Wealthier:
Hi Nairalanders,

Permit me go straight to the point. So I've been praying to God earnestly, with tears since I was 25. Up till now that I'm clocking 30 years this month. It seems God doesn't want to answer my prayers to bless me with my husband.

One. What is your purpose in life? What do you hope to do with your life? Have you thought about that? If you don't know your purpose you will most likely marry a monster. Go and settle this with God first. You are created to be a helper to a man that is headed in the direction of your purpose. So if you don't know your purpose you will marry anything.

Two. If you have discovered your purpose, put yourself on the path to achieving your purpose because your husband is on that path. If you intend to be a doctor to provide solutions to medical issues that plague people in poor communities, start making moves in this direction because your husband is somewhere doing something similar or has a passion for supporting people who do so.

Three. You must build these 5 cardinal characteristics in yourself and they are: loyalty, sexual purity, piety, purpose driven and submission to authority.

Four. Your man must have the following 5 cardinal characteristics: leadership, sacrifice, piety, purpose driven and sexual purity.

Five. It is easy to start a marriage but it is hard sustaining marriage. To sustain marriage, you as a woman must be committed to submitting to your husband as you would submit to the Lord God and your husband as a man must be willing to love you as Christ loved the church and gave himself for it. This must be your marital contract and the basis by which you hold each other accountable.

Shalom.

Good afternoon everyone.. I met this girl February,, this year.so we started dating, to cut the story short.i got down with her today and discovered she's still a virgin and I disflowered her..Due to her tightness and freshness,I poured into her.so I decided to get her postinor 2 just to be on safer side.the problem now is,, she has been bleeding since 1pm till now.i want to know if it the effects of the drugs or it the blood from the broken hymen.. pls your advice is needed,, she's just 18 . she's sleeping at the moment.

You must marry her. If you fail to marry her you are cursed.

alex4nj:
Hi Fam👋🏼💗
In this Chitchat, I share some of the things my husband does, that make me want to submit to him, while also advising men, on how best to make their wives "submissive".

Thank you so much for watching. If you enjoyed watching, PLEASE like, comment, share, and of course, please subscribe to my channel🙏🏽 I appreciate every single one of you. THANK YOU❤

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZKSm7dGbGWM

If you will not submit to him don't marry him or divorce him make e no go tear you slap wey go uplift your mind and soul oh. Marriage nor be by force.

Bvlgari:


https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=pfbid02WzkPoRshg1erM6yrvCqs2hCEb15uX6w5nM4Q9mkXZvJ24PTuptmWN35tv2z2kznwl&id=100001099643107&mibextid=Nif5oz

Ladies. It doesn't rain everywhere oh. In some locations they have not seen rain in decades, in some location it snows and if you are underwater it never rains there. So don't be deceived. It doesn't rain everywhere. Many of you ladies are victims of your own greed. Sincere men with good character that do not cheat and are still growing to become financially independent are never seen as attractive to you ladies but bad boys that have made money will always attract ladies. And after saying yes to a bad boy your start lamenting why he is not being a responsible man. Ladies are the architect of their own sorrows.

Kanixt:
"I recently snooped in my wife’s phone and discovered dozens of texts to her co-workers and some of our mutual friends — all saying awful things about me and airing petty grievances from our personal life. Among the topics of the texts was my unemployment. I recently gave up my nearly 10-year successful career in real estate to move to a new city and state so our daughter can go to a better school. I haven’t figured out my next move yet, but I’ve been actively applying and interviewing for jobs. I’ve received multiple offers, but none have been the right fit. My wife’s texts portray me as a deadbeat loser, and she questions why she’s stayed with me, lamenting what a burden it has been for her. I’ll note that our mortgage and our mutual bills have been paid for the last six months from the proceeds of selling our house when we moved, so my unemployment has caused her zero financial burden. I can’t get past the things she said and the betrayal I feel, and I am considering asking for a separation. But I am scared to bring it up because of the invasion of her privacy that led to me discovering the text messages. What is the ethical path forward?"

