IamKizzbrown10:
Personally, I don’t take women’s numbers very often;
in fact, I can’t recall the last time I did.
I’m not the type of guy that has a lot of patience. I want to
experience the rush, excitement, and joy of doing
something unexpected with a woman on the very first day
we met.
Almost every guy wants to sleep with a girl on their first
date, but the majority of them don’t know how to ask.
This can be challenging, especially for those who aren’t
used to dating women. When it comes to asking a girl to
have sex with you on the first date, you will definitely need
to exercise caution, but there is a process that should be
followed.
You don’t want to simply jump into asking her if she wants
to have sex, because chances are that isn’t going to go
over very well at all. Instead you will need to keep
touching her in a soft and subtle way throughout the night
while maintaining complete confidence. Girls just don’t
want to sleep with a guy who isn’t very confident in
himself, so this is absolutely essential.
If you want to get her into bed on the first date, you will
need to make sure that you are a good kisser. Men who
are good at kissing have a much easier time getting laid on
the first date, so you will need to remember that as well.
Engage her with bedroom talk: This can be a somewhat
subtle and effective way to go about getting the two of you
into her bedroom. You can start out having a nice
conversation on the bed, but it will quickly turn into
something hot and heavy if you play your cards right. Don’t
hesitate to touch her leg gently as you are talking or while
she is talking to you.
Make sure that you aren’t nervous at all beforehand,
because the girl you are on a date with will most likely be
able to tell. Acting obviously nervous means that she
knows you aren’t that self-confident, which is a huge turn
off.
Be Polite If you really want to increase your chances of
getting a girl to sleep with you on the first date, you will
absolutely need to make sure that you are polite about it.
Don’t simply say “So, are we going to Bleep?” or “do you
want to have sex?” Most women are not going to respond
to this kind of blunt and direct approach, so you will have
to be polite and tactful. Getting a girl to sleep with you on
the first date is more about what you do than what you say.
By this I mean that you should touch her in a subtle yet
sexy way throughout the date, building up the sexual
tension until she craves release.
Above are sure ways on,

Another fantasy from another idiot. First you indicate that guys should not be frontal about their sexual demands on the first date then you jumped to guys being a good kisser. You first indicate that ladies may not like you pushing sex on the first date and then you say you must be able to touch a lady throughout the night. Your fantasies are not consistent. A confident person expresses his or her intentions without fear of the likely consequences. So a confident guy will break it to the lady about his sexual desires and he is ready for and respects the lady's response whether it is a "no" or "yes" but chewing gum boys who lack confidence will always try persuasive means that border on rape and sexual harassment. Touching a lady, kissing a lady etc without first securing the lady's explicitly expressed desires for sex is a sign of insecurity, trepidation and weakness.

MadeINchenzen2:
For those who are smart enough to add logic to their feelings before they propose to a potential daughter of Jezebel, Kindly carry out these Investigations.


1. Does she live with her family or live alone


2. Does she maintain good relationship with her family (mother, father, Sister)

3. Are both parents living together or apart?

4. Is her father in control of his home?

5. Is her father or mother employed or jobless

6. Are siblings employed or still jambites or undergraduates

7. What's the circumstances that let to the breakup between her and her ex

8. Is she still communicating with guys in her previous relationships

9. Is she dependent on you financially

10. What are people saying about her?

All these are irrelevant and are not necessary or sufficient conditions for a wahalaless marriage or relationship. If she is loyal to you, submissive to you, pure, pious and has a purpose for her life, she will make an excellent partner and wife but if she fails in any one of these 5 areas she will be a threat.

Fembrous5:

Soo davido no sleep with different women, u knws nothing

Davidos has backup in his parents. So he can afford to be wasteful. The main point here is that having multiple women will ultimately lead to wasteful spending.

uchkochi:
Nothing affects a man's finances like sleeping with multiple women.

Confirm.

VawulentMan:
I hate the humanitarian crisis caused by isrealis IDF, but it obvious HAMAS itself feels no remorse for the people they claim they are fighting for.
If you claim you are fighting for your people's land, why not defend them first, why use them as human shields

If Hamas wanted peace they would have accepted a two-state solution and given Israel a place to call home that is also free to Arabs and Muslims but Hamas does not want that. What Hamas wants is the total annihilation or displacement of the Israelis. They use hospitals, schools and religious centers are sites for weapons storage and attack so that in the event that these mission-critical locations are hit by Israel it would generate mass casualties that would drive their misinformation campaign and become the basis for cease-fire calls.

