
5) She is trying to tell you that she is important and not desperate to have you.

Lobi: @ op have u thought about the fact that she could be on nairaland,dnt think it was nice of you to write your convo with her here.atleast we know why girls don't woo guys.

Yes, I thought about it and if she is here reading this, I only want to say that she has nothing to be ashamed of; any time I cast my mind back to that moment I can only feel admiration for her. She was very bold and took a practical step! We all have feelings, both males and females, and the mature way, at least in my own judgement, she expressed her feelings to the object of her thoughts got me fantastically impressed! I do not for once think she degraded herself nor do I want her to think she did because she did not.

kitty kat: Digi,

R u dating her now?

My heart already belonged somewhere before she came my way, so no; i'm not dating her but she is a very good friend and I appreciate her.

ndala: UNEDITED:
I am in a relationship 4yrs on. My girl has cheated on me more than once before she told me about it, promising not to repeat it again. I love her so much desiring to settle down with her, this i told her many times. I assisted her through school inspite of the fact she doesn't allow me touch her as much i wanted to, claiming it's a sin.
Now, she went serving last year in the north, initially everything was fine, later on she started misbehaving. One night in july last year i called her and she told me she needed some sleep, only for her to drop the phone without ending the call, something in me told me not to end the call. Afterlike 5mins, i heard funny sounds and listened the more and it turned out that a guy was b á nging her seriously all through the night, i even rec ó rded it to make sure i wasn't dreaming. I later confronted her, but she denied it.
When she came back from service in October, she finally told me it was true what i heard the other night, that a fellow corper actually sl é pt with herthat night. It really broke my heart as i really loved her and she has cheated many times beforeand she starves me of s é x, saying it's a sin. Now, she says she has changed and won't do it again.
I need some candid advice, will such a woman make a good wife cos am planning on settling down with her this year. Would she do it again if given the opportunity??
pls i need urgent response. thanks.

Please I have a friend who needs to be seen through university. Can you help? But let me warn; she can grant you more access to her body than this present one, but you won't near there oo''! You know where I mean! You must know your limit; and any time she is not in the mood please let her be and you believe whatever she tells you! Nonesense.

[quote author=Mynd_44]Again I ask, So?

Look young man, it is better you open a diary about this cos I don't get the point[/quote]You may not get it and everybody may not be as young as you are! Perhaps, there are some people to whom this may be very young! You may have had loads of such experiences in your 'your being young' but same may not be said for everybody. So I like her move. If that makes me look old I don't give a hoot.

Booty4me: (1)don't ask 4 money,

(2) Neva ask him 4 money,

(3) I say 4get abt asking 4 money,

(4) don't even think abt money,

(5) Reject wen he gives u.

**Winks

I don't give even when asked so no need winking because it won't change anything! *chuckles*.

IZUKWU: So whetin come happen then

Watin you won hear...?

[quote author=Mynd_44]You got wooed by a girl so? Not new jorh[/quote]This is not about bragging or that being wooed by a lady is a new thing but the way she went about it was, to me, awe-inspiring and worth commendation and I feel this is one way I can do that, huh? Besides, somebody might like the concept and apply it when there is need. So no bragging, just like what she did.