She doesn't have to know how you know. You have to start looking into your finances and start decoupling from her. Start a trust fund or any financial move that provides you money that she cannot access even under the guise of divorce.

Don't be in a hurry to tell her about what you now know. Secure yourself financially. She will one day start cheating and be bold enough to bring up the matter herself and you will not need to tell her anything but when this happens you need to be prepared for the fallout.

Next time marry a lady for her loyalty, piety, purpose, submission and character and not good looks.

blueghost:
A newly-married young man who is on the verge of divorcing his wife, has taken to a popular online platform, Break_or_Makeup, to share the story of how he married a virgin, but got the shock of his life when he wanted to make love to his wife on their wedding night.

Here's how he narrated the story;


I got married last month to a Virgin girl but I regret it with my life, guys please never you marry a virgin.

After the wedding party, I was very excited that I will open my fresh flower, so I took my time, I even had to bath her myself . I started noticing that her bobi was sagged, like sagged but I ignored her felt that it could be natural.

As I was bathing her she was already making s*x sound, virgin making s*x sound. I kept quite, I continued , down to her private part, just to make easy penetration I decided to finger her a little since she was all wet with the water and bath soap, with my small small candles and music.

I put in one finger and it swallowed my whole hand, this girl was very wide like back yard, she has already opened her legs wide and I saw some black black things on her private part. I was getting irritated but I just kept deceiving myself until we got to bed.

This girl was as wide as well, I was just managing until she got to orgasm and polluted 3 times. I don't need advise, I will surely divorce her, I am just advising men never to marry virgins. I regret dumping my ex, she was a good woman just for fresh virgin.

https://www.torizone.com/posts/2017/05/38523-entered-swallowed-man-shares-disappointing-wedding-night-experience

"Fresh virgin". "Wide as well". "Swallowed my whole hand". You need help bro. You need urgent medical and psychological attention.

verybadmouth:
Don't kill yourself on top woman matter. How will a non virgin be looking for a virgin to marry? Does it make any sense?

So as you be non virgin go marry olosho na. As for me and my sons na to marry virgin...

kyber:
Tomorrow now when life turned against her
she will say don't judge me with my past🙄
Seriously we need to be mindful of our behavior 😏

Las las nah man go still marry her

Headmistress oshey!

Diligent1:
100% of my one month salary for a year rent, I can't kill myself with responsibilities.
I read it somewhere from a financial consultant that a year rent should not pass your 2 months salaries.

Is that consultant a Nigerian? Two months salary equals rent could be devastating, particularly if you add, feeding, transport, service charges at home, wifey is a full time housewife, Buhari or Tinubu is president, Elemiewele is still CBN governor and there are tons of side chicks contending for the small change wey you get.

Pussykills:
Please I need sincere inputs. Those leaving with someone, please don't derail this thread. Just read an learn.

I'm planning on relocating to new area in Abuja but I'm really confused if 20% of salary is too much to pay for rent.

Where I currently stay lacks some amenities and I pay 10% of my salary for rent.

What percentage of your salary goes to rent? How much do you think should be the ideal percentage of salary for rent??

I think the right percentage would allow for proper saving to allow one build his or her own apartment.

Thank you for your responses.

cc RoyalRoy please I need more opinions. Move to fp please.

[20% - 50%) of your salary is not bad to afford some luxuries. [50% - 100%) of your salary is risky. More than 100% of your salary could be catastrophic.

illicit:
Since incest is a sexual relationship between members of a blood related family.

This means that members of a blood related family shouldn't marry....

And a family may include grandfather, grandmother, father, mother, uncle's, aunt's, cousins, nieces, brothers, sisters (children)

Something now crossed my mind

My grandfather and my grandmother are husband and wife

My father and mother are husband and wife


Hello, what is happening here

Are fathers and mothers not part of a blood related family?