If Israel stops this campaign, Hamas will strike again and again and again and they will keep repeating this cycle until Israel is decimated. Israel did not cause any humanitarian crisis. Hamas did.

rinzaugustine:
Israel is treating it as terrorism so no room for negotiation . The last onslaught Israel killed more than two thousand of the for killing only 6 Israelis so this time around your guess is good as mine

The last few strikes from Israel, I guess, must have already equaled the death toll from the Hamas attack and Israel is just getting started...by the time the dust settles the ground in Gaza will be drunk with blood. This is just sad.

Kobicove:


What he said is true according to some cultures

Those cultures are dumb and will easily lead to self-destruction. It is human nature to be guided by cost-benefit and not right-wrong. If a woman knows that she can have multiple partners secretly and openly have a single partner then she can maximize her net benefits in terms of wealth while paying no allegiance to any of the men in her life. This will make her less of a helper and more of a businesswoman and this will easily destroy the home, lead to more fatherless and delinquent children which would in turn lead to the annihilation of the society. This the phenomenon being weaponized against blacks in the US. At the rate at which they are going they will self-destruct.

CreedElliot:



Its a lie. Life requires a game plan. You can be blessed anywhere if you understand and can play the game

No doubt life requires a game plan and you can indeed be blessed anywhere except Hell and the Lake of fire, if you believe these places exist, but you also must understand that you can succeed in some places faster than you would in others. You also need to understand that there are more opportunities to succeed in some places than in others. If there are two people with the same acumen, foresight and visionary abilities and you put one of them in a desert and the other in a lush vegetation, there is a high chance that the guy in a lush vegetation would do much better and have much better life outcomes than the guy in a desert.

pradoyeep:
A virtuous, faithful and loving wife doesn't deserve DNA verification, except for official reasons.
Now as a man, is it right to secretly do DNA test on your kids, even when there are no traces of cheating?

If you are not sure then do a DNA test. If you marry olosho you must do DNA test. If she get belle for your before marriage do DNA test. If she attends vigil by night but wear skimpy by day and she is your wife do DNA test. If your pikin dey resemble your neighbor do DNA test...in short, if you marry public utility as a wife you and DNA test must be 5 and 6.

Rapmoney:
This is just a piece of my opinion which is based on the realities on ground. Nigerian men should not lower their guard when it comes to dating and marriage. We compromise too much when it involves romance, especially among our Eastern brothers.

Arinze, you dey hustle since you graduate in 2010. You don toil sotay the skin for your palms don hard like Okpella granite. Now, Baba God don show you love small, come bless you with comfortable life. The first thing you did was to pick a girl from a financially weak background for dating or marriage because of big yansh and breasts. You polished her and has also done a lot for her family. Let me tell you, that same girl and her family would not accept you if you weren't comfortable.

In Nigeria, it's only bad for a man to be broke and not a lady. Broke men are useless while broke women are angels.

If you are a man who has struggled very hard to achieve comfort for yourself, you need a class of woman who will complement your status and not just anybody because that same anybody no go send you if you no get bread.

The only women that should be deserving of your financial generosity should be your mum and sisters. Except she is a girl who has supported you of which I know it is very scarce to see in Nigeria. Getting a Nigeria girl who can support you, even if it is shikini these days is like betting on Enugu Rangers to beat Manchester City and still expecting to win.

Na as e be me for mind I talk am. I know say this post fit vex some people.

As a man work hard and marry a virgin. Simple. You can add whatever other traits you want but make sure she is a virgin and you are good.

PoliteActivist:


Can you elaborate? If we're not one with God, what sustains us??

When I say one with GOD, I mean one in essence. I mean one in being. I mean being a member of the household of divinity. Right now only the church of the firstborn in Heaven is like this. Many within the Christian fold will easily consider this heresy because it suggests that as humans we can become like GOD having His essence but I believe this is the sole purpose of man's creation.

Dominiccash360:
About two weeks ago a man appeared on a road path which I usually follow to work somewhere here on the island I noticed that the man passes his night on bare floor there I was so disgusted at why someone will appear to resolve so low to sleeping on the bare floor on a major walk way and obstructing passers by a little after two weeks I'm always disgusted seeing him but something odd happened sometimes last week when I was passing by I felt and unusual pity for him so much that I thought of dropping a thousand or two for him that morning without thinking of what ever he wants it for but another thought came up on my mind that made me shy on doing so that others passing behind me might think I have too much to give that's why I'm giving him that or why would I be handing him one or two thousand naira I resolved at not giving him the money and shocking, from that point forward I never saw the man there anymore sadly two days ago I got to know that the man died the night I thought of giving him because an heavy rain fell and he was without shade and he died as a result of the cold later on I found out that the man resolved to start sleeping on the walk way because they introduced a new policy in the market complex where he has had a shop since his youth which has been his house as well that no no one is allowed to sleep in their shops anymore and that's what got him where he was two weeks so sad.

