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30k is not a good salary for anyone...when you put in transport , food and personal expenses, all that money is gone. divide 30,000 by 20 days that you work in a month, you make N1,500 everyday. pay is really poor vs your qualification. i would suggest you take the job because of the experience you can gain from it and like someone said its a good start for your CV, good luck!

Question is what did your wife do to make you fall out of love with her ? I don't support you leaving your wife because you don't have valid reasons based on what you have told us, you are just infactuated with this younger lady who is bent on destroying your home and might even end up not marrying you at the end. I just hope that what ever choice you make works for you: good luck

So many factors can make a woman seek consolation in the arms of another man
1. Lack of understanding/emotional issues between her and her husband
2. Lack of intimacy or inability to satisfy her in bed
3. An uncaring husband, women are very sensitive and need constant love and affection
4. Financial issues and work place opportunities, like the instance you gave about her sleeping with her boss/colleague
5. Seeking adventure/thrill when the marriage has become too boring and the woman just wants to explore because her husband doesn't give her any excitement
6. Revenge... Husband is cheating , so what a man can do a woman can do better

When all these things are going on, there is lack of happiness. A happy woman will never cheat on her husband

ossaisly:
Please sir, did you also advise @iam_davido not to turn Sophie into his SÈX toy or kpanshing mate too? Just my own candid question.


Thank you sire.

Listen to yourself was she forced to have unprotected sex against her will? The girl is a gold digging opportunist who had already planned out how to use davido the moment they became close. All we have been hearing is how she's trying to collect money and more money but the girl has never truly paid any emphasis to the daughter's health or wellbeing. To even show you the kind of family she's from, where has her biological mother been all through this entire saga?

Very touching, this almost brought tears to my eyes. I don't know what it feels like to lose a mother but I know it's probably one of the most painful things in this world...

Pls what's bfp? I'm new on this thread

I and my husband will start ttc in a few months. We are first timers. Looking forward to the experience. 2016 is our year by Gods grace, to other ladies trying ... I wish you all the best

Hello Doctor, I have an important question... I was diagnosed with PCOS years back, I am aware that one of the side effects is infertility. I intend to start Ttc soon with my husband. Now I need to know if there are things that I should be doing to counter this possible side effect. A gynecologist once recommended I stay on birth control pills until I'm ready to start trying for a baby. What do you recommend?

Are banks still selling PTA/BTA

I see the deadline for the application is Jan 15. I have two questions.. When does work start for the successful applicant? I have experience in this field and I want to apply , however im currently out of the country at the moment and won't be back till two weeks from now. Would you suggest I go ahead?

Are banks still selling PTA/BTA ?

Are banks still selling PTA/BTA?

I would advice you to get a divorce. You don't have a healthy relationship, secondly the man clearly doesn't care about you. The marriage doesn't look like it will ever be functional. Ask your self if your life and happiness matters more than what people think... At the end of the day, you are the one miserable in the marriage not them. Why would you go back to a man who physically abuses you when you can raise your kids on your own and live on your own? Do you have a job? Are you financially okay? If yes, then why would you go back? What if he beats you one day and you lose consciousness and die? Thirdly, he behaves as if he has moved on, probably has a serious relationship(s) with another female. I would advice you to move on for your own good. I know this is a bad saying but I don't believe marriage is a do or die especially when there is violence involved. Your life and well being should be priority. Good luck!

Your wife is an unrepentant cheat and liar, she won't change. Women like these once they start, it's a never ending roller coaster, she will only learn to be smarter next time. I advice you report her to her family and threaten a divorce or you instantly make up your mind to get a separation/divorce. I just hope she doesn't expose your kids to these various men.

I wouldn't judge the woman for her actions. This is why women back in the days suffered because if something went wrong in the marriage, they have nothing(finance and property) to run back to and so they stay miserable in the marriage and suffer in silence even when their life is at stake because they have tied their fortune solely to being dependent on a what ever their husband provides or the small money left in their savings. We all don't know what this woman is going through in her marriage that is making her acquire this property secretly. Things have changed these days and women are wiser. I see nothing wrong in what she did and I would totally do the same. I know what my mother has gone through in her marriage because she had to stay for us the kids and because she was dependent on my dad to a very large level. A modern day Women should be able to have her own money and property whether single or married. it's the best back up plan you can ever have! Financial independence is rewarding!

Yes it is, she should try natural family planning instead.

My friend needs your advice

She just got married recently (about 8 months ago) and moved to the US to meet her husband. She came from a very comfortable life and was doing very well in Nigeria. Fast forward to her relocation, she has to spend months at home processing her papers because in order to be able to work and start life properly in the US , you need a green card. However, finance is currently a big issue between her and her husband. The man has refused to be financially supportive considering the fact that she's not earning income currently and can't work. She's currently using her savings to foot her bills and take care of her self. NB: this wasn't the agreement prior to the wedding. The man gave the impression that he would be financially responsible for her after she relocated until she is able to get a job which is common sense and expected of him. The man's excuse is that he is going through a professional program and barely has time to work, therefore he doesn't have the means to support her at this point. Apart from the financial issue, he also spends a lot of time focusing on his program, she mostly alone most of the time. Now she's currently thinking about moving back to nigeria to work and stabilize her self a bit since her husband is unable to take care of her. The question now is, what would you suggest she does? Be patient and stay? Or go back for sometime and stabilize herself? Is a temporary long distance marriage advisable? (she doesn't intend to stay away for too long).... Your opinions will be appreciated

Scarcity of bdc dollars = more inflation?

naheem8307:
For those coming into the country, what is the maximum amount of dollars allowed to come along with ?

$10,000

Their motive is clear. I wonder why these old fools can't work with Buhari to combat Nigerias corruption issues. They don't want to submit to TSA because they want to keep looting funds.

Nigerian hospitals tho

As a female I'll tell you the honest truth... Yes, you should be worried. Communicate now and express your displeasure at what you saw before everything take a different dimension. I'm sure if the tables were turned and she saw such on your phone, she would be just as uncomfortable as you are right now

Thank God government and pple are coming to their aid. I would also love to help this family in my own little way. But something is missing.. No one is talking about the prosecution of the police officer involved in this killing. so unfortunate

There's no guarantee that you will get the money after you sleep with him. I'll advice you to desist and look for an alternative option to fund your accommodation

It's no longer news that Jonathan's regime was a money sharing regime. It's so unfortunate to think that these bunch of rouges wanted to come back for a second term.

Cute baby

Time to tighten up the presidential security.

Evidently all toasters are not marriage material

And what's wrong with being generous enough to help her? She's asking for 15k not 50k. You claim you have interest in someone but you can't help them. So basically people who do not yield to your requests promptly are not eligible to get your help. Maybe she's even testing you and you are about to fail woefully

This story is an eye opener. There are a lot of people who are infected and just want to spread it and there are people who do not know that they are infected. I wonder which category she falls under. People need to be cautious. So many people out there who have this virus. Even condoms are not 100% of an assurance. However the op's friend is a lucky guy, imagine if he had given into the pressure of unprotected sex, it would have been a different story right now.
By the way do they sell those HIV test kits in the pharmacy?

this is a marriage.... Procreation is one of the major expectations of marriage , so yes I would advice you to have a child and play your wifely duties as expected. You already took the deep plunge by getting married to this man for silly reasons. Now you have to live with this choice that you have made. You should also consider moving to Canada so that you can bond with him And build a stronger foundation for your marriage. Who knows your admiration might just bloom into love. Good luck!