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Winters23:
I have seen alot of family drama here on nairaland and i use to think they're all made up until it happened to me yesterday.

It have been my personal tradition to give family & friends cash gift during yuletide depending on what i can afford to give out, this season turns out to be the time i gave out the most because of the successes i recorded in business during 2021 and so i decided to share two million naira each to all immidiate family members.

It was heavy on my pocket as i was sending it out but i believe it will solve one or two problems for them.

But unfortunately one of them sent me a text message shortly after receiving the alert of N2m.

I was enraged and almost lost my cool, but as God will have it i manage to regain my sanity within a few hours.

see attached the thank you message

MALIGNANTGuest:
Hello!
Guess you all have fastened your seatbelts for the New Year? We hope for better days ahead.

I was at home yesterday & I got the shock of this festive period when a delivery agent kept dropping off items at my doorpost. Little did I know my backbone (my wife) who never ceases to surprise me had planned to lavish me with Xmas Gifts.
To my amazement, she apologized for late arrival of these items, as she had earlier booked & expected them to arrive during the Xmas period.
Honestly, I appreciate her immensely!.
Although, she's known to be ladened with such traits, but I expected a Seasonal Card in return since it was exactly what I hurriedly gave her earlier because of my tight schedule.

Honestly, she's been so wonderful!
I had to bury my face in shame .
She was able to execute such within a short time. Just want to say a Loud & a Palpable THANK YOU 2 All the Good and Hardworking Ladies out there. Keep it up. Ur efforts will always echo.

drinoayo:
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Kobidave1:
Yes sir

Kobidave1:
Just received my Npower October Stipend.. Who else have been paid.. We are waiting for November and December..

ugom123:
Thank you very much, I appreciate

ugom123:
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BarrElChapo:
Is the wife crying distraughtedly or are you just assuming ? Bro women have got some heart o forget.

HellVictorinho3:
In other words,it was never postponed.



I heard rumors of postponement.

Alexxyomo:
Dear nairaland family,
Happy new year to you all, please pardon my grammar, I'm writing on a very bad phone in a bad moment.

I'm a man in my mid 30s, I met this babe years back and we started dating, she was job hunting while I was doing fairly okay for my age. At the time I was in a on and off relationship with another girl Yankee. I wanted to settle down but the distance was a major barrier. Mind you, I don't subscribe to the school of thought which says you must travel abroad before you make it. I was opened to travel but as it didn't work out, I then searched for alternative in another woman.
Myself and the new babe were doing okay, she moved in with me partially and our sex life was on 100 horse power. We both love to make love to each other at every given opportunity.

Long story short, we decided to take things a little further by getting married but there was a religious obstacle. She came from a Muslim background but her mom was a Christian so she goes to church alongside her sibblings.
Her mum whom I loved so much was in support of our relationship at the time, she had separated with her husband, my girlfriend's dad so she moved into another apartment with her kids where I met my ex .

We decided to get her pregnant so her father won't have any option but to give us his Blessing. It was her idea by the way. Our sex life was great but it went a little higher when we decided to be together. Three months after, nothing happened, we had a quarrel and separated.
A couple of months after, My babe in Yankee visited Nigeria and we got down for the first time. She was a virgin. Just about two weeks after she returned, my naija ex babe visited. I lived in a three bedroom flat by the way, so as she moved around to inspect my apartment, she noticed I changed the bedsheet and found the old one with blood stain in another room. She asked me and I told her who came. She knew her. We went about the day's activities, cooked, saw a movie and you know that thing they say, "once debe, can always debe" I made attempt to debe again at night but she refused. I enquired and met same response.

The following morning, we decided to take a walk, it was when we got to the gate I noticed her breast was bigger, I asked if she meant what she said. She said yes. I asked who was responsible and she said her new boyfriend. I was like, how could you get pregnant for someone you barely know.

I took her to a bar where we had that discussion and she cried but affirmed the guy was nice. I wished her the best and we continued our friendship. We chat from time to time and she would send me pics of her baby bump. I decided to teace her one day by asking if she was sure the baby wasn't mine considering the timing . Then she dropped the bombshell.

I was dumbfounded. She said there was no boyfriend anywhere. She only said that cause I moved on quickly. We had a physical meeting and I stood my ground. I said even if the baby was mine, I won't accept it as she may have denied earlier to give the baby to someone else and maybe when it didn't work out with the other fellow, she decided to come back to me. We moved on,
9 months after, her mother called and said she was in labor room. I told her my stance and ended the call. That was the last time I heard from her till after two years when her mother died. I decided to lend a helping hand. I was there for her and we somehow had sex again...

Meanwhile I got married to my Yankee babe even though I'm still in naija.

