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toujurs:
Choice to have sex , You mean . If they have the choice. How come most women in their early thirties are still unmarried. Some are now lesbians. Since no man have come for their hands in marriage. Women choose who to date, but ask your self is it relationship women want or marriage, men will forever be the price, because they choose who to marry, Most men especially rich boys are using this women for fun, one guy can be dating 15 girls at a time.

What about men? Thousand in their 50 still roaming about, and several millions guys find it to feed themselves not to talk of feeding family.

Let me echo bitter truth for you, women are single mainly because men failed.
woefully economically.

You urself, can you feed urself before talking of wife and kids?

shortgun:
You don't understand.
What OP is saying is that the only "choice" women have is to choose from the men that approach them..... there's nothing like going for the kind of man she wants.
She's actually disadvantaged cos her options are limited.

Did u know how many guys approaching girls on daily basis, offline and online.

If u know u would know that women even have choice far more than men.

Meanwhile, what stop a lady to say this is the type I wish to marry? You guys should stop thinking that women are not human beings, man and woman have same physiological features for Christ sake.

Dailyparrot:
I have to create this thread after reading through the topic on front page asking for jobs/professions that will make you not to marry someone.

So, I'm talking to this Unizik student that's studying medical radiography. Everything was going well. She even told me that she has told her mother about me and all. We met on Facebook and she's already asking to see me in person.

Until the day she found out that I use my car for Uber/Bolt business, everything changed. This girl stopped talking to me.

She has never been to Lagos and does not know how Uber works. She was asking how much I earn in a day, and that hope the Uber is not like their normal school cab that charge 100 naira per person, bla bla bla.

Well, I just don't want to let her know my net worth. I don't do Uber full time. I work on Fiverr and because sales dropped there, I decided to use Uber to make up for the income. I also do academic research for foreign students. Etc. I am into a lot of stuffs that fetch me nothing less than 400k a month so I don't think I should be regarded poor.

My house in the East is at roofing level. I am almost completing the payment of 4.5 million for a land I'm purchasing at Mowe, I own my car plus another Sienna I bought when Fiverr was booming.

I have a masters degree. So, should a girl reject me because I use my car to drive on Uber?

I am just laughing at her ignorance. The other time, we were talking and I jokingly asked her why she's putting on make up, and she was like, so she can find better suitors.

I thence assume I am not a better suitor because to her, I'm poor. This is someone earning 8k per month in the school that she was teaching during ASUU strike.

I wonder why women are impatient when it comes to taking decisions and that's why most of them regret later.

I am supposing being a medical student makes this girl think she deserves someone better than just a cab driver.

LOL.

This energy you are dissipating on this tutorial about ur net worth, you should have channelled it to ur unizik girlfriend who you intended to marry, if you did that, who knows if she might have considered you! because I see this effort in futility or ego showing on faceless forum.

1Sharon:
Must you invite your ex to your wedding?

When we say, woman must forget about ex when going into marriage, you guys say no, ..........they are not enemy nah, they can still help each other nah, marriage isn't bondage nah, ......this is likely result of being friendship with ex. OLD FLAME NEVER DIES EASILY!


Any girl that invites her ex to her wedding has no iota of shame and she is potential cheater if not a cheat.

FalseProphet1:
I've done this before she was my ex and we dated for about 2 years. Just that in my own case she didn't come to give me wedding IV. She came to do customized bottle water for her wedding. So she called me to tell me if so know anything about it, I told her I don't, and she was like she's in my neighborhood she'll stop by at my place so we can talk more. So she came, and we had sex.

We even had more sex even until 3 days to her wedding cos the pure water company she was doing the customized bottle water wasn't far from my house, so whenever she goes there, she'll branch at my place for a quickie.

Women sha.

Aftern 6months of marriage, beating started coming out and latter divorce, .......... nairaland hopeless beings will continuing wailing ,...... marriage nah scam, marriage not meant for everybody, marriage is overrated, blablabla

Gerard28:
Hope you're fully aware there are genuine reasons why people aren't able to repay loans when due at times?

