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You had a boyfriend but you were frolicking with another guy till you fell in love with him.

Apparently, you already sized up the guy immediately you met him and saw that he was richer and more comfortable than you current boyfriend. Yes, that's happened. It's hypergamy, not all those BS you wrote about being interesting and shii.

Sadly, for you the new guy is a Playboy that knows his antics, that's why he gave you an ultimatum. the game is the game. He knew he could use his hypergamy over you and you as a girl with low self-esteem fell for it. He's already in your panties, whether you date or not as he WILL be able to have sex with you if he wants at this point.

You have already cheated on your boyfriend immediately you gave another guy your time while in a relationship. You might as well go ahead with it. You belong to the streets and there's where you should return.

Relationship isn't about dating the best person, it's about choosing a person and remaining committed. There's always going to be a richer, finer, more interesting person.

Go and frolic with the new guy, you're in your hoe phase (probably between 20-25) but don't cry to us here when you start having problems because you definitely will.

No price, no contact, nothing.
I am interested in buying a camera straight away

vickthorious:
and you can also ask ..what you're looking for...
i need a canon 60d used in lagos

Do you still need it?

Hello Nairalanders,
Iwant to take my film-making to the next level and I need an entry level/mid level Canon camera.
Budget is tight( We all know as Naija be now) so I will prefer a fairly used camera.

I am in Lekki, Lagos.
If you have a good camera to sell or know someone, please comment below.

Budline1:
Even if she comes for him. He should just have sex with her very well and leave her. He shouldn't take that type of girl serious at all.

Exactly. She's a manipulative and selfish woman( how many women aren't?). The only reason she's showing any sign of affection is because she wants his attention and wants him to fawn over her. Once he succumbs and starts grovelling again, she'll kick him to the curb once again and feel good about her ability to manipulate him. Like they always say, "Men are cheap."

Yes. Women are manipulative. She doesn't want you yet but want to keep you to herself still and you're making it easy for her by concerning yourself more with what she wants than what you want.

Ignore her, flirt, play with other women. You asked her out and she made her decision. Don't be fooled into thinking if you try to ask her out again, she still won't reject you. That will be the end of the small shred of dignity and attraction you still hold.

Act as if she's a forgone conclusion and then if she really wants you, she'll come for you...if not bye Felicia. It's a piece of cake.

Omar09:
This is why a man has to approach women with his intentions made known to her the initial instance (mode one). If he had told her from the get go which I highly doubt, I don't think he will be in this mess. To that guy who gave me thr mode one book, God bless you!

It's easy to falsely accuse manipulative guys of rape because of their inconsistency. But a confident male would tell a girl straight up his intentions. A confident male doesn't make sexual overtures. He SAYS it as clearly as possible. It is not sexual harassment to tell a girl you want to have sex with her as long as you don't stalk or insist.

You're welcome, bro.

There's already a precedence with the case of a former traditional ruler in Zamfara or so. What they are doing albeit customary is unconstitutional. An easy case in court. They have no right to restrict his movement or restrict him from entering any state in Nigeria if he wants to.

Fucck responsibly.

It must have been very tempting but thank God you overlooked it. Cos there's no way you would have avoided being jailed for murder. Your life would have been destroyed patapata.

PTSD obviously.

But our Terrorist in Chief would rather spend billions "rehabilitating" his murderous Boko Haram brothers than spend a kobo on soldier's psychological welfare.

The way the Nigeria Police lie unprovoked is depressing. What kind of unintelligent lie is this?
So 15 cultists came to "forcefully" reclaim their member and didn't come with guns, there was no exchange of gunfire, no one was shot, nothing. They were just arrested like that.

God punish the Nigeria popo

No wasteful person/nation can prosper. We're very wasteful and thoughtless.

Typical Beta Male. Provider type. The other guy is an alpha male and there's nothing you can do. She'll Bleep him sooner or later even after your marriage.

