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donstan18:
Too much concern and hunger for sex from a man is the genesis of most manipulations from a woman.

The moment you let a woman know she's too important to you in anyway, you are gone!!!!

Not true. U can control her excesses in that way. Know and learn

Amakavula:
I noticed this a lot, like Nigerian men are petrified of pretty women.

Been on dates were the guy stammers for hours.... another one where the guy's hands keep shaking like wtf..

I noticed guys are afraid to approach me; like you see them gathering and planning who would come talk to me, but none ever grew enough courage.

Took my friend's sister to an audition once ( cos I drive) and all the dudes where just saying hi like over 10× and smiling sheepishly without one with enough courage to talk. Even the one that tried struggled.

Is this a self esteem issue?

Hilarious!! Must have been ur imagination playing tricks with u.

LosC:
Hope the airlines won't be limited to fly across African Nations only. It's a welcome development by the way.
It'll cover some of his shame for being one of the most underperforming Governor in SS

I believe I saw the size of the airport? That should answer Ur questions about destination.

Romangalactic:
I'll try to keep my predicament short. I registered a new account for this purpose but I'm sure many of you will understand that sterility is not something to be announced which is exactly how I got myself in this situation. I am 35 and engaged to a beautiful woman who completes me in every way. As much as it hurts me to say this, I have not been totally honest with her about everything.
Just yesterday while we were home together, she told me that she is pregnant . I asked her how sure she is, she said she had done the pee test and that she knows how she is feeling. The issue here is that I am sterile but I have not told her this before so it is impossible that I am responsible.

Please before anyone tells me I deserve this for not opening up to her, I have been undergoing treatment secretly and they say I will be able to father children when it's done so of course, I am hopeful and have not bothered to inform her about any of this. I can't stand losing her for any reason. My issue right now is that I asked my endocrinologist this morning if it's possible that the treatment is already working and he said we have not gone far enough to see any results yet. This means I am definitely not the father of the child she is carrying.

Only one other person in this world knows about my health challenge and that is my cousin. I told him and he told me to break up with my fiancée, someone I have already done introduction with and families are involved. I told him I cannot and that he must take the secret to the grave, he thinks I am making the biggest mistake of my life.
Well I told him my plan is to accept the pregnancy and continue to make her think I don't know she cheated on me. I am doing this with the hope that after we get married, my treatment will be completed and everything will be back to normal. But at the same time, I still can't shake the feeling that I am about to marry someone who cheated and is passing off another man's child as mine, I feel cheated and it hurts.

Can anyone else please tell me what to do about this situation I have found myself? Please I just need to hear from other people besides my cousin. Another thing, he has never really liked my fiancée so I feel that also may be his motivation.
I need neutral opinions please

Doesn't necessarily mean she cheated. Story is incomplete, like when u wedded and how far gone she is and when u last had unprotected sex (sterile or not). Without a complete story one can't make a decisive decision

Wonderful approach, matured too!!! Round of applause for the OP. Very well done

joshjc:
Hmm,tell her to go to ministry of women affairs and report her dad
So you and your girlfriend started dating at the age of 16 and 14,you need serious flogging

U are therefore people that liked her comment are a sad bunch,...or did u not see where he wrote that he was 2 years older than she was when they started.
They were both underage when they started so pls look first before u write rubbish.
God we have so many children on NL. Pls children should desist from commenting and writing rubbish here.

Now to the OP. I believe there is a law against that now in Nigeria or not? Report the case to women and child affairs or is that not it's called. They will take it from there

FactBoyz:
... I am so so so happy of the events that took place at the state of the union address today.. Nigerian time 3 a.m. Trump addressed the nation on the achievements of his administration in
1. Providing millions of jobs for blacks, Hispanics and women an all time record high
2. Best US economy EVER
3. Best military worldwide etc
4. Kept all election promises..
5. Signed back act to allow prayers in US public schools.

For Nancy Pelosi and Democrats, they are not happy with all the good things going on in the states.. GO TO HER CONSTITUENCY IN CALIFORNIA AND SEE HOW DIRTY THAT PLACE IS FULL OF HOMELESS PEOPLE...

And finally, the media have been highly ANTI-TRUMP especially CNN, MSNBC, ABC News etc.


Trump is the real man!!!!!!!!! And Most Americans LOVE him.. Former Democrats are beginning to join him... Democrats couldn't even conduct elections in Iowa..

Buhari cannot even address the nation

God Bless Donald J Trump

U are a joker

SmellingAnus:
Yeah he made a mistake but Pelosi even made a bigger mistake by tearing up the speech...

