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SAMBARRY:
that's the beauty na.

Ok let me bring a better one

I like this one too. Classy stuff but it's a bit too dark for that particular fabric. Don't get me wrong, if it was say satin / glossy black, then yeah. Over all, I'll give you 80%. You try.

SAMBARRY:


I still have millions of outfits in my archive na.Ok let me check

Much better

The outfit and colour combination are on point. I don't like her pointed shoes though. That aside, everything is cool.

Score: 95%

edwife:
But it's true, especially those ones that shade and act like their lives are perfect. They just have to make you feel something is wrong with you but truth is, they have their own hustles too.

Eddy. No one can make you feel "something is wrong with you" unless you let them. For you to have even felt that way means you probably at some point had self-doubts about your decision to be a stay at home mum during that period. I keep telling you, you worry toooooooo much about what people think. You need to firm up girl!

Mindfulness:
Your friends were insecure and possibly jealous hence the need to defend their position and to criticize yours.

Valid point.

Or maybe they just didn't get it. It works differently over here. At least there's a support structure for stay at home mums over here. Some do it out of necessity. Why rush back to work if you're only going to end up spending all that money on child care? The younger the child, the more expensive the child care. Fancy spending nearly £300 per week on one child. Then how much more will be spent if the couple have 2, 3, or more kids? Over £1,000 per week. To prove what na? Not forgetting women are entitled to a full one year's maternity leave of which depending on your employer, you get paid 90 - 100% of your normal salary for the first six months, a reduced amount for the next 3 months, then nothing for the last 3 months - but you're still on the company's books as an employee.

I also totally get Byvan03's angle. Naija is tough. Employers aren't that understanding. Access to cheaper child care options are easier but at the same time, if you don't have an understanding partner and are unlucky to have one who thinks being a stay at home mum = common housewife, then yes, such women are forced to get up and get moving. There's nothing more degrading for a woman to go cap in hand begging her "husband" to give her pocket money to buy herself sanitary towels. Or having to watch the man reluctantly count out the pennies / kobo while she meekly (and patiently waits).

Anyway, the title of this thread is vexing.

Lol!

Kulyie I dey office na.

Sis, abeg later but yeah, you're getting there - almost

SAMBARRY:
this is adorable, right

It's...okayyyyy, BUT the fish trail at the bottom is too much na. The material reach to sew bedsheet.

What else have you got in your collection? Pls no native attires, no laces, and definitely no A-liner flared skirts or Lagos show belle half tops.

SAMBARRY:
i bet you'll love this one this time around

No I don't.

Can't explain why, but I just don't like it. Especially her inner shirt. It's too tight and doesn't look nice.

SAMBARRY:
How far efemena. Sebi This ones are better

Ahen as per the girl with black legs in from and brown legs at the back its because of picture quality and light no be say she bleach

Don't like them oooo!!!

SAMBARRY:
i like you na

Why won't I like you

Ok hold on let me check Another one.a fashion designer has to be patient

I don't like it.

As a matter of fact I detest top like that and A-line skirts. Awful picture.

I don't like the brown gown either. Dull colour. Brown and yellow combination is so not it. Yuk!

cococandy:
Now that's more like it.

That's nothing like it jare.

Why do I always get assigned the very worst-est pictures?? That one in the middle is so skinny, she hasn't got any nyash left. Just bone-bone. I bet sitting down hurts...

ifyalways:
More like gini?
3 twenty naira brooms

So you sef know.

edwife:
And it wouldn't be complete without appreciating the people that made this trip worthwile.

After working behind the scene of our photo shoot,Chillisauce,army,ifyalways and Naijababe had to celebrate with a well cooked meal,courtesy of moi.

https://778819914.r.worldcdn.net/wp-content/uploads/2016/04/3615813_1adawing5.jpeg

Efemenaxy please darling, we need some caption here.Who is who?

You try. You wanna get me in trouble this fine Sunday evening.

From left to right...

First Lady: (with the heaviest Eba). Chilisauce. Check out her muscles. Out of this world. That's why NL "alpha males" respect this lady. Who no go run when she say, "Boo!"?

Second Lady: Armyofone. Her army pants match her name to a "T". I bet you, that Egusi soup was cooked with Scent leaves - you can tell from the way she wan swallow her "swallow".

Third Lady: Ifyalways. Her gorimakpa has quicky sprouted new growth after touring the world - her fashionable blouse speaks volumes

Fourth Lady: Naijababe. An advocate for fairplay. Her disapproving look at the size of Chillisauce's Eba says it all.

But Eddy you nor do well o!

How come everyone's in a group and I'm alone? C'man take that pic down jare.

Ronpet777:
sister,u don't hv to be employed to hv a job.When I mean get ur hands on something I mean be creative.I worked tru out schl and was very comfortable.Get a trade,a business a skill!

