AsomStructures:


Even the bible said its not good for a man to be alone... God knew that a man would need a companion that's why he made women. Omo see en we need to celebrate these women especially the good/submissive ones

Seconded bro. We really need to celebrate, reward and honor our good wives. They over deserve it. In a world where 7 out of 10 ladies are marine spirits you need to celebrate the 30% that are good and submissive. This would encourage more ladies learn from the few.

doggedfighter:


I agree 💯 with you that the lecturer is absolutely wrong.

But in Nigeria justice is hard to get reason my parents will always tell us to try as much as possible

to avoid things that will put you in some kind of situation because things that are easy to get in many places are hard fought battles here.

I hope you understand my position.

I am female and will never support assault.

Very correct. It's sad though that it is this way in our country.

mrrandomguy:
In general, the option of divorce makes men and women, especially independent women to be more irresponsible in marriage.

That's is why in my journey to find a spouse I was wary of ladies who had divorce as an option of first resort. The problem is most men and women don't discuss with their intended spouses. They get carried away by the romance, outings, etc and they judge their intended spouses based on their romantic experience and not insights from real discussions.

doggedfighter:
I am happy seeing the comfortable seats they're seated on . It's a rare sight in our universities.

All the students are still wearing their uniforms wonder what she went to do and why she doesn't have her's on. Why appear in mufti at that time ?


Looks like it's medical sciences.
Uniformity creates order and discipline. Rules must be obeyed and ethics adhered to.

Agreed most students can test your patience but then on the part of the lecturer there are better ways to handle this issue.

Slapping shouldn't be part of it.

We are too physically abusive as a people.

Assault comes too easy for us especially when in position of authority.

It's a sad !!

But it is so wrong. A uniform can be changed with ease but the traumatic effects of physical abuse may not be addressed easily. This man is not academic at all. He is just another frustrated being venting on an errant student and he should be disciplined for his toutish behavior. Only criminals and touts use physical violence to address issues when there are other approved disciplinary measures.

Kobojunkie:
1. (1) Abeg stop using God's name to deceive the OP. All the many people in your churches (2) who believe they had their so-called purpose in life figured out yet still ended up married to monsters in marriage-- Osinachi comes to mind-- nko? She set as provider and Helper and world heard how she became food for worms before her old age.

(1) It is none of your business how I use God's name. There are many out there using God's name as they please for purposes noble and ignoble. We all will be judged for our positions so please before you attempt to mark my script let God mark it first because He set the exam. Stop making a fool of yourself and quit your ad hominem culture when you cannot properly fault opposing thoughts.

(2) You rushed to bring up the Osinachi case but in your puerile hastiness you did not hightlight that she remained in the marriage after several attempts by friends and family to get her out of the marriage. She remained in that marriage by choice and her fate was her choice. And when your fate is your choice, I don't call or see that as a tragedy. In your foolish haste you also did not prove that Osinachi had a purpose. Anyone can sing and be a worship leaders, it does not make it a purpose for her. You don't know Osinachi and I can guess that she did not divulge to you how she defined purpose for herself.

(3) Op, no dey let these ignorant folks deceive and delude you with lies wrapped around their many mentions of the name of God. Open your eyes to see the many examples out there that continually invalidate the delusions these people try to feed you. God is not a God of delusions or lies

(3) This presumptuous fool declares herself right. You are no more than a pseudo intellectual masquerading as someone of value but has no qualms with quashing opposing thoughts and perpectives. I cannot see the world through your lens and neither will you through mine yet every perspective is an option that the OP may chose to explore in her pursuit of truth.

(4). Marriage abandonment/divorce rates among religious folks particularly Churchians exactly mirrors that of the unbelievers. Even your pastors with their many submissive wives are not immune to the very same marital problems faced by those in the world to the extent their children grow up just as equally traumatized as children raised in abusive homes outside of religion. Stop gorging yourself with these lies you wrap around the many mentions of the name of God and stop spreading these delusions to others abeg!
(4) Your foolishness on full display as usual. According to word of the Lord to Paul, both men and women are given commandments that they need to adhere to to sustain marriage and marriages fail when one or both parties to the marriage fail in their responsibility. That a wife is submissive does not make the marriage sustainable and that a man is loving and sacrificial does not alone sustain the marriage. Marriage needs the combination of a loving husband and a submissive wife. However, in your puerile haste to reveal your foolishness, you didn't see how I mentioned the responsibilities of both parties in the marriage.

