₦airaland Forum

Yes! Maybe inadvertently but your drifting towards that place

Kobojunkie:
Misandrist tendencies?

Do you know the age range of those guys that mostly bash women? They might be 18 or less so using a faceless forum to judge the behavior of Nigerian men is ludicrous! No Southern matured man will make such comment, we respect women and mostly we respect our mum. Aboki made that comment so let it remain with Aboki.

Like I said I'm beginning to notice her meaning this is not the first!

pocohantas:
I wonder why you guys scream feminism and misandry when called out on your bullshit, but refuse to notice the norm on Nairaland.

Did she lie that many NL males have same mentality with that guy? Don’t we see such comments here everyday?

So what exactly is the misandry in bringing it to your notice? Please deal with it or take a second to quote your younger brothers who reinforce such opinions.

It seems you have feminism or worst misandrist tendencies!

Kobojunkie:
Because he has that hat on, you conclude he must be an aboki?

For crying out loud, what he said is no different from what many of the non-abokis here on nairaland recite each day as an anthem where women are concerned.

EFCC has been reduced to yahoo boys chasing. Pathetic!

The weaponization of nepotism by Bubu!

You're not serious, are you?grow up.

So you can't stand up to a man and say no?

There's something you're not telling us!

siofra:
What if I tell him the doctor says I should stay away from sex if not I may develop life threatening complications?

Allow the man find rest? What's your point? That she should not be prosecuted?

tillaman:
Mehn what do you expect, now they said all those confessions she made when she got arrested was under duress, but she’s Guilty of hoeing
Make they just allow this man find rest
What a sad way to relocate to the afterlife

Alright, enjoy!

Kobojunkie:
If you append additional meanings to a thing, what you have is no longer that which is clearly defined but more a delusion that is only as stable as the mind that cooked it up.

A husband is a partner in a marriage contract. These things are as simple as that and don't need to be made more complicated by all the bullsheet individuals subscribe their minds and mental to.

Exactly. Love is reciprocal!

pocohantas:
Lmao @ leave him. Naso them dey take leave? Now wey all the men wey dey outside dey take goof and loud?

To me, partner is off for a husband/wife, except if you are trying to stay ambiguous. Spouse would be more acceptable. I would use partner for an unmarried half in a committed and long term relationship. I didn’t notice it though. You must be huge on titles.

You're looking at the literary meaning but it's too casual introducing your husband as your partner. Do not do it in real life, even if he doesn't react, it won't sit well in his stomach.
Don't get carried away with trends

Kobojunkie:
It's not in my mind since the dictionary is available to help even you realize the very same thing I just posted.

In your mind you know the truth. That's all

Kobojunkie:
Nothing wrong with introducing your wife wife your partner since it implies there is a union involved. "Wife" is a title just like "partner" and "husband" both are.

But be honest, don't you think it's too casual? If you read the comments a couple of ladies said they can't deal so she should leave him or he leaves her. Had it been she said husband,
they comments would most likelybedifferent.

How would you feel if your husband introduces you as his partner vs saying my wife?

pocohantas:
For what? You dey do giveaway?

Na wa o! Na you I ask?

Anyways, husband carries more weight. Partners are used by unmarried couples mostly. How would she feel if her husband introduces her as his partner?

Kobojunkie:
Calling him partner is too casual?

Did they both not sign the marriage contract declaring them partners in the marriage?

Why does husband carry more weight for you?

Poco how far? Missing me?

pocohantas:
Na your own problem be this? What if I call you “Someone’s son”, you will jump from balcony and break your limbs ba?

Why do you call your husband your partner?
I think it's too casual. Call him your husband, no wonder some are saying leave him.

Lamanii22:
This is one bad thing I discovered recently about myself, I yell at him when I am trying to prove a point, no insults but my voice is always high.... Then I feel bad about it afterwards....

Women and victim mentality are interwoven!

But we don't have similar aspirations as the core North. From middlebelt to South, similar but core North are very different. Can't work!

Abohboy:
That applies to a man who's lifespan is no more on average then 80 years how are you comparing a saying for a man to a nation? It is in a nations hardest times where you find out how far it will go because I promise you if Nigeria stays together and the people wake up to vote in good leaders or just vote decent people by 2040 Nigerians will be happy they made the decision to stay as one

Bubu has not done anything for Nigerians. These little infrastructures are being done with borrowed monies to be paid by incoming governments so technically, the incoming govts built all these.

