₦airaland Forum

ugo21: my frnd jus turn 20yrs acording to him,he has being mastubarting for 6yrs now and wish to stop dis act but he can't. he needs advice from d world

It starts with commitment to want to stop and next step is to pray to God for strength to overcome!

He should stop watching/reading Xplicit contents...

Going to be a cracker!

dcodesmith: Good Idea! What if we all make it a joint effort? Use github as our code repo n build it for fun and make it open source. We could have UI/UX, Javascript, Python guys n they can focus on those aspect of the site. I also agree with laidbacks points abt hardware n so on.

Nyc!

baslone: You guys should be grateful for the business info.

I guess you did not realise pure water was so profitable.

I will now aim to start a pure water business.

True talk!

Well said!

Analytical: Thank you for raising the topic. I read lastpages's posers and I too thought it's worth discussing. To open up this discussion let me start by saying I wish I could give a straight answer to the questions by saying it is the spouse or the family that one should listen to. Unfortunately, things may not be as straightforward as they seem.

I am for the unity and harmony of spouses. I believe the moment you exchange vows, you belong to each other. Decisions should be taken jointly and adhered to, if there is to be harmony in the home. However, there are certain decisions whose outcome affect not just the two spouses but others as well, whether for good or bad. In such situations, it becomes not just who to listen to, but what sound judgement/counsel to take, wherever or whoever it is coming from.

When faced with a life and death situation, I think discretion and sound judgement (from qualified quarters) should take over. The spouse or family may not be in the best position to offer such at such critical moment (akin to why doctors don't treat their spouses) and it will be foolhardy, if not suicidal, for a spouse to insist his/her decision has to be final. Likewise the family members. I wouldn't want to pitch family against spouses. Neither would I want to totally reject culture as bad in that regard. The overall interest should be the life/health of the person involved and what is best for the person, not some warring egos.

I say this because in the event of death, it's not only the spouse that loses out. The family of the deceased also incurs a great loss. Let me share my story.

I lost a younger brother couple of years ago in a situation like this. Barely weeks into marriage he had to undergo surgery. They lived quite some states away from the rest of the family. No one in my family new what they were going through. Apparently, they decided to keep it nuclear just between the two of them. A couple of months later, he had to undergo a different surgery (life threatening). Still no one knew. He was scheduled for a 3rd surgery before the young wife cried out, but too late. Before we could intervene and organize better medical help, it was just too late. Unfortunately, he didn't make it. All this less than a year after they got married.

Things could have turned out differently if the family was informed and involved. Intervention could have been made before it was late. Perhaps he could have made it. Now, due to negligence, share immaturity and lack of discretion displayed by both, the guy is late and the young lady a widow before 25!

Now let me ask the question: should they have listened to themselves instead of involving the more matured and experienced family in handling the life and death situation? I leave that to the readers. On the other hand, reading the Ogo/Kelvin case, and following my reasoning above, she should have listened to the qualified medical judgement that said 'no more surgeries', which aligns with her husband's view as well, not taking her sister's advice.

Niiade: I tire ooooooooo, like say to provide service na by force

LOL!!!

sauer: I honestly don't get the rationale of wishing people a happy new month!

Hmmm!!!

bennyraz: Abeg ban d okada's jare.

Really!

dabrake: Just like one who was chatting and smiling while I was talking only for her to pop up with the question while still facing her bb: can you please come again? I acted as though I wanted to ease myself, went to pay for my meal and I left her there stylishly to pay for hers.. About 80mins later, I got a 4-page sms from her . . .

Hahahaha! Nyc one...

Nyc!

BlackPikiN: ^^^I follow you laff jare.

Abi!

kelz88: What are you hoping to gain from double dating? How about settling with a nice man and be happy? Or you love drama?

Hmmmm!!!

andrewza: Mali is a land locked country. So they could cut off all trade. Nigeria has ocean trade and it's navy is contested in the region. It would easily keep the sea lanes open. This of course is if the navy backs the coup.


If the AU was 100% behind it they could shut your trade down and blockade your ports.


But the biggest factor will be how stubborn and determined the coup leaders are and how loyal the troops are to them.

Well said!

Well said!

bishoptee: Nothing will happen, as impossible is nothing.................Elections should not be geopolitically oriented, it should be based on individual competency. Anything aside that, never expect anything good to cometh out of nigeria elections.
God bless federal republic of nigeria

Laila Ikeji: wooow. this is terrible

Yep!

stagger: Oga Boyloaf,

There is no strutural difference between Jet-A1 (Aviation-Type Kerosene or ATK) and Household kerosene (HHK). Which is why Dual Purpose Kerosene (DPK) is used for two purposes; household cooking and as aviation fuel.

So there is nothing like air crash happening!