Well it's your money. You reserve the right to use it the way you deem fit and you will give account on the day of judgment. As for those condemning you, I can guess that if they were in the same situation they would have acted like you did or worse reasoned in their mind that the man should go get a job and earn a living instead of sleeping on the road. Herein lies a lesson for all to remember:

Whoever shuts his ears at the cry of the poor will cry out himself and not be answered.
Proverbs 21: 13

Skyview01:
It is no longer news that our beloved Nigeria is 63 years old today. Happy Independence Day to our dear country. We are not happy with the current state of Nigeria and looking for suggestions about the way forward for the country.

In 100 words, can you suggest a viable solution for this country and how to move beyond the present?

I will give =N=1,200 cash to the first ten responders who are able to come up with suggestions about a way forward for Nigeria.

This offer will end by 6 pm on Monday, October 2, 2023.

Remember, it is 1,200 naira cash to the first 10 people who can suggest a viable solution for Nigeria in 100 words.

To be eligible, Your moniker must have been registered on NL for at least 6 months.

The problem is the wickedness of the typical Nigerian and the solution is mass action.

Take my community for example. Our roads have been bad for years now and I can guess that at least 10,000 households use that road at least once per week. If all the households were to contribute 100 naira per month we could have a fund amounting to 60 million naira in 5 years. With such an amount of money and the support of locally sourced human and material resources the roads could be fixed by ourselves. Now this is what could happen with just 10,000 households. Imagine what could happen when 1,000,000 households working together to fix their shared challenges.

One may ask, what is stopping such a move? Well you can be 100% sure that a huge proportion of that 10,000 households are made up of people who would seek ways to defraud the community and cart away with the money or they will start yelling "What about the government? Why can't the government do the roads?" even when they know that the government is just as evil as they are.

If a lot of us are good people, mass action will be the silver bullet that would solve all of our problems but because most of us are evil we will never be able to act as a single entity, we will keep electing evil politicians among us and we will keep wallowing in challenges.

Chingyyy878:
What’s something you believe in that most people don’t ?

That the sole purpose of existence is to be one with GOD.

SingPraises7:
Seeking A Virtuous Woman According To Proverbs 31


Good day to you my people.

Hope you are all doing well.

I'm always fascinated when I read some great topics and comments on this Family section of this great forum Nairaland. I'm happy we have this kind of good forum where people can learn a lot of things from different people. I bless God for giving Seun the owner of this forum the wisdom and knowledge to set up such a great forum for all Nigerians and the entire world to benefit from. May the Lord continue to guide you Seun and give you more wisdom and knowledge to run this site and take it to greater heights. Amen.

I'm seeking a wife, a virtuous woman, for marriage, if it's the will of God.

The Bible says that he who finds a good wife finds favor from God. Yes we have to step out to find and then God can now help us to choose the right person.

If you are a virtuous woman according to Proverbs 31, who is looking for a man to call your own, to build a great family in the Lord, then get in touch with me via my mail. Pls send me a mail directly via my email address on my profile, not DM on Nairaland. If you send DM, I may not see it.

About Me:
I'm a servant of God (pastor), a born again Christian believer and I'm from the South West of Nigeria. I'm Yoruba by tribe. I'm passionate about Christ and the work of God. Intelligent, friendly, caring, God fearing, hard working, soft-hearted, good-looking and understanding.

Education: I'm educated/university graduate.

My genotype is AA, so any lady who is AA or AS genotype can apply, but not SS.



The Kind of Woman I Want:
This is the kind of woman I want:

*A virtuous woman according to Proverbs 31.

*A born again Christian lady or woman between 27-33yrs. A fully repented born again Christian.

*Education: A graduate/educated lady.

*A working class/gainfully employed lady.

*No single mothers. No divorcees.

*100% single lady with no child outside wedlock and who has never been married before.

*From South West Nigeria/Yoruba lady only.

*You can be living in any part of the world, no problem. So both home people and abroad/diasporans can apply. On the alternative, if you're from Ghana or from any other country of the world, you can also contact me.

