Kobojunkie:
So you now see how ludicrous your initial claim was now, I hope.

No I do not. You are yet to convince me in any way that it is. The only thing you have done is to switch on your robotic side. When you are ready to converse like a human being then I will respond to you.

tonywonder:
Marriage has being polluted and defiled by both men and women. When you read what couples do outside of their marriage as a bachelor or spinster, you might end up never getting married, becoming a baby daddy/baby mama or just adopting babies and enjoy your short life on earth.

These stories are a testament to the fact that mankind is steeped so deep in evil. Why people decide to be evil just beats my imagination. We could decide to do what is right but we decide to do evil. Evil is sweet but good is bitter.

Kobojunkie:
Again.. Elihu wasn't the only one who "prophesied" in job so why single him out for this claim you attempt to make here?

you have started your robotic responses again...no matter how I respond you will respond with this prompt "Elihu wasn't the only one who "prophesied" in job so why single him out for this claim you attempt to make here?" Crap!

Kobojunkie:
Elihu wasn't the only one who "prophesied" in job so why single him out for this claim you attempt to make here?

You don start you dis girl. You don start. I no dey d mood to argue now.

mytime24:
Married men/wmen cheatin since d time of joseph ind bible

Since the time of Joseph or since the time of Lamech? He was the first man in bible history to have multiple wives.

This lady just need to injection. She need vaccination. This man needs to stop arguing and fighting and just vaccinate the irate lady and her body go calm down.

I have to join this forum to post this tonight.

I'm in my early thirties, my husband is just two years older than me. My husband has always been neglecting his responsibilities even before we got married, but I was seeing it as he doesn't have a better job and a struggling guy whom we can both join hands together to build each other. I endured everything with him. I have always supported and provided without complain.
Since last year my husband lost his job, since then, he has refused to look for any other source of income. Even when he had a job, he always have one story or the other to tell about his monthly salaries. So, he still doesn't provide.
Once, there's nothing in the house, he will keep watching because I can't watch my two children Starve. I will try everything, even call friends, families and borrow. He doesn't care how I borrowed and how I paid.


Now, he wakes up every morning and still go back to sleep. Whatever I asked him, he don't always have. He's response always is ''I don't have money ''
I am the only one sourcing out everything in this house, I don't have a job as well, just struggling up and down with a business I do.

There's no food, school fees, bill, everything, he will ignore. I can't watch my children suffer. So, I keep struggling without any help. But he eats food and uses everything in the house with us. He wouldn't provide, but he can use them once they're available.
Our house rent will soon expire and he has no plan towards That. The previous one I paid, but presently, my business is down

Lately, I've been thinking. I've never cheated since I entered this marriage, but If I keep struggling all myself like this, my children will suffer. I feel, I need someone who loves me and willing to support me as well.
My children are too used to their father, it borders me if I separate them from him.

Leaving a marriage because he's not taking responsibilities, does that make me a bad woman?

What could make a man to be very comfortable not providing for his family but wouldn't want to loss the said family?

Have you ever been in my shoes, what would you advise me?

You ladies can be very stupid atimes. I am sorry if you feel insulted by my statement but please reason with me an you will agree with me. You saw a man that was irresponsible before marriage and you somehow thought he would become responsible after marriage. How na? How? You claim you built with him and now you want to destroy everything you claim you built with him. Na now you realize sey you need someone to love you, after having several kids. Madam you are walking into disaster ohh. This one you claim you are looking for someone to love you, you are just deluding yourself ohh. You are actually looking for money and I assure you that in these days and times with the subsidy removal you can easily end up in the hands of a ritualist oh. The next man you will spread your legs for can easily be your last. Ronu oh.

