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Ebonyeyes:
And the guys are saints now? Negro please

ebonyeyes u too like trouble sef. when i said what i said, i din't call ur name o. i only said some girls. perhaps u're amongst the some? please let me know o. btw sef, u don't even know what i was talking about.

IyaKadijat:
I don't know. But I know tall men have a thing for short women! I'm only 5'2 and all my boyfriends in the past have been 6'2 and better. Even my child's father is 6'5. I guess I have a thing for tall men, too-since that's who catches my eye most of the time. But you know what they say: we're all the same length when we're laying down!

not only you, but 99% of most girls.

Some girls (in here) are just too naughty to be called a lady

Ebonyeyes:
Talking from experience hun

Really now?

virtuoso01:
You are the one who will decide if you want to continue with the relationship or not. It all depends on the kind of person you are and your philosophy of life.

Meaning if you're a "The more the merrier" kind of guy, then continue

kolaa007:
i dont watch nollywood films i dont watch naija films,

I was asking aisha2 so that she'd explain more. . .

@pringles

Don't bother arguing with them abeg. What works for one man doesn't for another. They should know that. Even the one saying he's married to a wonderful squared woman doesn't really know how true his words are.

aisha2:
Poster, yeh right, you wish. Too much of nollywood melts the brain.

What did you mean by too much of nollywood? Do you mean he watches too much of nigerian movies? What has that got to do with his problem?

pringles.:
thnx guys,im so relieved

U're welcome. I just wanted to be sure your mind is off him. I wouldn't want you to go through any stress because of someone who doesn't deserve it

Not sleeping with someone is considered playing hard to get for most people whose first and initial intention is sex.  

CrazyMan:
The truth is he loves the other girl; even tho he may have told you how he felt about you, he probably wasn't referring to you but to that thing in-between your legs.

I'm glad you didn't allow him in or else you would have been in so much pain by now, and I doubt if you would have had the strenght to start this thread.

I didn't know you could say something like this. . I called you crazy (in my mind) when i read one of the posts you made on this section

Hello people,

I just noticed a problem on my phone recently. I cannot use another sim apart from my Zain line. Whenever i try to do that, it asks me for a code (not pin code). I tried putting the only code i use, but it would not accept it. Can anyone tell me what to do to be able to disable or reset it?

Thanks. I hope to hear good responses.

@pringles

First of all i would like to say that u should try and 'organize' ur posts into paragraphs if they're long. I had a difficult time reading through but i get the whole gist.  

To your case:

1. Such a thing happens to guys as well. Girls lead guys on and at the end of the day they guys are left behind  

2. There must have been something that made him behave the way he did.

3. I would say you should just hold on and see what happens next. I don't think you should call him though cus that would mean extra attention for him, except of course you haven't taken your mind off him  

ariblaze:
btw @ op:  this guy indicated interest in you, for how long did he keep picking and dropping you in church

reason being that if the period was unreasonable long(relative) the chap might just assume you aint ready

thus moving on to another person

Ready for wat? To get down? Perhaps so  

speachless:
Wel i think he is no more into u.
Dats y he hasnt call.but u cant go on like dis since u care 4 him i wil advise u cal him u need an explanatn 4rm him

Don't u think calling him might make him think she's too into him (even if that how it is)?. If that's the case, then she has more to wonder about.

scottN:
However remember TIME IS OF ESSENCE!

Reminds me of a line in one of J-lo's song "Time is of the essence/Why spend it alone" . I don't think that's the state of the poster at the moment

omega25red:
Mumu and you are here complaining instead of you to join in then complain. you don miss your opportunity besides your relationship is over which is why you should have ended it with a BANG literally and figuratively.

Guy go and sleep!

@kola
I'm happy you brought this up. I've always wanted to ask a question such as the one you asked but never had the time to. I personally don't believe that you weren't doing your job properly that's why she did what she did. U should consider these:

1. The fact that she did it and begged you won't stop her from doing it again (99%).

2. If she decides to do it again, believe me, you won't catch her next time.

3. 'Only once' can make someone hooked to something. Is it sex, smoking, drinking etc etc? I know of a guy who's gay and when i 'interrogated' him, he said it was just asking about the 'phenomenon' called homosexuality that made him so cus he found out that later on, he developed the feelings.

My advice is this: Even if she wasn't a lesbian before, the feelings will not just go away. She might not be a full blown lesbian, but she deff is bi. Afterall, she has sex with you too. So if you know you can cope with that, then go ahead, forgive her and continue. But if not, well, just forget her and move on.

oge4real:
I think you should find out if it is a regular thing or just a one-time mistake. That will be the determinant of your next line of action.

