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davodyguy:
See the images very well. It is the same left hand and finger

Darn! Conspiracy theory on overdrive.

dingbang:
Money can get you any pretty woman.

Not always true. I know mine wasn't because of money. I'm comfortable financially (but I won't say I am rich -not like I want) but she saw more than that. And, God, by any standard, she is very pretty.

Igetmyown247:
Congrats to them. He’s very lucky coz she’s very pretty and natural, no fake nails, fake lashes whatsoever, her kind is rare. Their kids will be so cute.

Exactly what I noticed too. No fake nails, lashes, bum or boobs. All natural and very pretty. Just the way I like it; just the way I met and chose mine.

Neurotika:
Vector doesn't know his mate. Dropping nursery school bars. Now he's been schooled how it's done. nd to think M.I chose to release the track today that is world's Teachers day.

Darn! Shots fired!

introvertme:
CMS saves time.

A whole lot of time. Who has time to start coding every job from scratch when there are deadlines to meet. As long as the client is satisfied with the functionalities and it is secure, why waste your time coding every part?

wethebest:
With premium page builder. I agree on that. U see inec nd cbn wey u jst mentioned re useless as Bleep. U really think those sites hs any data worthy to mine?

It depends on how you look at it. People depend on INEC website as the most confirm source of electoral news. List of wards, elected officials, auctions e.t.c. A fraudulent person can manipulate these to his own advantage.

For CBN, there are loan schemes and other which a fraudulent person can manipulate. List of microfinance banks too. Fraudsters can manipulate these if they have access.

These are website with authority and whoever controls them by hook or crook is powerful. This and more are why they are very relevant.

wethebest:
Those sites you mentioned does not really interest hackers. Is dere any bank site build on WordPress? I mean bank wr u do internet transactions? The person who hacked UNN is student dere jst doing pen testing with Kali Linux cox d site is of no relevant. If u like purchase premium plugin, if ur site is gn down on WordPress, it will in seconds. Code hard nd build ur own security. Don't depend on wht u don't knw d source code or don't understand it.

Wait... BBC and CNN are of no relevance? INEC and CBN websites are of no relevance?

Hard coding is good but we must face the reality - most developer use CMS for their jobs then change the codes. The most relevant websites you know are partly built on WP. You don't have to believe me - google it.

Most smart developers have just learnt to use page builders alone as their dependent plugins then code the other features they need, upload to their cpanel and they are good to go.

wethebest:
WordPress is too vulnerable

It isn't. It's just like saying Android is too vulnerable. It's the users/web developers who are too careless. Must cheap sites are built with null themes and plugins.

wethebest:
WordPress on it's own is vulnerable. If boys wan take WordPress sites down, hehehe, within 24hrs, many sites with b gone in naija.

That's why the first thing any developer should do for a sensitive website is to disguise. CNN, BBC, Coursera, EDX and other such websites are built on WordPress and very secure. I can bet you the hacked UNN website had null themes and plugins, and some of these silly developers make it easy to know which theme is being used.

Remove everything that makes it look like WP, change dashboard access and every other thing, and, of course, change your admin login every two days or three days.

You also forget they might have used a vulnerable web host and their IPs very exposed.

feloj:
Give the Job to the best, it will save you a lot of heartache, who is receiving notification of penetrative attempts... I guess the are all just there for the salary.... Hack like this don't just happened overnight, there must have been numerous attempt, which the site admin should take action to prevent this hack....

Sometimes they make it even easy for folks who aren't trying to hack to know how their websites are built. They don't customize their admin login and other content uploads.