You're just a provider, the "responsible guy" who can shoulder her needs and take care of her offsprings. Whenever she needs excitement, she knows where to go.

Moreover, why in the world would you date a girl that sleeps around for money? Isn't that prostitution anymore?

Weakass males everywhere.

madridsta007:
Rapist detected.

The way you people throw the word "rapist" around sef. On what grounds are you calling him a rapist now? You're a very senseless human being.

Don't quote me o, you've been warned. Just take this L and swallow it with water.

See the way people are jumping to cuss out the landlord, because the woman said "...because he asked me out and I refused" yet you were all in the thread about the little boy that commited suicide forming fake sense.

Stupid people everywhere.

White Knighting is the worst thing that can happen to a man. Trying to be the knight in shining armour to a damsel in "distress." Once a girl says they raped or touched her like that, slaps would have started landing on the guy's face without an ounce of evidence or restraint.

The boy probably has very strict and emotionally unintelligent parents who would have flogged and punished him for days because of the allegation and the subsequent suspension.

Some Nigerian parents rush to believe outsiders over their own children and would horribly punish and verbally torment their kids for an accusation from an outsider because "he's a child, will an adult now be lying? I've experienced it before and I can never forget it till I die.

Happyfela:
I would love if you can share the book with me as well

Drop your digits. Will send on WhatsApp

Omar09:
Bro I never ruled out being straight forward would work. It does work but not on all women. Ever heard of "don't discuss your relationship with a woman" by CRP? @bolded, that's not coming out straight. You coated your word. "shifting pants" it's hilarious and what if she didn't show up, you could have passed that off as a joke. Inviting her to your place, and she shows up means she understands the signal of I will Bleep you. Unless you built that rapport from the get go then it's possible to be straight forward. Sometimes it's difficult to build that straight forwardness from the get go. And it doesn't work on all girls. Those type of girls are the minority. The majority would not discuss sex directly with you but the so much wanna fvck you.

Yes, the understanding is that most girls would appear "shocked and outraged" that you are talking sexual with them on first meeting. However, they will respect you immensely. The example I gave is not the only one, I have tons. What being straightforward does is that it eliminates pretenders and time wasters. You would eliminate girls who would take your time and money and still would say "no sex." You would avoid unnecessary movie dates and Chicken Republic hangout just for to stop chatting with you.
What a woman expects to hear is lies and attempts to convince her that you really like her and not for sex.

But do you know what she WANTS to hear? Your true intentions. She sees you as a very confident male. She wonders why you are so bold as to tell her you want to have sex with her straight up.

Girls are tired of guys lying to them that they want a relationship when all they want is sex. Even my current girlfriend, our first chat on Twitter was sexual. She is a "good Christian girl" yet she kept chatting with me. She was amused, she was enjoying me sexualising her. It was later that I discovered her other characteristics that I really liked.

To be honest, try it and let me know the results. And please get the book I mentioned. I can share it with you on WhatsApp as well.

This is a no-no. A real alpha let's a girl knows he wants to have sex with her straight up. Pandering to women's wims in order to have sex is a manipulative behaviour common with Beta males.
On valentine's day, the girl who came around to my place isn't my girlfriend neither my friend at all. We are just sex mates. I told her from our first conversation online that I wanted to be shifting her pants. She laughed and called me funny. But here we are.
Read "Mode One" By Allan Currie please.

Omar09:
You are getting this all wrong. I do know one thing, most guys on here are just hypocrite and that's good. It's bound to happen, it's life. Let me get you to understand the things I stand for. An Alpha male and A Redpiller.

