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The London Metropolitan is the only UK university that refuses to release its results data so that it can be included in the league table. It has refused to release any data on its results for three years now. What does that tell you?

I would look at the schools themselves and decide on the best one on other issues rather than whether it is 'English' or 'American' as both systems are good. Which schools achieve the best exam results? Which schools have the best facilities for sports/music/arts/science/IT/whatever is important to you and your child? Which school has a friendly but hard-working atmosphere? When you visit a school, do you like the way that the students behave? How does the school handle discipline? How does the school help children who are having difficulties? How does the school help children who are high-achievers?

Could someone please explain to me the grandfather's role when he is alive as well?

There wasn't any work in the garden of eden. so why did Adam need a helper?

daprince, some people are just small-minded and there is nothing you can do about it. It will probably cause them problems in their life along the way, so they are the ones who lose out from having those attitudes.

I'm not telling anyone how to live their life. I'm not trying to convince anyone to change their views. Like I said, "I believe there is not 'right' or 'wrong' way to run a relationship, each couple should decide for themselves how it is going to work".

I don't even believe in Adam and Eve and all that, so it was just a theoretical story. It just seems to me that generally when someone is in need of a 'helper' it means that they can't do the job properly themselves. 

Stamp duty payable in the UK. The more the property is worth, the higher the percentage you have to pay as stamp duty (tax).

up to £125,000 0%
£125,001 - £250,000 1%
£250,001 - £500,000 3%
£500,001 or more 4%

Presumably that was all part of God's plan for humanity!

That seems such a shame. You should be able to speak your own language! Kids find it easy to learn several languages when they are very young, but it becomes a lot harder when you get older. Even if they decide to learn it later on, they may never become really fluent in it.

Generally, I agree with the last poster. However, a lot of the inner city London schools are very bad. My son went to a very poor school (outside London) and if I'd been able to send him to a private school or relatives living near a good state school, I would have done, as his education really was terrible. He is still a lovely boy, but now at the age of 19 he has had to start taking evening courses just to get some basic qualifications, whereas I know that if had gone to a decent school he would be at university now. That whole time at secondary school was just a waste.

This is something that causes some friction between me and my Nigerian boyfriend but we manage to compromise our way out of trouble.I don't want to really go into it, as I believe there is not 'right' or 'wrong' way to run a relationship, each couple should decide for themselves how it is going to work. (I don't agree with it personally though).

However, I would like to suggest something about the biblical idea that man was created first, and then woman was created to be his helper.

Imagine you run a company and think that you need one person to do a job. You then find out that that person can't cope with the job on their own. You have to take on a second employee as well. To me, it means that the first person is incompetent and in no way is the more able person or the natural 'leader'. If they'd been any good I would'nt have needed another employee. And if you are a caring employer who was very fond of this first person, you don't tell them exactly what you have done, after all, you want to encourage them to improve not dishearten them. So you tell them 'I'm bringing someone in to help you'. (thinking: because  you can't do the job properly, hopefully you'll learn from the new person and buck your ideas up, or maybe you are just too old and tired to cope anymore so we need a better younger person around to 'help', although of course they'll be taking over from you in due course').

God's plan initially seemed to be to have one human being, otherwise he might have made them both at the same time. Then Adam couldn't cope on his own and God had to make someone better. The woman is the revised improved version of a human being! Women are physically different to men. God wouldn't take something perfect and make it worse, now would he. So women must be an improvement on men. Note that after God made Eve, he was satisfied. Eve was as good a human being as he could make, Adam was the incompetent one. So logically, the incompetent person shouldn't be the leader.

Adam was a prototype. Eve was the finished version.

What do you all think of that interpretation? It seems to me that the men have always interpreted it in their favour, but you could just as easily look at it in this way.

People think it's contagious?

No it isn't.

