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ilohim:
Many callous comments have been made by lots of guys here;but my question:

Why do u same guys always want to have premarital sex? Yet you dont want a child?

I really dont get you guys;stop the sex outside marriage bit so that we can have women who can still put to bed after marriage;many abortions have undone lots of ladies.

Someone could treat your sister or daughter the way you have treated someone elses too!

Its a vicious cycle, & I strongly believe that what goes around,comes around!

Cos sex is important to some of us! D women shud be bold enof to say "No condom,No sex".Simple! We no go kill them!

candylips:
@topic wow if she says she is pregnant i will give her 3 slaps

U wicked o! Slap ke?

[quote author=Kenny_G link=topic=333635.msg4705041#msg4705041 date=1255170188]wetin u want make NL ppl say, wen u dey pump her didnt u knw dis cud happen? live wiv the consequence abeg[/quote]U no fit diffentiate assuption from statement of fact? U sabi read at all? I said previously dat my gurl ain't pregnant,this is only a thought!

Ebonyeyes:
I believe in celibacy as well, its just not worth it in the end. Rubbers may break, slip out while doing the do and may not even protect one in the end.

I hate dat word! Anyways,condoms really do protect n chances of slippin' out r very slim except d kini is tiny!

Busta:
Thats why its good to taste the banana b4 the done deal.

trial b4 error!

So true babe!

platinumnk:
Who buys a car without test driving it first?

I wonder o!

baslone:
Besides abstinence, any thing can happen. 4get all
dem contraps. What if it happens? What next?

My point exactly!

Ujujoan:
Well, I'm assuming she has judged all that!  

Aside from maturity there are things you consider when it comes to marriage. I wont want people asking me if my hubby was my younger brother 20 years from now!  

U have a point there sha!

platinumnk:
meaning that it has happened to me. and it wasnt a break up for someone else. One can mesh well with several people, does it mean she is meant for each and every one? No.
One key for every lock. Many keys can fit but only one will turn u like no other.

I feel u.But dat doesn't mean she shud throw away all she has wif d 1st guy.It just ain't right.It ain't fair either!

baddingurl:
Thanks guys for your replies,

For starters i can understand y some of you would think im selfish and some others would think otherwise. I am trying to make a life changing choice and i truly appreciate all your response so far. It truly means a lot.

Okay maybe i should stick with guy no 1. But what will i now tell guy no.2 to make him forget about me? It will hurt me to have to do this but really as some of you have said, I would have to be with him to be able to make a better choice. That time i do not have as both have proposed Jan. 2010 as the Trad month. I dont want to break anyones heart really and if you ask me, I WANT BOTH GUYS . Gosh, guys please no vesk as i am not playing anyone. My family think im some kinda mammywater as i am still single till now, Im 34. I need to make a choice, but a good one; afterall, i waited this long to do so!

once again, thanks for your advice,

Dearie listen,wot if u had to choose guy 2,wot would u have told guy 1.Just tell him the truth(doh some guys don't like dat).

Ebonyeyes:
I see thanks.

U're pretty much welcome!

Oluschenco:
She should go for pregnancy test for confirmation before i flee the city

Eh hen! Na so?

@Ujujoan,
I don't agree wif ur concluding part though.Age ain't what maturity is about.I've seen guys who r old but still babies when it comes to reasoning.She has to determine whether he's matured.

platinumnk:
U ever heard that you can love someone and not be meant for that person?!

Meaning?

baddingurl:
Hey people,  I am really down right now and need some real good advice. Would appreciate if you drop SENSIBLE replies as im totally confused right now,  

I am in love with two guys,

Guy one:

Weve been together for years now and I love him dearly. He is a year older than me and has a decent job. Before anything else we are great friends and have our good and bad times, but all in all, we love each other and plan to get married soon. He is the typical everyday and tries his best to please me in a real sense of way.

