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Mathscum:
With respect to a topic in the front page about a 30 years old man and an 18 years old getting married.
From the responses I come to think what made made some people view it wrong seems to be the fact that the girl is 18 years and not yet through with are education.
So it make me along with others think, is it right for an 23years old to marry a 35 years old man?

Mynd44, lalasticlala,

It is right if you will provide her with education, mentorship and maturity .... Women tend learn faster than we male because they have more neurons in their brain ..... but we men tend to be more matured than women because we have larger brain

Conversely 18yo is not yet matured enough to understand the rigorisity of marriage therefore compared to a girl in 20s that's completed a University possibly Masters etc ...

So it's all about management!!

Ishilove:
I don't understand the Afghans. The Americans and Russians trained you guys for 20 years and when the Taliban's came, you couldn't put up any reasonable resistance? What the actual fúck??!

Corruption and insincerity from the Americans and their Afghanistan puppets .....

E.g. US gives Buhari (An american installed President) 2trillion dollars over last 20years to fight Bokoharam........ Nigga and his government just started helping their own pockets to the demoralisation of their Military and Police ..... then US were tired after 20years or Satisfied or has achieved their results and objectives behind closed doors .... US left but Afghanistan Army were not as equipped as reported !!

Of course the Taliban had a field day .....

DBestDoc:
This is so sad
Good people really exit quicker or what?

May her gentle soul Rest In Peace and God grant the family she left behind the strength to bear the loss. Amen

@ olumighty123, please tell him our prayers are with him and his family

The Good ones should protect and Defend themselves the most because they get easily consumed and consumed first......

You self think am ..... if you want to buy Christmas chicken, you definitely go for the best ones in the cage .... Do you think those chickens are happy to be consumed ? ..... if it is happy, it will not be shouting kroooohhh, krooohhh, krooohhhhh as you heading for the slaughter !

The odds ones will blessed whatever that safe that day or minutes !!

Good things don't last unless when protected and Defended!!

Ishilove:
I blame the Obasanjo government for allowing this rubbish to take root in the first place. And yes, you are correct. Only perverts will feel threatened by dolls modeling clothes.

If Obasanjo didn't do it ... any Fulani or Hausa President will do It themselves.......

If you have been to Aso Rock or Work in Federal Government of Nigeria especially in Abuja .... or You want to do something needing Nigeria popular support .....

You just need to pamper Hausa/Fulani if not your moves and positions will be stalled .....

From Obasanjo Shariah to Jonathan Almajiri schools .... they are all to make their Presidency Strong and popular!!

pansophist:
Reddit male to female ratio is 23/12 in USA alone, quora is 57/43, youtube 56/44, so why do you think it would be different for nairaland? Generally women are agreeable, conflict avoidant and an integrationist, compare to men that are isolationist, disagreeable, with a potentiality for conflict. A simple proof to this is that most prisoners are men.

Forums are places where you must be tough, with your perspective shakened, and women compare to men, are less likely to accommodate that. Now tell me which gender is more likely to be soft, and won't want their fantasy threatened. I've discussed with lots of women on this forum that instead of counter my points, they begin insulting. Being right is more important than being correct.

On nairaland and other anonymous forums, no one will call you plus-size, curvy, big bone, large woman, and other sugary coatings, but fat. No one will call you diva, useless you're actually a beautiful diva. Your argument and brain will take you far, not your looks. Lots of tough women are here, doing fine, and it's because they are tough, something that doesn't comes natural to women.

