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With this, even if Bubu was planning public holiday, he can no longer do it.

Smart move by PDP!

Parachoko:
PDP is a horrible opposition

I doubt they release any press statement about the killing in Plateau State

They are more interested in fables

Its ok for marriage to crash if one person is not happy. Marriage is meant for man and not man for marriage!

If your wife is not ready to willingly perform her conjugal rights especially when you're performing your duty as a provider and protector, divorce her or get a side chick or better a second wife!

being:
klass99, this is a recipe for disaster esp in marriage!! @ OP Take note two wrongs will crash the marriage in no time.. that's d direction 2 wrongs will take you.. esp with someone like her who did not grow up seeing a marriage work.

Lets see!

garfield1:
Then,your case will fail

Once you make your wife believe that divorce is out of the question from you end, you're screwed! Even if you won't divorce, don't make it obvious!

Secondly, once your wife believes you will not cheat or have a sidechick, you're screwed.
Even if you wont, do not make it obvious. Let her feel you can do it if you're pushed.

Thirdly, why were you having sex once a week for a marriage of two years? Atleast 2-3 times per week. You spoilt her! Do not beg for sex but demand it, if she's not ready, quite the marriage. As far as men are concerned, regular sex is the most important thing in marriage.

Finally, sit her down and let her know how important sex is to you and that you want it minimum twice per week or else you seek for divorce. Initiate sex whenever you want confidently, don't wait for her to initiate, they hardly do!


Note that I'm happily married for over 12yrs.

CuriousMind2022:
It's a known fact that most Nigerian girls marry who they consider ready for marriage and not necessarily who they love. I am exactly in that dilemma and the question I am asking myself is whether I should continue in this loveless marriage or slowly drift and walk away.

My marriage is barely 2 years and a few months, but it has been a rough journey for me. Things I never envisaged I would experience in my marriage, I have suffered, from utmost disrespect to verbal abuse.

I came to the conclusion that she doesn't love or care about me based on what happened yesterday. I was recently transferred from my base to a new location and because of that, I would only be able to visit weekends or twice a month. Prior to that, we barely had sex once a week.

We had already had sex the normal once we usually had it (Saturday morning), but I wanted more because I will only be coming back after two weeks. I initiated a move on Sunday morning, she declined because she was thinking of preparing food for our baby before we leave for church. We went to church and came back, and as usual, my wife was in her undies (just panties and bra) in the sitting room (This was what she wore throughout that Sunday).

I watched her walk around the house in that and that even turned me on the more. I am a practicing Christian, and I try not to look after other women lustfully, but common this is my wife, even God sanctions that. After being turned on throughout the day, I went to my wife in the night, (note she slept in the sitting room with our baby leaving me alone in the room) to enjoy my conjugal rights with her, but she gave me excuses that she is upset and not in the mood.

I left and went back, seriously konjified, I managed to sleep. The next morning, I woke up with my urges and went to the sitting room to have my morning devotion, but I could barely concentrate because I was still very Hot. I explained to her that so really wants me to go to my new station like this knowing fully well I will not be coming back until 2 weeks time. This woman did not care!

I took my bath, prepared myself, and set out for my office. I was not happy with her but I kept my cool and left for work. She had demanded that I dropped some money for her before leaving and despite the fact that I was not happy with her, I dropped the money in a conspicuous place where I know she will see it before leaving. This was my own way of saying I am not happy with what you did, but I still cared.

I try to do things I usually do for my wife even when I am angry with her. This is my own way of saying I may be angry with you, but I still cared about you and I am open to a resolution. On the other hand, my wife doesn't care what happens to me when she is upset. She immediately stops cooking for me ad any other thing she does for me when she is upset. It is obvious to me now that to my wife I don't really matter in the grand scheme of things. She is only caring and concerned, when she is not angry (when we are good and we don't have any issues). I believe that when you love somebody, you treat them right and show genuine love and care for them even when you're upset with them. This is what I have constantly shown to my wife in our 2+ years of marriage.

Back to my story of what happened weekend/Monday. My wife never bothered to call me to check if I arrived safely since I left the house yesterday. I even called her once (primarily to check on my daughter), but she didn't pick up and she didn't call back, and up till now, we have not spoken.

She obviously does not care whether I arrived safely in my station or not. In this country of insecurities, a family member of yours will travel and you do not care whether he/she arrived safely, that is the height for me, and in the actual sense, I should be the one upset here because she left me high and dry, despite knowing fully well I am very Hot.

