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@topic
Something's deff fishy here. It seems like this cousin thing is getting to be the [b]^top [/b]topic in this romance section. I posted something like this sometime ago, and i recently saw another one with almost the same title. Now this young man is posting this.

@Poster
From the tone of the topic, it seems to me like you also noticed what i noticed and decided to take you best shot at it. U can't tell me you've not seen the other topics before you posted this one. To me, you're just another attention seeker, gbam!

breaka:
dammmn!!!

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This proves my point.

Ogaga4Luv:
Man Carry Go jare. . .do your thing abeg.
But. . .remember to avoid telling people and keep it as Secret
between you both(Eye bling).

GoodLuck. . .

From your name, i deduce you're from Delta State? Am sure you know you can't do what you're asking the poster to do, which of course he knows he shouldn't do in the first place.

@topic
Mine was real cool. Didn't have much after that though, but i can say am real good when it comes to that. Anyone wants to try?

finemocha:
ok so now no more toasting ekwa, already im sure some of u guys dont even bother to practice fourplay, jeez,

I'm a fan of pre-intimacy! Without pre-intimacy, nothing o. Na only ashii no like pre-intimacy

Ebonyeyes:
Yall are crazy to think that every single girl that looks nice is doing that to attract men. I guess that's why they say some_{(I said "some" before yall come and kill me )} guys have big egos

I believe you small

@ebonyeyes
It works both ways true. Though not all guys do. I for one, don't. A freaky girl will always be devious and what's the use of that, except if i want to be devious too?

I could kiss you for the last line. May ur eyes always be ebony . Am not saying am boring or predictable, but i do have my moments . What others may call boring and predictable sometimes actually translates to level-headed and focused.

Nobody's going to crucify you for baring your mind, even though that's what NLders know how to do most!!

To answer your question? What happened to loving a man without putting money first?

Women still do that!! When they think the man's sincere. These days a guy tells me he likes me and I take a second look at myself to know if I'm wearing something revealing. Guys say one thing and mean the other. A guy approaches you with all sincerity and just when you decide to give him that chance, he shows you what he's really after . . sex!!

Now I'm not saying guys no longer go for ladies they really like or want something real from, but it's all come down to a 'How fast can I get her to bed' game!!

Most ladies have since learnt from experience that even that guy you think really loves you, and who you've decided to love back with all your heart, often turn out to be just like the other guys. So when a girl's going into a relationship, she's counting her losses from day 1 . . . .

First highlighted: these days, girls think all guys are not serious, so when they meet the serious ones, they don't know. Some bad ones has made things bad for the good ones.

Second highlighted: that explains my first point; they don't know the serious ones from the unserious ones again.

Third highlighted: not all guys! For me, as a rule, i try to be as close to a girl without having a relationship. That's not because i don't want to, but because more often than not, most girls think the same thing: "He's looking for sex". Having said that, i'll like to say that if i see (and that includes categorically, like) a girl, sex is the least thing on my mind. Inasmuch as that would be difficult to believe, it's the truth. I believe that there's more to a relationship than sex.

Fourth highlighted: don't you think that's because you didn't really know he didn't love you initially? I guess that goes on to show one more time, that the good girls meet the bad guys and vice versa.

@whitelexi
this goes on to prove what i've been saying that no matter how much you give a girl, there's always someone out there than can give it to her.

@iice
That's true, but the question is where are they? Fact is, they're slowly changing.

Ipsi:
What happened to guys getting to know a girl before wanting to jump her bones [s]You all want to get laid yet you dont want to spend money.[/s] If you want to be a womaniser you need to be generous not necessary lavish,show appreciation. And please enough with the flowers,

That's what am talking about, but it seems like most girls think there aren't guys who doens't think that way. For the "crossed section", i guess that applies to womanisers, cus it deff doesn't apply to me.

davidylan:
I see women going "all a man wants is sex" and i wonder whether women themselves dont want the sex.   Get into the relationship proper and you'll be the one begging for a good night's rest without all the "hold me here, do something now".

There are still women out there who will love a man without putting money first but i must be entirely honest, if my sister or cousin came to ask me whether she shld marry a dude, i will ask her if the guy has the potential to be financially secure (doesnt have to be rich). What's the use living a life of permanent pnury stuck with a man who doesnt see providing for you as a responsibility . . . now that you can choose do so wisely but not greedily. In marriage there is no second chance.

