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Do you wonder how you can help friends and family members who are struggling in marriage? Here are some time-tested tips and resources to move them away from divorce court and toward reconciliation.

1. Pray for them by name.
Ask God to intervene in their marriage. Ask God to give you and others wisdom to know how to help. Pray in their presence as well as when alone. Send emails and note cards of encouragement.


2. Listen.
Listening doesn't mean simply hearing. It involves empathizing, seeking to understand and expressing genuine interest.


3. Don't give advice.
Your main job is listening. Leave the advice giving to a genuine pastor, counselor or mentor.


4. Don't make the problem worse.
Don't allow your support to be seen as an encouragement to give up or get a divorce. Your job is to help steer them toward the proper help and reconciliation (If addiction or abuse is involved, make sure they get the professional help they need and are safe).


5. Help them think outside the divorce box.
Booklets such as When Your Marriage Needs Help, Should I Get a Divorce, and Marriage and Conflict can give couples both research and practical advice to help them consider the facts about divorce and how to get the help they need for their marriage.


6. Help them find the right help.
Locate a good, licensed Christian counselor in their area. Ask your pastor or Christian M.D. for a referral. Focus on the Family offers a free counseling consult as well as a free
referral service to a Focus-screened marriage therapist.


7. Connect them with a mentor couple.
If you are not qualified to help, call your pastor to recommend an older couple who is willing to mentor a younger couple.


8. Refer them to helpful Web sites.
Web sites such as Pure Intimacy and FocusOnTheFamily.com offer hundreds of articles, practical advice and resource
recommendations on various marriage issues.


9. Encourage them to work on their problems and not simply expect them to be solved on their own.
Focus offers an online Marriage Checkup which measures
over 18 major areas of marriage — identifying both strengths and weaknesses. This is a good place for a couple to start in
addition to working with a professional counselor.


10. Refer them to solid Christian-based books and seminars. Visit the Christian bookshop/Family Store for marriage books, broadcast CCS and resources to strengthen a couple's faith through a difficult time. Key resources like Yes, Your Marriage Can Be Saved , Love and Respect , Love Must Be Tough , First Five Years of Marriage, Help! We are Drifting Apart , Breaking the Cycle of Divorce, Healing the Hurt in Your Marriage and
others can provide needed encouragement and direction.


If nothing else seems to be working and they are on the brink of ending their marriage, consider recommending intensive marriage counseling.

Through personalized, intimate programs, thousands of marriages, situations just as complex and painful as can be imagined, have been transformed.

http://www.focusonthefamily.com/marriage/strengthening-your-marriage/mentoring-101/ten-ways-to-help-a-friend-who-is-struggling-in-their-marriage

This is taking an overdraft, it will hurt if the next salary is not paid on time.

However, has he paid April? Well, if yes, what the workers need now is increment in order to meet up. All the same, he has done well. This is commendable Sir, Good job indeed, kudos!

And again, hope he will pay June salary in May, if not they will wait for 2 months before they will be paid.

I think he's the only governor in the country that has abolished taxation for low income earners.

victor2008:
Turbo

The machine is tight bro.

That's one fugly Ford!

Machine indeed

There was tension within the Benin metropolis and adjoining towns yesterday, following the announcement of the death of the Oba of Benin Kingdom, HRM Oba Erediauwa by the palace chiefs on Friday.

Many residents, especially women as well as visitors, remained indoors for fear of being used as sacrifice, following rumours of traditional burial rites that may include human heads.

Markets in Benin remained closed yesterday as mourning of the deceased Oba began.

When LEADERSHIP Sunday went around the metropolis yesterday, it was found that the popular New Benin Market and similar markets were closed just as operators of other business outlets closed their shops ahead of the normal closing hours in the day. Some of them were seen hurriedly locking up their shops around evening, not wanting to be outside at dusk. Popular relaxation spots in the metropolis were also closed for business.

A palace source however told LEADERSHIP Sunday that the apprehension was unnecessary as the rumoured practice of human sacrifice was non-existent.

http://leadership.ng/news/522621/oba-benin-panic-grips-residents-traditional-rituals

PASSION : The strong driving force that compels you to keep moving when everything around you is screaming out loud for you to stop. (My definition)

To get to the top you must be crazily passionate about what you do, but to remain at the top and stay relevant, much more than passion is required, you need COMPASSION.

COMPASSION : the driving force that keeps you going, even when those who TRULY NEED (not want) your service can't really AFFORD to pay for it. (My definition)

When you have hit success in your career, compassion is what makes you want to give back. Compassion is what makes a successful Doctor carry out that surgery even when they can't pay for it. Compassion is what makes that pastor stay up all night interceding on that troubled family's behalf without them knowing. Compassion is what makes you let that cab man that hit your car to go even when he was at fault because you know that's all he has to feed his poor family. Compassion is what makes a billonaire donate money to poverty stricken nations. Compassion is what makes a great musician host a concert just to raise money for charity.

Compassion looks beyond self and yearns to apply a talent or gift to impact the world . That's the true definition of success.

It's ok to discover your passion and make a success out of it, but great and lasting success is COMPASSION DRIVEN. It will always outlive you.

Are you building a career or vision? make sure you are Passionate about it. Have you hit the Jackpot of your career? Then get compassionate about it.

The southern African nation has about 10,000 albinos.

Malawi has seen increasing attacks in recent years, U.N.
warns

Malawi's albinos are at risk of "total extinction" amid escalating attacks against them for their body parts, the United Nations warned.

Albinism is a genetic condition that leads to little or no pigment in the eyes, skin and hair. The southern African nation has about 10,000 albinos, according to the U.N.

In some African countries, albinos' body parts are believed to bring wealth and good luck. As a result, attackers chop off their limbs and pluck out organs, and sell them to witchdoctors.

Even after albinos are killed, some attackers go a step further and steal their remains from graveyards, said Ikponwosa Ero, the United Nations' expert on albinism.