Are they not family?

Should they have married








IIamina

Are your father and mother from the same parents? If yes then you are the product of incest. Are you father and mother cousins, like, did you father marry the daughter of his uncle? If yes, then you are the product of incest. Are you grand parents siblings or cousins? If yes then your parents are the result of incest...but if you grand parents are from unrelated families and your parents from unrelated families then there is no incest at all.

mrrandomguy:
What the fọck is happening to Nigerian men?

I just read a post on the front page where a "man" could not stand up against his second wife for maltreating his first and only child. https://www.nairaland.com/7668587/wife-hates-daughter-first-wife
I also read one other post 2 or 3 days ago where a man was crying on nairaland that his wife usually slaps and maltreat his mother. That he came home one day and met them fighting, but could not enter the house for whatever reason.
This trend is disgusting 🤮

First our agents of socialization are dying fast. The government, the school, religious institutions and most important of all the family are all eroding in quality. Our leaders in government are teaching us how to be corrupt on a daily basis. Our schools are places for rote learning of ideas earlier than the 1900s and nothing more. Our religious institutions are being infiltrated by evil leaders that corrupt people and cause discord. More and more children are getting married and having offspring. Tell me, what values can a child pass on to a child? Men become victims of these failures.

Second, most men have no real purpose for being alive. Most men just do whatever whenever. They have no bearing, no ambitious objectives that serve the interests of others, no necessity outside foundational needs for money and sex.

Third, because of the first and second reasons, most men do not have mentors, no moral compass, no leadership abilities, no arbitration skills and no value. Hence most men are easily stunned by situations with little capacity to respond.

A man ought to be a person of responsibility , someone who has the ability to respond to any situation but today we just have a lot of overgrown boys who may never become men.

AntiTerrorist:
https://thewhistler.ng/just-in-peter-obi-slams-inec-for-backing-tinubu-at-presidential-tribunal/amp/

Umpire? Umpire ko Sapphire ni! No be naija you dey? You don dey dis game tey to dey zuzu. When I tok am sey if all d Zombidients wey dey zuzu up and dan no help you rig d election u nor dey enta Aso rock Yu tink sey na play. Politics is not a game of numbers rather it is a game of alliance, subterfuge and information war crowned by rigging and you P.O score 0% in each category. Make den redo the election today you go lose "galantiously"!

g17prinz:
I am currently in my final year in the university studying sociology. What are my chances of migrating to Europe or Australia with 3.5M?
And what skills are in demand abroad that I can learn in 2 years? I need advice and suggestions, as I don't like the way this country is going.

Oga invest here in Nigeria. With 3.4m you can buy 2 commercial transport vehicles and get like 12k per day returns. With 3.4m you can do quick win businesses that can double you earnings sharply. Our mumu politicians are about to remove subsidy, go and partner with an oil marketer and cash out. Buy food stuffs in bulk, hoard and wait till the subsidy removal and cash out. Bring the market for exotic goods closer to high end consumers...infact make I no go share my ideas finish. Dude you have 3.4m and you want to throw it away in the name of japa. Oga stand well well. Raise that 3.4m to like 100m, secure a foreign job then peel out. No go dey zuzu ohh!

Notorioustroll:
Money cannot tame the desire to have a taste of another dick.

Speak for yourself, not every woman is like you.

Very true! Strange women are insatiable. Give them money and big pole den go still dey do gulder ultimate search dey find wetin nor lost.

She go cough out the money

AjaraEwuro:
I_laugh is asking Kobojunki for her hand in marraige, do you think this Diva and this paddy will work out til death do them part?

Na to pray make death by argument no do them part shortly after the wedding.

Vinnie2000:

Will Guys looking for a Virgin Wife Find them? 🤔🤨

For me, They will Clock 45 Years and Grow White BierBier if They continue to SEARCH.

because the Hard Condition of Nigeria + Raging Hormones of Females these days
Means Virgins No Dey Again.

