anointedlinks: When a large demographic of men see attractive women, they unconsciously want to lunge at her and are sexually charged at that moment.
This is a natural biological phenomenon but must be tempered or balanced with the use of the logical side of a man's brain
Women naturally are able to analyze the situation for more important things first, before thinking of physical attraction.
As men, practicing doing the same will go a long way in making our world a better place and reducing negative social vices such as unwanted pregnancy, forced marriages, and gender wars.
How this works is by humanizing the situation and the person in front of you.
While some women intentionally expose body parts seductively, others are simply going about their normal human lives daily. At first sight of a woman, a man should consider multiple factors aside from his physical attraction towards her that could prevent her from being receptive to him;
- She may be in a relationship and not be looking for another man
- She may not be attracted to you
- She may be on her monthly cycle at that time and so romance is not on her mind
- She may be in discomfort from menstrual cramps
- She may be scared of men due to a past traumatic event such as molestation
- She may be stressed because of the weather or a bad event at the office
- She may not be a good fit for you in terms of the difference in type of personality you and her have
- She may be very immature and still be in her unserious stage of life
Most men would counter the above points by mentioning that having money fixes all these...
This is true, but not for the reason most believe.
Rather, this is so because of what a man having money represents.
To a woman, this more often than not, represents that you are in control of the direction your life is going and know how to fend for yourself and can support a family if she has kids with you.
These are reasonable considerations for any sensible person and a good measure of one aspect of a person's ability to navigate life adequately.
For the reasonable ladies, the source of the man's wealth is important in that, for all they know, you could be a criminal and that would represent risk and danger to survival of a family should you be arrested or killed.
Also realise that everyone is an opportunist in one way or the other. Looking for the best deal in life for themselves: men and women alike.
This is why instead of being alert on the hunt for romance when going through your day as a man, it is better to be busy in purpose living your life. If not it is gold diggers one may attract.
Purpose is any activity geared towards making the world a better place.
That is when good things happen organically.. naturally.
Also realise that bringing another person into your life,even as a girlfriend, involves responsibility (time, money, calls, visits etc.)
If she looks very flashy, while you cannot conclude entirely without interacting with her, there may be a tendency that she expects men to react in awe to her looks.
Remember that;
- She also uses the toilet like every normal human being.
- She may not have an ideal character even though she is very pretty
- She could be very ill-mannered, arrogant and or violent
Your first priority should not be how to woo or sleep with her, but to have a conversation with her to get a feel for the type of person she is.
- She may have multiple partners and be an STD risk
- She may be brainwashed by social media to hate men
The opposite of all the above could be true as well, she could be the most amazing lady.
It is a man's job to see past the physical for intangible traits before engaging in that realm.
All this is not easy to take into consideration in the moment as biological drive put in a man by God is very strong in youth to ensure survival of the human race through reproduction.
This is why it is best to use your productive years to succeed quickly (learn how to earn an income and start earning) so that you can settle down and quench these urges safely and legally in a marriage relationship.
The tragedy is when these urges are quenched outside of committed relationships and unwanted children are born or terminated through abortion.
Everything said in this article is subject to a man having a source of income to begin with.
If you aren't working in some form or the other, stay away from eating (romance) for your own good and that of other people.
What have your experiences been like?...
As a man, how do you handle your urges?
As a woman, how do men look at or approach you and how do the different ones make you feel?
Feel free to throw in your 2 cents in the comments section
stop chasing after naija women! When you realise that women have nothing to offer, that's when you are in total control of your self! You see that pussy you simps are going nut for? That smelly meat part has fall down kings, murder, destroy homes, infected mens with disease and many more chaos. As a man! Once you learn that there's nothing valuable a woman (especially naija women) can offer, that's the very day you liberated yourself from the spirit of Jezebel affecting most naija women
Work on your mental health! Your career, and always strive to improve on yourself! And always remember! (YOU ARE THE PRISE AND ANY BITCHESS WILL BE EXTREMELY LUCKY TO HAVE YOU)
seunny4lif: Then USA should remove all her nukes from Europe, so that countries can build their own nukes.
