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Hopemanfx:
Our first daughter is no longer interested in things that will make her grow in life. 2013 she lost her federal government job due to she was a chronic asthmatic person. in 2015 her husband divorce her and later died in 2017. no child yet. now she has returned to our family house. she is depressed. She does not think of things like career, growth, or anything in life again, only what she does is to go to church programs and services. she is always at home doing nothing. I have tried opening a business for her she refused. please I need your advice!

Let her face that church for now if it is her source of release for all the pent up bad emotions. She needs support in the form of prayers. Don't be forceful in trying to shape her life. Rather be present in her life. Join her in some of her church attendance and encourage her to confide in you. Asthma, divorce, childlessness, no job sounds like a concreted demonic attack on her. She needs constant prayers and so the church may be the best place for her to be for now.

jchick:
Please, is it right to keep secret (financial, social e.t.c) from your spouse. Infidelity exempted.

Men, how would you feel if your wife kept a secret from you.

Ladies, what do you think?

Healthy contributions will be greatly appreciated

My secrets are my wife's secrets and vice versa. It is stupid marrying a nightmare or public toilet and then keeping secrets. If you married a nightmare or community toilet keeping secrets is not the solution, running away is. But if you married a man of valor or a woman of virtue you will be more successful if you share your secrets with your spouse.

Teeexquisite:
Please I need help and suggestions!

My husband is diagnosed of zero sperm count.

Prior to this, he conducted SFA in January and it was about 3million.

Scrotal ultrasound shows that he has left undescended testicles.

Hormones profile test shows that he has low testosterone, high LH and FSH.

Please has anyone dealt with this and what steps did you take?

He needs to deal with whatever is dropping his testosterone. Is he overweight? If he is he needs to drop it. Does he engage in activity routinely? (Like walking, running, jogging etc) If not he needs to engage himself but not stress himself. Does he do a high stress job or are there any stressors in his life? He needs to cut stressors off ohh. Ask your doctor to suggest testosterone supplements he can take and lastly we wrestle not against flesh and blood but against principalities and powers so support all these with prayers and fasting with your husband. If he is someone that dips his stick in every pit latrine in skirt then he is not serious with his sexual health and soul and in such a case he needs to repent.

MatrixReloaded:
Keep acting like you don't appreciate a big head. Women love holding such head when having a pleasurable sucking of them well shaved. The bigger, larger and smoothly the head, the louder there moan because they always fantasie how it could occupy there gaping honey pot.

You dey ment ohh!

Icrave4u:
See all 3 of them on gorimakpa🤔

Dear Future hubby, please avoid this hair style🙏🏽😑
He get y!

Cheatmentation team. Lords of the skirts.

Kayceenaz:
And Richard Cypher struggled to digest the revelation from Zeddicus; he is the seeker, a warrior to spearhead rescue of his oppressed people from the ruthless Darken Rahl. He had hitherto been leading a regular life, staying with his parents in their remote village. This scene from the hit series "Legend of the Seeker" mirrors where many (probably you, too) are now. A life on automatic mode wherein you are feet-deep in family, societal conventions and expectations.

Have you ever earmarked enough time to ask yourself: "Why am I here?" "Could I be more than I've observed and been told?" "What makes my life different from others?" "What's the ultimate use of my education, skill or experience?" "How many years do I have left before death calls?" These are weighty questions. They make your limitations graphic to you, often stirring dread. Calm down. More than the fright, the questions underscore need for you to personalize your life's journey. Corresponding answers provide your life with structure, same way your skeleton within guides formation of your flesh without.

In fact, self-awareness is literally the foundation of your existence. A house built without a foundation can collapse amidst strong winds or cave in with time. The foundation determines whether a house would be a bungalow, one-storey building or skyscraper. How can you proceed to build a four-storey house on an unknown or shallow foundation? Start interrogating yourself now.