Just looking at CBN website, it is obvious it is built on WP and the web administrator isn't even smart enough to use a simple, cheap plugin to change extensions like /wp-content or /wp-login. The footer is awful and there's a bug in one of the links yet millions get spent on the website. The CBN website isn't worth more than #500,000 plus web management monthly. We aren't security conscious in this country.

healthserve:
They don't counsel this way in marital issues. You've conditioned her to start chasing problems. She wouldn't have known its poor if you and her friends didn't tell her. After all you're not her husband nor in he's shoes nor share his burden of challenges. A man with more free time would obviously need more sex like a young husband when compared against an advanced one. When dishing advice on marital issues,tree softly before you break a home

First off, I'm no marriage counselor. Most marriage counselors (like 'relationship experts') have failed marriages or relationships, I digress.
Should I have been more euphemistic? Maybe, but it had to be stated - for a couple in their 30's, once a month is poor. I mean, if I am SEXUALLY ATTRACTED to my spouse, we should do better than once in 30 days. We should turn each other on more times than that which should translate to sex, sometimes. Agreed some might end up with us just cuddling in bed but sex should be regular at the least.
It's not a threatening problem but working on their sexual intimacy would be great for them. Luckily, they have every other thing going for them and love themselves to bits too.
Asking them to have more sex can't exactly ruin their home.

sweetmelanin:
Not the case at all.
We got married young and both in our late 20s now... truth is we've always had a friendship/ brother-sister type relationship.
For a while I struggled with the low frequency of sex but we eventually both just settled into this lifestyle. We both work very hard and are high achievers and have built a wonderful life together... sex is the only thing lacking.

If you got married in your late 20's and have been married for 5 years, you are in your earlier 30's then. Too early to get comfortable with sex once in a month. Too early.

I don't know, try to spice it up or something. If you were a male, it would have been easier to advise you. Whichever way, please don't get comfortable with once a month this early. I can't think of any married man that age who is comfortable with just once a month. Except you have overtly or subtly implied you want that arrangement and he just wants to please you so he endures.
Ask him this outrightly, "Babe, can you in all honesty say you are completely comfortable with sex once a month?" He would say yes at first (I would too just not to drag an issue with my better half) but if you press him, he would admit it.

ITbomb:
Why waste energy to make her wet when there are lubricant everywhere or las las groundnut oil

The process of working her up to get wet psychologically prepares her. It's her body admitting she's ready for love-making. You don't just insert your phallus into her because there's a lubricant. The lubricant has its place but let her get wet naturally, at least a little.

healthserve:
Cause problems in their home okay? Once a week is too poor says Book of runs chapter 90 verse 200

Sir/dude/man/bro, once a week is poor; very poor. I deliberately focused on the man. The problem could be the woman - she might be frigid.
And no, I don't do runs - only my woman. I'd be really worried if she and I are in good health and a whole 2 days go by without us tumbling beneath the sheets.

Once in a week? The only other excuse should be they are in their 50's or 60's.

sweetmelanin:
Until this past weekend, having sex once a month seemed to be a normal frequency in my marriage but on a recent girls night out, my girlfriends and I were gisting where I discovered that most of them are active 3- 4 times a week. I was shocked and couldn't imagine how one can get aroused so many times in a week by someone you have lived with for years and seen all their flaws and all.

For the past five years in marriage, once a month has always been the norm between my husband and I.

Now I'm left questioning if this is normal.

Your husband probably has a low libido, doesn't find you attractive or gets it outside. Once a week is too poor! At least every alternate day. Once in a month? I'd rather not imagine it.

Meaning he was 35 years old when he made "The Figurine"? That's inspiring.

BetWinners:
Nigerian men have got to stop placing so much value on women.
@OP You told your wife the blunt truth.Women are waaay harsher with the truth when they direct it at men.Countless women have told their husbands the exact same thing you told your wife (their husbands not being their first choice) & the men moved on.
Tell your wife if she can't act right & put that poo behind her,then both of you should split cos you can't continue stepping on eggshells in your own house.
Simple stuff

You've obviously never been in a serious relationship, much more one which is leading or led to marriage. All those assumptions go out the window. A woman can 'blackmail' you into feeling sorry and being remorseful without saying much. "Okay', "I'm fine", "Go ahead, don't worry about me"... Ever heard those words?