Russia never complained about UK and France owning nukes because they are located their lands.
But USA is the only country that have ever used nukes on a nation before and that’s the reason USA is against Iran have it. But same USA financed and helped Pakistan to built all Pakistan nuclear weapons.
go and read the history of Pakistan and India before you start vomiting rubbish and why America helped Pakistan against India
Emmexguy123: See how they value Nigerian men outside the country but back to Nigeria, our women see us as source of income, ATM machine, poverty alleviating office.
Baby I love you, she will immediately become an orphan who is homeless, foodless, moneyless in fact everything less.
boborosky: Firstly, I am a guy who is goal driven. I work my ass off to ensure that I earn a living and this has left me with hating anyone who is lazy. I met my fiance about a year ago. We don't reside in the same town but we talk everyday. When we started dating, she had told me she was done with schooling but she had a few issues which have prevented her from graduating. According to her, she finished in 2019 but has not been cleared because of those issues.
In the first few months that we started dating, I asked her why she was idle since the school was yet to clear her. I further advised that she should start something rather than stay at home. She told me then that she would like to produce and sell a particular commodity. I asked her what it required for her to start. She told me and I provided those things and travelled all the way to see her and hand those items over to her. Few weeks after that, I asked how the business was doing - she went from one story to the other. I was pissed because I thought she could have put all those excuses into consideration before letting me go through the stress of providing those items - It is not about the money for it wasn't much, but her lukewarm interest in pursing goals. Truth is that she never started the trade.
I let that slide and we moved on... Each day I noticed she doesn't have the desire to pursue goals. I mean, how could she have stayed over 3years at home without learning any skill or being purposeful. When it was clear that she wasn't being purposeful, I told her crystal clear that I would not want to be with anyone who lacks purpose or isn't resourceful. In response, she told me that she would work harder and do something. But as each day passed, it was the same old story. Right now, she teaches at a school - this was after a lot of pushing, and forcing and begging and all of that. Even, of the teaching, she complains that it is stressful.
She visited my family house twice. The first time she visited, I had to literally tell her to help in the sweeping of the house the morning following the night she arrived, which she did - I mean, I expected her to know (without being told) that that was expected of her as a first-time visitor in the frame of a prospective wife/in-law. Even as a man, you don't stay inside the room when you visit a family especially when they are doing chores - that was how I was raised. Maybe it isn't a general expectation, but that was how I was raised (Don't crucify me).
As it stands now, she isn't cleared yet and each time I tell her to go to the school, she would either reply reluctantly or get upset. Moreso, she doesn't have a skill. The truth is that, though she is nice, a virgin apparently, she may end up depending on me 100%. Given the way Nigeria is, one needs a partner who can support one. Also, coupled with the fact that though she loves me 100%, she is not very exposed (a bit timid), and lacks the desire to be independent, hardworking or achieve her own goals.
We had discussed marriage, though I have not proposed yet. Conversely, right now, I am having a rethink which has caused me to be a bit withdrawn and retrogressive. I do not want a spouse who would drag me backwards, I have suffered a lot to get to where God placed me - I don't want a setback given that my family partly depends on me. From all indications, I don't know whether she will be able to handle and account for a business if one is established for her.
Even though the decision to either proceed with or withdraw from marriage is solely mine, I'd like a piece of advice.
For matured folks.... What do you think?
foolish men like you still exist?🫤
Please change your name to bobrisky because both of you share the same stupidity
Later in life this ediot will blaming innocent village people for his downfall
Evestar200: Kaduna City is one of the most beautiful places I have been to in Nigeria. Despite the insecurity in some parts of the states, The City is one of the most peaceful, organised,, and Clean state capital in Nigeria.
El Rufai might be a devil to some Nigerians but when it comes to Infrastructure, he is among the top 5 best Governors in Nigeria.
He has been able to turn Kaduna from one of the dirtiest cities in Nigeria to one of the cleanest cities with good roads network even though most are in Kaduna North and Igabi Local Government with few in Kaduna South and Chikun LGA which makes up the Kaduna City Metropolis.
