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Okoroawusa:
There is nothing anyone that has been to Dubai will tell you that will be like you entering a plane n landing in Dubai yourself.


When you enter marriage you go see with your eye. Woman wey you wan carry enter room no need to dey pinch her for road. Be patient... yansh go tear young woman reach where e tear old woman. You hear?

As long as the Yash tearing na only one knife cause am

Ghostfaze:
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Hello everyone.
I have an unusual issue at hand and it's really giving me a headache.

I have a girlfriend I met in August this year when I traveled to my state from Abuja. She's beautiful, a graduate, and she's everything I have ever wished to have in a woman or so I once believed.

I loved her and our relationship was going to lead to marriage.

After we met in August I traveled back to Abuja and a few months later her NYSC call up came. She told me about it and we planned that she will serve in Abuja. I paid one NYSC man to work her posting but unfortunately, she was posted to another Northern state.

On her way to the state where she was posted she stopped over at my place in Abuja on the 3rd of November, That night we had sex without a condom and after the sex, I gave her a pregnancy prevention drug tablet I had collected from a doctor.

She refused to take the drugs not until after much persuasions. The next morning, some thick blood mixed with water started coming out of her and she was also having stomach pains so I called the doctor that gave me the drugs and he said we should come to his hospital.

We got to the hospital and after explaining to him what happened the doctor said she was already pregnant before taking the drugs that's why her body reacted that way to the drugs.

She denied that she's pregnant and eventually she had to undergo a pregnancy scan. The result came out negative but the doctor kept on insisting that she was pregnant and that the reason why the result came out negative is because of the drugs she took and how young the pregnancy is.

She left for home angrily that day and I had to beg her to forget whatever it is that happened.

A few days later she left for NYSC camp in the state where she was posted. After two weeks she started complaining to me that she's been feeling cold, hungry, and sleepy often than she used to.

I told her that it could be because of the change of weather and the approaching harmattan season. While she was in camp I was working for her to be reposted back to Abuja and somehow she didn't want to serve in Abuja again. She wasn't really open to me about that but she was subtly letting me know of her desires.

Finally, her reposting worked out and she came down to Abuja three days ago. Today she told me that she wants to go for a pregnancy test and I obliged and escorted her to another hospital different from the one we previously went to the first time she came to Abuja.

After the test and scan, the result said she's 6 weeks and 2 days pregnant. We went to another hospital and the result came out the same.

Remember that I first had sex with her on the 3rd of November. Tomorrow will make it a month I had sex with her but she's already 6 weeks and 2 days pregnant.

I could not understand why she should be 6 weeks pregnant when it's not been up to 4 weeks I had sex with her. I have asked her to tell me if she slept with someone else earlier before she came to Abuja but she has maintained that she did not.

I have equally asked the two doctors we met today plus a few other doctors I spoke with on the phone if they think that I'm responsible for the pregnancy but their answers are all contradicting.

Now I'm confused. She's in my house, with a child I'm certain does not belong to me. I don't know what to do. I'm really really confused. Please, any mature advice would be gladly appreciated.

Thank you!

The pregnancy is urs. Man up and take responsibility. If u still doubt then wait till the baby is done then u do DNA and have Ur peace.

DRPAIT123:
How come about two to three doctors forgot to explain something as basic as this to OP, or am I the only person who is thinking this way.
Thumbs up to you anyways

That is one thing. The other thing are the ignoramuses above talking shit they have no knowledge about.
The 3 doctors contradicting themselves is no new feat besides transmitted message is always distorted. I agree with u and u are not the the only person that thinks in that way

Finchmgh:
You must be the greatest fooool on planet earth to spew something as stupid as your write up from your demented brain.

You called yourself an educated person and yet your common sense couldn’t figure out the fact that the lady was already pregnant before her weakling boyfriend slept with her.

Based on the numerous evidence littered on the OP writeup, it’s so obvious that the lady was already pregnant before sleeping with her Useless and irresponsible boyfriend.

The guy u insulted just stated the known truth which u are ignorant of knowing. What u should have done was to STFU and open Ur brain so u cab learn but no, u must show Ur ignorance and their we have it.

donstan18:
D'fvq did I just read?

A lady presented a pregnancy of 6 weeks plus to you, when it's not even upto a month you had your first sex her, and here you are, asking for matured advice.

Are you normal? Like, are you under some charms or what?

The first doctor made it clear to you then that she was pregnant before she took the pregnancy prevention pills, you never took it serious.

