₦airaland Forum

Afikoo:
Good morning Nairalanders. I sure know you all fine.
I am writing this with heavy heart.
I know we have super rich people here who rose from poverty to riches.
This life isn't balance. Done with school. Been working as security administrator in my church and I earn 80k. I have beenplanning on getting married. Have met my fiance Parents, they were happy. I have engaged her she is happy. All of a sudden the elder brother who isn't around is angry that I haven't spoken to him about my intention. I have earlier tried his line severallly and it isnt going through. Had to chat him and he told me I am not serious that I should grow up. A bullet in my heart.
Her mum has suddenly changed and is accusing me for not calling her always.
This whole drama has gotten into my babe now she is talking about us suspending our marriage plan and try improving our income. (she is learning a skill)

I am fed up. Have suspended everything now. I have tried everything since I left school last year to improve my income. Apply for jobs here and there. Is just not cutting in.
Please, share your experience on how you were able to get out of this average life as a Nigerian. Advise me and others still struggling to rise up.
You can recommend jobs for me.
I studied history and Diplomatic Studies.
Have some certification in Leadership and human resource. Trust me, I can deliver on anything legal. I have the capacity, but haven't gotten the opportunity.
Patiently reading.

Suspend the wedding and switch to a more profitable profession. Who History help? You didn't help your future studying history in school. You have to change career path

Advice girls to stop believing in lies too

How can a guy tell you he ll buy bar beach for you, and you believe him

Oppo all the way

So talentless

musicproducer:
been an hour now been getting content not available

switch to twitter, fb is no longer attractive

Bukylinaxchange:
Bleep you

One of them spotted

Making 2023 move in 2020...that's quite early

White garment people n evil deeds....

Roscoepound:
Okay, so I meet one very fine girl on Sunday evening, I match am, whine am collect en No. but as I reach house say make I chat am up, I realize say I no dey ready for dat kind stress...I free am go light my weed. Since then, me and just dey view each other status, no comments.









Now I want to ask? Is it only me that is noticing how alot guys have become lazy in doing/chasing woman matters. I dey fear say if boys continue like this, come 2022, majority of girls go dey single.


Who else don notice this shit

Comment make me see

I remembered exchanging number with a lady and after like 3days later the babe called me dey vex "What kind of man are you? You collected my number with no intention of calling me"

Lexusgs430:
Are you sure or you are just aligning with their flimsy excuse............

To maintain the place is another issue

"Your children is"

Iya ibeji, work on your English

See his dick

Still searching for the tears

Lexusgs430:
Renting, whilst they have many seized properties.........

Its difficult coverting seized properties to your office. Too many protocols/court cases

Can only imagine the size of the second mouth.....

That's where inspiration comes from

some50686:
Hi Everyone, i got married in 2018, We are both working class.. I am in my 34 while my wife is in her late 28. My wife has been denying me sex, we rarely have sex. sometimes we can go for over a month without sex. Whenever i ask for sex, she just complains she is tired and that is it. Sometimes i would plead and try yet she wont accept. What pains me the most is the way she react when i try to approach her. She would yell and begin to shout what nonsense is this, who is this now? To the point i only could initiate sex, sat morning and even with that she still refuses. Before we got married I sat her down and told her about this issue, that i hear about it from my married friends and dont want to experience such, she assured me and said our wont be like that but our is now worse. I am not sure we had sex more than 12 times the whole of last year.