"Persons with albinism, and parents of children with albinism, constantly live in fear of attack," she said.


Albinism is a genetic condition that leads to little or no pigment in the eyes, skin and hair.



"Many do not sleep peacefully and have deliberately restricted their movement to the necessary minimum."

Ero, who's an albino, recently visited Malawi, which has seen an increasing number of attacks. Since the end of 2014, there have been 65 recorded cases of attacks, the U.N. said.

Ero urged the government to step in to protect albinos and go after their killers more aggressively. "It is clear that an urgent and coordinated response from the government, civil society and development partners working in strong partnership with each
other is required," she said.

She called for better training for police and those who work for the court system, saying punishment for those who attack albinos is not stringent enough.

"As pointed out by various stakeholders during my visit, stealing a cow may attract a higher penalty," she said.

Albinism is not limited to countries such as Tanzania, Burundi and Malawi.

In the United States, about one in 20,000 people have some type of albinism. But in countries such as Tanzania, the number can be as high as one in 1,500.


http://edition.cnn.com/2016/04/30/africa/malawi-albinos-face-extinction/index.html?sr=fb043016malawialbinosfaceextinction232aStoryLink

US Police dog given State Burial. The dog worked hard for the country.


A nation that does not honour heroes, is not worth dying for. The dog served the US with all its strength and might.


Food for thought.

pinceprinz:
basic! you should be an accomplice in this craze too, right?

Far from the truth.

pinceprinz:
But seriously , I've done something like this before oh. As in my own worse pass;I con use foam do bress, wear hair wig, paint mouth join lol... Proof we all are prone to going skitzo at one point or the other... In short, this guy might not be gay; probably having raw fun lol

Rag day during your university days..... Right?

Lol...
Just saw this on facebook and thought it wise to share...

sureinfo:
donogaga www.bbs.tecno-mobile.com has a thread about this there

Thanks bro,


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polariss:
I hate woman with attitude.
You feel too important,i throw you out of the VIP lounge.

Bro, they are everywhere.

ukjerry:
Really Lengthy

Rightly so.
However, the development of positive reading attitude is often overlooked.

Lately I’ve been watching a lot of fighting movies. A few people referred “IP Man” to me and I watched the first one last night. What I extracted out of the movie inspired me to finally write this blog post. IP (the main character) is the best fighter in the town, he is calm and collected, never challenged a soul, never bragged, and never tried to prove himself. The town itself was known for having many martial arts classes. IP who is well capable of being a Master and more than qualified to teach never did. Many people who were not even close to being as good as him had many students. Once there was a group of men from outside the city who were loud, strong, competitive who wanted to challenge every fighter in the town to show that they were of great strength and that their leader was skilled. They were on a quest to show what they have and take over the city with their talent. The leader fought everyone and ended up beating every single challenger. When they finished winning all the matches someone interrupted him on his little bragging rant and said to him “you haven’t fought the best, IP.”  The leader and his crew asked where to find IP and from there went to IP’s home. IP declined them and politely asked them to leave at first, but they wouldn’t until IP’s wife eventually hinted that he could and IP fought and won effortlessly.



We live in a time where many were raised by single parents and younger parents more than ever. It’s quite obvious that this current generation lack morals, manners are a thing of the past. Many grown people act like immature kids. It might have something to do with a bunch of kids having and raising kids. That’s beside the point, all sorts of wrong popular beliefs are everywhere throughout the world nowadays.  All these toxic beliefs are bled into the relationship realm as well. Where people are glorifying the wrong things and presenting them as right which brings us to this topic of why mature men don’t want women with an attitude and what’s wrong with attitudes.


1.)  Bad attitudes reflect a lack of growth.

We all have flaws that separates the mature and immature. The mature grow and make necessary changes to evolve. The immature embrace their flaws yes, but they justify them and seek to find strength in them instead of growing from them. Many women of today are being taught by both men and women that your flaws are never an issue it’s just people isn’t strong enough to handle your character. They say things like “only a real man can put up with my attitude” and other cliche things that justify for their lack of growth.

An attitude is a flaw, it’s something you have when you’re not at peace with yourself. A short fuse means you have anger issues you need to deal with, always being ready to tell someone off means you lack self-control and respect. Being outspoken isn’t being loud and obnoxious, being blunt and sarcastic isn’t commendable, being uncivilized isn’t showing them how it is. The characteristic of a woman with a bad attitude are characteristics of a child  yet many men are taught to embrace it as strength in a woman. Those characteristics are no different than the ways of the fighter who had something to prove in the movie. Being better than many in the martial arts field, he acted as if it was okay to be uncivilized, loud, and ready to prove a point simply because he had talent. He carried on as if it was the right way to conduct himself when he believes he is the best.  A mature man is looking for a civilized woman who’s not obnoxious, who seeks peace, who’s soft spoken, meek, wise, slow to anger. Everything that is opposite of what women of bad attitudes represent. A mature man is looking for someone who is hesitant to prove a point but quick to act in true humility.




2.) Being a woman without an attitude represents strength to a man with understanding.

Unfortunately our backwards society believes wisdom is weakness. A mature man has an understanding that wisdom is the strength.  Every time “IP” turned down a fight in the movie, anyone who doesn’t know him might have believed that the person challenging IP is more skilled and strong than IP when in reality IP was being wise, never felt the need to prove a point. He walked in humility, discipline, and humbleness. Similar to that, people believe soft spoken women don’t have a voice, they believe choosing peace is sending people the wrong signal that she’s a doormat. They see foolishness in wisdom. As a man who has grown out of many of my foolish ways and maturing, I appreciate those women who are wise and walking in love and peace. Many mature men I know see those unpopular things their women do as learning opportunities. I know a husband with some anger issues who was always sarcastic to his wife, but his wife was always soft spoken and slow to anger, she never reviled him. I never understood why and thought she was weak for that. Every time this guy went off, she extended love to him, little did I know as I was growing up that his actions would eventually eat his conscious up, her kind reactions would stir something up in him. It eventually led him to bettering his ways. She could have gotten in his face and told him off and showed him that she doesn’t take crap from anyone almost every time. Eventually they would argue enough and get divorced, but her soft answer convicted him which is why proverbs says “a sound a soft answer turns away wrath” it appeared to many as her being weak and a doormat when really her theory was treat others as you want them to treat you even when they aren’t treating you right. Kindness and love were the best solutions to her. She traveled the road less traveled. A mature man wants a woman who is truly strong and wise, a woman with conviction. A woman who can be a real difference maker and add to his life.


