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Buddha3:
Una never see anything!

Shebi una dey gather dey plan vote for Tinubu? The life under Buhari now go be like bread and butter if una succeed make Tinubu president.

Una papa!

And how life will be under Obi?

I guess he will order IMF, WORLD BANK, ADB, CHINA etc to write off Nigeria debt.

Or maybe he will sack half of civil servants


Oga stop deceiving urself about Obi, by projecting him as if he is messiah ,they rated Buhari higher than this 8 years ago.

If the way government (all tiers) agencies spend money by 1/3 (in which I will still consider too expensive ). Our debt will reduce significantly by just 2 years.

wasuka14:
My wife Twins sister moved to our apartment of a room and parlour self-contain with her 4 kids after the demise of her husband without notice to me.

Honestly, I really need urgent advise as I can't have access to my apartment or to my wife again. As her twin sister moved in to my small apartment with her 4 kids and loads of clothes and some other luggages. Therefore, no single space left in my parlour to sit or leave again.
Am mentally stress with what am passing through now. For 2 weeks now, I can't sleep in a small house am managing with my wife and our 4 kids too. The issue at hand is not even about apartment alone but also of feeding.
Now, before now, my wife used to manage 2500 to feed all of us for breakfast alone. But now, she barely manage 6000 every morning.
Thereby, increase daily expenses on food to like 14-16k daily depends on my pocket.
And the funny thing is that,both the sisters are not working so as to at least support with something.
For now, am managing to pass night in my shop, but twice in a day they will send my first child to my shop to fetch money for food. Am really tire. I am just a bloody welder.
I don't know how to take care of these migrants going forward.
My wife can't drive away her twins sister by herself, am also too timid to drive them because of human feeling in me. Pls what do I do. I really need help and serious advise from fellow Nigerian and non- Nigerian

Daily increment on food alone is btw 14-16k? (14*30= #420k) if I choose minimum increment spendings only on food oooo.

All of these are just to make front page, yet some hopeless and lazy readers will almost have HBP on mere figment of OP' imagination, blaming institution of marriage as usual.
.......thank God you still be able to stay in room and parlor? Wen u done with ur hallucinations you shall wake up from your dream where you saw urself in room and parlor self contained when actually you are in a single room ,"face me and face you".

Mindlog:
I do not need to google because it is part of Freud's psychoanalytic theory taught in details to those who majored in Psychology, they are part of my educational background and my daily working life.

Since u brilant than Freud that gave out the theory.....afterall naija always knowest than thou, yet society is going backward....but for me, I insist denial (in form repression)

That's (Something really happened to u but u behave as if not existence, if u re not mad u will know that its in existence)

One clear example, Nigeria is disunited but keep singing one Nigeria.

Bye .

Mindlog:
I do not need to google because it is part of Freud's psychoanalytic theory taught in details to those who majored in Psychology, they are part of my educational background and my daily working life.

Since u brilant than Freud that gave out the theory.....afterall naija always knowest than thou, yet society is going backward....but for me, I insist denial (in form repression)

That's (Something really happened to u but u behave as if not existence, if u re not mad u will know that its in existence)

Bye .

Mindlog:
Uncle, in Psychology there is nothing like "denial by repression" as denial and repression are two distinct defense mechanisms.

Google is ur friend....browse denial (psychology

He will explain for u

StrongAlphMale:
Nigerians girls and foolishness are inseparable.

Person Carry you go outing to get to know you better, you begin order wetin your papa and your entire family no fit pay.

Those two guys deserve an accolade for their acts. Whoever knows them should tell them that I said they deserve VIP seats in heaven

Some will even invite several of their friends to Join her to eat the guy down.

Slynation:
I don't know why ladies are fond of doing this thing, when you go out on a date with a guy, it's better you order something you know your account can carry to avoid stories that touches the heart...

90% of them are ebina, to buy coke 200 for themselves na problem, but very slightly opportunity, that guys carry them out, they will eat as if tomorrow no go come.

Jovialjune1:
Psychology is not 100% reality, so your bolded is the figment of your imagination

Being divorced has never killed anybody, but being in a useless marriage has killed so many people, that is reality.

