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treese:
Every woman loves a romantic guy, show me a woman who puts her husband's dp up ALL the time I would show u a woman is married to a man that makes her smile all the time. My husband isn't the romantic kind of guy but I don't think that's very true: Cos I rem 2yrs back he had flowers delivered to me far away in the United states and he was in naija. How he did I don't know, but it felt like a proposal, cos I didn't experience d "go on ur kneels will u marry me ish with him". I did a survey with my married friends on fb,instagram, and bb. And I see d way wives are bin celebrated by their husbands... so I ask myself, am I doing something wrong as a wife, or is my husband not just a happy man. I tried to talk with him. Cos he doesn't like to communicate much with me it didn't do much impact. I tried to develop sending romantic messgaes to him. It didn't work. I rem few days back, I sent him a message, I quote "is it okay to be crazy in love with you" and his response "lol, as long as u tread with care and caution cos someone like me if u love me to much it will make me care less and love you less... Till date that response is still my most embarrassing textmessage from him, when am not a girlfriend. I was thinking and planning we change environment, probably go out without d kids. But I know who am married to d I dea might even irritate him.
I can't touch his phones without his permission; he can strangle my neck for that reason. And if u ask him he says because I vowed never to touch his phone again he is saving my life from bin destroyed. Lmao.
I don't think he is happy, when he is angry with or we arguing over an issue u hear him say things like I should not av taken d child from u when u claimed u were pregnant: yes I got pregnant out of wedlock but I didn't force him to. So why so much hate...
I see d love in vogue and I ask myself where I av gone wrong that young couples like us av such boring marriage.
I have my weakness, I do in fact I av a lot, but if there is sincere love it can fix it in my opinion. I don't think it's about my weakness. I think there is more. I don't think there is any one else either...
When am down he doesn't notice, if I av something on my mind and I try to wear d mood.. am on my own. I understand he is so engrossed with work but still. Dear hubby only u know wat goes on in ur mind. Would av preferred better options. I have seen u defend ur mum on matters BTW us and I don't think u can ever defend me like that. I have seen u care for some of ur female friends nd Dat treatment is far from us. I one day asked my hubby y he doesn't check me out nd tell me wen I look good nd i recieve the comments from differebt men outside, he said it's normal. He said men admire other women nd might not admire their own wives. So much to say, this is just very little of how I feel.
We had an argument yesterday dat involved me mentioning my mum law before I knew it he reported me to my sister in law telling her everything I said. Till now I haven't recovered from d textmessage she sent. He reallt made me miss my late mum. I know I shouldn't av probably talked about his mum. But I tot couples av each other's back.
We av two lovely kids from this marriage. But if he doesn't love me anymore, maybe he never did.. i rem him telling me on our wedding day that i musnt give him problems oo, he said ot like twice and i rem telling him not to worry all will be well. But do men say that on their their wife on their weddind day? is it adviceable to continue, I don't encourage divorce but wat if it will mk him happy. I can't tell.. I love him very much but he doesn't love me Like I do nd he doesn't want me to push it, it irritates him like he said, And I don't want to force it.I want him to be happy, I can't ask him cos he doesn't like communicating with me, it doesn't always go down fine majority of the time. He doesn't believe in marriage counselor or shrink........ so!! "Very confused state of mind"

https://www.nairaland.com/2362536/letter-worried-wife-hubby

@OP: Is this true?

keepingmum:
Thank God I am not married to this very insecure paranoid op of a man. I can only imagine how unhappily married ur wife is.

I won't waste my time advising op cause he seems to attack everyone who tried to advise him about having an open mind/seeing things from the other person's view and an overview perspective.

If you want to know more read his previous topic and I think his wife also commented on that topic

This is the same man that refused sleeping with his wife because he says her veejayjay is wide after birthing his OWN kids....

Nairalanders pls search #treese for his wife's username and see the type of psychopathic beast this "prince charming" is to his wife

Seriously?