3.) Mature men do not want unnecessary challenges.

We all face enough throughout our lives, financial struggles, family troubles, heartbreaks and so forth. On a daily basis we face stress, peace-less situations, we have to deal with other people at our jobs, meet deadlines, handle things that are draining etc. We all face enough in life without a partner, we don’t need to add to it.

 A mature man is usually someone who’s established and any established person will tell you that life is good but it will throw you lemons. It makes absolute no sense to go find more lemons on top of the one’s life throw at you. No man wants a woman who’s going to make life a bit tougher. We don’t want to come home ready for an argument, ready to fight, someone who’s going to give us another headache. We don’t want to be disrespected or any of that. We aren’t looking for it. We don’t want the time we spend with our women to be a competition. There’s enough at work. we don’t want useless debates because we heard enough of that. There shouldn’t be disrespect, tension etc.  Relationships are not easy. People will face things, but no man wants to constantly face those things with his lady. Many women believe “well I do things to help him relax sometimes, isn’t that good enough?” The challenge is mainly during the times you aren’t doing that. The challenge is usually when there’s a disagreement, when things aren’t smooth, sometimes right after you make them relax. People with a short fuse are usually quick to be angry and react, that means things go down often. No mature man wants that type of challenge. We want a woman to challenge us to do better, to encourage us, to grow with us,  not someone who barely does those things, but adds way more work. We don’t want to be in a relationship where we’re always being nagged, argued with, disrespected etc when we supposedly aren’t doing “our job.” We don’t want that negativity, we want to live a drama free life. Live as peaceful as possible.


4.) Bad attitudes bring the worst out of a man.

Ever heard this quote by Mark Twain“Never argue with a fool, onlookers may not be able to tell the difference.”? Well I always say, arguing with fools will lead you to acting foolish. We are easily provoked; it’s naturally easy to get a negative reaction out of human beings. If you say something ugly to someone most likely they are going to retaliate the wrong way. It’s hard to bite your tongue. Dating someone who is immature can lead to you doing many things you would not usually do. Who you date has an affect on who you become. Well dating a woman with an attitude can lead to becoming a bit like them. A man can only stay peaceful long enough, be soft spoken long enough, be passive long enough. Eventually dealing with a woman with an attitude causes the person to bring the worst out of you because their actions eventually sucked a reaction out of you. No mature man wants a woman by their side who will bring out the part of him he has overcome or is trying to overcome. He’s looking for someone who will challenge him and provoke him to do better not worse.

There’s many more things we can discuss concerning how a woman with an attitude isn’t a good thing and any grown and mature man isn’t looking for that. As I said before, I am looking for a wife to eventually raise my kids with, not a woman who’s going to be acting like a kid giving me two kids to raise. Our backwards society believes good is bad and bad is good now. Being rude, disrespectful, loud, immature isn’t okay and it’s not going to be tolerated in the name of love. Some say, “well if he loves you he will grow some balls and tolerate you.” Congrats to the men who are doing that, eventually they will grow tired of that. No relationship should be a constant battle, no peace, no humility and so forth. Some of us just don’t have the time and energy to be someone who act such way. Many of us have grown from that and do not see good in that. Men who are proud of women with such characteristics have not yet to mature pass those stages themselves. Usually it’s the type of men who say “I love when a woman jumps in my face, puts me in my place sometimes, women who go blow for blow.” Well the problem is that you both are that way and find it okay, but it’s really not okay. I personally still have some learning to do in those area, i hate having some of those characteristic we now believe are strength when really they are fools ways. But i’m willing to grow out of them and will not settle for someone who isn’t doing the same. Mature people, not only men strive to love all, respect all, be meek, soft spoken, kind, and peaceful.



https://gentlemenhood.com/why-mature-men-dont-want-women-with-attitudes/4/

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Apple's streak of iPhone-powered sales ended Tuesday when the company reported its first quarterly sales drop in more than a decade.
The news sent Apple's (AAPL) stock into a tailspin with
shares plunging 6.5% to $97.55 in late trading Wednesday.

CEO Tim Cook signaled a saturated smartphone market
would keep a lid on sales, although he suggested the
company's new entry-level smartphone, the SE, promised to
eventually goose sales among Android switchers and in
emerging markets such as China and India.

"The SE is attracting two types of customers, who want the
latest tech in a more compact package, and there are more
than we thought in that category. And those who want an
iPhone but couldn't afford the entry price (before)," Cook
told analysts. "We're excited where this can take us."
USA TODAY.

Apple misses by a mile: Wipes out $43B Sales dropped 13% to $50.6 billion Apple said late Tuesday. Profits were $10.5 billion, or $1.90 per diluted share, down 22% from $13.6 billion ($2.33 per diluted share) last year.

Analysts polled by S&P Global Market Intelligence expected
sales of $52 billion and a profit of $2 per share.

The disappointing quarter can be summed up in two words:
iPhone sales. Apple sold 51.2 million in the quarter, down
16% from the same period a year ago. It's the first year-
over-year decline in Apple's franchise product since it
debuted in 2007l.
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"The company relies on iPhone sales not only for profit but
also to extend their ecosystem," says Gartner analyst Brian
Blau. "By any measure a $10 billion profit in a quarter would
be great performance, but for Apple that high level is simply
getting by."