None of us knows what exactly happened, and definitely there are terrible humans out there. I can't judge whatever approach that lady may have used since WE ALL DON'T KNOW, but just know that certain extremes lead to certain extremes.


But as I earlier said.. They were wrong to strip her naked

Genuine reasons? Which means the banks will go down, going by ur logic.

Gerard28:
Ndi Lapo and Co

I'm sure she went there and started shouting instead of being diplomatic and professional 😒

It was wrong for them to strip her naked anyway

See Gerard!

Did she even need to go thr in first place? If they have repaid their loan, nobody would shout at them ok.

dre11:
https://dailytrust.com/woman-quits-marriage-marries-daughters-boyfriend-in-kano/

Yet, here on nairaland, every Friday they post different rules and orders that govern Muslim and muslimina , but outside there it's different ball game. They fuckkky like "gods no dey"

rummmy:
If tinubu wins with a Muslim Muslim ticket...
I and my family will denouce Christianity..
Infact I will be an anti Christ..

Hope you know Tinubu himself, is 80% christian.

Putin himself is try hard not to intrude any NATO soil, even the least member, he knows what is at stake.

China is 100% neutral and Russia knows that.

Forget all the boasting of nuclear arsenals from Putin, he knows if he fires one missile, 5 will land on his soil.

Who wants to die? Definitely Putin will be number one person to dodge his head in event of destruction.

Buhari is a calamity that really dealth with intestine of naija and ruptured it.


Two arms of agency of executive, fighting dirty in most crucial time that Nigeria needed them most, yet bubu refuse to wake up from slumber.

alsudan:
The Shiaman for go force people from their house come rally?

Thiefnubuu no go see reach 200 votes for Enugu.

.......But obi will see over 200millions in Lagos .


You go soon wailing marginalisation as usual.

If this can be a lesson for some ladies, some ladies even married women ready to do any unthinkable for so called man of God.

Kobojunkie:
1. The same God cursed marriage -Genesis 3 vs 16 - after man fell. Jesus Christ simply reaffirmed God's decision from the beginning by stating clearly that there is nothing holy about marriage- Luke 20 vs 34 - 36.

2. When we pretend the married occupy as special place above others, we invariably put down those who aren't married.

3. Again, Jesus Christ said there is nothing spiritual about marriage so how can marriage be said to have these spiritual problems? Can a car have spiritual problems when there is nothing spiritual about a car?

4. Please, I advice you to go back, read and process that same verse you quoted here in context so you can do away with that ridiculous delusion that leads you to believing the author wrote that to provide backing to that spiritual nonsense.

God cursed marriage? Jesus came to redeem it according to verses you quoted incorrectly? I will advice you to desist from heresy. I'm not pity souls that ready to perish o, but foolish and gaulible that would read and biliv same.

Kobojunkie:
Marriage is not a scam but it certainly isn't blessed by God either. Jesus Christ instead said that it is those who choose to live as Eunuchs for the Kingdom of God that are blessed for such a choice - Matthew 19 vs 12 & Luke 20 vs 34 -36. It is time people stopped looking down on those who are single pretending as if they are a problem needing solving. Your marriages are not of the Kingdom of God — that much Jesus Christ made clear — so there are no spiritual problems but mental issues to be resolved in them.

God almighty in Gen1:28 says, you shall be replenished & multiplied. How can you Multiply? It's by marriage and not eunuchs ok.

Meanwhile, nowhere in my mention that I looked down on single that are not married, neither did I mock divorce or separated but once married couples.

Back to ur mention, if you biliv menta issue can cause problem in marriage and biliv spiritual problem can cause it, .....u re one of spiritual blinded human beings I mentioned, I don't need to argue with you, because doing so, will be effort in futility.

Ps144:7 talked about how God can deliver him from "great water" and 'strange children'.

I will advice you to take that verse to pastors who really understand bible to interpret they verse for you properly.

