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Chillisauce - good to know you and your family are safe oh!

We give thanks to the Lord. That aside, how've you been dear? It's been a while. Biko, nor vex - I tried to compose a song for you in French but my song writing skills are rubbish.

damiso:
My work meal prep on Monday ..

Smoothie was spinach cucumber lemon bananas and a kiwi .

Lunch was white basmati rice egg broccoli and stew.
Orange was my mid morning snack and mid afternoon was 10 almonds in my drawer .

Not taken any pictures since then e dey Taya person but food has been clean with and exercise 5 times this week .

Sooo tired this morning so been lazying round all day need to get off NL and get a move on stuff I need to do

Nice one Damiso.

But how were you able to squeeze in exercising 5 times this week? Without the weekends, it's really hard for me to hit 4 days - but I do try though.

Re: tiredness - me 'n all too dear. Not just you. And the weather - it's been raining cats and dogs which hasn't helped much either. No exercises done today. Lazy Saturday it's been for me.

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Thursday's lunch!

Stir fry chicken noodles with vegs. Had a banana and clementine a few hours later when I started to feel a bit peckish. Drink? Good 'ol H₂O and nothing else.

Mindfulness:
It is enough to read the last one to two pages.

Thread needs a good clean.

Private stuff should remain private and out of Nairaland.

Mindfulness:
EfemenaXY, come see juicy story.

Lol! Morning babes.

Oya lemme read it...

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Front page?? I don't do front page threads...

Page 10?? Too far gone for me to contribute anything worthwhile

(Thread unfollowed).

smartmom:
Oh Efe see your lofty dreams Ice Hotel huh? Now you would be lucky to even have a decent weekend get away without feeling guilty. Those times when you want to go chill with a good book and no noise are gone for a loong time. No probs dear, you can catch up when they all grow and leave home but am told its not so much fun then.

Lol! Tell me about it, my sister. True talk. (sigh).

As per the stricken bit, I reject that one oh! It MUST be enjoyable with or without the kids by-fire-by-force

cococandy:
This is too healthy.
I'm losing weight just looking at it

Haha! Very funny.

And lunch - Couscous with trout, spinach & green beans + the usual vegetables: cucumber, cherry tomatoes, green peas, shredded carrots, and sweet corn (I think)

Was in a mad dash to get my little one to school on time this morning (breakfast club), plus catching my train to work. So, having missed getting breakfast at home, here's my brekkie at work!

Plain wheat porridge (no cream & certainly no sugar) with raisins and my very green crush - cucumber, lime, lettuce, kiwi, grapes, and apples. Dunno what else was in it.

Mindfulness:
Adventurous, wild and crazy. FUN!

By the way, why is it that I feel like I can and want to work more on Fridays but hate the thought of it on Sundays?

Because if you work regular Mon - Fri 9-5 days & hours, your Fridays will be akin to reaching the finishing line of your race.

You know that sudden burst of energy you get when the end's in sight? Especially if the journey was long & tedious? That's what I think you're experiencing.

As for moi, the Monday blues start kicking in from mid-late Sunday. Pathetic innit?

Mindfulness:
It will.

Lol! I never had you down as the adventurous type. You're full of surprises.

Onegai:
You can still do it. It's just that you have to find a way to put the baby down long enough to take a bath. Let's start from there.

Your life is not complete until you are peeing and holding your baby in resigned sorrow or wondering why 2 sessions of Immunization at a private clinic costs N81, 000 (I mean you can book one night's stay at a hotel for that amount) you need to see the number of flashy cars that queue up at Local Govt in order to get free immunizations

Lmao!

Ma'am. You are so cynical!

Mindfulness:
I know but still possible. I will call you up one day and we will go together.

Now that would be superb

Mindfulness:
You can still do it.

Indeed I can - but it's a lot more 'complicated' now.

Onegai:
Ahswear. Even me that I waited till I was old enough and had some finances and had small experience with kids, was still blindsided by having my own child. Talk less of if hubby and I had planned to wait then outsiders convinced me to con him

You know, they say hindsight is a beautiful thing.