Naivety left me as a teenager when I saw countless evils. From murder, to poisoning, to rape, to theft, to deceit, to adultery...I was exposed to all of these before I hit 20. Social media raised the exposure to staggering levels. It seems most people don't just don't care anymore. Most people will do what makes them feel good even if it could lead to the destruction of others. It is considered normal to get a lady pregnant and just abscond. It is considered normal to make a man father several children that are not his. It is considered normal to sleep with someone else's spouse, a act that we can never take. Yet we insult politicians for their wickedness but as a people we are mostly wicked and evil in all that we think and do.

It makes me ask why. Why? Why are most of us so evil? Why can't we just be good to one another?

EcoBrick:
Scamgeria.

Nigeria deserves its leaders. Nigerians are evil. Hardly will you find a Nigerian that won't do what these monsters did if given the chance. The people who are complaining, if given the chance, will do worse than this. If as a people we do not turn from our wicked and evil ways Nigeria will go from bad to worse, we will be treated with ignominy and disdain in other countries and become a pariah among nations.

Kobojunkie:
Elihu is the holy ghost?

“Holy Men of God Spake As They Were Moved by the Holy Ghost” — 2 Peter 1:21

Ireportlive:
Stupid parenting

Simple, short and most sensible answer to the OP's question.

bepositive11:


¹ Why can't you present the child with the consequences without flogging them? What do you gain from flogging them?

As a child, when you did something wrong, didn't you know that you made a mistake? Did you need your parents to flog you before you knew that you made a mistake?

² I hated my parents flogging me with passion. ³Till this day I don't understand how you people are okay with a man or woman flogging a child but not okay with a man flogging a woman or a woman flogging a man.

What would you do if someone flogged you today? Won't you call it abuse? Won't you flog them back? It's because children are vulnerable and helpless that's why you people flog them anyhow.

One the point 1, did you read that bold statement and did you think about it deeply before posting it? You expect a child to grasp the magnitude of the consequence of his or her actions by explanation and dialogue abi? Okay you have a child poking a fork in a live socket. So the next thing you do is sit your child, less than 5 years old, and have a heart felt talk about the science of electricity, electrocution and death, right? Can you see how absurd that is? Or your child climbs the cabinet picks a jar of prescription drugs and mimics you by taking a handful of pills and attempts swallows all. Then you call the child calmly, sit him or her down and read out the details on the prescription leaflet, discuss what overdose means and explain the science of painkillers. Really? I don't know about you but I am not going to raise my children in such a manner. I am a parent not a toy.

On your second point, you may be right to hate your parents if they flogged you just to vent their anger and not to simulate consequence. Venting your anger on a defenseless person is wrong in everyway and this is what many conflate with discipline. It is not discipline rather it is turning that child into a sadist or a masochist. So I agree with you on this point. Flogging to me doesn't mean beating up a child until he or she has bruises and wounds all over his or her body. No. To me punishment should be administered like a drug. Over do it and it becomes a lethal overdose but do it guided by reason and at a level of severity that is harmless and you can drive home points faster.

On your third point, a child and an adult are two different stages. The former does not have the capacity to bear consequences but the latter does. If a child, a teenager, takes his father's money and blows it on booze, corporal punishment would set his errant head straight but if a wife takes her husband's hard earned money and gives it to her boyfriend and this comes to the knowledge of the husband the wife can be divorced, arrested and jailed for theft. See the difference?

caandi:
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Madam caandi. I meant something else. I didn't mean being violent against your spouse. There are non violent ways to simulate the consequence of an action without exposing people to grievous harm.

Jakumo:


No chit Sherlock. Just be ready to spend time in jail when you murder a child with your mindless violence.

Flogging your child and murdering your child are two different things. If your child grows up never knowing that consequences follow actions he or she will ultimately become a hazard to himself or herself.

bepositive11:


If you want your child to believe that flogging is the consequence for their bad actions, what happens when you are not there? They will do those bad actions because you are not their to flog them so the consequences you made them believe don't exist.

If you child or woman flogged you for making mistakes, would you like it? Why flog them if you know that you won't like to be flogged?