One of the qualities of an Alpha male is being woke. Of which you clearly stated and it's true red pill makes one woke. About you saying an Alpha male has to be blunt about his intentions of having sex with a lady, it doesn't work that way. Him saying his intentions is like him defining the relationship which usually don't go well with most women. He knows any girl who just accepts his intentions of just having sex is a damaged girl. You tell a girl your intentions straight forward, it's a big turn off. Now about sweet talking, what do you mean by that? Cause I don't see a "dominant" having a normal sexual text with a girl he likes and she reciprocates being sweet talking. That's not fair the way you put it. An Alpha guy invites a girl over to his house for dinner, of which sex is bound to happen with consent, and you call that sweet talk? I'd like to hear your version of sweet talk. Cause going direct most times is a huge turn off on most women, unless you both have reached a certain level of being comfortable with each other. That a man making his intentions of having sex with you at the get go works on you doesn't mean it will work on any other female. You and your type are a minority to the major hypocritical women who gets turned off with that initial intention. But still, I want to know what you mean by sweet talking one into sex.

The boy's parent must sue the police. He has been denied schooling, embarrassed publicly and denied his freedom. He committed NO CRIME. He is a minor as well. If he's to be behind bars, they should both be behind bars. Why should the other partner be allowed to walk free?
Why does the law shield women so much and assume they don't know what they are doing.


P.S: The gist is most likely fake though.

Gnaeusmagnus:
So, are we saying that only Muslims dress decently?

Okay

MODIFIED

Looking through the comments, one sees that most commenters are opposed to the concept of dressing well.

To be honest, I used to think like that...until I graduated and entered the real world.

And in the real world, people do business better with well dressed people, not with casually dressed people.

The funny thing is that most of the 'I dress how I want' edgelords and egdeladies here...as well as the guy I quoted above who believes that decent dressing =islamization (how reassuring)...will the minute their boss puts a notice saying that they should dress corporate...will dress as ordered. Edgelordisim dies when your salary is at stake.

Look, in the real world , people judge you primarily by your dressing. I'm sorry, but it is the sad fact. So , dress well. Because, if a foreigner comes to our CAC office or any government office and sees people dressed anyhow conducting official business, he is going to carry the image of Nigeria as being an unserious country...and that image is going to mutate and spread like a virulent fungus...until it starts stifling things like investment, and so on...and then jobs get lost...and then we have high crime rate....

Sorry, but when I am on offcial business, I dress well. Just because...

The more you wrote, the less sense your write-up made.

Women scream they want equal pay and now they get it. But not equal expenses. But it's that man they want equal pay with that must die of debt. If they don't want to be shouldering responsibilities, then why are they earning same as the man who's to shoulder responsibilities.
Men can never have it fair

donstan18:
Traditionally, a man is the chief sponsor of any wedding ceremony while the woman supports in a way she can. Reason, it's expected a man goes into marriage when financially stable and ready.

Allocating 50% to her passed a message that you'll be a type of husband who will be after the statistics of the wife's earning and spending. You sure wouldn't have done what you did if you hadn't any knowledge of her earning, you acted because you know her earning and that's a red flag for Nigerian ladies, because they don't like dragging and equal responsibilities in a home.

You don't go direct when you want a woman to contribute financially to something. You go Tactically[Not imposing, but asking how and where she can take care of, she'll choose, no matter the percentage of her choice, you lock up, keep the planning going, pretend like you are cool and then sketch out a personal plan of how to act worried and restless before her, she'll wanna know the problem, act like you wanna hide it from her, she'll be worried and pissed that you are hiding things from her, then you'll come up with a story and open up that you are facing financial crisis and don't know how to sort some things out concerning the wedding, she'll willingly help with pity without seeing you as a stingy or mean person]

No be everything dem dey form mancho, you go dey use your head.

You've spent on traditional wedding and for that not to be a total waste, kindly go and meet her, reason with her and go tactical, not directly with authority.

Happy married life in advance!

They couldn't even clear the water hyacinths there where they are launching the "ferries"
Water transportation indeed

Guy, move out of that area and cut off all communication with her. The girl doesn't know any of your acquaintances. She's feeding on your fear. If you were a nobody and you didn't have a serious relationship, she would have aborted tey tey. But you empowered her with ammunition to attack you.