If I'd known what I know now, I would have waited maybe two or three years after marriage before having kids. What really was the rush? Even away from the Nigerian society, the mentality still sits with you. Gosh, I always wanted to travel to the North pole. Visit the Ice Hotel and the Sahara.

I think the trick to getting rid of stretch marks is observing a super healthy diet, lots of exercises / tonning / muscle building, and of course drinking a LOT of water.

That's what worked for me - no creams used.

DonTim1:
U cldnt posible want to, thw truth lies above staring u in d face.
Dnt bother qouting me agn

I couldn't possibly want to what? What truth?

You should be able to explain you comments. And I quote whoever I want.

DonTim1:
e·vil/ˈēvəl/
adjective
profoundly immoral and malevolent.
noun
profound immorality, wickedness, and depravity, especially when regarded as a supernatural force.


@efe, u of all pple knw this. Isn't it evil enough that 2 or more women gathered to wreck havoc in another man's home ? A mees with wife and the evil perpertrators took to work

I din't ask you to copy and paste the definition of 'evil' on here for me. I asked you how scheming to have a child constitutes being 'evil'. Or are you indirectly implying that kids are evil?

cococandy:
Why is it so hard for us to understand that married people can decide to wait a while before having kids?

its not that big a deal. Folks do it.

Because it's an interfering society. A society where outsiders deem it's their God-given rights to poke nose into matters that don't concern them in the least - especially marriages / one's marital status.

@Onegai - well said (about the @op/ wife). You know what gets me the most? People hardly able to eke a living for themselves, living in slap-me-I-slap you apartments, choosing to birth kids they can't look after under the mantra, "God will provide". This isn't even poor planning. It's no planning.

Zizaboni:
Moderator, abeg help me put this for front page.... Mr seun abeg front page

Pls help me nairalanders, I have a big problem.... In details......

There was a lady I dated back in my ND days, we later broke up despite my great love for her... As in i sacrificed so much for this lady.... We broke up in January Cox she said she wanted a break.... But to my surprise that she went back to her ex boyfriend.... Later this year in September, she msg me that she stil love me. But before dt time, we have had a lot of disputes, insulted each other Cox I was hurt..... She said she wanted me back and she is ready to face anytin with me... She said this time, she has come to stay forever... I tod her that I am not interested and we insulted each other again.... 3 days ago, she msg me that she wana come 'n see me.. I agreed, she came yesterday, we reconciled, she askd for me back and I said Yes.. We shud try the relationship again... We had romance session but no sex.. Bcox we dnt want too...... She is now all over me..... But I am a kinda person that fears God, Weneva I commit a little sin, my conscience will never leave me unless I repent from it... I cudnt go to fellowship bcoz I just finished romancing a lady who is not my wife..... Till now, my mind isn't settled conscience is still panel beating me just bcox of 10 or 20 mins romance... Actually am not a Virgin, the first time I had sex in 2012, I hated myself, broke up with that lady Cox my mind neva rested.. Even till now, weneva I remember it, it saddens my heart...... But this lady, actually I tot she was a Virgin Cox we met in church but wen she told me her past, my hand fall and we are both believers . She has had uncountable sex with her first boifrnd that disvirgined her... Same with the second boifrnd, am the only one that hasn't had any tin like sex with her..... Shud I just tell her that am not interested in a reasonable way or keep pretending to love her and keep romancing till we have sexual intercourse till I later break her heart and keep getting bothered by my conscience... Cox I fear God so much... She wants me to b lying that I love her but within me, I no I dnt.. Only infatuation and aim of getting sex.... But am not ready for sex Cox I fear the Almighty... Pls advise me.... Pls front page Cox I am depressed right now.. Shud I continue dating and sinning or tell her the truth....... Christians and Muslims around the world, help me... Thanks

When was the last time you had a proper kip?

