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flokii:
Ok!... it's like you have brain touch

now lemme tell you why I asked... I have seen cases like that of this OP... infact it's very common

and in order to give my advice I'd like to know if is same tribe or intertribal marriage..

cos most times it's actually nothing atal... all I wantd was DEEP info as I dnt do shallow or on-the-surface thinking like most of you do

hope you're satisfied?

It WAS shallow of you to ask what tribes they come from and you know it. What if the couple in question aren't Nigerians? What then?

Just admit that you haven't got anything relevant to contribute. You probably aren't even married.

You're way out of your depth here.

flokii:
why can't you mind ur business?

are you d OP facing the problem... or have I in way insulted any tribe..

drop ur comment and move on... SIMPLE

Mind what business? Is Nairaland your private property?

Why must you know what tribes the couple come from? How is that any of your business?

Or better still, how does not knowing where they come from hinder you from posting your "advice" on here, assuming you have anything of substance to share here?

Trouble maker.

hector:
@EfemenaXY. in resonse to your question, '' What does this mean? Care to explain further?

What i mean is that every guy shud try not to be so ego-conscious when hustling or dealing with clients. Men are known to be very egotistic as compared to women.

The hustling world doesnt really require much of ego but that crowd-seducing mentality that women possess. Sometimes u need to be an ass-licker to get what you want. Afterall we've all been an ass-licker at one point or the other.

Ah!

I get you. True that.

Mindfulness:
What does it even mean? There is no advice I can give here. Maybe the wife is too demanding and rude but maybe the husband is just too lazy and annoying. Who knows?

Abegi. The post screams of inferiority complex jor.

The guy obviously has way too much time on his hands, hence the complaints. Rather than trying to micro manage his wife, he should be grateful she's taken the initiative to put their house in order despite being a full time working mum.

He should get over himself and his wounded ego and get busy.

Good Morning

flokii:
what tribe is ur friend and also that of his wife?

I have my answers already.. just want to confirm

Don't bring tribalism here. That's got nothing to do with the "issue" on hand.

SAMBARRY:


You're writing letter to disgrace. Threaten a woman that earns 4x what you earn?

Why do you people's phenese shrink when she's relatively comfortable financially

Hehehe!!

Sambarry ooohhh!!

It only happens on nland, with nland boys...

SAMBARRY:
efe girl let me help you summarize it

Lol! Morning Sambarry

hector:
1.Men don't beg for money they do something to get
money. Tipping is allowed but don't take it too far.

Says who? A lot of men (mostly scammers and their ilk) beg - especially on this forum. In fact, they're light years ahead of their female counterparts.

2. Your frnds can easily flex you with their money if they want but don't expect them to give u money for food thereafter.

Anyone can do this. "Flexing" isn't the exclusive preserve of any gender.

3. When it comes to hustling, think like a man but act like a lady.

What does this mean? Care to explain further?

4. For your own good please don't take that job because u need to feed. Take a job that can help you save for the future.

That isn't a very smart piece of advice, is it? Desperate times call for desperate measures. What if there isn't any other option in the foreseeable future? Or if such a man has got dependents to look after? You suggesting they all starve while he goes in search for the elusive "golden job"?

A bird in hand is worth two in the bush...

5. Quit staying with your parents when you are 25 and above. Get your own apartment no matter how uncomfortable. You will be happy you did that later in life.

Understandable. Good point too - but 25years isn't the yardstick. Some fly the nest earlier, while others do it later. No hard and fast rules here.

6.Please don't try to copy n paste. I wrote this, so go write yours. Thank you!

softcara:
Am a receptionist. Am 20 years...

Have you seen a doctor yet?

sashx:
Depends. Maybe u may want him gone wit all his problems.

Gone as in how?

You lot murder husbands? Or you use them for rituals? The reason I ask is because I fail to see what you (a man) would want from someone's husband - a fellow man like you.

