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Rokiat:
Lmao the psychology of men is quite funny. Most of them see a beautiful woman they know they can’t get and they just hate her. there are some men when they see you and like you but know they can’t have you they get big mad and they will literally hate you and dislike you.

They just hate her guts….they assumed you are up your self right away. Sometimes they try harder not to even check you out or look at you thinking you will now think you are all that……omg the trouble they go through.

But there are some men that will see a woman and knows she’s attractive and goes “oh she’s attractive” and just keep it moving, they know this don’t cut nothing off their masculinity.

U and op are bird of a feather, if u re not frustrated teen, u won't even look at the post twice before u ignore it.

fabolouz1:
The police has come out to clarify that the alleged killer is not an internet fraudster .

Hope u know that lady pant and other fetish objects were found in his car

Josephamstrong1:
You are right! My ex without my consent visited a guy she borrowed her laptop with the excuse of collecting it back. I asked her how she got back the laptop, she said she went herself. I laughed, she was like... why laughing naa, nothing happened o. I told her to just chill! If nothing happened, why didn’t you tell me before going? If I have the time, maybe I would have accompanied you. She was like she’s an adult naa. And they’re adults, too. They’re mature enough to handle issues. That she had to give in, in other to collect the laptop naa. I was like give in what? That the guy refused with the demand of no sex no laptop.
I giggled and that was how I let the spark between us to gradually dwindled on its own.

She told u she gave in because guy pressuring her? If ur story is true,. ......I pity the man that would end up being the husband of a free giver.

Such girls/ladies not seeing sex as sacred, just like fun, that they can give any guy that just put little pressure on them

OlaBlaize:
But you weren't married to her yet nah. Being her boyfriend doesn't change the fact that she's still single.

Knowing fully ur guy was in the church and he himself not stand up, at least she should give him such respect by not standing up.

Afterall, the question not only for single in the church "but single who is not into serious relationship". (Not singles that are into serious relationship)

Writing letter to a president that his opponent said, the electrol empire in his country compromised by imposed him on nation.


Indeed, Obidients lacked "the least" of common sense.




Me too, I want to write letter to Pope by telling him , Biden is persecuting Trump, W
with criminals charges because of 2024 presidential election USA.

Some ladies sha I shake my head for them.


Wen a lady respect herself, definitely her guy/fiance/spouse will adore her.

Legitisreal:
no be lie

As a kid we read things fall apart for waec because Nigeria government really helped Achebe career by making it mandatory

But you can't read soyinka books even for some adult it still got too draining intellectually then

What about the "trial of brother Jero"

N3TRAL:
I understand that I'm quoting an individual whose first thought about the Nairaland platform is the untimely death of its founder, Seun.

However, you need to learn that Soyinka has done more for democracy than Peter Obi.

When he was about your age, he was incarcerated by a military regime for almost two years. Just before the restoration of our presidential democracy, another military regime wanted him "dead or alive" during his necessary exile from Nigeria.

The venerable statesman has contributed more to Nigerian progress than most of you would ever do- in words and in deeds ; in theory and in practice.

As the heyday of Obidiotism is gradually coming to an end, I am proud that my convictions about the totalitarian movement were genuine and have been proven even to the least objective Nigerian.

One of my fears was the institutionalization of cancel culture. Another one was the giving of villain tags to Nigerian heroes who are not of the Igbo extraction.

I am vindicated for taking a stance against masked fascism.

Then, their Obi was no where to be found, only for him to come and reap where he did not sow.

No wonder he wanted to bring hard earned democracy down just because he was rejected at the polls

I think it's time, these uncultured people put to where they really belong.




3rd position in a race threatening brim and stones everywhere, ready to bring democracy and country down at all cost.

People often see handwriting on the wall that the marriage about to enter won't work, but always ignore it, mainly because of pressure from outside,most especially from ladies angle.



The character of person u want to marry,if u notice u can't cope with him/her on the long, never think twice that u want to get married to her/him, believing maturity would change him/her.


People hardly change ooo

igbsam:
a professor from a generation that ruined Nigeria and did nothing to stop it would sit in the confers of his comfort zone to write against a new generation of people wanting things to change from the old ways.

A new generation that has nothing important to offer but insults and uncoth language.


A new generation that in their culture, they dnt know how to respect their own fathers and elders.

Non igbo that still part of Obidients by now, need his or her brain re-check .


Obidients movement is just a manipulative strategies" by a section of a country to assume power by hook or by crook.


Thinking one politician is a saint in this naija is a tantamount to craziness.

U guys should also endeavor to oppose payment of medical residency training fund oo.



If u want govt to assist you to fund ur medical training, u must ready to give back to that society before you japa.

Premeirship refrees will assist them to win at least 2 and draw 1.

They will also assist opponent(s) to beat Man City at all cost for Arsenal to lift the trophy.

Surely, they will fall in Ethiad stadium but for the rest, still not sure of them o.

densiks:
Her so called open or closed letter is basically her little way of defending her ethnic loyalty which in my opinion is fine as far as it can go which is certainly in the the shredder to trash bin.


