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Really need to step up my game.... Lol.

I am from a country where 95% of the population is either angry or scared. The times have passed when, if you successfully get a B.Sc degree, you are considered “made”. Gone are the days when our parents would tell us stuff like, “if you want to succeed, you have to read your books”. That worked during the time of our fathers. At least, I know my father got a job and a car after He completed his first degree from University of Ibadan in 1974. And there are a million other examples of such cases back then in Nigeria. Those were the days when the educational system paid off and people could fulfil their dreams just by being educated.
But when exactly did things change I feel so lost. Compare the 70s/80s to this current Nigeria. Its like a different country. The youth are idle and angry. People graduate from the University and it is like a new level of suffering and frustration has begun except for a select few. Employers make recruitment processes so tedious and long as if one is looking to be employed as the president of a Country. Then you see groups like Niger-Delta Avengers coming up and then you still wonder why some people could be so callous. Let us face the battle from the right angle here because things don’t just suddenly happen. It is a build up of the deception that the past generation and we as individuals have gotten ourselves into. We would all agree that about 95% of the people that were so studious in school did that in order to finish and get jobs with the likes of Shell and Chevron. Creation of job opportunities or addressing the issues in the country were not the goal. From all indications, we were taught to be dependent on other people’s success for a means of livelihood rather than what they are lacking. What they did not know was that every other child will go to school just like their children and just as educated as their children; looking to depend on someone else’s success for a means of livelihood as well. So if we all have that mind set, where exactly would the jobs come from?

“Start doing! Start creating! Start seeing the opportunity to better lives around you! You cannot place your life and Generations to come in the hands of some Government filled with old people that do not remember what it feels like to be young and handicapped by decision-makers.”

Our educational system has failed to address the issues with the country. We are taught our courses so abstractly, that they seem like spiritual subjects (I am talking as a science student). We realize that we go out and cannot even relate the courses with the real world. We see machines and technological systems around us and do not know how they work or even have a flare for building them – that for someone who has spent half a decade in Uni. It is mostly the fault of the educational system because it focuses on every other thing except what really matters. Can a science student not finish from the University and gain expertise in web development? And this, not through personal learning but through what the school has imparted. We have so stuck to the same educational routine that the world has changed and we still refuse to change with it. Nobody cares about dy/dx if I dont even know how it relates with anything in the real world. Don’t get me wrong, these things are used one way or the other, but they never teach us how it is used or where or how to make them useful in the world and particularly in Nigeria. Can we not finish from the University with an urge to create something we have gained expertisein and make this available to Nigerians?

One thing that is seriously crippling Nigeria’s economy is high rate of importation. We almost never create anything ourselves. Look around you if you are in an office or even at home, or on the road- anywhere, and see if 90% of what is around you is not a product made in China or Japan or USA or some other country. It is so bad that it has even become a thing of pride for a lot of us that if we use imported wears and appliances, we are on top of the world. We see the Aba made wears and gadgets and refuse them and infact castigate them for making such gadgets. Where exactly are we headed with this kind of mentality? How can there ever be jobs if all we do is rely on outsiders to create them and so we work for them. Of which working for them means we can just do what we can and live comfortably.

My major concern here is that if this mentality continues, what will the future be for the coming Generations. The rate of unemployment is increasing and the number job opportunities meagre compared to number of job seekers. We have to break lose from the thinking of I have to get a job when im done schooling and start thinking “how will I create job opportunities when I am done schooling”. If it happened that the whole logistics chain of most products was within Nigeria, just imagine the number of job opportunities we would create. Imagine that we had phone manufacturing, coupling and distribution companies all in one within the same country, the future would be secure for our children. But as it is, with a mentality of just living to make money and settling down, that cannot happen.

So, first off, the youth should cancel the notion of gathering many certificates in order to improve their profile and rather focus on acquiring a skill that can create job opportunities or better still that can make you sought after and a consultant in a particular field.


I believe with a shift of focus, the Ministry of Education can make a great impact in the change that Nigeria needs. The entire science educational curriculum should be changed. Maybe only Primary school should retain their curriculum and teach general science. But starting from JSS1, students can start taking courses like: Phone fabrication, refrigerator making, Power generation and so on. Enough of taking irrelevant topics and deceiving people only for them to finish and realize that nobody in the real world cares where the thorax and abdomen of a housefly is!

We cannot just be a people that carry out installations, coupling and consumption and expect that there will be jobs. I have even seen people that are working and all they do is create jobs for themselves in order to remain within the company and keep making some money. That cannot be your calling in life. That cannot be fulfilment of purpose. If you are not yet doing what you wish you could be doing to impart lives or on the path to doing that thing, then you have not yet started!

This is a call to the youth to take over. I for one believe that I am more than this. I cannot keep on feeling like trash because I was rejected an employment when I am very creative. We are the light of the world, a city that is set upon a hill that cannot be hid. Let your light so shine before men that they may see your good works and glorify your father who is in heaven.

I am creative and believe that with enough investment in personal development and acquiring a useful skill, I can contribute greatly to the lives of Nigerians. I believe that every single one of us can achieve the same by looking inwards and looking beyond just making money at the great possibilities and opportunities around us. I know very well that I cannot do it alone. I see people around me suffering and what I think of is that, “this person has a potential for greatness and if given the right opportunity, would use his/her God-given creativity to invent things that would better other people’s lives”. I want to create something that Nigeria has been importing and by so doing, create job opportunities for Nigerians. We all have to want this and not just want, but start doing this! If having Generators is what it takes to have Electricity in each house, can we not manufacture this within Nigeria? We have a large population with creative minds. So is this not possible?