*A lady ready to love and be loved in return, in Christ Jesus, ready to build a great Christian home filled with love, trust, commitment, sacrifice, partnership, understanding, faithfulness, the fear of God, the work of the kingdom of God. A lady who loves family. A home builder and someone who loves children.

*No fornication or sex before marriage. That's the commandment from God. And I'm abiding by it because the word of God must be obeyed.

*If you are looking for fornication or sex before marriage, please don't bother to contact me.

Please send me your details and bio-data to my email address and I'll contact you if you meet up with what I want.

You can also comment below and let me know what you think, but pls kindly note that I may not have the time to reply you here on Nairaland and I won't be able to provide any further details about myself here on this public forum.

So send me a mail via my email address on my profile/signature.

Wishing you a most wonderful day!

Regards!


CC
Seun
Mods
Royalroy
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Dominique
Mynd44

You Christians are amazingly funny. If all the virtuous women out there are SS women that do not meet your long list of conditions you would gladly marry a sub-par woman because of her genotype is right and she meets your rubbish criteria. Clearly do not trust the very Jesus you serve to choose for you so you are draw up a list. No be curse oh but at this rate na retired and refurbished olosho you go marry las las. If you want a virtuous woman, drop this your long list, develop a relationship with Jesus and let Jesus lead you by His Spirit to the virtuous woman you are looking for. Anything short of this na paternity fraud loading.

emmykk:
Get a lawyer and charge the matter to court but I strongly believe maybe you have not paid all the money you were asked to pay before mobilization .That 150,000 may be part of money you were ask to paid before they go for the arrest


That they now have the thief in their custody does not mean you won't pay that money or raise false alarm to tarnish their image agreement is agreement.

If they asked you for 170K to start work and you only give them 20,000 first and they were lucky to get the thief that does not mean you won't pay the balance.

Police are corrupt but that have not be so corrupt to the extend you are painting them.

There is no way they will put you in counter when you are the complaints if you are not guilty in your dealings with them

Na wa oh. After paying VAT on practically every item a person buys, paying P.A.Y.E on every naira earned, paying LCDA dues, paying local security dues, paying for tax on TV and radio, paying this and paying that person go still pay police to do their job. Wow. And we wonder why Nigerians are accelerating out of Nigeria for good. The greatest curse of this country is its people. I notice that the closer you get to a fellow Nigerian the closer you get to problems and that is why Nigeria will keep suffering until its people repent.

Stephen2324:
Relationships are now more difficult than ever. Everyone is being wary and careful of the other person. Men don't trust ladies and ladies don't trust men. Everyone is on the edge, suspicious of the words and actions of other person. Distrust everywhere.

Voluntary unions are now built on falsehood and distrust. No one wants to be the fool. No one wants to be the "mugu". Everyone wants to be the smart one.

The winner of this unfortunate battlefield is he who has the least emotions and who cares less. It is more sad when one realises that these are two species that are meant to work together in a physical and spiritual upbuilding but this is where we are today.

More sad is that, it will get worse as time passes because even these wrong values are being passed on to the younger generation who cling to it more firmly and build on it. Building on the wrong values with so much energy and talent, directed in the wrong direction. And when one seeks to find the root cause of this pain and scar we all bear, we end up going round in circles and plunging ourselves into the very entities that birthed these false attitudes. A vicious cycle.

We are like a legion of lost souls in a dark enclosed tunnel, getting in eachother's way just to find a way out but without a genuine desire to change from within.

Sad but true. Until we as a people humble ourselves, acknowledge we are the problem, turn from our wicked ways and dedicate ourselves to doing right we will keep suffering the consequences of our wickedness. We often insult corrupt politicians but we forget that these same evil politicians are Nigerians. If the population is overwhelmingly corrupt then the sample must be overwhelmingly corrupt. This is a truism. No one can argue against it. We just have to repent of our evil ways and commit ourselves to righteousness. This is the only solution to all our woes as a people. In my own case I was so graced by GOD that after several failed relationships I landed a very sweet marriage. I pray that others find mercy too.

falcon01:
Nop! I'll call the cops and arrest his criminal ass!

Your loss. In prison he will share the entry point to another criminal who will insert a ransomware virus and ask for a 10 million dollar settlement fully paid in Bitcoin. Na dat time ya eye go clear well. Recruit the guy as a cybersecurity specialist immediately.

nairagenone:
As the topic states, I am close friends with a polygamous family of 2 wives.
About 9 years ago while a youth corper I dated the first born of the 2nd wife but we kept it secret, although I think her own mom knew although the mom is late now.