Well said.

lovingT:
Thanks for the advice brother. Am so sure all the youths at home are not creative. U forget circumstances differ for all. Try not to so narrow minded all the time

There is nothing harsh about what he said.

You don't have to be a graduate or creative or both to get a job. Any job. There are millions of non-creative, non-graduates back there making a honest living for themselves. Farming, Bus driving / conducting, dry cleaning / washman, apprentice/shop assistant, wheelbarrow pusher, barbing / hair stylist, etc.

The list of unskilled jobs to do while waiting for his call up letter is endless. There is absolutely no reason under the sun why a young, twenty something year old able graduate should waste away, going cap in hand to his aging parents begging for handouts.

He's got a brain. He should use it or lose it.

mizzochocinco:
Stop listening to all these women screaming nonsense! Love your MIL....get along with MIL...! Biko who gave these goats grass?!
Listen to me very well! You need to strategise and execute properly ehn! Go inside bush, pick up dry dog poo... crush and sprinkle am into her soup. Before your serve her, speak inside the soup. Say that she must never offend you!
Haaa my friend, things will go sweetly for you ooo. All this humble yourself....eeeeh cook....eeeeh clean....eeeeh kneel down or don't kneel down will get you slapped o! You need supernatural powers for this kain MIL. REMEMBER we fight not against flesh and blood but principalities and higher powers! Who will good character help when you are dealing with a possessed being? So you see, you need spiritual solution for this kain of a thing!

Temper, temper...

Siena and Ahnie, you two are actually kinsmen oh! Abeg kiss and make up.

O te nu, ni ne na. Doh.

cococandy:
Something told me it's a short.
A sixth sense

Kimoni:
You try o Coco. How did you know they are shorts? Cuz I personally couldn't tell if they were shorts or skirt or scarf. I just confuse...

T'is a scarf. Compliments of Eddie's fashion tip

armyofone:
Efe, that wasn't the pix I sent you. I think you posted the wrong one Was my contact lenses deceiving me? Because the one I tubed to you had the ladies in bikini, slim and toned...thanks to the daily eating of "proteinous and liquidified cucumbers"

Na lie. Nothing do your contact lenses. Chei! Dia is god oh!!

Gboliwe:
See this one.

I have never hidden the fact jor just that most people are too busy to look. You have accomplished your mission, oya pop pure water. (I know you don't do alcohol)

Why else d'you think I kissed you brazenly on the other thread??

Happy Sunday jor.

edwife:
But Efe why evil na? why are you enlarging my words?
dix? non jamais. I can still see clearly, well most.

Why not babes?

edwife:
Efe how many smiley are there? [size=18pt]***whispers am i tipsy?***[/size]

Oui mademoselle. Tu est beaucoup drunk, au je d'ui.

To answer your question: Il est Dix smilies

Gboliwe:
Good.

Gboliwe:
Just want to share with you all, so we become wiser in our dealings.

In late September 2012, I got a job away from my usual route in town. In a place I cannot remember visiting until then. One of the days prior to my getting busy in the office, I decided to walk around and get acquainted with the environment.

I walked all by myself for about 15mts away from my office and found a motherless babies home. I was intrigued and told myself I needed to check them out. I am that kind of person who has a thing for the helpless in the society. They could be orphans or motherless or aged or handicapped, or anything, just be helpless, and I am all for you. My problem has always been how to accommodate as much as they come, but God has always been faithful and has used me immensely to make something out of the people I come across. But that’s not my story today.

I got to this home and decided to make enquires if there was a way I could volunteer my time in teaching the children, I asked to see the sister in charge and I was given a seat, I waited for about 5- 7mts and she wasn’t in sight and decided to look around while waiting, just beside the reception, outside, towards the main building, I see this very young less than 18yr old heavily pregnant girl sitting down with a long morose face, I asked why she was there by herself and she started crying. She told me she was hungry and that the sister refused to give her lunch. I felt so much for her that I forgot that all I had was N230.00 and that I would need N70 to get back home, I gave her N200 to go and buy food since she said she could get outside. I was happy. I even gave her my phone number and told her she could call me anytime.

I didn’t see the sister and I left promising the front desk “nurse” I would come back again.

This is where my story begins.

This event happened on a Tuesday, by Friday the girl calls me and she was crying seriously. I asked her what was wrong again, she said she hadn’t eaten since the day and that the sister said there was no food. I was so moved, but I was very busy at the office. I asked her if she could come out of the home that I was just at the next bustop, she said she could, so I directed her to my office and when she came, I gave her N500.