Now, two doctors have cleared you on how old the pregnancy is, even without giving you a possible reason to believe that you are responsible for it, yet you are asking for matured advice.


Nna nawao! What is toto gradually turning to people's common sense to. This story just dey piss me off.

Children have a way of always showing their ignorance. Ur comment shows just that.

betterview3:
I did a CT scan with contrast. I have the plate and film. The radiologist, who owned the centre was a prof at UNN.

He said my ailments were in my head. And asked whether I wanted MRI. Although he didn't have the machine in his clinic.

The consultant gastroenterologist at UNTH said the CT result was okay. That everything is okay structurally. He wasn't patient enough though to check other things.

Although he gave the impression that other things could be wrong.


I am just tired.

They should have ordered an MRI to be sure cos it could have been Crohn or ulcerative colitis which could be seen on MRI.
Or it could be irritable colon or sprue which maynot be seen in some cases

hotwax:
Lets teach you amateur.

1. I lady who is disvirgined the first time will be afraid of sex the second time until someone convince her the second one will not be painful
2. A once sexed girl pussy can never be as loose as that.

Na so people mumu reach?

U r having sex with a virgin and u r not even feelin ur dick inside her

What kind of yeye adultrated virgin is that?

U deserve her seriously...People like you raise bastard kids

U just insert ur dcks without thinking twice...

My exes that even release while havin sex with me...I still feel my dick inside them... Tell me... my exes are not sexually aroused...they r just releasing fluids.. COme and give me another yeye theory

Use ur senses and learn...bunch of rookies

Ur comments speak volumes about Ur immaturity, Ur naivity and Ur childish mindset.

U really are a child, trying to teach Ur betters about a woman's Psych and vagina that u obviously have no knowledge about.

Do u think that having pussy makes u an expert of women, their psych or their anatomy?
Pls don't repeat the nonsense u posted above again in a public forum, their is no form of truth in it.
Do u know how many female anatomy we have had to see in the course of our profession?
U really should to be ashamed for throwing such trash around.
Pls move on, I won't be replying u again. Ur ignorance is mind blowing.

issylarry:
No b ur fault..u no go see d food chop next time..

Dey lucky say dem no break in head. I know someone that was shot cos of mistaken identity cos of pussy. Na after them find out say na mistake dem begin say no vex, sorry. But weting sorry go do na? In done already chop bullet.

baldman:
I am writing this in case this can be of help to those who have missed good girls because of lack of basic knowledge about female arousal. You mentioned that this girl is sexually inexperienced and the last time she got in a sexual situation was two years ago. She got down with you, your was Hot as hell, doing some thing she has not done for a while with a man she finds attractive, her Vjay got super excited and tented.

According to you "When I was kissing her all over her body, she was shaking as if she. Was demon possessed and she was grabbing my dick rushin it inside her pssy."

This above is the natural reaction of a girl that is super turned on whether she is a virgin or not.

She was wet enough and her Vjay was well relax, and you judged her to be a liar just because her body functioned as it ought to?
Moreover have you not realized that women's vjays come in sizes just as men's.

You said you touch the wall of your ex sometimes. I bet those were days that she was not particularly aroused.

It is the reason the bible advises that sex should be in marriage, anyone who opens herself to these inexperienced, selfabsorbed young men will be treated like a piece of rag and trashed. And you stand a good chance of missing the right woman if you continue to judge them based on how 'tight' they are down there.

God is wise and His Word is perfect. If you go on engaging in sex before marriage you are bound to measure a woman's ability to become a good wife based on all the wrong qualities i.e. how tight she feels or your perception of her purity based on her virginity or inexperience. A woman is much more than her vjay and boobs. The women getting kicked out of marriage , do you think it has anything to do with the vjay or boobs.

If you canmot trust her, it is not her problem, it is yours. She told you she has only heard sex more than once, you could not believe her because she was not tight enough, we dont even know if your junk is belo average.

You know what? Get over this girl and go on virgin hunting, you are a good riddance because men who have trust issues are never good for marriage.

Yes u are correct. Don't mind all those children running around this forum. It was best he left her alone and moved on. He doesn't deserve that girl. In this time and age in Nigeria where it is not easy to find a good lady without much body counts. This one is yarning rubbish cos he penetrated a girl that was over tripped for him. Shame on some people.

MrBrownJay1:
ARRANT GIBBERISH NONSENSE!!!!!

