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Calibrator:
You forgot my personal favorite "We have been through a lot together and I know her very well"


Na your breakfast order you just placed so, to be delivered presently.

Lmaoooooo, adding it now

posty56:
how does simping starts , "I must get that girl bro", "if I no get that girl I fit die","omo that girl na the finest girl I done ever see", that's how your mind (emotions) will start to deceive you, suddenly, you will start suffering from oneitis, your mind starts portraying her as an angel , and all other scenerios were you guys got married happily ever after, before you know ! you have fallen too deep into that trap called love (scratch that! ,and replace it with unhealthy obsession). I telling you from experience, from my early days, nothing is more fun than knowing that any girl is replaceable

moral of the story:- have abundant mindset, don't fall any woman use your head, be wary of your emotions.

There are some girls i like for whatever reasons my brain chose, i am just attracted to them. I believe it is the same for everyone. We all have people that we are attracted to naturally.
While a bluepilled person wants to make a ONEitis of this person, a redpiller still sees her as one of many options.
I personally made it a rule not to engage girls that i am already attracted to in that sense, because i know it is the fastest way to simping, of course I can tell myself "I'll hold masculine frame", "i won't lose guard" etc, but I rather not even engage to begin with, the only way to truly win a game that is rigged against you is to not play.
The few times i have done that, i had to be very very conscious and careful because i was aware that my brain chemicals could play a fast one on me, but i always still found myself doing more than i normally would.

Redpill chapter 3 vs 6
"FLEE from every appearance of simping".

Junnior:
Interesting. What makes guys stuck at stage 4 and how can they deal with it?

Depression stage is a stage in natural progression that comes after bargaining stage (if...Then... stage), remember in anger stage, the reality is so repulsive to you that you are driven into rage (the pains of being lied to or misled your entire life), when you are ready to exit this stage, it often happens that, people try to find ways around this reality, by doing things that they feel will help them achieve those sweet bluepilled fantasies. But when all strategies and options have been exhausted, depression kicks in, it is a realization not just of the fact that your situation is hopeless, but also that the situation (of intersexual dynamics) is hopeless. That is to say, there's nothing you can do to change female nature/reality or work around it, the depression stage serves as a means to usher you into the acceptance stage.
At the acceptance stage, you have come to accept that the situation is hopeless, it is what it is, however you know your situation is not hopeless, there are tons of options that you can explore only when you have accepted the reality for what it is. Just like we say "it is the hope that kills", at the acceptance stage, that hope is replaced with complete acceptance, making you invulnerable to being burnt.

When you stop making achieving bluepilled fantasies a goal (one way or the other), welcome to the red pill.

heartofcity12:
Loosen up bro. Enjoy life

Number 3 is equally as damaging and many are still stuck there, i think that is the level of purplepill. Bargaining is an attempt to game the system "if i do X and Y, then i will get the woman of my dreams". At this stage, there is the rationalization that if you do somethings right, you will attain your bluepilled fantasies.
It is when all attempts at bargaining fails that men slip into depression.
Some bargaining phrases;
1. I will find a virgin.
2. I will not marry Nigerian girls
3. She cant do that if i hold masculine frame.
4. We have been through a lot together and I know her very well
You can add yours...

This happens more frequently than you think
You dey guard the puna for future use, only for the person wey get am to distribute am so cheaply

Tonnyray:
With all due respect, you know the issue I have with scenarios like this? Whether figuratively or in actuality, It's how a man gets to find himself in such scenarios with such females and still claim never to have lost frame.
I recall a situation debated on earlier where a female colleague at work was said to be inappropriately touching a male colleague despite several warnings. Like I simply can't wrap my head around it. Is it an established case of substance abuse on her part or what? Sometimes for me it's not about what happened but how you found yourself in such unpardonably belittling scenarios.

Just my thoughts.

Exactly, I don't want to be in that situation in the first place.
Before it gets to that they must have been some prior loss of frame that prompts the boldness of the woman.

