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SweetBuns:
Monetary renumeration sounds fine to me

Ofcos, Cashwise. In kind payment is overrated. Pls take note.

SweetBuns:
They did their job and they did what they were expected to do so the girl owes them nothing

She has to pay for all their services.

Explorers:
British scientists in Antarctica revealed that their team have enough food to survive 'for years' on the frozen continent if the coronavirus outbreak escalates.

UK's Rothera station leader, Michael Brian, also said strict protocols have been put in place to protect the 140-strong team at the base.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-8086555/British-scientists-Antarctica-reveal-strict-protocols-place-combat-coronavirus.html?ito=social-facebook

But they have Chlamydia

Be happy u Dodge Bullet

justnock:
You're obviously not a medical doctor or a doctor of books. Change your moniker to troublesome Noel. You're a pestilence inna me life... bomboclaat

we know them. But don't worry, have left u alone but u have to leave urself first to see the light.
Just happen u are alive, cos am so glad for life. Life is too short.
Cheers again

Officialgarri:
Damage has been done already. Not everyone will get to watch this comfession

The said damage is a perspective issue. It's a case of he said, she said. Who has the most impressive story wins.

Henry22:
Are u serious, cos I never heard of d dss detaining the sleeping senator.

Story is on Nairaland somewhere

justnock:
When I referred to myself as a king, I meant figuratively and not literally... don't take it personally.

So Ur intention was to Ur grammar. How did that help u? Like I said, move on. No need prolonging the issue.
Cheers

justnock:
Kings don't argue with peasants. I feel disrespected by you, already.

I believe u will call urself the king here? Right?
Ask urself what makes u the king in this issue? U should learn to respect the other person, no matter how much u regard urself. In my dictionary, everyone is on the same level no matter what status the person is. So king of nothing, lowlife poor man. Best u move on. U Just exposed urself by Ur last statements.
Men wo have don't or rarely have to boast about it.
Cheers

justnock:
Listen, I already told her what to do...so be gone.

I don't believe u should have the last word so will tell u to go to the moon

Jman06:
This is why men should marry virgins!

But some shameless men (mmeee) would not listen. They'll go ahead and marry a lady who is already 2 points ahead and still expect to play a draw or win the match. Mumu men everywhere!

How does that make them shameless? Cos they married a women with kids? Pls children should avoid commenting on impt issues so they don't expose their ignorance.

justnock:
I know a kid of about 8years and she writes better than I do. Does that make her an adult that can take or make decisions for herself?
I had to ask her her age. Period.

Don't mean to doubt Ur story sir but no 8 year old can write the epistle that lady wrote above...QED

Henry22:
Finally they are waking up to their duties in the house but we're is T.A orji?

In DSS detention

Well said and true. Spoken without fear. We are watching

Mujadilo:
my country people , abeg o...

want to study medicine in Germany ... but the language is scaring me somehow .... i fit rough am tho ... is it possible , based on your experience with other undergraduate courses ? thanks .

U can apply but they have a long list for medicine and Ur score as well as Ur German must be very good. Wait period from Ur application is about 3 years. Some wait longer. Best u try Caribbean and TNT, those places wait period is not that long and u have better asses to the US from there.
Cheers

pickabeau1:
dont bother responding

OP get too much time. I just spam such messages and put the email on my blacklist if it really pisses me of.
I once though replied one of such messages with "u dey craze, u see naija boi way sabi wetin u sabi u no fear".
The person actually the email replied me with, "guy abeg no vex, na do d hussles be".

justnock:
how old are you and are you done with high school?

She writes pretty good so she is no kid. Also, the woman's daughter doesn't do house chores so what home training or family rift are we still talking about? She should use her tongue to count her teeth. Go home to Ur family.