Cook signaled that the company remains optimistic about its
ability to capture new customers in emerging markets. In
China, Apple has now opened 35 stores and expects to open
five more in the coming months, Cook said on the analyst
call. In India, the gradual adoption of high-speed LTE
networks will "unleash the power and capability of the
iPhone in the way a 2G network would not do."

Apple's first year-over-year quarterly sales decline since
2003 hammered its stock in after-hours trading Tuesday
and fell further as CEO Tim Cook and other analysts talked.
(Apple announced its results after markets closed.)
Apple did have some good news for investors. The
company’s board approved a $50 billion increase to the
capital-return program for shareholders. The world's most
valuable public company plans to spend an aggregate of
$250 billion in cash by March 2018.
Separately, the board said it was increasing its quarterly
dividend 10%.

Cook and Co. to address Q2 decline on earnings call
The bumpy second-quarter results could be the start of a
rocky ride for the iconic company, which faces tough year-
over-year comparisons in the June and September quarters,
according to S&P Global Market Intelligence.

Apple said Tuesday it forecasts $41 billion to $43 billion in
fiscal third-quarter sales, far short of Wall Street estimates
of $47.3 billion. Consumers have not snapped up the latest
iPhones, the 6S and 6S Plus, because they aren't much
different from previous models, analysts say.
Things should pick up in the December quarter, analysts
predict, after the expected release of what could be
an iPhone 7 in early September.

http://www.usatoday.com/story/tech/2016/04/26/apples-poor-results-highlight-diminished-iphone-demand/83388452/

Here we go again. Ethnic cleansing? How? Who is cleansing who?

When Boko Haram killed many people in North under a South-South President, it is not ethnic cleansing. To you, they are brothers killing themselves and they deserved no sympathy. It’s is Muslims fighting and killing fellow Muslims. It is Northerners killing their people and destroying their lands.

When herdsmen moved to Jos and dealt with Berom people under a South-South President, it was not ethnic cleansing. To you, it’s none of your business. The Beroms were only being rewarded for accommodating these "deadly cows" in the first place.

When the herdsmen moved downward razed down Agatu, destroyed farmlands and killed scores of people. To you, it’s not ethnic cleansing. The Agutus and the Fulanis are brothers. So it was fight between brothers who worked together to fight you during the Biafra war.

When herdsmen move further South West and destroyed farmlands in Ondo and Osun, killed few people in the process; when Hausas clashed with Yorubas in Mile 12 and a lot of lives were lost and properties where destroyed, it wasn't ethnic cleansing. To you, the Yorubas were just reaping the reward of supporting and voting for a Fulaniman to emerge as President.

To these groups, they don't deserve your pity or sympathy. They are your enemies; they colluded with the Hausa/Fulani people to truncate your Biafra dream.

But when the same herdsmen invaded Enugu, killed people and razed down a village, suddenly it's ethnic cleansing. They are only acting to a grand plan script of Uthman Dan Fodio to conquer and occupy all lands under the Buhari regime. Haba!

When will you stop flying ethnic and/or religious kites? It hasn't and will never move us forward as a nation. Tell me which group or region has not tasted the terror attacks of these blood-sucking killer herdsmen? They attacked Plateau, attacked Taraba, attacked Adamawa, attacked Benue, and attacked Ondo. Why would the attack on Enugu now be termed ethnic cleansing?

Instead, why not let us see these "killer" herdsmen as a common enemy of Nigeria in total sum rather than an enemy who are out to wipe out a particular ethnic group? The herdsmen are enemies to you and I, to our people, to our men and women, to our young and old, to and region and religion and to our existence as a nation.

It is cowardice to think that these killer herdsmen are in for ethnic cleansing. It is also cowardice for a serving governor to weep in the open in face of terror on his people and say, “Lets Fast and Pray for two days.” Pray and fast for two days what? When will we as a people learn to differentiate spiritual things from things that need “commonsense’?

In the book, “Things Fall Apart“, Okonkwo said, “Let us not reason like cowards. If a man comes into my hut and defecates on the floor, what do I do? Do I shut my eyes? No! I take a stick and break his head. That is what a man does.”

Enugu state governor, Ifeanyi Ugwuanyi, acted like a man who shut his eyes when another man came into his hut and defecated on the floor and resorted to fasting and prayers. What then does he do with all the security votes he collects every month?

The dangerous activities of the herdsmen can be likened to terrorist attack on our people and lands and as such they must be treated that way in our utterances and in our deeds. Our leaders still have a lot to learn in the art of leadership in the face of adversity.

Every time, the US government teaches the world how to lead and motivate the people in the face of adversity but sadly, Nigerians leader just never learn. The following is a classical case of how our leaders ought to be behaving in the midst of adversity:

When ISIS militants beheaded Steven Sotloff, an American journalist, Vice President Joe Biden did not weep in the open or ask Americans to pray and fast for two days or seek for peace with America attackers. Instead he sent probably the strongest warning in history to ISIS. he said,

“American people are so much stronger, so much more resolved than any enemy can fully understand. As a nation, we’re united. And when people harm Americans, we don’t retreat. We don’t forget. We take care of those who are grieving. And when that’s finished, they should know we will follow them to the gates of Hell until they are brought to justice. Because Hell is where they will reside. Hell is where they will reside.”

The above words are true words of a leader not the weakly cry call of fasting and prayers call of Enugu state governor.

Enugu State governor is a typical Nigerian leader – too weak and too timid, clueless and bereft of ideas. The only thing they are good at is the art of stealing public funds and fanning the amber of religion and ethnic sentiments.

The only living Nigerian leader whose words has come close to Biden's in the face of adversity is President Buhari's warning to pipeline vandals.

The threat of Herdsmen should not be treated with a kid's gloves. This is where I agree with an entry in Solomon Etim grandfather's diary dated 23/06/1923 on how to tackle the menace of herdsmen and I quote, "when you are violently attacked by whosoever your attacker is; the appropriate response should not be to preach peace to him/her. Descend on him/her coordinated violence more devastating to him/her that your attacker would plead for you to come to a round table conference to sign a peace accord."