Now compare the gender ratio to non confronting platforms like Instagram and Facebook, where your beauty will take you far than your sense, then there are more female than male. The gender disparity on this platforms is very telling about the differences between men and women. So no, it's not because men chased them off, but because if you can't stand the heat, you get the fork out of the kitchen. I can't stand the heat on Instagram and Facebook either, that is why I forked out.

hmmmmm ... Yum yummy

Gerrard59:
He's right about Joe Biden not helping Southern Nigerians. If you people know the level of lobbying Fulani elites have deployed over the years to stifle any help from Western Powers and deflect the issues around. It's why to date, influential think-tanks in the west describe the massacres going on in Christian dominated communities in Northern Nigeria as "farmers vs herders", whereas it's a systematic extermination of those minorities of whom the vast majority are Christians. It's why same think-tanks say the "Muslim north" is poor whereas leaders and rulers of Nigeria come from the Islamic part of Northern Nigeria. Or why billions of naira in allocations go to core northern states. It's why Amaka Anku of the Euroasia Group will say climate change is the reason behind Fulani herdsmen slaughtering farmers in Plateau whereas it's pure genocide.

Same lobbying is why Buhari met Biden prior to the 2015 elections where the Obama administration supported his bid to become president. Then, Biden was the vice president and is currently the president. That's the same person Ndi Southern intellectwats believe will save Southern Nigerians from marauding Islamic terrorists?

Let me not even mention the British. Y'all should get prepared to slam your heads five times daily and adorn the burka. Amarachi Mohammed and Chinedu Umar loading...

I think the brits and Europe na realised they made mistakes ..... During the colonialiasation they possibly discovered they didn't allow Africans/Nigeria to finish conquering each other from Oyo to Benin to Fulani........

Possibly, they want to allow nature to take its course and deals with the emergent winner afterwards ..... so If Fulani eventually win, then they will deal with Fulani later ..... If Yoruba wins , they will deal with Yoruba later ........

The issues is just that nobody can win without western support ..... Westerns do not definitely wants Smart ones to win ... You will disturb business!!

Just like how they allowed nature to take its course in the jungle ...... If possible, cows would be preferred to rule Lions .........

Vickyvice:
what an irony. D day ishitmel was born na same day trouble enter the world. I wish postinor 2 was available then.How people whose religion hates any form of freedom and is adopted in their state law, without opposition by d people, yet they want to go to Christian land, which funny enough, use our free secular
laws.as long as I no kidnapp, Robb person,kill I wetin concern person with my personal life?. All buhari, atiku, saraki, babangida, e.t.c kids are in Western countries. They will not go to islam countries, while they themselves are moooslims. The other day, one midjet and tinubu go London to enjoy themselves.

But Seth that Killed his brother was also Ishmeal ...... No wonder atheism is on the increase .... Majority of you are just foolish!!

Odewaleadesoye:
There's no point fighting for the people of Afghanistan when all they want is an Islamic rule. They really support the Taliban in one way or the other.

Well, I just pity Africa continent most especially Nigeria where the leaders are playing with the lives of the citizens all in the name of corruption and politics.

Boko Haram are killing innocent citizens every day; Kidnappers are collecting huge ransom every hour; Bandits are cashing out every second and Fulani Herdmen waster lives every moment while the government does nothing but discuss allocation and irrelevant issues ONLY.

Africans need to wake up.

Another thing I don't understand about these so called Nigeria leaders is that: do they think that they will be spare should in case Boko Haram overtake the see of the country?

They will just port ... Most of those that ate Afghanistan to the bone have now Japa .....

Most Nigerian leaders and their wards have dual citizenship!!

Donspicey:
E go better......

Always remember your dear country in Prayers....

Your prayers can only be accepted when you are dedicated and committed to an endeavour .... when the leaders are loyal to the country not to themselves and secular interests...... until then,

Praying from morning till night for 365 days and eon years will solve nothing ....

God is not a Fool !!

Ever8090:
USA should just resume assault on this Taliban idiots to save the millions of lives crying for them to save them from the hands of those demons naa...

It's like you wants to rescue cows from the grips of Lions ?

Who told you cows wants to be rescued

You can only help those who wants help ... You can't force help , you will be wrecked mentally and physically!!

That's why we pay premium for premium education so as to attach value to it !!

mejai:
Sad

You can travel to IDP camp in Nigeria to sell pure water now ...

The new question is USA will just drop and dumped this people as refugee in another country possibly Qatar and it will spread from there .....

Qatar, Oman, Bahrain, UAE should all brace up for impact because Taliban Intels would be amongst those in the plane .....