Dear OP. The ball is in your court. There are many voices in this world (1 Corinthians 14:10) and they are all talking to you now. I pray you are able to make the right decision and enjoy a great marriage.

AyamGod23:
This is the exact truth about me no lies,
i am a young guy 26 years, 5ft 11, weight 69kg, bmi 21.
i currently work in Lagos as storekeeper and never dated before please
i need a girlfriend who is fun and interesting to chat with, i am cool and likeable guy actually i don't have age preference for a girl.

please if you are interested indicate. thanks


in case a girl is reading this and feeling shy my mail is ayamgod23@gmail.com

Are you ready to pay 250k bride price?

Wealthier:
Hi Nairalanders,

Permit me go straight to the point. So I've been praying to God earnestly, with tears since I was 25. Up till now that I'm clocking 30 years this month. It seems God doesn't want to answer my prayers to bless me with my husband.

One. What is your purpose in life? What do you hope to do with your life? Have you thought about that? If you don't know your purpose you will most likely marry a monster. Go and settle this with God first. You are created to be a helper to a man that is headed in the direction of your purpose. So if you don't know your purpose you will marry anything.

Two. If you have discovered your purpose, put yourself on the path to achieving your purpose because your husband is on that path. If you intend to be a doctor to provide solutions to medical issues that plague people in poor communities, start making moves in this direction because your husband is somewhere doing something similar or has a passion for supporting people who do so.

Three. You must build these 5 cardinal characteristics in yourself and they are: loyalty, sexual purity, piety, purpose driven and submission to authority.

Four. Your man must have the following 5 cardinal characteristics: leadership, sacrifice, piety, purpose driven and sexual purity.

Five. It is easy to start a marriage but it is hard sustaining marriage. To sustain marriage, you as a woman must be committed to submitting to your husband as you would submit to the Lord God and your husband as a man must be willing to love you as Christ loved the church and gave himself for it. This must be your marital contract and the basis by which you hold each other accountable.

Shalom.

Good afternoon everyone.. I met this girl February,, this year.so we started dating, to cut the story short.i got down with her today and discovered she's still a virgin and I disflowered her..Due to her tightness and freshness,I poured into her.so I decided to get her postinor 2 just to be on safer side.the problem now is,, she has been bleeding since 1pm till now.i want to know if it the effects of the drugs or it the blood from the broken hymen.. pls your advice is needed,, she's just 18 . she's sleeping at the moment.

You must marry her. If you fail to marry her you are cursed.

alex4nj:
Hi Fam👋🏼💗
In this Chitchat, I share some of the things my husband does, that make me want to submit to him, while also advising men, on how best to make their wives "submissive".

Thank you so much for watching. If you enjoyed watching, PLEASE like, comment, share, and of course, please subscribe to my channel🙏🏽 I appreciate every single one of you. THANK YOU❤

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZKSm7dGbGWM

If you will not submit to him don't marry him or divorce him make e no go tear you slap wey go uplift your mind and soul oh. Marriage nor be by force.

Bvlgari:


https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=pfbid02WzkPoRshg1erM6yrvCqs2hCEb15uX6w5nM4Q9mkXZvJ24PTuptmWN35tv2z2kznwl&id=100001099643107&mibextid=Nif5oz

Ladies. It doesn't rain everywhere oh. In some locations they have not seen rain in decades, in some location it snows and if you are underwater it never rains there. So don't be deceived. It doesn't rain everywhere. Many of you ladies are victims of your own greed. Sincere men with good character that do not cheat and are still growing to become financially independent are never seen as attractive to you ladies but bad boys that have made money will always attract ladies. And after saying yes to a bad boy your start lamenting why he is not being a responsible man. Ladies are the architect of their own sorrows.

Kanixt:
"I recently snooped in my wife’s phone and discovered dozens of texts to her co-workers and some of our mutual friends — all saying awful things about me and airing petty grievances from our personal life. Among the topics of the texts was my unemployment. I recently gave up my nearly 10-year successful career in real estate to move to a new city and state so our daughter can go to a better school. I haven’t figured out my next move yet, but I’ve been actively applying and interviewing for jobs. I’ve received multiple offers, but none have been the right fit. My wife’s texts portray me as a deadbeat loser, and she questions why she’s stayed with me, lamenting what a burden it has been for her. I’ll note that our mortgage and our mutual bills have been paid for the last six months from the proceeds of selling our house when we moved, so my unemployment has caused her zero financial burden. I can’t get past the things she said and the betrayal I feel, and I am considering asking for a separation. But I am scared to bring it up because of the invasion of her privacy that led to me discovering the text messages. What is the ethical path forward?"

