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lofty900:
I believe explosives was used in killing these criminals. Why else would their clothes and bones be torn to pieces?

Oh Jesus!

What am I doing on this thread??

Nice one, Lucksay.

I'm especially interested in our pre-colonial traditions i.e: before the introduction of Christianity. Same thing for our movies...something that truly and uniquely identifies us as a people.

Are any of these movies online? What are their titles?

Morning ladies. I've missed you all sha.

Coco, how far? Hope you're resting your feet these days? Not long to go eh?

ifyalways:
Una well done. With the current rate of €,£ and $ against the naira, I'm ready to do " house gal" for all of yous when una arrive.

Lol @ "house gal". I prefer the early mo-mo beach runs. God knows I need the fresh air

cococandy:
See chillisauce that December plan for byvan's place won't work o.
As you can see she'll have her hands full by then.
Maybe madam ifyalways won't mind hosting.

So [size=18pt]Byvan03 is PREGNANT??!![/size]

Congrats mami

edwife:
My dear don't mind chilli .She started the planning already.


Oh dear, you have no idea. I am day dreaming everyday sef.
Chilli i need it, this is a gift to myself for graduation this summer.

Efemenaxy i have something for you. Please you and chilli should stop being stingy to mr iroko.Go watch "husband of Lagos",i promise you will kiss me on the lips for this.

Yayyy!!!

Congrats hun! Light at the end of the tunnel It's been over a decade since I completed my Masters and I remember promising myself back then that once done, I'll never read anything again. Not even newspapers... Lol!!

Re: Iroko man, abeg I nor do. Not watched a single Naija Nollywood / African Magic movie in over 4 or 5 months sef. The hustle is real jare.

But er, like Chillisauce, you go borrow me your username and password too

Chillisauce:
Singing. After the reggae play the blues.

Damn. I miss home.

Cococandy Efemenaxy edwife Oya o.buy una buy ticket to byvan03 house this Xmas


After we finish at ifyalways coin

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C4nT3Od5cxI


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C4nT3Od5cxI

Lol!

You're serious about this?

Chillisauce:
Yes o. Gone are those days we just we up and move. These days it's from a yr and 2 to plan something like this.

Hehehe!!

Agreed. For this kind trip one year advance notice is too short sef. Lord knows I miss home. Last time I went with my battalion, I spent £8K alone on travel tickets & insurance. Since Dec 2012. E don tey sef...

RoyalRoy:
[color=#000033]RoyalRoy.....not....RoyalBoy


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Lol!

Royalboy - how far na?

It should work both ways. Boys also need to be taught about safe sex too.

There's nothing cruel about the pictures or the training they undergo as soldiers. Besides they look real good and super fit.

harmless:
We have been married for four years now but I have come to the conclusion that I have made a terrible mistake marrying my wife.Despite her good family background and good education, she has a problem keeping her volatile temper in check. Love At the drop of a hat, she blows up and levels all sorts of accusations against me. Apart from her verbal abuse, she’s recently resorted to being physical, but I soon tried to curb that.The first time she raised her hands to me, I really beat some common sense into her. She’s tried it a couple of times since then and I’ve given her the beating she deserves. I am not a violent person but some women really bring out the violence in you.Surprisingly, I’ve also discovered that my wife is more sexually responsive after I have roughened her up. This has excited me a bit and encouraged me to beat her more, though not to the extent that I would harm her. Do you think she is one of these type of women who like violent sex?

And when she's in the mood for sex, she should hire a couple of guys to rough you up real good and beat you to within an inch of your life.

The sex afterwards would surpass anything you've ever known.

Sick thread.

Seriously, why are people on here so "eager" to help? Nigerians are way too opportunistic to ever do things for free.

@op tread carefully here. You're already getting emails regarding this issue. Your best bet is to link with friends / family you know and ask them to do the ground work for you. Not faceless strangers on an Internet forum who can do and undo.

You may not realise it, but you're coming across as a soft / easy target.

Mbkite:
Everybody can be wrong, bt it's only in rare cases.

That doesn't answer the question I asked you.

Miami11:
You have to leave this marriage immediately

What I don't get is why she wants the obvious spelt out to her. Is she a child who can't discern right from wrong?

Does getting married dim one's reasoning faculty? This thread is a joke.