I am a family-oriented person, I have always dreamt of having a peaceful, loving, and Godly home but unfortunately, the reverse is the case for my wife. I began to understand why family background is very important in a person's life, after getting married. My wife is from a family where they place little or no value on marriage. Her mother had children with 2 men, and my wife is obviously working very hard to follow that same path. She shows little or no enthusiasm in making our marriage work. I am always the one to initiate moves to resolve issues when we quarrel, whether I am right or wrong, I do not care, my focus is just on making my marriage work and my home peaceful.

This last episode shook me very hard, and I have been asking myself whether I want to continue in this loveless marriage or opt out. Working and living in a different city will even make it easier for me.

I needed to let my thoughts out and thanks to Nairaland, I have done so.

They are not robots that do things based on program. Nobody can bring ten of thousands of bvas to court. There will be other ways

garfield1:
Not true.thats not how the apex court judge it.for you to establish it,you must produce the machine for the presidential and then voters register and compare with ec8a.reps,senate is totally different

Thats just one state! The BVAS report for presidential, Senatorial and House of Representatives if thesame and consistent, establishes whats contained in the bvas because its same accreditation. If the figure is different from Form EC8A, then overvoting is established.

garfield1:
Let me correct you,obi complained of overvoting in ekiti

Bubu stop talking, we're tired of you!

The woman did not accept the advances of the nice guys but chose prob looks and material things. She had it coming alright

Kobojunkie:
What valid reason would there be for a man to subjugate his partner and wife in marriage? The marriage na only him own?

When a small child talks, you know.
You're a small girl without experience

Jennyclay:
the man is just a foolish confused man who has no reasons for his action.

The man is also a randy man reason his wife keeps getting STDs.

Honestly, I just hate Nigerian men!! They’re so disgusting and irritating

Useless post. If not Obi all the time, its Igbo this, Igbo that.

Una nor dey tire?

ronalmagic10:
Your choice of words on a social media post may feel spontaneous but they can actually tell a surprising amount about who you are.

Detailed analysis of tweets from the Presidential candidate of APC now President-elect, Asiwaju Bola Ahmed Tinubu, Presidential candidate of PDP, HE Atiku Abubakar and the Presidential candidate of NNPP, HE Rabiu Kwankwaso shows their belief in one Nigeria, hope, love and sincerity of purpose.

However, tweets from the former governor of Anambra state who was the unlawful Presidential candidate of Labor Party, HE Peter Grengory Obi is particularly disturbing.

On the 10th of July 2022, HE Peter Obi made the following tweet which is pinned till date 24th of May 2023: 'I invite every member of the OBIdient Family, and every supporter of our march to a new Nigeria to visit the official campaign website for the Obi-Datti Campaign organisation. You can use that medium to support and donate in cash & kind to the campaign obidatticampaign.com -PO'

PO was the only presidential candidate who created a medium to personally seek for funds and that is because he is only interested in money

He knew from the onset he was going to lose as there was no way he, Atiku, and Kwankwaso could secure majority votes when divided.

During the campaign, we all saw pictures of PO using commercial planes and applauded him for that.

However, after the elections, he has been globetrotting using a private jet to France, UK, Abuja, Lagos, Anambra and several other places using funds in excess of 300 million dollars donated for his campaign mostly by Nigerians (ipob members) outside the country and other naive foreigners

I'm using this platform to call out Peter Obi to remove that pinned tweet and provide accountability of all the monies donated to that account.

The amount of CO2 emitted from his Jet is becoming a source of concern to experts around the world. Please reduce your Waka Waka and make the environment safer for us all

We do not practice idolatry. There's a reason indirect rule failed in the East during colonial era....nor be today!

DenreleDave:
Yet igbos bow down to kanu and lick he foot


We do not? No be Una dey worship una rrich men especially those drug smugglers wey dem dey catch now.. Wey una go give them title and dey worship them

The most second educated tribe in Nigeria acting like a tool in the hand of kanu and Simon ekpa


See the irony of life

MC Oluomo did not apply any clever phrase, stop defending nonsense!

Igbos are always treated differently but its a matter of time

chidiokay:
what Oluomo did was wrong, But he was clever to stay within a "phrase" and he didnt generalised,
According to the fact, MC oluomo mentioned Iya chukwudi, that automatically makes it a case of Mc oluomo vs Iya chukwudi ...
But we all know No one bears iya chukwudi on there NIN, there are 1000s of iya chukwudi and even a babylawyer like folake4U can argue iya chukwudi is not only pertinent to a igbo woman, yoruba women marry igbo men, so there is chances of a yoruba woman having a child called chukwudi,
Remember Iya Gbadegbo is igbo while baba chinedu is yoruba .. so Mc oluomo was smart clever


IGBOs can celebrate just anyone that as balls to double cross the west/Nig. if Azikiwe and ojukwu children can come out to start cursing and insulting Tinubu or Nig. today they will become heros of the East, maybe Nnamdi kanu knew these becos today he is the most worshipped man in the East

We do not worship people, we do not practice idolatry!