softcara:
hi nairaland,
i am a popular fan of nairaland, i religious follow the family and romance section reading stories and comment on nairaland and i mut commend they are encouraging and impressive, i have a very painful life am living and i choose to share it here on the family section because of the maturity i see here, pls i need ur advice. Am going to be brief as much as i can although i dont want to go into my life story.
have had a very rough and harsh childhood and it has affected my life so badly, am a very shy person i cnt stand d crowd cos i will be shaking excessively. i have a problem which is affecting my job. am an imperfect person but strive towards perfection, i desire to be self employed tho but i dont have resources for that yet hence i work under someone. but dis is my problem anytym my boss reprimand me, shout @ my mistakes or things i do wrong, i become sick immediately i have dis painful headache dat stays for a long while and hurts my head like hell. i become sick and start to cry. i feel worthless and dumb, i feel like an imperfect imcomplete person, i feel so terrible of myself and physically i take ill, the headache hurts my head like hell. sometimes i forget things and wonder y am dat forgetful, i dont like where there is noise it makes my head hurt and wen u scream @ me you are jst @ the venge of sending me to my grave. i left my former job because of this
shouting tin and my present boss isnt any difference the best way of communication for him is shouting. sometimes i seat and i weep for some reasons i dont know, sometimes i struggle to breathe. sometimes i hav an uncontrollable headache. i had a terrible childhood like molestation and dat expose my life negatively but i was able to gain control of my self through Jesus christ. now dis problem is should i have leave my current job and go to another place hoping to meet someone in corrects me in a calm way or i should stay. am confused i dont knw wat t do. i try my best @ work but wen dey see my little flaws they shout and it looks like all my effort are flying into tin air. i try to please my employer by doing wat he wants but i musnt make mistakes else am grounded my life is not settled i am fighting a war with myself please nairanlander wat do i do, do i have a problem.....please no insult jst mature comments

Difficulty breathing - Asthma?

Childhood molestation - Manifesting as trauma / panic attacks, self doubt and feelings of worthlessness years later.

Tendency to forget things / dislike of loud noises (raised voices) - Autism? (Mind you, there are different "levels" of capability on the autism spectrum).

@ Softcara, I'm no medic but it's obvious you have several issues - medically, psychologically, and emotionally - each of which needs to be addressed separately. But first of all, how old are you and what sort of job do you do?

Mhizdiva:
sir pls u can add me through whatsapp so i can fully explain everything...

Why can't you fully explain everything here? Are you trying to groom him or what? Assuming you really are female to start with.

I smell a scam.

sashx:
We take care of your husband for you

Define "take care".

Sounds more like a husband snatching advert.

Lol @ getting ready for work! That is sooooooo me!

Anyway, 2016 is just around the corner - so new beginnings.

Disgusting habit.

But guess what, I'm guilty of doing it too! Works everytime I want hubby to vacate the choicest sofa so I can watch my favourite program(s). The expression on his face? Hilarious!

But he grabs the remote controls with him while leaving the sofa for me.

Nothing wrong with the picture and what it depicts.

Beautiful bodies too.

Too many close-minded folks on here with little or no appreciation of the arts. You all need to lighten up.

Chillisauce:
You are here fighting Byvan over coco babygal while EfemenaXY had secretly cornered her with one of her teenage sons.
When the babe turns 18, Efe's 31yr old son by then will show up with cooool cash. Your boy and Byvan boy will still be carrying bag pack for one of their anthropology course
Make una dey hustle. The silent ones are the ones you should be aware of.

Happy new yr

Lol! Judas!!

byvan03:
Lol, you still dey build palace, Cococandy don already collect trailers of yams and 10 cows for the engagement rights. The rightful Prince has been in karate classes for two years in case people like you comes around to crash a perfect engagement party . No need to dey wait Prince wey im palace still dey under construction .


Wait for next turn, beg Coco to born your own Queen. This one was taken before her conception. You are invited to the engagement party, come with your boy because other chics will be there for taking .

Chai!

Nne, your mouth bad pass chilli own.

Oya babygirlfl fire back. Da score izz 1-0. Where is Edwife? Referee tinz...

Superstitious Nigerians.

I would accept it even more, knowing he's pagan. Now where is Bennyrazz, the apprentice juju man?

BoboYekini:
EfemenaXY! So posh.

??

Compliments of the season to you...

Miami11:
What should she dig for, is she a skunk or raccoon to dig sand,

This one is a potential trouble maker that needs to find a husband immediately to get busy

Her brother is an adult and does not need a nosy watchman, who will let her come dig, she will be thrown out like a ball, then they will sit down condemn their daughter in law

Pls, I can't take anymore of this! You lot are killing moi, I swear!!

lilmax:
I am not surprised, as if its reversed you would say the same

?? Reversed how?

Oyind17:
As his younger sister, I am hurt

Oh, you're female?

No wonder you sound bitter. Jealousy stuff. I doubt all you typed is true - and even if it were, it probably didn't happen the way you've painted it on here for us.