A) a supposed virgin would NOT rush her man's dikc to enter her honeypot
B) a woman who claims to have been only once with a man SHOULD be tight
C) whether the above babe was married or not is irrelevant to the issue at hand

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Gibberish alert above!!!
It shows u have no form of experience with women and have only being sleeping with hooker's and runz girls.
That girl in the OP's post was plainly inexperienced. An experienced lady would have handled it more matured. Afterall it's not the end of the world.

ikcbn:
I successfully did that for my spouse recently. Just use the itranscript, make the required payment and attach/upload the cert. or any other doc you wish to send to WES and unn will include them in the package while sending your transcript to Wes.
Note, you will need to pay extra fee for verification when wes sends it back to unn for verification

Hallo, nice to know. Pls if this has already being tackled in the past I apologize but does this method work for all schools like ABSU, Abraka and University of Abuja. I have younger cousins applying too and they are asking me questions like say I sabi everything but I know nothing cos I haven't researched the whole process yet cos of time constraints.

anselm791:
oh my balls, another reasonable human being.
I'm beginning to think the first sets of people in every thread are the useless ones, I will start reading from the back.
if we can only change the 'court' in that statement to 'hospital' and 'judge' to 'doctors', maybe some of our senseless brothers may understand better.
With this I think I may have to delete the thread I already started bashing lawyers cause the point has clearly be made.
you lawyers sha know how to close case sha.

Lol, bros don't forget lawyer are the people that prosecute. No vex dem ooh

obidr:
Do not mind that idiot with profound psychiatric issues. He should check the pass rate of Nigerian doctors when they attempt PLAB, USMLE, MCCE. He should check the numbers of Nigerian doctors holding the health system in T & T. The idiot felt I was practising in Nigeria to find a way to continue to deride doctors, not recognising that there is a massive brain drain in Nigeria and why we doctors in diaspora are still concerned is because we have relatives still in Nigeria but the certified imp will not direct his anger to the appropriate channel because he already has esteem issues. Women should be beware of his kind.

Still there are better ways to handle that issue. Forget the insults and educate him. Cheers

drlaykay:

I don't even have energy to type. But the new one I noticed about Nigerians is that why they come in as an emergency, they are very loyal. As soon as they get better, Chai, you start seeing razor blade mouth and funny attitudes...

Especially island patients. They talk down on their doctora under the guise that they are sophisticated and they know their rights.

I laughed bitterly when one told me " Doctor, you need to do whatever thing I want, no matter how silly it is because I am paying my bills".
After the whole event, attending to her husband, I had to call her that " madam, see don't ever tell someone you entrust the life of your loved one on, that you are paying. Yes, you are paying, but this is not a kind of bread and butter trade, this is life". She had to apologize.
Working in a big hospital and meeting big people is cool but this people are too saucy.

I had to call a friend working in the UK and ask if this oyinbo people are rude to their doctors and he said they are very respectful.
So where did they get their own madness from?

Trust Nigerians to be very respectfully when they arrive here for treatment. They only do that shit in Nigeria.

ultron12345:
Recently, Nigerians have been sharing their experiences with Nigerian health professionals especially doctors. Doctors have in turn, decided to share their experiences at the hands of Nigerian patients.

Lol, it's about time. I am dancing here....

betterview3:
Didn't do MRI.

I did 2 ultrasounds at separate places including a teaching hospital.

Did endoscopy too.


Could you recommend any yoghurt brand?

Is it different from normal yoghurt? Like Aqua Rapha yoghurt?

Oh, I just saw u wrote u did endoscopy? What was the result of the endoscopy?

betterview3:
Yes, I have been placed on the bed and examined several times by pressing my abdomen to feel where the pain comes from.

But it's not really from one place. It's just like touching a part of pot on fire to check where is hot. My whole stomach hurts.

Thanks for the recommendations.

Then if sonography found nothing it's then time to bring in the big guns and try a CT with contrast media. That could give a definitive answer to Ur query.

But also note that while still looking for answers and taking advices of people here as regards yoghurt and what not their are other forms of things that could cause abdominal pain that one may not see on CT or US. Then again anything that could cause pain when a clinician applies pressure on the abdomen should and could be detected by conventional means of examination.

midnighter:
You can't detect a trapped nerve with a CT scan?

Not that you can see nerves. I didn't say that.

I was actually referring to the bladder and not kidney. Otherwise I would have called them kidney stones. Ultrasound can show bladder stones but CT is better for very tiny ones.

Otherwise I think there are some palpation tests the clinician is supposed to do before it gets to all the scanning. And then treat with some analgesic injections (if it's nerve related)

This is more like excluding other possibilities than looking for something in particular

Or what do you suggest?