One thing is certain, women scare divorce because perceived devalued outside marriages. Also, one thing is 100%, different kinds of guys and men ask divorce out farrrrrrr more than married women. They asked them out not for remarried on many occasions but just to use them to relieve tensions

Jovialjune1:
The bolded is exactly what blessing's question is all about, it is the likes of you that keep on policing womens lives like monitoring spirit, stigmatising them on what doesn't put food on your table, how exactly is it your business what divorced women or any woman choose to do with her life and body?

How does a single or divorced women's value decrease considerably? What exactly is the value of being under a man? If older women are getting attention from younger men, common sense should tell you that's because she has an extremely attractive personality.

In psychology, there is something they called "denial by repression". Meaning, denying obvious as if it's not happening. At my bolded,it's nothing but truth in reality.


They asked about reasons why women fear divorce than men and I told you biggest reasons, if you like accept if you like deceiving urself from reality.

How Buhari is sleeping, still not clear to me.


The consciences of APC people, coming out to campaign again still making me fear.



Though, they know that they are in jungle, anything. I mean anything goes in jungle.


Prime minister of Britain of less than 2 months started having issues and she may go any time sooner owing to her policies that are not working there. Here in our own Zoo, nothing and absolute nothing concerned the governed.

Rule the way you and and nobody will dear challenge ur authority.

Before he comes out another latest iphone already came out.

Lesson for everyone, don't go beyond your boundaries to get what will surely become obsolete in nearest future.


So many ladies can't say what they went through before they aquired the iphone they are using, ditto expensive hairdo they put on

So many guys are in the graves just because they want latest cars.

Easy to move on for man unlike woman.

When u are under a man as a wife, you won't know the value until you become free ranger

..........I think, Toyin Aimaku, Tonto Dikeh of this world understand better.



When a woman is single (divorcee) her values lower considerably. Even guys that are not up to her younger brother mates would ask her out, and if she don't careful, her house may become mini-brothel as a result of "shop and go" from different men and guys.

Atiku knows that entire south is for closing for him day by day......he is trying to make sure entire north back him, which will not be possible.

This is to proof, Atiku not having it to his expectations.


He will surely rest after this defeat

seunmsg:
Retaining Oyebode as CPS is not a good decision. Once disagreement start between the governor and his predecessor, Oyebode will start having crisis of loyalty. Anyway, congratulations to the governor and all the new appointees. I wish them the best as they serve Ekiti to the best of their ability.

If ex gov not turning to demi-god and super god-father, thr won't be any reason for fight ooo

sojisenai:
It is a sin, obviously...just like SEX before marriage.

However, I want to ask the believers this question. My elder Sister is a virgin at 38, she married the love of her life in the year 2020 (after dating him in the 'believer way'), a fellow believer. Long story short, the marriage has been dissolved and she is still a virgin( apparently 'complete impotency' is real, I never truly believed it could happen to a young guy). How will you convince her now that SEX before marriage is wrong?

Meanwhile, if you have an elderly loved one, or a friend who is sick or disabled...and you need a reputable company to [provide quality care for them, kindly check my signature for the best caregiving service company around.

To ur story, ur sister only be moral but not spiritual inclined. That's why she entered one chance and to butress my point, she went for dissolution of the marriage. If she is believer as she projected herself, she would not divorce since bible hate divorce.


Ur sister only suffering her body not to have sex and not cos of xtianity

omonnakoda:
Wisdom lies in saying the right thing at the right time.
The woman has been killed
So it is a legal issue.
Legally she is not at fault IN ANY WAY


Saying that at this time in this context is bizarre.
There is a time and place for everything

She is not at fault in any way and to suggest that is to suggest she somehow deserved to die.
It is not a wise thing to say

Can you say that to her father or mother at this time. It would be very callous

She is at fault, if she couldn't leave under a man by submitting her self she should have left under her room.

In her death she is at fault ok.

Learn today, not everyone that report first at police station that is innocent.