You gave the women too much power in your life and now you're being pushed here and there.

You care too much and that's why you're in this mess.

Imagine foreigners seeing this kinda news from Nigeria in 2020!!!
This case is purely a psychiatric case. Many people are walking around with mental issues but we don't care. The harsh economy is even compounding matters.
Now, these idiots have left the kids not only motherless but also fatherless and HOMELESS!
Anybody supporting this kind of madness equally requires urgent mental evaluation!!!

While we're trying to enforce treatment of wounds by hospitals, this stupid set of policemen are trying to erode the gains. Why would they arrest the owner of the clinic? Was it a gunshot wound? Would they have held the boy? Mentioning it in the article wasn't even right. They should have done a discreet investigation so as not to pass the wrong message to hospitals. Dumb Police PRO

Is she a terrorist or celebrity? Why were the prison officials and the police being that extra?

franchasng:
You need to focus on making more money so that you can replace your car battery which to me is the most important thing here.....forget about the girl...when its time to settle down, if you are a wise guy with open eyes, trust me, you will definitely find a perfect lady to marry, unless you are one of those dull, non-street wise Nigerian guys who dignify mannerless ladies with a ring

You see are crazy...
But you've said nothing but the truth

It shouldn't take the police days to apprehend the robbers since they used transfer.
Also, ALL the police officers at Pedro station MUST be interrogated. This isn't coincidence.
South West is becoming very unsafe.

We need Amotekun EVEN in the cities, equipped with sophisticated gadgets. Apparently, the police is out of their elements.

Vortex369:
Well, your last line was a question: What I think?

Are you sure you really want to know what I think?

Since you asked for it, then I have to tell you what I think and the reason for my conclusions.

I think you are stupid, and I am not joking. I think you are one of the stupid husbands who have no idea what Fatherhood means and what being a real man in your home entails and how to be a husband to your own wife.

The reason I think you are stupid, is because at this stage in your Life, when your wife is strugggling real hard to bond with the young kids you still are worried about your silly sex life.

You have failed to be an alpha male, a real man, a true husband, who will cuddle his wife and his children and generate happiness for your wife. What bothers you is sex. Do you have any idea that it is sex that brought those children to this world, and when they come, you now sound as if those kids are inconvenience for your silly sex life. Do you even know how silly it sounds?

My advise is that you grow up. Call your wife and kiss her then apologize for complaining about Sex, and move into your bedroom and nurse those children to reach an age of grace.

It is not you that should be complaining of sex dimwit. If your wife needs sex, then become creative, you can make move in the kitchen, bathroom, toilet, under the bed and even at the BQ for a change.

You must not come here and lament about this nonsense again.

Do we not have real men again in this forum that will chastise these Indomie men?

Take charge of your home and bear all inconveniences. Life is not a place for perfect joy and happiness. Embrace the sorrows and pains.

Your stupidity dwarves mount Everest. You should be appointed "dishonorable" minister of Insanity and Foolishness.
How can only one human being be endowed with senselessness like this? You should be kept in a museum so generations to come will learn about your legendary foolishness. Jeez.

Imagine justifying having an 8 hear old daughter sleep in the bed of a couple and blame the husband for wanting some time with HIS OWN wife. Talmbout the wife is bonding with an 8 year old kid. She might just tie the girl to her waist and carry her to work and the toilet since she wants to bond. Guess those that have their kids in other rooms don't bond with their kids.

Why the Bleep am I even trying to reason with your truck load of gargantuan crap.

Op, 44-4= 40.
Ma fo.
You've done nothing wrong. Don't let anybody tell you otherwise. There's ABSOLUTELY NOTHING wrong with complimenting her picture as king as it was not sexually suggestive in any way.

Nigerian bosses have a god complex and always look down on employees as second tier human beings, any opportunity to see you as human upsets them. That said, please find a good side hustle and make yourself indispensable. If any boss do anyhow you leave, abeg.