Yes I do agree the physician must have to examine and exclude before even a CT is done as regards disc prolapses and what not.
But as regards Stones (Kidney, Ureter and Bladder) the CT definitely has sufficient role to play for very small stones. Funny enof some centres still do normal plain x-ray +/- dye injection (IVP). It depends on who u ask cos every hospital have their own method.

Elektra008:
She actually knows Germany has more benefits, but she doesn't have access to it when she is not a pr. And the pathway to it sef Na herculean task.

Ah, I understand. Even people that have access to it tend to want to go to English speaking countries too.

Chriswazo:
Wow, lol
I tell u, is really amazing to just hear I have a CA pr from the blues, is really mind boggling considering how we subject ourselves to get up to that point to apply here.

I go to the Ausländerbehörde, I see people carrying woman up and down, black girls or so with guys that came to aid their process, obviously, Germans. I ask myself, "will I ever get to this point just to save myself from the fear of Ausländerbehörde", is really scary. I even had to get their tinder app but my heart is not there, so I don't follow the nonsense, think I have deleted them.

Some of my brothers are used by these old women who wants to feel young and satisfied, not that they care about their paper quest etc, maybe give them bread after pouring up and down. Everyone going from MSc to MSc to PhD, PhD people don plenty o, like say na moi moi, aaah aaah! Na so we like books? No, it all boils down to one thing. For me, I like this kind of fear, cos it gives me an edge of security knowing the situation I have found myself in and the range of options to utilize.

I tell you, when I read your PR testimony, I feared I had made mistake with registering just 3 modules and wanted to change my module application for this winter but the time is passed, but I will start doing that from summer.

The lady that showed me the way to Germany has left to for Canada even after getting her admission to PhD, she picked the Canada option, since then I have developed a keen interest in CA and has been following you up and down here for info etc

I think everything you wrote there is the plain truth and I can relate to them. The whole preaching about Germany economy etc, which is true but not the nitty gritty of the matter. You first of all have to really belong before you open mouth to talk about how good they are, I think in economy only. Canada has her pros too which you quite listed, the very pertinent areas that is really weighty.

Thank you very much for the prayers and assistance offered. i have your email address, will get to you should I need more clarity etc going forward.

Thank you, congrats on the success once again.


Bis bald!

We all saw that shit. I won't be saying more

ladymarshall:
Vielen Dank! Vielen Dank! Bros you sabi this thing! I tell some here that I’m now a Canadian PR and they’re so shocked, like just like that? One even asked me if I married a Canadian to get it he think say na Deutschland
Unfortunately, most are not motivated to do EE. The country has a way of making some believe in false promises of stability because of their strong external economic reputation, when in reality, the struggle internally can be hellish because of Ausländer Behörde. You will see those who suffered many years just to get PR saying “stay here” “stay here” as if they will help you when your suffer reach one international student even told me “Germany has better welfare benefits” I told her “are you benefiting the benefits? stay there dey defend country wey no send you?“
Of course we go still hustle for Canny, no easy way or shortcut but it’s preferable in a more familiar language, a territory that celebrates diversity and a land that respect the blacks a bit better.

I join you in prayers o. You will get PPR and come to Canny soon, please don’t listen to naysayers, let’s keep in touch.

Hallo there, let me just note this point. The person that told u Germany has better health system than Canada is right. But then I agree with u on Ur other points.
Take it from someone who knows

midnighter:
CT is supposed to pick up the nerve (and stones). Have you tried MRI?

Ultrasound should pick up the stones. Have you tried seeking a second opinion?

And have you eaten live yoghurt culture to get your gut flora back to normal after all those antibiotics?

Have you checked your prostate?

CT is only good for bones and stones. Anyone that tells u he was able to sufficiently see the nerve in CT must be a magician.
US should only be able to pick up stones in the Gall bladder and not the kidneys. Pls let's form the habit of confirming things before we post.

KingSatan:


You are not ashamed to share your stupidity to the world.

What the hell happened to Growing up Mr?

She called and you gave her 2k to buy foodstuffs. BROTHER YOU ARE MAD! AND I CURSE YOU

A "Nigerian" Woman treated you like used rags because she didn't see the big picture, now that you are made she is crying and you are asking us what to do in such situation?

If you don't open that your smelly mouth and tell her to G-E-T T-H-E F-U-C-K O-U-T, then i will terminate your manhood.