Imagine .. Herdsmen doing theirs in the bush
Thugs doing theirs in the city ...
Kidnappers on Highways .....

Nigeria go better , e go better...this is the future they are talking about in the 60s, 70s and 80s .....

Which future again

TarOrfeeek:
Pantami would be so happy. Shedding tears of joy and thanking the merciful master for his victory over the infidels.


Nigerians, especially Southerners should sleep with one eye open. The large cache of arms unearthed in Afghanistan will be boxed up and waybilled to the Islamist Sects in Sub Saharan Africa.

Obviously, BHT, Fulani Terrorist and the likes will receive generous quantities of these. The WAT will assume a frightening dimension.

The issue now is - with a deeply fragmented military (whose obvious bias has never been hidden), our Islamist leaning leaders and our now Islamised Institutions - Will Nigeria survive the onslaught of Islamist Jihad.

And this is a beautiful theme for intellectuals and security experts to ponder on.

Slowly, we are ebbing away into the doldrums of irrelevance.

They can't have any root in Nigeria because the battle ground is gonna be the Middle belt peradventure the core North gets conquered!!

Nigeria �� is still safe for now but of our leaders Jones beyond normal , they will all be sacked by Taliban ...... Afghanistan is a motivation to the Extremists !!

Lastmankc:
Do you want her to be executed?
The world would have been a paradise without Islam.

The world would be nothing without Islam....

Islam is the reason for Gun Dwell in the US ?

Islam causes NATO and Russia brouhaha ?

Islam is the reason for Haiti President Assassinations? ....

Islam is the reason for Neo Colonialism ?

Islam is the Reason for Tsunami, Hurricane and Earthquakes......?

Try as much as little to apply sense to your assertions because people like you are those ruling this country and with a brain like yours , Taliban already has Nigeria !!

You are so shallow in Judgement!!

Amebong:
Without money relationship can't work, especially in this new age where everything is literally expensive to get. To get a Clean home you need money. ( https://www.thebroomers.com )
To go on vacation or date night you need money.
PS: Chase after money while you're young, true love will come later.

Love ... Love needs to be oiled else it turns to hatred ......

Money first!! then Love later !

Stephen2324:
What is that one thing your first relationship taught you?

Be a MAN and a full fledge Man (Mentally, Financially, Physically and Psychologically) before dating a girl .......

Relationship is not meant for boys but Men, I mean a Full Man !!!

tunary:
If a country cannot protect her citizens why not make deals with world powers to stop this nonsense. Now the citizens will become slaves to the talibans especially the females. Sex slaves. This is very bad. Muslim country

With what will he make deal .....

The reason why Afghanistan was quickly run down like thay was corruption.....

The reason why Bokoharam was running down this nation is corruption.......

Corruption is cheating when just one person amass wealth to the detriment of others !!

peacettw:
I understand. Even when I wrote that last sentence, I knew it will be an exercise in futility. Not for world powers.

They are not world powers just human powers !

They are also under world powers ... not all their wishes get fulfilled !!

tensazangetsu20:
I was watching a documentary today on CNN about the Talibans capture of a major city in Afghanistan. The first thing they did was to get all girls from age 12 and above for the commanders and various members to get married to and it got me thinking. The Taliban and the various terror groups in the north all share the same ideology. No amount of weapons or super intelligence can defeat this guys. I mean the USA poured in over 20 billion dollars in Afghanistan. Sent in high end weapons, trained the Afghan troops yet they still lost the war. 20 years gone, thousands of Americans dead and the war was lost.

If a whole America couldn't defeat the Taliban what is the fate of the Nigerian army in winning the boko haram war. They are even recruited into the same army and people in the south are just sitting down. Whether people like it or not. Those guys will take over the north and when they do what happens to the south. I mean people make a lot of noise on social media but we all know southern tribes aren't used to wars or warrior like in nature compared to the north that has known and fought all kinds of wars. Even if the country divides as people want it to. Will independent southern nations have the resources to fight the terror groups in the north. With Afghanistan under taliban control it will become a training and funding ground for all forms of terror group.