Lemme go dig up her posts so we can see what sort of person we're dealing with on here.

https://www.nairaland.com/treese/topics

kevoh:
Not all babies will come out exactly the same way but I'm pretty sure that baby is alive. No point taking photos of a breech birth and posting it when the baby is dead.
Here's a link to why some babies might have blue on some parts of their body http://www.webmd.com/parenting/baby/blue-skin-in-babies
Here's another link of the blogger who posted the original pictures with full story and complete pictures. http://karynloftesnessphotography.com/vaginal-breech-birth/ The same baby is about 8 months old now if I'm not mistaken. http://karynloftesnessphotography.com/silas-alive-and-well/

Good to know he's alive and well. Thanks for sharing.

5minsmadness:
No he is not a family friend. I doubt the husband knows about him, maybe he does but on a very casual note. Like she asks him what to eat at work and he tells her and she goes to prepare it.


That your second paragraph doesn't sound right, but I'm constrained for time now.

Think about it.

A married lady in her early 20's is more likely to have more single male friends (e.g from childhood, primary/ secondary school classmates, university course mates, work colleagues), unlike her married counterpart in her mid-late 40's from the same pool of friends; simply because the men are more likely to be married and settled in their 40's compared to their 20 something counterparts.

Re: your first paragraph, maybe you should calm down and give us the full gist. We er..."promise" not to judge you.

nitwitfabian:
Married women are very religious. They are in all kinds of churches, wasting their prayers on the wrong thing. Instead of praying for their children, they pray that God melts a mans stony heart.
They watch war room, and expect all things to fall into place.


Staying away from sin isnt unforgiveness. A man sins against God and u make it your job to forgive? Are you God?

Also... why dont u let the man suffer for his sins, instead of staying and getting punished for a sin you didnt commit?

I give up!

nitwitfabian:
God is God. His word his bond, and it never changes. God isnt really in support of sex. But God said, if you must have sex, ensure you are married. God also doesnt support divorce. And the only condition God gave for divorce is adultery. If your partner commits adultery, divorce them, and you stay off sex, until he/she dies and then you can remarry, and have sex again.

But the reverse is the case. People just do what they please and expect God to answer their prayers. Why do married women stay in a marriage with a man that is cheating, even when God says divorce such a person, if you dont, you are as well committing adultery. Dont you know that part of the bible?

Yet, you keep crying and praying to God to change the man, you watch porn to learn new styles, you subscribe to all food channels just to impress and satisfy a mere man who is making you sin against God By committing adultery through him.

What do you think God is blind?
God cannot answer your prayers if you sin by not following his instructions to leave a husband that commits adultery.

Or is it sex that is so sweet you cannot stay away from it?



Why are you so afraid?

Well, im not surprised. Many of you took God forgranted to engage in premarital sex with this man... now he is misbehaving, you are asking God to intervene.

It looks like you take God forgranted, and respect your husband more than God.

The question is WHY?

~ Does your bible preach forgiveness? If so, under what conditions should forgiveness be applied?

~ You're claiming that God punishes the wife of a cheating man for staying with him? Does this cheating man go scott free from receiving any punishment for his sins?

~ Let's for the sake of this argument assume I haven't got any religious convictions. How would you level with me? If you can't, then I suggest you place a request to have this thread moved to the religion section.

ifyalways:
Babes, sun, heat, fuel scarcity want kill me and my bald head so I run comot small for Naija. I can't do much verification from where I am now but I'll try next week.

OP, where are u? Come answer Rehills question

Nne bless you jare.

So you run go obodo oyinbo go do posh omugwo for Cococandy without telling moi? I don vex with both of you wella.

dominique:
I totally get your points. Do allow me to clarify, the woman never reached out to TeHN or anybody for assistance, I did (and when I did, I didn't know a thread would be created).The reason why she opened up to me about her situation was because she wants me to hire her to do my laundry and to have her in mind in case I need a caterer. I only looked within myself to see the little way i could assist. Even though her income flow is extremely low at the monent, she still manages to put a few hundred Naira away towards their welfare and her business. About her husband coming back into their lives, the possibility is extremely slim; even she doesn't want him back. For her, her children's school fees is not a luxury, she's prepared to do starve and do the dirtiest of jobs to keep paying them (she told me that much this very afternoon). And no, she's not expecting anybody to continue to shoulder her responsibilities. What I feel she needs is a little assistance to ease her through this difficult period. She is at risk of being evicted right now as it is, we don't know how long the landlady's patience will be tested. She is very hardworking and extremely prudent with cash. once she's abke to bounce back at her trade, she will be able to put money away to continue handling tgeir welfare like before (gosh! I'm starting to sound like a broken record ). Nobody ever wants to see themselves in a situation where they would to begging, sometimes life just happens.