©Kelechi O. Naze (KON)

The first step towards attaining self awareness is defining what self is. What are you? Answer that first. If you say you are human then what is a human. If you say you are a man then what is a man. In order to answer this question you need to answer the question; what is my origin story? If you are an evolutionist stop here because your life is a sheer accident the result of a series of undirected accidents that led to you and hence your life has no meaning or purpose assigned outside of you. You can define purpose for yourself and define yourself however you like and your definitions are not binding on anyone else because they are your subjective reality. However if you are not an evolutionist and you believe an intelligent creator built you into the propagative process of life then in order to answer the second question you need get an answer to the third question. Who is the intelligent designer of the universe and why did He create the propagative process that ultimately led to me?

Any attempt to seek self awareness will result in you realizing you lead a meaningless or purposeless life or result in you foraying into the supernatural.

ManWater:
Yes, only a Genius can Save this young man from certain death...


Answer to be supplied at end of thread.

Who said every problem has a solution...there are math problems we still don't have solutions for...let alone this one in the pic.

klimkid:
My girlfriend and I have been dating for 3 years now and it's about time we start planning on getting married.

One thing I no for sure is that she loves me and I do love her too. Recently, she told me that her mom went to some churches and they told her it won't work, about 3 pastors. But my girlfriend told her friend to tell her pastor to pray about it.

So he prayed about it and he gave us feedback after 3 days and he said the marriage will work, he said I will give my girlfriend peace, take care of her and make her happy.

There's a woman that prays for me here in Lagos, she said there is nothing wrong with both of us. I also called my Rev. Father and he said that nobody has the right to say the person is for this person or the marriage won't work.

He said marriage is a decision both of us will take and pray about it.

He said hence we love ourselves so much, should leave it for God and continue with our relationship.

Guys, have you experienced this before? What do you think? I am confused.

Your mother in law does not like you and she is using "pastor say" to push you away. Perhaps it is because you are not rich enough and she has a richer candidate she is targeting. This should be your strategy.
(1) You and your girl need to be patient to know where your mother in law is going. If she suggests an alternative suitor then know she has been lying all along. But if it turns out that she is not lying then seek more counsel from pastors and elders about this matter.
(2) If your mother in law is lying then you and your girl should STAND YOUR GROUND. She must know that both of you are stuck on each other and there are no alternatives.
(3) Increase your bond with your woman. Ladies are impressionable particularly by their parents so increase your communication with your woman.
(4) Carry your family along as well.

Jennyclay:
Indeed men are white stainers, look at how banky W stained Adesua’s white despite having the perfect wedding. Shame!!!

But on a serious note, Nigerian men are wicked, evil and heartless. Honestly, I have nothing good to write about Nigerian men.

Nigerian men are randy, stingy, rape apologist, women beater, murderer etc. I can’t even list them all, the list is long

Just avoid them! Shikena!!

Maybe it is because you have reduced yourself to the olosho public bitch level. You see only rape apologists, fake pastors, alcoholics, stingy wife beaters etc gravitate towards bitchy ladies. Men of valor look for women of virtue.

EnemyofGod2:
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Heaven and hellfire doesn't exist.

God, Satan or Jesus Christ doesn't exist, there's no verifiable recognizable concretable approvable evidence of their existence.no man Born of woman has ever proof the existence of God,OP ,I challenge anyone here to proof me wrong.

It beat my imagination that in 21th century there's some group of people who still believe heaven or HELLFIRE existed.

Believing the existence of God is a symptoms of primitivity of mentality, primordial sensibility, retrogressive discretion, bankruptcy of ideology and cerebral sclerosis.

Don't worry na. Your death date is near. You will soon confirm for yourself. Wetin demons, worms, fire, smoke and sulfur go take your eye see you go testify for hell. You will spend the first few days begging for mercy but when it eventually dawns on you that you are going to be there for a very long time you will live with regret. Mr super star sensibility. Your sensibility will turn to nonsensibility in hell. Jux calm down and die by mistake. You go know how far.

Leiylau:
Let me read what you got right here.