Still not understand why some women (90%) always poison the minds of their children and make them hate their fathers, whenever they are not in good term with father again.

Go to family court and see countless of such cases, in some cases, the children will not even be speaking to their father again just because father and mother are fighting.


What these women failed to know is that, they are nursing and breeding future "bitter" husband or wife which would definitely bring toxic to their marriages in future because of their ugly experiences during upbringing. Before you know, it becomes family generational curse.

Laple0541:
If the students comply then I will suggest their is no more needs of having student union government or NANS.

I am not against proper dressing in our higher institutions of learning but I think their should be some level of freedom for the students, they are adults How can they barn even just putting on a baggy, facecaps and rolling of sleeves when those making the barn equally did thesame during their time as student?

All these pretentious attitudes of our leaders is sickening.

Try to update urself on jurisdiction of NANS and by extension every trade union.

Ogonimilitant:
You paid N49million for 30 units of buses.
Which is less than 1.3m per bus. This is how you want to patronize your country.

Innoson was founded in 2007
Toyota was founded in 1937
And you want Innosson to be like Toyota. The government of Japan funded Toyota why innoson started and funded itself from the scratch.

The government of Sierra loan bought vehicles from Innosson and have not had any problem but Nigerians instead of supporting their own brand keeps marketing their brand because he is an Igbo man.

Obi is coming and Nigeria shall be great again.

Hope you know, Toyota do recall several of their vehicles from different parts of the world if they discovered errors in build up?


......if almighty Toyota could make mistake, how much less IVM.

Stop supporting wrongdoing all in the name of my tribe or religion affinity.

michlins:
Nigeria demarkets her own in every possible way. Issues like this are handled with confidentiality. How do you expect other countries to patronise your own if you do something like this

Hope you read it in full.

.... Where they said, they made several efforts and wrote several letters, yet IVM , refused to respond.

losak9111:
BOOM �

POLYGAMY! POLYGAMY!! POLYGAMY!!!

You will all agree with me that one of the most controversial word in Christiandom today is POLYGAMY

Are you a religious scholar? a Pastor? a Theologian? a born again Christian?.......?

Please, feel free to constructively contribute, castigate, correct, admonishe, advice, preach........in accordance with the provisions of the Holy Bible (the word of God)

Before I go further, I will like you to have the following questions at the back of your minds.

1). Who was the first person to engage in the act of POLYGAMY according to the Bible?

2). Is POLYGAMY a sin in the Bible?

3). Did God in the Bible condemn POLYGAMY?

4). Those that according to the Bible engaged in POLYGAMY, are they in Hell?

5). What is the fate of the polygamous Children according to the Bible?

6). Is marriage a traditional act or religious act?

7). Why do Christians condemn POLYGAMY?

8. What are the effects of POLYGAMY in Christiandom?

9). Has God changed?

GEAR 1
Lamech was the first man to marry more than one wife, Gen 4:19

GEAR 2
Godly/Holy persons that engaged in POLYGAMY according to the Bible included Abdon, Judges 12:13-14; Abijah, 2 Chronicles 13-21; Abraham, Gen 16-1-3, Gen 25:1; Ahab, 1 kings 20:1-3;
Ahaseurus, Esther 1:9,
Ashur, 1 Chronicles 4:5,
Belshazzar, Daniel 5:2,
Ben-Hadad (who married Ahab's wives), Caleb, 1 Chronicles 2:18-19, David (had 8wives), 1 Samuel 18:27, 25:39, 25:42, 2 Samuel 3:5, 5:13, 12:7-8, 12:24.
Eliphaz, Gen 36:11-12.
Elkanah, 1 Samuel 1:1-2
Esau, Gen 26:34
Ezra, 4:17-18;
Gideon, Judges 8:30....and many more.

We had not fewer than 40 Godly and ungodly men that engaged in POLYGAMY from the Bible. Also, we had not less than 43 POLYGAMY cases from the Bible.