Below are some pictures of Kaduna City, Kaduna State Capital.
Cc Myn44, Seun, Nlfpmod lalasticlala Mukina2
the stupid governor only work on the Northern part of kaduna and left the southern part with gift of herdmens and bandit
Can you show us the southern part of kaduna? No! Because you are one of those entities who are being paid by that short devil to decieve people It can't be well with you for posting this nonsense
Mrfeel: How about the environmental pollution it will cause in Lagos , is lagos not too small and crowded for such a big refinery?
I read: Oil refineries emit large amounts of air pollutants such as sulfur dioxide, nitrogen oxides, and particulate matter. These pollutants can cause respiratory problems, including asthma, and increase the risk of heart disease and lung cancer etc i think lagos is too small and crowded for such a big refinery
oga sorry to say but you no get sense at all! With due respect
FairlyUSEDpussy: Well......... Israel Adesanya wasn't married but his girlfriend sued him and want half his wealth..........that one nkor?? The case might be thrown out bro! Let's wait for the final vendit
frozen70: There is a great difference between dating a girl and dating a woman
One is inexperience and not really matured to understand that loving a man is different from making him her 🏧, she doesn't want to understand that you struggle to make money and you are not expected to spend it anyhow
The other is very matured and understanding Knows that loving a man is not making him her 🏧 but loving him for who he is She equally struggles to get or make money and depends less on him
in naija there's no difference in dating a girl or a woman! Both of them are mentally deluded
ExAngel007: New locked chats in WhatsApp make your conversations more private. They're hidden in a password protected folder and notifications won't show sender or message content.
gimakon2: E go just make sense i close eye marry Colombia woman and have peace. Or even Mauritius woman. Nigerian girls and oyibo, i no come know who misbehave pass. If given a chance, they would even do worse.
yeah! This is what made me to gently back down from Xiaomi products from now! Aldo I'm still using my REDMI note 10 pro with Samsung galaxy! And I most say! Before I use to watch naija reviewer on YouTube but they have all been compromised (especially Valor and the rest) by Xiaomi because of money!
If you are watching reviews on products, I advise you stay away from naija reviewers
beekind: I am a 38 year old Nigerian American citizen dating a 26 year old Nigeria girl. I grew up in Nigeria but travelled out to the USA when I was 25 years old, I am a citizen now and doing really well for myself. I met a beautiful and godly Nigerian girl on facebook and we have been dating for some months now we are now thinking of marriage, she is in Nigeria while I am in the USA.
Some weeks ago my dad asked me to do some tests and send to him, (He is a medical doctor), I did them, turns out to be fertility tests and all was perfect. I just told him about my fiance and my plans to get married in some months time and he said she has to do fertility test before he can agree to the marriage.
This was very shocking for me as he insisted that it is his position, I haven't told my fiance cos I dont know how to and my fiance is scheduled to pay my parents a visit for the first time in Port Harcourt in 2 weeks time. My fiance is from Delta but lives in Portharcout as my parents while we are from Port harcourt.
My dad has said if I cannot tell her that he will, what do you guys think ?
Honest advise please and admin kindly push to front page for wider advise.
Thanks.
listen to any women advise here is like buying a coffins to prepare your burial
38yrs for godsake and you no get sense! Which kind mumu man you be so! I'm sure your papa dey regret why he born this dull child as his own
Don't you know that port Harcourt (harlots) is the home of ashawo or the headquarter of ashawo?
Your papa get your interest but you on the other hand, don take yansh cover your eye
He better make person born theif than to born mumu like you.
Shall na mumu like you dey father another person's child as your own.
TMSMedia: Nigeria's former Senate President, Bukola Saraki, has taken to his Twitter handle to celebrate one of his daughters bagged a degree from a UK university today May 3, IGBERETV reports.
The excited dad shared photos of him and his wife with their daughter and her husband, Olatunde Olukoya, with the caption;
Education › Re: After having Said And Done, I Realized I Got 249 - Mmesoma Ejikeme by Entanglement: 10:39pm On Jul 05, 2023