Guy Two

Gorgeous guy who is desperately in love with me and wants to marry me ASAP. he has all the means in place and he is a very great guy too. Met him through my best friend who happens to be his cousin. He was finding wife and I was recommended. He was a born bred and buttered UK guy and  hasn’t been to the country in a while. I haven’t met him in person but we have been talking for the past 9 months and we flow very well. He is hell bent on making me his and has vowed to come in Dec. for the trad. I must confess; he is everything I ever dreamed of in a guy. The first one has flaws here and there but this second dude is near perfect….oh and he is 7 years older (which I consider perfect by the way )

So the question now is WERIN I GO DO?!!! I am so confused as I love the first one based on what we share and who he is. The second guy;  I haven’t met, but still feel something really strong for him. No worri guys; I don check: he aint been married before nor does he have any love child anywhere,  I mean this guy is quite impossible to believe,  his types are extinct! His cousin who happens to be my childhood friend guarantees that he is for real and would make me entirely happy for the rest of my life. I have been through some pretty rough times with the first dude as his people dint accept me at first and stuff but now, they are game.

Please I would appreciate any reasonable advise as I have run out of ideas!

I hate reading posts like this.This is exactly why we say gurls r confused.U love the 1st guy,yet u wanna throw away everything u guys share cos of a buttered guy in d UK abi?Think about it,if ur 1st boyfriend were to be in ur shoes n decide to choose d person in UK,u go swear for am abi?Well,after all said n done,it is u dat matter most so just choose whoever is gonna make u happy.Afterall,being married to d 1st guy while thinking of d other guy is as good as u being wif d other guy.But keep in mind that all that glitters definately ain't gold.Talking wif someone on phone is dif from actually being wif someone.U only know a person's true character when u live wif them.

Ujujoan:
Guy No 2 will appear perfect cos he's a million miles away and he's new!! But you cant really tell if he is perfect untill you not only meet him, you spend time with him!!

Guy No 1 on the other hand has been tried and tested. He has his faults and you've seen it all. At least you can leave with it.

That being said, I think what you need to determine first is what you really want! How old are you? Can you wait for guy No 1? Are you sure he wont leave you for a younger girl later (he's just a year older).

I'd take guy number two if not for anything, for his age! The age gap is okay! But in choosing him I'll be willing to face anything I get. It's all a risk dear cos even with guy number 2, there are no gurantees of 'happily ever after'!!!

Uju,God bless u for this post!!!

Ebonyeyes:
Explain further

One of the mysteries about God is that once u ask for forgiveness,wif a sincere heart,u're like a new born without sin.In his sight,u've never committed any sin,whether u've lied,stolen,or even killed.

Ebonyeyes:
He may forgive us but we all have to pay somehow.

Not necessarily!

[quote author=Abbey_city link=topic=333635.msg4699315#msg4699315 date=1255094490]am a lady so i dnt knw. . . . . but it depends if dat's wat u've bn xpectg. . . . if d guy is nt ready yet his action will b diff. 4rm d guy/man who is ready or who really nids it.  [/quote]Correct!!!

Ebonyeyes:
Well if you dont want to be a baby papi very soon, I advise you to put a rubber on it.

U're so funny! lol. Well put though!

borie4u:
^^^ just fainted^^^^^

lmao!

oblo:
O boy i go own up to take on the responsibility oo, for real person no day grow younger, shuo!!!! abi House i never reach to marry?



BUT

That na if na me get am, so in other words, we go do the following  TEST


1) PHCN TEST (wether NEPA CARRY LIGHT AT THE EXACT POINT OF ACTUAL IMPREGNATION!!! ) 


2) NIPOST TEST ( WETHER THE SPERM REACH THE FERTILISATION POINT IN TIME ABI PERSON OPEN THE PACKAGE FOR ROAD COME ADD JOIN OR CONTAMINATE OR REMOVE SOMETHING!!!! Ehen, U buy Stamp?!!!  , Gerout!! u no buy stamp!!! [/b]


3) NPF TEST, ( (wether the sperm mount roadblock collect bribe for road in order to gain access to the egg HENCE THE BELLE!!,  ( yes ke e fit happen naahhh)



Abeg I day come I go tell una the other test wen I go do later , I wan go chop,

Guy,u got me rolling on d floor.Nice one man! N hey,u don reach to marry!