So What do you Think?
Any Hope for Virgin Brides Searchers? 🙂

There are virgins everywhere. In universities, in churches, at work places etc. The problem with you guys is that you have so trained your eyes to desire olosho so bad that the virgins slide past you guys very easily. Na me comot the tamper proof of my sweetie and you can also enjoy the same privilege but you go need comot eye for olosho body.

Birdbyrde440:
I have often contemplated why women prefer simple minded men who are focused on earthly and socially recognizable successes over men with depth and intelligence.

Women like men that are predictable and easy to manipulate, they avoided smart men because they are highly intuitive and a smell fakeness from a mile off.

Even when a smart man is rich he still looks poor because he is more focused on generating more wealth by challenging his intellect and competing with other intelligent people. But women love a man that wears the latest designer wears, takes her to dubai for shopping... etc

You hardly see a smart man being passionate about pop culture, women love a man that is a diehard manchester united fan or wizkid fan.

Smart men take calculated risks, are reflective and self examining, they will examine the consequences of their actions. Women love a man acts before he thinks, imagine this:

You are taking a walk with your girl one night and suddenly 5 guys with machetes starts walking towards you to attack and do you harm

Smart guy will run with his girl. Because smart guy is already aware of potential outcomes and will not be impulsive in tge way that females find attractive.

But women want a man that will fight and defend her. yes, fight and defend her bare handed against 5 men with machetes! A stupid man will succumb, he will act before thinking.

Smart men rarely belong to any well-known, mainstream category of people, that means being an unknown brand and women will never take a risk with an unknown brand.

Not being easy to Manipulate is the main reason why women hate really smart men.

This does not apply to all women rather it applies to ladies who are past their prime, are in their late 20s or past 30 and are ready to settle down with any psychopath, narcissist or mamas boy that has the similtude of a man...and after 2 or 3 failed marriages begin to sing the favorite feminist hymn "Men are scum, men are scum, men are scum, men are scum..."

Karen2024:
Seriously speaking, I will accept to marry any man who will take care of the kids while I hustle to feed the family. He will be a full-time husband while I work. I will still play my role as the house wife and let him dominate me.

Ehhnnn aunty you are exposing yourself to armed and extremely dangerous men ohh. Imagine what you are offering. He will sit at home and do nothing and yet you will allow him dominate you after working for 8 hours. No matter how strong you are you cannot sustain it. You need a leader and there are many of them but unfortunately most ladies are aiming for ready made. The grass is greener where you water it.

emexnaija:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MERjyDu_uGU

Serves Darlington right. Next time e go dey nzuzu. Investor Darlington have invested in nonsense. I can imagine the countless fools that are sponsoring this olosho's education.

SultanOfAbia:
It's been a week since I finally slept with a pastor's wife.
It wasn't easy at all. I have been on her matter for over a year. She no gree

The sex felt spiritual
I think I received anointing or blessing from her.
After the sex I notiiced
People now greet me with respect
My business is moving well. I recently got a project work in uyo.
All this happened withing 1 week after I slept with her.
She said it will never happen again
Due to her position public and to save face.

One thing I remember is that the sex was heavenly. I had the strongest orgasm my leg was shaking.
Her moaning!!! God only her soft voice fit make me cum.
I'm enjoying the grace I'm experiencing now. And I believe it is from this woman.
Now I believe some women carry grace!

You didn't think she used you? A woman had such a moment and doesn't want to continue it? Well enjoy the grace.

post=122742738:
Dear Romancelanders,
Please advice this young lady below...

"I lost my husband last year, finally found a man to marry but wants my children to bare his name instead of my late husband

Am so happy, at last i finally found someone who accepts I and my children, he is richer and provides I and my kids every need and also shows me so much love even more than my late husband did, the truth is, I feel more comfortable with this man. He even open up a supermarket for me..

He asked to marry me in which I have accepted, the problem now is, am disturbed on the fact that he has asked to marry me on the condition that we remove my late husband's name from my children's names and replace it with his own name..