Did you know they have developed a vaccine against cervical cancer! Fantastic! See here for more details: http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/2495029.stm

And no, if you are a virgin, you do not need a pap smear. As the article I linked to says, cervical cancer is caused by the human papiloma virus (HPV), which is spread by intercourse.

Why even bother to have children if you don't want to have them living with you? How can you send a 5 year old baby away to live in another country? Why be a mother if it is too much effort to raise your own children and you just want to give the job to someone else? If you don't want to be a mother, then don't have babies.

I can understand a couple of years but only when they are older. I have Nigerian friends who sent their teenagers back to Nigeria to do their A Levels at age 16-18.

It's called civil partnership rather than marriage. (but essentially it's the same thing). It gives them some legal rights similar to married couples regarding property/next of kins/etc. These people are gay anyway, so why not let them create permanent committed relationships?

I find it strange that people might accept gay people 'fucking' but not want to see them making a serious commitment to each other. Is ok to be gay in a casual-sex way but you mustn't be a decent respectable person in a normal loving relationship? Weird.

Anyway, it has no effect on 'the family' or how many people will or will not be gay in future. What, you think someone is going to read in the paper 'Gay marriage' and think 'Ooh that sounds like fun, I'm going to turn gay so that I can have a gay marriage'.

And don't forget that every gay person was made by both a man and a woman - so it's not that easy to influence someone into being straight, is it! So why think they can influence anyone into being gay?

I've always wondered why the poorest people seem to choose to have the biggest families.

Perhaps it is the other way round, having a big family makes you poor!

It would make a difference if the children were created before or after we were married.

If the children were created before the marriage I would feel very angry that my husband had kept this secret from me. I would find it hard to trust him and wonder what other secrets he was keeping. We might be able to work through it.

If the children were created after our marriage and my husband had been unfaithful to me and had children with another woman while he was supposed to be with only me, well, that would be the end of my marriage!

No. I just ignore arrogant men

I read recently that 1 in 10 US marriages are multi-cultural, (you are in the US, right?) so it seems that the society you live in and the families in it don't look down on it as much as you imagine.

Do you mean that your family would look down on it? Do you mean that Nigerian families/society look down on it? I think it depends on the family. Some are more open-minded than others.

Of course it is safer emotionally.

It would also be a lot safer if you never left your house, then you could never get run over or in a car accident, are less likely to catch all sorts of diseases etc etc etc.

Safe lives are boring lives.

I think it's just an American custom; all those here I looked at are for couples who have lived in America for a long time.

I think they are very tasteless and tacky myself. What's the point? anyone who knows the couple doesn't need to read a website about them. Why would anyone who doesn't know the couple be interested? It's just another bonkers US way of showing off.

'Your first time on a plane'

I was 13 years old and very excited about it. I still love flying and I always want a window seat for a good view.

Gobsmacked!

If you were made president of Nigeria tomorrow, what would be the first thing you would do (politically)?

I would also find it virtually impossible to go and live and work in the US.

It has nothing to do with racism - it's anyone from anywhere.

Huh?

I'm only asking what has been happening to the passengers? 

Actually I've seen something about all this on an 'expat in Nigeria' (mostly foreign oil workers) forum I found the other day and I found all their comments about this very surprising.

I'm just interested in finding out if Nigerians really are treated differently, and how and why?

It doesn't say how people are insulted or treated as second best. So it just sounds like hot air to me.

But maybe someone here has travelled with Virgin and not been treated well? What happened? Or maybe someone has travelled with Virgin and has been treated well.

Anyone with personal experience?

daprince,

throughout this thread all I've said is that everyone has their own preference and you can't say either country is better than the other, it's down to the individual. Some people will be happier in the UK, some people will be happier in the US. There are good things about the UK and bad things about the UK. I haven't made any attempt to compare the two countries. I don't care what country people live in. We are not a playground playing 'my dads better than your dad' are we

I only said that it is stupid to state that the UK's 'only department store' is Harrods, because it was a stupid thing to say.