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OneMarvee:
OLE

... I have much on my plate too. It ain't gonna be for Nothing also, I can Marry from here and take my Spouse to Canada. All Joy

Demigod22:
I am not saying she regretted dating me. I was just wondering how she,in her widest imagination, think that I will help her with her project after the experience.

Forget about me changing myself. So I wanted a relationship but she wants friendship, and she is parasitic because she is the only one benefitting from the friendship, at least,if she is not dating me, but as friends, we should have a mutual respect for each other, not trying to use the other person.

A friend that calls you everyday for eight months stopped calling and you never called to check up on her until four months later when you finally needs his help, you called. Does that define your understanding of friendship?

You are just emotional. Keep to the changes she brought into your life and utilise that to get someone better than Her.

As for her ghosting you and asking You for help later, she meant no harm to You that's woman for you as you never know what's going on in her immediate life.

Demigod22:
So I met Cynthia immediately we resumed from covid 19 break. We started as friends before the feelings set in. I made my intentions known to her. We usually called each other, but she stopped calling the moment I revealed my feelings to her. I was the only one doing the calls, the texting, we chatted everyday.

She said she doesn't like guys that take alcohol and I stopped. I started attending fellowship because of her, I was visiting hostel always because of her, I joined school politics because of her, I stopped keeping late night because of her. Everything she wanted I was doing, I bought her stuffs too.

The problem was that she wanted friendship and I wanted relationship. I was ready to accept her terms and conditions, like no sex, no visiting. I did all her assignments for her, I gave her tutorials,past questions, even mark her script with sentiment.

I realized how foolish I was trying to love someone that doesn't love me but was only interested in using me. I stopped calling and doing those things for her. One month after she started dating my coursemate. I was hurt but I moved on.

Today, after everything, this wicked girl sent me a message on WhatsApp, asking for my help regarding her project. She said she needs me to give her project topics and guide her. Then I am wondering how some people can be this wicked and heartless.

Although she denied dating my coursemate, she said she doesn't have the ability to love, that was her excuse of not accepting to date me and she said she is not dating my coursemate either, but what guts made her think that I will help her after the treatment I got from her for eight months?

She helped you become someone better and you are still complaining

If you can't Help her Swerve, God will send her helper to her.

eventainment:
If you have a pc you can learn on your own with materials except you can't self motivate your self

I'm an accountant per se but I aspire to become expert in Data Analysis then afterward migrate to Cybersecurity (Gradual progression from ComptIA+ to advance) ultimate in CISA ....

Do you think this is palatable and complementary towards one another?

pansophist:
Women do actually marry homebased guys. I know alot who does. But usually not anyhow guys, the guys are usually doing well for themselves.

Alot ke, I won't mind a Muslim Canada Based Sir. I'm real!
Health line preferably.

Be versatile(Dynamic)(Know Your Way around Wide varieties of Life Topics from Politics, Governance, Academic to Entertainment, International Relations and fun arena)

Be Intelligent

Be Intellectual

Be Handsome/Beautiful

Be Balance-Fair in Judgements

Be Private and Confidential

Na dem go dey find you and no you go dey run because people will use life Issue kill you

Am4obama:
I am a Muslim (Yoruba) and i have this Hausa lady i want to marry from North. The lady has accepted my proposal,and has given me what she wanted for her Sadaki. But there's one problem... The father refuse to give her out because of tribal sentiments. But the mother supported us. In this scenario, what can be done to make this marriage work? Should I let go of her, but she truly loves me and I love her too

chillychill, Lukgaf, motayoayinde kindly respond!

mofy1:
Feminist have come again. What happens to cooking for one's husband. If you must know,there is a reward for doing it. Am married and I do the cooking with joy and pride though my husband help atimes. Mr poster need I remind you that you don't need a fortune to do your nikkah. Most of us do introduction and take years, month before nikkah because we want to go elaborate and break record. Please do the needful soon Ramadan is fast approaching. Assalam alaikum warahmatuLlah wabarakatuhu.

Common, Why should a Man marry solely because he needs someone to be cooking for him because he is tired of going to the kitchen?

You didn't see where he stated he is not financially bouyant ?

Did your husband married you because he needed a Cook ? For Ramadan ? Or because he needed a life patner ?

Allahu A'lam alla Quli-Shein !

Wa aleikum Sallam Waramatullahi Wabarakatuhu.