U got that one right, but what is the ratio to those that wouldn't? You would agree with me that it's on a ratio of 1:100 or even 1:1000. Having said that, i'd like to be clear on my post just incase there are some misunderstandings.

I do realize that money is neccessary, even for the guy. What i really mean is that money shouldn't be the determining factor for a girl to love a guy.

For the second highlighted text, do you really think it applies to the females these days? If so, why are the divorce rates going up every day with most of the reasons being infidelity?

I really pity them whenever I see them.

Really now? What do you do since you pity them? Dash them cash?

@poster

U're right, but i think we all know that, don't you think?

@poster
It depends on the girl and what your moves are like. Sometimes u don't really need it cus things just flow along and before you know it, the deed is done . It doesn't work all the time though mind you.

Personally, i don't really bother about such a thing cus i believe if you don't have what the girl is looking for, then just forget it cus it's no use. Either way, am

Ebonyeyes:
I suppose if you like a girl, you go ahead and tell her If not you will rot there.

U just speak your mind abi? .

@outstrip
Its not Ishan, but Esan. Ora is a part of Esan, just like Etsako. There are both under different LGA.

@ D. Luciano
If you read the post very well, i didn't say i was the one. It is a friend of mine.

@ baron
U're funny o, u're the only person who has said something like that. What's your own reasons for saying that. Chaircover has told me his/her reasons

@nethacker
IS chaircover really a biologist?

They talk about anything and everything, but guys are always top of the list, followed by what the guys can give and the hierarchy goes on like something like that

@iice
I would like to ask: why exactly we won't see you in the company of girls? Please don't tell me that it's because of what they talk about? Surely, what hbabe said isn't bad things to talk about with your fellow girls.

This one's for the females in here and all over the world.

I've always wondered what happened to the times when women loved men without thinking of money and other things first. These days, it seems that even that doesn't work any more. This is because no matter what the guys give to the girls, they always seem to be looking out for someone who has it more.

In the same vein, they (the female folks) complain so much about guys being all sorts of things, forgetting that "for every action, there's an opposite but opposite reaction" . The action being they value money more than love, and the reaction being that the guys value what the money can give

So once again, i ask: What happened to loving a guy without putting the money first?

I know most people (guys and girls alike) will crucify me on what i've said, but i know that y'all know that what i've said is not entirely false, neither is it stupid

Ur humble comments are welcome. No matter what you say, we're

Ebonyeyes:
Personally me, I dont really care for materialistic wooing I just want a guy to connect emotionally and that seems to be lacking in most of the guys im meeting who are female kitty-cat chasers

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You got that one right babe. Thumbs up for you! That's what i keep telling all the girls i meet, but it seems like money + materials is the key to them hearts. . Infact i think me and you got a lot in common, beginning from this lol.

@N2A
U said all bro!!! I like the first point (especially the ones in subscript). It's like what i always say, "No matter how much a girl loves you, there's always one guy out there that can make her either change her mind or misbehave". Seems like i'm slowly getting a witness

@topic
We should ask the historians

@poster
I think the question you should have asked is "What happened to loving one woman and one woman alone?". Perhaps i should ask my own question too

It's quite an interesting news i must say. If Chelsea really is guilty of this crime, then i'd say the sanction is in order, but if not, ?

don_ciccio:
For Mikels case, he  wud have been a CALAMITY if he has chosen manu "oil" not under d@ effing faggy "racist"

U may think so, but have you thought about  if he'd actually gone to Man U? U can't decide for him yknow? Although he plays for Chelsea, if you were to ask him, he'll still say his fav team is Man U, that i can certainly say! It's like saying one would love to work in an oil company and finds himself in a bank. That doesn't mean he won't want to work in a bank if given the chance, nuff said about that!

efeboy:
Na wao ebe like say the contractor wey dey supply all this governing bodies tea dey add two two wraps of marijuana inside.  

Eduardo - two match ban.

Chelsea - two transfer windows ban.

Make dem no carry am reach Super eagles o.  

Imagine if they say Super eagles squad that will play tunisia on sunday, will play with minus 2 players -9 players.  

Guy u're funny. Seems like the marijuana is getting to their heads abi?   . If they should bring it along to the Super Eagles camp, then that means e don be for us na.  