A cry to the youth: stop being angry at the Government and still not doing anything about it. It’s a big waste of energy. Looking in retrospect, anger has only made the situation worse. Anger has only made people more selfish and corrupt. We were never like this as kids. We believed we could do anything and whatever we wanted to do as kids that required our creativity, we just did. So why stop now

Start doing! Start creating! Start seeing the opportunity to better lives around you! You cannot place your life and Generations to come in the hands of some Government filled with old people that do not remember what it feels like to be young and handicapped by decision-makers. I have noticed that they do not care. So be your own decision maker! Decide to live and love. Use everything you got within you to better the lives of those around you. Don’t let money be your driving force because when you are on the right path, money will be the one chasing after you. After all, our God has said “seek ye first the kingdom of God and its righteousness and all other things shall be added unto you”. Seeking how to better the lives of Nigerians is part of seeking first the Kingdom of God because He also said that if we reject help to those around us, then we reject Him. Just look around you and see what people are lacking or what is making them suffer. As for me, I want to make people realize that they can do and be anything they want to. What is that thing you have been wishing and hoping you could be? I call you to start being!



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famo19:
5000 per litre in halagbado

Hahahahha.

You are a fantastic Liar.

ozoigbondu:
N150

Interesting.
Which gas station is that?

NGN215, NNPC - omole estate.

Hon. Justice Chuka Austine Obiozor of The Federal High Court Lagos Division has granted an interim injunction against Afrijet Airlines Limited, owned by Chief Vitalis Ibe on the application of Asset Management Corporation of Nigeria (AMCON).

The obligor owes AMCON nearly N10 billion. AMCON purchased the Eligible Bank Assets (EBAs) sometime in 2011 from the defunct FinBank and Bank PHB. The order also affects Ibe’s Continental Aviation Services Limited. AMCON has since appointed Prof. Gbolahan Elias, SAN as Receiver/Manager.

At about 11:00am Friday, the Receiver/Manager took possession of the assets of Chief Ibe including Afrijet Plaza, the corporate head office of the airlines located on Sheraton-Opebi Link Road Ikeja, Opebi, Lagos; his asset at Plot 22, JimohOdutola Street, off Eric Moore Road, Surulere, Lagos as well as his office at the Airport. The Court order mandated the Receiver/Manager to also take over on behalf of AMCON and any other offices, branches, stores, warehouses, factories of Chief Ibe and his companies located and/or traced for the purpose of satisfying the indebtedness.

Justice Obiozor, the presiding judge while granting the order on the application of Prof. Gbolahan Elias, SAN counsel to AMCON, restrained Ibe and his companies, directors, agents, servants and/or privies from operating, withdrawing from or otherwise tampering with the funds belonging to and/or deposited in any of his bank accounts under whatever name or guise in any bank or financial institution in Nigeria. Chief Ibe who would not repay the huge debt owed the Corporation has been in protracted negotiations with AMCON.

The Court therefore ordered the Inspector General of Police, Assistant Inspectors General of Police, and the Commissioner of Police in charge of Lagos State, its Deputy and all other Police Officers under them to assist Prof. Gbolahan Elias, SAN, the Receiver/Manager and the Bailiffs of the Federal High Court in the enforcement of the orders of the Court. No incident was recorded during the enforcement exercise.
Afrijet Airlines formally operated from the NAHCO Building on the grounds of Murtala Muhammed International Airport in Ikeja, Lagos. At some point in the history of the airline, it also operated regional cargo operations high profile security flight operations in the Democratic Republic of Congo. The airline later moved to its corporate headquarters in Opebi, Lagos, which was one of the assets AMCON took over yesterday. Afrijet Airlines still maintains an aviation maintenance shop with its sister company Elite Aviation.

AMCON under Ahmed Kuru, Managing Director/Chief Executive Officer, had continually maintained that it would not be business as usual for all top debtors of the Corporation because some 400 obligors of the Corporation account for more than N4.5 trillion, which is approximately 80 per cent of the total outstanding loan balance of the Corporation’s over 12,000 accounts.

To deal with the situation however, the Kuru-led AMCON recently increased the tempo of its recovery activities using firmer negotiation strategies as well as utilizing the special enforcement powers vested by the AMCON Act to compel some of its recalcitrant debtors especially those that are politically exposed and business heavyweights to repay their debts.


http://thenationonlineng.net/amcon-takes-afrijet-airlines-assets-n10b-debt/

What is wrong with these Ekiti people? Are they not the ones that put Fayose in office? Then why all the noise making? After having been given (and having consumed) the luscious PDP bags of rice, yams and plantain?

Just passing....

No comment.

Sexercise isn't a myth and 19 other interesting sex facts
Think you know everything there is to know about sex? Think again! These 20 interesting sex facts may just blow your mind.


1. Vibrators were invented for something else:
The vibrator was originally invented in the 19th
century as a way to reduce "hysteria." That seems
a little extreme. However, we do not recommend
testing that theory by taking away a woman's
vibrator to see if she goes into a hysterical fit.
That's just dangerous.


2. The sperm ratio:
Your average healthy man produces approximately
300 million sperm in just a teaspoon of his semen.
However, it only takes one little swimmer to fertilize
a woman’s egg and it can live for up to a week
inside your body.


3. The first thing people do after sex is...:
Forget post-coital cuddling! According to a poll by
consumer electronics site Retrevo.com, 36 percent
of people under the age of 35 check their Facebook
and Twitter accounts after a roll in the hay.
Hopefully, they are not posting any pictures!