From the storyline, i don't think it was a one-time thing.

@Julian
She's your wifey. Thank God for that. It doesn't mean that there's no possibility of her doing it or done it after you were married. Anyway i guess that's your own case. We're .

Eshyy:
U must be a joker u saw dat & u're askin wat 2 do, comeon its u lucky day 4 a 3some.

For you maybe.

Ebonyeyes:
You should have joined them, I thought that was every mans dream

Not every man. From what you said, i wouldn't be surprised if you're 'caught in the same act' too. I dey watch you with one eye closed

PHILEOLOVE:
HI,
[i]IT SHOWS U DON'T KNOW HER.[/i]CALL FOR A MEETING,HAVE A HEART TO HEART CHAT,DON'T BE TOO HARD.
FROM NOW ON,ORGANISE AN OUTING TO GET THE REAL HER OUT & SO THAT AN INFLUENCE CAN MADE ON WEAKNESS SUCH WILL BE STRONG.THERE MIGHT BE AN UNDERLYING FACTOR THAT IS RESPONSIBLE FOR IT.
GOD HELP U.

Do men really know women? If it were to be you, i don't think you'd be saying so, rather you'd be wondering so

@poster
To me, everything points to the fact that he's gay . Whether bi or homo, it is still the same thing.

He's a clean freak no doubt, but then it is what you as a girl should be

Even people like Rooneyboy _{(sorry pal, it's your name that came first to mind)} saying it doesn't matter, do you think they go to that extent in taking care of themselves? I think not!

@ThoniaSlim
The white man would always have a name for something they don't really understand or don't want to do without or condemn. I wonder what the next one will be . Megasexual?

Ebonyeyes:
I will take well groomed metrosexuals over smelly hygienic long nailed guys. "sick smiley"

Just because a metrosexual take 24hrs to groom themselves doesn't mean other guys are smelly too.

baybbootz:
mschewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww
bloody waste ov energy n batery advising u.
ol u nid atm z MOUTAIN OV FIRE MINISTRIES.

i almost forgot to say what i wanted to say to you cus of one person suffering from P.E.D.

i must say your pro tag line befits you jare

@post
The poster is obviously looking for some attention. Why would he need advise from others for something like this? Is he a kid? Did he need advise for stealing meat from the pot? . Whether he does it or not shouldn't be our concern.

@Ogaga
U think you can just come in here and talk rubbish? Where do you come from? Am sure you're from Delta State from your name. U've said your piece & advice abi? Then why insult other people because they say their own piece? Even if you're satan's right hand man na jege u dey. U can't do nothing. Don't forget that people have been there and done that. There was no gain and they left. So there's nothing new.

@poster

U just may be right. Although i am a guy myself, i would have been perplexed just like you. Assuming i've seen him face to face, na one hand i for take know. On a serious note, most gays are bi-sexuals too so one has to be careful.

r231:
@ poster

send one of your guy friend to chat him up and see what happens, if your friend comes bck with a black eye or NOT den dat answers your question

Abi?

Such a sin as this, i don't he should ask for forgive. And this is a lesson to fathers.

is amazing, first time in history to featuring someone,

Jattu? Is that where you're based too?

Outstrip:
Yes I was. I am Etsako. Home town is a few minutes from Auchi

Where are based now? And what's the name of your hometown? Can't say i'll know it, but got friends who're from Auchi.

Nweddings:
No she isn't

Okay . Was about to ask where she works lol

Yumi:
I expect the man to be a grown up and deal with the problem.  Why is that difficult?  Sit down talk about and try to find ways to resolve the problem and work on them.  It shouldnt get to the stage where the woman is nagging you if it has then its already late.  Men have to start taking responsibility in relationships too and recognise where things are going wrong.  Its always the woman doing the nagging cause she is trying to fix things to prevent a break up and that is not good as a relationship is a partnership.   I personally never nag a man cause I hate nagging, if your not going to contribute effort to the relationship why should I, I tell you about the problem a few times if you don't make effort to fix it and it all falls to bits so be it I am not going to force you.  I don't believe in forcing anyone to do anything if a man doesn't want to lose a woman he will fix up and cooperate to resolve problems if not he will ignore her and the relationship will become a total mess till they break up. Simple.

Point 1:
If there's a problem, what stops the woman from talking to the man about it? Are you saying women are not grown up? Perhaps you are, and that's why they nag in the first place. It's difficult because the woman does not see any reason to behave maturedly and [i]talk [/i]to the man, try to see why there's a problem in the first place and prolly fix it.