But seriously o, if we should look at this whole thing from a different angle, it seems the big four et the big spenders are being targeted. Perhaps, they want to bring each of them down one way or the other, only the toughest will stand it all i believe,

Why's y'all still whining and whinnying about the match? The game's been played, and it was won by MAN U simple as that. If anyone's saying that Rooney dived, then that means that Eduardo dived too in their match against Celtic. Lets wait and see if Rooney'd still be given a 2-match ban

Whether some of you hate Premier League and UEFA or not, EPL is still a must-win league and someone wants to win it. EUFA is a governing body and are going to be, sorry o

As per Eduardy, i told a fanatical fan of Arsenal that that was diving, and his response was "that's what he was bought for". Meaning he knew how to create a foul, whether it was by diving in a very stylish form or not

Anyway, enuff talking, e don happen like P-Square sang,

All this noise of who's more than who is getting me all 'foncused' lol. No one exactly knows who exceeds who in Nigeria, yet the world. I guess one reason for some people saying that males exceed females is because not every man is ready to get married.

@sexy back et al
if you don't have anything else to say, why don't u just look for another topic to reply to instead of saying trash. i wonder what you guys gain by quarreling and hurling obscenities at people you don't even see.

@adaku123
ur right about gay guys being many now, but there are also gay females too. u think we guys don't want the best too?

@Kayflexy1
hit me up @ messenger (huzlerkcijoe) and let's talk about ur single if you're serious, i like people like you.

@chaircover

are you talking as a fact, or possibility? am asking because isn't that supposed to happen only when there's already a disorder?

Who says Arsenal will win the match? Just because they managed to win some clubs doesn't mean they're gonna win this one. It's gonna end 3 - 0!
Arsenal has no ammunition, all they got is a big water gun

Exactly!!!

@tpia what are the dangers involved in breeding?

@Nezed Okay now i understand you. It can't be acted upon. Like we both (all) know, we can't control our feelings all the time, and anything could happen.

What if the girl in question finds out that she feels the same way, even if a little? That question is for the females here, put yourselves in the girl's shoes and ask yourself the question. What would you do?

And oh, i'm not eyeing my cousin lol

@Fhemmy i only wonder, it doesn't mean i agree with him . Afterall, Nezed sef confuse lmao!

@seun, the parents ur own cousins am sure are of the same parents too right?

@flemmy that's what he's thinking too, but i wonder if he's not right

@Nezed yea he's a Nigerian all right. U think? U see y he's confused?

There's one more thing i didn't say, this girl in question, i've talked to her often times when she calls my friend and am afraid that if she gets to know how he feels, she just might be tempted considering that she likes him too, but not as much as he does her.

Wow. Just yesterday, i was walking along the road when i thought about this same thing,

First of all, y am i not surprised that its a female asking the question lol. Secondly, having a fantasy doesn't always mean getting reality, shit happens but we pray that it's the good ones  .

Personally, i believe it's not about how big or small a wedding is, but how big the marriage is. Not everyone who has a big wedding end up having an big marriage with love, happiness and the rest of the perks that is neccessary. But of course, these days it seems like love = money for most people whether the wedding is big or small.  

spikedcylinder:
@ topic
Odd, I've never dreamed of a wedding. [/color]

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Now u expect us to believe that? And u're a female?  

@topic, it depends on what she wants, i don't really care whether the wedding is big or small, as long as i can provide the necessary ingredients that'll make the marriage better with each day.

Hello NLders,

There's something that has been bothering me for quite a while and i wanted to share it here. I have a friend who's quite close to me and we go way back. He once told me about a cousin of his whom he said he likes very much. Initially, i thought it was just the normal family thing. Recently though, he's been talking so much about this cousin of his, that i began to suspect something else. 

At a point i decided to 'confront' him about the issue and he opened up to me that he's 'noticed' that his feelings has always been much more than what he thought. Although he didn't exactly say it, but i believe he's really in love with her. Before anyone starts condemning or commending him or his feelings, let me explain something.

This cousin of his is actually what some people will want to call 'Step cousin'. I don't know if such a word exists though. Anyway, the girl in question is a daughter to his mum's step-sister. His mum and the aunt share the same mum, but different fathers. I guess we can all do the 'calculation' lol.

Personally, i've tried talking to a few of our friends, but most of them think that there's nothing really wrong with it. I decided to bring up the issue in here since there'll be diverse opinions and hopefully, mature comments. There's one more thing though, the girl doesn't know or suspects anything, so they haven't done anything.