GEAR 3
Had God condemned POLYGAMY?
No! God NEVER did In all the POLYGAMY cases mentioned in the Bible, God did not condemn any axcept David who snatched Uriah's wife. God said to David ' in 2 Samuel 12:8; I gave your master's house to you, and your master's wives into your arms. I gave you the house of Israel and Judah. And if all this had been too little, I would have given you even more." Why did God himself say so to David?

GEAR 4
Is POLYGAMY a sin?
Those that engage in POLYGAMY are they in hell?
Is Abraham in hell? (Luke 16:19-31)
Is Jacob in hell?
Is David, Solomon, Elkanah, Ezra.....@all, in hell?

GEAR 5
Does God permit POLYGAMY? The answer of course is Yes! In Genesis 21:10, God said If he (man) marries another woman, he must not deprive the first one of her food, clothing and marital rights. In 2 Samuel 12:8. God Himself said to David ,"...I gave you your master Wives,. if you need more, I would have given you"

GEAR 6
What is the fate of the polygamous children? Condemned or
Favoured?
Why was Joseph, Samuel, Solomon.... Highly favoured?

GEAR 7
Before religion there was marriage.
Gen 1:26-28, Gen 2:18-25

The issue of Monogamy was purely the tradition of the western world whom were our religious colonial masters. In the land of the White, traditionally, rivalry is a taboo. But the Jews (Israelites) and the Edomites (the blacks) shares the same tradition. A widow is not allowed to be seen in the Street, but be remarried to their husbands relatives or friends, Gen 38.

GEAR 8
Why do Christians and the west now condemn the act of POLYGAMY?
The new testament may completely be the reason as it has responded almost seamlessly on POLYGAMY matters. The new testament talks about every aspect of Christian living except POLYGAMY. Mathew 19:3-9, Jesus spoke about God initial plan for man. He actually condemned divorce but did not mention POLYGAMY. Paul admonishment to Timothy on the act and how to elect Church leadership, just like the case of levites of old (Moses...), 1 Timothy 3. The point of contention here is, If there were no men with more than a wife in the Church, Paul Won't have mentioned it. Also in 1 Corinthians 7:39.

GEAR 9
Effects of POLYGAMY:
POLYGAMY has it merits and demerits in the society and Christiandom at large.

1). In the Society, the imMortality rate is high in the female folks compared to men. The number of girls birth rate is higher than that of men, and the number of men dead rate is higher than that of women. The number of widows keep increasing geometry adding up to the number of single women in the society.
This leads to increase of infidelity, adultery, fornication in the society compared to the days of our forefathers. So pathetic nowadays to see young single girls fighting with widows and women old to be their mum for the ownerships of a guy.

2). MONOGAMY has caused reduction in the population in the Christiandom. God says in Gen 1:28 'God blessed them and said to them, "Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air and over every living creature that moves on the ground'. But what do we have today? Christians going into family planning. The Israelites lived 430yrs only in Egypt, but Pharaoh became scared because of their rapid growth in population. I can't imagine that would happen if they were practicing Family planning Monogamy

3). There's increase in population of the youth. Very soon Our children, particularly daughters (that we are trying to protect today) will be used as sex slaves because monogamy would have denied them an opportunity to marry.
C.) There are millions of stranded women in the South and, may not likely get an husband forever because of argument against polygamy; whereas hardly can a women be stranded in the North; thanks to polygamy..

GEAR 10
Has God Changed?
God of Adam, Abraham, Isaac, Jacob, .....the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, is the beginning and the end, the Alfa and Omega, He is the same yesterday, today and for ever; has not changed.

CONCLUSION
What is the way out?
Christians don't be "Paul when he was Saul'

Pastors, be careful what you preach on the pulpit about POLYGAMY as what you preach, instead of becoming light, rather, it is destroying Christianity

Hosea 4:6, 4:6 my people are destroyed from lack of knowledge.

"Because you have rejected knowledge, I also reject you as my priests; because you have ignored the law of your God, I also will ignore your children.

May the lord add blessing to this teaching... AMEN

Hope you know, it's not all kings that ruled over Israelites were godly person oo.