The world seems to have been turned over! I wish our ladies would do more of the chasing and the guys play the ''hard to get''.
I was attending a program somewhere and so also was this girl whom I'd like to call Suzzy, though not her real name.
The first day I entered the hall for the program, one of the most conspicuous female faces my eyes rested upon was Suzzy's and it flitted into my heart's picture gallery and etched a place for itself; but it stay was short-lived for before I could find a place to sit, my mind had been arrested yet by the image of a feminine face that's bolder, more attractive, luscious, more captivating and overwhelmingly mesmerizing! ''Wow, is this what I came here for?'', I asked myself and resolved to put my feelings under check...
On the last day of the program, I came out from the hall when the program had finished and was reading a text message that had been sent to my phone, when I heard a voice say, ''Hello''. I didn't bother to look who it was because there were many people around and it could have been to anybody.
''It's you I'm talking to'', the voice said.
This time the voice seemed direct and closer so I looked up and wow, standing right there in front of me wearing the most penetrating smile was Suzzy.
I had seen Suzzy on a few occasions in the course of the program but she never existed in my mind's eye, though her breath-taking shape was fabulously engaging.
''Oh, I'm sorry, I didn't know it's me you were talking to; how're you?'' I said.
Suzzy: ''Fine; well, we're organising this program'', she handed me a flyer, ''in our church and I'm inviting you... Please I want you to be there. Will you come?''.
I didn't want to go so I scouted my brain for an excuse and finally discovered that the venue was far from where I was living so I told her it was too much a distance from where I was staying and that I wouldn't be able to make it...
There were other guys around who were also looking at the flyer and she was telling them they were also invited. But to my utmost surprise, this was the only flyer she came with!
As I wanted to go home, she asked me again if I was coming for the program but I told her I didn't think I would make it because it would be far gone into the night before I'd get home and I didn't want that.
Suzzy: ''You can come and stay for as little as you want and leave anytime you feel like it and I promise you'll Enjoy the program; please don't say no, tell me you'll come''.
Me: ''Hmm... Well, I'll think about it''.
As I took a step to go, she said, ''wait''. I stopped and she handed me back the flyer which she had just collected from the other guys who were looking at it.
Suzzy: ''Take'', she handed me back the flyer, ''in case you may want to come you can look up the address; by the way can I have your number?''.
Me: ''Yes you can''. I called out the digits for her.
Suzzy: ''please what's your name?''.
I told her my name but never bothered to ask her hers. We then said bye to each other and departed.
I could see her looking at me while I gradually faded into the distance.
On the way, my mind was split into two; one was very loud, saying '' You gave her the wrong number, the last two digits were wrong''. The other was subdued and was saying ''That's the right number, don't worry yourself about it''.
The program was to be held in 6 days time.
Two days later I received a call.
''Hellooo'', I said when I picked up my phone.
''Hi, can you recognize me?'', the voice at the other end said.
Me: ''NO I can't; please who am I speaking with?''.
The voice: ''This is Suzzy, the girl who gave you the flyer the other day at...''.
Me: ''Wow, how nice, Suzzy; so good to hear from you again, how're you doing?''.
Suzzy: ''Very well and you?''.
Me: ''Fine''.
Suzzy: ''I'm calling to remind you about the program, I hope you've not forgotten; please tell me you'll be there''.
Me: ''Hmmmmmm, it's still some days away and in any case if I won't be able to make it I'll let you know, thanks for calling, I appreciate it''.
Suzzy: 'Thanks, I'll call you again''.
That's how she kept calling me after that day till I had no choice than to attend her program and we got to know each other better after then and we became very good friends.
During one of our discussions she told me the motive behind the flyer. Hear her;
''You see, the first day I saw you I liked you; i was attracted to you but I couldn't come to talk to you because I thought you would snub me. Besides I am a woman and I felt you would think low of me afterwards. Ever since that day you had been in my mind and I was just hoping that you would somehow talk to me but you never did! So when that program came up I saw in it an opportunity to get close to you so I managed to get that flyer that I gave to you, because they had already given out all of them, and you know, that's why we're talking now''.
So ladies why don't you do the chasing while we guys do the ''forming''?

@Topic:
Hmm, this is interesting!

duni04: Dialogue with kidnappers? U must b from bayelsa state. U guys from bayelsa have a wrapped up sense of right and wrong.

How do you feel having said this? You must be a kid to have conceived this and without hesitation posted it here. In your warped thinking you ascribed the post of a fellow nairalander to the thinking of the people in an entire state! How prejudiced and myopic can you get! *Grabs him and gives him a blow in the right eye; raises hand to reshape his nose but he's a child and forgives him*.

Nice one from gree-die... No pretence!

Is the show still on? I thought ItsModella ended it...! That was great...

@OP:
Learn to be appreciative of whatever it is your boyfriend gets for you; at least without your asking for it...
It's almost impossible to tell him you do not like his gift without hurting him. If what you were expecting is well within his financial reach, then I think you should have hinted it in some occasions you may have been together. That way it would have been anchored in his mind that his 'baby' is in need of what he can afford and if he truely cares, he would want to surprise you with it! Anyway, show him, if you're truely his girlfriend, that it does'nt matter what gift he's got for you but the intention behind it is what matters!

[quote author=gree-die]moral of the story : No be by size
abeg who dash mr husband heavyweight champion?[/quote]Na me bn dash am but i don comot am from am cins. *Chuckles*.

[quote author=Atheist:-D]I think mr husbands focus was off. He should have addressed his wife as opposed to the womanizer.

His wife will cheat on him again and again and again.[/quote]Perhaps, he should have; but I felt he just wanted to deal with Womanizer considering that he was no where near his match physically, then later face his wife; but you know, fate is not something we have control over! What happened to Mr Husband was a fate worse than death!