4. Which sex actually gets busy more often:
Think men get laid more than women? Wrong!
According to Men’s Fitness , women have sex 17
percent more often than the average guy. Go girls!
And again, Women want casual sex just as much as
men.


5. The longest orgasm:
Even though the male O seems to get all the
attention, it turns out the women get the last laugh
when it comes to climaxing. The average female
orgasm lasts 20 seconds — 14 seconds longer
than the male's six-second O.


6. Orgasms are good for you:
Orgasms are good for your health ! They can lower
a woman's risk of heart disease, stroke, breast
cancer and even depression. So have sex and get
happy!


7. Sexercise is not a myth:
Sex counts as a workout! During 30 minutes of
active sex, you burn about 200 calories. And you
can even have an orgasm while working out.


8. Women are friskier than we admit:
Even though straight women reported only being
aroused by men, researchers at the Queen's
University in Kingston, Ontario, found that most
women in a study became aroused by every sexual
stimulus they saw — including nude male and
female bodies, heterosexual and homosexual sex
and even animal sex.


9. Sex makes you dirty, in a good way:
When aroused, people are not as likely to think
things are disgusting, according to a study
published in the online journal PLOS ONE .


10. How your brain responds to sex:
Researchers at Rutgers University, who used fMRI
scanners to find out exactly what happens in your
brain when you're aroused, found that different
regions of the brain became activated in response
to stimulation of the vagina, cervix, clitoris and
nipples.


11. Sex releases hormones that prevent you
from peeing:
Ever notice that it's kind of tough to go pee right
after sex? Your body releases an antidiuretic
hormone when you orgasm, which prohibits you
from going potty as easily as usual. Just don't hold
it for too long, or you could risk infection.


12. Why it can be hard to conceive:
Most of the time, a woman only releases one egg
per month.


13. How young teens start having sex:
According to Live Science, by the age of 19, a
whopping 71 percent of American teenagers have
already had sex.


14. Answering your phone during sex:
Women can multitask! According to a survey, at least
12 percent of women admitted to using their
cellphones during sex.


15. When kids lose their virginity:
The Kinsey Institute estimates that, on average,
boys lose their virginity at age 16.9. For girls, the
age jumps to 17.4.


16. Physically talking about sex makes sex better:
People who are more open to talking about sex are
actually happier with their sex lives, according to
Live Science.


17. You're not the only one aroused by food:
Think food is sexy? Some people admit to feeling a
similar sense of arousal when thinking about food
as they do when thinking about sex.


18. Your body image plays a huge role in sex:
According to Live Science, a small study of obese
women found that those who accepted their bodies
reported better sex. So appreciate your body, or
your sex life could suffer!


19. Sex increases your pain threshold:
According to a study published in the Journal of
Sex Research , a person's pain threshold
significantly increases during arousal.


20. Your brain turns off (sort of) during sex:
According to a study from the University of
Groningen in the Netherlands, the amygdala — the
part of the brain involved in fear and anxiety —
shuts down during a female orgasm. So that brain
mush you experience during sex is legit!



http://www.sheknows.com/love-and-sex/articles/1015617/20-interesting-sex-facts

5 Facts About AMCON’s Takeover Of Sen. Ben Murray Bruce’s Companies.


Social media is abuzz following a disclosure on Thursday morning that AMCON had been granted a court order to take possession of Silverbird Galleria as well as other businesses belonging to Senator Ben Bruce.

Reactions have trailed the news, with some going as far as to call it a witchhunt while others say the Senator should pay his debts. Before you weigh in, here are some simple things you should know.

The Asset Management Company of Nigeria (AMCON) was set up by Nigeria’s Central Bank in 2010 to forestall an impending financial crisis primarily driven by banks having huge portfolios of bad and non performing loans.

If that is too complex, the simple explanation is that Nigerian banks had lent money to businessmen who didn’t pay back and some of these loans were huge!

To save the financial sector from collapse, AMCON would buy these loans from the Banks at a discount. For example, if Ibrahim was owing N55 billion to First Bank, AMCON might buy that loan from the bank at N30 billion (providing badly needed cash for the bank) and then re-negotiate with Ibrahim on how the loan would be paid.

Senator Ben Murray Bruce is said to have obtained a loan facility from Union Bank a little more than ten years ago and the loan was supposed to have a tenure of two years. Somehow, the common sense Senator was unable to pay back within the period and now AMCON has bought that no performing loan from the bank.

AMCON secured an order from a Federal High Court in Abuja to take over Ben Murray Bruce’s possessions.

Will AMCON close Silverbird Galleria?

No! AMCON will simply appoint a caretaker manager to run Silverbird Galleria in the hopes of making back the amount owed (11 billion), the shops at the Galleria will not be sold if rents are still valid.

Despite all of these, the most likely outcome is that Silverbird Galleria and all Murray Bruce’s other businesses will likely be sold because, truth be told, N11 billion is a lot of money!


http://www.informationng.com/2016/06/5-facts-about-amcons-takeover-of-sen-ben-murray-bruces-companies.html

amaechi1:
But they not the only one on that trip. How come, they were the only one being pointed at.

Valid point.

Pheals:
Our Rep. Can lie enh

They are the most terrific liars you can think of. It's awful. They fail to realise that anything is better than lies and deceit.

And again, as a politician, it is better to offer no explanation/excuse than a bad one.

Chosen1984:
SEE CONFESSION!! I PRAY ITS NOT TRUE!! BUT I NO TRUST THESE OUR POLITICIANS!

NIGERIAN POLITICIANS AND WOMEN BE LIKE :

I have a deep and profound mistrust of all politicians.