DenreleDave:
How can you celebrate those two failures?

Azikwe was a coward dt left his people to suffer..

Ojukwu started a war he cud nt finish and ran away just as a coward..

Who will celebrate them?

You're still gullible after 8yrs of being in the wilderness?

smokinloud:
He built a solid foundation for self-sufficiency that leads to a sustainable economy!.

Undisputed heavyweight champion of incompetence!

What about MC Oluomo during the elections?

One day this selective justice will catch up with you guys.

Have you seen any Igbo man celebrating the children of Azikiwe, Ojukwu etc? Igbos do not practice idolatry!

chidiokay:
To start with did they commit the same crime, Seun action was violence against a police man, and according to the law its either he is goes to jail or pays a Fine
While Nze Nigbo did not only threaten National interest & unity, he used IPOB (a proscribe terrorist group) that clearly becomes a came of National threat ... what does the constitution.

Sowore spent a long time in jail for Revolutionnow, Adeyanju was also jailed and some other yoruba media activist did you see Yorubas tribalizing it or shouting our Son. I don't want to beleive all Igbos are the same but most of you are just shameless.

No Name in the entire East beats the pedegree of Fela Kuti in Nigeria ... just wondering if Fela was igbo and seun was arrested will Ndigbo keep cool like yorubas watch Seun go to jail .. Must Igbos always do this ViCTIM nonsense

Who calls thrid mainland bride Babangida bridge even though thats the official name? Nobody!

blaise26abj:
Lol . Buhari has made sure that they keep his name in their f..cking mouth .

Nobody will call it that name. Nobody calls Third Mainland Bridge Ibrahim Babangida Bridge even though officially, thats the name

FlipModeSquade:
Big security, because a Bridge was named after the man that built it?

Who is the Biafran here?

frank14011991:
Why is it that Biafra is always about hatred for islam

What goes around comes around

duro4chang:
Eze must have learnt his lesson now.

Stop commenting like a baby! Where is Fela in this discuss?

duro4chang:
Fela spent more than 21 days in detention

You support Dokubo now? Is this not the person you guys wanted Bubu to jail in 2015 when he was sworn in? You have forgiven him because he is supporting Tinubu?

So any corruption thats affiliated with you guys is good?

lexylaw40:
Dokubo won't do that he doesn't belong to LP.....

Laws have changed beside Atiku already won but was awaiting inauguration. You're not giving the right info

fuckJones:
Atiku was the governorship candidate of Adamawa state before pdp nominated him as vice president to obasanjo,

Unlikely! Infact they will likely call PDP a busy body.

Except Bubu or the cabal wants Tinubu removed.

It is what it is. Deny it! Someone that talked and someone that acted....is action not louder than words?

duro4chang:
Always playing victim mentality.
We know where you are going.

No Southern Judge will even entertain such nonsense

yarimo:
Point of correction, three Nigeria courts not northern courts

You're obsessed with Obi

LeoDeKing:
As simple as this excerpt appears, 1000 of Peter Obi + 1000 Ahmed Datti the Dafti cannot compose it. They may not even understand the message being sent to the western dominated global news channels with penchant for always announcing only the dark side of Africa. yet they are the most intelligent beings that ever graced the green planet according to some nitwits.

The clown who went to study energy use in Egypt for 3 days was asked a very simple question about green energy, instead of simply saying he knew nothing about green energy, the semi illiterate started murmuring some inaudible sounds like female monkey.

The bridge will be paid for so no biggie. Its borrowed money!

LeoDeKing:
And so what? Is it his money?

We from South East will never use that bridge.

Whenever we get there, we will cross the river with the aid of the drawings commissioned by Goodluck Jonathan.

Buhari cannot fool us with his audio bridge. 

The court in Kano did not even have LP lawyers, they gave a judgement without full judicial procedure.

Who was the LP lawyer there? Apapa lawyer meanwhile it was Apapa faction that took the matter to court. Why will LP members take LP to court to annul their elections if both the LP members and Judge are not working for APC...

Dey play

garfield1:
Oga,they did not.the court in Kano found them guilty of not submitting so who are you to question the court?

What is the likelihood that someone from the same political party would take another member to court over double nomination? It will be judged as internal party affair so in essence we're saying this particular law is handicapped?

Anyways...its on Friday so lets see what the Supreme Court would say

seanfer:
Attached is a ruling of appeal court.