Highlyrespected:
Salamualaikum!
Can someone kindly explain the meaning of sadaki to me?

Bride Price = sadaki !

Kobojunkie:
I live in the west and I know no such laws that do any of what you claim. Hence the reason why I ask you to point any of them out.

The Op is wrong I just read the law:

This is what the law states not touching inappropriate per se but Traffic generation strategies from Bloggers;

[b]a) Rape
One of the very notable and commendable provisions of the Act is its expansion of the meaning of rape and its prohibition thereof. While other existing laws limited their scope of rape to protect only females in relation to vaginal penetration without consent[18], the VAPP Act has taken a giant stride to expand the meaning and scope of rape. By virtue of the Act, rape is when a person intentionally penetrates the vagina, anus or mouth of another person with any other part of his or her body or anything else without consent, or where such consent is obtained by force or means of threat or intimidation of any kind or by fear of harm or by means of false and fraudulent representation as to the nature of the act or the use of any substance or additive capable of taking away the will of such person or in the case of a married person by impersonating his or her spouse[19]. By this definition, both males and females are protected against rape. The issue of rape being gender biased has been a jurisprudential issue in Nigeria for a while because our law, as it then was, does not recognize situations wherein a man would or could be raped. Thus, instances such as the one reported in Daily Post on the 17th of July, 2012 where a man was allegedly “raped” to death by his wives, was not classified as rape but manslaughter[/b]

abidem4real:
Honestly, book (education) is truly haram. The more learned we are, the more enslaved we become in the prison of our own creation.
Our society will be better living in our primitive ways than this shit

Primitive just like living in Jungles same way as Wild animals do on NatGeoWild .... MBA, I love today and the future evolutionary movements.

dyingheart:
we dated for five months. i showed him so much love and care. all he did was complain it wasn't enough, he wanted to date someone else. we're not talking anymore. i miss him like mad. i can't sleep, i can't eat, i can't do anything. it's like my heart has been broken into a thousand pieces. i can't breathe anymore. someone talk to me


****abeg, the man in question is not a Nairalander. cheating was from his part. i was very faithful to him.

Seek for Forgiveness of Sins and Atone from Your Mistakes from your God. Put Your Mind and Trust in God and Take Your Heart Away from the Dude.

Kobojunkie:
1. Stop rambling! Your question was simply a foolish one, nothing more.

2. If you feel his Teachings and commandments came from some other source than the one stated by Him then maybe you should lead with that instead of asking yet more ridiculous questions.

Jesus Christ made it clear to His followers that everything He spoke to them came from His Father, God.

If Everything comes from God and I Stated Marriage should be built on God for it to stand the test of time and you are still rambling in nonsense. See, You just like Arguements and I'm not ready for your shenanigans.

I stated Marriage should be built on God thus Marriage should be built on commandments of Jesus and Teachings if same is based on God's Teachings ... Now See your Folly

You still have to wail again and argue ... Dude you are problematic and have issues

Whatever that's not built on God will never pass Devils Challenges, Simple.... Argue with Your Keyboard, You seem like a Nairaland Bot to me programmed by Seun to Promote Threads via silly side punch and counter arguments

Exodora:
I wonder if those medicine does anything at all.
I take Malaria and typhoid drugs almost every three weeks and any three weeks that I don't take it oh God it will look as if I won't survive that month.
Just finished taking it three days ago yet it looks as if I haven't taken anything at all I can't take another now for the safety of my kidney and liver.
The funny part is that I buy the expensive ones thinking that after taking it i won't have to buy another one.
Am really scared of taking herbal because of the way they criticize it.

You better go herbal. You are suffering from relapse as those drugs you abused can no longer terminate your Parasites anymore as they are immune to the drugs. Health Healthy a Go Herbal

xpool:
Honestly!
That fresh home made agbo that ones steams his body with, then bathes with and drink a cup of it, all hot, cures malaria and typhoid like magic. I am a living witness, it even boosts your immune system.
Herbs and drugs are the same, but herbs and roots are better because they are natural and work faster.
As I dey so, I know one leave wey you go just boil and drink the water and you will purge well instead of using chemical laxative.
I also know one leave that you can use to cook peppersoup, when you drink the soup , you wet no get appetite go hungry quick

mention those leaves na shey na bitterleaf and Saint leaf ?