I was in a public transport some years back in Minna, the conversation i had with the driver is very similar to this. When a woman newly marries a man, she starts shit testing him, with seemingly little things (for example, she tells you to pass something that is close to you, your automatic response is "no problem", she knows this is not enough to conclude that you're nailed, so she perhaps increases the distance, after series of shit tests, if she finds that you are under her frame, then the flood gates of disrespect becomes open, perhaps she resents what a weak man she married.

Now the solution isn't as easy as, i have seen the error in my ways, i will start being the dominant masculine guy, it is often too late for that, as her opinion has been set in stone, attempts for you to change that status quo will be met woth strong resistance. In a nutshell, it is easier for you to not lose your respect, than to gain it back after losing it.

Brothers, beware of "little things", for it is by little things your frame is eroded and you start wondering, "how did i get here?"

Superman and Lois
7/10
Still too CW for my liking
But good plot so far.
But Sarah turning Les on Jon should be heartbreaking

Naomi.
7.5/10.
I didn't know what to expect from the series, but it is doing fairly well.
Nice one.

Peacemaker
9/10 for me.
Mehn, i was hyoed for it and they didn't disappoint.

Plus it has to be the first series where i watch the intor every episode. The dance intro is mad, something different and unique.

Gunn is gooder

posty56:
correct and another thing you will notice that those girls who selects you money is usually not involved

Yes, usually money is part of the price you pay for her "love", when you are chosen, this transaction is not necessary. That is not to say they dont ask anyway, the difference is that money is not a priority.

JESHAL:
The issue with your write up is that it's too densely abstract and appears flawless but remember humans specifically women have Emotionss and conscience i.e code of ethics of right and wrong, your write in a way doesn't consider the nuance of life, it makes women seem like 100% utilitarians with no capacity to do what's just even with religious and cultural influence or strong paternal guidance, they will abandon or blend their moral beliefs for the sake of hedonistic pursuit,your redpilled truth analysis appears exaggerated, for the sake of arguments I won't give personal instances of women abiding within said morality because they are anecdotal examples, do you understand the gravity of what you have been typing since morning, the most painful is that most women will cuckold their beta husbands, women can't do good from the bottom of their heart except their something to gain within the confinements of a relationship, life is not black and white, I can go on and on, but these just my opinion on the matter though

Lol, there is a reason why the red pill is bitter to swallow.
You dont think the concept of emotions and conscience is what is abstract? Let me ask you a personal question, how many times have you done things that are against your conscience? I bet you do that often. Most times the purpose conscience and emotions serve is to make people feel guilty after the fact, and not necessarily prevent them from doing it. If the concept of conscience wasn't abstract, religion wouldn't have led to merely to hypocrisy and wouldn't have failed in curbing human tendency.
This is infact backed by research, humans have two minds, the fast thinking (concerned with satisfying emotions and too happy to indulge in human tendencies) and the slow thinking (concerned with logical and makes efforts to curb human tendency). The famed battle of the mind isn't between "good" and "evil" but between these two thinking processes. My point of bringing this up, is that often times we do things before our slow thinking faculty is engaged or when we are too emotional for our slow thinking to be kickstarted. Which means we often times are drawn away into these tendencies, whether or not we have the preconceived intention of doing it (think of a girl banging a guy she met at a party five minutes after she met him, do you think that same girl will bang the same guy five minutes after she met him in church?).

I think Martinez point is clear, do not be too trusting in a woman thinking "she can't do that", because she can, regardless of how moral or religious you think she is.
As a side note, not many people are that religious in this age, most people are merely concerned with reputation other than character. Know this and know peace.