Someone talked about cheating on ur spouse and everyone here is talking about god this, god that, Bible said this and that. Means remove all those variables and they will all turn to cheaters.
It's just like one very fine Jehovah's witnesses lady that kept coming to preach to me in school then (a long time ago). She didn't believe it when I fired her cookie, God forgive me but I was really a scoundrel in my younger days. She still kept coming back but preaching was far from her mind after then. Anyways what is the reason for the epistle above, it is that I never take anyone that comes with Bible and religious verses serious after that experience.
To the OP, it's a principle thing. Once u make up ur mind that u don't want to do certain things and intend to keep to it, u won't. It wouldn't be easy at first but u would definitely follow thru. U Just need to know Ur priorities and u have to prioritize somethings that are impt to u.
Sometimes it surprises me that someone like me can stop all the mischieves I took part of in my younger days.
Cheers

kpada22:
Hello sister, even if he married you when you have 12 children, you deserve some respect and security for your children. I was a mutual agreement as you said as such, since you have try to explain to him but he refused to understand, report the situation to anyone he respects so much, not necessarily his family members. And if he refuses after that, it means he doesn't really love you wholly. You can then take your decision because a caring mother cannot let his mother suffered when still living.

Bringing in a 3rd party in a family issue is a no go. It has nothing to do with whether her hubby loves her or not. I don't understand why people make such statements with no basis. Who are u to even suppose such a fallacy?
There are men that automatically shut off once a 3rd party is brought into their family issue. It cause more confusion and modules everything. Ur advice was wrong beyond all counts.

letskeeptalking:
You foot 70% of bills in your house and yet you allow your husband to dictate to you what to do with your own son.

Madam, I don't think you are a serious person.

Personally I will rather be single than be with a man who will stand between me and my children. Even if I have to live in poverty. But you are financially capable, you just want to answer 'Mrs' at the expense of your child.

After bouncing him off relatives for years, you are now using your husband as an excuse to run from your duty.

Shame!

Be careful here. She foots 70% of the bills and so? Who built the house? Who owns the house? Who opened her business for her. If the answers to all this questions are the husband who recedes abroad then she doesn't have any choice but to patiently attempt reasoning with the man. But then the boy is 12 and can still be formed so she has to take the bullet and best the grudges or loose him forever.
My advice would be this. Even if, if it's the man that owns the house and opened the business for her. Since he doesn't live in the country, she should close her eyes and take her son in. It will cause a big problem in her home cos her hubby will be mad but she can settle it with him after a while. The action is necessary cos a 12 yr old boy can still be formed and put right but if she waits any longer she looses him completely.

Vyvyanvyvy:
I had 2 children. When I got married, my husband had none and accepted them like his own children.

Before marriage, we had discussed about the children living with us after marriage but that couldn’t be possible anymore because we were having financial problem so we couldn’t afford to move to a bigger apartment. We were staying in a room self contain with my daughter while my son was staying with my elder brother and his wife.

Now three years after we had moved to a bigger house still my husband doesn’t want my son to come and live with us. At the moment my son is going through hard times. My sister in law has been maltreating him to an extent that he has been stealing, he was caught and beaten like an animal. My brother said he doesn’t want him in his house again. He wants me to come and collect him.

I pleaded with my husband for me to bring him with us but he said no, he should stay there because he doesn't want him to damage our children. I’m angry at him I stopped talking to him and I don’t know where my son will go because I have no mother no father it’s only my elder brother and kid sister even my sister who is married doesn’t want him. I’m pained and in tears seeing my only son suffering while I’m still alive and I’m helpless to protect him.

It's a difficult one and ur hubby is not mandated to allow the boy stay with u people. Problem there is that the boy may become a torn in both Ur fleshes in the future if his excesses Vis not controlled. How old is the boy? Can he still be put right with love and good home training.
Am sorry but u are at the mercy of Ur husband on this one. He has to agree to the responsibility and u have to attempt not fighting but begging him to see reason.
Cheers

I can understand all Ur pain. It happens only when u associate with the wrong group of people like runz girls and low-lives.
As regards to the lady in question u mentioned, u forget there is something they call rebound love. Women are many more time prone to fall for it than guys are. My eyes has seen what my mouth can't talk about. Anyways, it happens but that shouldn't make u feel like it's Ur fault or that she is bad. Yes, it shakes Ur trust in her but trust can be rebuilt if and if both parties work towards it.
Know Ur priorities and the rest will come.
Women love success stories.