During the course of her mother's burial arrangement, we agreed to run a DNA test. I made enquiries and booked a section for around 275k the following week. As a matter of fact we were the first couple to do a DNA test at the Lagos State forensic and dna center in Lagos island. We had a lengthy discussion with the white lady heading the center which lead to a working relationship between me and the center till date. As a matter of fact, my Yankee babe works as a medical doctor in a hospital she had worked in.
The DNA results came out positive. Things turned around for her, she got a good job and moved to the island. Things got bad for me so I decided to share the school fees with her. She asked me not to worry but I insisted. I paid 100k as part of the school fees and some other bills for the term, I think the fee was around 300k per term. things got worst for me and I couldn't pay for two years. I invested in a shipping business that went sour. Two year, I became homeless, we had our usual issues along the line and she blocked me from everywhere. She unblocked me again and we tried to talk things out until after the last blocking. Late last year, things got better for me again. I decided not to pursue the release of my goods from customs again and focused on new projects.
Since things are now okay, I won't want to miss out in my son's upbringing. I called her to tell her things are back to normal but she obviously has attained a greater heights and feels she can handle her bills alone. All attempts to explain to her that I didn't stop paying bills on purpose probed to no avail. I am suspecting she's married to a new man and probably has a kid with the fellow. I'm not certain about a new baby but i am of the marriage.
My boy is 7 and I won't want to ever miss out on his growth. My wife is aware of the situation and she is in support of me being active in his life. As a matter of fact she blamed me for keeping it from her, she helped me get back on my feet and she could have helped pay some of my son's bills too.


Please what can I do to get back into my son's life?

Awesomejah:
Compliments of the season everyone.

Please ladies, this thread is not to bash or condemn any lady or make you see your selves as slaves or house maids in your home. I only created this thread to encourage our wives to keep being that loving, charming and wonderful lady that your handsome husband saw and decided to walk down the journey of marriage with. Please try to still be of your best appearance and always remember to still look sexy and attractive in your pregnancy and even after childbirth.



Before you ladies come for my head this evening, please note that I AM A MARRIED LADY WITH A KID OF ABOUT TWO YEARS OLD.

ADAMUdaCOWBOY:
And who told you that she is beautiful?

ADAMUdaCOWBOY:
And who told you that she is beautiful?

gabazin080:
she knows I will want to join her when she starts and that will affect the plan of getting a bus

gabazin080:
I am a carpenter and furniture maker and my wife is an hairdresser. I have a building almost at lintel level. I abandoned the project because of uncertainty in construction work. sometimes you have a contract, sometimes you are just at home spending the money you made already with no other source of income.
so I thought of getting a bus for transportation business when I didn't go to work.
now my wife is threatening to continue it with the money I kept with her to get a car for her plus her money. though she doesn't know the money I am saving with her is for her car.
this is someone we recently discussed she should get another shop and employ a stylist to bring weekly commission for her. just because one of our neighbors moved to their own house last week, now she is more interested in being called a landlady than having other shops.
I threatened to get her arrested if she sets her feet on that land. she also refused to return my money with her and changed her phones password so I won't transfer my money.

now its new year and we ain't talking

Lucaslookers:
Please I need serious advice here because I am so confused right now.

My wife and I have been married for a year now. We've been having intercourse without protection as man and wife and of course I have been expecting her to conceive which has not been the case. I am not really bothered because we are still young and new in our marriage.
Yesterday we were supposed to have a get together with our business partners and friends and we were supposed to use my car but somehow after I tried to start the car, it didn't respond so I told my wife let's use hers which she agreed. We got into the car and she remembered that she had left the gift we intended giving one of our friends so she went back inside to get it.
I was in the car, then I opened the arm rest to put my phone and our Earbuds inside when I saw a white paper. Out of curiosity I took it out and opened it. On the top was written "Choice Laboratories" but before I could read what was inside my wife came out so I hid the paper in my pocket.
When we got to the event venue I rushed into the toilet to read what was in the paper and it was "abortion completed".
I didn't understand what it meant because my wife never told me she was pregnant talkless of aborting for any reason. Even if anything was wrong why didn't she tell me rather she hid it.
I snapped it and sent to a doctor friend and he confirmed it that the result is from a scan showing that my wife had just had an abortion. I have not been myself since yesterday evening.
She's been uneasy since morning and I know she is searching for the paper.

Please married men, how do I handle this in a matured way? I don't want to be rough about it because I suddenly feel my wife is hiding many things from me.

Kolawole2130:
We have been married for 3 years now. We stay in a self contained apartment. He tries as much as possible to pay his bills while I support him too with paying the bills.

Since we married, anytime I talk about childbearing he gets angry. Like he may not talk to me for days. I will be the one to come and beg him later. He says his not ready to start bearing kids that he wants to have enough money to take care of the kids. He says he doesnt want his children to suffer.

I am so pissed off, I am 32 now and he is 35 and he earns 100k while I earn 70k. Is that not enough to raise a family. Plus age is not on my side he doesnt look like he will be ready in a year time again. Am already getting tired and people around me are getting married. No body can even talk to him. His mind is made up already.

The last fight we had he said i can go and divorce him if i cannot wait till he is ready. He is busy reading for professional exam instead of him to be thinking of how to produce seed. Professional exam that will last another 2 years. His family can't even talk to him. Am just frustrated already.

dyingheart:
we dated for five months. i showed him so much love and care. all he did was complain it wasn't enough, he wanted to date someone else. we're not talking anymore. i miss him like mad. i can't sleep, i can't eat, i can't do anything. it's like my heart has been broken into a thousand pieces. i can't breathe anymore. someone talk to me


****abeg, the man in question is not a Nairalander. cheating was from his part. i was very faithful to him.

ezenwaez:
It's the hard truth.

ezenwaez:
Npower volunteers should expect payment by next year as capturing nears its concluding phase.