Unless of course she's aiming for the trophy of the most enduring beaten up wife.

Enigift:
Before you start back lashing me I have been leaving with this for over 5yrs.my husband takes money from my bag and were ever I keep it without telling me and no matter how little it is it can be as small as 100naira.on one occasion I went out and got stranded cause I put money in my bag only to get to were I was to use it and discovered it was not there . sometimes when I ask him he denies it and at times he says he took it. I have resulted to hiding money in my own house. Pls what can I do? Mature advice pls

Why would anyone lash at you?

Only thieves take what doesn't belong to them and deny it when asked. Question is: what does he use it for? Has he got a job? If not, then who foots the bills & is responsible for keeping the family above water?

Have you got kids? If you do, then madam be smart and put the bulk of your money in the bank. The little you hold in hand for day-to-activities, keep well out of his sight.

And DON'T give him pocket money either. Doing so would only increase his laid back attitude and encourage him sponging off you. Five years is a long time. Let him get off his backside and get to work. Like a real man.

Mbkite:
Is there anything wrong with getting married to a divorcee? What are the impending consequences?
She has all I want in a woman, but a divorcee with a daughter.

Nlander's I need your input as I am planning to walk to the altar soon. Thanx

Question for you: if everyone on here said, "no don't go ahead with it" what would you do?

byvan03:
You know you don't want to leave, yet you admitted that you insulted him which made him beat you. Do you enjoy these beatings or what? All I can say is love yourself, have a sense of self preservation and most importantly get a means of livelihood no matter how little. Nothing is worth dying for....LOVE YOURSELF!!!


Please don't add to the statistics of "Dievorced" women, save your life.

cococandy:
Feels like you enjoy being a victim.
Deep down you know what you have to do.
Someone with heart condition taking those near death beatings.
Are you a baby that you have to be told to go before you know you should leave?
If you prefer, those who will tell you to keep praying, submit some more, respect his girlfriends and try not to push him into beating you are coming.
In the end you'll still be there, more miserable than ever.
You know getting away from him is your best and most reasonable option. Depends on what you want. Pity or solution.

The thread is a joke.

The level of detail she went into to describe the beatings says a lot in itself.

Lovely thread.

The last pic though - looks painful...

taryour:
Eeewwoooooo biko where is my higher education note book oo, and my eleganza biro o. Am sure not gonna miss this course. EfemenaXY where @ thou. I no go borrow you note do photocopy oo.

Take a sit and pay attention as a good student that i am.

Ewooo...of all places to mention me...

Biko, I'm a virgin. Dunno what you're on about.

KJ baby. Longest time.

Oya wetin I don miss?

Chillis:
Nice one Efe.
I don't even run again. I will try. Even if it's once a week.

For those doing pills for pregnancy prevention. How do you do it. I'm scared of cases of breast cancer I hear of every corner. These women are not even up to mid 30s.

Even pills for cold. I only take it when I can't move around. All these drugs could either save or kill you. Radiation too. How much is too small or too big ?
I tire sha. It's well. My very good friend is sick. God she is too young for this kind of sickness .

I don't do pills dear. Not for over 10 years anyway.

That aside, pills like any other contraceptives, do come with their own associated risks /downsides. Why not discuss other alternative preventive options with your GP?

Sorry to read about your friend -take heart dear.

Mindfulness:
True.

Good night dear. Have a good night rest!

Retiring so soon?

Okay, goodnight dear.

Mindfulness:
Well, if he wants peace to reign, he better conforms to his wife's expectations.

In and outside of the bedroom.

It's not so much about conforming to expectations but doing the right thing.

Afterall, what's good for the goose should be equally good for the gander.

Mindfulness:
Ok, let us all agree that cheaters are wicked potential murderers and children of Lucifer himself. Helpful?

Lmao!!

cynhamscakes:
No one likes it when his or her spouse is in constant communication with his her ex. No one likes it. No one likes it no matter the nature of the friendship.

I can bet you that your wife just said that to hurt you because she was deeply hurt by the fact that you are still in constant touch with your ex.
Cut off from the lady. Block her off on all your social media accounts and your phone contact.

Apply wisdom and restore peace to your home by doing the needful.

Good luck.

Brilliantly said.