Mopolchi:
He for enter any Federal university. I no dey trust all this private university

CU has no rival in Nigeria maybe UI. CU is one of the best University in Africa and that school is heading for the world.

Kobojunkie:
That is a foolish question to ask.

What's beyond Your Intelligence must seem foolish until it's explained to Your Intelligence. You are the foolish one here !

Where did Jesus got his Teachings and Commandments from ? Who taught it to Him ? What was Jesus himself built upon? What was Jesus Teachings and Commandments Built Upon ? God ? What is that "God" ?

Kobojunkie:
There is no such thing as marriage truly built on God. Jesus Christ loud this message 2000 years ago when He declared to you that your Marriages are of this world and not of the Kingdom of God - Luke 20 vs 34 - 36

You don't build a marriage on God. It is not possible. You can instead submit your own life in obedience to the teachings and commandments of Jesus Christ, and allow Him use you to the glory of His Name, even as you are married to your partner.

You like arguements. The question is what is God ?

MufasaLion:
All I know is that there's no manual to this marriage thingy.

God is the Manual and Obedience to God's Laws and Norms from all parties involved from Couples to Extended Family.

Even if you don't believe in God, Don't Do unto others what You wouldn't want them do unto You".... That's the Simple equation of God.

King125007:
The devil is fighting marriage..

The Devil is Fighting Earth and Man but when we are all tired the Devil will lose again and Man will Reset.

tuoyoojo:
Marriage bad, marriage bad

Yet u see people marrying every Saturday

Let me ask you, what makes breaking news most times , nor be bad news?

I have been married for close to 5 years, my only regret is that I didn't marry earlier

Marriage to the right person is sweet, let nobody deceive you

My advice is , there is not one formula that works in marriage. Create ur own niche. What I can take from madam, you can never tolerate and vice versa

My mother told me one thing, she said if you want a woman to respect you, love her( most men read love from a woman as respect, most women read respect from a man as love, God know why him say husbands love your wife, and wife respect your husband)

She said provide for home, don't neglect ur responsibilities

Marry a woman who is teachable and compatible with you

Marry your friend, someone's you can relate and gist with at all levels and someone who believes in many of the things you believe in

Never be too proud to say you are sorry not necessarily because you think you are right but for the fact you love peace in your home
Avoid malice. Don't go to bed with an unresolved issue.


Marry a praying spouse. Put God first. Nothing sweet pass make ur spouse genuinely want the best for you


Chairmen and women, the thing plenty.


But nor forget na bad news dey sell.

Nor reason all the things wen u dey hear for NL

Marriage Truly Build on God never Fails but Marriage built without God but for Mere Earthly is a Divorce about to Dance Skelewu Na time Bomb.

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TONYE001:
I had to resign from work to return to medical school in 2015.

This decision affected our income as a family. Things really hit us hard.

The side hustles I was doing were barely enough. My wife stood by me those years, especially when things were awfully low.

Now, things are much better; we now have a steady income that is enough to get us going.

I am still away; she has to deal with the kids alone. In an entire year, I visit home two to three times.

It's tough on her, really tough, but she never complains. She remains supportive. Very loyal and respectful.

I don't play with her.

We are married for seven years now and it still feels like we just got married.

I am a lucky guy.

Marriage works.

God will continue to Bless You.

Charmingrascal:
I remember when Mum bought Dad a car with her salaries that she saved that year.

The things I read about marriages these days makes me dread marriage. But I know that by 2023 that I will be getting married na perfect woman God go give me.

Amen to Your Prayers but Remember, there is No Perfect Human anywhere and Your Imperfections will also Triggers your Wife Imperfections but Once both of You are Committed to the Values of God to a larger reasonable extent be Rest Assured You shall have a satisfactory Marriage, Amen.

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[quote author=NemoDatQuod post=108894801][/quote]This is a Big Write Up and the very bane of marital and Relationships issues in the society. This is exactly what I personally resolved and with God everything works Good.

But where did you put up this great work without paragraphs. Make it look good common!

Starz825:
Guy ..
Yea I noticed it...
The reason why I mentioned *crazy* at first...
I was referring to his experience at the hotel as crazy...

if to say na woman post that now this thread woulda reached 1000pages.

No gender holy pass for every fuckee there is a fucker and we all are to be blamed for the rot not just trashing a Gender when the other Gender is the one spending all the money and doing the fvcks.