That's an absurd question. Y would you marry your cousin? Only thing i can say is that the guy should go ahead and marry her and tell us wat happened after, then we can talk about it

Let me put another twist to the poster's question,

If you had a cousin who's mum is ur mum's step-sister. What does that make her? A step-cousin? If so, can you marry her if you're in love with her?

They do it for so many reasons, and none of them excusable. One thing they forget is that at the end of the day, the married man might not get married to them. When that happens, they'll try to attach to one innocent good guy. If that doesn't happen, then e don be for them , nonsense!

@George
Where do you stay in Warri? Am also in Warri too.

CGKing:
Oil is not a curse, it is a blessing, after all it is blessing other countries. Why is Nigeria so different. The African way of thinking is THE CURSE.

Meanwhile the world powers are gearing up together in haste to reduce global warming. Key among their agenda is the reduction of the world's dependence on oil. Electric bicycles have been produced. Electric cars are months away from introduction.

Nigeria hasnt begun to feel the bite yet. We will all wake up one day and find that all those hassles over fuel were for nothing. MEND will BEND that day.

When that day come eh, dem go remember am!  

Beaf:
Do the f.ucking refineries in Warri and PH even work? No! They're just symbols of failure; which have resulted in "lovers of Nigeria" building deports to import fuel whereas we are a major oil producing country.
Whats the point in bombing skeletons?

I tire o. Most people are talking about MEND doing what they are doing because they want a better life for "Niger Delta". If one should ask them who are Niger Deltans, they'll tell you that it's the (Ijaws), yet if we're to go geography, the Niger Delta consists of more than 5 states.

While am not entirely saying that they're doing wrong by wanting a better life for themselves, what they're doing is intepreted to be nothing but rebel actions. The money they get from kidnapping, what do they do with it? Do they try to give their people a better life? No. U see them buy expensive cars, build house etc etc.

At the end of the day, they're only fighting for themselves. I tell a friend of mine who's in support of the kidnappings (who also is an Ijaw) that when things become good, they'll start fighting themselves and their 'leaders' then.

And for those of you who are talking about tribal sentiments and all, i don't think it has anything to do with the original post.

shoboy9:
Very Unfortunate.
Mend obviously considers Lagos a 'soft target".
so we may expect more attacks in future.
Unless they are "taught a lesson".
in other words, effective deterrent.
But OPC is too disorganised to do anything of such.
So more attacks to come,

Wat does OPC have to do with this?

naijaking1:
Let the truth be told
Everything in Nigeria is mostly about tribe, that's the way it's been from the time of Awo/Zik/Saduana, till this time; haven't you heard about the various meetings to protect the interest of the north? the south west and south east? Everything is about tribe. MEND is about tribe too. If the eastern Nigeria was not seen as being too divided, weak, and disorganized how could people come from the north and the west to rape the environment in the name oil extraction?
It's all about tribe, let's just admit it.

@bolded, MASSOB is about tribe, not MEND. Seems u don't understand acronyms  

@nues or is it seun?
I don't think he is, that's y i ignored his post.

George_D:
yes. biafra should be allowed to go their way. so also all the
rest of the country

Can they?

@Onlytruth
What is the truth? The truth is the actualization of Biafra was supposed to have happened in 1960. It didn't.

skyranger:
Guys i tink it's dragging too long an issue,
and it's a bit hard to swallow, Nigerian armed forces don't have snippers' unit or trainned batalion.
the only know case or the best ever spoken of was Sgt Rogers and we all read about his target,
He missed !
take it or leave it, if we have snippers, robbers would not be holding streets and cities captive for hours when all it takes to end their deadly miserable and tormenting lives is a good snipper from even 3km away,
I'm not disputing the fact that she was rescued, i just want her to leave the snipper part out of it,
Surely, we could have personel trained in the act of snipping, i strongly doubt if we have their tools in our armories accross all bonkers (we are talking about; high velocity caliber riffles attached to a personel with an attribute to sit tight for days w/o moving a muscle. just waiting for that killer view),
If the personel exist definitely not the tools,

I think you should go live in the sky man. I can authoritatively tell you that they do have a snipers unit. I have some friends who are in the military and have even gone to Serra Leone and back. Funnily enough, one is a sniper who was tested by a major (not Nigerian) before they went for peace keeping. U won't believe this (prolly cus ur head is in the sky ), but among the ones tested was a female.

@jp hillips
U're very correct, we do have babies in here.