Chrisbenogor:
My thoughts are that it will depend on the nature of the relationship, but the blame lies both ways the guy and the gurl and the girl suffers more because she may have to put her life on hold for a child that was not planned for. So both parties need to seat down and decide what to do by considering the child, the girl and lastly the guy involved. That is how I think a matured person would handle it.

Matured post man.I hope say u go actually act like dat?

Thomaths:
OMG, u'r wat
Then I'll start crying

HQ:
LOL,  Recall the last time I pwned her,  

lol

ThoniaSlim:
lmao. . .look at this one. . .don't go and find work to do. . .be there dreaming of one billion dollars. . .


"NO FOOD FOR LAZY MAN"

Au Revoir!

I've got a job,but i'm sure u live off a guy! U can go n jump into d river if u don't like d post,but don't take ur frustration on me!

AjaraEwuro:
@Poster


No go find better dream- if na so so so type of dream Bill Gates dey dream, i wonder wether u go dey type this kain nonsence for yah computer. 1 billion ko, 5678904567trillion ni.

Fool! Bill gate is a dreamer,a big dreamer and dat's y he keeps making it big.U,i'm sure u dream small.I pity ur sorry life.

stalliontp:
Its High Time!!!

lol

domwas2:
i'll say thanks God marriage next

If u want it dat much,y not go ahead n ask her to get pregnant?

kelvin:
Man up. Tell her everything will be alright, and when she leaves, pack your things and move to Cotonu.

o boy,u be bad guy.

galatico:
Holy Shit!!! You're what pregnat? Damn it!!!  I won't abort I'll willingly accept it if am responsible for it, we start our life, abortion is murder, I'll just tell her baby come lets start a family .

lol

mikkyrazzy:
Ure a darling grl. The grl of my dreams. We will keep d baby surely.

Ain't she lucky?

amyliajane:
@ Topic

Na wa oh!!!, when u dey busy dey pound the girl, u no know say she go carry bele?it only shows how responsible we are, if u r not ready to take responsibility of your actions when it happens, then by all means pleasssssssssssssssseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee play safe.

Na wa for u o! U no sabi read?My gurl no get belle.Dis is only a tot!

djcrucifix:
hmmm, *scratch my head*, ok, so wat re we gonna do?

U're so funny.lol

adefash:
Guys are funny sha.you want to tell her to abort it when you couldnt abort your own sperm at the point of discharge.how ill you feel if your daughter is in the same situation.
Well God dey oooo

Not everyone is set to have a child.Think about it.If ur sister gets pregnant for someone who can't take care of her n her child at dat time,would u have rather she aborts or keeps it?

Okaakoko:
pre, what? stop that, and stop that joke. look i'm not in mood for that expensive joke. how can you be pregnant? who asked you to? where did you get it? who is responsible? where is he living? so you girls are like this? after all i've been doing for you. LOOK, BEFORE I COUNT 3 GET OUT OF MY HOUSE. AND DONT LET ME SET MY EYES ON YOU AGAIN. (OKAAKOKO, stop dreaming, you have not impregnated a girl. so stop that )

U r d kind of guy gurls shud avoid!

Rooneyboy:
Y must she be so stupid to go pregnant ?

Guy u harsh o!

@NLers,
My gurl ain't pregnant! Some people,as usual,posted trash,some reasonable,some funny,while some just made crazy posts.But d tin is dis.Sometimes a guy may just not be ready for pregnancy n wen she comes up n say she's pregnant,he's taken off guard.Other times,he'd be glad to be a father(as u've seen in some posts).And finally,we r all guilty of playing without condoms,it doesn't mean we r horrible.But if u like doin it without condom always,den u beta watch it cos AIDS is real,or gono,stach etc.