You missed my point. The flogging is just a simulation of the consequences. So first before flogging you have to present the errant child with the real consequences of his or her actions and how costly it is to address the consequence then you proceed to flog the child. This makes the child associate the simulated consequence with the real consequence. When you are not there the child will understand that his or her actions will come with consequences that he or she must be ready to face. Parents who violate this approach to flogging and flog for the sake of venting their anger end up hardening their child.

Yugoslavia247:
Despite all the flogging, we are still the most corrupt nation. High rate of internet fraud, hook up.

Flogging never actually worked.

Many parents flogg and gave up. Children revolt and fight back. Children become more dangerous and beast mode is activated.

Alot of children want to stay away from home.

At the end the flogging will at a point be needless. That is when most parent use the real parenting skills of advise and pleading.

You can not flog an 18 year old. He will fight you.

I think real parenting is the ability to use the other forms of effective punishment and reward approach. Because advise is the best.

In school the most notorious are still the most flogged. Did they stop being notorious? No.

The most pampered are more willing to excel academically.

In parenting, the ability to use the carrot and stick approach effectively works to a very large extent.

Children get use to beating and it becomes ineffective.

At a point you would not be able to beat that child. What will you do?

This is Africa where we we teach morals to children and encourage corruption of adults

Spits


In Africa is where a Father teaches his children not to steal while he loots his place of work endlessly

We actually are too lazy in African schools to imbibe theories of parenting and teaching. We prefer the easier route. Using pain and fear.

If many Nigeria teachers were living abroad they will learn patience and respect for children rights.

We most certainly do not respect that in Nigeria.

Many wealthy politicians sent their children to these schools in Nigeria where no one hits their children.

These same children end up the in elite and political class. They very confident and outspoken.

Flogging is for the poor.

Flogging works signs and wonders. A child does not have a sense of actions and consequences and you must simulate consequences for bad actions instead of allowing the child bear the real consequences. The wise man said "foolishness abounds in the heart of a child and the rod of correction shall drive it far from him". Even erring women also need the "rod" of correction to set their ass straight. So spare the rod and spoil the babe.

Chioma4eva:
I've barely registered on this forum for a week and the Misogyny I noticed on this forum, most especially the Romance section is terrible. Little wonder there are very few active female members on this forum. I think the guys should do better or else many females will simply stop being active here. From the type of comments I got from some guys on my last thread its just terrible. So females can't express themselves anymore without being slut shamed? Well I guess I'll have to go back to IG and Twitter.

So a slut should be slut-praised abi? The romance section is not for sluts only. So if you are a slut you will be slutshamed.

tomitrace:
War destroys cities:
Every Nigeria City or aspiring city should learn something from the Collapse of Warri as Oil City👇👇👇

Warri was a big industrial hub in the 70's - 90's.

Warri Refinery, NNPC, DSC, Delta Glass, Shell, Chevron, Schlumberger, Dunlop, Agip, Saipem, Halliburton were in full operation back then. Escravos & Forcados were at their peak.

The city thrived. The city was full of zeal and zestful activities. People living outside hardcore Warri called themselves Wafarians because of propinquity to Warri even though they were not Wafarians. To be a Wafarian was to belong to supposedly a unique lifestyle.

Multinational/Local Banks were present Citibank, FBN, ACB, Savannah Bank.

Business activities thrived. Warri port was a beehive of economic activities

Entertainment/Night life was at its peak, Musicians, Live bands at Palmgroove Hotel, Comedians held their sway: Fela, legendary Don Baker, Majek Fashek, Emma Grey, Oritz Wiliki, Rex Lawson were a few of many of the entertainers that made Warri ebullient. Lido, Zina, etc were comparable to their ilks anywhere.

The town was full of life and it thrived.

McDermot road was busy with Maritime activities and contractors. Kingsway Mall offered anything sold in Lagos at that time.

Joma & Mosheshe were big fish distributors across the Niger Delta.

Rubber produced locally, was used to produce plastics and tyres.