You must truly dislike your sister-in-law. What are you expecting your mum to do? Rain insults on your brother and his wife? Turn your brother against his wife?

Stay clear of that marriage. Mind your own business.

Oyind17:
I went to my elder brother's house for a visit and I lost my peace due to what I saw there.
I didn't call him on phone before going, I knocked and their first son opened the gate for me, when I entered they were eating. Normally the woman was supposed to dish food if they needed more but to my greatest surprise she asked him to dish more, like an obedient servant he went to the kitchen to get more.

About 30 minutes later her younger sister arrived and the wife started sending him all manner of errands, she started with bring yam for Mercy( the name of the girl), he brought the yam and she sent him again to tie the yams together for the girl, I was pissed cos I couldn't believe my brother was doing that.

She later send him to their shop to bring some stuffs for the girl, I left immediately cos I couldn't bear it any longer. The girl is above 20

Is he under a spell or it's normal?

And as a man can you do this?

I need answers before I download what I saw to my no nonsense mum. I dey vex

It's none of your business how they decide to run their marriage. As long as no one is getting hurt, you should respect yourself and stay clear. Leave them alone. Don't be a home wrecker.

bingbagbo:
larride, i wish you a merry christmas


hope you have finally shaven your hair?

Ewwww! Warrisdis??!!

***koncks his head!***

Seasons greetings to you too bro.

dasparrow:
At the rate with which you Nigerian bred men don't live long going by the large percentage of widows in Nigerian society, I cannot blame women who seek to earn a decent living just in case you Nigerian bred men kick bucket suddenly. Nigerians don't have life insurance and its heart breaking to see all the poverty stricken Nigerian widows looking emaciated while they figure out how to feed their battalions of children with their husbands gone. I see them struggling for bags of rice and yam in this festive period to feed all their hungry mouths at home.

When the average life expectancy rate in Nigeria goes from a current 52 years - according to the United Nations - to 80 years or more, then we can discuss choosing family over career. After all, it takes money to raise a family and provide the children with a decent standard of living. Or would you prefer more Nigerian girls grow up to be runz girls and Nigerian boys grow up to be 419 scammers and ritualists due to their poverty stricken background?

Perfect.

Case closed.

BarryX:
hmmmm

'Spirit of Laziness attached to the machine"?

Oga your spirikoko na die oo

There is a spirit attached to Nairaland and trust me, it has possessed you already for coming here to start the thread

***Faints!!!***

donpata:
So i am being bashed for wanting to keep my wife Hardworking. Plus its not abt affordability oh. just that while in sch, i came across a good no of students who cant spare any time to wash Cloths. they rather borrow money to take their cloths for laundry rather than to do it themselves. my findings reveals that most of such people were born to meet the washing Machine at home or just had maids doing it. i then came to the conclusion that there is a Spirit of laziness attached to the Machine. I no want make e posess my wife. thats y ohh.

So "hardworking" wife = hand washing

What then does / should the hardworking husband = ??

I hope you don't utilise electricity, borehole, and modern medicines?

No cheating. You must be able to swallow in equal measure what you dish out to others.

BarryX:
Hahaha!! Don't worry Efe, You were born at the right time .

My Dad will definitely know somebody that knows someone that knows the movies. #FingersCrossed. I even intend uploading it (if found) on Youtube, hope copyright issues won't arise though!

I no dey for wahala

I just want to know more about our culture pure and undiluted. And not being told Isoko and Urhobos are "one".

We are not Urhobo - but what makes us distinct from them apart from the language? We hardly have any written records of our particular traditional nuances. The closest I've seen (apart from Ikime's write ups) are a few personal accounts from the British - pre colonial era.

Do we still have elderly "Groits" or Oral historians??

All we seem to do is make concerted efforts to do away with or traditions whilst daftly embracing Christianity. Are we Jews now??

Just check out the numerous Epic Igbo movies online - a people soooooo proud of their culture. What do we have?

Lol!

BarryX:
That should really be a cause for concern ooo. I have not seen any Isoko movie at all oo

Where is our Isokowood?

Let me make some enquiries and I will get back, I have lot of folks home for the Xmas as work no gree allow me travel to see nana
maybe they can get me something to sharpen my Isokoness

Lol! Pls let me know if you find anything.

Speak to your dad's right hand man (you know what I mean).

I think I was born 300 years too late.

BarryX:
Compliments !!! Any Ukodo for the Xmas?

Haha! Same to you, my brother.

I haven't eaten that for a loooooong while. I need to buy scent leaves for it.