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Why should this even be a discussion point? What's the alternative? Tie him/her down because one person feels insecure?

Enemy of progress.

But those tumours may eventually kill her if left unattended. Sad case.

I love strong women who aren't afraid to go against the norm while expressing themselves. Now these, I call real friends.

Shout out to Chillisauce. Cococandy. Burntpalace. Mindfulness. Ifyalways. Kanwuliajara. Love you ladies!


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cogw5Wqwd_s


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UG9C2OnyhxY

bukatyne:
I find it difficult to feel sorry for such women.

Which ones?

The ones that fall foul of their "pastor's" snares? Because they think the sun shines from his backside? Or the ones who choose to remain, despite the risks to their lives?

smartmom:
@Efemena, in the past 3 weeks or so I have been hearing waaayyy too many stories of domestic violence and it causes me to hyperventilate just to hear about it. I see red to hear about these women. Just today it was about a 36 year old woman who suffered the classical profile of an abused woman; cut off from friends and family, obsessive hubby, physically abusive, imprisonment and eventually died of medical neglect wife of a PASTOR. Heartbreaking story of what society does to womanhood in Nigeria. I just wonder what these women think? when(when not if) they die, who is going to give them an award for endurance? who will be there for their children? their siblings and parents? the man will replace them before you say Jack!!!! NOTHING is worth any life. Penury, homelessness, whatever, is better than ending up dead!

Not everyone who claims to be a "pastor" is a pastor. You also get all sorts of desperate crooks claiming to be what they aren't. Anyway, that's a story for another day. In the meantime, I get the point of your message. There are countless examples.

I think for there to be any radical changes, it should start from the homefront. i.e the grassroots. Parents should strive to live by example. There are certain things kids should be privy to - especially when the parents have disagreements and are airing them out (hotly). Secondly, parents should teach their kids / wards (both sexes), that abuse is an absolute no-no. Kids should be taught that abuse should never be meted out to anyone and it certainly shouldn't be "endured" for the sake of keeping up appearances.

bukatyne:
They stayed married to the end.
What can beat that?

Society.

damiso:
Not everyday leaves(or ewe as my mum would call it she kept asking are you a rabbit )

Yam and fish pepper soup washed down with green tea and water

Was doing a green smoothie challenge 2 smoothies and 1 healthy meal a day

O boi I don downgrade to 1 smoothie a day after I don begin dizzy.

I have always known I like food

Do you think food addiction is real?

edwife:
yeah it's Zouk,you dance it like salsa but slowly.

Lol! Nice.

Okay, I'm going back in time to 200+ years with an Epic Nollywood movie. But if you girls come up with anything interesting over here, give me a shout.

Nobody would want to live that long.

Chillisauce:
efemenaxy, listen to this.

SO much history can be told on a song.

I have always loved the song. Can you write something similar to this for me. Nigerian version. I will look for buyer
edwife write one for me too

i love you both. will write mine too.

CC Cococandy and babygirlfl. come and test your skill

Love you more, Chilli baby.

Yes, even though my French is near zero at best, can't deny the song is soothing to listen to. Edwife, listening to your recommendation now-now. It kinda has a Salsa ring to it and some African undertones - Hey, African Salsa

BarryX:
Missed a lot around here, EfemenaXY !! How are we doing with the Isoko Ministry?

Lol

Oniovo me! Bovo we nia??

Ma rei oh! Kobuwo ni ne na?

Me ji Isoko omoto. Isoko ministry gaga.

menabae:
Lol ... I'm mena frm isoko south,great to see my peeps here, one love isoko wadoooooo

My namesake...you're very welcome.

What part of Isoko South are you from?

Beautiful narrative, skipper123. You've had quite an adventure across West Africa and your experiences make a very good read.

Could you upload a few more pics of the people you met and places you visited? I was hoping to see something of your midnight travel through the forest.

It would also be helpful if you could outline your journey's route from the starting point, the detours you took from your planned route, and your final destination. Maybe some highlights on a map with coloured marker pens for your planned routes and detours.

Nice one bro. You keep writing and we'll keep reading.

SAMBARRY:
In cases like this take a deep breadth, go to the spa for a massage then sit down and weigh your options honestly. Every decision you make whether you divorce him or not.

Do you have enough money because divorce cases isn't cheap
Does his family know about his exploits In town

I don't even know what to say o Jare.

Kanwuliajara
cococandy
efemena

Come put mouth. I'm out

I'm busy jor.

Do you believe everything you read on here?

SAMBARRY:
I'm only giving reasons why some women stay in a dead marriage. they know they don't have a choice so they stay there enduring the violence hoping that one day their children WIll become millionaires and take them away from their misery.

It is very easy to sit down in Lagos and be judging someone else in kano because you don't know what options are around her.

So you're saying the only option open to them is DEATH, abi? Endure till they get killed.

You think being rendered homeless and destitute is a worse fate than death. Is that what you're preaching here, Sambarry??

Re: the underlined bit - there's nothing to judge. It's common sense. You either choose to die or you choose to live.

LIFE or DEATH.

Which is it, Sambarry?

