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tensazangetsu20:
You graduated 2018 you had no job and you still ran to get married. To make matters worst, you are even Igbo. Omho

Rubbiish:
Omoh what did I just read?
This is the highest form of disrespect!
Is that how low u have become?
I mean ur girl telling u to ur face she is going to sleep with another guy? She didn't even respect u enough to lie about it like she is going to see her family or some lie of sort? Has she been the one feeding u lately? This was very disrespectful!

You don't even know what is happening in today's relationships.
If you are broke, your eye go see weeeenn!!
Subtle insults like your woman picking a man's call in your presence, telling you she is going out or a party without your approval. Despite saying No she still goes ahead etc. E plenty bro

Bahamas95:
OP don't let it bother you, just allow her go and NEVER come back..... Even though women these days are materialistic there're still few good ones out there.

Yes, there are still few out there but it can/will never go around.
Infact, the population is so low that for every 20 men that marry, only 1 will be fortunate to have 1 good one with rest of mind and that number is really bad enough.

Brokeandnolove:
Baba...na break up, I've sat her down and advised her like a sister about the dangers of the path she's about to tow, but her head is turned, it's only a matter of time before she starts doing it behind my back, that's if she's not doing that already.

Lol
Sitting her down, advising etc are all qualities of a broke man.
In a relationship with a woman as a man, if you are broke, the headaches attached to it is much.
You will always be a philosopher in the relationship. Quietly receiving insults regularly while you try as much as possible to amend the relationship. Your partner will be giving the I don't care attitude of if the relationship crumble, it crumbles because she has many options.

In this life, the eyes of broke men will see shegeee in relationships.
They won't have a choice than to keep lowering their standards just to accommodate a woman's rubbish and enduring stupid stupid things.
They can't even afford to make mistakes or go out of track like having affairs outside. It will be a game over for them.

seguno2:
Asking us to stop making excuses for our collective failures is rubbish to you, abi?

So you will rather keep blaming others and making excuses for your collective shortcomings to endure? Or what would you consider to not be rubbish please

The rubbish I mean is that Namibia and Botswana are not developing more than Nigeria rather a bigger shit hole than us.
Aside South Africa, all other black African countries are below Nigeria in every developmental and economic index

tensazangetsu20:
Botswana and Namibia are worst than Nigeria even with Nigeria in it's current state

Leave them make them dey talk rubbish

luminouz:
Jesus fuqin Christ!

I knew men like you would come out to defend rubbish. Shey dem cûrse you with this mentality of defending hôes ni? Even when it's glaring she cheated, you are still defending her? It's men like you that have made these women bold enough to do the rubbish they are doing.

She was in a friend's place and said na lawyers office she dey? Which one was easier to confess?
You are a simp,nigga

IkeIgboNile:
Classickj
Will you forgive her

Ofcourse i will forgive her and accept her but this time around I'll legitly take more than 150k from her. Try and make her bankrupt. I'm that petite.

Broke men go through a lot. I blame them for going in relationship. A broke man should only Bleep ashewo or masturbate. Don't expect love from anyone including yourself.

Hmmmmmmmmmm

LordAdam16:
Your points appear valid, but I have objections.

Pregnancy and breast feeding are the only non-transferable responsibilities.

Well, women have fewer kids today than they did in the past. 2-4 which they must have before menopause. Pregnancies do not impede quality of life until the third trimester. Last I checked, all economies are acquiescing to generous maternity leaves.

In fact, I'm fully onboard giving women in the workforce better benefits to make up for the very valuable role of refreshing the labor pool. That can be arranged.

For breastfeeding, it'd interest you to know that we used to have thriving professionals called wet nurses. We need more of them. They'll be sufficiently-paid with pension, vacation, dental plans...

Childcare has already been commoditized. Working class women in the West can attest to that. We need to (and can) apply the same economic realities to accommodate the other two key functions--pregnancy and breast-feeding. It can be done.