Dominique, thanks for the explanation.

I do get where you're coming from but let's be practical and do some sums here. You mentioned earlier that this lady is at the verge of being kicked out of her home and onto the streets with her 4 kids for non-payment of her rent.

~ The outstanding school fees for her kids (probably a year's worth?) = N75K
~ Outstanding rent arrears + 1 year's full rent = N42K

The amount owed for her kids private school education is over 3 years worth of rent (N72K) + an extra N3K.

TeHN:
• Pay the outstanding rent (2K * 9 months) = 18K
• Pay a years rent (2K *12 months) = 24K
• Pay the outstanding school fees = 75K
• Balance realised from this campaign will go towards restocking of the shop

Yes, we all like the finer things in life and strive to do give our kids the best. But there comes a point in time where when faced with hardship that one just has prioritize. Right now, having a roof over their heads is way more important than keeping them in a school she can't afford.

Even over here, we do get people that have to make a hard choice between "heat" or "eat". (i.e. keeping warm during the bitter cold winter nights, or having something to eat).

Food, clothing, and shelter are basic primary necessities that should never be compromised.

Education (private education) is a secondary need for which an alternative (government schools) exist. She should pull her kids out of that / those schools, use the money to secure the roof over their heads and kick-start her failing business. As her business slowly starts to recover, she should look to either sending her kids to extra after-school-lessons, or employing the cheaper services of a young unemployed graduate to teach her kids at home.

When she's firmly back in business, then and only then should she consider sending her kids back to private schools (on the basis that she'll be able to comfortably afford the fees).

Gross

Mindfulness:
True.

It is better to avoid such men in the first place.

I agree.

skywife:
If you find out that your husband or wife is a cultist or murderer what would you do?report to police?stay and pretend as if nothing happens?leave the house?
Please I need honest answer,thanks.

Why?

5minsmadness:
Married women in general! What r u doing cooking for another man and it's not a formal occasion

I still don't get you 5minsmadness. Are you indirectly trying to tell us that married women cook for you outside of formal occasions?

Anyway, the reason I ask if this question is meant for the newly married or those that have been married for several years is because, a newly wedded woman is likely to have more single male friends than her counterpart whose been married for donkey years.

So, the likelyhood of her cooking for them would be more. I struggle to imagine under what scenario, but maybe if the single guy is a family friend perhaps?

TeHN:
Dear Stakeholders,

It’s that time again were we plead that you join hands with us to help alleviate a struggling family from the claws of the dreaded poverty. We received a report (https://www.nairaland.com/1315227/e-helpers-network-tehn-official-thread/6#44755815) from a nler earlier on in the week about a family needing an immediate intervention and we’ve since proceeded to investigate (Please see our field worker’s report below) and validate as required


We are proposing to do the following as a group:

• Pay the outstanding rent (2K * 9 months) = 18K
• Pay a years rent (2K *12 months) = 24K
• Pay the outstanding school fees = 75K
• Balance realised from this campaign will go towards restocking of the shop

We shall donate 100K to this cause from balance of funds and appeal to each and everyone of you to please dip into your pockets and support us however small an amount you have to spare.

We now have a dedicated account so please send your donations to:
Bank: First Bank
Account Name: Helpers at Large Network
Account Number: 3102950938


For paypal donations –
Please send the payment to: ehelpersnetwork@gmail.com

Thanks ever so much for your continuous support

Regards

TeHN

CC: aminat508
dominique

Field worker's report:

I visited Mrs Akinlana today as planned at her shop/residence..