Mind you the second Niger bridge would be tolled so technically, the Eesterners would pay for the bridge themselves

RichDad1:
Some Bitter souls will come here to abuse a man that has done more for them than that their own leaders.

Wetin you dey find you go see am!

Just a matter of time before you relax but you will surely relax!

AdesewaAde:
It’s just shameful that you guys now see cheating as fashion,you see it as something that makes a man complete.
This your comment drew me back to my last dating experience,the 3 years relationship cracked just because he cheats a lot and even do boost about it,imagine dating someone who do say it to your face that every man cheats and he will continue to cheat then apologise when being caught,that afterall he will always come back home when done outside.
You guys sees toying with other people’s emotions is just fun.
I will continue with my detective mode and won’t hesitate to cut him off if he is really a cheat, is either you are sincere with me or you let me go.

Why are you monitoring him upandan? Our forefathers married several wives without issues. Our generation is marrying one yet they wanna hold us by our neck. Relax!

AdesewaAde:
I had a sleepless night,I’ve been trying so much not to see a big deal in what happened between my boyfriend and I last night but the more I tried my best on it the more my mind continue telling me it’s a red flag.

The relationship is just five months and we’ve been good since then,he lives in another state,though just an hour drive to my place,we don’t see frequently but that isn’t a problem cause we are both always busy with business. He’s caring,jovial and also someone who will always tell me “look babe,this is the problem between us ,and can we iron it out instead of you giving me cold attitude?” ,he’s a very understanding guy,he do assist me financially ,not that I am a liability,but helps me with my business and I do help him also,in fact I love lending him money cause he will always pay me back in triple folds.

Three days ago,he told me he will be attending a wedding engagement that very day,it was very unusual of him ,cause he do tell me about all his movements but this particular one sounded impromptu,he apologised and said all his friends were around and he dont want to disappoint them. We talked on video call and I sensed everything was good. Few minutes to 9pm ,I messaged him and he told me they were still in town (at a bar) drinking and that he won’t be going home anytime soon that I should go to bed and sleep. He snapped a picture of what they were drinking and sent me,I saw one bottle of malt with straw and immediately I sensed a woman was with them. Initially,he told me it was just four of them on the table,all boys,I put it straight to him that a woman was with him ,he said no and I told him who drank malt amoung them,it was then he said a girlfriend to one of his friends,I smiled and sent him goodnight.
He replied the message with “do you think I am cheating?” I replied “who am I to know what exactly you are doing outside by this time? Good night boo”” I switched off my phone and slept off. Note-this is the first time I will ever think of it that he is having another affair.

Yesterday was Saturday and he told me he will be attending the church wedding and reception,we talked on video call again and he was updating me about his movements from church to reception and from reception to bar again with his friends. He said he will be staying late again that I may go to bed if I want to sleep, I told him “ humm,shaa maa rora” it means “humm ,just be careful” immediately he replied with
“do you think I have a woman here today again?
If Naa when I still dey bear my name (his name) you met me,walahi you go don shout tire.
I go don Bleep one of your friends self “
I was very shocked but I managed to type really,and he replied with “yes,you for don collect and I no go leave you self, but I am calm now,so put your mind at rest and don’t think I am cheating “
I was very heartbroken,though he sounded like he was actually playing,I’ve been trying to erase my mind off it and see it as a joke but at the same time my mind has be telling me it was a clear red flag since a cheat will always remain one

Experience guys,what do you think about this situation?

Women and pretense! So who're the ladies marrying fair guys? Abi the fair guys nor dey marry?

Who are the ladies chasing Ramsey Noah, Alex Okubo, Ike Ogbonna? Abi are they nor fair? Yeye dey smell.

FFK is a scam!

Another verbose garbage

WaffenSS:
This pedagogical man with his pedantic and overly verbose writings is here again.

Reading him is always an overbearing chore, and his academic arrogance and condescending tone don't help none.

I'll pass.

But that's not what Ooni said.

Coldshisha:




This is ordinary common sense that doesn't need research

Due to geographical proximity , Dahomey (Benin Republic, Togo), Hausa (NorthWest , North Central), Nupe , BIni, Edo , Istekiri (Midwest) and Middle belt (Gwari, Baji) close to Kogi are our cousins in Yorubaland


In reality due to river Niger and huge gap, Yoruba and Ibos share absolutely nothing together


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Jega better confess if your conscience won't let you rest! Nonsense!