If she earns more, she'd have to foot more of the bills. As she would if she were single. Welcome to being an adult.

Men pay for all these things already when they can afford it. From IVF to surrogates to wet nurses to child care to babysitters. Go ask around about the cost of daycare currently. If women are beginning to extract economic value through good salaries, they CANNOT balk at those responsibilities. Someone has been paying for them.

I do not see the OP's writeup as bashing high-earning women. To whom much is given, much is expected. I don't see why you would call a woman paying to give birth to her own kid and raise her own kid "suffering". If she's high-earning, she can afford it. If she can afford it, she should pay for it.

Broke men have it worse than broke women. Cry me a river.

Now, that we've focused on money, you've brought up character. Let them marry the touts and yahoo boys and "mould" them into the type of men they desire. That is what society have been advising men for millennia.

The common theme I see in your writeup is a propensity to allow women to shirk responsibility.

It took men literally tens of thousands of years to begin to like having responsibility. Women should be made to go through that baptism of fire as well.

Early men kept their women and kids in caves and went out to hunt predators that could snap them in two. I'm sure they'd have appreciated the help if women were biologically able to be resourceful in this life-and-death situation. They did not see it as suffering to brave danger for their families. But you want to make the argument that a high-earning woman taking a maternity leave or pay cut (that is a tiny percentage of her lifetime earnings) for her own family is "suffering" in the 21st century.

And the value of men is not only in their ability to foot bills. When SHTF, you want a man in your corner as a woman, whether you are Mackenzie Scott or broke Tina. So footing most bills just to have a man who'd have a vested interest in the safety of you and your kids sounds like a fair trade to me. Her taxes already go to men in the police force and military providing security.

And yes, if she becomes so resentful that she divorces him, he should get spousal support for being part of the marital unit when the going was good. Or my favorite argument, to support the lifestyle that he has become accustomed to.

Women cannot have it good for more than 100,000 years, then when it gets to the turn of men to mill around and be taken care of, you guys start talking about "seeing it from a woman's perspective." Who her perspective epp?

The good thing is the percentage of high-earners who are female will continue to rise. Demography is destiny.

-Lord

Nice points at the bolded

pansophist:
One girl on my contact list shared a post about how a woman will submit to a man that takes her around the world, buy everything she ever wants, and respects her. She is now telling men that submission will come naturally to a woman when a man treats her like that. That man should not force submission.

And I was like, even I will submit to any woman that will give me that treatment. Submission should not be gender specific. I mean, I go wash plates, pound fufu, babysit, and clean the house. I will be a full-time house-husband. I kukuma sabi cook

My brother, even me sef go submit give the woman.
You mean my wife will take me round the world for submitting to her? and still respect me join? give me money/upkeep? while trying her best to bang the shit out of me?
What else can a man pray for? bikonu
If na submision be her problem, i get am plenty biko

Gaspardd:
One time i was dating a lady who has her house (built it by herself) so i moved in with her... You'kno mugu level.
One day an argument broke out and with annoyance i packed my load to leave the house.
Oh mehn this lady get mind, enter house and counted her money to be sure i didn't steal out of it and proceeded to lock the door. Ahhhh i wept that day. I went straight to a nearby church, knelt down and prayed to God till day break that he should bless me.

Hmmmmm
At the mention of the name POVERTY, all Men shivers.

1Sharon:
Their stories are truly intriguing. This japa movement has really ruined relationships between Nigerians. Couples breaking up, friends becoming enemies. I just listen and see how unreasonable and paranoid Nigerians can be.

They don't let people in on their plans because they fear evil eye. But if you don't trust friends, why have them around you and then turn around to expect well wishes?

People who were comfortable in Nigeria with multiple houses and cars, got rid of it all, just for greed.
As the saying goes if it ain't broke don't fix it.