Samuel Ikon, one of the three lawmakers named in an alleged sex scandal in the US, has written to the country’s ambassador in Nigeria to defend himself, maintaining that he was not in good health to have sought the company of a prostitute.

James F. Entwistle, the US ambassador to Nigeria, had written to Yakubu Dogara, speaker of the house of representatives, alleging that Ikon (Akwa Ibom), Mohammed Gololo (Bauchi) and Mark Gbillah (Benue) allegedly sought illicit sex while attending the Leadership Visitor Program in the US in April.

He said Gololo grabbed a housekeeper in his hotel room and solicited her for sex, while the others asked a park attendant to help procure the services of prostitutes.

But Ikon, who represents the Etinan/Nsit Ibom/Nsit Ubium constituency, said he almost did not make it to the US because he had malaria and typhoid.

He also said he was treating high levels of prostate specific antigen (PSA) and could not have sex even if he wanted to.

Ikon promised to make the evidence available, and also wondered why the US government did not give him fair hearing before concluding that he was involved in the alleged scandal.

THE FULL TEXT OF HIS LETTER

James F. Entwistle

Ambassador of United State of America

Abuja, Nigeria.

Sir,

It is with a deep sense of sadness and great hurt that I write to respond to a letter dated June 9, 2016 addressed to the Rt. Hon. Speaker of the House of Representatives of Nigeria, copied to me and signed by you, alleging that I, Hon. Samuel Ikon, with Hon. Mark Gbillah requested hotel parking attendants assist us solicit prostitutes.

Let me state unequivocally sir that this allegation is not just false, but in bad taste. I Hon. Samuel Ikon never on that trip, nor on any trip to the US or anywhere in this world, ever sought to consort with prostitutes. This act would not only be inimical to my health, but totally unacceptable to my faith.

May I draw your attention Mr. Ambassador to the fact that I almost did not make that trip due to my state of health, a situation that was well known to your mission accompanying staff Mrs. Victoria Ibi. Even at the airport before our departure, I still was not sure but travelled due to the deep respect and appreciation I had at the time for the US government nominating me for the program on one hand, and the fact that I carried necessary medication for the Malaria and Typhoid that I was diagnosed of.

Mr. Ambassador, I was miserable throughout our stay in Washington DC and only got a bit stable in Cleveland when the medication began to kick in. Secondly, I was at the same time on medication to reduce my PSA level which tests in February this year had indicated a disturbing increase thus the issue of sex was totally ruled out for me in view of my health (laboratory results available if needed). I therefore find it funny and unacceptable to be so linked as in your letter.

I have another proof of my innocence which wiII completely tear down this false conclusion but will leave it out for a later time should you fail to redeem my integrity and I am forced to take legal action.

I wish to categorically state that at no time did I either alone, or in the company of Hon. Mark Gbillah a gentlemen with impeccable moral standing, approach any parking lot staff or any hotel staff for that matter to assist me solicit for prostitutes. It never happened nor was ever intended or thought of.

I have been in the legislature in the past nine (9) years and has attended over 30 conferences, seminars and meetings in about 20 countries globally and has never sought for a prostitute in any of these countries including the USA. I was in New York for a UN hearing on Narcotics in February for 4 days and never sought for a prostitute. My impeccable record of accomplishment is there to be seen. I have done programs in Harvard and Stanford Universities in the US and completed them successful without an incident or request for prostitutes.

I am an Elder in my Church since 2006 and clearly knows the tenets and doctrines of my faith one of which abhors such desires for prostitutes as such very offensive to be so linked.

His Excellency sir, let me inform you that I am happily married to a woman who is a mother, friend and confidant to me for twenty (20) years now and I have no reason to seek comfort in the bosom of a prostitute with all the attendant health risks especially the latest known as Zika Virus which has entered the USA.

Mr Ambassador, I therefore find this false allegation condemnable, repugnant and totally unacceptable to me.

Most distressing is the statement in your letter that your mission took pains to confirm this allegation and my identity. How sad. How can you confirm it to be my identity when I never had such an encounter with any hotel staff.

Moreover, how did you come to such conclusion without any fair hearing as you never sought my own view or account. Not driving a car myself, what would I be doing at the parking lot area, to then meet a staff there for such discussions?

May I draw your Excellency’s attention to how he would feel or react if after a meeting, say in the state department in Washington DC, he returns to Abuja only to receive a letter two months later that he sought to consort with prostitutes whilst in DC, an allegation His Excellency knows is false because he never did such . That’s exactly how I feel now.

(I) I never sought anyone’s help to get prostitutes .

(2) I never had need for prostitutes.

(3) My health situation especially at the time could not have allowed such desires.

(4) My faith abhors such desires.

(5) I have never desired a prostitute .

I wish to draw your attention to the fact that it was myself and Hon. Mark Gbillah that sought to travel with our wives but your mission advised against it yet my reason for wanting to travel with my wife was because of my health condition at the time of the trip.

His Excellency sir, kindly note that I attended every session of the program from day 1 to the last, missing only a lunch date due to my medication time.

Worthy to note is the fact that there was a basketball match that period and the hotel had a lot of guests as such this may be a case of mistaken identity. I couldn’t even attend the game due to my state of health as my body couldn’t stand the chill weather for long.

I therefore urge that you review this case within 7 days taking a more detailed look at the evidences available for such like video recordings especially audio showing time and date of such discussions. So you can realize that a mistake has been made here and my integrity restored, else I will be seeking legal redress in competent courts of law both in Nigeria and in the US.

I am olive and not dead. I am sane and capable of knowing what I did, said and who I met. As such cannot accept this false allegation by your mission on my person and reputation built over the years.