The town grew in size and became a conurbation with people coming from all over the country to settle down in Warri for economic activities.

The Airports were super busy, Escravos, Forcados & Warri Airport. The Warri Airport was even relocated to Osubi for expansion.

Warri was revelling in its glory. Warri Port was fully operational and served as an economic booster for the city. It served businesses in Warri, Benin, Asaba & Onitsha. The Port created huge employment opportunities for locals and the state.

Things started to go downhill from the late 90's. The community leaders and youth chairmen began to fight themselves over control/sharing formula for royalties that came from oil & businesses from settlers.

Itsekiri, Urhobo & Ijaw leaders & youths started fighting each other. The bloody fight started around 1999 and lasted for years till 2003/2004.

The community leaders started imposing local taxes called "Deve" on all companies, industries and local businesses, buildings & projects.

Little by little, the companies frustrated, started leaving.

This continued throughout the early 2000's till 2010. The companies kept on leaving, one after the other. The companies layed off their employees. Unemployment rose.

More companies left for PH, Lagos, Akwa Ibom. They layed off more staff. Unemployment increased still.

Today all that is left in Warri, is a shadow of its glorious past.

95% of all the big companies in Warri had either left or closed down.

Most of the young people have left Warri.

The ones left are driving Keke, doing P.O.S, Spa or Boutique, Beer parlour or doing hookup.

There's peace now, but the damage the greedy community leaders did to Warri, still lingers on and is almost irredeemable at this point.

Do not assume that your city can not be destroyed if it toes the same route Warri followed. Warri leaders did not ever believe that Warri will be this economically empty today while they were fighting then. Learn from Warri and protect our economies

Have you asked why big eeconomies like US, China,etc will never allow war in their countries?

We must learn and avoid things that will trigger war in our country no matter how strong we believe we are. Businesses and investors go where there is peace than where there is war.

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In other words, "righteousness exalts a nation but sin is a reproach to any people".

Tboymessiah:
NasoLifeBe!!!

When an old business man snatched a young lady from a brutal young hustler; this is what happened... Kill and destroy!

But life doesn't have to be like this. Killing does not achieve anything.

Fineman2:
What do you think about this situation that she has found herself in? What would you advice?

Hello Omajuwa. I am a 28-year-old orphan who got married about a year ago. I had to resign my job so as to relocate to Ibadan after our wedding. 5months into our marriage, my husband was laid off his job. His family has since been there for us. Even his best-friend who was not in support of our union before we got married has been helpful.

Since my husband lost his job, he gets angry at the slightest provocation and we fight almost everyday of the week. The fight we had few weeks ago was the most heated we have ever had. He slapped me and said a lot of hurtful things such as calling me bad luck, then locked me outside. I had nowhere to go.

So I called his best-friend to plead with him. It was futile. His friend who is single took me to his home. My tears were uncontrollable. While trying to be supportive, one thing led to another, and we had sex. Since then, we have all been living like that night never happened. My husband never apologized and things are still the same.


However, a few days ago, I found out that I am pregnant. How do I tell my husband who does not have a job that we are about to have a child in our condition? How do I know who the child belongs to between them? Do I get rid of it? Could the pregnancy be a chance at a better life with his friend who is financially bouyant? Is this marriage still worth saving? What do I do? Please help me.

It is women like you that make up the data points that contributes to evidence linking women to dumbfounding levels of foolishness. Your husband's friend took you in when you had nowhere to go and booooom you spread your legs as wide as fisherman's net to catch as much sperm as possible. Madam you are now pregnant for your husband's friend and your first marriage is done. Your husband will see your actions as proof that you are the problem in his life and that you are sent to doom him. Madam to avoid bloodshed, because your husband can kill you out of frustration. Call for family meeting. Invite your relatives and your husband's relatives and confess what happen before them all and let your husband, your relatives and in-laws decide whether your marriage is dead/buried or sick/need treatment. Remember that your husband's friend may also have several women he is sleeping with so prepare to harvest from what you have sown.