TRue!

viccipedia: This is List of Schools and their 2012/2013 UTME Cut-off Marks

> Federal University of Technology, Minna (FUTMinna) - 190

> Kwara State Polytechnic, - 180

> University of Port Harcourt (UNIPORT) - 180 or 200 depending on course

> Federal University of Technology Owerri (FUTO) – 180 UTME

> Kaduna State University (KASU) - 180 UTME (first choice only)

> Lagos State Polytechnic (LASPOTECH) – 180

> University of Ibadan (UI) – 200 (Only Accept Students who Choose them as First choice only)

> Lagos State University (LASU) - 200

> Michael Okpara University of Agriculture, Umudike (MOUAU) - 180

> Imo State University (IMSU), now Called Evan Enwerem University (EEU) - 180

> University of Benin (UNIBEN) - 200

> Anambra State University (ANSU) - No official figure probably 180

> Nnamdi Azikiwe University (NAU/UNIZIK) - 180 first choice only (no official proof yet)

> Enugu State University of Science & Technology - 180

> Federal University of Technology, Akure (FUTA) - 200

> Obafemi Awolowo University (OAU) - 200

> Adekunle Ajasin University - 200

> Tai Solarin University of Education (TASUED) - 180 (first choice only)

> University of Nigeria, Nsukka (UNN) - 200 (minimum UTME cut- off)

> Rivers State University of Science and Technology (RSUST) - 180 (1st choice only)

> University of Agriculture, Abeokuta (UNAAB) – 180 (minimum UTME cut-off)

> Delta State University, Abraka (DELSU) - 180 (minimum UTME cut- off)

> Abia State University, Uturu (ABSUU) - 180

> University of Ilorin, UNILORIN - 200 (240 for Medicine)

> University of Lagos (UNILAG) - 200

> Federal University of Technology FUT, Minna - 190

> Kwara State Poly -180

> University of Port Harcourt, UNIPORT - 200/180 depending on course

> Federal University of Technology Owerri, FUTO – 180 - UTME cutoff

> Kaduna State University, KASU - 180 UTME cutoff (first choice only)

> Lagos State Polytechnic, LASPOTECH - 180

> University of Ibadan, UI – 200 (First choice only)

> Lagos State University, LASU - 200

> Michael Okpara University of Agriculture, Umudike, MOUAU - 180

> University of Benin, UNIBEN - 200

> Niger Delta University - 180
Cutoff mark will vary depending on your chosen course.

> Osun State University (Uniosun) - 200 (180 for Agriculture, Education and Arts i.e Humanities and Culture Faculty)

> University of Abuja - 180


This is an Official UTME Cut-Off
Release from each School, Stay tuned!!!

Nyc!

slimyem: -if a girl pounds an empty mortar,her biyest would become saggy!
-if someone is set out to punish you and you want him/her to forget,remove an eyelash and put it in your hair!

Yeah right!

shymmex: How come Nigerian roads are so UGLY despite the huge money they spend on them? Can they expand the road and make it more presentable?

Question begging for answers!

OAM4J: . . . and she might just get it. I wish her the best of luck.

Yep

kombats: [color=black][size=32]dat gud it high time[/size][/color]

Yep!

Am loving it! Using POS, Internet banking to transfer funds. It's cool!

Laila Ikeji: umm, well mine is blogging.

so glad i started it. my only regret is y didnt i start it soo long ago.

Okay! Try and SEO the blog for some Google juice (traffic).

BlueBarbie: Its necessary to, cos you have to know the person your gonna spend the rest of your life with..


You wanna invest ur life savings in a good bank? Wld you just throw the money into any bank you see? I dont think so..You ve to study the bank well, same thing applies to marriage.

Well said!

slimming: So you have to buy card for everything now. Every agencies are just shouting money money

LOL!

Well said Girl!

agiboma: As a past abused victim yourself you OWE it to this little girl to do something about the abuse. Listen no one helped you but you are in a position to help this little girl, who trust you enough to tell you this terrible secret she had been keeping. Please remove the child ASAP from this dangerous enviornment, its not good for her. Now about your dad you can confront him if you like, but he most likely will lie to save face, so trying to get the full story out of him. Please do the right thing and remove this child, You know op as a past abused victim I am even shocked you are posting this on NL you know how this child is feeling and yet you have not reacted. This story is upsettting to me because i feel you should have already done what you know needs to be done in your heart.

hardleyC: My thoughts actually, i think more often than not, Nigerians tend

to "ping" with the opposite sex all in a bid to end up in each others bed.

Most guys chat with ladies, invite them over with just ONE aim in mind.

Am i mistaken?

I stand to be corrected.

Hmmmm!

Cool!!!

Jack65: Lmao! Can't blame them. They came late on the gold rush so they are stepping up their game to catch up. What continues to baffle me is that people will still believe and follow them.

Hmmm!!!

pistol: five year old thread ke..Is there scarcity of threads eh @ mods
which crypt una pick dis one thread from

LOL!

Well said!

idris4r83: Watching nigerian films with your family these days can be embarrassing. I think the censored board are not doing their work cos at times d films will be labelled for general viewers (pg) but the reverse will be the case. These people (nollywood movie industry) are teaching immorality to the children. please nigerian films should not be watched with your family especially if you have kids.