I have always predicted southern Nigeria to be like congo or Liberia in the future but with what's going on in the north it might be much worst than Afghanistan and Yemen put together.

Southern Unity is sacrosanct to the impeding Doom which I am not seeing ...

If Northern Nigeria should fall which is very possible due to infiltration everywhere.... The next job is Southern Nigeria which is under huge infiltration as of now .... see the number of boys being nabbed and herdsmen activities can easily grow into insurgency......

With Tanks and Helicopters, Southern Nigeria are not trained nor prepared for wars .... Bokoharam has been fighting wars since 2011 and very hot ......

Southern Nigeria need to come together to fight terror if not .... running over is possible... Although I know Southern Nigeria will negotiate with the Western Nations but if The Insurgents also give them counter offer ....

You may never know the ways western Nations may swing ......

All in all, the future doesn't look too promising with the level of corruption and unseriousness Going on in Nigeria as a whole !!
You better change your name to Ahmadu

kushme:
But truly, I have been thinking what resources the Yankees might have extracted during the 20yrs stay in Afghanistan from their $trillion investment.

Well, the only profitable return I have heard so far was, the prevention of terror attacks on America soil and the world. I think that's a good investment.

What about now that the Taliban gov' will be back to running things? The provider of safe haven for the Al-qaeda and other small terror groups. They now have the gov' armoury provided by the US.

I even heard some analysts say, the Taliban will change their ways a little. Like reducing human right abuse and the rest.

To me, i think the Taliban will continue in their ways, as they and their followers will believe this to be a god given victory at last.

You never can tell bro .... all of them are liars ... they all hide under God to perpetrate evil...... Taliban will change nothing ..

Also Terror has escalated in the world infact Nigeria is witnessing huge terror which is an aftermath of bloodbath in Libya by Western Nations ......

See these Guys sells weapons and Military wares .... The only way to create business is to create War or civil unrest.....

In the process of intervention, your natural resources will start vamoosing via back door unaccounted for at little monies because each side wants western support and artillery ......


Dude, the world is in the hands of Evil both Taliban and Taliban Fighters ..... we ain't all sincere !!

Originalsly:
You talk like a kid. Why would the US even threaten the Taliban? That region was never ever conquered by foreign forces. The Russians tried and pulled out. The US said it wouldn't happen to them. 20 years after.... pulling out. Now threatening to return should the Taliban cross their line? ... return for another 20 years? ... why would the result be different? You cannot change a culture by force. The US knows why it was there in the first place ... there is always an interest when its troops are sent to a foreign land.

na u get am .... We may never know the target resources evacuated over the 20years

peacettw:
Even so, you don't unceremoniously remove all soldiers just cos you can. You helped destroy that nation like others before it and frankly I pray for a day you all will be sued for all you have got for this.

Sue to where? Only to God of Nature ..
That's Power !!

thundafire:
Muslims countries are all terrorist,USA stabilize them but they wanted bombers and not upto a month USA left they have gotten back Afghanistan again. I pity Russia when they turn attention to them then they will understand why USA don't waste time to strike them where they are

You ain't good .... what about if US is the real culprit ...

How could you spend 1trillion dollars over 20years and within months everything crumbled...... Did US actually sustained anything ......

You spend 20years on a Project with $1Trillion and everything entered water within months and you wanna blame Afghanistan

Maybe US should have used the money in a more better way and also Do you know the Intel US gathered overtime and the resources marked...... ...

No nation is a Saint!

MrSamsung:
You talk like a kid even sounding like a terrorist sympathizer. Though I am not surprised because you come from a country that treats terrorist with kids gloves even calling them repentant terrorist. I don't blame you, I blame the so-called stupid and weak Christians who don't know their power thereby allowing terrorist and terrorist sympathizers like you to flourish and become bold.

If you really think that America is making noise, weak, cowardly and that Taliban shouldn't tremble at what U.S said, let them go ahead and killed just ONE AMERICAN SOLDIER while they are packing out.