Point 2:
An irresonsible man wouldn't ignore her, but rather hit her (at least that's what i believe). A responsible man knows that even if he hits her, it doesn't guarantee that she'll stop nagging (it doesn't apply to all women as we both know). So the issue of 'taking responsibility' in relationships actually goes beyond trying to talk to a nagging woman.

Point 3:
You say it's [i]always [/i]the woman doing the nagging to prevent a break up? So the man doesn't try to prevent a break up too? From your post, am tempted to think that you believe most, if not all problems in relationships is the man's fault (with emphasis on 'tempted to believe').

Point 4:
Just as you don't believe in nagging (congrats to you), so do i. I personally believe that a woman must be able to get through to a man she's in a relationship with. If she can't, then i don't really see a 'relationship' there. Now, am not saying that men are not to be blamed sometimes, but you have to realize that more often than not, the 'problem' wasn't really a problem at all if they took the time to sit down and talk and not nag.

In conclusion to the above points, sometimes, when it comes to nagging, there are so many different reasons for it. If the man and the woman cannot sit down and talk about it, then perhaps the love has gone cold. If things go on and on like that and it becomes worse, it gets to a point where it'd be 'too late to apologize'.

@outstrip
Are you from Edo state? And were you talking to me?

Cayon:
@poster

FALSE.  men cheat more because of testosterone. the amount of testosterone in their body is directly related to their sexual drive and the chance of being promiscuous in a relationship.  Also men cheat more because of the way their brains are wired from since a baby.  Hence the phrase "men think with their d***

Peace

What is the chance ratio please? And since it's directly related, and not directly proportional, it goes to show that not all men would cheat simply because of their sexual drive. One more thing, what do women think with? Since it is said that women's brains are like that of fishes. _{No be me talk am o.}

Yumi:
when you start ignoring a woman and playing games like that you destroy the relationship. Women usually only nag cause they feel frustrated and because the man is ignoring a problem. Deal with the problem and sort it out and you stop the nagging. Things improve ignoring is a destructive thing and really disrespectful. If a man ignores you, you mean nothing to him.

U are right Yumi, but you have to understand that when a man responds to a woman's nagging, she might feel she's making the man angry, so she'll continue. But when you ignore her, she'll get the message and stop nagging eventually.

When a woman cannot talk to a man about an issue and instead of trying to work out a possible solution to the problem resorts to nagging, what do you expect the man to do? As to your assertion that if a man ignores a woman it means nothing to him, i'd say it's wrong. If that was the case, then the woman in question wouldn't be near the man in the first place.

I knew he was gonna fck up, what with all the noise he was making.

@topic
There are so many topics like this one, sometimes i wonder who's actually telling the truth. Let's assume you're saying the truth, then Missy B has already said everything you should know.

@Missy B
I love girls like you

bisan:

some of the ladies in this thread are acting foolish and supportive to this matter, lets be realistic and put this thing the other way round, wat if it was the guy that was stoped by a hot chick that just came in from florida?and then offers u a ride mysteriously, then ol of a sudden the guy starts falling 4 this gurl he just met on the high way, 4 wat, ?wat does it mean? that to u ladies its a crime, and simply because its a lady involved, some are being supportive instead of letting this gurl know how selfish she is and less 4giving this case issuch gurls should wake up oh>>>>>>>>

That's exactly what i always say! When it's the guys doing what she's doing, they'll start calling guys all sorts of name, but when it's the other way around, it's "perfectly natural". Well i don't blame them. It only goes to show how selfish they are, period!

Nuff said!!!

@poster
One thing is very clear. U're in love with the two guys for different reasons, so all you have to do is choose which of the reasons is best and will favour you. I can't say am surprised because i've always said this before: No matter what a guy thinks he has, there's always another guy out there who has it more and a girl will always be drawn to that guy. I'm only feeling sorry for your b/f.

sweetnekys:
My Sister ,all this your sharking legs and crying is because the guy tells you he come back from Florida and approching you with a clean car , do you know how many years he wasted there before bought that car  , please dont be a fool and dont let your self so cheap to men cuz all gliters are not gold and dont forget that he can even mess up as a play boy he is and fly back without updating you since he is only a stranger into your life but your boyfriend can stand by you come shine come rain plz dont be carried away by a material thing cuz it can fade anytime but your true love cannot ,just forget about the show boy cuz he is fake and only just trying to have u as his bedmate and nothing more .

U said it all.

breaka:
What a surprise my cousin happens 2 fall in love with me, God help me. She visited me after 15 years d last time i saw her.

Guys, what do you think i should do

One more thing to buttress my point. If what you're saying is [i]really [/i]true, it could be that the girl in question is just more than naturally excited to see him and you're confusing it for love. Then again, from your post (highlighted portion), you didn't exactly say she said so.