And for the husband, let him die as a result of murder

superCleanworks:
Now Mr Rational thinking husband. Read this and debunk it if you like.
1. NO WOMAN will open up such transactions to a man who keeps beating her till neighbours come.
2. Finally you found out through gossip from the person Monitoring your wife that your wife has 10 milla in her bank, what would you do?
3. Did you read that part where she opened up that it was for a building project? what next? verify or beat her and even Kill her?
4. You do not have to be a billionaire before you get busy and trust your wife to play her part. You can never monitor a woman who doesn't trust you. Even if you are a Zillionaire, if you have the tendency to beat up your wife over such matters, you will do it.
5. My wife not returning home and My wife having money in her bank are two different things. Try another referencing example.
6 Obviously I am irrational. You are more Rational than me so I rest my case.

I insist even in her death, she is blameworthy.
And for the husband, he must let him face murder case .

DonroxyII:
World is Never-Ever Peaceful because of people like you who always think their own is better than Others.

There is no Better anywhere than the person who get Sense(Reasonableness) Pass.. That's why the European are beating Black Race hands down ... they are now in Space while You are Shouting your lungs out in Church Waiting for them to come and tell You there is Garri In Mars ....

God don't give a ratazzz about Your Religion But Your "Brain" and Level of Reasonableness which You would suffer the Consequences be it Good or Bad ....

I won't help you condemn anybody Naomi or Ooni .... Their Cross to Bear But Our Culture and Civilisations is Ours We Can Only Improve on it as Reasonableness Evolves but Never-Ever to Outrightly Condemn Our Civilisations in Preference for Other's Cultures' and Civilisations which is the bane of Our Societies today! ... We are Ready to Import anything Western or Middle East even if it is Evil so far its from Isreal or Arab ... Gbam !

You are also worst off than the two of them in your Domain of Life .... Worst come to worst .. How is Inflation Bro

.u guys should stop judgement base on emotion, you should better base ur conclusion how to prevent.

If the wife had disclosed perhaps she will be alive today,

The way people like u reason will never ever make world have peace.

I insist, even in her death, she is blameworthy.

omonnakoda:
They are completely separate issues. What to do if a wife refuses to disclose. How to go about it ? Kill her?

The two should not be mixed. She is an adult. If a wife refuses to disclose what is the appropriate response?

Hope u read my epistle very well.

As the man is at fault, sooooo the wife is at fault........ infact, if not because of death, the woman would have been apportioned more blames.

DonroxyII:
You are Sharp Mouthed like Shovel

Polygamy is Our Culture not Monogamy also We don't Practice LGBTQ here unlike the Civilisations that Brought Monogamy to Us ....

For the Idol(I'm also Against that) But Ooni is the Custodian of Yoruba Religion, Culture and Civilisations and the Foremost Paramount Emperor of Yoruba Race, Yoruba Religion Worships deities and invoke on deities to invoke on Eledumare(God of the Universes) on their Behalf ... I don't Fault them, the Religion Civilisations is just yet to be Advanced But it ain't Bad to me ...

Christians also Passed through Jesus Teachings to get to God

While Muslims Passed through Mohammed Philosophies to get to God

The Only Problem is Worshipping those dieties which is not necessary But Some Muslims and Christians also Worship Mohammed and Jesus Respectively instead of God/Eledumare....


Naomi did nothing wrong as a Yoruba Daughter .... Life is a Lesson.... Everyone will learn theirs even in Evangelism so if Naomi couldn't deal She had better left.

She has absolutely nothing to regret for not being able to handle Polygamy!

Na people wey fit handle am stays and they have nothing to regret too ....

Ur trash don't need reply.

Meanwhile, try to conclude on a balance and unbiased when u are give judgement, thats how world can experience peace ok

superCleanworks:
And you have reasoned well. once a person does not see things from your own eyes then he/she is not reasoning well? is that a sign of good reasoning?

did you see that the man has a history of assault and violence or you just chose to skip that?
where in the world did you see that THE WHOLE COMMUNITY knows? or are you making excuses to validate the crime?
with such history of violence and aggression, do you think your wife would tell you of such a huge amount if you are a terrible husband ? na so.
What would you do if you find out your wife has 50 million in her bank? Beat her? Kill her?
Like I said before, I pray I will be too busy and rich to listen to gossip from someone who goes about sniffing my wife's finance and coming to tell me. If you like, sit down and wait for such a gossip to come and meet you and discuss your wife matter. Your coffee.