My two cents.

posty56:
I swear, only your body language is enough for me to move on ,

That's one thing with me, i don't toast girls to make them like me, I toast them because they already like me
Instead of making a girl love me, I find one who loves me already, instead of making a girl respect me, i find one who respects me already. I have no work to do then, other than to make myself available. I qualified before I even started, the game is already rigged in my favour, i never have to lose frame to get the relationship started. I just put myself out there, do my things and take note when a girl shows interest, and I act on her interest. I also have had to train myself in the art of identifying greenlights.

Since i started pre-qualification (chosen principle), I have found my experience with women more enjoyable, I stopped having complaints of having to text a girl first everytime, or lack of reciprocal feelings, no disrespect, instead the complaints fall on my laps, as they want me to reciprocate, to text first etc.

So when a girl forms hard to get or starts giving me stress, I cut off communication with her, I still view their status though, i don't care.

Of course this reduces the quantity of women in women in my circle, but the quality is never in doubt.

DieRich5:
I still don't know how asking a girl her age issa bad thing The same people will attack u fast for fvckin a 17yrs old who looks 22yrs


Asking someone how much he or she makes is wrong

And them girls be looking way older than their age. Sometimes when i ask of her age, i am shocked.

See them.
A real man now likes fat overweight women

Martinez39s:
A five-minute video worth the watch.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y9LlCwDK2NA

I watched this, a good watch.
Why are the so called "liberals" preventing free speech. Hypocrisy at it's peak.

It's sad that we need studies and campaigns to spread the obvious simple truth that a child need both parents.

AyoII:
​​How to train for different body types?

The more individual it is, the more effective it is. In any sport program must take into account all the features of the body. How he sleeps, eats, which muscle group lags behind and which, on the contrary, leads, depends on the whole process of training. But still, there are a number of tips, adhering to which you can accelerate your results.

Today we're going to talk about how to approach training for different body types: ectomorph, endomorph and mesomorph.

▫️ Ectomorph is a lean, lean physique with a minimum of fat and, in fact, also muscles. It is extremely difficult to gain mass for this type, but even more difficult to keep mass. It is worth a little nervousness, lack of sleep, lack of food, missing a couple of workouts, as your body begins to immediately lose weight. The load for this type should be regular. The smaller the break between approaches, the more effective the result. Ideally (if you are talking about a gym), weight should be selected in such a way that the last repetition goes extremely hard or does not go at all. The workout itself should not be much longer than one hour, because the necessary hormones start to be released worse after about 45 minutes.

▫️ The endomorph is a complete physique, easily gaining both muscle mass and fat mass. Metabolism is aimed at storing fat, so it is difficult for this type to maintain perfect abs, even more difficult to control the fat on the sides. It is not enough for this type just to train, because unlike the first type, endomorphs gain muscle much easier. Watching your diet is very important here. Try to eat less junk in the form of chips, hamburgers with cola, all sorts of chocolates. Workouts are dominated by classic heavy exercises like squat, bench press, and deadlift.

▫️ The mesomorph is a lucky guy, if I may say so, in a sports environment. It is easy for a mesomorph to lose weight as well as to gain it. Of course, he loses weight much worse than the ectomorph and gains it longer than the endomorph, but in the combination of factors he is still in the lead. Broad shoulders, voluminous chest and strong legs are the key to success not only in heavy workouts, but also in cardio. The main thing for the mesomorph is to watch his proportions, so as not to become too square and clumsy. The physique should resemble a triangle, the base of which is the shoulders, and the top at the waist.

Sports have always been an integral part of all successful people. It helps to dispel, to gain self-confidence, to free your thoughts, to replenish your energy resources. From dating to career, an athletic person will always be more promising.

So i am ectomorph, hmmm.
I only jog once in a while sha, I really need to level up in terms of exercising.

Fairview1:
Nice observations. May I know your age. Something is tellling me you are becoming more and more mature in your approach to how you handle lady's affairs?

I got exposed to the red pill some 7 years ago, in my early 20s now. Thanks to the red pill, i dont care too much about ladies' affairs and that seems to do the trick.