Finally, the above words of Vice President Biden underscore the importance of “Unity” in the face of adversity. The threat of the killer herdsmen is not to the particular ethnic group; it is not to wipe out a particular region or tribe. Rather it is a threat to our existence as a nation. And all must come together, united, to put an end to this new terror group, called herdsmen.

God bless Nigeria.

Davido might have severed ties with his popular HKN music, as he seemingly debuts another label, DMW(Davido Music Worldwide).

If the self-proclaimed O.B.O’s recent social media post is anything to go by, the singer seems to have decided to float a label devoid of his family ties.

It had been reported in the past week that Davido is allegedly not on good terms with one of his HKN label mates (a family member according to the singer), following his signing of new act, Mayorkun.

The singer, who recently signed a mouth-watering deal with Sony Music, revealed the new label logo today on social media, with a simple but telling caption ‘MOVEMENT!!!!!’

http://thenet.ng/2016/04/end-of-hkn-music-davido-debuts-new-label/?utm_source=&utm_medium=facebook

Marijuana, best-known for its "feel-good" effects and touted for its ability to relieve various symptoms of illness and disease, can also be damaging, especially when overused. When weed's active ingredient, tetrahydrocannabinol (THC), hits the brain, it causes cells to release dopamine. It's a part of the brain's reward system, the same chemical that makes us feel good when we do enjoyable things such as eating and having sex.


Pot also contains cannabidiol (CBD), and this chemical — while not responsible for getting you high — is thought to be responsible for many of marijuana's therapeutic effects . Most of THC's effects take place in the brain, where it interacts with receptors on brain cells called cannabinoid receptors. Our bodies naturally produce compounds that activate them, but THC co-opts these pathways to produce its effects. Depending on how much and how often you use, marijuana's effects can vary widely.


http://www.businessinsider.com/physical-and-mental-effects-of-marijuana-2016-4?utm_content=buffer90cf1&utm_medium=social&utm_source=facebook.com&utm_campaign=buffer

cassidy1996:
in tupac's voice die muthafucka, die....die.....gunshots**********************************

Try to be as positive as possible when you make a comment.

Long life/Old age is good and we shall all enjoy it.

Muhammed Babangida, the son of former head of state, Ibrahim Babangida, has finally confirmed the widely reported illness of his father.We reported it here few days ago that Nigeria’s former military president, General Ibrahim Badamasi Babangida (rtd), is seriously ill, as a source close to his hilltop mansion in Minna, the Niger State capital, revealed to a correspondent.
The source also disclosed that the former military leader has been ill for a while, resulting in his inability to attend most public functions.

Though the real cause of his illness could not be ascertained, the source apart from saying that it was age-related, added that he might be suffering from a relapse of the radiculopathy disease which has troubled the former Nigerian leader since he was head of state.

Just like we all expected, the son of the former head of state, Muhammed Babangida, has finally confirmed the illness of his father.

Speaking about his father’s ill health to Encomium.ng. He noted that Babangida is still recovering after a corrective surgery recently as a result of radiculopathy disease.

He dispelled fears over the current health status of his father and said: “It’s nothing new that IBB has radiculopathy, everybody knows that. But he has just gone through a corrective surgery and he’s recuperating at the moment. And if you will reason with me, being an old man it will take some time for the surgery to heal.

“Even, he’s supposed to be at home resting. But he had to attend the valedictory service for the former Chief Judge of Niger state because of his relationship with him. That’s the reason he stepped out few days ago.

http://nigeriacamera.net/former-president-ibrahim-babangidas-son-breaks-silence-fathers-illness/

A man has recounted how he endured marriage for so many years and finally freed himself after waiting for all his kids grow up and leave home. He also left his properties and cash for his wife who he said he had second thoughts about almost immediately after they got married. According to him,

“I was having second thoughts about the marriage almost immediately. I was thinking about asking for an annulment, but then we got pregnant. So I stuck it out for 20 years.

I did really well for myself during that time. I was making $100,000 per year as a lawyer. That was a lot of money in the sixties. We lived on the finest street in Charlotte. But I was still miserable. So the moment the kids were grown, I took off. I left my wife everything. I left her the house, the bank account, the Mercedes, everything. I didn’t even say goodbye. I just dictated a note to my secretary, called the Rolls Royce dealership, and told them to pick up the car at the airport.  I flew to New York with nothing but $800, screaming: Free at last, free at last, free at last!”


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Sex has become more important than love in today’s world. Many people’s idea of love is centered more around how you can rock my world not so much on how true our connection is. A generation of men and women dying for attention. Women adore getting hit on and being called freaks. They enjoy showing and giving the goodies; and men love attracting attention, advertising their tongue game, their material possessions, and their body count.
It’s all backwards, we’re undoubtedly chasing lust with the idea that it’s going to turn into love. We are backwards. We’ve gotten to a point where we believe sex after marriage is for idiots, lame folks, people who are ugly, and weirdos. If it’s not about that good sex then why be with them right? You need to be pleased right?

Well we are getting pleasure and heartbreaks. A bunch of soul ties for orgasms. We fill our voids with sex and using promiscuity to define our identity because in this generation that stuff gets you the eyes. It’s all about good head, big butts, and good sex sessions more than anything.

Only if we could see how much we are hurting ourselves. If we could postpone sex until marriage how much better would it make things?

Well here’s some beliefs you can get out of your mind and maybe you can see why it’s better to put sex on hold.