While the world sees your woman as beautiful and confident, only you realize she constantly seeks validation from you. She wants reassurance that even the faint spot on the underside of her breast is fine by you. There are things you never say. Sometimes lie to her for her own sake. You won't die.

24kmagic:
I hope you're older than this guy you're insulting up and down? And nope, 31 years for a woman is not *only". I personally cannot go beyond 25. Old spinsters are a complete turn off.

They still don't get it - 31 isn't just "only". I'm guessing you are also in your 20's?

LilMissFavvy:
Only 31 smh...... I pray that lady heals. She married a man who does not value her.

Biologically, 31 isn't just "only" in a woman's life. I have nothing against females who are even 37 but 31 isn't just "only".

If such a woman balances it out by being homely and enterprising, many men might ignore her age. They might not broach the topic but it's still an issue. Besides, many women fake their age with affidavits and all as 'proofs'. The 25-year-old lady you are dating might just turn out to be 29.

They all claim marriage and weddings mean little to them but it's everything. We all know she's the one putting the idea into the heads of those innocent 4-year-olds.

Palehair:
Thank you very much, the amount of toxic masculinity among black men is so high, having a baby mama now is a way to confirm one's masculinity, can we please let men express themselves the way they want to without any side eye on their sexuality?

Most of them project their insecurities on others. Uti Nwachukwu was always termed a gay for years until the rumour mill 'revealed' he's T-Boss' babydaddy.

IK Ogbonna was always called a gay until he until he started flaunting his babymama.

Cousin9999:
You don't understand. It's widely known that he's gay.

Really? Same way Banky was termed a gay because he never showed off any woman he was romantically entangled with, had no scandal, no babymama and was (still is) somewhat of a colourist until he married Adesuwa.

Cousin9999:
No, he's actually gay. He's also a colorist and half white.

KCee of Five Star Music is a colourist too. Even YCee. Saying being half-white makes him gay is covert racism. Jidenna is no gay. He needs the album and if he were gay, he would have come out for his career. They are all just trying to seem politically correct so the Left can love them more.

AryaSand:
That guy is Either Bi-Sexual or Gay.

He's just a desperate black celebrity who is pandering towards the unnatural yearnings of the Democrats for gender fluidity and LGBTQ rights. Jidenna is a straight as they come but he's trying to be very politically correct. What how his new album would sell in the next two weeks and the number of interviews he'd grant. Marketing strategy.

ubunja:
Okay what is it with black women and calling themselves Goddesses and Queens??

This shît is getting rètàrdèd.

If you understand reverse psychology, you'd realize they have self esteem issues. Like Yemi Alade used to tag herself "king" until a hacker exposed private messages of her being all over Phyno, or Tonto Dike taking on the same title after her marriage crashed. The ones who tag themselves that on social media are either single mothers with self esteem issues or just those who men thread upon. They all have self esteem issues. My experience with them has revealed them to be the most vulnerable of the female gender.

NaijaTushboy:
can you please refer me to some of the gospel songs that you love listening to?

Truth is, like I stated in my first reply to you, I'm not particular about gospel songs. I'm less religious than you think I am. I take spirituality serious though but let me not bother you with the comparisons.

My preferred gospel songs are not necessarily tagged "Gospel songs". Jon Bellion's "Hand of God', "JT' and other such songs can be said to be gospel. Johnny Drille has gospel songs too. I mean, if you have lyrics like, "...I thought my way to greatness, I could claim this but He [God] gave me the brain" on Jon Bellion's "JT" then it's a somewhat gospel song for me. But maybe it's because regardless of it being 'secular' or gospel, I love cool, slow-paced songs with good lyrical content.

Why? Isn't it the place of the supreme being the vegeance-seeking religious folks pray to to sort through all the prayer requests and grant the ones that are right? So SARS arresting harmless folks who pray would interfere with what God does? Man stop typing nonsense - just freeze.