She left, by Tuesday next week, she comes to the office without calling me, I had with me N300 that day and I gave her N100, by Friday of that same week, she comes and this time, she comes with another pregnant girl. I wasn’t in the office and unfortunately or fortunately, I left my phone in my bag and went to the bank, I was greatly delayed at the bank so when I came back, my colleague told me that two pregnant girls came to see me, I checked my phone and saw 11missed calls. I even thought there was a problem much more than the hunger and made to return the call but my colleagues assured me the girls were fine that they said they were passing by and decided to check on me, so I relaxed.

Another day, this girl comes again without informing me and also in the company of another pregnant girl, I was pissed and raised my voice at her. I accept I was a bit harsh as I even asked her if she thinks I keep pregnant girls. I asked her never to come to the office again and that I didn’t know why she even came with her friend. I was really pissed that day. Summary of it is that she didn’t come again.

Sometime in November, I went to the home to see the sister again and casually asked after the girl, they told me she had given birth just the week before and left. No problem. I told myself I would call her when I recharged to congratulate her. It wasn’t long, early December, I was in the office one good day when I was told a sister wanted to see me, I came downstairs to see a sister and two girls and one said I was the one they were looking for. I was surprised. The sister asked me for the address of my relative (the girl in her home who gave birth), I told her I don’t know what she was saying and she said that the girl told them I was the father’s younger sister and that the girl came to the home and stole N82,000 and some clothes and shoes belonging to the caregivers and the home. I was stupefied! They insisted I must provide the girl or tell them how to get to her village. All the ‘I swear to God’ I am innocent fell on deaf ears as the sister threatened police arrest on me. The receptionist claimed I have been to the home twice to visit her, the other girl said she has escorted her to the office to see me, it was strong evidence.

It took the grace of God to exonerate myself from this case and it wasn’t a pleasant experience. All this happened because I wanted to be of help. I don’t think it would stop me from giving help but it is a big eyeopener.

On a more serious note, you're a kind soul ma'am. Bless you.

That "grave" is too shallow.

Presqueen:
I am married to a good man for almost a year now and we get along well like normal couples. But recently my spouse keeps chatting with the ex and lies about it when I ask. This makes me feel worried and sad. I don't know what to do. Do you think my spouse is cheating on me?

Is your husband a child that you need to keep tabs on?

Or he needs your permission on whom to chat with?? You really must be idle.

Mindfulness:
I didn't know it was that bad.
Poisoning was not in the immediate vicinity of my mind in the context of this thread.

With a mindset like that, anything's possible.

cococandy:
Yea just like that. Based on culture.

Except they go to court in which case most of them don't do. Either because they had been made to stop working to take care of the home as true 'African wives' lol and so can't afford lawyers or the man's family is more powerful.

Read this. https://www.nairaland.com/3091066/sos-23-years-old-lady

There are many like her. There's no rule of law back home.

I followed the link. That story isn't true and the woman looks too clean to be living it out rough on the streets.

Probably a scam cooked up by the @op.

edwife:
She's not a weakling, she could have also given him to the father willingly. Some women abandon their kids to start "a new life", nothing impossible there.

What about the Nigerians parents ,wife and husband who give away their under-aged kids to strangers for slavery?

You're talking house helps. Those are young kids of primary school age (not right, I know) - but definitely NOT toddlers, barely weaned off brëastmilk.

Mindfulness:
She is prejudiced because people told her the worst of stories. Didn't even the boyfriend / son himself paint his mother as the Leader of the Association of Village Witches?

This girl is scared she is going to meet the devil's widow.

Another example of a weakling.

Only very weak and I dare say dangerous people make their judgement(s) off the back of other's assumptions. She obviously hasn't got a mind of her own.

If someone tells her, "poison your mother-in-law, she's evil", @ op will do it without a second thought based on someone's say so.

edwife:
Wow! reading comments like hmmmmm


[size=18pt]** goes back to sipping pina colada**[/size]

Mindfulness:


I wouldn't but the odds are EXTREMELY low that your prospective daughter-in-law will hear such things about you.

True that.

But the biased, judgemental, post is breath taking. The MIL has been found guilty based on blind assumption.

Gboliwe:
Oya, bring the microphone let me declare it. Bring it alone by 8pm to my office

Lol! I think I know now.

SAMBARRY:
Or this efemena

It's even worse!!

***wails...***

SAMBARRY:
ok.I see.you like chic and classic abi?

This one nko?

Ugly dress. Cheap and tacky too.

And here I was thinking you liked me.

C'man take that pic away jor. I nor want.

And why is her back lighter than her front?? What kinda cheap bleaching is that??!!

Gboliwe:
EfemenaXY, oya come and check foe you I will. ............

Declare your gender 1^st. E don tey wey I dey suspect you..

SAMBARRY:
let me give you Another one

Ah! Much better.

Abeg nor dey ever give me native wear. I don't like them. This picture is more like it.

Rock Chick. Chicky Rock.