Eg. Ahewarusi, Ahab

Meanwhile, polygamy is never a sin, most especially people who are not priests, and you must play ur role in godly way in ur marriage.

In Nigeria, pentecostal churches take large portion of the blame.

They came in 80s, convincing everybody that cared to listen, as if, it's only through them (PFN) one can have salvation, they impose stiff and intimidated doctrines for people to obey them hook,line and sinker.

In 90s, people out of fear started giving church more than enough money and material gifts, the managers of the PFN, now realized that, they have more than enough money to spend in their entire life time, "just like oil boom that started crippling naija economy in 70s".

GOs and Superintendents now in plenty money, they too fall yakata from holy to worldly path, ....... jobless, babalawo, wolves also noticed that church now a booming business, before you know, world completely entered the church..........

AnyanwuSilas:
Total rubbish

For people like you, who are spiritual blind.


Keep on shouting marriage is scam, blaming everything on husband or wife and forget that spiritual forces can also be a problem..

Eyinju112:
I do tell my man every blessed day. You can talk to girls, flirt with them because I know talking to me alone might be boring, as some time I might be busy but the day i catch him fucking any of his so called friends, I’m done with the relationship, and if it’s marriage I won’t divorce him as I fear for my children growing up in a broken home, I’m just gon give him his total space, that day anything like emotions will be dead within me. I’ll just see him as the father of my children and not a husband. If he can’t deal with it he’s damn free to move out to his bitch, then I’ll have an explanation to give to our children that their father left. I can’t deal with an undisciplined man. I love loyalty and the day he breaks our loyalty, the betrayal will definitely kill my emotions.

May God do for you according to ur heart desires.......but have it at back of ur mind that, life is difficult beyond how you just analysis ok

JASONjnr:
I had a girl I was madly in love with and we dated for a while and I opened up my salary to her ...


The next month ending...I got billings from her...

Infact, it was very difficult to tell her I don't have money...

She knew everything about my finances and my worth.


It wasn't long I ended the relationship and took another girl in...This time around, she tried to know certain things but I kept them secret and the relationship lasted, she never complained about anything as I provided but she always wondered how I did it.

So OP, you can't open up to a woman, she will never understand the purpose of being sincere to her.


And the example you give...The man will lose both wives and his kids of he dares.....

Your last paragraph said something about understanding. No woman's will understand that you have another woman you visit. She will poison you or she will begin to cheat on you l.

Ur first girlfriend is bad girl, a leech, she is not worthy married, if it's another girl, she would be putting pressure on u to do good things of life, most especially getting ur own site and building project.

Though, it's better not to let ur woman has clue about ur income, if u truly want ur relationship to last longer.

The story op shared is not how to go into marriage but only sex partners.

Not until you play the game of marriage according to its rules, it will continuing falling like pack of cards.

* Before you go into marriage with someone, common sense should tell you to know about his family and perhaps few of close friends.


If u re married to a man/woman, under normal circumstances, you are supposed to have clues of your husband or wife job.

With the knowledge of my highlights above, it will be extremely difficult for ur partner to go astray without you (wife/husband) have a clue of present situation, unless if u re a dullard.

It's glaring to the blind that Obi would have managed the country very well at this crictical stage, far better than other, who believe chop and chop is the best to way manage county resources, most especially Tinubu.

Meanwhile, apart from that Obi chance is dim, even if he is allowed, him kinsmen would still find their way to surround him and turn the presidency to Igbo presidency, before you know , he would appointing incompetent tribe men that would pull down Nigeria furthermore just like Buhari.

Before you play office politics, make sure you know ur worth,......are you sine qua non in that organization? If not it will backfire,most especially if u don't hang on the side of those who really own power in the office.

Haakeem:
no single room for grace you say.
You must be really dumb then.

Hakeem, they instructed you in ur book,to curse, to insult, to maim ,to kill and to suck blood.

No room for forgiveness when they offend religion.

Everything about Islam is laws and orders, no single room for grace. Indeed you are into slavery!