1.) It’s just sex, it’s part of a relationship. Nope sex clouds your judgement – we often hear sex complicates things. Most of us don’t know how and don’t care but it does. They say love makes you do stupid things, but good sex can make you make stupid decisions. Imagine meeting someone you have nothing in common with. You can clearly see if you had a relationship with them it would going no where, but loneliness led you to go out to a party with them, drinks got involved, and bam it happened. The sex was good but he or she is a bad match. Well what happened? Your lust filled heart will raise your curiosity and justifying will start. After sleeping together a few times eventually you’ll start saying “this ain’t that bad, this isn’t that bad.” How many times have we fell for someone who we didn’t even like from the start? We settled because they were giving us something we felt we needed at the time.
Sex makes more things acceptable. It makes compromising easier, and really sometimes goes against logic. When you choose to keep sex out you get to know the person for who they truly are. If you fall in love with them, you fall in love with the real them, real connections, a real bond not influenced by anything. Most men won’t stick around if they aren’t getting sex. Why would you want to be with someone who can’t be with you because of no sex? How did the older generation make it? They valued sex, and many practiced it only in marriage. Don’t you see how their love stories are different from ours.

2.) Someone who is as freaky as me is a good match – What I think our generation doesn’t understand the most is that sex isn’t everything, and being a freak isn’t anything special. Anyone can become a freak to someone they are attracted to. Both women and men are freaks. It just takes the right bond. Being freaky is about having very little to no boundaries when it comes to doing whatever it takes to please the person you love. The problem is we’re doing all that for people we think we love. Giving everyone else your future wife or husband’s surprise away. The person you marry should be the one bringing out the real freak in you. Who better to experiment and do all the crazy things with than the person who will be yours till death comes between you both.



3.) I have to test drive the car before I buy it. - So you’re a car? You do know every time you test drive a car you put mileage on it. A lot of people who have that idea aren’t doing test drives. They are leasing it. In reality we want to be a car or get a car with high mileage, but want to be valued like a new car when we find someone who’s willing to keep us. No offense but a car loses its value over time as more mileage gets added to it. We are  talking about one of the most important things God ever created. We’re starting to care about sex more than we care about a real connection that goes beyond the physical. If you wait to find someone you love and marry them trust me if you love the person there’s no way the sex can be that bad, and if it is who better to work on improving your sex life with then your spouse. Sex is supposed to be a learning experience as well. Like everything else practice makes perfect. The idea should not be to practice with everyone else and then be ready for your soulmate. That’s like learning all the plays from one football team, and transferring to another one once it’s game time then saying, “I got it all down. I’m ready to play.”


4.) Its all for pleasure, just fun – many may disagree with this because society has redefined the purpose of sex using it as a product more than anything. However, soul ties exist. Every time you have sex with someone you are giving a part of yourself to them. Someone you’re most likely not going to marry. Someone once got a piece of scotch tape and told me see it like this.They kept putting the tape on different people and taking it off. Overtime the tape couldn’t stick because the value died. It lost its purpose. I am not saying if you have sex you are not valuable, but I’m saying sex can be more meaningful. Soul ties exist. That’s why some people are holding on to some people who treat them worst than dogs. Many think it’s love when it’s really an emotional attachments caused by a sexual connection. It’s wise to guard yourself against that, and only have soul ties with your soul mate. Sex is powerful, and it’s best if you use it right.

Committing (and by committing for me it means marriage) before you start sleeping around is wise. Commitment may mean just a good relationship to you, no judgement here. It’s hard to not desire sex. It’s hard to not go to that person who always makes you feel good. It’s’s hard, it’s hard, it’s hard, especially in a world where sex is really everything. Everyone is talking about it and doing it, but one thing I’ve learned is part of maturity means learning to delay pleasure and staying disciplined. Saving sex until you are committed will save so much pain, dissapointment, and confusion. Challenge yourself in that area and see. I’ve fallen for a woman just because of good sex before thinking I was in love. It wasn’t until I was out of the relationship and started a spiritual journey that I noticed all we had in common was sex. It’s all we used to solve everything, and the only interaction we had. There’s more to it. You deserve to give this beautiful gift God gave us to the one God chose for you. You deserve a relationship without clouded judgement; a love that isn’t fueled by false emotions/lust and so forth.

https://gentlemenhood.com/sex-shouldnt-come-commitment/4/

Source: Al Jazeera

For ethnic Hausa, the traditional form of boxing known as dambe is more than a sport - it is part of their identity.

Abuja, Nigeria - Just off the motorway that links the Italian stone mansions of the Nigerian capital's pricey Minister's Hill neighbourhood to the settlements of corrugated-tin roof shacks on the outskirts, is a nondescript path. It leads to Dei Dei, one of Abuja's low-income communities.

The road is dotted with fruit sellers and their piles of mangoes; motorcyclists honking impatiently at giggling girls as they cross the street; mannequins in second-hand underwear; and stray goats, chickens and dogs.

Beside the road is a field scattered with cigarette butts, broken beer bottles and cars. Among them is a grey Toyota Corolla with a steering wheel security lock. It belongs to thirtysomething-year-old Abdulaziz Abdulaziz.

This place is a "criminal's den", he says. "So one has to be watchful, especially with cars that can easily be stolen or broken into."


An age-old custom

Abdulaziz lives 30 minutes away from Dei Dei, in the heart of Abuja. But something has lured him here, just as it does thousands of others several times a month. It's a traditional form of boxing known as dambe.

No one seems certain how long it has been around for. But, in the past, ethnic Hausa butchers who travelled from village to village to slaughter animals for weddings and festivals would organise fights to display their bravery and attract unmarried women.

It has since evolved into a competitive martial art, practised by young people in communities across Nigeria, Chad and Niger.

These days, the fighters don flamboyant hairstyles and colours and adopt catchy stage names to enhance their celebrity-like appeal. There's one called Horror' and another known as Ebola.

Sani Aleka is a dambe coach who says the game appeared in Hausaland, in northwestern Nigeria, some time around the 1940s. But Ibrahim Satatima, a Hausa scholar and professor at Bayero University in Kano, northern Nigeria, says the sport can be traced much further back.

"Dambe has been in Hausaland since before the advent of Islam," he says. "And Islam came into Hausaland between the 6th and 7th century."

