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TonyeBarcanista:
By Tonyebarcanista

Most people falsely misconstrue Alpha males to be irresponsible men filled with arrogance and are disrespectful towards women. They misconstrue Alpha males with with cocky males.

Many also misconstrue guys that are body builders with nice physique to be alpha males. Some misconstrue wealthy and fierce looking men as alpha males. Some even misconstrue womanizers, famous or people of high status to be alpha males. While some alpha males may belong to the aforementioned groups, not all those groups are alpha males.

Who Is An Alpha Male?
An Alpha male is the real man. He is a man's man and a warrior. He is very confident and a stand-up guy. Irrespective of what you call him, he is a leader. He is the guy others look up to for motivation, inspiration, and often with a hint of jealousy. He is a man that knows what he wants, confident of himself and can't be tossed around. The alpha male knows his power as a man and doesn't use it as tool for oppression. He can't be manipulated by women, and this makes him attracted to women. He's the kind of man every woman want. The Alpha male is mentally and emotionally strong but kind. He is very Confident, yet humble, he assertive, yet gentle at times. He is very powerful, yet calm and tempered. He has self worth yet doesn't proud! He is the kind of man every man should be. He is the kind of man that every woman crave for and hold in high esteem.

Who Is A Beta Male?
Beta males are men that always seek to fit in. They are the typical human pleasers with little or no opinion. Beta males in relationship and marriages are the typical Mr Nice Guys that always bury their thought, desire and want so as not to offend their partners. They are typical followers that always seek to blend with the society. They are not stand alone guys as they are easily manipulated. Because of these traits, Beta males are often disrespected and controlled by their partners, the society, their church, families etcetera.

ALPHA MALES VS BETA MALES

1. In Relationship
Alpha males go for who and what they want, and are men with standards. When their partners err, they are not afraid to speak their mind, address the problem and speak up when the boundaries they set are crossed. They inform their partners on the effect of their ill informed, they tell their partners the consequences on the relationship and take action to ensure that the partner falls in line. Alpha males don't seek conflicts but are not afraid to tackle conflict head on. They are active and not passive

But Beta males don't have any standard nor boundaries that they hold sacred. They would rather endure and die in silence when their partners err because they are afraid of causing conflict in their relationship. The ones that speak up do so in form of a plea or nag. They are passive men that live with burden in their heart in their bid to maintain peace that they never get.

2. Gentlemen Vs Mr Nice Guys
Alpha males are polite, nice to others, respectful but respects themselves and aren't doormat; Alpha male will never allow anyone treat him like second fiddle no matter what. An Alpha male priories his own well-being, irrespective, he genuinely care about the needs of the people in his life and want the best for others. He does this not do this for validation, to gain attention or to be praised by people around him, he simply does it because it is the right thing to do. When an Alpha male doesn't agree with you, he tells you.

Beta males on the other hand may be nice, courteous etc, but they don't prioritise themselves. They are doormat, Yes-man. They are nice because they need the validation and they agree to a fault because they want to maintain the "Mr Nice Guy" tag.

3. Beta Males Are Bitchy, Alpha males Accepts or Change A Situation:
Alpha males takes responsibility for their lives. Once anything happens in their lives, an Alpha male seeks to do something about it. If an Alpha male finds his partner with another man, he takes action- whether to breakup with her or any other action. An Alpha male makes decision for himself; whether relationship, career or whatever.

But Beta males always look at someone to pass blame on. They don't take responsibility, they bitch over it. A Beta male will find his partner in an unpleasant situation with another man, he runs to his pastor, family or social media to bitch about it... Seeking their help to take action because "he doesn't want to act irrationally". He's a weak man! Simple!!!

4. Genuine Connection Vs validation
An Alpha male always seek genuine connection and friendship with their partners and people around them. They have no time for fake relationship. Alpha males don't seek anybody's validation to feel good. They are true to themselves.

Beta males are pretenders. They desire validation of their partners, friends and society to feel good about themselves. They are fake towards themselves and others around them because they suppress their true feelings for external validation.

5. Alpha males trust themselves to make decisions for their lives, Beta males follow popular opinion.

An alpha male may consult others before making decision, he evaluates the response he gets, and compare with what he had always wanted to do. If he still believe that his desires is the best for him ahead of popular opinion, he follows his mind, makes his decision and swim or sink with it without blaming others.

Beta males consults with people, he may or may not evaluate responses, but he follows popular opinion even if it doesn't tally what he really wants because of his conformist character. He is always ready to blame others should his decision not turn out the way he wishes.

I will stop here!

I remain TonyeBarcanista

So u wrote all this things or u copied it from somewhere? The write up is full of flaws.

SwagPower:
I love my sister to bits.Shes my most favourite person in the whole world.
She's married to this guy..Good guy,Quiet,Mr nice guy basically a Beta Male.

She runs circles about him.

I'm torn between doing right by her since she's blood ...But I also feel sorry for her hubby as a guy ..Thing is I want to help him to be more assertive and Man his house..How do I do this without it backfiring on my sister..

Matured responses please..
(Let's make this discourse like something on Quora or Reddit).