Finally caught up to the end of the thread after a busy start to the year.
I was glad that the subject of green light when approaching women was discussed, because I am a firm believer in "no green lights, no approach" principle.
I will be sharing my experience with two ladies.

So the first lady, I met her in church, we do talk after church, but nothing more than that, later she requested for my number, after she got it, she started calling me, she starts chats everyday, she double texts, if i ignore her messages twice, she calls me on phone again, all the while she never complains about me ignoring her messages. Like i get away with everything, she has never called me out for any "wrong" doings, and i have done quite a few
When we meet physically, she is too clingy, and green lights are too obvious. I found out that due to her being too available, i lost interest in her (or should i say i didn't develop it) I know that no matter how a lady likes you, she should at least complain if you snub her or ignore her, but she doesn't. Like she sent me new year greetings message, I read it but didn't reply till 11th, and she didn't say anything about that, next thing she's asking is "when am i going to see you?". I felt like that level of clingyness is a bad sign sha

The second lady, She's interested in me but her signals were not as pronounced as the other lady, it took me quite sometime to take note of her, cause she was subtle and shy (plus I snub ladies alot, just greetings and I'm out), but recently I was thinking that something is off about her when she is around me, so i decided to be more observant, and her greenlights became clearer. Last week, I wrote my number on a paper, and told her to call me, she did call me that same evening, and we started talking since then, it became clear that she likes me but she was waiting for me to pick up on the signals and act on it.

Points to note:
- Greenlights makes everything easy for you, it's like you win before you even start the race.
- Be on the lookout for greenlights, believe me, it's more common than you think, if you only attract low value girls, then it is a reflection of your true SMV, and suggests that you need to level up.
- Simps think that if they flood a girl with "love" and attention, she will reciprocate, but that's opposite of the case. I think the same thing played out with the first girl, her greenlights were so much that it became a turn off.
- I thought, if i get a girl that loves me as much as the first lady, I will like it, but i found out that I don't. Plus i have had experience with clingy ladies, it doesn't end well.

CaveAdullam:
DAY 3, REDPILL 2022

Cumulative disrespect from women first starts with a single shit test you were unwilling to disprove.

Don't absorb bullsh!ts!

If you continually laugh over such disrespect, it will reduce your attraction both with men and other women.

Don't allow her spread bad vibes around you. Separate yourself from her.

Authority: don't take nonsense.

Seven Levels of disrespect.

Credit: Coach Greg Adams podcast (youtube link attached below)

Level 1: Combativeness (being combative just to be combative "I want us to go out and eat Italian food" and she responds "Well I want Chinese food"

Level 2: Slick Comments (when your lady says random slick comments when you are having a normal conversation like (You tell her "I'm thinking of starting my own business" and she responds "Yeah right with your dead end job....how are you going to do that"

Level 3: Insults (when your lady start attacking your manhood. She will do this with a smile on her face and playful demeanor "You're not a man" "Man up" She will test you how far she can push the envelope)

Level 4: Public Embarrassment (when your lady will create a DRAMA SCENE in front of people....knowing men typically don't check them because of laws or public perception of checking a female in public)

Level 5: Slander (when your lady throws dirt and salt on your name by saying malicious, false statements "He's bad in the bed" "He's such a bitch&..and I cheat on him"

Level 6: Infidelity (when your partner becomes so BOLD with the disrespect..she has sex with other people. She might even bring "her friend" around you)

Level 7: Set up for robbery or getting merked ("getting your TV turned off". This is the most dangerous level. Get this far..well...too late)


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gtoh_lhYtu0
Youtube link

My comments:
It is very important to take note of these levels, once combativeness starts creeping in, it is a clear sign that she is beginning to lack respect for you, at this point, she wants to challenge everything you say, and feels satisfied when you let her have her way, you may think "well, i don't need to win, let's have it her way" or "what's wrong with that? She's just being expressive" if you don't want to put her in check at this point, you may as well end the relationship, because it will only get bad from her.