She has 4 children –
Oldest 12 years is in Jss 2,
2 Kids in primary school,
A baby of about 14 months who I met with her.

She narrated her ordeal with her hubby, how he left home unannounced leaving her to cater for 4 children and with 9months rent in debt. She mentioned that she has been the one paying for the children's school fees for 4 years now - about N53k per term‎. This has affected her business a great deal. They also had some extra budgetary expenses last Dec that made her collect money from Corporative hoping that her husband will refund her as promised. She has recently finished paying the loan. She is not owing anyone except for the Landlady and school fees.

She is looking at assistance with the rent, present schools‎ fees and some funds to restock her business.

She appears to be very hard working. She makes hair, sells soft drinks (bottles & can), hair products and extensions, sugar, exercise books and so on. She also makes and sell washing soap.

Her rent is N2000 per month for a room. They occupy 2 rooms and are owing for 9months.

We have advised her to release the husband's room to the landlord so that the rent doesn’t keep accumulating‎ as it isn’t sustainable going forward. A new rent is due by June.

School fees : N71, 500 for the 3 children. School bill attached.

It's not enough to say her husband just "went away". That's convenient.

Where is he? What about family from both her side and his?

So when all her bills have been offset by "well meaning Nigerians", the husband would then waltz back in their lives and take his rightful position?

I'm sorry, even though I do empathise with this lady's plight, she's still a lot, lot, lot better off than thousands out there. Her situation doesn't qualify as 'dire' as she's still able to afford 3 square meals for her 4 kids.

Expecting people to pay out for her children's private school fees is a luxury she (quite frankly) can't afford.

#My Opinion#

5minsmadness:
I admit I am a bit old school when it comes to relationships/marriage etiquette but this early morning palaver got me bothered. Without much ado, is it normal now for married female folk to be cooking food for thier male friends at the workplace or anywhere? These men are not thier husbands oh! As in, can't these men find single chicks to cook for them or better yet go to a restaurant or even better yet learn how to cook for themselves?

Me I don't think I can accept my babe cooking for anyone apart from me. Even if she asks my permission sef. Even if the guy is on his deathbed, he should find a sister or cousin or hire a cook kwa, haba, cooking is a special act to me and any lady saying she wants to cook for this guy cos he doesn't have food in his house is cheating o, odikwa risky!

Well, just my thoughts sha. But I think it's very wrong.

Is this question for newly married ladies, or those that have been married tey-tey?

Be specific jor.

Mindfulness:
Well, what if it had gotten worse and she would have had the trouble of looking after a man who is seriously ill? What if the father of her kids had died?

If he had gotten worse, then yes, owning up to her misdemeanors would have been the right thing to do.

If he had died, then she obviously wouldn't have been answerable to him anymore, but his family - and yes, she would have still had to own up to her part in his demise.

However, this man made a full recovery so there really wasn't any point letting him on, on her part as she'd done a good thing by saving his life.

Mindfulness:


Are you looking for trouble?

Perhaps. Only those guilty of my claims would kick a fuss, but then again, a below-average-Joe would have issues deciphering the message / reading between the lines.

Mindfulness:
The husband is not very smart, to say the least.

Actually, the wife is the not-so-smart one.

Knowing the kind of person her hubby is, she should have kept schtum and allowed him bask in his glory ignorance for the sake of peace.

At the end of the day, it all boils down to blind vanity. She hurt his "pride" by letting him know he was wrong and she, right.

Same old story with your below Joe average Naija man. Nothing new there.

Fake or real, those are toe-curling pictures

Lol!! Funny video

You've just gotta love that granny. I probably might be like that too when my time comes.

Acidosis:
We know how you women adore your sons, and wish they'll protect you and beat up any impostor.

raumdeuter:
How am I? I am just saying if your 7yr old son is getting beat up by a girl, How does a 7yr old defend himself without "hitting a girl"

You & Dayo are violent men

baby124:
Chiomzy, don't be shy. If you need money, you have to let go of what people will say in your cry for help. So many have abused this opportunity that you must know you need to present solid proof that you are who you say you are. Now, you need proof of your business, your location, school and proof that your mother is so poor and widowed. You may find people who can set up a business for your mum and pay your school fees. Please also go and learn a skill even if it's braiding or making weave. So you can help yourself in school as I am sure you know you can never get all your needs if your story is true. For further privacy pls send your details to TEHN and they can verify who you are.