+1000 likes

Mindfulness:
Oh my, now I need to let go of half of my friends.

C'mon, you know what I mean.

His relationship is suffering because of his actions and yet he wants to eat his cake and have it. The interesting twist here is she's not even done anything to him yet, yet he's already having sleepless nights.

Talk about double standards.

batstan:
Hi folks, please a brother needs your advice. It may sound like a story in a movie but I tell you all, it happened live.
It first started when she discovered that we still share pleasantries with my ex. like a birthday wish, successful achievements and resending messages, mostly whatsapp, that says you should send to like 10 people and some funny stuffs.
We got into a heated debate when she brought up the issue on a particular day last week, claiming we are still seeing each other with my ex, who is already married too. For the records, I have never hit or beat a lady, no matter what, it's my vow. At a time, during the debate, she just spilled the bean and the words just came out like an arrow, "Whatever, if you like keep mating your ex, after all I only have sex with you to fulfill all righteousness ".
She can attest to my faithful and caring heart, coupled with hardwork to provide for my family but she just got me.........

Fancy the level of contact you've got with your "ex", whom going by what you posted isn't really an ex.

Walk a minute in your wife's shoes. Would you tolerate that same behaviour of yours from her? If not, then you thoroughly deserved that response from her, and more.

An ex should remain firmly in your past. And not meddle in your future.

ronald4lif:
Please I can't forgive a cheating spouse but I expect to be forgiven. If she doesn't want to forgive even after making entries to pacify my mistakes then she have a choice to initiate divorce. It's within her right to do so and no one is forcing her. Kapish?

And the lady you plan to cheat with doesn't belong to someone else? I.e someone's wife / girlfriend?

Don't you think it's hypocritical for you to dish out to others, what you yourself can't tolerate?

bjcole:
I quoted you from what you wrote, you said like everyone else exhibits bad and good character, in as much as there is bad habit in your nature which you are decisively dealing with, you are a bad individual. I m writing on the basis of what God created us to be. If you are a lair, cheater, fraudster, talkative, robber, rapist etc and you don't deal with it, you are a bad individual.
Any habit you portray that is contrary to the word of God makes you a BAD person.

Not everyone on here shares your religious beliefs.

ronald4lif:
Well, the reason why I might not forgive a cheating spouse is coz I'd think she cheated coz she want to get at me and serve me a doze of my own medication. Not coz she had no control of herself and it happened unintentionally. I'd always think it was intent to hurt me too. Though this is not true as she too might have been betrayed by her human instincts and traits.

But then what's the point of conserving a relationship/marriage where both party can have multiple coítal relations with others. There's no point really if two 'mad' people come together as a couple if everyone cheat at the other. Marriage doesn't make sense if that's the case.

There's nothing mad about open relationships - even in marriage, especially if it works for the couple in question.

Come to think of it, it actually takes a good degree of emotional maturity for those practising to keep a level head. For starters, they claim jealousy is almost a non-issue as they seem to be well equipped to handle it, if it arises.

Mindfulness:
I focus on what I like about the other person (everyone has something nice about them, you need to find it) but you need to train your focus first or else you get worked up, frustrated and more aggressive / hostile (whatever) towards the person. You need to be in full control of your mind to be able to focus and to focus effectively.

Can you give an example maybe without revealing too much of your private life?

Nope. Nothing to do with my private life.

I was thinking your advice here would do wonders for those on the suicide thread in this section. But I don't think so anymore. I know now it'll help.

Mindfulness:
You are absolutely right. Some people think that their level of jealousy is a reflection of the amount of love they have for someone when in fact it is the result of feelings of insecurity.

Loving yourself is not as difficult as it seems. Never think negative thoughts about yourself and you will fall in love with yourself. I do not allow myself to think one negative thought about myself but instead think all the good stuff and it has worked wonders for me. I have fallen in love with myself. This is why I am never jealous. I don't need anyone to be in love. I am in love with myself so whether someone stays or leaves does not make any difference to my being in love. It does not mean that I can't love anyone else, it just means that I do not need anyone to feel love.

I absolutely love this!

What an empowering post!

Mindfulness:
If you can, remove yourself from situations and people who don't make you feel good. This is the best you can do. However, there are situations in which it is not possible.

Precisely.

So what do you do then?