Before the 2019 election, he refused to sign after passage by both senate and HOR. He gave flimsy excuses of the wordings of the bill three times and he does so on the last days when he is required to sign, wasting time. Finally he said it's too close to election.

He removed the cjn because he knew after rigging he would be taken to court so he needed a pliable cjn. Bubu is a fraud.

You talked on millions of voters when over 40% are underaged voters, falsified numbers and fulani from Niger voting for him.

He concern in the next election is to put someone who won't probe him. Someone who would cover the monumental corruption in this administration.

Bubu is a great fraud!

Aufbauh:
So to you, it is Buhari's making or doing that is hampering the non passage of the bill?
Pls try to get adequate informations before engaging in a subject matter.
FYI, the non passage of the bill or otherwise is purely a legislative affairs and has nothing to do with Mr. President.

Again, if you're intuitive enough, the question that should have come to your mind should be, how is this bill going to benefit Mr President who is completing his tenure and can not aspire for any political office when this proposed bill will take effect?

Absolutely and clearly he's not going to benefit from any electoral Bill as it is right now.
So to what end should he truncate a proposal that has no effect on him rather than to leave a good legacy for the nation.

You should also be equally curious why his predecessors particularly his immediate did not push his legislatures to effect that bill then.

Insinuating that Buhari has been rigging election for himself to the extent of defeating or rigging out a sitting president to emerged winner have ascribed an immortality of such to him.

Why is he refusing to sign the electoral ammendment for electronic transmission if these votes are real?

Aufbauh:
Is it that you have a short memory or you're denying the obvious?
Bubu in the past election he lost have been consistent with a huge votes of 12m plus since 2003 till date except 2007.
No Nigeria politician has been able to garner such votes from a region consistently.

You call it rigging? Keep deceiving yourself to feel good.
If you allow Buhari to contest election again he'll still pull more votes in the North than any other Nigerian in spite of the propaganda against him.

For your information, check out Buhari's votes since 2003 he presented himself for election till date.

2003- 12.7m
2007- 6.6m
2011 - 12.2m
2015 - 15.4m
2019- 15.2m

Are you kidding me? Breakup? That would be a gift to the Igbos!

TheCrusader14:
Then our governors, Senators, Reps and other political leaders will openly lead the breakup of this British cage. I hope you're objective enough to know we Yoruba have everything to stand on our own, in fact Nigeria has always been a liability to us. We will pull out. Today, the future leaders of the Great Yoruba race have placed 2 options before you Ibos and your Fulani partners, either a full-blooded Yorubaman becomes president in 2023 or we break away.

Even Bubu betrayed the North! Without rigging Bubu himself cannot win how much more having a cultlike followership to give Tinubu. You're making it seems Bubu did not lose 3 elections in the past.

Aufbauh:
Dokpesi's observation and submission is very true for the PDP, and not for the APC.

A southern APC presidential candidate from the SW particularly will almost inherit the court followership of PMB and the support of the Northern APC stronghold.
The reason being that the SW APC family at large have stood behind PMB through thick and thin with no sense of betrayal.

The SW APC candidate might not win in SS and SE but he'll clear the other 4 geopolitical zones.

Dokpesi is saying this because he knows that a southern PDP candidate will not garner a 3m votes across the northern hemisphere.

Well, each to his own.

truthsayer009:
If you like stay 50 years in marriage, what you don't know you dont know. Sex is never free, you always pay for it and the mode of transaction or currency is not always money. Women always have sex with you with the mindset that they are losing something, so something must be paid in return.

I pray God continues to give you power as a provider in your home, God forbid that you run into a financial situation that lingers for 6 months, that's when you will know that sex is not freely given. You will beg for it and almost cry, even as a married man.

Whether you believe it or not, it is what it is.

My wife contributes 40% of her income towards the home while I contribute 85% of my income. She's meant to help me not make my life harder and she's doing a good job!

BTW, this formula was agreed on. Before she got a job, I was doing 100% so it's love and mutual understanding

AutoC:
Okay, so aw is it going sharing the bill or allowing ur wife to pay the bills??

Women naturally have low sex drive that's why they can contemplate denying their husband sex. And that's the reason a single woman cannot satisfy a man even in peace time. Men really need multiple wives or side chicks else they starve sexually

Iyaebe:
When and if I get married and my husband hurts me,I will deny him sex till he finds a way to make me happy again. Why should any reasonable man get erection when his wife is hurt?So don't go close to your wife for sex if she's hurt,solve the problems first before coming for 360degrees and snake in the monkey shadow styles lol