Hungry leeches looking for free meal tickets.

So cos he gave her 2 K u resort to insults? I believe it is humane to share and 2 K can't hurt but neither would it change her life. So enof of the abuses.
I know it annoyed u just as it did me but the guy needs advice not abuse. Cheers

This thread is depressing, esp when u consider that doctors in Nigeria have to work without resources, equipments and pay.
I have had to assist an operations with Touchlight from my fone, it took the nurses over 30 mins to acquire a kerosene Lamp from the nearest ward and then after a while rechargeable Lamp. By the time the generator was put on the operation was over, I was just closing up the patient sweating everywhere and all over the patient.
Nigerian doctors have gall and for that, they have my respect.
I do understand all Ur reasons though and can only sigh cos it's situation that bends crayfish.
But let not what I wrote above make u hesitate from telling us more, we need to know these things.
That said, I won't be replying any comments or making any more on this issue or others. I will just continue reading comments. Cheers!!

Ashawopapa001:
I once asked a beautiful lady of her number after flirting with her and she reciprocated, she declined saying she's married with kids. I then told her I don't mind since I didn't believe she's married. She started ranting and trying to insult me.....
That's when I schooled her, "you ain't wearing a wedding ring and expect to be treated with respect reserved for married women, go home wear your ring you feminist if not I will spank that ass ASAP

I think something is worrying u. So if a lady walks up to me and start talking trash cos am not wearing my wedding band. Then she should insult me cos I was making jokes with her? Una get time

But who says Muslims are in the majority in South west?

excessmon:
Pls answer me!
This thing you typed
Did it come from ur spirit,mind,soul,body,heart or did it just get to you from a dream... bottom line it makes no sense

I won't honour u with a reply. Cheers

Ozzz:
@drnoel,
Are you a med. doc.?
Are you a dual citizen of Germany and Nigeria ?

Hope this links below helps sons school and family visit destinations...

1.https://www.ourkids.net/autism-schools.php

2.https://www.thecrazytourist.com/40-places-canada-see-kids-grown/

Thanx for ur links and yes to ur questions on both counts

Hallo peeps, have been reading all Ur stories, advices and comments. Have also seen how u guys encourage urselves, Nigerians u guys rock esp the ones that have focus.
Now to my question. I intend to visit Canada with my family of 5 (we have 3 children under 7) and would like to know any nice places one can go to, see and have fun. My Wife and children want to see Canada so I promised them we would go there but my own personal reason for wanting to go is not just to visit.
I am looking for possible school options for my son who has autism spectrum and I am curious to know what options are on ground in Canada. If I like those options for my son, then I may consider emigrating in the near future but not now, as I am happy where I am.

NB: I would like to add that we don't need to apply for a visa to visit and we can stay in Canada for up to 90 days every year if we choose to visit which by the way we have no intention of doing, cos I have to return to work since I am only taking 2 weeks of leave.

I do hope my epistle above was clear a bit and I apologize if it wasn't.

WTF!!! Who allowed this?

MJBOLT:

why do i have this funny feeling she wants to pin another man pregnancy on you


if you have unprotected sex with her,be ready to face whatever comes from it.

U guy take urselves too high. U forget as the world is changing so does many norms in Nigeria. Nothing can go against a good discussion. Did u not see OP say he is taking her for medicals?
Let me educate u guys, gone are those days when men are the all and all. Many women who are earning their keep and not in a serious relationship would prefer to have a child outside wedlock. That girl in question may be one of such. The idea of pinning another man's pregnancy on a single man is so outdated, only jobless low-lives do that. If she is working she won't need to.
I have met many ladies Who only want children and not the hassles of a man who would complicate their lives.
It's as easy as that since Nigerian men are no longer forth coming as regards commitment.

GeniusWannabe:
You said he confronted you gentlemanly, and you both reached terms of agreement. With this, you shouldn't have opened up to the lady, giving her the benefit of the doubt that she wouldn't confront her partner.

To be honest, you have destroyed that relationship, even though you don't realize it. Trying to fix it might be ineffective but you have to try anyway, so you only have two options. You either cut all ties with the lady and go your way, and let things naturally fall into place, or stick with her as a friend and maybe become her man later on. Remember one thing however, what goes around comes around.

Yep, she may do same to him. I wonder why a guy would reach a gentlemanly agreement with another guy and blot it all out to the man's bae. Me smell ulterior motive.
I doubt what has been done can be set right.
Besides the girl in question has been looking for a fall guy, then come OP in the picture.