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Isaacmacdon:
It's Christmas and emmynator has overdosed on the redpill.

Ubunja, Luminouz, CaveAdullam your help is needed.

I've been thinking, there are times we get so high on the pill.

Like, everything makes absolute sense.
You begin to play back past mistakes with women, etc.

Now, you get so high on the pill that you begin to read every situation with absolute clarity.

You start getting attacks from the women folks.

Ladies use the shaming tactic to disarm men. She'll say you're a broke masturbator, poor, have little or no women in your life.(If you're in this stage, you're making progress).


How do we tone down the redpill?

Cos, one can get so high on it.

Lol, I'm overdosed, I have been so busy with work, i haven't had time to think on a deeper level about most of things.
I guess the break comes as a blessing for me

MJBOLT:

Link to download

I didn't get a link to download, i had to watch online.

Take your time and watch Netflix documentary "hot girls wanted" (2015). You'll see how girls that are between 18 and 21 are being lured into porn and hookups. They think the money is easy.
Only fans, gurls go there saying well "i will only sell sexy pictures" bla bla, first month they make good money from sexy pics, but then subscribers start to dry up, they have to start doing more, having to be more revealing, then finally they end up not different from pornstars.
Instagram creating a source of attention loop for these women, hyping up their SMV, they are being drooled over by countless simps, while they sell themselves to the highest bidders.

When too much attention is given to an individual, that individual's maturity and growth gets stunted, be it male or female. Social media and the immediate environment loads a woman with attention from early ages, and the moment they discover that "super power" they stop maturing, they stop growing, that's why a lot of females are perpetual teenagers.
They keep leveraging on that coochie even after they get married, the loss of this power is what makes the wall a very difficult reality for women.
The sad reality is that things will only get worse, especially with the emasculation of men, if you are different, welcome to the 10% of men who dont give a shit, but that also means 90% men are out there making the next generation of women less and less profitable to associate with.

I know I am not saying anything that is different from what has been said here before, but i think now is the time to ask critical questions.
How did we get here?
What are the solutions?
Is all hope lost?

heartofcity12:
Simps are at it again. This is most likely from a married man, the guys are never in the picture , sad these kind of men will not help a struggling guy genuinely in need, some of them don’t even take good care of their families like they should but they keep funding their h0es lifestyles, these are the issues. Tell me why most modern women won’t continue to find comfort in the hoeing business when a lot of men are the enablers. #trp

True, women aren't trying to be good virtuous women anymore. They are looking for more ways to leverage their pvssies to make quick money.
Your wife material is most likely selling her coochie right now, both on small and large scale depending on her perceived social value. And men are buying, big time.

Good luck finding your NAWALT

I was having a deep and sober reflection.
And an inescapable reality is that we all pay for sex, one way or the other, money, time, energy.
We really need to ask, one who spends hours wooing women, is he really better than one who pays money for the same results? I mean time is money, right?
I can recover 5k, but can i recover my time wasted in pursuit of women??
I'm here to tell you, that you who spends hours upon hours on women doing whatever isn't better than one who pays for it, that's the simple reality.
Men, jealousy guard your time, energy and money, dont waste it.

Sober reflection.

I pity guys that fall for this shit.
Sub for me, if not you won't enjoy our heavenly chats that can make you a millionaire

MrBrownJay1:
if it is a mistake, they will contact you, if it aint......MERRY XMAS!

Maybe i will keep it for up to a month
If after then, nothing happens, toh, i tried.

Kosoco:
What's d bank name...

I don't know the name of the bank it was sent from.

I saw the name of the sender, but i totaly dont know the person.
Is there anyway to reach out to the person? if it's a mistake, I'll have to return it.
Have you been in this situation? How did you go about it?

Modified: my friend who is in UK, sent the money. He wasn't having naira that's why the sender had an entirely different name, I'm relieved.

Sixtyfive65:
Guys, so I've been with my girlfriend for 3 years and it was good until this year.