But then what happened with Yul Edochie's son made me rethink a little. The rich in Nigeria still feel insecurity. If Yul's son was in a developed country, a seizure won't have killed him.

But something else would have killed him.
Are people not dying in abroad again?

ChybuzzDD:
How did you arrive at that 13m, please?

The insurance calculator they used at first bank (sanlam) section.

You can check the closest first bank for confirmation too

Treassured:
Badt Guy

In as much this sounds funny. Men from humble backgrounds are going through a lot these days.

The funny thing Is most of these guys are the main architect of their own Misfortunes. For example, Why would someone on a N100k Salary be venturing into marriage in this Nigeria Economy? Isn't that a Suicide Mission? Didn't they learned from their Parents mistake?

Even some high class people are standing on their Toes these days. Personally, I know what It takes to be successful In a Terrain like Nigeria.

You won't blame them though.
Most nigerians are not earning above 150k.
So what do they do? wait till when before marrying?
It is not as easy as we think

Treadway:
no mind these cats bro. They dropped a phantom fact/statistic, but as we both know they will not simply say, 'ok I was wrong OR I am not sure'. I was prompted to do little cursory search on the subject, even the much touted world Bank data and that figure of $460m is just fictitious. The figures for 2022 are not in the public domain YET. Last quoted figures were 2021 at $3.3b . Anyone who has evidence, Let's see screenshots so we all can learn.

See screenshot of the world bank website and another site referencing the same world Bank data/site.

Abi

Kingofhoes:
You should really consider comedy as a side gig. I strongly believe you'll thrive there.

tensazangetsu20:
What kind of agbado economics is this . How does the Nigerian government intend to get the dollar to 250 naira to a dollar when we only made 460 million usd in inflows for all of 2022 and it will be lower from this year onward. You can't even access dollar in Nigeria if you have a dorm account now. It's very difficult. So how?

https://www.nairaland.com/7641910/rivers-kano-abia-27-states#122314172

I think you need to check this thread.
Nigeria attracted 5.33 billion dollars investment in 2022 against the 406m you quoted.

naijaboy99:
I actually said 2,000 persons not 30(edited since)You want to tell me 2,000 persons don't live in a house or own businesses and assets that's over 300million value in ikeja, etin-osa, ikorodu, lagos Island etc?

Tbh, I don't think so.
2000 people is really really much to have such money using Oshodi/bolade/ladipo/Shogunle/mafoluku/airforce/PWD where I stayed as a case study.

naijaboy99:
And you believe this rubbish data? Data as old as 10yrs and was even still fake then. People with houses just in lagos worth over 500million naira are more than thirty thousand. In short in every local government area in lagos there are 2,000 persons with a net worth of over $1million. Stop believe rubbish data

300 ($1m) people x 20 lga in Lagos = 6,000 million dollar people which is still close to the 5,400 the report said.
Mind you, many lga like iju/ishaga, Miran, alagbado etc can't even boast of 20 of those guys

Treassured:
I will advise you seek👇

"Spiritual Help/You can also wake up In the Midnight between 1AM to 3AM and Pray/Cry to your Creator while Naked"

Most Importantly, Stay away from Sex. You can make friends with Ladies but make sure you abstain from Sex. Then make sure you still stay very disciplined when things start going on fine for you.

There are some Contaminated People out there these days. Forget about the Material Things some of them are displaying. They are Empty Internally and Spiritually.

At the bolded won't work.
If he likes, he should pray with seven naked virgins.
The Chinese and whites didn't succeed and breakthrough in technology and innovations doing that.
With all our prayers, we are still running Helter skelter there

Treassured:
It's a Big Disaster to be Financially and Mentally Poor at the same time. The Combo Is like a Nuclear Bomb.

At least If you are financially poor at the moment. Strive to make sure you are mentally sound In order to navigate your way out of Poverty.

