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Naughtysite:
So women are worth chasing abi ?


If i wooze you ehn ?

CACAWA:
is that why you prefer to chase boys?

rantmoniker:
If you cannot chase an husband you are legally married to from going astray, I wonder what you are chasing.

goingape:
no WOMAN, I repeat! no WOMAN is worth chasing, much less fighting over for. there are very useless WOMEN here in NAIJA.

infact NAIJA WOMEN deserve to be treated like goat!

bebe2:
Aunty, dat one hard oo. A man lies to me gets me pregnant and abandons me for another woman.

He is begging my ghetto persona to come out to play. I must draw blood. Not kidding

pweetychyka:
Nice points!

But to an extent u got it all wrong!
The Man in question who abandoned her n their 2 kids in d village with no communication talk more of remuneration/stipend to take care of their kids, is her hubby!

Some men r not worth living in dis world.

Onegai:
Well, let me speak some pidgin, "ashually, 3 brand new 2016 model card can wipe the tears away". a lot of women are married still because it is financially prudent and they need the support with the kids and "what will people say". If you ask them about hair husband's needs and his inner state of mind, they will look at you blankly. So yeah, an expensive gift works. When I was a child (like age 10!), my mum's friends always told me to make sure I got property in my name from my husband. No matter what.

chriskosherbal:
why the man?

baby124:
Why is she fighting? What difference is that going to make? Instead of her to go away dancing and singing. At least you know he is not dead and no one can accuse you of killing him. You also know you are free of such a useless idiot. He will keep running from woman to woman till he dies. See how some people refuse their blessing. God has removed this one from your life but you are there fighting. For what
When a road is blocked or closed, and you are told No. It is because that is not the place for you in life. Move on and stop fighting for things that are not yours. Otherwise you will see things you were not supposed to see. Nothing in this life is by force. All humans have free will to do what they want.

avicky:
EfemenaXY

Happy MAY day. May all ur wishes come tru in this month of may.

ephemm:
You are taking this whole advice thing quite too personal than I can bear, I don't comment more than once on a thread so as to allow millions of NL users the opportunity to make theirs too before the thread gets too long and boring.

Pls go back and read the modified version of my 1st comment.

ephemm:
I advised OP based on several assumptions:
Eg what if the wife knows her husband is randy and has been trying to save her marriage by keeping other members of the family in the dark?

ephemm:
Every time, what you don't know, won't hurt you.

TheDarknight:
1. Was the husband's cheating a norm or just a one-off?

2. I think before rushing to inform the wife of her husband's sins, it behoves she appraise the situation well.

3. And yes couples have an eerie way of turning against an informant later on. And no one wants to be caught in the line of fire.

4. You always have this baseless assessment when trying to solve domestic issues.

5. When ephemm pointed to you that in Africa men still get away with cheating, it was a plain fact, he didn't say he was in support of it.

6. He made a statement of fact which is absolutely correct.

But you still had a way to bring your unending sorrrows and sadness into it by drawing a long line of uncorrelated harangue that leads nowhere.

Bolade005:
All right.

Please do teach me how you were able to nitpick those points and reply to them.

Bolade005:
Why would a married man go self-service?

Bolade005:
Didn't she know the man has high libido before marriage? It's her cross and she should deal.

Bolade005:
The OP is even sexually boring and I'm deeply sorry for her man, there are other ways she could explore and they'd both be happy. Instead of you to educate her on other ways, you're here defending the indefensible.

Bolade005:
And before you think I'm insensitive know this, my wife gave birth in January and ever since we've not had sex, she's not completely healed and I don't pressure her because we do explore other means and we are both happy. OP should explore too biko, she should learn to go nasty for her man.

Bolade005:
I can't win with you shey?

Bolade005:
Is she supposed to derive pleasure from BJ when she's not the recipient?. BJ is to satisfy her man.

Bolade005:
If she doesn't give BJ atall, i'd understand but she gives the man BJ and stop halfway and that's not being selfish to you?, if your man gets you in the mood and then leave u alone, that's not being selfish or if he gets you in the mood and he erupts after 2mins without your body being well sated, that's not selfishness?

Bolade005:
Ma'am, we both know if she does it well, nigga will climax so what we arguing here for?

Bolade005:
And the änal thing u wrote up there I don't buy it. Here the man is the recipient and he likes BJ so if the woman does it well, no way in hell he won't climax. If the woman enjoys änal and the man ram her well even though he doesn't enjoy it, I see no reason why the recipient that likes it cannot climax.

Bolade005:
Tell her to go chew that D1ck and make that man happy.

lovinam:
AIDS/HIV. Is real o! Tell the woman and your husband. Call a family meeting o. The woman should be able to make an informed decision after the meeting. I would want to know if I were in her shoes. Na iron pant I. Go de wear. I will deal with he hurt later. I gorra be alive o train my children.

Bolade005:
Read the OP again, she didn't say the man doesn't climax during BJs, she said she couldn't give him the BJ to the point of eruption and I think that's because she find the thought of him erupting in her mouth repugnant. Why would a woman have a problem tasting her own man? I don't understand

ephemm:
Yes, I may...

...but take it or leave it, in Africa, men shall continue to get away with infidelity more times than women - that's just the way things are at the moment.

ephemm:
You did well, let your husband know, but don't tell the wife, you may not like the outcome, becos we can't predict what the woman will do.

Bolade005:
It wasn't written in the OP that the husband had a problem going down on her and if she needed her man to eat her vagina immediately after childbirth then that's her problem.

What two grown-ups do in their bedroom is none of my business but OP made it known she's open to BJ but she's not open to her man erupting in her mouth and I think that's completely selfish of her especially if her man do go down on her. Moreover, you and I both know she could get her husband to a point of climax and remove his device out of her mouth at the point of eruption and I'm sure he'd still be well sated and he wouldn't be complaining.

And Ma'am, yh I do know getting nasty works both ways. Thanks.

Bolade005:
I'm not blaming her for not wanting sex yet. I understand she needs time to heal so I'm with her on that. I called her selfish for the half BJ she gives her man. I mean what the hell is a BJ good for when the man doesn't erupt?

purity22:
My husband's younger brother is a married and bless with a child.
His wife own a place where she train vulnerable young girls in catering and beads making, she called me from a wedding reception and pleaded that i should go and tell her husband to help her buy fuel because he is not picking his calls. On getting to their home i saw the baby crying with poo all over her body, called the house help but no response so i decided to bath the baby when i enterd the room i had some noise coming from the bedroom and the door was lockd so i bath the child but dont have any dress to put on the baby. I went and sat in the sitting room waiting. Lo and behold she (one of her girls on training) came out with his wife's wrapper on her chest rushin to the bathroom. Was so shocked and angry that had to drag the girl to my house and beat the hell out of her. The shameless man came begging me not to tell my husband nor his wife. I know for sure i can never tell his wife but wil tel my husband.
Some men are prayer point sha!

Mindfulness:
Was Abacha, GEJ and Babangida female?

Is Buhari female too?

Mindfulness:
Who is Bennyrazz?

Mindfulness:
Exactly! I love it when people know how to turn the worst of situations to their advantage.

And this one could have been turned easily into lots of cash.

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I am afraid she overreacted and gave everything out for free.

Mindfulness:
I just read the beginning. I don't like the word "snatch" in this context. He snatched my wife. She snatched my husband. No, s/he didn't. Your husband / wife made his / her choice. Stop deceiving yourself and deal with it.