My finances hit rock bottom and she was supportive. She even sent me part of her school fees and wasn't all that demanding...
Things changed when her cousin got hooked to a yahoo boy and has probably influenced her.
I called her on video call sometime last week and she rudely told me her battery was low. I scolded her and ignored her calls. After calling for like 7 times, I finally picked and we got into an argument and she told me that I wasn't even worth it and ended the call....

I totally ignore her and she sent me series of text saying I don't even act like i love her and that I should fight for her, blah blah.

She hasn't called since Monday, except twice yesterday, and that was that...
Her sister uploaded her picture yesterday and called her by another man's name as his baby...
She called and I asked her who tf was Henry, and she said her sister uploaded that so it gets me pissed.
I blocked her on WhatsApp
What do you think i should do?

I have read all your replies and i understand where you're coming from, you are feeling that she hasn't done enough to deserve being cut off, but the question you really need to ask yourself is if really she has to do more before you see the writings on the wall.
Do you really believe that she'll say you're not worth it, if at least some part of her doesn't believe it? Nah bro, it's in moment like that that bottled up thoughts and intentions rear up their heads.
She's at a place most ladies are, locked between her heart is and where her influences (sisters, friends etc) what it to be, believe me, the influences almost always win in the end.
I have given you the information you need to make a decision, make one. If you want to carry on, goodluck delaying the inevitable.

I recently started watching Coach Greg Adams, and now his channel domintates most of my YouTube time
I have come across the name a few times on this thread, but I watched for the first time, when a link was posted in the thread of the guy abroad whose wife was misbehaving, haven't looked back since then.
I am joyed that the red pill is everywhere, waiting for men to swallow.

"God hates divorce, but what He should really hate is marriage, because the most popular cause of divorce is marriage" - CGA

Those that follow coach Greg Adams (free agent lifestyle), he did a podcast on onlyfans and how most ladies end up regretting join it.

The social media attention women get most times end up bwing toxic to them, they get high on it, till they start to lose it, even then they have developed a skewed mentality on life that makes it difficult for them to cope after.

CGA said something that hit me, most of these women you are seeing have live twice your life in terms of trauma, that's what you're picking up, damage goods.

Breakfast go reach everybody, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger

Huracio:
I met her around September 20 on Facebook and we have be really in love with each other... I didn't expect her to respond to me that easy, but it was so easy and we are happy...she really loves me more...very respectful, understanding and mature... she even initiates conversation more than I do even when I find it difficult to talk to her to her ..she's not rich o and she's not the demanding type, plus she's beautiful... at first it looks like a fairy tale but na original oooo...she really into me and very expressive... I still dey surprise up till now ooo say that kind thing fit happen to me...

Na relationship be your own
It will still end in tears, dont worry

[quote author=MJBOLT post=108716479][/quote]Breakfast sure on that day
But who chop breakfast on Christmas day go smile on new year

luminouz:
Whose house am I coming to eat on Xmas day?

We dey wait make you drop location.

Someoneschild2:
For those of us who are accused of being in a cult, the reply is now available

TRP for life!

Just shaming tactics to discourage men from identifying with the red pill. Misogynist, gays, sexists, incels, bitter, and many more. Heck, aljazeraa article even associated the red pill with racism, terrorism and shootings.
So many negative associations, but the red pill is simply a praxeology, nothing more, nothing less.
We are here because no man is an island of knowledge, we are here because iron sharpens iron. If it means we are cultists or misogynists or sexists, then so be it, God forbid shaming makes me deny the truth that the red pill is.

richkal:
You guys should stop giving this vice Chancellor of SIMP university valuable attention. Why will you take someone who asked a boyfriend, who got stabbed by his girlfriend, to always remain calm always? People like this always learn their lessons hard way. When it happens, they will praise TRP in secrecy. Check his advice in the image below.