She doesn't have to know how you know. You have to start looking into your finances and start decoupling from her. Start a trust fund or any financial move that provides you money that she cannot access even under the guise of divorce.

Don't be in a hurry to tell her about what you now know. Secure yourself financially. She will one day start cheating and be bold enough to bring up the matter herself and you will not need to tell her anything but when this happens you need to be prepared for the fallout.

Next time marry a lady for her loyalty, piety, purpose, submission and character and not good looks.

blueghost:
A newly-married young man who is on the verge of divorcing his wife, has taken to a popular online platform, Break_or_Makeup, to share the story of how he married a virgin, but got the shock of his life when he wanted to make love to his wife on their wedding night.

Here's how he narrated the story;


I got married last month to a Virgin girl but I regret it with my life, guys please never you marry a virgin.

After the wedding party, I was very excited that I will open my fresh flower, so I took my time, I even had to bath her myself . I started noticing that her bobi was sagged, like sagged but I ignored her felt that it could be natural.

As I was bathing her she was already making s*x sound, virgin making s*x sound. I kept quite, I continued , down to her private part, just to make easy penetration I decided to finger her a little since she was all wet with the water and bath soap, with my small small candles and music.

I put in one finger and it swallowed my whole hand, this girl was very wide like back yard, she has already opened her legs wide and I saw some black black things on her private part. I was getting irritated but I just kept deceiving myself until we got to bed.

This girl was as wide as well, I was just managing until she got to orgasm and polluted 3 times. I don't need advise, I will surely divorce her, I am just advising men never to marry virgins. I regret dumping my ex, she was a good woman just for fresh virgin.

https://www.torizone.com/posts/2017/05/38523-entered-swallowed-man-shares-disappointing-wedding-night-experience

"Fresh virgin". "Wide as well". "Swallowed my whole hand". You need help bro. You need urgent medical and psychological attention.

verybadmouth:
Don't kill yourself on top woman matter. How will a non virgin be looking for a virgin to marry? Does it make any sense?

So as you be non virgin go marry olosho na. As for me and my sons na to marry virgin...

kyber:
Tomorrow now when life turned against her
she will say don't judge me with my past🙄
Seriously we need to be mindful of our behavior 😏

Las las nah man go still marry her

Headmistress oshey!

Diligent1:
100% of my one month salary for a year rent, I can't kill myself with responsibilities.
I read it somewhere from a financial consultant that a year rent should not pass your 2 months salaries.

Is that consultant a Nigerian? Two months salary equals rent could be devastating, particularly if you add, feeding, transport, service charges at home, wifey is a full time housewife, Buhari or Tinubu is president, Elemiewele is still CBN governor and there are tons of side chicks contending for the small change wey you get.

Pussykills:
Please I need sincere inputs. Those leaving with someone, please don't derail this thread. Just read an learn.

I'm planning on relocating to new area in Abuja but I'm really confused if 20% of salary is too much to pay for rent.

Where I currently stay lacks some amenities and I pay 10% of my salary for rent.

What percentage of your salary goes to rent? How much do you think should be the ideal percentage of salary for rent??

I think the right percentage would allow for proper saving to allow one build his or her own apartment.

Thank you for your responses.

cc RoyalRoy please I need more opinions. Move to fp please.

[20% - 50%) of your salary is not bad to afford some luxuries. [50% - 100%) of your salary is risky. More than 100% of your salary could be catastrophic.

illicit:
Since incest is a sexual relationship between members of a blood related family.

This means that members of a blood related family shouldn't marry....

And a family may include grandfather, grandmother, father, mother, uncle's, aunt's, cousins, nieces, brothers, sisters (children)

Something now crossed my mind

My grandfather and my grandmother are husband and wife

My father and mother are husband and wife


Hello, what is happening here

Are fathers and mothers not part of a blood related family?

Are they not family?

Should they have married








IIamina

Are your father and mother from the same parents? If yes then you are the product of incest. Are you father and mother cousins, like, did you father marry the daughter of his uncle? If yes, then you are the product of incest. Are you grand parents siblings or cousins? If yes then your parents are the result of incest...but if you grand parents are from unrelated families and your parents from unrelated families then there is no incest at all.

mrrandomguy:
What the fọck is happening to Nigerian men?

