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@poster,
Having gone thru all d responces(includin' urs),my advice is dat u shud give d gurl time to warm up to u.give her time to be so confortable wif u dat she'll want to go out wif u.She possible is shy,but even d shy ones relax over time.just give her time!

cuteromntc:
are you in your right senses?i dont watchout for personalities but that of the very young lady iice should catch the attention of every sane man.you didnt even see mad n lovely people like madlay ,fat behind.es  like ebony,you went for that person?

Now dat's a very good definition of dumb!

@h-babe,
no mind d 'thing' jare.

@topic,
^{finkin'
still finkin'
still still finkin'}
I fink i'd go for h-babe

chaircover:
Please advise your friend to tell brother 2 about her dating Brother 1 NOW

In this kind of situation, telling the truth ASAP is the best thing to do

Tell her to take dis advice double fast.

@poster,
D headin of ur post shud've been "sister for sale,contact me!".Jobless boy!

Gabry:
Poster, am so sorry but if it makes you feel any better, Im in your situation as well.

Gabry,in dat situation?now dat's so odd!

@poster,
and u need help on that?

MRbrownJAY:
the guys portrayed by the posters are children living like adults. the mugu is the guy that cannot evaluate a situation and work accordingly.
not all women are the same and therefore not all relationships should be viewed equally. if a man decide to NOT SPEND with any woman for fear of being seen as a mugu then he has definitely lost the plot on life and relationship.

the key is to spend rationally. if you go out with a girl and you guys go for dinner/movies etc then there is nothing wrong in paying or go dutch (if thats how you rock your boat). if you date someone for a few months then there is nothing wrong with buying gifts for them (as long as YOU decide what the gifts should be).

the problem lies when some partners would DEMAND for money/recharge card/favors etc these are the rats that people should run away from but, like i always say: if a person hangs around rats then they shouldnt be surprise when they can only find rats to date.

ps: and if she comes with BS stories like "my mother is in hospital" kinda crap then tell her to go and talk to her family (fater/mother/aunts/uncles/cousins etc) who knows and care for her probably better than you do.

Well said man!

Ebonyeyes:
You some how managed to come to that conclusion from that huh? Never asked a man for money in my life, because thankfully my Dad sent me to school to be independent of trifling stingy moofookers .

lmao

ladygaga:
IT TOTALLY DEPENDS ON THE KINDA GAL your GIVING MONEY,

U're so right on dat.Yet,it is generally ok even if she's demanding.^{u'll just dump her for her not being reasonable}

henryhemon:
You give cuz u expect to get something from them n 80percent of girls will like to take advantage of that.I once met a girl n we do always go out on a date n it wasn't up to a month n she asked me to give her money to fix her hair up n I was stalling n few dayz later wen I called 2see her she said why will I want to see her?meaning its all about d dough 4her.@ebonyeyes,its written all over u that u re a golddigger.

Not necessarily my man.In most cases,u give cos u like d happiness dat comes wif her bein happy.

Ebonyeyes:
Why are men like you not in my area code? . Stingy mofookers are littered around me and if you are this tight-fisted in the begining heavens knows how the marriage is going to be like

I'm sure there r,u've just not met 'em yet!

I'm asking dis cos alot of guys i've met don't like spendin' on their gurls claiming they would be taken as 'mugus' or 'stupid'.So guys,where do u stand?As for me,i like spendin' on 'em cos it makes me feel responsible and if d gurl decides to leave,i let her go cos hse doesn't owe me!

Mavenb0x:
Alright! You can edit your real name from my quote o, cos I am doing the same! I don't want to be the reason a stalker found you.

lol. u're funny.don't fink a stalker will bother wif me,plus,i like my name bein' seen alot!

Mavenb0x:
^^^ I know. Ebila Ekpedekumo  (I saw that on your blog from your signature o! http://www.blogger.com/profile/05001926648395384599)

I said my name is Maven cos you were calling me mavenb0x

My bad! but ur user id is mavenb0x!

Virgin talk again?kip ur virginity,throw away ur virginity,who cares?

Mavenb0x:
@ebila:   You are welcome, dear. And by the way, my name is Maven!

My name is Ebila!

@Poster,
Dis ain't nu! Just do wot u fell will be best 4 u!

fofolly:
, ever since my bf broke up with me,av being finding it so difficult to move on.d truth is dat,ild really love to get bk to him but am nt just sure if he still loves me or not, am scared of being with a guy dat dosent love me.i need love happiness, care,

It's not strange.In fact,i was like u some months back,but i have learnt to move on.U really shud do dsame.U can check out dis link,it has helped some people in ur shoes. lavitacounsel..com. Generally tho,u need to give urself d chance to fall in love n be loved,let go of ur fears or they'll eat u up!

@mavenb0x,
Thank ya so much 4 d links.I so luv greek myths!

@poster,
U definately ain't d only one in dat position.However,u hav chosen not to let her go.If u want to forget about her,u can do dat using various methods.There's bin post on how to get over an ex,check 'em out n u'll c how u can help ur situation.U can also visit this link lavitacounsel..com.Fact is,if u don't let her go,u may not be able to love anyone else cos she will still occupy that space dat d new person would've occupied.Goodluck man!

@poster,
Any gurl who does that would've just done herself da greatest harm.We men hate it when our ego is bruised n that is d surest way to do it.If u have a gurl like that,jilt her ass! She definately ain't worth d trouble else she'd have been respectful enough to talk to u even if she needs u to sit up.