Jesus, I don fvck up
Person suppose dey check previous messages before wasting time to reply honestly
Here i was thinking his advice here was the worst

It's easy to point out guys who still have blue pilled ideas that women are angelic beings who don't poop..
Roll over let these angels trample on you, how glorious is it to be trample upon by angels. Talk gently when she shouts at you, hug her when she hits you, get her to stop disrespecting you by being very respectful, after all, how dare you do anything contrary to an angel?
The angels on the other hand, get more and more emboldened, I'll go ahead and grab his balls in public, he dares not do anything other than to plead with me to stop. After all, i am doing him a favor.

Nonsense and ingredients.

obinna58:
Boss when it comes to sexual game publicly women are on the losing end, she slaps you for touching her inappropriately that equals to what capsloc did which is not right.
You wouldn't want to press even your girlfriend boobs in public because of her personality, it kind of reduces her self value, should it be other way round it'll boost your attraction and value.
There are things to consider.

What did i just read?
You are actually one of the problems of men.
Sexual assault boosts a man's attraction and value, really??
You'll also say men cannot be raped, because it's a privilege that they will enjoy

Guys, don't take sexual assault lightly.

obinna58:
Forget the warning crap
If you're serious she'll know and stop.

And what if she doesn't stop?
Mr Obinna, you obviously have women on a pedestal, get them off there and you will see things clearer.

obinna58:
Attacking or embarrassing her in public is not cool either

Why isn't it?
So you warn a girl repeatedly to stop harassing you, she continues because she expects most guys to react like you.
She scoffs at his warnings, "he can't do that" she says.
Until our warnings start having meaningful weight, words will remain nothing but words, now action like this is what gives words meaning, I'm sure in that location, a stare from capslocked is enough to put them at bay.

obinna58:
Boss these are just sexual admiration they have for you making them do silly stuffs like that.

No need being too serious

Which dirty admiration is that?

It's sexual assault. Coming from a woman doesn't make sexual assault cool.

luminouz:
Lemme give you possible scenarios

1. The man became weak and predictable and women hate that.

2. She saw her ex who she rejected to marry her husband and the ex is now a millionaire, very happy and she regrets ever leaving him. Maybe he is pressuring her to come back too

3. She met a new flame who has been whispering some sweet nonsense in her ears.

4. She had new friends/met new friends who influenced her decisions and made her feel like she needed a new start

5. She took the kids. Red flag. She wasn't about her career or else the kids would be a major hindrance and she would have left them with the husband. So her husband was the issue,not her kids.

NOTE: Two or more of the points above can be in motion. But the major issue is she now hates the husband, her career talk is premium horseshiit.

Very premium horseshiit..
They asked her, will all these things you are doing give you back your career? Why throwaway a marriage that is working for a career that is already down the drain?.
Person say she regret not following career, she come carry 5 children follow body, come go stay for village, no be ment be that?
I suspect one of these points is the motivation behind her behavior.
All in all, avoid marriage, e get why.

See ba, marriage is a very big risk, even if you vet more than anything, what's to say she won't change over time? If you have a solid frame to help mitigate some of her excesses, what's to say your frame wont shift?
Many times we laugh at married men who bring their problems to nairaland, we call them simps or whatever, but most of them only crime was getting married, nothing more, nothing less.
I'll share a story of what happened to my church member, he has been married for over 12 years, had 5 kids, marriage was going on fairly well, until last year, his wife changed totally.
She stopped giving him sex, stopped cooking, started being disrespectful, he tried solving it by himself, but he failed woefully and it kept getting worse, when she started dressing up every morning, without telling her husband where she was going, he had his fill and started calling for external intervention.
This woman rubbished every single person who came to intervene, she respected no one, elderly men and women, pastors, family members, respected neighbors, none was effective. The only reason she gave for her behavior was that she regrets getting married and she should have pursued her career. After 12 years, really?
Mid July, this year, the man went to work, came back to find an empty house, his wife and children gone. All efforts to get her to come back proved abortive.
The man has become slim with all the stress, interacting with him, i feel that sad energy, a broken spirit.
What did he do wrong? He got married, that's it.
He got married to a woman who 12 years back was more than happy to become a mrs. But 12 years down the line, she feels she should have pursued her career instead. That was his crime.