Nice one Baby124

@Chimozy, do as Baby124's advised and let us know how it goes.

bellong:
@EfemenaXY,
If someone can verify her story in Kaduna, we can take it from there.

Thanks Bellong.

chiomzy25:
Pls I really don't know if am doing the right thing. But I am helpless at the moment. I need assistance to pay my tuition fee, I have waited for this opportunity to go back to school after so many years and finally its here. With the economy set back all over the country, my business can't foot my bills at the moment. I am soliciting for help from well meaning nairalanders who can help me out. Any help rendered will be appreciated. God bless.

Give us a bit more information about your background. Where are you based? What year of study are you at? How much are your tuition fees? What sort of business were you running and what's happened to it?

Even if you do get the help you seek today, how do you plan on sustaining yourself / Education for the remaining years / duration of your course?

chiomzy25:
Martic number KPT/ND1/EV/2015344912
Falcuty- School of industrial engineering
Department- computer engineering
Session- ND computer Engineering (Evening)
Kaduna state polytechnic

Ifyalways, bikonu bia.

Abeg help us verify the authenticity of this story.

Is @op male or female? And does the name given on here match the matriculation no. & departmental details?

Ahnie: hold off on helping. At least wait for ifyalways' confirmation.

Cc: Baby124, Bellong, your input pls.

P.s: Assuming this story is true, is there a way the tuition fees can be paid directly in "her" school account?

Trashy.

Cc: Kanwuliajara / KanwuliaExtra, Sagamite, Sambarry

njokusboy:
Lol.... Subliminals heheheh.....
Commitment essentially implies loyalty.... One can be committed to someone he does not intend to marry... It could be for health reasons, ethnic reasons, religious reasons or whatever... Anyway, what am tryna say is that there's no relationship outside a marriage that equates to a marriage, if someone loves you well enough they'd marry you. Any man that says he loves you but does not intend to make it official is a fraud... You're probably so good a Bleep he cannot live without ur vagina... In marriage, you are essentially telling the whole world you both are together and giving all them other dudes or b1tches the middle finger.... Marriage is the zenith of all human commitments.. Why do you think there's a cost for opting out? Try taking your committed boyfriend to a court of law because he wants to try another pvssssssy??

2. Stop acting dumb woman, those reasons you mentioned are exceptions and not the norm..... Now answer with sense, you are in a committed relationship and not in any form of pressure, why get married? Why not leave it at the commitment level? I understand you want to defend YOUR Situation but don't try to patronize us... You are debating with your uncles...

3. I only brought in God because I assumed albeit correctly that you got married in a church... But you are clearly one indecisive, confused and utterly clueless person with no principle...... I'd never marry in a church if I do not believe in the sanctity of marriage and the sovereignty of God... What else do I even expect from someone who thinks peer pressure is a good enough reason to get married....
Take a stand, it's only a fool that says he doesn't like dog meat but wouldn't mind dog meat peppers soup.
A piece of advice, " choose God".

Must you use vile words, to make your point?

I've been following the exchanges on here, and there hasn't been a single instance of shaybebaby resorting to insults to score cheap points. I'm disappointed, Njokusboy.

Acidosis:
You'd notice I didn't generalize. We have sensible female Lawyers and Nurses. Some professions are naturally vulnerable and susceptible to all manner of unfaithfulness.

Really.

Let's refresh your memory:

Acidosis:
[s]See them oo, they ignored the message and descended on men.[/s]

A man can so decide not to marry a Nurse or a Policewoman because of job demands and confrontations.

[s]The same applies to ladies. I've seen women who sworn never to marry policemen because they look dirty, and steal a lot.[/s]

I know what it means to date a Lawyer and I seriously cannot live with the arguments and belief systems. [s]As a man, I won't sacrifice my leadership position because of some useless unions. I wonder why some women act like hypocrites. Most of you women treat your 1 year old sons like gods, yet you want a made and matured gentleman to sacrifice his authority on the platter of a self-centered career driven woman. No! It will never work.