Well maybe when one looks at it symbolically. Still nothing wrong in tearing paper but everything wrong in not shaking hands

QuietHammer:
And the bitter woman tore his speech afterwards

She is not bitter. Trump is by refusing to shake hands. Newton's law, action and reaction

SOLARPOWER1:
TK told me I can't get public health insurance because I am above 30 years...I don't understand this kind of problem, give me exemption no response, register me you said I have passed the age... The whole thing just tire me

Relax and take time to think. TK may not register u but u can try AOK. Also think about private insurance, they are more expensive but I believe their is a package for students.

llbhuds:
well said but for the fact that the wage is high is not a justification to make things dat expensive. Scandinavian countries pays very high as well and things are not as expensive as dis. A friend of mine who lives in sweden gets 10pounds on hourly basis and according to research, sweden is payin even less compared to denmark nd norway and you dont have to be an executive to live there (though tax is high).

10 pounds an hour is rather not encouraging, anyways depends his job though

Problem with these kind of people is that they loose relevance fast. This woman will wonder what hit her when Buhari finishes his term. Noone will touch her again politically cos she will be poison

Palehair:
It's just the term "alpha male" that I have a problem with

The myth that the world can be divided into "alphas" and "betas" has mostly been debunked. Most people are a combination of the two. In many cases, people can act like an "alpha" in the arenas where they are very successful and like "betas" in the arenas where they have more difficulty. For example, someone might be an "alpha" in his job but not in the bedroom. Somebody else might be an "alpha" in her political activism but not in her athleticism. Rather than looking for "alpha" traits, instead consider thinking about arenas that are important to you and find someone who is confident in that arena.

Lol, this has been repeatedly proven. I believe this puts the children like hardon and Ubunja finally to bed. Well said.

TonyeBarcanista:
By Tonyebarcanista

Most people falsely misconstrue Alpha males to be irresponsible men filled with arrogance and are disrespectful towards women. They misconstrue Alpha males with with cocky males.

Many also misconstrue guys that are body builders with nice physique to be alpha males. Some misconstrue wealthy and fierce looking men as alpha males. Some even misconstrue womanizers, famous or people of high status to be alpha males. While some alpha males may belong to the aforementioned groups, not all those groups are alpha males.

Who Is An Alpha Male?
An Alpha male is the real man. He is a man's man and a warrior. He is very confident and a stand-up guy. Irrespective of what you call him, he is a leader. He is the guy others look up to for motivation, inspiration, and often with a hint of jealousy. He is a man that knows what he wants, confident of himself and can't be tossed around. The alpha male knows his power as a man and doesn't use it as tool for oppression. He can't be manipulated by women, and this makes him attracted to women. He's the kind of man every woman want. The Alpha male is mentally and emotionally strong but kind. He is very Confident, yet humble, he assertive, yet gentle at times. He is very powerful, yet calm and tempered. He has self worth yet doesn't proud! He is the kind of man every man should be. He is the kind of man that every woman crave for and hold in high esteem.

Who Is A Beta Male?
Beta males are men that always seek to fit in. They are the typical human pleasers with little or no opinion. Beta males in relationship and marriages are the typical Mr Nice Guys that always bury their thought, desire and want so as not to offend their partners. They are typical followers that always seek to blend with the society. They are not stand alone guys as they are easily manipulated. Because of these traits, Beta males are often disrespected and controlled by their partners, the society, their church, families etcetera.

ALPHA MALES VS BETA MALES

1. In Relationship
Alpha males go for who and what they want, and are men with standards. When their partners err, they are not afraid to speak their mind, address the problem and speak up when the boundaries they set are crossed. They inform their partners on the effect of their ill informed, they tell their partners the consequences on the relationship and take action to ensure that the partner falls in line. Alpha males don't seek conflicts but are not afraid to tackle conflict head on. They are active and not passive

But Beta males don't have any standard nor boundaries that they hold sacred. They would rather endure and die in silence when their partners err because they are afraid of causing conflict in their relationship. The ones that speak up do so in form of a plea or nag. They are passive men that live with burden in their heart in their bid to maintain peace that they never get.

2. Gentlemen Vs Mr Nice Guys
Alpha males are polite, nice to others, respectful but respects themselves and aren't doormat; Alpha male will never allow anyone treat him like second fiddle no matter what. An Alpha male priories his own well-being, irrespective, he genuinely care about the needs of the people in his life and want the best for others. He does this not do this for validation, to gain attention or to be praised by people around him, he simply does it because it is the right thing to do. When an Alpha male doesn't agree with you, he tells you.