Are u a billionaire now? Will every husband be billionaire? Even If u re a billionaire, it's very essential for you to know the source of that kind of money in ur wife account. Pls stop saying nonsense.

Is it right for husband to assault wife ? Capital NO

But it's extremely necessary to know the source of such huge amount of money.

You are her husband for Christ sake!
I guess even if ur wife decide to sleep where she wants for a year, u will be busy to know knowledge of whereabouts of ur wife.

Did u ever imagine the money can be illegal? Coming from her concubine, infact, it may put your wife and even you the husband into problem?

Please endeavor to think like rational husband please .

Dididrumz:
Did you read the part that said they've had other fights in the past?

Maybe she already knew her husband was a useless man and letting him know about the money might out her in debt because the useless man go won use parts of d money for personal stuffs with a promise to pay it back which she knows he will not.

It's just my own angle of seeing it though.

U see, a good woman who already knew her husband behavior and she not ready to divorce, there are certain things she herself will not near, she would have known her husband toxic character.

Nothing stop her not to have such kind of huge money in her custody if she knew she couldn't disclose it having known the kind of husband she has.



The fight they had been having in the past who knows if the wife is major cause of it.

Zonefree:

Na see finish dey cause all these nonsense.

Before you send someone's wife money for building project, it's expected you let the husband be aware of the transaction. She's a married woman for krissake!

The energies reserved for bedroom matters are now used in building your project and you deem it fit not to let me know ko nice na

That woman has her own too, you are under someone for Christ sake.


Why will marriage won't have k-leg? When women want to marry and still want be leaving life of single woman.

DonroxyII:
She would be grateful she left no many Women Can handle the intricacies of Polygamy.

Polygamy is sweet to the extent of Mental Capabilities and Capacities of the Husband and Abilities to Administer Equities and Equalities!

No be Joke!

At bolded, that's why I said she will learn in hard way. Naomi, a regional envagelist cum gospel singer at age 25 went down to marry a potential poligamist and idol worshiper.


...... infact, woman can turn to slave/goat if they meet famous and rich guy......

kay29000:
I don't support this, but I can say the theory is true. I have two girlfriends right now... They both know each other, so it is not like I'm hiding one from the other. Yeah, it is a complicated situation, but they're both okay with it... And I must say, the first one calm down after I got the second girl. This theory is really true, but as I said, I don't support anyone having two wives sha, but I get why some men marry two wives.

One of disadvantages

I know a first class oba 2nd wife, that my friend's brother was sleeping with back then. There are high chances that ibo/ebira/ or others tribe will become OONI in future, for u to be king doesn't make u a super man on bed and doesn't resist ur wives not to go out when u are not satisfied them maximally in other rooms

Better, Naomi will learn in harder way.

If ur story is not any way caused by stimulants substances in ur body.

I think you should concerned of you, going public on every issues bothering ur life/marriage than any other factors.

Marriage is sacred thing that it's supposed to be dealt with privately.

Savedday:
She is using format. When billing start, u will confirm they are all the same.

9ja girls don't love and dey will never love.

They are nothing but useless. All of them...

Know this and know peace

Check and re-assess urself, if all ladies you have met or meeting behaving in same way, which means,you are the one who has problems.

general111:
It means she doesnt love you..
If a girl lovea you, she will want to eat your money.

If a lady loves you deeply, she would be buying lovely things for you.(tho not disputing not to spend money for his girl o)

Boxer, Perfume,Singlet etc.

My then girlfriend but now my wife,had/has been buying them ever since we are dating til now, and using her hard earned money to buy it.

VictorUSA:
Can you imagine?



Since I met my lovely gf she's never, for once, demanded for money or anything material from me. It makes me wonder when other guys complain about Nigerian girls' entitlement mentality. Is my gf different? She is not half-caste; her parents are all Nigerians; was she born in planet Mars?



Victor Jalingo

There are few (about 20%) who doesn't have entitlement mentality, such ladies, *all things being equal* you will enjoy marriage with them.

......but for majority, if you ask her to come ur place , money will drop from you, if you go to her place to visit, only you will spend again. ....and that's why majority of them are not into serious relationships. They make the relationship toxic, not because of bad manners o, but entitlement mentality