Unfortunately, the 2 work hand in hand.
Reason most people are financially poor is because they are mentally poor

odenkirk:
im giving up about future

Chaii

odenkirk:
i dont wanna hustle my years away lets get married and continue with the husttling

Chaii

This man don throw in the towel to poverty

odenkirk:
poverty seems undefeatable

IyaebeTheGreat:
Why cheat in a marriage, you can simply leave. Sad

Because it is cheaper to cheat in marriage than being single.
In marriage, someone is taking care of your bills, so you don't worry about that much

dellaziz:
OK thanks!!

The factory is based in abk?

Yep

dellaziz:
This dm of Nairaland.com doesn't seem to work, is there any other way of reaching you?

Have replied your dm.
Go to your yahoo mail box and reply my mail

dellaziz:
That's would be kind of hard on you.
How many tonnes per day is the machine's capacity?

And can I dm you? I have some other questions?

According to the manufacturer, it can do 200kg per hour but from personal use, I think it can only do 100kg per hour cold milling but should be able to meet up 200kg hot press and Yes, it was very hard on me closing it down because it was more or less part of me.
I invested a lot into it - millions of naira, time, energy and efforts but I had to face reality and leave emotions alone else will sleep into sunk cost fallacy.
Yes, you can dm me

dellaziz:
Good day sir,
Would like to ask if you process your groundnut oil with machines?

Yes bro but have closed down the factory due to power issue and regular mechanical problems

Evolutionlove:
It's not Late at all and the show Is just starting.

They have seen Men finish and extremely weaponized something which is supposed to be Free to an extent. I don't really blame them. I blame the Stupid Men fueling their Ego.

The only way I feel i'm loving this menace is I think it will help Curb Overpopulation. Many Nigerian men can't control themselves when it comes to Sex thus Impregnating these Ladies here and there.

Personally I hate Overpopulation.

For the merry fact that you hate Overpopulation, I am following your moniker asap

We have the same mentality and campaigning for the same thing.
Damn, I hate Overpopulation
When I am at Oshodi bridge and I see thousands of people under the bridge hustling and bustling, I get nervous and irritated.
Humans are too much on this earth.
Too much
Just damn too much
Reason I can never stay in Lagos. I prefer a sane environment outside Lagos abeg

Klass99:
My parents had a choice and they made the choice to birth me. There is no law or rule book which says I must follow in their footsteps or make the same choice to have children too.

That's the beauty of the power of choice and freewill Almighty God has given us. I don't run with the herd neither do I do things because others are doing it or it is expected by society.

Cc: Emmaodet, can you see what I was talking about on the other thread?

Have gone through the thread and the hope sound like a very entitled person.
For God sake, your sister in Canada owes you nothing.
She has been helping the family but you people think she can do better.
Do you people actually know or care about what she is passing through in that abroad?
Ohhh or do they think because she is in abroad, all of a sudden she is rich?
Parents should pls only give birth to kids they can cater for so that they won't be putting pressure on the first kid.
The Op story is even similar to mine.
I am the first and my parent tried for me just the way they did for the 2 behind me but the one who followed me is always entitled, envious and always badmouthing me behind that what have I even done for the family?
I am working and earning fine but doesn't give up to expectation yet I did alot for the family, roofed their house they moved in, bought pathfinder jeep for them years ago and I am still trying my best.
This guy keeps telling people I don't want to help him and everyone started accusing me of not helping my siblings.
My mum and I garthered money sent the idiot to Dubai through an agent at Ibadan who gave him a job here before leaving.
Got to duabi, works with a driving company and earning 150k naira with accomodation.
He has done 5 years now there and came back last month.
One naira no follow am come. No savings, no investment, no properties, Nothing
He never send his mum and dad money for the 5 years, if we have anything to do na so so complain and my mum had to refer him back to his words that he said concerning me that I am working but not helping the family as expected.
@ Op - Uneasy lies the head that wears the crown.
If you think it is easy, you sef hustle go Canada go make the money send come home now