There is nothing America will do than to bomb them and bomb more innocent civilians casualties ...

The Jungle is now left to rot itself !!

GardenOfGod:
The American Army operates based on internationally accepted rules of engagement in combating the Pantami Warriors.
If there were no such rules, Pantami Warriors aka Taliban would have been history by now.

You don't know anything about International politics.....

If Nigeria should go to War, the implication of this is that it is a civil war and no International presence until a domino is established and they will negotiate with the domino .....

The interest is not Human but the material resources and anybody can grant that .....

Let the jungle take care of itself while we take care of the resultant effect and that's cheaper... Resources is now concentrate to Mars not one stu.pid Taliban war ....

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Klass99:
Those African Americans have got nothing on us, when it comes to drug use, pimping, gangs and murder. Most of their crimes (aggravated assault or murder) are so senseless, you wonder what is wrong with these people?

The black man has a serious problem and it is not only in Africa. I don't even mean this as a diss or insult to my own race, but mehn we've got issues.

If you can't holistically see the odds in your race but keep insulting other race then you would be an hypocrite.....

You have done nothing wrong ... The curse on Black is quite complex and there is need for more and much God/Good/Humanitarianism to lift the curse !!

Asgard73:
Apc is the problem...

Weda Na southerner or northerner... come 2023..

A vote for Apc is a continuation of an agenda that we’re seeing and witnessing

Taking Apc out is the road to bringing back peace and rapid growth

First take out the evil party.

There is no party, there are just individual using parties to nurture their agenda ... APC/PDP is same group of people ... expect mass decamp from APC to PDP 2022 ......

Hope they are paying you well

EKONGKING:
Where will Buhari and his online supporters go , if orginal landowners take back their land

They can't... The masterminds of herdsmen are very wise .... once such a coalition exists and they are serious .... Divide and Rule tactics will be set and launch .... All the Fulani needed Is just 1 billion naira and that coalition will be demoralized now.......

You don't understand this people .... They are more serious than the rest of Nigerian ethnic groups that's why indigene betrayed their own people and later to be betrayed !

Southernigbo:
u mean u haven't seen a holyman or holy woman whom ppl around pity because his or her spouse isnt his/her replica?

Holy man allows dick reason his matter or all this spiritual hypocrisy... marriage no be play ooo
... shine ya eyes and pray to God to mitigate factors beyond human conception.... Holy man spiritual hypocrisy and myopia go lead to weyrey marriage .... let your brain via God leads you !

Also, Tolerance and Love .... Marry someone who reason alongside similar philosophies as yours ......

Not Spiritual Hypocrisy or what your pastors/Alfas says ... This has ruined many homes ... Pastor/Alfa been hiding under spiritual hypocrisy to control couples home ...

We always point errors in others without watching ourselves........

Our behaviours good or bad is the major influence of how others behave towards us ....

You are what you attract ..... !!

OPTOSUN:
Build his own house in one day?
Where will a better house come from when he earn less salary?
Hmm

Lol, he should double his hustle as a Man ... That's what I will do to mitigate future possible consequences and influences from third parties from either families and/or frenemies.... People and factors that take advantage of little crack in a sweet home !!

E.g. he can use the opportunity to learn greater skills as a result of savings from house rent , advance his education, advance his professional competence or learn new skills via diversification .....

He just have to match up ... utilising her as a step ....... if he doesn't, devil will roll its head one day and it can escalate!

If I have a wife earning more than me ... Jesu, my life don over better Niyen because wetin i dey find for Texas in now inside my trousers!

bukatyne:
There is a problem with their marriage.

If the wife was building a house she wanted the family to live in, it is senseless to
1. Make it secret
2. Tell him a day to moving in

It shows utter disrespect and disregard to her husband.

Let him address it and they move in.

Personally, if a woman build a house without the husband Knowledge then that husband is faulty .... If she has confidence in you ... Woman are like tap water to the one they have confidence in .... Yaahhhh, she will run her Mouth .....