Waow that's lots of 🔥🔥 you throw here 🤸 I rather be in hell than sat my damn ass in heaven with christians not to talk of nairaland African christians dazzling you right on spot!

I pray you spend 1 hour in hell before you eventually die and actually go there.

yinkus6750:
I learnt , means a statement that needs confirmation.
It's a pre assumed as information.
Guess the Fayoses all have the same problem.

If it is a statement that needs confirmation then it should not be posted at all.

JennyJossie:
Your advice pls at 29 to 30 some one is ready to marry you and also promise to train you in school, but you are not sure. And one of your relative said he will train you in school, and you are sure about it but on the conditions that you must let go of marriage issues. Which one will you go for

Don't trust either of them. They are humans and can fail you. I have a couple of questions for you. Answer them and you will be on your way towards fixing your predicament. One, why do you want to get married. If you are getting married hoping that man will be your cash cow na sorry be your name oh. Two, what is your current level of education and why are you acquiring your next level of education? Many just go to school seeking certificate not knowing what they will eventually do with the certificate when they graduate. I can imaging someone going for a PhD in Philosophy and I wonder what the person wants to do with that. Three. At 29-30 your chances at marriage are slim. Is getting a degree more valuable than settling down?

HanisahZuwy:
Please I would like to know the things I stand to gain if I do my butt and my boobs. The benefits it offers me and the advantages too. Like what are those things I get to enjoy it the things/benefits I'll have or get if I get my butt and boobs done. You know what I mean, right?


Please, I'll like to know those things so that I can know if it's worth it or not. Thanks.

You stand to gain a lot of pain and sudden death and if you succeed in doing the boobs and ass you stand to gain what the regular olosho can gain.

Jennyclay:
Biko, men should stop this sick attitude. How can you buy a gift for a lady, then any misunderstanding or break-up between you two, you go back and collect the gift back from her . That's a stupid attitude biko you men should stop it. Even kids don't behave like that.

Henceforth, if any man wants to get me a gift, wether iPhone, hair, car, house etc.. the receipt must contain my name and my signature. so that incase of tomorrow he wants to show his stupid and sick character I will quickly sue him to court for stealing and assault. Because he's forcefully trying to steal what belongs to me. The receipts has stated it all and it would be my evidence.

If the receipts doesn't contain my name, Biko just keep your useless gift to yourself.

Shame on all men that collect back gifts he already given to a lady. Shame!!! Shame!!! Shame!!!

So you are looking to date a man that will be stupid in the nearer future...you must be stupid too. Just saying.

NNtv:
there are many homo people in Nigeria doing their thing freely. Let's stop this hypocritical approach that will not benefit the country. Even many politicians, artists, businessmen and lecturers practice homo.

Secondly, homo is an old practice that and no one can come out with a proof that Africa has not been doing it before now.

Yeah there are secret cannibals among us too. Does that mean we should make cannibalism legal. Rubbish talk. There are secret pedophiles among us too. Should we make pedophilia legal too. There are secret necrophiliacs among us too. Should we make necrophilia legal too. Please take your nonsense culture to the US and stay there. We recognize these acts as being ruinous to our society.

HanisahZuwy:
I would like to know how a lady who doesn't have sizable butt or let say a lady who has tiny butt and very tiny boobs, how can such a lady attract a man. We all know men are attracted by butts and boobs, either both or one of them. So, someone who doesn't have any of those, does she stand a chance in attracting or getting a man? How can she do this? How can she get a man? Please, I would like to know. Thanks.

Big boobs and ass attracts all kinds of men. They attract rapists, touts, miscreants, thugs, cultists, pastors, priests, imams, sheikhs, broke men, rich men etc. Instead of getting fixated on your boobs and ass focus on your mind and soul and ONLY real men of purpose, leadership and excellence will be attracted to you.