'Cos you sound like you desperately need one, mate.

AlienStar:
That doesn't stop u from getting d msg.

What message?

Oh dear.

Paragraphs and spacing pls, @Op.

I'm guilty of so many things on here!

Nice one @op. I had a really good laugh.

Itulah:
Show me some love brothers and sisters, it is the Lord`s doing and I pray you all find peace in your home. Amen

This fine man and his equally beautiful wife sef. Ah..ah! E don do na

May God bless your beautiful home and family, @OP.

I stopped reading after I got to the phrase, "...MUST remain SUBMISSIVE"

Talk about modern day physical and emotional slavery.

menabae:
tanks sir,I'm frm Araya town via Aviara kingdom,the bible town lol

Aviara - that's the town with the story about the bible left out in the open at a farm that "miraculously" didn't get wet even after a heavy downpour, right?

DonTim1:
Wherever 2 women or more are gethered, evil lurks and awaits its unleashing

How does conniving to have a kid translate into being 'evil'?

Mindfulness:
The wife and the husband had an agreement. The wife didn't stick to it. The opinion of her MIL and sister were more important than that of her husband so she should seek advice there now. She should also ask her MIL and the sister for financial and emotional support during and after pregnancy and also to help her raise the child.

She apologized to her husband and there is nothing else she can do in this respect. It is up to him to forgive her. Nobody can blame him if he is not able to. She didn't respect his choice and decision before so she should at least respect his feelings NOW.

You got there before me.

Was about to mention that the previously active MIL and SIL have suddenly gone quiet on her. Talk about allegiances.

Anyway, the way I see it is this - this man is simply giving her a dose of her own medicine. i.e tasting the bitter drink called betrayal. She betrayed his trust, so he now is also betraying her trust. T'is a tit-for-tat sort of thing. They should both grow up and face up to their responsibilities. Neither of them are kids, and for what it's worth, his mother and sister had no business interfering - but that interference wouldn't have occurred if wifey had learnt how to keep her mouth shut in the first place.

Mindfulness:
Let us play with this a little bit, for the fun of it. I love having fun.

Do not think of yourself as beautiful else you won't get married. Do not take pride in your God-given-gift or else ................................................................................ you won't get married.


Lower your expectations and date broke guys even at the risk of him not being able to feed your kids else you won't get married.

Make the most natural process - the aging process - a problem so that you learn to hate your mirror reflection some more every day.
Understand that your value depends on your age and that your aging parents and grandparents are of little value.

You have no right to have a libido. Only men enjoy and need s.ex. Destroy any natural urge or else you won't get married.

Change your character in a way that it suits the needs of others so that you can find a husband. It doesn't matter if you pretend, just deny yourself Never be who you are and never true to yourself, marriage is more important that you are.

Do you not think this is a tad bit to advanced for @OP to digest?

Methinks you ought to break it further down to the basics. 0's and 1's sort of thing.

donjoesbry:
1. Seeing your self as the most beautiful lady on earth which
will lead you to pride.

2. Waiting for a rich man to marry you, but remember that a
poor can become rich tomorrow.

3. Seeing your self as everyday young and that u still have
much time to spend.

4. Sleeping with a man that just propose to you. He will still
leave u after enjoying.

5. Your character can still keep you upto 30years.

Oh, the nerve!

edwife:
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I can read you - almost like a book. You're way too sensitive!

5minsmadness:
I must say this is a creative one. A father advising his daughter on accepting a polygamous relationship

Seriously though any time I hear or read of a Muslim relationship turning polygamous I am forced to wonder "what was the woman expecting before " You marry a man whose religion encourages and endorses polygamy and you really think you'll be the only one for the rest of your lives? Lol.

For those who can handle polygamy properly it can be a very happy union. For those who can't it can be a pain.

And this says it all.

People should learn to be honest with themselves when seeking advice on here. If you knew the specific rules and regulations surrounding the union you sought at the point of tying the knot, why cry wolf when the other party seeks to enact them??