I have tried talking to him to wait so that, I consult my people first because my late husband had fully paid my dowry. But, he insist we shouldn't inform them and that he has people in the government who can quickly switch the names without any delays or complications. Actually, I don't know what else to do because am afraid to loose him. I'm a 33year-old woman with 3kids. Age 4 a girl and 2year-old twin boys. I fear i might not find another man to marry me. I'm still a young woman whom also deserves a sweet love life. I also see that, changing the names is of no big deal since we are getting married to make one big family.

Pls kindly advice me on this.
She wrote..
From ChiChi's Blo....

Aunty run oh. If he can use people in government to force a name change one day he will force a cosmetic surgery on your face. If he is not straightforward enough to make the proper consultations he won't be straightforward in fidelity. His money is shining in your eyes. His demeanor is sweeping you off your feet. Soon you will start shouting all men are scum when this man shows you pepper. A true leader will not force a name change for children that are not his. A true leader will adhere to due process. No let money and konji carry you go wey you nor know ohh.

FalseProphet1:

I see you becoming a prophetess, I see you not getting married because of your ministry, I see you prophesying day and night.

This I have seen.

SundayNightGist:
Sharing this story with you is risky because it's a true story and it actually happened, but I'm not deterred as I'm on a mission to sanitize our society of all forms of immorality. Now lets get right into it without any further ado.

My office is located in Gwarinpa in Abuja and my boss is a very busy man who hardly stays in the office. We have another branch in Guzape (Asokoro extension) where my boss hired a lady as the manager in charge. This particular lady is fair and very endowed both ways (I mean front and back). She's attractive too, no doubt. She happens to be a single mother with a son. My boss on the other hand is a family man with four kids.

I had just joined the company when I started noticing that this lady usually drives the company's Mazda salon car to our branch (the headquarters) every week (Thursdays to be precise) to hold a "private meeting" with my boss. Word in the office has it that she was coming for weekly "reporting". Honestly I never once bothered to try and find out what was really going on as I'm the type that is very serious with my work.

Not until the guys in the office started bantering in groups and talking about what was actually going on. Again, I shrugged off their conversation because what's my business, and besides, I don't do office gossip. Well, not until one fateful day....

As I was hurrying up a task given to me by my boss in my usual seriousness with my work, I needed to rush to his office to get his final approval on something that he had asked me to do when I ran into the unbelievable!

Was I dreaming? Was my eyes paining me? For Pete's sake, what was this? In broad daylight that evening, as I knocked, my boss answered "come in" nonchallantly. I don't know what he was thinking. Lo and behold, there they were, he and our branch manager both standing on their feet and very close to each other with my boss unzipping her dress with his both hands! I was embarrassed and so were they. Usually, whenever this lady is around my boss would immediately close all his window curtains. This normally happens around or after closing (remember I told you I'm a serious office worker, so I stay back a lot because naturally I work late into the night everyday).

Since that incident, whatever I say in any meeting involving this particular lady is always accepted and approved by her whether it makes sense or not. In fact, she's trying to move close to me and become my friend by force now to the extent that she even chats with me privately now regularly.

While a man has the full right to do whatever he likes, my question is why do this in the workplace? Why would my boss engage in office romance right in the office building? And why is the lady in question now trying to get close to me by force now? Am I in any real danger? I don't want to lose my job. Please what do I do?

No you are not in danger yet but you could be if you make a false move. One, meet with the lady and let her know you have no problem with her and that as far as you are concerned you saw and heard nothing. Be emotionally present when you are around your oga or his mistress. Be careful of anyone trying to lure you into gossiping about your boss. Two, start looking for a job, faaaast! Mad men like your boss will bankrupt that company or do something stupid that could end the company or damage it's image so start job hunting sharply. Three, up your savings to mitigate the risk from being fired. Cut down on unnecessary expenses and up your resilience of shocks that could hit the company unawares. Lastly, leave the rest to God.