I just read a post on the front page where a "man" could not stand up against his second wife for maltreating his first and only child. https://www.nairaland.com/7668587/wife-hates-daughter-first-wife
I also read one other post 2 or 3 days ago where a man was crying on nairaland that his wife usually slaps and maltreat his mother. That he came home one day and met them fighting, but could not enter the house for whatever reason.
This trend is disgusting 🤮

First our agents of socialization are dying fast. The government, the school, religious institutions and most important of all the family are all eroding in quality. Our leaders in government are teaching us how to be corrupt on a daily basis. Our schools are places for rote learning of ideas earlier than the 1900s and nothing more. Our religious institutions are being infiltrated by evil leaders that corrupt people and cause discord. More and more children are getting married and having offspring. Tell me, what values can a child pass on to a child? Men become victims of these failures.

Second, most men have no real purpose for being alive. Most men just do whatever whenever. They have no bearing, no ambitious objectives that serve the interests of others, no necessity outside foundational needs for money and sex.

Third, because of the first and second reasons, most men do not have mentors, no moral compass, no leadership abilities, no arbitration skills and no value. Hence most men are easily stunned by situations with little capacity to respond.

A man ought to be a person of responsibility , someone who has the ability to respond to any situation but today we just have a lot of overgrown boys who may never become men.

AntiTerrorist:
https://thewhistler.ng/just-in-peter-obi-slams-inec-for-backing-tinubu-at-presidential-tribunal/amp/

Umpire? Umpire ko Sapphire ni! No be naija you dey? You don dey dis game tey to dey zuzu. When I tok am sey if all d Zombidients wey dey zuzu up and dan no help you rig d election u nor dey enta Aso rock Yu tink sey na play. Politics is not a game of numbers rather it is a game of alliance, subterfuge and information war crowned by rigging and you P.O score 0% in each category. Make den redo the election today you go lose "galantiously"!

g17prinz:
I am currently in my final year in the university studying sociology. What are my chances of migrating to Europe or Australia with 3.5M?
And what skills are in demand abroad that I can learn in 2 years? I need advice and suggestions, as I don't like the way this country is going.

Oga invest here in Nigeria. With 3.4m you can buy 2 commercial transport vehicles and get like 12k per day returns. With 3.4m you can do quick win businesses that can double you earnings sharply. Our mumu politicians are about to remove subsidy, go and partner with an oil marketer and cash out. Buy food stuffs in bulk, hoard and wait till the subsidy removal and cash out. Bring the market for exotic goods closer to high end consumers...infact make I no go share my ideas finish. Dude you have 3.4m and you want to throw it away in the name of japa. Oga stand well well. Raise that 3.4m to like 100m, secure a foreign job then peel out. No go dey zuzu ohh!

Notorioustroll:
Money cannot tame the desire to have a taste of another dick.

Speak for yourself, not every woman is like you.

Very true! Strange women are insatiable. Give them money and big pole den go still dey do gulder ultimate search dey find wetin nor lost.

She go cough out the money

AjaraEwuro:
I_laugh is asking Kobojunki for her hand in marraige, do you think this Diva and this paddy will work out til death do them part?

Na to pray make death by argument no do them part shortly after the wedding.

Vinnie2000:

Will Guys looking for a Virgin Wife Find them? 🤔🤨

For me, They will Clock 45 Years and Grow White BierBier if They continue to SEARCH.

because the Hard Condition of Nigeria + Raging Hormones of Females these days
Means Virgins No Dey Again.

So What do you Think?
Any Hope for Virgin Brides Searchers? 🙂

There are virgins everywhere. In universities, in churches, at work places etc. The problem with you guys is that you have so trained your eyes to desire olosho so bad that the virgins slide past you guys very easily. Na me comot the tamper proof of my sweetie and you can also enjoy the same privilege but you go need comot eye for olosho body.

Birdbyrde440:
I have often contemplated why women prefer simple minded men who are focused on earthly and socially recognizable successes over men with depth and intelligence.

Women like men that are predictable and easy to manipulate, they avoided smart men because they are highly intuitive and a smell fakeness from a mile off.