It's good to be painted. It always makes one learn a lesson. Hit naija women all u want. When Ur time clock clicks, u go go find wife. Whether her body count is a Mike long or never much, it's irrelevant. What's impt is to know what u want from the relationship/ marriage/union.
There is a time for everything.

kollinzgee:
I joined Nl last year because Harddons of dating drills I was very weak in mind and couldn't approach women and always get rejected many times but after absorbing the dating drills plus some tips here I overcame my fears with women and with life in general it was a blissful era for me I was respected by both male and females the my ego was bloated and I had my women in my finger tips I was never committed to any during this period I lost my virginity but I was getting so much love .I didn't take shit from women and people in general .I was selective of my friends and all.

just like all other things in life I suffered the disadvantages of the drills I was seeing as a fuckboy who doesn't have feelings, doesnt fall in love and doesn't respect women because I was cocky I thought maybe I should loosen up a little . on the other hand I was literally alone in my own world because I was totally surrounded by simps and betamales who saw worshiping women as a normal so whenever I educate them on things I have learnt here they just laugh it off I wish I had an alphamale friend but I didn't.

October last year i clock 27 within this period I had this sudden change in my personality the game gradually left me and I was gradually becoming weak and called it maturity I wanted to be real as possible with women because I saw the drills as childs play.i had so much pressure from home to start a serious relationship because i wasnt getting younger so early this year I met this very beautiful lady and some few dates we started dating she was a 9/10 I respected her as a lady , I spent on her and ensured she was happy because I wanted something serious with her that will lead to the future i forgot my about my other girlfriends and focused on her alone .

after 2 months in the relationship her attitude suddenly changed she was no longer friendly and homely as she was before , she no longer let me touch her she now being up excuses that she has personal problems she is dealing with and needed space but with the look of things Maybe another guy out there has caught her fancy though we have not broken up officially but she has totally changed and I might end the relationship.
my greatest regret is not that she changed but my greatest regret is that I dropped my whole dating game because I wanted to act matured and real but the exact opposite was what I saw
so this very moment I want to retake my redpills and never go back again there is no such thing as love women want a caring and matured guy but will later loose interest in him I regret I repeat I regret

Another child bites the dust

Papiikush:
Slut!

A guy who is not your boyfriend, what in the world were you doing in his house overnight?

Forget the whole rape brouhaha...she is trying to play the victim card here because all I read is about a one night stand gone wrong.

Wait... How in the world will someone rape you with oral again?

I mean he was licking your pussý comfortably and you couldn't do anything? Ha aye mi!!!!

If a guy can be so comfortable to the extent he goes down on you, removes your panties and use his tongue to wipe your pussý clean without you breaking his neck with your laps, then you are a slut

I need to start telling these Unilag girls I have free WIFI maybe they'll come and spend the night in my apartment too. Awon olosho gbogbo

Forget self control, bìtch if you come to my apartment and you running around in your bumshort I'll fück that pussý.

If you are looking for men with self control don't sleep in my house go and sleep in your pastor's house.

U are one of those animals ain't u? Try that in civilized countries and let ya eyes see fire. No matter how easy she made it seem, it is rape when a party says "stop" just once talk less of fighting the other person off.

Petyprincess:
You are just jumping from frying pan to fire!! You think you being a woman hater will change anything? Nw you sound so bitter nd worst than the so called redpill guys here!!

So sad. Allow that charlatan. He probably got his heart broken again. Just tell him sorry and move on.

sweetmelanin:
Looking at the aggressive way she's speaking, I suspect she's the type that uses the 'African' way of punishment on her kids abroad, forgetting that you can't beat your children abroad and expect no consequences.

Even in Nigeria now, parents are adopting other ways of discipline aside from beating. I feel for her sha but physical violence isn't always the most effective way to train a child.