Freshtruth:
Me and this girl has been dating for over a year a and 4months now and have not had sex with her. It has been giving me concern cause I have been patient all this while. I have made move though and she keep telling me now is not the right time . I have spent 14k on her since we have been dating base on my calculation he go pain me say I no knack her because she very attractive. Should I keep waiting . Am thinking of putting drugs in her drink this weekend to have my way

Animal. You wan commit crime for 2 minutes pleasure ba. Na by force to sleep with this particular girl? Why not find you fellow olosho to run things. You no spend up to 5k to land olosho na.

Pablo1986:
Hello Guys!

Let’s dive into a thought-provoking question that many men can relate to: between your mother, your daughter, and your wife, who comes first in your life? Now, I know this is a delicate topic, but let’s approach it with an open mind and a friendly perspective.

For us men, the women in our lives hold incredible significance. They bring joy, love, and support, and play unique roles that shape who we are. Each relationship is special in its own way, and it’s essential to recognize and honor that.

First, let’s talk about the pillar of strength in our lives – our mothers. From the moment we arrived in this world, they nurtured, protected, and guided us with unconditional love. Our mothers have been there through thick and thin, cheering us on and providing wise counsel. They are a treasure trove of wisdom and memories, and their influence is profound.

Next, let’s focus on our daughters, our little princesses. These bundles of joy bring an abundance of love and happiness to our lives. We watch them grow, learn, and blossom into incredible individuals. As fathers, we have the privilege and responsibility of being their role models, guiding them through life’s adventures, and helping them realize their full potential.

Lastly, but certainly not least, we have our wives – our partners in crime and life companions. They are our confidants, our best friends, and our soulmates. Our wives bring love, laughter, and companionship into our everyday existence. Together, we build a life filled with dreams, shared goals, and unwavering support for one another.

But if you are to puick

Between Your Mother, Your Daughter And Your Wife – As A Man Who Comes First?

Let’s hear from you.

Drop comment.

No one comes first. Their lives are all important to me and I cannot replace them and if they engage in a contest for superiority I will remind them all that God alone comes first and they are all equals as far as my love, provision and care are concerned.

Ulunne777:
I used to do the disciplining before but when I noticed my kids tilting towards my husband and him even reporting them to me or asking them if I have seen what they did wrong,I stopped.


We must agree together on the punishment or watch them spoil together.

Stop reporting your kids misdemeanor to the other spouse.The parent present should trash it out or wait for joint punishment.
It potrays the discipliner wicked before the kids

Watching them spoil together is a horrendous strategy. It is better for you to keep disciplining them than to do nothing because those kids will forget the pain but remember the lessons learned.

silvoclaira:
Somehow we dont choose our physique.

Humans are Innately and don't consider the fact that no one had control over their physique and appearance thus should be mindful of our speech and discriminating others over what they had no control of.

Yeah but you will gladly discriminate when it comes to the choice of a spouse. You will mostly not marry a deformed person no matter how angelic they are. Our morality crumbles when it requires us to pay a price.

Iamdbull:
Dbull on this one!!!


Tinubu should make me his entertainment adviser asap!

Guys let me introduce you to my new fashion brand I just launched called

MALDIVES COLLECTIONS

feel free to mention me if you want yours, I will deliver it personally with my autograph on it.

Why you go dey print the Maldives for where power station dey guy. Why not on the side.

There is "one chance" practically everywhere in Nigeria. Passengers heading to Kano are stranded in airports because runway lights aren't working. One chance everywhere.

Kobojunkie:
So you now see how ludicrous your initial claim was now, I hope.

No I do not. You are yet to convince me in any way that it is. The only thing you have done is to switch on your robotic side. When you are ready to converse like a human being then I will respond to you.

tonywonder:
Marriage has being polluted and defiled by both men and women. When you read what couples do outside of their marriage as a bachelor or spinster, you might end up never getting married, becoming a baby daddy/baby mama or just adopting babies and enjoy your short life on earth.

These stories are a testament to the fact that mankind is steeped so deep in evil. Why people decide to be evil just beats my imagination. We could decide to do what is right but we decide to do evil. Evil is sweet but good is bitter.