Mr. Ambassador sir, United States is held in high esteem for its providing platforms for liberties and the rule of law. It’s my hope that these beliefs will not fade in my sight due to this great injustice.

On the issue of revocation of Visas, I wish to state that until my name is cleared and apologies tendered , I have no intention to visit a country where I can be so easily accused and adjudged so, without any fair hearing as such you need not worry.

Your Excellency, I am confident that you will take steps to address my response to your letter as it will be most unfair to taint my reputation, carrier and psych by o false and untrue allegation.

It is sad that this false allegation has gone to the press and now in the public domain further tarnishing my image and reputation. I hope you will address this aspect properly when the issue is fully resolved.

While awaiting your action in this regard, be assured of my highest regards.

Yours faithfully,

Rt. Hon. Samuel Ikon.

https://www.thecable.ng/rep-us-ambassador-couldnt-sex-seek-prostitute#.V2moa2qfEKE.twitter

Emotional Maturity Is Something Few People Have. Here Are 5 of the Most Common Signs.

I have lived a great deal among grown-ups. I have seen them intimately, close at hand. And that hasn’t much improved my opinion of them.” ~ Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

Emotional maturity is a difficult thing to measure. We can’t quantify it, or even describe exactly what it is. But we know it when we see it. Many would say a person’s emotional maturity lies in their reactions to adversity and pain. Yet success and pleasure also serve to reveal a person’s ability to cope with their own emotions. We can observe how some rich people are charitable and helpful, while others are covetous and greedy. Similarly we see how some poor people are optimistic and hard-working, while others are self-defeating and without hope. People’s responses to circumstances vary greatly, just as emotional maturity varies.

Below are Five signs of an emotionally mature person.


1) Ability to Love

Opening ourselves up to love, whether it be romantic, platonic, or familial, is an act of bravery. Making oneself vulnerable to both rejection and reciprocation is a sure sign of maturity. Young children can love without maturity because they have yet to be hurt or rejected. Hence why teenagers often close themselves to love — out of fear of loss or rejection. Once most people reach a mature age, they will have been hurt countless times.

Only an emotionally mature adult will be able to accept these rejections and pains as realities, and continue to open up and invite in intimacy and love to their lives. Most people are not so mature, and thus become jaded and cynical. They see love and intimacy of all kinds as childish and naive. But I would argue that closing oneself to love is the childish action. It’s the easy way out. It requires no bravery, no vulnerability, and no emotional maturity.


2) Willingness to Set Boundaries

It’s not easy to set boundaries. To do so we must speak out in times where it’s more comfortable to stick to the status quo. Life often presents situations where we can either let our integrity be eroded, or assert our own standards and boundaries. Choosing to set boundaries may lose us friends, or affection, but it will grant us immense self-respect. It prevents problems from developing into something much more damaging down the line.

But emotionally immature people aren’t comfortable setting boundaries. Rather than nipping interpersonal problems in the bud, they let them develop into full-on disasters and heart-breaks. They often get sucked into cycles of abuse or mistreatment. You’ll be able to spot an emotionally mature person by the quality and integrity of their relationships. There will be little if any unspoken tension or aggression. All that needs to be said, will be said. Even if it costs the relationship. An emotionally mature person operates under the belief that if a relationship violates their personal integrity, it’s not worth having.


3) Open-Mindedness

In modern times, nearly everyone claims to be open-minded. It’s become an attractive label, and a compliment. But it’s a trait few people actually possess. Because real open-mindedness comes down to one thing: the willingness to accept that you’re wrong. Many who claim to have an open mind really only haveopen ears. They’re happy to listen to new and challenging ideas and view points, but they internally reject all of them. They have barriers inside that stop new perspectives from actually effecting their notions about the world. These people will smile and nod as you share with them or challenge them, but their eyes will be blank and emotionally unresponsive.

Emotionally mature people know themselves and their own values well enough to allow new ideas in, without accepting or rejecting them blindly. They are masters of their own minds. Challenging ideas are invited in, but many are promptly escorted out. Only the select few are incorporated as new belief systems.


4) Diverse Taste

Emotionally mature people don’t feel the need to label things as “high brow” or “low brow”. They are able to accept and enjoy art from both the ancient masters, and amateur peers. This does not mean they don’t differentiate the good from the bad. They simply don’t allow things like the identity of the artist, the medium, the genre, or the time of creation to make this distinction for them.

This sort of person will love classical as well as Hip hop, and burgers along with caviar. An emotionally mature person doesn’t base their identity off the things they consume and admire. They choose the things they consume based on their indignity. This requires conscious self-awareness and acceptance. Most people are too reactive and emotionally unstable to actually know their value system, and thus choose an aesthetic and reject everything that isn’t an obvious fit.


5) Tenacious Curiosity

An emotionally mature person isn’t concerned with the opinions of negative people. Thus they constantly ask questions, without concern for looking stupid, or appearing ignorant. They seek to learn, and reject any person or influence that would hinder them in that goal. They aren’t afraid of learning things that shake up pre-existing beliefs. In fact, they enjoy that feeling. New information isn’t a threat, it’s a promise of enlightening epiphanies. Because they know who they are, but also know they’re never a complete and perfect whole. Expansion and progression excites them. Stagnation is the only fear that controls their actions. Because being the master of one’s emotions means wanting to grow.

Source – WisdomPills


http://themindsjournal.com/emotional-maturity/

Blakjewelry:
Why not walk in there and make enquiries

Am far away. If not, I would have gone there myself.