African was of beating? What does that mean at all? Even Europeans beat their children so what are u talking about

Kelvin30286063:
I just feel like I should drop a piece of my mind here and have people's opinions about how my family is. I don't dig into other people's family so I wonder if that's how it is in every family too.

I come from a family of proud people.
Everyone just sees themselves as kings and Queens. Which is totally acceptable cuz our parents raised us to see ourselves as being above every other people.
Don't know if that's the right way to raise a child but it sure isn't a bad way so I won't question it.
But what I'll question is how much we mean to each other.
What we all represent in each other's lives is just what we represent.
My sister needs a phone, she calls me, once she gets her phone, she's gone.
My purpose is served until next time.
It's funny, I have a blood sister that hasn't called me in 3 months.
Had to call her last month cuz I wasn't sure how she's doing.
They don't support what I do nor do they even encourage me on anything. Yes my mom calls me all the time, we talk and she wants to know how myself and my wife are doing. She's my mom, she's the most caring woman in the world so I know her for that but apart from her, every other member of my family are nothing to write home about when it comes to care and support.

I'm doing well on my own, I have my own company and I don't need financial assistance from any of them but a little support will not be bad.
Let me give an example... 2 years ago I started a social media platform called Zealnut. I started advertising the website and application everywhere. Facebook, Instagram, YouTube... I got a lot of members and the platform is going great. But I'm not happy cuz everyday I get a new notification that someone just registered on my app, I hoped its either one of my sisters or brother but no... Yet they all use big phones, Iphones, Samsung, my kid sister in the university just bought the latest infinix thanks to me.
Yet they don't support anything I do.
My company (An ICT company) has a lot of apps on Playstore and apple store and these apps are 100% to download and use, I have thousands of people using some of my apps but.l I'm pretty sure none of my siblings even use any of those apps.
Yet they call me for money every other day.

My question is, are siblings like this in every family or just mine that is dysfunctional?

Get inline bro, more than 50% of Nigerian families are like that. I don't have statistics to support claims but hear it every weekend over bier with friends and acquaintances.
Anyways what do I know?
Hold head high, do what u can for family. That is my motto..
Note I said "do what u can".
Cos I never put my head out to over task myself over what I can't. The reason is that they won't care how much pain I have to go thru to accomplish what I can't do for them so I don't bother doing so anymore.
All in all remain on friendly terms, be nice and respectful. They are family so one can't throw them away.
Cheers

fergie006:
https://af.reuters.com/article/topNews/idAFKBN20T14K-OZATP

Na wah ooh. See Europeans importing coronavirus to Africa. If na them them go close their border sharp sharp. Africa be wise

SassyGem101:
Well...I'm not married but I'll say...the hardest part is having to wake up everyday of your life to the same face which tends to become boring. Now no matter the initial butterflies in your belly thing, you'll get bored at some point and the only thing that can keep you going is your commitment to be with them and the fear of God. If you lack this two virtues, there's going to be a big problem especially if you are the type that likes meeting new people.


Another part it gets hard is where the niti gritty of marriage hits you. Like taking care of the responsibiity of the home especially the financial aspect. In fact before you know it, you'll wear out to the point you won't even remember how you guys started. This is not to scare you but its a fact I've seen in many homes that has made me begin to plan my marriage life in a way I won't have to be totally caught up in that hard part. Hmm....let me just stop here.

Please on a more serious note, if you must marry, prepare your mind to face these things otherwise you'll freak out before it even begins. Or stay away from it.
I have seen a lot of marriages and I wonder what happened to the initial " I love yous" and all that. Though still learning.


Dem say, nor be eye wen person take do girlfriend and boyfriend na him dem dey take do marriage ooo.

Waking up to the same face na d easy part. It just takes making up one's mind to do that. If not how do men that have had over a thousand body counts survive?
The hard part is having to juggle work stress, house stress/chores, family stress (both nuclear and extended) and then Ur partners stress all together and still be sane and still love Ur partner......that is the difficult part.
Men don't know how to juggle all those and keep the home but women do.