Even when a smart man is rich he still looks poor because he is more focused on generating more wealth by challenging his intellect and competing with other intelligent people. But women love a man that wears the latest designer wears, takes her to dubai for shopping... etc

You hardly see a smart man being passionate about pop culture, women love a man that is a diehard manchester united fan or wizkid fan.

Smart men take calculated risks, are reflective and self examining, they will examine the consequences of their actions. Women love a man acts before he thinks, imagine this:

You are taking a walk with your girl one night and suddenly 5 guys with machetes starts walking towards you to attack and do you harm

Smart guy will run with his girl. Because smart guy is already aware of potential outcomes and will not be impulsive in tge way that females find attractive.

But women want a man that will fight and defend her. yes, fight and defend her bare handed against 5 men with machetes! A stupid man will succumb, he will act before thinking.

Smart men rarely belong to any well-known, mainstream category of people, that means being an unknown brand and women will never take a risk with an unknown brand.

Not being easy to Manipulate is the main reason why women hate really smart men.

This does not apply to all women rather it applies to ladies who are past their prime, are in their late 20s or past 30 and are ready to settle down with any psychopath, narcissist or mamas boy that has the similtude of a man...and after 2 or 3 failed marriages begin to sing the favorite feminist hymn "Men are scum, men are scum, men are scum, men are scum..."

Karen2024:
Seriously speaking, I will accept to marry any man who will take care of the kids while I hustle to feed the family. He will be a full-time husband while I work. I will still play my role as the house wife and let him dominate me.

Ehhnnn aunty you are exposing yourself to armed and extremely dangerous men ohh. Imagine what you are offering. He will sit at home and do nothing and yet you will allow him dominate you after working for 8 hours. No matter how strong you are you cannot sustain it. You need a leader and there are many of them but unfortunately most ladies are aiming for ready made. The grass is greener where you water it.

emexnaija:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MERjyDu_uGU

Serves Darlington right. Next time e go dey nzuzu. Investor Darlington have invested in nonsense. I can imagine the countless fools that are sponsoring this olosho's education.

SultanOfAbia:
It's been a week since I finally slept with a pastor's wife.
It wasn't easy at all. I have been on her matter for over a year. She no gree

The sex felt spiritual
I think I received anointing or blessing from her.
After the sex I notiiced
People now greet me with respect
My business is moving well. I recently got a project work in uyo.
All this happened withing 1 week after I slept with her.
She said it will never happen again
Due to her position public and to save face.

One thing I remember is that the sex was heavenly. I had the strongest orgasm my leg was shaking.
Her moaning!!! God only her soft voice fit make me cum.
I'm enjoying the grace I'm experiencing now. And I believe it is from this woman.
Now I believe some women carry grace!

You didn't think she used you? A woman had such a moment and doesn't want to continue it? Well enjoy the grace.

post=122742738:
Dear Romancelanders,
Please advice this young lady below...

"I lost my husband last year, finally found a man to marry but wants my children to bare his name instead of my late husband

Am so happy, at last i finally found someone who accepts I and my children, he is richer and provides I and my kids every need and also shows me so much love even more than my late husband did, the truth is, I feel more comfortable with this man. He even open up a supermarket for me..

He asked to marry me in which I have accepted, the problem now is, am disturbed on the fact that he has asked to marry me on the condition that we remove my late husband's name from my children's names and replace it with his own name..

I have tried talking to him to wait so that, I consult my people first because my late husband had fully paid my dowry. But, he insist we shouldn't inform them and that he has people in the government who can quickly switch the names without any delays or complications. Actually, I don't know what else to do because am afraid to loose him. I'm a 33year-old woman with 3kids. Age 4 a girl and 2year-old twin boys. I fear i might not find another man to marry me. I'm still a young woman whom also deserves a sweet love life. I also see that, changing the names is of no big deal since we are getting married to make one big family.

Pls kindly advice me on this.
She wrote..
From ChiChi's Blo....

Aunty run oh. If he can use people in government to force a name change one day he will force a cosmetic surgery on your face. If he is not straightforward enough to make the proper consultations he won't be straightforward in fidelity. His money is shining in your eyes. His demeanor is sweeping you off your feet. Soon you will start shouting all men are scum when this man shows you pepper. A true leader will not force a name change for children that are not his. A true leader will adhere to due process. No let money and konji carry you go wey you nor know ohh.

FalseProphet1:

I see you becoming a prophetess, I see you not getting married because of your ministry, I see you prophesying day and night.

This I have seen.