If at all you decide to get married, be ready for the worst.

BlueMann:
J5 don dey old o

Happy birthday

Anti-J5 camp will soon rest.
Jorginho's days are numbered

ElasmoBranchii:
Maybe she wanted to pay the whole bill. You were too quick to judge

Indeed

Iamzealousman:
Yes I am not yet over her. Cause because this I have once gotten this kind of response from another girl. That was 2018, this said girl actually wanted to given a feedback from what she has prayed about. She call me repeatedly, texted me I didn't respond I ghosted her thoroughly even till today I haven't spoken to her. Because the time which was just 3days she took in thinking/praying about what I told her was enough for me to think that she wasn't right for me. I moved on.
Till date I haven't looked back.


But this one is different!

"this one is different"
This statement has been luring men into obvious traps for centuries
Good luck with your NAWALT that has already showed almost all tendencies trp warned you about.

MJBOLT:

this one don go disgrace him ancestors

Serves him right. Who the hell sends nude to a random lady online, definitely a low value male. What thirstiness.

skywalker95:
So there's this girl I occasionally chat with and she's been pestering me about taking her out this Christmas. I was like, "since I don't want to do it, why can't you if you really want us to hang out?"

Babe was like, "Why will I take you out and practically feed you for a day?" She understood she bleeped up with that comment and tried to make some explanation that didn't even make any sense.

I mentally canceled her cos it's obvious she's only looking for how to get free food when she goes out with guys. Most times, they will always reveal their nature but we just tend to overlook and cry foul in the end.

That's how one asked me yesterday, told her "no wahala, but we will share the bill", her reaction was like "why will i pay half?", lmaoooo, she cant imagine paying half of expenses incurred on a date , she go dey chop, dey flex, while I go dey calculate bills wey i go pay
No be only Christmas outing. If I need to have fun, i know road. I fit chop without looking at fine face. Make everybody dey him lane.

MJBOLT:

There's also the issue of parenting,when you try to discipline or scold her child,she will say "you shouldn't do that or say that",if you try to stand your ground,she will remind you that the child belongs to her and not you.

True, a child that's not yours can never be like it's yours. Especially if the children are aware that you aren't their biological father or you came into their life late or they already have a strong bond with their real dad.

Some of the nicest and most caring ladies you'll ever meet are single mothers.
But that's what also makes them dangerous.
I think they know that they are at social disadvantage and try to mitigate the effect of this disadvantage with being overly nice.
Most guys who are dating single mothers often exalt them for the same reasons.
But does this plus side cover up for the risks that comes with dating single mothers
Let's look at some of the risks.
1. Her baby daddy will always constitute a part of the dynamics of your relationship: a woman's tie to the father of her child (or children) is not a bond that should be underestimated. He must keep in touch to enquire how his child is, he must have timely visits to check on the child (Okafor's law often play out in this case).
2. Her baby daddy will always be a standard to qualify or disqualify you: "my baby daddy pumped me, left me with a baby and dumped me, i have now learnt my lesson, no sex till after marriage, i dont want to make the same mistake again" familiar?? One way or the other the baby daddy becomes the standard, whether overtly or covertly. You will be guilt tripped into being better than the evil baby daddy who broke her heart.
3. You will be drawn into a provider trap: as a result of loving the mother, your love must be extended to the children also, and how do you prove this love? By providing. Whether you like it or not, being a good father and being a good step father has very different standards, depending on the level of involvement of the father, your actions as step father will be unappreciated, but hey, keep providing, they will come to see what a great dad you are, soon enough.

For me, these are the three main risks associated with single mothers, share your thoughts.