₦airaland Forum

Threebear:
Keep waiting till you hit menopause, forty two is your football age ,we know you are close to fifty.
There will be a time, when your heavy make ups and skin conditioners won't cover your wrinkles, then you'd lose your pay magas ,then you'd understand the meaning of loneliness, without a husband or child to call your own.

I knew Rita and her brother personally over 15yrs ago. She has always been a very sweet and mature person and that is her real age. If she wanted to lie about it, she could easily pass for 35 but unlike Omotola and others, she didn't. Some people are not lucky in love no matter how good they are while others are suffering in the name of marriage and just putting up a face for the public. Some are also not destined to marry but that does not take away the value they bring to this world. She entertains people relieving their stress and she gives to charity so she has been a blessing whether you think so or not.

There has always been a carnival in Lagos island at least 2ce a year because there are several families with Brazillian heritage who brought such culture here but it was rather small scale. I attended some in the early 90's.

CharleyBright:
Hmmmm, Every state now into Carnival.... And all scheduled for December.
Cross Rivers State started it, and the Calabar carnival is still the best and will remain so.
If you doubts, dont be a Doubting Thomas. attend the Calabar Carnival ...and clear your doubts.

I have actually, except for Punisher which I'm yet to start. They are good but definitely not as captivating as DC's series. There is something slow paced about many of Marvel's series (Jessica Jones and Iron Fist,
for example) and some episodes can be rather dull. Even the Defenders was rather blase. DC tries to keep you on the edge of your seat each week.

Sultan5:
Ma'am sorry but have you watched the punisher? Daredevil or even Jessica Jones? How about Agents of shield? DC doesn't rule shit in the small screen, only the flash n Gotham are really doing it for me.

DC definitely rules the small screen. Just watch the latest cross over series 'Crisis on Earth X', a 4 part combo of Super girl, Arrow, The Flash and Legends of tomorrow. Awesome. Marvel is trying with Runaways and Inhumans but DC is certainly better.

When it comes to movies though, it's more 50-50.

There haven't been wild snakes in Apapa since the 1960's, even with all the heavy rat infestations and the rats drastically reduced in number since measures were put in place by the government to counter Lassa fever last year. What is attracting them or did it escape from someone's private zoo? They should investigate properly before more of them enter people's homes, please.

MhizzAJ:
HML to them
But must they do pre-wedding photo shoot...Can't they just get married in peace

Because they don't meet Hollywood's standards of beauty? They have the right to celebrate their love as much as anyone else.

lyrikalmoi:
Hello, i take it that You're a dermatologist. No?
..cos i think i might need medical opinion on something.

Send me a pm

Why are you lying? It rained lightly on Thursday and moderately on Saturday afternoon. You look like you're trying to thwart the truth.

HITdemUP:
Another plot by a disgruntled Ipob sympathiser to tarnish Buhari government. I leave at old warehouse Road in apapa not far away from Liverpool and it hasn't rain for some weeks now, this picture was probably taken during the rainy season. When will Ipobs learn to desist from conveying cheap and baseless propagandas to discredit the federal government ?

Afterwards, they will come back to buy champagne to wash their hands. Lagos big boys.

They added Apapa to the list. Can you imagine? Knowing fully well that the gridlock is currently almost impossible to drive through. Even at almost midnight as I type this, there is still traffic.

I also knew him personally through the church over 10yrs ago. He was a very nice and humble man. May he rest in peace.

Please, for future reference, Rotary International brings in foreign trained doctors and conducts free surgeries every last Thursday - Saturday in September. We just concluded a few weeks ago. Those in Lagos can meet us at the National Stadium and yes, you can also travel down from other parts of Nigeria.

It's back up now. I just successfully completed a transaction with Quickteller.

Nice job. Keep pursuing your dreams and the sky will be your footstool.

They met on the set of "Black Love".

America needs to control guns. This so called doctor must have had a lot of mental issues before now. Known criminals and nutjobs should not have access to guns.

Old Joe!

debspauly:
well his family is OK ..but his mother hates me .

Hmmm! Red flag. Try and get close to her and find out if it's something you are doing that is annoying her. It is really not advisable to marry a man whose mother hates you but you can work on the relationship with her. In your case, I would say, give it some time. Don't get married right away. Being a teenager is not an issue. At 18, you are old enough and can have your kids early while still having a career. The issue is just that you need to be careful who you marry because it sets the tone for your whole life.

debspauly:
but ..I wanna get an education first ..like get more aware of my environment ..b4 ..I consider him.

The choice is yours, dear, but he might not wait for you to finish school. Just put it in prayer and make sure you meet his family first. They can be a big deciding factor.

debspauly:
and he is not extremely wealthy ..but the little he has he shares with me without hesitation.

Are you in school or doing your own business? That is the only thing I would like you to make sure you accomplish before getting married. Now is not the time to be overly dependent on a man. If you pray and you are comfortable with him, go ahead. 15yrs is not too much at all. It will be very difficult for you to find a boy of under 20 who wants to get married unless his parents are forcing him.

debspauly:
he treats me like his age mate ..and we roll well together ...the guy is good in all aspect ..just the age . if he was younger I would have married him sharp sharp.

Age is but a number, dear. if you find someone you flow with like that, don't hesistate.

SirVintageCock:
Do you really know what medical Negligence is? That woman left out some salient points as this her story is filled with holes.
I pray the hospital sues her for defamation.

Seriously? They wouldn't have a case. At the very least, they failed to communicate the patient's condition and the treatment plan they were undertaking to his next of kin. The mom would have had some closure if a sympathetic member of staff was even trying to answer her questions or address her concerns.

I personally know Prince and the AFCO executives. They have their hearts in the right place but they are big dreamers. It's not a scam but let's call it extreme overambition.

