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^^ I know babes.

Maybe next year lol!

SAMBARRY:


Oya o answer. African Bush man

Lol! Badt mouth!!

T'is a fake thread anyway. @op only created it to read comments. Abi you nor see am viewing but not responding?

Or maybe...e nor get mb?

Fiancée ko, washing machine ni!

SAMBARRY:
local caterers known as alase.we only contributed money for the cooking and logistics

Okay. I for say.

I cooked so tey, I felt like dem don panel-beat my entire body!

SAMBARRY:
it was great. Like say make Xmas no finish. We had our family Xmas party where everyone gathered at our parents house with their spouses, children or friends and it was fun

My immediate kid brother brought in dj to blast music for us but our last born while we were all dancing to shakiti bobo was giving wura orijin to drink.I was so posses and lashed him.in all sha we had a good time

Sounds like proper fun.

But who did the cooking?

SAMBARRY:
na im type go dey price pomo 3 for 20naira and be counting the pomo in the pot of soup every morning

Lol!

Being thrifty is good but not for essential items that'll improve the quality of one's life. The guy's taking this too far. Unless he's broke.

@op: would you have any issues with your misus purchasing any of these items herself with her own money?

SAMBARRY:
omalichanwa good morning o jare. How was your Xmas. Hope you had fun?

And you took the kids out

I did oh my dear. Still recovering from the festivities.

Yours?

SAMBARRY:
yes its true na

Lol! Sambarry don't be "lazy". Carry claypot for head, trek to the stream and wash your clothes there. Gotta keep the traditional suffer head flag flying at full mast.

Morning dear.

Seasons greetings my people!

Pls oh, I've been searching for an Isoko movie to watch for a while. I love my movies being absolutely traditional. Epic movies are my preference. The closest I've got are Epic Urhobo movies.

Don't we have any Isoko movies at all? Abeg someone advice. BarryX, Akposy, Cococandy, everyone else - your input pls..

donpata:
So am planning on getting married next year and my fiance thinks i should get a washing Machine for her. Well, i dont think buying it early in the marriage is proper. Though i knw she's hardworking, I feel it will make her lazy early in the marriage. of coz when children populate the house i can consider that. Abeg ohh, am i right or just being too traditional?
Feminist, this is not your food ohh. )

***Rolls eyes...***

Why not just admit you're too broke to afford one?

To your fiancée if she's reading this: Madam, your partner-to-be Mr Donpata, has shown himself to be a tight/fisted broke guy hiding under the guise of being a "traditionalist". If you're working and can afford it, go get yourself a washing machine, dishwasher, tumble dryer, Hoover, and a gas / electric cooker. I just bought myself a top end double oven & grill and can't even begin to tell you how much easier & faster it's made my cooking experience.

ifyalways:
Sorry o.
Maybe if you had stopped. Judging your SU neighbour and the one(s) that dry their pants outside, they would have given you a plate or two.
Merry Christmas. May 2016 shine bright on and for you.

Haha..Ify!!!

Sagamite:
You are getting this all wrong.

There is no house in Nigeria you can buy for N100K (£400).

The houses cost around N26m to N35m. Roughly £100,000.

To get the Deed of Assignment, they paid another N500K. Roughly £2,000.

Electricity cost is about N50K per month. Roughly £200.

I am using the old exchange rate of £1 = N250 because the video clip is old.

Ah! I get you now - thanks

SAMBARRY:
haaa ok na.I've changed it

Phew! Much better.

I know your previous pic was inspired by Chillisauce - that naughty gal.

Mindfulness:
I see you as one of the most admirable women I have ever met and I consider you sharper than a Samurai sword.
I read this piece of advice you gave someone here https://www.nairaland.com/2789389/dear-family-advice-urgently-needed/1#40962119 and I couldn't find the right words to pay you a compliment that could accurately express how beautiful you are.

Why, Mindfulness - you flatter me.

Now, I'm at a loss for words too. Thank you for the compliments (still blushing) - was only doing my bit to help a sister out.

edwife:
I can't stay mad at you forever,chilli preaches to me to toughen up more often....

Footie is another world for me....i am in my zone there.

LMAO shark and bus....i don't even know what i meant,can you imagine? but you got my drift i believe.

Bus(me and you inside the bus);sharks (busybodies outside the bus)...

Lol! You'll be fine.

That's nl for you.

edwife:
Awww i am glad you got it sorted,bad stuff right there.Does your microwaves grill? You can try there.Problem is too small hun?

Well i think you should buy two small sizes of turkey,i would cry if my oven doesn't work-i do practically everything in there.

Will get another one - but that's going to be the 3rd one. No wahala, it'll be eaten. Not looking forward to going out to do anymore shopping. The crowds are ridiculous.

SAMBARRY:
what's wrong with my profile picture. Don't you like it?

And why the frowning of the face. This is Christmas season na.oya smile.say cheese

Your pic is a shock to the system na. Shuo!

edwife:
Lol,they make you look serious....I do.

I did too only that you threw me under the bus for sharks to feed on me.I know you didn't mean any harm,if there is one i know will not hurt me intentionally is you among others(my hot dog chilli de moi) but it was bad timing.I am sure you noticed that.