The sport is, he says, a source of pride and a symbol of cultural identity for many Hausa people.


A chance to be a hero

After three rounds of kicks and jabs, the unarmed boxers are sometimes left with broken jaws, bleeding eyes, shattered teeth and cracked ribs. The punching hand - called the spear - is tied with rope called kara, while the weaker hand acts as a shield. The aim is to knock your opponent down.

But if that sounds brutal, it is nothing compared to how it used to be - when pieces of glass were woven in with the rope to ensure maximum damage. That is now banned but, still, boxers sometimes die in the ring.

The violence of the fight stuns Abdulaziz, who started watching dambe only a few months ago.

He winces as two slim young men swipe at each other's faces. Dust rises as one stamps his foot. The other bares his teeth and slaps his thigh. Barefoot and bare-chested, they pace around the dirt ring until one is floored or "killed", as they say here.

The fallen fighter hides his face in embarrassment as the victor parades through the crowd behind a procession of musicians, stopping to pose with his fans and flex his muscles. The 23-year-old is known as Shagon Dan Kanawa, which means "son of Kano" - a reference to the city he comes from - but his real name is Mohammed Izazuddin Hassan, and he's been on a winning streak for months.

He thanks God and his mother before kneeling down so his admirers can drop money on him. Naira notes fall all around.

For a poor Hausa man, this is what dambe is about - a chance to be a hero and to make anything from $20 to $500. And that money can mean a lot in a place where poverty is brutal.



A city for the rich

Snuggled in the valleys of rocky hills and eroding monoliths, Abuja's sprawling landscape underwent a decades-long transformation to become one of Africa's first planned cities. It is also one of the most expensive to live in.

A taxi driver who asked not to be named frowns at the mere mention of the city.

"Abuja is where the people who have stolen ... this country's money stay," he says. "Me, I no like Abuja at all. It no be for poor man like me."

For many, Abuja epitomises Nigeria's cavernous class divide.

In the city of at least two million, a one-bedroom apartment can cost around $13,000 a year - and that rent is expected up front.

Business tycoons play golf at the country club named after Ibrahim Babangida, the country's former military ruler, as the children of the elite drive the latest SUVs through tree-lined boulevards. But hidden in the shade of acacias are children with holes in their flip-flops and mothers holding hungry babies. When the cars stop at the traffic lights, they rush forward to plead for money.

Dodging between the cars are children who sell everything from ground nuts to wiper blades. But they disappear at the sight of the city's task force officers. Street hawking is not allowed here and, if caught, their wares could be seized.

The message is clear: Abuja is for the rich.

Most of those who work in the city centre cannot afford to live there, so they reside in the shanties that are clustered along the thoroughfares.

Driving home after a dambe match, Abdulaziz observes the cars and buses heading in the opposite direction.

"It's really cruel, this class thing," he says. "The city is highly segregated between the rich and the poor and the poor get very shoddy treatment because actually the slums, because I wouldn't call them settlements, the slums around Abuja are just not habitable.

"You see places with no access road, no water. Some places don't even have light. And the arrangement is just haphazard and to access some places is hell. So, to think these are the people servicing the city, but being dismissed into some places is just not right."

Dei Dei is one of the larger makeshift settlements. It has little in the way of a water or electricity supply and petty crime abounds, but still, every Sunday, hundreds of people head there to watch dambe.



A poor man's sport

The grittiness of dambe sits in sharp contrast to the ostentatious wealth of Abuja.

At the Dei Dei dambe boxing ground, Abuja's labourers cheer on their local champions as a toenail cutter walks around with rusty nail clippers, making hissing sounds to attract custom. A guy spoons ice cream from a cooler for 100 naira ($0.50) a cone.

"This is a poor man's sport," says Jafaar Jafaar, a friend who accompanies Abdulaziz on a Sunday morning when almost 1,000 spectators are present.


As middle-class men who live in the city centre, Abdulaziz and Jafaar are a bit of an oddity in this crowd. Abdulaziz says his friends jeer at him whenever he tells them he is going to Dei Dei to watch dambe.

But it isn't only those watching who are poor. Many of the boxers are teetering on the poverty line. A win, and they may be OK for a while. But a loss could mean being without money for weeks.

So, they play with passion. Each strike could determine whether or not they can afford to pay next week's rent.



A spiritual process

Drumming builds up the excitement among the boxers and the crowd. The singer's voice rises. "If it is your turn today, tomorrow it will be someone else's turn," he sings in Hausa.

The fighters are decorated in amulets - strands of animal hair wrapped around gemstones, verses of the Quran written on scraps of paper. Although most of the boxers define themselves as Muslim, syncretistic spirituality is deeply entrenched in dambe.

Each boxer undergoes an elaborate fortification ritual. They wear charms around their neck, drink homemade herbal tonics and mix leaves with their blood.

Their arms are lined with the scars of dozens of self-inflicted cuts.

Victorious boxer Hassan says some of his are just a few weeks old. First, he cuts with a small blade, he explains. Then he stuffs ground leaves inside the bleeding gash.

The palm of his punching hand is painted red and black with herbs and henna. "When I don't use this, I won't have power in the hand," he says.

A few weeks ago, he was punched in the chest by a boxer who he says used spiritual power.

"Him use poison to blow me in my chest," he says. "You know the blow that is not normal."

Like other boxers who experience injuries, Hassan did not go to a hospital. A spiritual healer gave him a potion to drink. Afterwards, Hassan says he vomited green liquid. He believes that represented the supernatural poison leaving his body.

After that, Hassan says he regained his power and returned to the ring, winning one match after another.

This spiritual element elevates dambe to something more than a sport. This is Hausa culture.

"It's the only traditional thing that I can spend time on," says Lawal Mohamed. "I come here several times a week. If I am not here, my mind will not be at rest. I will be thinking about dambe."

The 51-year-old second-hand car salesman started watching dambe when he was nine years old.