Beta males on the other hand may be nice, courteous etc, but they don't prioritise themselves. They are doormat, Yes-man. They are nice because they need the validation and they agree to a fault because they want to maintain the "Mr Nice Guy" tag.

3. Beta Males Are Bitchy, Alpha males Accepts or Change A Situation:
Alpha males takes responsibility for their lives. Once anything happens in their lives, an Alpha male seeks to do something about it. If an Alpha male finds his partner with another man, he takes action- whether to breakup with her or any other action. An Alpha male makes decision for himself; whether relationship, career or whatever.

But Beta males always look at someone to pass blame on. They don't take responsibility, they bitch over it. A Beta male will find his partner in an unpleasant situation with another man, he runs to his pastor, family or social media to bitch about it... Seeking their help to take action because "he doesn't want to act irrationally". He's a weak man! Simple!!!

4. Genuine Connection Vs validation
An Alpha male always seek genuine connection and friendship with their partners and people around them. They have no time for fake relationship. Alpha males don't seek anybody's validation to feel good. They are true to themselves.

Beta males are pretenders. They desire validation of their partners, friends and society to feel good about themselves. They are fake towards themselves and others around them because they suppress their true feelings for external validation.

5. Alpha males trust themselves to make decisions for their lives, Beta males follow popular opinion.

An alpha male may consult others before making decision, he evaluates the response he gets, and compare with what he had always wanted to do. If he still believe that his desires is the best for him ahead of popular opinion, he follows his mind, makes his decision and swim or sink with it without blaming others.

Beta males consults with people, he may or may not evaluate responses, but he follows popular opinion even if it doesn't tally what he really wants because of his conformist character. He is always ready to blame others should his decision not turn out the way he wishes.

I will stop here!

I remain TonyeBarcanista

So u wrote all this things or u copied it from somewhere? The write up is full of flaws.

SwagPower:
I love my sister to bits.Shes my most favourite person in the whole world.
She's married to this guy..Good guy,Quiet,Mr nice guy basically a Beta Male.

She runs circles about him.

I'm torn between doing right by her since she's blood ...But I also feel sorry for her hubby as a guy ..Thing is I want to help him to be more assertive and Man his house..How do I do this without it backfiring on my sister..

Matured responses please..
(Let's make this discourse like something on Quora or Reddit).

Lol, hilarious story. It's shows how naïve u are. Some men prefer their women to boss them around. Doesn't mean they are weak. Don't think anything u say will make any impact on the situation. Best thing for u to do is eye's right and walk past. Makes Ur life easier.
Thank me later

Ma wah for these people. So invariably, Yoruba Muslims are not real Muslims? Ok, over to the Yoruba Muslims. Make una answer these fools

Papanwamaikpe:
And do what? Beat or arrest the girl? Was the your son not the one that asked her out?

Beat and Arrest Ur imagination is playing overtime. No not that.
Get to know the kind of person the son is associating with. She could be a great influence over the boy in question so the parents need to get to know her and if she is cool then embrace her too. This would help the boy understand they mean well.
Besides correct me if am wrong but nowhere in the topic was it shown that the boy asked her out. Like I said Ur imagination is playing overtime

yenereal:


I did this when I was his age. How can I advise?

Well Mia doesn't look older from their chats; Mia may be 15 or same age with him.
No matter how over-protective you are, he may still find other options.
He has entered the bloom of youth, so beating him may not make any difference. You may seize his phone.
But most importantly, you need to advise him. Tell him he's not up to the age of being in a relationship yet, the consequences he'll face and the shame he'll bring to the family should he get the girl pregnant. This should be the time you need to become more friendly with him.
He needs advice.

That's why he has to meet the other kid.

Banty6:
He’s not even 18 yet I’m responsible for him so thank you

U are doing the right thing. Also make sure to let the so called Mia and see for urself who that is.

Shelloween:
Stop invading your Son's privacy Nwokem.

Are u for real? He is just 16. Pls no vex but I will invade all the invadable privacies till he is 18. Any mistake one makes now with him na a lifetime of regret. Pls OP get to the bottom of the shit and make sure u met that person sending him all these messages.

Basalt:
I actually shared for others to be aware and beware of your pessimism.