Put no trust on no soul, all trust should be placed on God and when Bridge fall, Move da fvck On no time for nonsense.

Starz825:
As crazy as this is ..you are very correct about Dem ladies...
They just something else man ..
Their reasoning diff from men

but You never see where he said he fvcked another man's gf in a Hotel .

Our Hypocrisy no be here .

KarinaLove:
Are you married?

Why are you having sex when you are not married?

Don't you know you are Fornicating and committing a very big and terrible SIN Mr Man!!!

Well, I think that's pay back for your sins.

Bye

Only if we Know !

Estherqueen50:
I know at this stage you ain't looking for advice but letting out your hurt. It's fine. We all want to have something beautiful and worthwhile with the one we love but the truth is that as far as good things happen, bad things do too. Its just that sometimes we ain't just ready.
I thank God you came to know of her reality before you got married. That is the essence of our prayer, that God should break us out of wrong relationships, reveal to us things we never knew about our intended that would have made our lives miserable. So I think God loves you very much to have revealed this to you. But it isn't for you to see everyone as the same or see ya self as someone incapable of Making the right choice. But I will strongly advice that this serve as a lesson to us . We need to be faithful to God first, before we talk about being faithful to others or wanting same from them. He has said flee from fornication and we think it doesn't matter but the truth is if someone can comfortably cheat God with you. Who told you they can't cheat on you with another.
Just to remind you " You are loved, you are indispensable, you are perfect, blessed and highly favored. I wish you the best.

You are Blessed but No one Perfect anyway!

Goodnigga:
You have a point but I beg to differ. You see God wired or coded every person with a unique attraction print like thumbprint that gives us morale or boost upon sighting them.Let me give you a personal example, my attraction gift is for light-skinned beautiful girls with moderate ass and boobs, my dick and wooing techniques will just come freely. I dated a girl like that, once she is around, Mr. John Thomas is extremely happy, it will stand at attention that the banny will begin to laugh. I have one friend who is a look alike but the opposite of me, he likes big ass to the extent that I started thinking all men love big ass, to my chagrin, I dated one, no passion at all! Morale of the story is: attraction gift matters in marriage, you can manage to marry a girl you are not attracted to sexually, it may work and even last but you won't enjoy it. It will be like a man destined to be a Davido doing Engineering, he may come out first class and may even build a flourishing engineering firm with sheer hardwork but he won't still be fulfilled. Life is about working with your natural programming (nature's code) and fulfilment comes from it, however you may modulate the codes since you have a will but you won't be as FULFILLED as you would be, if you leave the codes untouched.

Peace!

Are you a programmer?

pansophist:
The simple meaning of the statement in layman's term is that marriage will not cure your loneliness. Marriage can only cures your singlehood, not loneliness. Marriage is a mirror. If you don't love yourself, you can't love someone else. If you're not interested in yourself, people won't find you interesting. And If you're lonely alone, you'll be lonely in Marriage.

Your partner can not cure your loneliness even if they try. It's an inside job every individual must contend with. It's an existential burden, which is, you can't love someone to a point that you'll prevent them from dying, and it's the same with loneliness. The cure to loneliness is to commit to something that brightens your life. Be it a writer, a sport person, or trying to leave a mark on the world.

One must live their life in such a way that everyday seems like a new life, where they are a new born, and the world around them is marvelous and interesting to them. Now think about this, children are not lonely, unless of course their parent prevent them from going outside and explore the world. To kids, everyday is magic, to play, experience and grow. The aeroplane that you don't notice anymore when it passes, you'll see kids jumping and pointing at it.

But it's sad that as many grow into adult, they stop exploring, seeing the world in its infinite fairy tale, that the world in its rich beauty and diversity, becomes boring to them, like a empty room. Lots of people having kids discovered that they could re lived their childhood, because that roaming goat you ignored, your kid would chase it around, and find it interesting.

Marriage is basically where two people that are happy with their life 100%, comes together, to merge as one, becoming a better 100%. Just like you add a detergent to bowl of water, it will foam, but if you add another sachet of detergent, it will foam even more intensely, and tougher on dirt. Because its two sachet of detergent doesn't makes it 200%, but became a stronger 100% inside the bowl. So going into a marriage when lonely with one life won't cure it, but you'll find yourself there, and even worse because your partner would suffer for your lack of internal sophistication.

You are always almost "Mad" on Point � !