Illegal1:
Omoh........illamina,we offered to pay u money to stop posting on nairaland bt u refused..

babe,na gear 2 u dey enter sooo...

gear two of wetin...ment?

Simeonjoe1:


Bro human body is not machine it's unpredictable.
A man that's OK now might die in the next few hours.
Nothing gives 1+1 and even a small complication can kill the strongest of health sadly.
It's what it is

Oga the human body is predictable. If the human body is not predictable and it is entirely random there will be no medical, pharmaceutical or therapeutic advance. The human body is so predictable that medical scientists can predict within a satisfactory margin of error your reaction to certain drugs and treatments. That hospital is culpable. How did they go from delivery, to removing womb to affecting the kidney it is a clear sign of incompetence, negligence and ineptitude. Nigerian hospitals are death traps and that is why most people would rather go to church and pray than go to a hospital where one fool will be experimenting with your body.

armadeo:
Cc efficiencie


I told you ...

Bro this does not prove that the hospital was not culpable. They did not refute the claims of mishandling of the patient. This was how I went a hospital for blood test only for the nurse to clean the site of the injection with cotton wool only (without mentholated spirit). Omo I hala for the nurse sey ah madam what are you doing laidis, use spirit to disinfect the site of the injection na. It was when I exclaimed and called her out that a doctor there saw what was happening and quickly intervened. Nigerian hospitals are mostly death traps and I am inclined to believe Mr Sunday than the so called "specialist" hospital - that specialize in butchering patients. Carry small infection go hospital they will tell that you they need to cut your leg or cut your hand without diagnosing the infection.

Victor2707:
Mr. Nice Guy, that girl has been sexually active.

She is playing you big time.

Virginity doesn't make a girl good. It only makes her bond with you sexually.

If she truly desires you, she will have sex with you with no conditions.

You are just the available guy for her at the moment.

When the owner of the pu*sy comes, she will go without thinking twice.

Date/Marry women that want sex with you.

Be Wise.

A lady can desire a man sexually but not submit to him or be loyal to him particularly when the lady has destroyed her sexuality. So you cannot conclude that the lady's decision to be celibate does not necessarily mean she is pretending. And you guys need to quit using ladies and expecting to marry a virgin. While it is possible, it is not moral.

lovediehatelive:
I met this pretty homely girl sometimes ago.

She was reluctant the first time I toasted her and won't want to date me. However, I persisted till she succumbed.

She's everything I want in a lady. She didn't want to visit me when we started dating until one day I promised that I won't touch her.

She visited and was so graceful that I thanked the heavens for sending my soul mate to me.

We discussed a bit and I made her feel comfortable because she was really uneasy.

As promised, I didn't touch her. She felt so free that she rested her head on my chest.

The urge to kiss her became so strong, but I resisted.

What's the use of spoiling things now when she can be mine forever?

She later left and we became really close from then.

I was happy because she's madly beautiful yet so down to earth.

I was thinking she is a virgin but I needed to clarify.

So one day, I used talk to bring talk and stylishly told her a bit about some rough life of my past for her to feel uncomfortable.

She later opened up to me about her first kiss and how the guy went on to have sex with her even though he promised her nothing will happen.

She was 19 years then.

Since then she stopped visiting guys and is no longer in contact with the guy.

She swore that she hasn't kissed or had sex since then.

Now she's 23.

The thing is I really deeply love this girl because she's just exactly what I needed. But I promise myself that I will marry a virgin and nothing else.

My love for this girl is beginning to affect my thinking.

Should I ditch her and keep looking for a virgin?

Or should I continue with her?

I'm planning to see her people this December.

If she is sexually pure (has abstained from illicit sex), pious, has a plan for her life, is loyal and submissive, then you have a wife. As for you, I hope you are a true husband. If you don't know what it means to lead, to sacrifice your pleasures for others, to be sexually pure, to be God fearing and to have a plan for your life then you will be a terrible husband. So do the needful.