Like I said, ur problem not mine. U don't know me so doesn't matter what u think. Nothing one says on NL has any influence on anyone's decision, u should know that by now.
Cheers

Basalt:
You guys should disregard drnoel's comments.
All he does on nairaland is jumping from one abroad thread to another causing troubles and discouraging people from traveling out.
Check his previous posts and you will understand what I am saying.
The more you read his posts, the more you get discouraged.
I am yet to see any optimism in any of his posts, it's always pessimism.
Listen to him at your own peril

Lol, I believe we all know that's not true but it's Ur problem what u think. Don't be a sore loser. U give me too much credit by Ur comments, I really don't have that much time on my hand.
Anyways Ur problem not mine.

Blindersoff:
You should know that absolutely nothing you eventually post would contradict such an academic ruling by the Supreme Court.

This ruling was too simple and justifiably ruled

How can it be justifiably ruled if the total number of voters exceeds those accredited to vote? Don't u smell a fish somewhere?

Righteousness89:
I don't seem to understand..

Is Asiwaju Talking with both sides of His mouth?

It's Highly dangerous to be in the Middle..

He can't take sides yet. Bibi is yet to make his stance known so Tinubu would be weary of making his stance known

stupidity:
I have this ex girlfriend of mine, before we became ex’s, pre-dating level, she had this guy that travelled outside Nigeria, she by herself said the guy is done that he no longer shows interest. Within days we started dating. Fvcks was good, she can’t do without it.(if you leave a hot babe for Nigeria and travel outside, I don’t know what to tell you).

Few week into the relationship, I caught her still texting her ex with everything on display. Guy man came back after few months, unto “I just got back” things, he smashed the babe multiple times without mercy, no regard for me.


I maintained my cool, and amicably broke up with her, even took her out on a breakup date on the break up day.

So literary speaking, I’m now smashing her, with reckless abandon. What was done unto me in the past. I’m not sure if there’s a new guy currently or if the old guy is still having a share. So it goes on and on. we guys can’t even advise a sister but we are enjoying the dividends.

What am trying to say is that we men are really scum.

Yep! We have a confirmed winner. A child is in the house.

Righteousness89:
The Most Patrotic Leader on Earth..

Be deceiving urself

Stephanie09:
My brother you are the aggressive one , nobody is quarreling with you. Because you have PR now, you think that’s the end of the world. I am only saying your advice to that person can mar or make them . If your experience is not the situation at hand there’s no point confusing anyone. Please, some of us have this PR and we are not insulting anybody .
Thank God say man no be God, you have PR , you want to bring down the whole nairaland.

U too, u need to grow up. Allow the matter die

bezimo:
I say things from my own perspective and experience there is no point been aggressive about your response.The PR you are hustling for.. I have it already.While your experience might be different from mine..doesnt suggest mine should be negated as the circumstance may be different.

I used 1 year continuous NYSC experience to succeed in the process as my primary Noc, I had initially put another experience in the primary Noc but then ran in to issues.Then I declined my ITA and removed the other experience and put it it in the additional experience part and it worked out fine as I was fortunate to get the ITA again 2 weeks later, which worked out fine.

Not necessary bros, u guys need to grow up

wengerly:
Happy New Year good people.

If there is anyone landing in Calgary on Friday 24, 2020, i am available and willing to pick you from the airport at no cost.
I have some free time that day. Buzz me let's arrange.

God bless.

Wow, wonderful. Keep the good work up.

Principessa0:
Dear Justwise, it is unfortunate that you were so quick to close a thread started on this topic. I know you know a great deal about Canada visas however, not all visas fall under student visa which I believe you have become an expert. There are different types of work permits for working in Canada.
Here are some types that I know of:
SOWP: for spouses of people already in Canada
Open work permit: No restriction on jobs you can apply to and you are not a spouse.
Closed work permit: You need LMIA and must only work for a specific employer.
LMIA Exempt Work Permit: Mostly for people who have been nominated for Permanent residency in a Canadian Province but need a work permit to resume work before PR processing is complete. You are given a work permit letter along with your provincial nomination certificate.

There are some of us who may have a PR application in progress but also have a work permit application in progress. We cannot benefit from the information in the Visitors, Students (Travelling to Canada) and Federal Skill workers program. I have a PR in progress but it is not even under Federal Skill workers/Express Entry.

Anyway, I think this thread (SOWP) applicants is close enough to contain information that might be relevant to our case, though my Work permit is not SOWP. Please do not Close this thread!

What is this? Is this tongue lashing for Justwise alone? Bros take heart, e go better.

I know I mentioned I won't be making any comments but I would rather like to point out that students hoping to study in Germany should pls be careful of the Eastern regions. The vibes there are really depressing.
Thanx for Ur attention. Cheers!