We even know women who rejoice when their little boys beat up colleagues, we know how you cheer your son for been arrogant and stubborn, and we know how you adore and call them soldier-boys!

Yet you expect men (sons to other women) to do houseboy work, act like incapacitated 'odoyos' to control power mongers. E no go work o, treat us like you treat your sons. [/s]

Humility is what we all crave for, but this trait is uncommon in certain professions. It is easier to meet a humble female Chemist, Pharmacist or Teacher than to meet a humble Policewoman, female soldier or Lawyer. Women abuse power a lot, and that's the reason most you - women avoid fellow powerful women. We know una type well well.

[s]Most of you prefer to work under male managers, yet you expect men to live with boss ladies?

hehehehe [/s]

And you say you didn't generalize?

SirShymexx:
Lmao.

Can't relate but you changed ya nappy hair to the Eurocentric straight, bleached ya black skin etc.. Isn't naij the biggest market in the world for bleaching cream? They definitely can't relate.

Sometimes, I honestly don't get you.

You claim you "love" your black sisters, yet in the same breath, you don't hesitate to use the derogatory term "Nappy hair" to describe our tight kinky curls. What gives?

One's use of beauty products / accessories is not a yardstick or any indication whatsoever that they suffer inferiority complex or have low self-esteem / insecurity issues with whom they are. Ever since the advent of colonialism, our women have flowed with the times in trying out and testing the latest beauty fads. Right from the 40's 50's and 60's, our mothers / grandmothers and I daresay great-grandmothers indulged in threading. This gave way to stretching one's hair with hot combs on the stove in the 60's and 70's to Jerry Curls in the 80's, to perms and weave-ons in the 90's, to our sisters going back to their natural roots - full circle.

I think you're just being unnecessarily harsh in your assessments of recent, or maybe it's just you creating these threads to catch your fun at the expense of others.

KevinDein:
Black woman is unarguably the most insecure human specimen with the most inferiority complex. Apart from the fact that they hate their skin color and hair, they are, disgusting as it is, quick to swallow whatever the west propagates hook line and sinker.
Right here on nairaland, the biggest supporters of gay, feminism (OK, understandably) and all sorts of immoral stuffs from the west are women.
They literally hate everything about themselves.

What's the correlation between women supporting gayism / feminism and them hating everything about themselves?

Acidosis:
Are you a Nigerian woman?

You've lost contact with realities down here.

There are ladies who sit with their cousins, and big brothers to discuss series of "away matches". We have some of them on Nairaland and they openly show approval to such discussions. In fact, it makes them love their brothers/cousins more.

A lot is happening here, but I wouldn't want to type more since you've clearly addressed all the questions. I'm glad to read your views.

How does where I come from matter? Bottom line is, I'm a mum with sons and my sons are certainly not being brought up in the manner in which you've portrayed.

Acidosis:
Lol, my daughter(s) would make her decisions known when the time comes.

What a cop out!

I said, say "Amen" to my assumption. Unless of course you speak from both ends of your mouth??

Why bother greeting in the first place?

Acidosis:
See them oo, they ignored the message and descended on men.

A man can so decide not to marry a Nurse or a Policewoman because of job demands and confrontations.

The same applies to ladies. I've seen women who sworn never to marry policemen because they look dirty, and steal a lot.

I know what it means to date a Lawyer and I seriously cannot live with the arguments and belief systems. As a man, I won't sacrifice my leadership position because of some useless unions. I wonder why some women act like hypocrites. Most of you women treat your 1 year old sons like gods, yet you want a made and matured gentleman to sacrifice his authority on the platter of a self-centered career driven woman. No! It will never work.

We even know women who rejoice when their little boys beat up colleagues, we know how you cheer your son for been arrogant and stubborn, and we know how you adore and call them soldier-boys!

Yet you expect men (sons to other women) to do houseboy work, act like incapacitated 'odoyos' to control power mongers. E no go work o, treat us like you treat your sons.