Banbulu:
The drama too much, I don egnore tire, please I need a couche hu have experience should tell me he managed it

I was lucky mine was way mature before I met her at the age of 20. Initially I was looking for beauty, intelligence and sexiness until I realized how foolish that was and switched to looking for purity, piety, purpose, loyalty and submission...once you tune your perceptive abilities to look for these 5 traits you will see women differently and be able to spot a marriage-bound lady.

It's amazing the kind of structures that churches can set up. Unlike our governments that only has uncompleted projects littered everywhere.

OloyeVIII:

Do we have equal sense?

ChizzyBuna:
Isreal Adesamya is a bloody liar and a very childish boy.
I swear i really wan wooze that guy slap
He irritates me so mych with his childish behaviour

You wan wooze pessin wey fit kee you with one slap ba...dey play!

cutecommend:
What church do you go to? Is it the church that brings comedian on the pulpit for jesting, and then towards the end of the service, they do an altar call for repentance? Or is your church the one where you will be living together with your girlfriend or boyfriend, and fornicating with him or her always, while your pastor knows about it and still commends your service in church? Or is your church the one that always talks about vision, purpose, goals, achievements, praise, happy life, marriage, faith, prayers e.t.c, but never tells you about the coming of Christ, eternity, holy living, Rapture?

I will encourage you to be in a genuine church that will preach messages to you for your transformation, not just for earthly prosperity alone, but for your being conscious and prepared for eternity.

Again, pray well and let God lead you to the right church that He wants for your soul, spirit and body. Don't just go to any church because they are preaching about hell fire, holy living, rapture and eternity; but go based on the fact that God has led you to such a place for your eternity preparation.

Remem

It's amazing how in the teachings of Christian eschatology they almost always manage to skip the 1000-year reign of Christ on this earth. This is the dispensation Christians should be looking forward to. As far as selecting an assembly we must realize that different assemblies have different objectives - a small part of the overall picture - which when combined helps build a well rounded Christian. There are assemblies that are like specialist hospitals where you address emergency health, physical and spiritual conditions. There are assemblies where you are soaked in the understanding of the written scriptures. There are assemblies where deeper mysteries not explicitly codified in the written scriptures are taught. There are assemblies that have perfected worship and meditation. There are assemblies that specialize in missions and evangelism and there are assemblies that help Christians teach the wisdom needed to live your best life here on earth. As for me, I drink from all these cisterns provided they are all powered by the Holy Ghost with proven signs and wonders. This is why in every assembly, the foundational thing that should be taught and cultivated in every new convert are a entrance into the spirit realm, a relationship with the Holy Ghost and being led by the Holy Ghost. This is what will prepare new converts to correct select the assembly that matches their spiritual and physical needs.

cutecommend:
As a Christian who fears God, is their any need to confess Adultery to your partner? Or should someone just pray to God for forgiveness and move on? Assuming a secret child is involved, should the Adultery still be confessed or should it be sealed after prayers of forgiveness have been offered to God?
Confession to ones partner should be done after guidance from a good and mature Christian counselor.

Please contribute and advise.

Was GOD the spouse that the adulterer got married to? Was it GOD that was cheated on? You are to confess your sins to the person you sinned against. So the adulterer must confess his or her sins to the partner first and foremost before going to GOD. Jesus said in Matthew 5: 22-24 that if you have unresolved issues with someone resolve it first before offering worship to GOD. So if you have sinned against your partner go and confess it to your partner. Failure to do so will provide the adversary with a tool with which he can give you depression, kill your conscience and endanger your standing before GOD. If you know a sin will likely not be forgiven by your partner due to the amount of hurt the sin caused and you will be tempted to not confess then don't commit such a sin. According to Paul, in Galatians 6:7, in other words, "who do anyhow go see anyhow"! So avoid doing anyhow, if you do not want to see anyhow.