Slick comments often requires great skills to detect, often times you may think nothing is wrong with that, until the frequency keeps increasing and then it finally graduates to the next level.

Insults often start playfully, but the more she doesn't it without any reaction from you, the more her playful demeanor reduces. She may call you "fish head" "yeye boi" etc, playfully and you'll be giggling like a kid, but you will be shocked when she calls you a fool with a straight face and you wonder why she did that, you allowed it bro. Little things you take for granted are actually things that come back to bite you.

Public embarrassment, once it gets to this stage, you are done, if your babe or wife has ever disgraced you publicly, forget it, the respect is gone, you should never make the mistake of overlooking public embarrassment, it is in fact the highest level of disrespect i can tolerate, once she does that, she is dead to me, i can't feel a thing for her anymore. If you are not quick to pull the trigger like me, you can give her a stern warning, that such should never repeat itself, if it does, don't warn again, end it, cause it wont stop, it will only get worse.

Slander is like public defamation, you start hearing bad things about yourself from her which often times get to the hearing of others, like "he is a cheat" "he doesn't provide" "he is a 2 seconds man" if it gets to this stage, i don't know what you are still doing hanging around, no bro, don't take that.

Infidelity; when a woman begins to cheat on you, she has lost respect for you, that's one of the reason you should never forgive a cheating woman, she doesn't respect you, and forgiving her make it worse, she may start getting more bold in her disrespect to you, having her escapades on your own bed, or openly flirting with her interests in your presence. At this point of this respect, I don't expect a red piller to still be in the picture, except it's another pill he is taking.

The last level, comes to assassination, if you get to this level, she sees you as nothing but dirt underneath her shoes, she cant believe what a weak man she hooked up with, she resents and wants to punish you for being weak, in extreme cases, it may be physical assassination, but mostly it's character assassination that takes place (she tags you a rapist, she accuses you of domestic violence etc).

Note: These levels does not have to develop in a chronological order, sometimes women can jump from level one to 5. Once you smell disrespect, call it out from the start or risk it becoming a normal occurrence.

Authority: Don't take nonsense, it will only get worse.

Dizzyyish:
Women may opt for the "easy mode" in life but at what cost?

The cost is being pumped till her pvssy become numb and she loses the ability to bond with men.
They basically monetize trauma, getting banged without real emotional attachment is a traumatic experience, making it a lifestyle, is a recipe for disaster, the cost is one they dont acknowledge till the beauty fades and the money and attention doesn't come like it used to.
The cost is one they later want to share with another man down the line, they transition from hoe back to church girl, with their traumatized minds and scarred pussy, and when no man is forthcoming, they ask "where have all the good men gone". You see they have accumulated so much baggage and they will only dump it on you.
Luckily for them, captain save a hoe is still in commission. And I'm not jealous of him.

Authority: Don't save a hoe bro. Don't pay the costs with her.

There's a group I'm in, the discussion on marrying single mothers came up, and i gave my reasons for not wanting to do it (picture attached below).
The rebuttals I got were.
"what if her husband died?" my reply was "the dynamics is different, only in the case of the kids not being bad to you out of longing for their biological dad, but the risks attached is basically the same."
Then my last point was attacked, they say "some" men are able to love their step kids and their biologically child equally. I'm like does that invalidate my point?

Lmaoooo, prime example of alpha fvcks, beta bucks.

These 46 women will be looking for step fathers

Dont be a step father guys.

infogenius:
Lol! I won't even talk about it or ask her.

Lmaoooooo, if you try it, you may end up on front page.
Man killed by heartbroken woman for demanding 1 million naira

25 years is not young for a lady.
@op roll your dice, he could disappoint you, very true. But ​what's to say leaving him will have a positive effect, perhaps you will enter the endless stream of dating, break ups, dating again and break up, till you're washed up and tired.

Life is a gamble like that. No guarantees.