Humility is what we all crave for, but this trait is uncommon in certain professions. It is easier to meet a humble female Chemist, Pharmacist or Teacher than to meet a humble Policewoman, female soldier or Lawyer. Women abuse power a lot, and that's the reason most you - women avoid fellow powerful women. We know una type well well.

Most of you prefer to work under male managers, yet you expect men to live with boss ladies?

hehehehe

I'd like to assume you aren't a hypocrite and based on that, believe you'll have no issues with your daughters marrying @OP and his ilk.

Say "Amen" to that.

Acidosis:
1. You treat your little son as a god, you make him feel entitled to everything, you call him King, Soldier, 'My god,' 'My Lord', 'My Royal Majesty'. Then you come on Nairaland to attack mature men, and ask them why they do not wash their wife's inner wears. Please, have you ever seen a King sit down to wash the Queen's lingeries?

I have never come across a woman who calls her little son "My King, Soldier, god, Lord, Royal Majesty" unless of course you write from your own personal experience(s)? Even loonies don't do it. Besides, shouldn't these supposedly mature men be able to discern right from wrong? Or did crucial developmental milestones pass these "men" by?

Acidosis:
2. Whenever you see your son beat up his colleagues in school or in the neighborhood, a mystical smile immediately shows up on your face, like yeah! That's my soldier boy. Why then do you bash matured men who beat up disobedient and arrogant women?

And where is the boy's father whilst all of this is allegedly happening? Right under his nose as he folds his hands doing nothing but playing the part of a sperm donor while the "terrible" mother single handedly raises the boy?

Acidosis:
3. While you were growing up, how does it feel when your brothers sleep around with girls? Do you feel fulfilled (big bro the player ). Have you ever cautioned your brothers about the dangers of illicit se.x? Why do you feel happy, and even join in the conversation when they narrate their adventures with other women?

Now this is just perverted.

Why, no. How on earth does a sister feel fulfilled that her elder brother sleeps around with anything in skirts? What do you mean by fulfillment? You mean sexual fulfillment? Ewww...gross. I know guys swap stories (real and unreal) between themselves about their 'conquests' but to share those stories with their sisters? So do the sisters then share their own sexual escapades with their brothers?

You're weird.

Acidosis:
4. Would you honestly allow your little son assist you in the Kitchen, while your daughters sit with Hubby to watch FA cup finals?

I'm sure I've shared this countless times on here but for your sake, I'll repeat: All my boys cook! I taught them from Year 4 (primary 4). And I'm talking proper Nigerian dishes. From Jollof rice to pepper soup, from descaling fresh fish bought from the market to roasting chicken drumsticks. From boiling / frying yams to making proper stew and chopping up Ugwu leaves / okro. The only thing left for me to teach them, is how to cook Egusi, Ogbolo, and Banga soups. Aside those, they whip up a mean dish.

I take them shopping with me every weekend so they know exactly what to buy from the market place, how much they cost, how to tell which product is fresh and which isn't, etc. (I'm not saying they enjoy it, but they understand the necessity i.e. paving the way to self-sufficiency and total independence later on in life).

Household chores are equally shared and they all know how to operate the dishwasher, washing machine, tumble dryer, oven/grill, hoover, blender, etc. When I had my daughter, as soon as I'd recovered from my C-Section, the first thing I taught them was how to change their sister's soiled nappy. Last time we travelled back home for the xmas hols, they even demonstrated before their female cousins how to change their baby sister's nappy with wipes, etc.

And for what it's worth, hubby, my dad, and father-in-law all cooked, including my brothers too. So I honestly don't get where you're coming from.

Acidosis:
5. How would you describe gender equality? equal rights and opportunities, right? Why do you sometimes feel your little son is superior and powerful than his female counterparts in school?

Says who?

If parents really feel that way, then why bother sending their daughters to school where they get the same opportunities to study all available courses? Or do these girls attend sub-standard schools with limited subjects on offer?

Acidosis:
6. At what age should gender equality be enforced? From birth? Only in marriage?

From conception.