@poster,
Asking to know 'bout her past without asking her 'bout it first was a wrong move.Rather,u shud have asked to know her kind of person.We all have dirty pasts,but it doesn't mean we wanna continue living the kinda lives we lived in d past.Make sure u analyze things properly before opting out.Does she still sleep around?Is she da faithful type?Is she such that cannot resist guys?Find such things as those before ballin out.Goodluck man.

nana:
Time is a healer. I remember my first break-up! Oh boy. . .it was tough! All my mum could do was to tell me about hers. . .sheesh! That made me laugh in a way but after a while,I was back to square one. Later had to throw away every gift I got from him,every pics we took together. Couldn't delete the songs cos they are buried in the heart. Luckily for me,I met a pal who I was able to confide in. He gave a tip that seemed like a punishment at first but as time passed by,I found solace in it. He told me to say 'Ex's name-----I forgive u' first thing in the morning when I wake up. It really worked for me. Tho',there are still some certain things that consantly remind me of him. But I justt smile when I remember now unlike then,when I only wished him ****


After the first break-up,I've been smart enough not to let one break-up turn me into a dummy.

Now this is a great technique.N it's cool u now know how to get over an ex easilly.

Gamine:
*enlightening*

i thought the post is 'Ladies only' ok. .

Beliv me,d tin sef tire me!

sparta:
Okay,

Broke up this friday, we were actually planning to get married this december and yeah I am stiill hurting! Weve been having isssues for like a month so it didnt come as a shock. I am still crying but i deleted his nos(ofcourse i can reel it out by heart), all his pics on my system. Its been very hard but what i have been doing?

I cry and i get cranky easily tho not good, i will get past it
I go to church a lot and sow my tears and pain on the altar
I prefer being alone and i so much enjoy the solitude
I think of all the advantages of getting out and they keep me so strong. The advantages of getting out are actually so profound and most of my pips agree with me.
I tell his friendsabout the break up myself so he can realy know am serios.
i rarely discuss it coz it aint worth it.


Most importantly, i feel so free! Gosh, its so relieving.

Do i still miss him? yes
Do i still love him? As always
Is there a chance we can get back? NEVER

Now am realy enjoying being me!

Aawww dear,urs is still very fresh.I really am sorry.But lemme tell u somefin alot of pple fail to understand.Love can be found in more than one person n that means u can get over ur ex.Just give urself d opportunity to get over him n u sure will.if u look deep inside,u'll find out u gave him d opportunity to love u,u accepted him,do dsame in ur subsequent relationship n u'd find out u actually can get over an ex,whether u love them or not.I wish u speedy recovery from d hurt.Remember,he doesn't deserv to take away ur happiness.

Ujujoan:
You can have 10 ex(s) you love, but there's that one you can never get over.

D only one u don't get over is d one u choose not to get over.If u understand how d mind works,u'll realise u can do anything u set ur mind to.

cheexy:
The technique i use to get over my exs is to find a new hobby or learn a new skill. I found out that i hardly have time to think of an ex if i am too busy trying to hone those skills. Deleting of the phone number doesnt work cos i know them off hand. I am very strong willed so anytime i make up my mind to do something, i hardly go back. I try to enjoy my freedom while it lasts.

Sometimes the rate at which i get over them makes my friends wonder if i even loved in the first place. I always stay friends with them, I find out that sometimes we are better friends than lovers. Well, thats just me. What works for me may not work for another person.

Nice one!

Rosabelle:
Im a big believer in: 'Every disappoinment is a blessing'. And in my life, Ive learnt, the bigger the disappointment, the great the blessing coming my way.
I got dumped three months ago, so Im talking from experience lol
I cried a lot. Deleted his numbers and threw out his clothes and deleted all emails and text messages I wrote him and he wrote me. And then I cried at the death of my love for him.
Told all my friends and my mum. Talked about it all the time. Cried some more. Cried again. Remembered a lot of memories (5yrs) and cried some more.
I analysed the situation, cried more, and decided he wasnt worth it after all. After 10 days of contunous crying, loss of 6kilos, I started making big plans. Right now I feel sooo free, its unbelievable. I dont have to think about being someone's wife soon or compromising anything cos Im with someone and so Im free. Its a grand feeling.
Its been three months, and the heartache I felt is now in the past.

That's what i'm talkin about.

Theblessed:
[b]Just move on and STOP thinking of her/him!! Afterall, you came into this world alone, you weren't born a twin and if you hadn't known it, twins do go their separate ways, get that.  So, nothing is destined to last forever therefore, you are not destined to love one and only one person in your whole life and vice versa because, things do change in life. I could hear some people criticising and saying but marriage is for live - yeah, it is if that's your BELIEFS AND VALUES but does everyone share this your beliefs/values? Even the man/woman you married may not share your beliefs/values so, don't assume. If you live in the real world then, your responses to situations in your life should be real. 

Based on the above assumptions, it looks as if we are all destine to love one person in our whole lives - no, no no!!! Because, circumstances can throw any thing at us thus, prevent, limit, restrict and hinder our chances of discovering other loves of our lives hence, our inability to access other parts of our society and the world at large in order to discover these people. Then, you would have known that this lass/fellow you are talking about is not the 'BOMB' you think they are and, not worth dying for. Be open minded and explore other areas/parts, you would realise there are greater loves out there and what you've missed.

You see, God created most things in twos and he knew why?  So, we all have more than one person to love at any one time, in our life time.  However, in situations as this ,we need time, patience and prayers to find and claim the happiness that rightly belongs to us.

So, spread your wings hopefully, you'd find a love greater than your previous one and remember, things happen for a reason.  Maybe, that's the route God chose to navigate you out of a tricky situation you hadn't yet foreseen and this could be a BLESSING in hindsight. 

Therefore, in every situation (positive or negative) thank and praise God!  Move on!!

Good luck![/b]

God bless you.I have been tryina make people see dis.Well said!!!

Nezan:
*hisses*

Who be dis?

Ujujoan:
True words!!

If u end up havin like 2-3 ex(s) u love,u don't get over them?