Lol, hilarious story. It's shows how naïve u are. Some men prefer their women to boss them around. Doesn't mean they are weak. Don't think anything u say will make any impact on the situation. Best thing for u to do is eye's right and walk past. Makes Ur life easier.
Thank me later

Ma wah for these people. So invariably, Yoruba Muslims are not real Muslims? Ok, over to the Yoruba Muslims. Make una answer these fools

Papanwamaikpe:
And do what? Beat or arrest the girl? Was the your son not the one that asked her out?

Beat and Arrest Ur imagination is playing overtime. No not that.
Get to know the kind of person the son is associating with. She could be a great influence over the boy in question so the parents need to get to know her and if she is cool then embrace her too. This would help the boy understand they mean well.
Besides correct me if am wrong but nowhere in the topic was it shown that the boy asked her out. Like I said Ur imagination is playing overtime

yenereal:


I did this when I was his age. How can I advise?

Well Mia doesn't look older from their chats; Mia may be 15 or same age with him.
No matter how over-protective you are, he may still find other options.
He has entered the bloom of youth, so beating him may not make any difference. You may seize his phone.
But most importantly, you need to advise him. Tell him he's not up to the age of being in a relationship yet, the consequences he'll face and the shame he'll bring to the family should he get the girl pregnant. This should be the time you need to become more friendly with him.
He needs advice.

That's why he has to meet the other kid.

Banty6:
He’s not even 18 yet I’m responsible for him so thank you

U are doing the right thing. Also make sure to let the so called Mia and see for urself who that is.

Shelloween:
Stop invading your Son's privacy Nwokem.

Are u for real? He is just 16. Pls no vex but I will invade all the invadable privacies till he is 18. Any mistake one makes now with him na a lifetime of regret. Pls OP get to the bottom of the shit and make sure u met that person sending him all these messages.

Basalt:
I actually shared for others to be aware and beware of your pessimism.

Like I said, ur problem not mine. U don't know me so doesn't matter what u think. Nothing one says on NL has any influence on anyone's decision, u should know that by now.
Cheers

Basalt:
You guys should disregard drnoel's comments.
All he does on nairaland is jumping from one abroad thread to another causing troubles and discouraging people from traveling out.
Check his previous posts and you will understand what I am saying.
The more you read his posts, the more you get discouraged.
I am yet to see any optimism in any of his posts, it's always pessimism.
Listen to him at your own peril

Lol, I believe we all know that's not true but it's Ur problem what u think. Don't be a sore loser. U give me too much credit by Ur comments, I really don't have that much time on my hand.
Anyways Ur problem not mine.

Blindersoff:
You should know that absolutely nothing you eventually post would contradict such an academic ruling by the Supreme Court.

This ruling was too simple and justifiably ruled

How can it be justifiably ruled if the total number of voters exceeds those accredited to vote? Don't u smell a fish somewhere?

Righteousness89:
I don't seem to understand..

Is Asiwaju Talking with both sides of His mouth?

It's Highly dangerous to be in the Middle..

He can't take sides yet. Bibi is yet to make his stance known so Tinubu would be weary of making his stance known

stupidity:
I have this ex girlfriend of mine, before we became ex’s, pre-dating level, she had this guy that travelled outside Nigeria, she by herself said the guy is done that he no longer shows interest. Within days we started dating. Fvcks was good, she can’t do without it.(if you leave a hot babe for Nigeria and travel outside, I don’t know what to tell you).

Few week into the relationship, I caught her still texting her ex with everything on display. Guy man came back after few months, unto “I just got back” things, he smashed the babe multiple times without mercy, no regard for me.


I maintained my cool, and amicably broke up with her, even took her out on a breakup date on the break up day.

So literary speaking, I’m now smashing her, with reckless abandon. What was done unto me in the past. I’m not sure if there’s a new guy currently or if the old guy is still having a share. So it goes on and on. we guys can’t even advise a sister but we are enjoying the dividends.

What am trying to say is that we men are really scum.

Yep! We have a confirmed winner. A child is in the house.

Righteousness89:
The Most Patrotic Leader on Earth..

Be deceiving urself

Stephanie09:
My brother you are the aggressive one , nobody is quarreling with you. Because you have PR now, you think that’s the end of the world. I am only saying your advice to that person can mar or make them . If your experience is not the situation at hand there’s no point confusing anyone. Please, some of us have this PR and we are not insulting anybody .
Thank God say man no be God, you have PR , you want to bring down the whole nairaland.

U too, u need to grow up. Allow the matter die

bezimo:
I say things from my own perspective and experience there is no point been aggressive about your response.The PR you are hustling for.. I have it already.While your experience might be different from mine..doesnt suggest mine should be negated as the circumstance may be different.

I used 1 year continuous NYSC experience to succeed in the process as my primary Noc, I had initially put another experience in the primary Noc but then ran in to issues.Then I declined my ITA and removed the other experience and put it it in the additional experience part and it worked out fine as I was fortunate to get the ITA again 2 weeks later, which worked out fine.

Not necessary bros, u guys need to grow up

wengerly:
Happy New Year good people.