KanwuliaJara:
It affects men more!
They DIE LONELY AND MISERABLY.
OP! Abeg, come brush ya teeth with this wan!
You are living in a fantasy world.
Getting ready to SHIP one half-dead Naija dude to Nigeria from the US here.
Married 3 times. All EX-wives AND CHILDREN still living! Dumped in a HOSPICE nursing-home with flies crawling all over his mouth and asssss!
The doctors and nurses have been asking for ANYONE to come and claim him. ALL HIS CHILDREN REFUSED!!!See this man! HANDSOME bobo! His own SHAKARA ehn? E nor get OMEGA!!!!
Heavy smoker and DRINKER! Womanizing nko?
His SONS from his first marriage to AKATA dun wanno even smell his living body, not to mention his corpse. They call him "PHOCKING, STINKING AFRICAN"!
They asked him on his dying bed : "where were you when my mother was SUFFERING to feed us? You are on your own BRO!"
His daughter from a second wife is still in college. Her mother is not interested in looking in his direction.
A third wife is in Nigeria with a 3 Year Old of QUESTIONABLE PATERNITY!
Na so dis man PHOCK around soteeeey, use women dey do yeye!
Now, his siblings are flying from Nigeria to bundle him from his hospice bed BACK to Nigeria before he dies in the US.
We all know it is WAAAAAY more expensive to ship a dead body across STATE lines, not to mention INTERCONTINENTAL waters!
MEN!!!! Make una dey keep una BLOKOS for one place!!!!
You can NEVER find any WOMAN abandoned like this! ONLY A NIGERIAN MAN!!!!

Damn!!

This is why I lurrrrvvee you like kilodey. Always keeping it REAL.

@op: a.k.a Tofax - come and respond to Kanwuliajara's post. Prove her wrong rather than spewing the one-sided crap you posted.

Unless of course, your post reflects your life's experience??


Mtcheew.

[color=#FFFFFF]Lol! Maybe some other time.

Goodnight jare, and have a blessed week too. [/color]

[color=#FFFFFF]Goodnight ladies and have a blessed week.[/color]

bingbagbo:
real long time

we thank God you dey alive

two years ago i was looking for you to..
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marry you

[color=#FFFF00]Chei! This man...

Kunbee was your hearthrobe, lol!

Abeg, where are all the oldies? I don't recognize a single moniker on here. Are Ben10 and Danny still the mods on here? Miss the whole gang sha...[/color]

[color=#FFFFFF]What makes the colours disturbing? And what makes you think I'm vexed?

I like the fonts. They're refreshing. And new.[/color]

[color=#FFFF00]Don't you agree?

Why so many viewers on here??[/color]

[color=#FFFFFF]Lol @boredom, Naijababe.

How about we assume a ghost got my pen? - afterall, it was Halloween just yesterday. [/color]

[color=#FFFFFF]Lol!! You're just as crazy as ever, BinLaden.

I'm good. Long time indeed, Mr Bingbagbo. [/color]

Kimoni:


The little playful "girl" in Efe came out tonight yayyyyyyy
Unfortunately, she's about to sign out for the week

Have blessed week Efe

[color=#FFFF00]You're starting to know me too well[/color]

iykedare:
Hacker,kindly leave this account alone.
Efe play play no reach this one.

[color=#FFFF00]hmmm...[/color]

[color=#FFFFFF]I guess you'll believe whatever you want.[/color]

[color=#FFFFFF]^^^

Lol! What makes you think my account's been hacked, Iykedare?

You didn't like the previous font. Don't tell me you've got a problem with this one too? [/color]

Achilies:
Ok

[color=#FFFFFF]I've got to give it to you - you are patient, Achilies. [/color]

[color=#FFFFFF]What is what, Iykedare?[/color]

[color=#FFFFFF]Dull Sunday. Shout out to you ladies:

Edwife, Chillisauce, Cococandy, Cococandy, Kimoni, Damiso, Naijababe, ...

Edwife, Edwife, Chillisauce, Chillisauce, Cococandy, Cococandy, Kimoni, Kimoni, Damiso, Damiso, Naijababe, Naijababe...

Edwife, Edwife, Edwife, Chillisauce, Chilli, Chillis, Cococandy, Cococandy, Cococandy, Kimoni, Kimoni, Kimoni, Damiso, Damiso, Damiso, Naijababe, Naijababe, Naijababe...

Lol!!
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[color=#FFFFFF]ParagosPride: Has it crossed your mind that perhaps, your responses / method of communication to your dad might come across as being 'confrontational'? Either way, you don't know him and he doesn't know you. So you both need to start from ground zero.[/color]

[color=#FFFFFF]Nice one, Achilies. But the seal looks very much like what we've still got in the extremely cold climates, and that fish doesn't look remarkable to me. More pics perhaps??[/color]

[color=#FFFFFF]Kingk, kindly incorporate some paragraphs and spacing to make your write-up more readable.[/color]

freecocoa:
Lol, it's just fish na.

[color=#FFFFFF]You say it's just fish, but it's really more than that. [/color]

[color=#FFFF00]Okay, the last one is...manageable. [/color]

Kimoni:
Efe, you wan blind somebody ni

Hahahaha, got ya! All I needed to do was to quote you and bingo!!!

[color=#FFFF00]Quote me? Madam, I have absolutely no idea what you're talking about....

Happy Sunday sha [/color]