Ebonyeyes:
Of course hun the do is very sweet but be prepared for one of the most common side effect which is pregnancy

We can always work somfin out na!

iykedare:
experience in what?opening your legs?common think with your brain.

People who think with their brain respect other people's opinions.But i guess u wouldn't know that!

@NL peeps,
It ain't a wrong thing to be a virgin,just as far as it is ok by u.But it doesn't make u any beta than does who aren't virgins.Personality is more dignified than virginity.Before anyone will get to know whether u're a virgin or not,he/she will first be drawn or attracted to u n it is ur personality that will achieve that for u.

@Poster,
Virginity is dignity,virginity is lack of opportunity,depending on d person involved.Being a virgin does make u more dignified than one who is experienced.Virginity is way OVERRATED.

whiteroses:
horrible lol
actually some guys are different tho. some girls will not say anything, my mate got pregnant and she couldnt tell him apparently she loves him too much to let him know she thinks he wont pass his exams so she lied she's away labour day he heared and couldnt witness the birth i heared on the second day he came with his family to see her and bursted into tears crying like a baby for no reason, i'm thinking wow if its some guys they'll not take responsibility. i rem when a girl tried it with my cousin he wooped out the gatemans air riffle lol she fled like a beast who owned pikin? but why do guys hate that news anyway? whats wrong with it if your gf accidentally fall preggers

Well,let's just say we r mostly unprepared.

Ebonyeyes:
They love doing the do though

The do is sweet na!

Ebonyeyes:
Do you know how ignorant you sound. Do you know its the mans sperm that determines the sex of the child? Yeye person. Ignorant fools like these are the people destroying women with female kids in Nigeria

Ok! My prediction has come to past!Tell am o jare!

190:
@ebila

see dis man

dont u know that behind every sucessful woman there is a male child

PLEASE NLAND GIRLS LEMME SOUND THIS WARNING TO U PEEPS

Instead of u ladies to go about thinking of how 2 get money for your nails and hair (like my ex-)

U peeps should worry about how 2 get a male child to cement your place in your Husband's house

abeg i dnt wanna start no war,Just a simple candid advice

Marriage is 1 tin but gettin a male child to cement your place in that house is entirely another

God giveth but u berra start the prayer now so God can help u on tyme instead of tinkin of how 2 insult every nland males around!~~

later ladies

I tot dat was yesteryears kinda tot.So pple dey still get dis kind idea?

chidipupay:
In some circumstances abortion might be the best option, not because it is good but because that will save us lot of things. and in some case keeping the child will be the best option. dat is why i said we will team up and look for a solution we both agree upon amicably

I feel u man!

whitelexi:
Holy Shaite!!! You're What??

Ok, you're kidding right? right? Whew!! That was close. . .  Never play that sort of game with me ever again!!!

Man,u got me rolling on d floor.LMAO

190:
wud be shocked!!~~~

but would say

honey go for a scan

if na boy born am

if na girl commot the tin sharply!!~~

Guy,u wan start war of d sexes abi?U want make all dis NL bad-mouthed babes come scatter dis place?Wetin make u dey bring gender bias for d matter now?

chidipupay:
We will team up and try to find the best solution to the pregnancy. I will definately give her the whole support at that moment

Nice,if u'd really do it sha o!

HIO4:
De-pregnate yourself before I say a major congrats to you with a sucker punch to the extremes of your belly.
Your womb will be very grateful.

Kill person pickin u hear?Who tell u to play without boots?

Guys,if your girl comes to the house one day and says "Baby i'm pregnant", what'll be your reaction to this and subsequent action? Keeping in mind that you know the pregnancy is actually yours.

@Ujujoan,
Happy Birthday babe.Go out and be the best u can be cos u're counting on u! Many more years ahead.