Don't worry,we will find a place where it 's sane,but don't laugh o.....

Eddy.

You are too sensitive. Chai!! Haven't those footie guys toughened you up yet?

Oya nor vex. Ndo.

But which one be sharks and bus again?? A shark got you under the bus?

Eddy, re: food - long story. Don't even go there.

The long and short of it is that my oven gave up the ghost. Been distressed and ordered a new swanky one from Argos. But got told not to expect it before Jan 8th.

Then received a call yesterday from the suppliers that it'll be delivered tomorrow morning...yayyy!! But what am I going to do with the two turkey crowns I bought yesterday for use with our emergency Halogen oven? I'm thinking of purchasing a proper bird 25-30kg....but will this fit comfortably into my oven? I always seem to do the "turkey fight" every Christmas morning. You know, the advert about the wife trying to force the oversized bird into the oven.

edwife:
Chei Efe why evilzzzz

I don't wear them everytime jor,just when i am using my computer...

I am doing great dear,just busy.I haven't shop for food yet was hoping to do that today online(for the first time) but the delivery dates are outrageous.I am going tomorrow with the soldiers,wish me goodluck....

Re: the bolded, I've missed you wella. How else can I express it / myself to you, if not by doing what I do best?

I wear glasses wella. I for share my pics with you ladies now-now but not with the peeping Toms and hovering monitoring spirits here.

Chillisauce, I don dey find you wella sotey I had to follow you to know when you come online. Biko nor vex if I unfollow...the "following" thing just dey do my body one kind...

Mindfulness:
Either way, it will be fun if you don't get angry with me.

You are the only person here I care not to piss off. Else i enjoy it. I do like you mucho and I think you are dangerous too.

https://i.imgur.com/4R4ZX1N.jpg

Mindfulness!!!!

Is that how you really see me?

***...Gasping...I can't breathe!***

Chillisauce:
Babe you are in my prayers. Keep pushing. Your nose Don big?

edwife:
Lol,you and your nails!
Happy holidays dear,and yes you know where to catch me.

Will holla at you there,need to ask you some questions...... .By the way i wear reading glasses nothing wrong with them,they are fashionable ones. Try and get one don't overlook it,i almost did and was not good.
Joyeux Noel a toi aussi.

You wear glasses?

So all those yanga pics you dey send, you just jejely hide your glasses?

***More important stuff: How are you though?***

Chillisauce:
Wish I was making the money.
This Yeye Syria war affected my main Base of work, so I was switching to secondary plan and needed much concentration I could get .
I'm scared of glasses . Just trying to calm down this hols hoping it will get better. Glasses should be in my 50tys abeg

Wetin concern Agbero Chillisauce with overload Syria?

Go for contact lenses. Most opticians offer a free 30 day trial with disposable daily lenses. With those, you can still pretend your eyesight is as good as it used to be.

Chillisauce:
Hi babes. I'm fine o.
Was tied down. When I finally had time. . I couldn't type with long nails. Then one thumb nail fell off. Im using it now to type but my eyes are hurting from to much reading. O yes... chilli reads too much.
Anyway. .

Merry Xmas you and yours .
EfemenaXY yum yum. Happy hols dear
Cococandy. ..happy anniversary and happy big belly
Edwife..I know where to catch you. Happy hols.
Lyndaroyce...Hmmm. e bi like say you don carry belly again. Happy hols.
Byvan how biz. I dey your side o.

M6 eyes hurt. Chai. I'm sure they will prescribe glasses for me .

Wishing every nice lovely nairalanders a joyeux Noël .

Happy hols babes. But shuo! Where've you been? You just "fashied" us.

Cococandy said you've been making so much money, so tey if I fall from your statement, na instant compound fracture. True or False?

Re: your eyes - sounds like you need to see an optician pronto. Glasses aren't that bad na. They'll make you look super smart. You can always go for contacts though.

Mindfulness:
I have been enjoying the discussion too much to be done with it.
I hoped you would too.

I've switched modes from debating to flirtation.

Mindfulness, I'd rather flirt with you.

Mindfulness:
This story got you, didn't it?

Honey, I can't answer all your questions in public so this will be the last one since I would't want to disappoint you. It's Christmas. I love it. I love it. I love it. Happy X-Mas!

She has kids for someone else.

Imagine that.

Two home wreckers sourcing comfort from each other. Birds of the same feather.

Mindfulness:
There are different models of networking, it does not have to be communal life. L. Messi is one of the best football players of our time. How is his football career the result of his marriage? The difference is that in the latter the wife is abel to survive with or without her husband and vice versa.
Explain to me why a father or a mother would need to stay at home for 30 years to take care of their children unless their children are in any way impaired, please. Neither should the spouse demand that others must take care of him- or herself for the choices s/he has made.

No, she wasn't. You mentioned abuse in your previous post. Nice try.

I thought you said you're done with this discussion?

I've switched off.

Merry Christmas to you too.

SAMBARRY:
same to you o jare

Come, when are you gonna change your profile pic?