If you trust the guy, then stay. Only you can determine if you actually trust him. But if you don't take his two years option early, simple.

I respect the guy for giving a 2 year option, after which if he is not ready, he will release you to go, only a guy that has your best interest at heart will say that.

Good luck in whatever choice you make, whatever the effect remember the other side too may have not ended up being rosy.

infogenius:
.

It's well over 11yrs of dating.

I have a bet with her for 1m bucks if the guy eventually marries her.

So if the guy disappoints her, her heart will be broken and she will still pay you 1m

The average age of billionaires is 62 years.
Dont be in a hurry bro.
You are not broke at 20, you are just getting started.
Find something you want to invest your MEAT (money, energy, attention and time) in, and build your way to the top.
Dont think because my friend made his first million from real estate in 3 months, i will just go into real estate and do the same, it doesn't work that way bro.
This is not to discourage you from pushing yourself to the max, we only need to set realistic expectations and goals in order to avoid unnecessary pressures on ourselves.

See you at the top. ^

JESHAL:
hot looking attractive girl or very sexually appealing girl are typically mannerless, very proud, they look down and despise you since you are broke and have nothing to offer, they resist your advances, why? your sexual appetite which makes you impatient, your desire for status with a hot baddy, their Hypergamy is on steroids, they push you to do desperate things, you want to prove to them you are a man, as you are chasing, she's giving her affection to someone without any effort from him, this life no balance, you spend and simp, another is ramming her tight pussy for nothing, let this thought dominate you, let that pain and rage that evolutionary your sexual urge and desire for female beauty and fertility push you to maximize your efforts on things that will benefit you rather than used it in supplicating and appeasing someone that is stupidly narcissistic and doesn't give a fvck except she is past her prime years and you are the only realistic match for her to settle with

A hot attractive girl is that way because, what else does she need?
She will be excused a lot cause she is fine.
Men will simp for her regardless.
She can afford to be a perpetual teenager, no maturity or character development. Excess attention has that effect on humans. It stunt mental growth of persons.

As a guy, the only thing you can do is to not let yourself be stepped on by a beautiful lady, like simps do.

On someone saying you have to have loved and be heartbroken to be red pilled, i definitely do not agree.
Most guys who were heartbroken before red pill stay too long in rage mode, which limits their growth red pill wise. So you cant just say those who loved and had their heart broken are better red pillers, nahhh.
Learning from our own experiences can be deeper than learning from the experience of others, true. But do you really need to have that big scar?? I rather come to the realization that something is dangerous, without having to experience the danger first hand.

The red pill is a praxeology, it is a body of truths about the reality of life.
You can not overdose on truth or reality.
The only questions that should be asked is "I'm i applying this right?".
Blue pill application of red pill is contradictory and stupid.
Hating and anger is not overdosing on red pill dude, it's something else.

Normally, I'd take that as an inside joke, but when someone says "take the red pill in moderation" in response. I have to clarify somethings.
How do you take the red pill in moderation?
Maybe the result of taking the red pill in moderation will be the purple pill, i dont know

heartofcity12:
Perfect reply. They put so much pressure on themselves and still find a way to blame men for it.

Some men think women do it for men, that's a big lie.
A married woman can tie a dirty "adeiu papa" at home, but watch how she dresses when she is going to a function or party.
She is not dressing up for you bro, let her keep stressing herself for the culture, none of your business.
If you think I'm wrong, tell your babe you like long skirts and no make up

I'm past rage stage, nothing surprises me anymore, I am at a stage where I accept the reality and decide to protect myself the best way i can.
I'm not mad, I'm not angry, it is what it is.
I don't hate women, I just have "realistic" expectations of them.
You should too. Just breathe and do what's best for you. Protect yourself. And you'll be fine.

Sober reflection.

If you know the process of how a baby is formed, you will never remain the same.
You are one that made it 30 million, king, act like it.

As a side note, do not believe the trash that women create life. They don't solely, no sperm, no party.