@freecocoa:
Yes, you hardly come home so we're preparing it for your entertainment! Hope you're coming home this Xmas.
On a serious note, it's no drama. It's what happened sometime ago and I witnessed it because I was at home in the course of it.

...Finally:
Mr. Husband was quickly rushed to the clinic while Womanizer was able to make is way to God knows where! No sooner had this incident happened than Mr. Husband's younger brother who was a very stubborn guy arrived at the scene holding a machete demanding the whereabouts of Mr. Womanizer, who had taken to his heels. People had to plead with him to soothe him...
That was the last day I saw Mr. Husband and Landedproperty, his wife, in my community. To my surprise, I heard on the grapevine that he was living somewhere in the city, after then, with Landedproperty whom I was thinking he would divorce!
As for Womanizer, after his family had gone around pleading and making peace with Mr. Husband and his family, he came back after some weeks, probably months and continued is normal life, perhaps feeling like a victor.
Wow, how sad to have your wife penetrated by another man and got badly beaten in the process!
End.

...Continuation!
In the morning, at break of day, the entire community was agog with the news.
In no time Mr Husband, who had travelled earlier, appeared and went straight up to Womanizer's family's house: people were trailing behind him probably to catch the action (Some people may have been happy that finally nemesis had caught up with Womanizer for daring to sleep with Landedproperty and they only wanted to see how he would be devoured by a roaring lion). Every here and there along the lane to Womanizer's house there was a small collection of people discussing the incident.


Mr. Womanizer was sitting alongside a friend of his on a long wooden bench at the veranda of his father's house.
Before we knew what was happening, people were trying frantically to restrain Mr. Husband; for he was going to show Womanizer that he had stepped on a lion's tail! Finally, being very angry and with a desire to crush Womanizer, Mr. Husband was able to disentangle himself from them and made his way straight towards Womanizer in a last bid to finish him up! ( I was scared; Womanizer's younger brother is a very close friend of mine and Womanizer himself had become like a friend as a result. He had told me about his involvement with Landedproperty; how he had sweet-talked her into believing in him; he had told me how she had been coming to his room in the dead of the night to share her 'resources' with him. Hmm, I can only imagine!).
Womanizer, being a very smart guy, got hold of the bench on which he was sitting and, OMG, smashed it in Mr. Husband's face, sending him to the ground covered in blood!...

WWE indeed. Don't worry it's to be continued ASAP.

I'll make it as brief as I can. Here it goes:

When I walk some distance into the past I get to a point where I witnessed this event in my community. For some reason I'd like to use fictitious names for the actors.

Mr Husband owned a provision shop by the road side which was managed by his wife, Landedproperty: in fact it was virtually hers. The shop had two rooms. The other room besides the shop was their bedroom. Beside this shop is a lane at almost the tail end of which lives a guy named Mr Womanizer.

Landedproperty is a very attractive and beautiful woman whom every man whose judgemental instincts are not impaired would want to have for a wife if looks were his bench-mark for a prospective wife. She has the physique that can make the man between a man's legs to struggle within to set new confines for itself.

Mr Womanizer would come and sit by the shop every now and then just to have an opportunity to talk with Mrs Husband and create an impression of him in her mind.
Seeing Mr Womanizer around Landedproperty was a source of concern to many people because he was a chronic womanizer and had a tag ''Home breaker''. He had caused havoc in a couple of families, involving with women far older than he.

In the normal course of events news filtered into Mr Husband's ears that his wife was having an affair with Mr Womanizer: he could not do anything because he had no evidence; he needed concrete evidence to bring life to his thoughts as regards Womanizer.

Mr Husband is a hefty man who was accorded some level of esteem for being a great wrestler. On the other hand Mr Womanizer is rather smallish but brave.

On this fateful day Mr Husband had travelled. In the wee hours of the night , Saviour, a not too distant paternal brother to Mr Husband, caught Womanizer sneaking into Landedproperty's room: Saviour had been stalking Womanizer for sometime then. He grabbed him by the trousers around the waist line, threatening to create a scene. Womanizer entreated him to the contrary but as a community densely populated, soon there was a sizeable collection of people at the scene...

@jamst:
He is probably more comfortable being in the attire you see him in ''always''.
If you ascribe those things to the president by reason of his dressing in black, then what do you say about those who are seeing in black suit almost on all working days and practically in any important event? Would you associate those things with them? I'm tilted towards believing that you're a Nigerian and by virtue of being that you're automatically an embodiment of those things you associated with black!... Drop the brush you're holding to paint the president.

Method 2 may work very well but the rest is crap!