Icrave4u:
Don't Wait Until You Clock 50, Keep Pride Away And Ask A Man Out — Aisha Yesufu Advises Single Women

She wrote: “Go there and toast him yourself.
Women nowadays snatch married man from their wives...there is nothing wrong whosoever snatching a single man to yourself.

Ladies sit down clocking 30, 40 and going over 50 while waiting for a man to come and ask them out or ask them for relationship. You can start one!

A woman can propose to a man and tell him I want to marry you, there is nothing wrong about that...let's keep pride away. Go there and ask him yourself. Even if you are older than him, it won't spoil anything because marriage is a serious business so you shouldn't be waiting for "anyone that calls me" until a mad-Man shows up for you.

Show interest in and possibly push on whom you like or love...not when another woman or your friends takes whom you love, you start crying and being unnecessarily jealous.

Gone are those days ma'am!”

After den don useless densef den go come dey drag man, dey propose give man...man go dey scatter their toutou uselessly after e don taya e go take off like Usian Bolt.

jaephoenix:

What if you were serving the wrong god all this while

We'll know when we die. As for me, my bet is on Jesus.

Fineman2:
Story of the day;

Hello Omajuwa. I am an only child who is 42years old. My mother refused to remarry after my father died when I was young. She sacrificed so much for me to be where I am today. I got married about 7years ago. My wife and I have been looking upto God for a child. After pleading with my wife for us to adopt at least a child to no avail, I decided to get my mum who stays with us to help me speak to her woman to woman. But this made them become sworn enemies. My wife since then talks to my mother anyhow and disrespects her every now and then. It has been like that for months.

Few days ago, while returning from work, I heard their loud shouts from outside but I remained outside waiting for the shouts to be over as I didn’t want to be put in the position of choosing a side. But I had to intervene when I heard a loud slap. My wife had slapped my mother. I was enraged but I kept my cool, took my mother from the scene and catered for her. I have since not said a word to my wife.

All I feel when I am at home is sadness and depression. I have no peace in my own home. I have sacrificed a whole lot just to make this marriage work. The woman I married has become someone else. I have defended this same woman from my extended family for years. I have been labeled a ritualist and all sorts of name due to our childlessness but I have never cheated and I have always defended my wife despite knowing that she is the one with fertility issues.

Even though my mother has been trying to put up a strong front since that day, I know that she has been crying herself to sleep. I love my wife so much but I love my mum too. What could my mother have possibly done to warrant her slapping my mother? I think my wife is selfish and is no longer who I married. Why would she rather constantly inflict pain and sadness on her own family? I just want peace of mind and I have made up my mind to divorce my wife. But hope this won’t be a mistake? Is there still a marriage to save here? How do I go about it? What do I do? Please help me.

In summary, you want to adopt a child, your infertile wife says no. Sign of disrespect from your wife number 1. You call your mother to intervene in your marriage. Sign of weakness in marriage number 2. In the course of argument your wife slaps your mother. Sign of insubordination and disrespect from your wife number 3. You return home and it is in disarray. Sign of lack of authority in your home. Oga, your mother is not the problem. Oga your wife is not the problem. You are the problem sir. You are not a man. You have no governing authority over your home. I am not saying you should be a tyrant, sadist or slave master, I am saying you should be a man and assert authority over your home.

You don't have any grounds to end your marriage here because there is no case of infidelity or unrepentant insubordination here yet. You need to meet with your wife and your mother separately. You need to be unequivocal about your authority in the house and how they must respect your decisions at all times or else risk being thrown out of the house. Tell your wife to apologize to your mom right before you. If she resists send her packing but do not divorce her. If after sometime she repents and apologizes accept her back but if she resists still divorce her she is not your wife.

Make it a point of duty not to involve your mom in your personal affairs. Your mom should be a counselor and not an "assistant husband". Be a man and lead.