If there is anyone landing in Calgary on Friday 24, 2020, i am available and willing to pick you from the airport at no cost.
I have some free time that day. Buzz me let's arrange.

God bless.

Wow, wonderful. Keep the good work up.

Principessa0:
Dear Justwise, it is unfortunate that you were so quick to close a thread started on this topic. I know you know a great deal about Canada visas however, not all visas fall under student visa which I believe you have become an expert. There are different types of work permits for working in Canada.
Here are some types that I know of:
SOWP: for spouses of people already in Canada
Open work permit: No restriction on jobs you can apply to and you are not a spouse.
Closed work permit: You need LMIA and must only work for a specific employer.
LMIA Exempt Work Permit: Mostly for people who have been nominated for Permanent residency in a Canadian Province but need a work permit to resume work before PR processing is complete. You are given a work permit letter along with your provincial nomination certificate.

There are some of us who may have a PR application in progress but also have a work permit application in progress. We cannot benefit from the information in the Visitors, Students (Travelling to Canada) and Federal Skill workers program. I have a PR in progress but it is not even under Federal Skill workers/Express Entry.

Anyway, I think this thread (SOWP) applicants is close enough to contain information that might be relevant to our case, though my Work permit is not SOWP. Please do not Close this thread!

What is this? Is this tongue lashing for Justwise alone? Bros take heart, e go better.

I know I mentioned I won't be making any comments but I would rather like to point out that students hoping to study in Germany should pls be careful of the Eastern regions. The vibes there are really depressing.
Thanx for Ur attention. Cheers!

Why do they have surgical masks on?

crafteck:
I laugh in Spanish at unforseen contingencies that may arise

U can laugh in Ur dialect for all u want. When is the unforseen circumstances to arise? Is it after knowing someone for 15 yrs and being married for 10?
U are a kid so mature up fast and stop that rubbish.

Ladylite:
Truthsayer009 wow your pastor didn't know times had changed ni. Also many of these get their notion from bishop oyedepo and the story is not even complete.

The best way to handle marriage talks is to ask them to contribute money for your wedding. Then you will see the True hypocritical nature in man. They all just want to push other people, they do not really care.

Lol, that mistake u don't want to make. My elder one made that similar mistake and when he returned home after a few months they had married a wife for him in absentia. We all laugh tire.
That was years ago

crafteck:
Yes, 1 of my accounts

My madam who is my Generalissimo (not housewife) knows both of them. Respect each others boundaries is the key.

anyibuofu:
@drnoel Thank you for comment.

Currently I am a software engineer in Lagos and recently received an offer from a tech firm based in Vienna.

Basically I will like to know more about:

1. What the day to day experience(shopping, commute) is for a non German speaking foreigner especially one from Africa.
2. How bad is racism
3. Experience finding an apartment and rough estimate of cost

Currently I earn NGN 615,000 monthly after tax and I must admit it's enough to provide an okay comfort for my family. My main drive for wanting to leave is the career experience this opportunity brings and raising my son in a working society but I will appreciate if I can hear the experience of other people.

U could ask the mod to move Ur thread to the front page

Pls Nigerians living in Austria or German speaking countries in Europe answer this man.

Basalt:
The last thing I will do in this world is to seek answers from someone who is not straightforward.

By right I don't normally reply insults but am at fault for even commenting on the previous topic.
Just move on and act like I didn't write anything before now. There are ways to get information from others, going directly for the jugular is not one of them. As it is, I won't share my limited opinion and do apologize if my comments brought the devil in u out.
If u understand my rhetorics then pls move on. I won't be commenting on this issue again. Cheers!

Basalt:
You are indeed very annoying honestly.
With all these series of posts, you are yet to pinpoint any area where he is wrong and then correct it with what you think is right. People like you are the reason why most people don't comment here again.
Please this thread is for information purposes. Hit the nail on the head and stop beating around the bush

Sorry if I didn't give u the answer u seek. Cheers!

odimbannamdi:
Bros, i never said i am experientially knowledgeable in this endeavour. I am just an applicant and the little knowledge i have is based on research and direct experiences from people like him on here.

Yes, you did condemn his post. Go back and read what you wrote. You said he did terrible in some part of his post, while the others "seem" fine. That can as well mean, his post doesnt make sense at all, according to you.

And the moment you condemned his posts, you made us wary and obligated yourself to at least point out the errors in his post (not even to correct them) so that we will get better informed.

Is that too much to ask?

Well am no novice on the topic in question. He stressed his major points on the students aspects of living and working in Germany. That is what I meant by he being wrong on some aspects cos I know many Nigerians already citizenship with good jobs in Germany. These people will give u another scenery of the discussion.
I also know a few Nigerian students living in Germany and what they say fits to the picture the OP painted.

anyibuofu:
I am contemplating changing jobs which requires relocating to Vienna. Please if someone knows or is a Nigerian professional based in Austria, Vienna to be precise I will appreciate if you can leave a comment I need to get your view of the City and life in general.

U need to educate readers on Ur area of interest and speak a little about urself before people would be willing to share their stories