Kobojunkie:
Again.. Elihu wasn't the only one who "prophesied" in job so why single him out for this claim you attempt to make here?

you have started your robotic responses again...no matter how I respond you will respond with this prompt "Elihu wasn't the only one who "prophesied" in job so why single him out for this claim you attempt to make here?" Crap!

Kobojunkie:
Elihu wasn't the only one who "prophesied" in job so why single him out for this claim you attempt to make here?

You don start you dis girl. You don start. I no dey d mood to argue now.

mytime24:
Married men/wmen cheatin since d time of joseph ind bible

Since the time of Joseph or since the time of Lamech? He was the first man in bible history to have multiple wives.

This lady just need to injection. She need vaccination. This man needs to stop arguing and fighting and just vaccinate the irate lady and her body go calm down.

I have to join this forum to post this tonight.

I'm in my early thirties, my husband is just two years older than me. My husband has always been neglecting his responsibilities even before we got married, but I was seeing it as he doesn't have a better job and a struggling guy whom we can both join hands together to build each other. I endured everything with him. I have always supported and provided without complain.
Since last year my husband lost his job, since then, he has refused to look for any other source of income. Even when he had a job, he always have one story or the other to tell about his monthly salaries. So, he still doesn't provide.
Once, there's nothing in the house, he will keep watching because I can't watch my two children Starve. I will try everything, even call friends, families and borrow. He doesn't care how I borrowed and how I paid.


Now, he wakes up every morning and still go back to sleep. Whatever I asked him, he don't always have. He's response always is ''I don't have money ''
I am the only one sourcing out everything in this house, I don't have a job as well, just struggling up and down with a business I do.

There's no food, school fees, bill, everything, he will ignore. I can't watch my children suffer. So, I keep struggling without any help. But he eats food and uses everything in the house with us. He wouldn't provide, but he can use them once they're available.
Our house rent will soon expire and he has no plan towards That. The previous one I paid, but presently, my business is down

Lately, I've been thinking. I've never cheated since I entered this marriage, but If I keep struggling all myself like this, my children will suffer. I feel, I need someone who loves me and willing to support me as well.
My children are too used to their father, it borders me if I separate them from him.

Leaving a marriage because he's not taking responsibilities, does that make me a bad woman?

What could make a man to be very comfortable not providing for his family but wouldn't want to loss the said family?

Have you ever been in my shoes, what would you advise me?

You ladies can be very stupid atimes. I am sorry if you feel insulted by my statement but please reason with me an you will agree with me. You saw a man that was irresponsible before marriage and you somehow thought he would become responsible after marriage. How na? How? You claim you built with him and now you want to destroy everything you claim you built with him. Na now you realize sey you need someone to love you, after having several kids. Madam you are walking into disaster ohh. This one you claim you are looking for someone to love you, you are just deluding yourself ohh. You are actually looking for money and I assure you that in these days and times with the subsidy removal you can easily end up in the hands of a ritualist oh. The next man you will spread your legs for can easily be your last. Ronu oh.

Naivety left me as a teenager when I saw countless evils. From murder, to poisoning, to rape, to theft, to deceit, to adultery...I was exposed to all of these before I hit 20. Social media raised the exposure to staggering levels. It seems most people don't just don't care anymore. Most people will do what makes them feel good even if it could lead to the destruction of others. It is considered normal to get a lady pregnant and just abscond. It is considered normal to make a man father several children that are not his. It is considered normal to sleep with someone else's spouse, a act that we can never take. Yet we insult politicians for their wickedness but as a people we are mostly wicked and evil in all that we think and do.

It makes me ask why. Why? Why are most of us so evil? Why can't we just be good to one another?

EcoBrick:
Scamgeria.

Nigeria deserves its leaders. Nigerians are evil. Hardly will you find a Nigerian that won't do what these monsters did if given the chance. The people who are complaining, if given the chance, will do worse than this. If as a people we do not turn from our wicked and evil ways Nigeria will go from bad to worse, we will be treated with ignominy and disdain in other countries and become a pariah among nations.