Today, he was so eager to go to Dei Dei that he told a customer who was about to pay for one of his cars to wait until after the game.



It is these sorts of fans that keep dambe alive, but few would want their children to participate. Deep down, they know that even though dambe boxers are celebrated in their local communities, the glamour is fleeting. Theirs is a rough life.

With each blow, dambe fighters sacrifice their bodies to preserve a cherished Hausa tradition.

After three hours of fighting, the crowd disperses. The photographers selling printed photos of champion boxers leave. Prostitutes stoll away with their customers; musicians pack up their drums; boxers hop onto motorcycles or into the back of vans.


Dambe's uncertain future

Hassan and some of the other boxers live in the red-light community of Tafa. It's a noisy truckers' stop along the motorway from Abuja, where drug dealers go about their work in the open.

Abdulaziz describes it as a place for "people of the underworld".

The son of a housewife and an Islamic scholar, Hassan does not smoke and is critical of boxers who take drugs.

"Some boxers are not going to school and they can't speak English or Arabic. They no know Allah. Me, I want to go back to school. I finished secondary school. I speak Arabic," he says.

He hopes to study electrical engineering at university.

With the money earned from dambe, he has bought five cows. He supports his widowed mother and six siblings and pays for one of his brothers to attend university.

But he knows that his days as a boxing hero are numbered; the constant beatings could destroy him or leave him penniless, just as it has other one-time champions.

Fifty-two-year-old Abdulkadir Lawan fought for eight years. He was a champion, but now he says he regrets being a dambe boxer.

"I don't even want my eight children to do dambe," he says.

Still, Lawan wears the charms worn by other retired boxers to symbolise the spirit of dambe and shows up at the Dei Dei boxing ring every day to entertain the crowd with his dancing and jokes.

But now, he says, he's planning to retire from that role as well.

Dambe faces an uncertain future in Abuja. Pressure from the government has forced the dambe organisers to relocate at least five times in the past 10 years, according to coach Aleka.

But the owner of the Dei Dei boxing ring, Ali Zuma, is optimistic about dambe's future. Men from other ethnic groups in Nigeria, such as Igbo and Yoruba, are also starting to play, and Zuma says this cultural assimilation can help preserve the sport.

Zuma tries to get wealthy men to patronise the sport. But some say he is part of the problem and boxers complain about his management.

Many say he does not pay them well.

Hassan says that when his chest injury left him out of the ring for five days, Zuma did not compensate him, although he felt he should have.

Hassan thinks about money a lot. He wants more of it so that he can move from where he lives. It's a dark, single room with a cement floor which he finds so embarrassing that he doesn't even want his siblings to visit him there.

On this Monday morning, Hassan finds the door to his room locked. His landlord has locked him out for the third time this year for failure to pay his rent. It's 2,000 naira ($10) a week.

Hassan will have to sleep at a friend's place tonight. But he doesn't seem fazed. It's the life of a dambe star.

"You see, this old room is my room," he says. "And because of only 2,000 naira they done close the door."

http://www.aljazeera.com/indepth/features/2016/04/boxing-nigeria-life-hard-knocks-poor-160419153636736.html

Truth be told, if after 20 years as an Arsenal coach, Arsene wenger could only win 3 EPL titles, 6 FA cup, No european Cup (Champions league or Europa), it's a very poor record. He should honourably resign, Arsenal is bigger than a single individual. Personally I don't see Arsene taking arsenal any further, he has nothing new to offer to Arsenal. #SackArsene# #WengerOUT#

A 60-year-old woman, Asabi Adebayo, has been arrested by
the police in Oyo State for allegedly buying five babies at
N5million from Port-Harcourt, Rivers State.



The suspect, who planned to fly the babies abroad for sale,
was said to have brought them to an orphanage in Ibadan to obtain a certified police report for them when the bubble
burst.



Commissioner of Police Leye Oyebade, who paraded the
suspect and the babies yesterday at the Eleyele Police
Headquarters, said the woman would have escaped if not
for the patriotic behavior of the officials of the orphanage,
who reported the matter at the Iyaganku Police Station.



The suspect, who said she hailed from Lagos State, is also
a British citizen.



The ages of the babies, (two boys and three girls) range
from two years, eight months, seven months, six months
and four months.



The babies have been taken to the Ministry of Women
Affairs, Child Welfare; the suspect is assisting the police in
their investigation.



The police commissioner said officers, who accompanied
the suspect to Port-Harcourt where she claimed to have
bought the babies, have not been able to apprehend the
sellers.



The Divisional Police Officer (DPO) in Iyaganku, Mr
Ojopagogo, said: “ A woman, who operates an orphanage
came to our station last Thursday and reported to us that a
60-year-old woman came to them that she had five children
and that she needed police report for the children to be
flown abroad .



“Our detectives, led by a Superintendent of Police (SP) from
the Juvenile Welfare Section, went to arrest the suspect.
“After her arrest, the suspect told us that she got the
children for N5million and that she bought the children from
a woman in Port-Harcourt. We travelled with the suspect to
Port-Harcourt, unfortunately we could not find the woman.”
Also paraded were three young men- Ganiyu Taiwo (29) a
meat seller, Adam Adeleke (20) furniture maker and Ayuba
Jubril (19) –who confessed to breaking into a girls’ hostel,
stealing phones, laptops and other valuables at Oke-Ogun
Poly, Saki, Oyo State.



Others were two robbery suspects- Tunde Adeniyi (32)
Aluminum doors dealer and Solomon Ajibesin 22. They
were arrested in Ilorin, the Kwara State capital.



A bricklayer, Femi Adeyemi, a father of three, confessed to
robbing his boss of his car. A man, Taiwo Samson, who
bought a stolen Range Rover, was also paraded.



Another man, Daramola Adewale, 34, a food stuff seller, was
paraded for threatening to post nude pictures of his
girlfriend online, if she failed to pay him N50,000.



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nurez305:
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