Good evening all,

Please with all due respect, I need to know the requirements, and cost implications of getting married at the Ughelli North L.G.A Secretariat (Marriage Registry), Ughelli, Delta state.

Anyone with useful information should please help me out. It's urgent.

Kind regards.

You're having sex. Then your partner locks eyes on yours, and says those three magic words that stop time. "The condom broke."

For many, a broken condom means the difference between a grade-A session of Netflix and Chill and a nightmare evening that turns into an anxious waiting game.

Now Swedish intimacy company LELO is getting into the condom manufacturing business to prevent uncomfortable and unsafe situations like this from happening again. The 20-year-old company, dubbed the "Apple of the pleasure products industry," has reinvented the rubber.

From across the room, the HEX condom looks pretty ordinary - an eggshell-colored piece of latex that unrolls into a phallic shape. But up close, it becomes apparent where the name comes from. A faint, hexagonal patterned honeycomb lattice is etched into the material.

This eye-catching design is part of a condom that is stronger, less likely to tear, and potentially more comfortable than a traditional condom.



For nearly 100 years, the condom - one of the most effective methods of protecting against pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections - has been in desperate need of a makeover. While computers grew small enough to fit in our pockets and cars learned to drive, the latex condom has remained more or less unchanged since it was invented in the 1920s.

That's a problem, because the rubber as we know it is an incredibly flawed medical device. It slips, it breaks, and it reduces sensitivity for male wearers.



Sitting in a conference room in San Francisco, founder Filip Sedic thrusts his hand inside the condom and fans his fingers. The latex clings and thins around the edges of his fingernails, but does not break. Sedic grabs a pen from the table and tries to puncture it again.

"People say, 'I don't use it because it might break.' Give me a break," Sedic says, shaking his head. "But people will still use that as an excuse. We have to make sure to eliminate all of these excuses."

There's a correlation between disliking condoms and leaving them in the nightstand.



A study published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior in 2007 surveyed a hundred college students about their sex lives over three months, and discovered men and women who rated unprotected sex as more pleasurable were less likely to use condoms.

More Americans are throwing the "no glove, no love" rule out the window. In the largest-ever nationwide study on sexuality in 2010, 45% of men and 63% of women reported not using a condom in their most recent sexual encounter with a "new acquaintance," according to Indiana University. Such negligence can invite a host of complications, including disease.

Eight years ago, Sedic, an engineer by training, set out to do something radical: make a condom that men would actually want to use. Or at the very least, tolerate.

"It is kind of a shame that in 2016, we are still using a product that is more or less identical to what it was a hundred years ago," Sedic says. "I believe that with today's technology, we can do much better."

Sedic and his team tried experimenting with new materials, includingpolyurethane, an incredibly strong polymer found in everything from wall insulation to sneaker soles. But in order to bring a new condom to market in the US, the FDA requires that it performs as well as latex. The approval process can take decades.



The team sidestepped these logistical challenges by sticking with latex and focusing on changing the structure on the condom instead.

"In the beginning, it kind of felt impossible because the condom is a pretty simple product by construction," Sedic says. "But then suddenly, we had a breakthrough in thinking. The beauty of this idea is that it's so simple."

For decades, rubbers have been made by dipping a penis-shaped mold into a vat of liquid latex and peeling the material off when it dries. LELO reengineered the mold so it's engraved with a honeycomb pattern. The manufacturer dunks the mold once into the plasticky mixture to fill the impressions, and twice to cover the rest of the mold. When it's rolled off, the condom will appear darker (and actually, thicker) where the pattern was.

Sedic explains that when pressure is applied to the condom, it stretches in six directions from any point. This flexibility makes it more forgiving of tension. If you poke a hole in it, the damage stays contained in the single cell. It doesn't shatter like traditional condoms.

Designers placed the hexagonal design on the inside, drawing inspiration from non-slip tires, to prevent slippage. The condom is just 0.055 millimeters thick,making it comparable in width to the Durex Extra Sensitive and the Trojan Ultra Thin Lubricated condoms.


I asked Sedic if this design made the HEX more effective against preventing pregnancy and STIs when breakage occurs, but he only offered anecdotal evidence to suggest it was.

Still, men won't wear condoms if they expect them to be uncomfortable. The HEX aims to solve that issue as well.

Today, you browse the condom aisle of a drug store and find dozens of arbitrarily named variations that promise a "barely there," "double ecstasy" feel for "extended premium" erections. It's impossible to choose.

"Even if I had the money to buy all three [variations] and put them on top each other, I don't think I'm going to achieve what I want," Sedic jokes. "Why not make one thing ... so you don't need to make these choices? Why should I make these choices?"

Sedic calls the HEX the condom that can do it all.


The packaging consists of a plain white box with black lettering, in a postmodern style that's very Apple. Though its dimensions are a giveaway of what's inside, the HEX is a product I would hold confidently in line at CVS.

Such luxury does not come cheap. A pre-order on crowdfunding website Indiegogo prices the condoms at $9.90 for a 3-pack, $19.90 for a 12-pack, and $34.90 for a 36-pack. They're alsoavailable online and later, in drug stores and pleasure product retailers.

For comparison, a 36-count box of Trojan Ultra Thin condoms runs $13 onAmazon.

The manufacturing process for the HEX makes it 2.5 times more costly than traditional condoms to produce, but Sedic credits the condom's price tag to exclusivity, not operations.

"We believe that the biggest problem with condoms is, people don't want to use them. So, we need to make them want to use them," Sedic says, before breaking into a massive smile. "Usually, if something looks cool and is high-priced, people want to take it [sic]."