BarryX:
let me try

MA LE OLE EZI AKPEWE
Oghene ke omai udu avavo Ogbor, no ma je be se tano Doo ve vai etinena no mai rue omamai na !


to be continued

Lol!

No cheating, Barry.

Compliments of the season, iniove me.

Mindfulness:
She has never uttered such a statement.

Good.

Mindfulness:
What stops women from having effective support systems today? It is a rhetorical question.

Communal way of life was the norm in those days, not now. So it's far-reaching to expect the same level of support as was then, under the present situation.

Mindfulness:
A learning opportunity.

I disagree.

Mindfulness:
And what about L. Messi?

Don't know the dude, nor am I interested in the lives of football celebrities.

Mindfulness:
Couples can co-depend or collaborate. I choose the latter.

Same principle. They work together as one cohesive unit and not as disjointed, fragmented pieces.

Mindfulness:
First of all, who needs 30 years to raise his or her children or better so who needs to stay at home for 30 years to raise their kids? This is quite funny. Even many Western courts will not adjudge alimony to a woman whose kids are grown and who is capable of taking on a work.

The stay-at-home spouse won't be left penniless. And I don't see anything funny about it.

Mindfulness:
And if anything went wrong, you would be able to stand your ground and not only take care of yourself but also of your kids, right?

Anything can happen to anyone, anytime and anywhere. Doesn't mean the stay-at-home spouse should be made to bear the brunt of the collapse, especially if the factors which led to it in the first instance where external, extenuating circumstances.

Mindfulness:
Anyone can discard his marriage like a towel or a flush it down the toilet like poo. Whether you think it is morally right or not will not help a single woman to make ends meet or to leave an abusive husband as long as she has not learned to take care of herself and that it is her damn responsibility if things go wrong.

So the lady in question was suffering domestic abuse? Anyway, that's beside the point. Your comment ^^ applies to both genders.[/quote]

Mindfulness:
She has younger kids.

Actually Efe, I didn't share this story to discuss it though it is fun but to demonstrate what can happen when you rely on anyone else for everything.
This is life! Whoever decides to stay at home for longer than necessary is at their own. Whatever we may think of it morally, is secondary, the point is that it is not a single incidence.

For him? Or someone else?

Mindfulness:
I know both of them very well. And my knowledge is based on my observations and on what she has said. The husband would not talk to me about it. I also know the new lady and her edition of the story too. I am not judging anyone. I am only trying to warn women not to depend on anyone entirely EVER.

I do not dispute that you may have known the couple very well. What I find hard to believe is that this woman would have opened her mouth to say, "I chose not to work at all, even when my husband was struggling..." Even a lunatic would have more common sense. More decorum.

Mindfulness:
And this is where we can learn from our grandmothers. Work and network! Be powerful!
I believe that some of our grandmothers were far more empowered than some of us nowadays.

Your grandmothers, great-grandmothers, et al were "empowered" because they had an effective support system with respect to child care, delegation of duties, etc. They wouldn't have been able to toil the farms, harvest the cassava, extract palm oil and make black soap / raffia sponges, go to the stream to fetch water & wash clothing, cook, sweep, grind pepper, pound yam, and look after the home front while solely looking after six kids, or having some strapped onto her back while heavily pregnant, will they?

So I ask again, what's the basis for comparing both scenarios?

Mindfulness:
Well, this is your opinion and I respect it but I don't share your views. Lionel Messi would be a great football player with or without his wife and he would make the millions he makes with or without his wife. Margaret Thatcher would be the politician she was with or without her husband. Their careers may have served their union and also placed some challenges but a job is a person's job and not a couple's job or did your husband sign the contract with your employer too?

Maggie achieved a lot - no doubt about that, but do you know how much emotional support she got from Denis? And how this translated into her work /helped her achieve what she did? Why do you think her health steadily declined after the death of her husband? I suggest you watch some documentaries about her personal and professional life.

Mindfulness:
First of all, I didn't say that they deserve nothing and secondly the first reason why they suffer is because they chose to depend on someone else.

You implied it. Secondly, couples co-depend on each other. It's not all about finance.

Mindfulness:
I will repeat again that I never said that they deserve nothing but we shouldn't lie to ourselves and act like the laws in the West are entirely fair and that a woman who, like you said, provided the service a maid could have provided, deserves half of the man's business even though he has been paying for his kids ever since they were born and for everything she needed too.

Again, it's not his business but theirs. And yes, even though the laws in the west may not be entirely "fair", they won't leave a stay-at-home dad whose dedicated 30 odd years of his life towards raising his kids and supporting his marriage, penniless - which is more than can be said for the plight of the Nigerian woman in Nigeria, undergoing a separation.

Mindfulness:
Nope. It is simple. If you choose to depend on your husband, you may have to deal with a very bitter experience or a life time of bitter experience.

It works both ways. We've both done our fair share of being stay-at-home parents to support each other whilst working, schooling, and raising our kids. Our kids have seen it and learnt valuable lessons of selflessness.

Mindfulness:
True but there are incidences you can be prepared for.

Then he should have been prepared for it, rather than discarding his 30 year old marriage like a used towel.