It wasn't a relationship per se as I was just sleeping with her and I knew she had other guys too at the time but she always wanted me to think we were in some sort of relationship just like most ladies would.
Anyway, the whole thing fizzled out when I relocated from that city.

8 years later, I am in a new city and meet her step sister, who is younger than her but from the first wife and we are getting along fine, turns out I really like her and now considering marrying her.

The lady I dated previously is currently not married, in her 30s and I heard she lost a pregnancy recently, I dont have any relation with her other than the fact she calls me occasionally to ask for money for assistance which I render when I have the means but sometimes I don't as I am also trying to put my life together.

I recall that she could be diabolic and wouldn't put it past her to do jazz or something.

Do you think I should go ahead and marry her step sister 9 years after dating her and how should I go about it?

Should I inform the lady I dated in the past out of respect for her cos she will still eventually get to know ?

Should I tell the lady I am planning to marry about the past relationship with her step sister ?

Please advise.

It's amazing how some men just manage to get themselves into serious trouble.

Omooba77:


https://dailytrust.com/coup-dont-copy-gabon-military-muric-warns-nigerian-army/

They cannot for the following reasons:

(1) The lower cadre of soldiers in Nigeria are dumb. Thanks to the efforts of politicians and senior members of the armed forces to ensure that junior officers in the army lack the acumen and capacity to successfully execute a coup.

(2) Senior members of the Nigerian armed forces are enjoying the loot that politicians are enjoying. A coup will disrupt the flow of the loot. So as long as senior members of the armed forces who have the capacity to execute a coup are enjoying the loot as well as the politicians no coup can and will happen.

(3) Coups have never and will never be in the interest of the people. Coups happen when the military do not have their hands in the national cake. In Niger, Mali, Burkina Faso and now Gabon the coups happen because politicians decide to loot alone and not share the loot with members of the army.

(4) In the rare instance when true freedom fighters in the army decide to stand up to fight for the people, he will be assassinated by his very own brothers thus ending the coup.

Are there any proven methods for nursing mothers to increase lactation? Please share. Asking for a nursing mom.

taylor88:
Good one

Infact kill all gays at sight

Bcuz I don’t know how you’ll leave very big soft nyash and breast say na another man anus be your problem

Imagine me getting erection at the sight of Adams oshiomole

If you’re a gay reading this may Amadioha strike you

Bastards

We’ve a million problems already in Nigeria

And someone’s prayers point is his fellow mans anus

Na una wey Tinubu suppose send go Niger to go fight

1Alex:
Ok

Correct bro. 99% of the world's problems are caused by governments. From the COVID pandemic to the Ukraine-Russia war. Governments will be the undoing of mankind.

efficiencie:
I'm checking out of BUK New Site, Kano state and would like to sell my stuff:

* 120 litre deep freezer
* Nexus 18inch blade industrial fan
* Polystar washing machine single tub 12kg
* 200 litre water container
* 3.5 kva non-key start electric generator
* 3kg gas cylinder

Here are the prices below:

* 120 litre deep freezer (70k)
* Nexus 18inch blade industrial fan (30k)
* Polystar washing machine single tub 12kg (60k)
* 200 litre water container (10k)
* 3.5 kva non-key start electric generator (110k)
* 3kg gas cylinder (4k)

Gidariro:



Hello,

How much is the 120L deep freezer?

70k

DenreleDave:


Hello mate,

You owned those things as a student?

No. I was not a student. I just liked the area.

I'm checking out of BUK New Site, Kano state and would like to sell my stuff:

* 120 litre deep freezer
* Nexus 18inch blade industrial fan
* Polystar washing machine single tub 12kg
* 200 litre water container
* 3.5 kva non-key start electric generator
* 3kg gas cylinder

Yes and as stupid as you guys are you will go and vote again. Boycott all elections una nor go gree. Weda you like it or not elections will be rigged, tyrants or yes men will become your president and your suffering will continue...boycott all elections, boycott the government, solve your problems by yourselves. Na d only way.

kokoBoii:
Mtheww, money wey him go use buy one stick of toothpick for club

$350k for one stick of toothpick, pessin net worth...life no fit ever balance sha.

bonnyhope:



All depends close to 100% but a long term investment

Dey dia. When dem return you to village with slippers and boxers ya eye go clear.

bonnyhope:


Marriage is also an investment

What is the ROI?