He doesn't count Trojan and Durex, the two best-selling condom brands on Amazon, as LELO's competitors. Instead, Sedic hopes the company's innovation will inspire others to continue improving the condom.

"It's not a matter of taste, yeah?" Sedric says. "It's a matter of life and death - of protecting yourself or not."



http://www.techinsider.io/lelo-hex-is-the-condom-of-the-future-2016-6?utm_content=buffer97fbf&utm_medium=social&utm_source=facebook.com&utm_campaign=buffer

Keneking:
What are his connections? Whose interest would he serve till the next election

He holds a B.Sc. Finance from the prestigious George Washington University, Washington, DC, USA and is an alumnus of several executive education courses and programmes, including Harvard Kennedy School, Cambridge, Massachusetts, USA, Euromoney, Dubai, UAE.

B.Sc Finance no Honours
The other certificates are worthless like Benin Republic currency

Say what you may, this guy is well qualified for the job! He is a source of pride for the forgotten generation of youths! Obiano is a trail blazer and pacesetter!

GOV. OBIANO CELEBRATES NIGERIAN YOUTH, APPOINTS 30 YEAR OLD MARK OKOYE AS COMMISSIONER

Anambra State Governor, Mr Willie Obiano has received world praises and commendation from Nigerians in home and diaspora for appointing the youngest Commissioner in Modern Nigeria.

Mark Okoye 30 , possesses a unique combination of experience spanning governance, policy formulation, public sector financing, public budget analysis and corporate finance. Prior to his current role, he served in his current capacity for twenty (20) months during the last administration.

Mark also served as a senior member of the investment banking division at Afrinvest (West Africa) Limited where he was instrumental in executing numerous capital raising and financial advisory transactions. Key transactions include the restructuring of UBA Plc in line with new Central Bank of Nigeria banking guidelines (2012), US$80mm debt and equity capital raising for Kano Shopping Mall (2012), the first and largest shelf registration in Nigeria, US$2.3bn Lagos State Government bond issuance program (2011).

He holds a B.Sc. Finance from the prestigious George Washington University, Washington, DC, USA and is an alumnus of several executive education courses and programmes, including Harvard Kennedy School, Cambridge, Massachusetts, USA, Euromoney, Dubai, UAE.

On June, 2015 he was appointed the Special Adviser to the Governor on Economic Planning and budget. He has just been made a Commissioner with same portfolio.

It's now in Linda Ikeji Blog....Thanks for my modest effort in highlighting it here on social media.

http://www.lindaikejisblog.com/2016/06/photos-anambra-state-governor-willie.html?m=1

Anytime someone mentions their name your heart feels heavy.
How did things ever get this way? Did you ever think you would go this long without talking to your best friend? Has it really been ten years since you last talked to your dad?
While you should never apologize to someone as a matter of habit or convenience, when you realize that you’ve genuinely made a mistake it’s time to reach out. Being the first to offer an apology shows that you value the relationship above your ego.

Pick up the phone, send that sms/email and remember these four reasons it’s OK to be the first to apologize:

1. You realize you were wrong.
Researchers found that there are two main types of regret: regret for actions and regret for inactions. Those studied felt sorry for their actions such as speaking about someone behind their back. Regret for inaction occurred when the person didn’t take a step they knew they should have--like not being there for a friend when they were really needed.
When you hurt someone, however unintentionally, remorse and regret follow. Don’t become paralyzed by your regret. Never hold back from offering an apology you know you should give. You assume the other person would never want to speak to you again, but what if your apology sets you both free?

2. Apologizing first helps you avoid becoming passive aggressive.
Allow yourself to be guided by sincerity and reflection. Apologizing first after a disagreement enables you to live assertively and act from your strength. Too often when we make mistakes, or a fight occurs, we suppress the anger and guilt and allow them to fester. These twin thieves of our peace create a slowly erupting volcano of discomfort within.
We find ourselves making passive aggressive comments, acting frustrated and annoyed as a way to release the mounting pressure. Turn the passive aggressive behavior into direct action--it’s long overdue.

3. Your history together will make it easier to reconcile.
Tempers were lost and you each said things you regret. Or maybe the fight was about something much deeper that isn’t easily fixed. You are both frustrated and hurt as you retreat to your corners to lick your wounds. Staying angry and holding the grudge is short sighted. In fact, a study found the deeper the history of connection and closeness between two people, the easier it is for a reconciliation to occur.

4. You will maintain your “giraffe vision”.
Roaming through the savannas of Africa, giraffes are found eating from the tops of the majestic Acacia trees. The giraffe lives its life with an expansive view of its surrounding world. As you work to build a life of which you are proud, maintain your own giraffe vision and see the bigger picture--keep this disagreement in its proper perspective.

Being the first to apologize keeps your energy devoted to your own growth and development, not to the drain of petty feuds. Choose to live every day guided by your deepest sense of your best self and use that power to go ahead and clear the air!


Read more: http://www.tdjakes.com/posts/4-reasons-it-s-ok-to-be-the-first-to-apologize

Some people can make you sick.

There are many different types of people that you will encounter throughout your lifetime. While no two individuals are exactly the same, there are certain people with similar qualities that you can recognize as red flags for toxicity. The negativity these people internalize and exude pushes them to gravitate toward those who are happy and successful in attempts to disrupt their progress and success.

It is important to recognize these six types of toxic people to ensure that they don't rain on your parade.

1. The Hater.
These people are simply incapable or unwilling to be happy for anyone else. They battle with an internal insecurity that blinds their ability to genuinely root for other people.

2. The Naysayer.
These people are natural pessimists. Despite what it looks like, they believe nothing is ever good enough, right, positive or promising.