Madam, I am so sorry for your loss. It is indeed a tragedy.

Duro Soleye is a very reputable and old hospital with a moderately high client flow. If they were so terrible, they wouldn't have such patronage. I cannot tell what your child was suffering from but I can say there was some mismanagement if your story is accurate. The oxygen tank is normally taped like that to prevent any leakages from the connector as it often wears out with age but that does not prevent it from working.
The doctors, however, failed to
1. fully enlighten you about your son's diagnosis and inform you about his progress or deterioration constantly.
2. the consultant(s) in charge of your case were not reachable. Knowing how critical he was, they should have been on standby.
3. those doctors on call do not have any excuse, tired or not, to refuse to attend to anyone as long as they have not handed over. We are trained to do up to 72hr shifts if necessary.
4. The nurses are not to go to sleep on night shift. They may doze at their desks but never retire. They are also to chart the infusions and oxygen, monitoring when they are about to finish so they can change them.

At least, for the time I was in private practice, this was the standard. I know there can be no pain worse than losing a child, how much more the only son you have. God is still on the throne and He will surely comfort you.

You're right but my annoyance was that I strongly advised her against it but she refused to hear.

Collins10:
I feel so sorry for your friend...

But that part where you said you no see the money again is not neccessary na. I mean it is of total irrelevance to the credence of your story.

All of you saying Tonto lied about the bride price are not insiders to the matter. I have a friend who borrowed money from me in 2010 to go get married. Till today, I no see shishi. Of course, she gave the guy the money to present since she was heavily pregnant and felt she needed to cover her shame at the time. He also beat after she delivered and kept defrauding her. She lost a very stable job because of him.

I'm not defending Tonto though because she actually went too far by insulting the man and his mother online like that.

Ignore the haters and keep doing what you love. I think the main issue is with the fit of your clothes. Either you tailor them to fit you better or you bulk up to fill them.

He's not a German Shepherd at all.

You are right to give it a good thought before jumping in. There are other factors associated with marrying older men which may not immediately be evident while dating.

1. He may be buoyant now but how many more years of his working life are still available for him to cater to you.
2. What is his health condition now? Does he have underlying ailments like hypertension or diabetes that may soon prove health challenges? You might soon find yourself a nursemaid or worse, a young widow if he does not take proper care of himself.
3 What is his attitude to you? Given the age difference, he might be controlling and you would be in no position to express yourself properly as it might appear rude to "challenge" him. He should at least be your friend and hear your opinions before taking decisions.

A lot of younger guys are afraid of heavy responsibilities so they might not be ready for marriage. A young man can also die young too as they tend to take more risks such as drunk driving. The main advantage of marrying an older man is that he is usually already established in his business or career so he has more money to spend. He can, however, lose it in an instant in a bad business deal or an act of God. I was just talking to a friend who told me he lost his house to unforeseen structural damage at 55 after 20 yrs of being in the US and the insurance company wouldn't pay so he is basically restarting from the scratch.

Pray very well for God to show you if he is truly your husband. If you do go ahead, ensure you establish a business that can sustain you and your kids as well as life insurance policies and educational plans so your children would be well catered for in any case.

I wish you all the best.

That's the Nigerian system for you. After so many years of rigorous training, it is still a case of who you know to get a place.

I had a personal experience like this during my NYSC in the North. A woman was brought in labor to deliver her 9th baby. She and her husband were very poor. The man was a carpenter and she a petty trader (I think). The baby had hand prolapse meaning that, probably like this baby, the hand came out of the womb instead of the head first. This was Oct. 2005 and they could not afford N30000 for the CS she required. It was against the hospital policy (government) at the time to do free surgeries and despite my pleas, the head of the hospital at the time wouldn't budge. I couldn't at the time afford to pay because it was soon after the banking crisis and my money was mostly frozen. Even my monthly corpers and doctors salary at the time combined was not up to 30k. The woman laboured for 3days, the baby died in the womb and became infected. Subsequently, the mother developed a high fever and died. I have never seen a man cry so hard for anything before. It was just so heartbreaking and I honestly could not sleep for a full week after that.

The reason I am telling this story is because of the people rushing to judge the doctor for his 'quackery'. In medicine, we are taught that one mother's live is worth 20 unborn so the emphasis needs to be placed on saving her life first because of the other children she already has or might bear or even just care for in future. In a rural setting, if the baby was wrongly positioned and not moving, it might have been near impossible to hear a heartbeat. There are even cases of babies who have lost all heartbeat only to wake up several hours later in the morgue. Why not send for a scan, you say? Those are not readily available in rural setups and even if they are expensive to the common man and there may be a lengthy queue for the service which is time a woman in labor may not have.

Also, our people present late. They may even register for antenatal but for fear of the cost and stigma attached to a CS, they prefer to go to local midwives and religious homes where they will first exhaust all their money and the real quacks will complicate the situation before sending them to the hospital when it is too late. The reason these people seem successful is that without any intervention, 85% of deliveries will have on their own. It is only qualified people who can identify the 15% and try to prevent it.

Poverty might have had a part to play here too. Maybe they couldn't afford a CS. Do it on credit, you say? How many can you do without folding up your practice? It is common for people to come, beg the doctor to save life, promise to pay later then after the procedure, you are told there is no money. When the doctor decides to be merciful and let them go, a few days later, they will then throw a lavish naming ceremony as is customary.

The healthcare challenges in Nigeria are enormous but the few doctors who still practice here are really struggling to help with little or no infrastructure while the people don't help themselves. I cannot fault the doctor in this scenario at all because his action might actually be the only reason both mother and baby are still alive. It is sad the child lost an arm but it could have been much worse.