The first time i sat her down, i asked her why she is doing all this to me, she complained i dont show her enough love, that she wants me to do more house chores, and also take her to eat outside and watch movies. I told her i will try. Although i knw am not the most romantic guy around, but i try the little ways I can, we sometimes go to see the movies. I do laundry on sat, help with ironing all the clothes she would wear during the week and cook a very few time. I ensured we got a maid so she wont be pressure by house chores. I also gave her my only car so she doesnt need to enter public transport, buy food from great eateries and even icecreams, almost every other week. But she has not changed, the last major fight we had was about 3months ago and it was about sex cause she denied me for no reason. Sex has always been the source of our quarrel. She was even telling me to go meet the maid since i am always so nice to the maid one time i tried to have sex. I really feel pained, like she is taking me for a ride because of my cool and easy going attitude. I have never raised my hand on my wife or even used abusive words. I even try to ask her how work is and gist with her to increase our bonding, yet all to no avail. I am someone who doesnt like going out to share and i believe the issue can only be fixed by the both of us, but this one is begining to drag for too long and from the look of things i am the one at the loosing end. I will go to my inlaws place and smile, nobody know how mean their daughter is to me, i too feel very ashamed raising the matter with my father inlaw. Last week i tried to initiate sex the same rejection, she is tired. I felt very frustrated and am now seriously considering cheating even though i am a Christian. Cheating is not right, cause it is expensive and emotionally draining, exposes one to STDs and it is against my Christian faith but what can i do? Sometime i have had to masturbate to suppress my sexual urge, but for how long can one continue to do this? I feel very ashamed coming to nairaland but what can i do. But dont get me wrong o, my wife has her good sides but this sex issue is really beginning to hurt and it does nt look like she would change anytime soon from the way she has been behaving.

Even if she doesnt find me attractive, should that be enough reason to continue to deny me sex after 3 months. Right now we are not speaking at the moment, cause i am mad with her. The next day after all she did, she come to greet me in the morning and acts like nothing happen. This is how she does and most time i always over look it, but the one from last week really hurt the most. I feel I have made a mistake marrying her. She also doesn't really care about my eating, most time she is only bothered about what our son and the maid will eat. I always have to go to the kitchen and look for what to eat, sometimes i get food outside. Even though i always drop food money. since we started quarrelling she has stopped cooking for me. Just very frustrated.

To the experienced married men in the house, what can i do the address this issue. I am considering collecting my car, not that it would be of any use to me , just to frustrate her

She doesn't find you attractive anymore, forget all those excuses. Its time to let her know that "two can play the game".

Collect your car from her

Go about your normal duty, " never beg for sex going forward"

Be excited and find rest of mind in things and other people around you.

She'll come around, every lady love attention. But this time around, "Don't Give it to her" Ignore her, in fact if you have female friends , call them in her presence , let them visit you when she's around.

In 3months, she re-evaluate and acknowledged your worth in the marriage

Nkan to ba wun anybody lo le fenu won so

webincomeplus:
According to fools, all of these happen by mere coincidence - yet the same process plays out accurately for virtually all humans on earth.

Coincidence that has repeated itself in zillions of humans?

Repeatedly and in orderly manner. Definitely a force is behind this

Thattallgirl:
Omo the fifth week is scary o. Almost threw my phone away
This is really informative...God is awesome! His creativity is beyond our comprehension

Its so magical

thebosstrevor1:
How did he cross the Atlantic ocean with his car?

bridge

Lexusgs430:
So they are renting?....

yes

Lexusgs430:
I thought abike said she had no physical office.....

The building belongs to baba digital economy

Amotolongbo:


https://f5p3e9e4.stackpathcdn.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/05/Yakubu-1.jpgHow will I tell my children that this ball didn’t eventually enter the goal posts

you no well....I know I will see this picture. Leave the messenger and face the message

Only Amuneke make sense

Oliseh struggled the last time he was here


Renard struggled with Morocco with all the stars there and he was sacked. He always rely on finished product like rohr.

minnet:
It was just a recount and not an audit.
They're two different things

lol....probably the next excuse Trump will give

Moferere:
Famooooo

Tell me you didn't check her out

I did but I look away

Moferere:
Ọmọ, you are dangerously endowed.

Just a compliment o

Asewo

peacekante:
Yea that was a very extensive investigation but we shouldn't rule out the BBC own report where it's journalist was present at the protest ground

20 mins and you called that "on ground" yet Switch that was there throughout the night was lying.... Hypocrite!

Kingzeez10:
If she wish only her husband you lots will still castigate her. Wetin una want?

she called him out after wishing him happy birthday. That's hypocritical of her

pretydiva:
Nobody cares. Keep your thought to yourself only. Everything mustn't be on sm

says who?

Women and rules on how other women should live their lives.

Life is not one size fits all, no universal formula

penplus:
You age shame her

Mainwhile you are praying to GOD for long life

You no no no say....long life comes with old age?

Abi you no Wan old

The are in the same age bracket