3. The Needy Person.
These people are always in need of something –– always. It can certainly suck the life out of you in the process, but they don’t mind as long as they benefit in the end.

4. The Talkative Person.
These people talk about others and will surely talk about you just the same. Be wary of those who always have something to say about everything and everybody.

5. The Self-Pity Person.
These people take the self-pity pill on a regular basis. Those always playing the role of the victim will never be able to truly find peace and, consequently, can’t offer it either.

6. The Insensitive Person.
These people cannot feel compassion or sympathy for anyone but themselves. The only time something impacts them is when it is about just that –– themselves.

If any of these descriptions struck a familiar chord, the offenders' faces or names might have quickly flooded your mind. Take note of what came to mind as you were reading, and think about the best next step to take to show kindness while protecting yourself. Both energy and habits are contagious, so always be conscious of those you surround yourself with to ensure you continue to spread light and not be held down by darkness.

TDjakes.com

What steps would you take to stop yourself from being sexually attracted to your ex while you are set to be married to another person.

My name is Folu and I am a 28-year-old lady who is set to wed in the next three months. But I must say that I am in a big trouble at the moment because I can't seem to stop having sex with my ex-boyfriend, Steve, even though I am engaged to be married to Joey, one of the best men I have ever come across.

I dated Steve for six years but we both knew the relationship would lead to no where because Steve is the kind of man ho does not take anything serious. He is not cut out for any serious relationship and marriage is far from his mind.

He is the kind of man one can describe as a lady's man and ladies throw themselves at him at will and he sees nothing wrong in keeping five women at the same time. But one thing is that I am addicted to sex with Steve and I can't seem to help myself where sex is concerned with him.

In fact, the only thing that keeps me binding to him is the great sex we have anytime we are together. It is not as if Joey is not good in bed but Steve is in a class of his own and even though we have had our introduction and the date for our marriage has been set, I still find myself sneaking around to have sex with Steve.

I fear this will continue when I eventually get married to Joey. I want to stop but can't help myself.

What can I do?

Folu."

Dear readers, what do you think Folu should do to free herself from Steve?

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So this extra virgin "Olive Oil" turned out to be bleached palm oil... These wicked people made use of "Banga" to do anointing.


Bought it as olive oil. Found "palm olein" as ingredient. Extra virgin cooking oil

Millions of Muslims around the world on Monday marked the start of Ramadan, a month of intense prayer, dawn-to-dusk
fasting and nightly feasts. Others will begin fasting a day
later, Tuesday, due to a moon-sighting methodology that
can lead to different countries declaring the start of
Ramadan a day or two apart.

Here are some questions and answers about Islam's
holiest month:


WHY DO MUSLIMS FAST?
The fast is intended to bring the faithful closer to God
and to remind them of the suffering of those less
fortunate. Ramadan is a time to detach from worldly
pleasures and focus on one's inner self.
It's seen as a way to physically and spiritually purify,
refraining from habits such as smoking and caffeine.
Muslims often donate to charities during the month and
feed the hungry. Many spend more time at mosques
during Ramadan and use their downtime to recite the
Quran.

London's new Muslim mayor, Sadiq Khan, wrote in the
Guardian that he plans to use Ramadan to "build
bridges" and break bread with Muslims and non-
Muslims around the city at synagogues, churches and
mosques, though he acknowledged that 19-hour-long
fasts during the longer summer days in Europe and
forgoing coffee will be challenging.

Fasting during Ramadan is one of the five pillars of
Islam, along with the Muslim declaration of faith, daily
prayer, charity, and performing the hajj pilgrimage in
Mecca.


HOW DO MUSLIMS FAST?
Observant Muslims abstain from eating and drinking
from dawn to dusk for the entire month of Ramadan. A
single sip of water or a puff of a cigarette is enough to
invalidate the fast.

However, Muslim scholars say it's not enough to just
avoid food and drinks during the day. Ramadan is also
an exercise in self-restraint. Muslims are encouraged to
avoid gossip and arguments. Sexual intercourse
between spouses is also forbidden during the daytime
fast.

Just before the fast, Muslims have a pre-dawn meal of
power foods to get them through the day, the "suhoor."
Egyptians eat mashed fava beans called "ful," spiced
with cumin and olive oil, while in Lebanon and Syria,
popular suhoor food is flatbread with thyme, cheese or
yogurt. In Afghanistan, people eat dates and dumplings
stuffed with potato and leeks, first steamed, then fried.


HOW DO MUSLIMS BREAK THEIR FAST?
Muslims traditionally break their fast like the Prophet
Muhammad did some 1,400 years ago, with a sip of
water and some dates at sunset. That first sip of water
is the most anticipated moment of the day.


https://www.yahoo.com/news/q-ramadan-why-muslims-fast-124555932.html

Hahaha

One chance.

kizolo:
Hope you've fvcked her?

Hahahahha.

Is that your business?

Now I am not gonna laugh, I am choking & tears rolling down my face, trying to hold my stomach to catch my breath...Oh My, I couldn't hold it, I am busting out laughing...I am outta here!

talktonase:
This my father is wicked.Must you wear me?

LOL..

I suppose he should get that poor baby out of his shorts at once.... he looks uncomfortable.

When you don't know how to hold both at the same time. Lol.


A Father trying is all that matters!!!

MARVADENE ANDERSON STANDS 6'11, AND SHE IS ONLY 12 YEARS OLD; THIS YOUNG LADY, WHO HAILS FROM JAMAICA, IS RECOGNIZED AS THE WORLD'S TALLEST GIRL.