Secondly, Biden was declared the winner of one of the most disputed elections in American history which in the view of a lot of Americans remains a totally flawed election and led to the desecration of the capitol (Obidients could take note)

Trump and by extension most Anericans who share his views do not accord Biden any form of respect by the way because they believe the election was flawed.

The elections that also brought Trump was disputed and the Russians were blamed for hacking servers to aid a Trump win.

While I believe the elections that produced Tinubu had its own hiccups,we must admit that Democracy has its weaknesses and America being one of the oldest Democracy in the world still grapples with these institutional challenges.

I advocate that we can collectively right the wrongs by consistently improving on our integrity and nationalistic loyalty rather than pander to tribal and personal sentiments.

Therefore writing some silly letter to Biden about the internal affairs of another sovereign state shows she should definitely rather stick to her fiction and dubious feminism career where she has recorded some level of mileage.

This election is the second best in history of Nigeria after '93. Even Obi himself knows.

If we are to go how election usually held in Nigeria, Obi wouldnt have won any state outside his home state Anambra.


If Buhari allowed Tinubu and Atiku to spend their money the way they like, Obi would have been silent long time, even before election started.


I dnt blame Obidients but sitting president that allowed them to breathe the way they like instead of stiffing them, if we are to by African tradition during election.

BuhariAdvocate:
Seun I have been seeing you all this while saying you will kill tribalism and eradicating fake news on Nairaland by banning them I'm not sure if that going to work and of course the shit don't work you yourself know that.How many accounts you will ban? When one person having like 900 accounts.

The only solution to this menace let every Nairaland ushers register with their verify picture and phone number including NIN. This will totally put stop to tribalism and bring sanity to this forum.

If people can go to live program on television to and begin all sort of racial slurs , how much less faceless or nin or even BVN.

Racism is as old as world itself, it can never come to an end.

Within Yoruba, Igbo, or Hausa, they racism.

If u now go down even to village in particular tribe, u would still see element of racism.

theamazonguru:
Did you read the story at all?

This is a child who was not given the right to his choice of career.
How can a father impose his own choice of career on his child, not minding if the child likes that career choice or not.
It shouldn't be about we parents all the time, rather we should learn to reason with this children. They have a mind of their own,they are not robot for Christ sake.

That boy is even a good boy.
But I am afraid he won't remain so for too long.

You as the mother, do your best to redeem him right now while you can.
Don't just fold your arms a d watch your husband damage your son.

Oga ur gragra, won't solve anything, the child is going down the drain, if he is not careful, his life would finish.

Father that can send child to private university is average in Nigeria standard.

If the child likes, let him keep playing foolish and see his destiny destroyed.


Millions of such destiny are in ghetos, motor packs, mortuaries and grave yards.

He won't be first, neither would he be last.

Smartguyboy:
All of you blaming the father don’t know what life is all about especially if the man came from a poor background you will always want the best for your son, like he said if the boy is really good you don’t need to go abroad to start your career grace will find you here.
How can you dropout from Madonna just like That already in 300 levels and you want the man to welcome you as a hero .

People are going through hell to sponsor themselves to university and you have someone paying your fee and you decided to be ungrateful. If he thinks it’s easy why not sponsor yourself and do what you want .
Such kids always end up being useless in life.

I dnt know that we still have rational human beings in nairaland ooo.

I fear who no fear stupidity of foolish people gather on faceless forum called nairaland.

A child just dropped out from expensive university, yet foolish people conderming the father totally.

If u read the passage properly, u will noticed that wife herself trying hard to make egocentric and prodigal son an hero.

........from the passage,I see a stubborn, egocentric and prodigal son that met extremely strict dad .....


At the end, son and not father or nairaland commentators will suffer great consequences.


A father working in a company which he might have assured it would give opportunity for his son to work thr.

Son said he wanted to study another course which father won't have golden opportunity to secure his son job in that profession.


Yet foolish people blaming father 100%

To me father 30% while son 70%

Suzzytee05:
As mothers sometimes, we need to know when to defend our children against their dictator fathers.

Your husband has messed up your son's self-esteem. Pls try to be closer to him. You can even help him get accommodation elsewhere after all he's 21 before he harms himself.

Which self esteem father messed up? Or chid wanted to be problematic and prodigal on his own?

In as much I blamed father too in the situation

After spending 3 years in private university, he just woke up and say no sch again for no singular reason.

What stops him from finishing pharmacy and starts his football career or whatever he wants to do? (After 3 years in school and just 2 years left for him to finish school)


Child shouldnt become monster that whole family should be worshipping ok.


Thank God he still has good father, some very strict fathers would have sent him parking and face the remaining 4 children to succeed.

He thinks he is rubbishing his parents, he would surely regrets every bit of his actions in next 10 years or after, if he doesn't retrace his step quickly, a time is coming that father and mother won't be there for children again. +Death or old age+

Any children who don't put his feet on strong footing,will suffer in his or her entire life.

booksbo0k:
Sorry for the long write up my people, I need advice.

My first son has been behaving somehow in our family, as if he's not part of this family...
You and this boy can be in the same house but you might not set your eyes on him once for a whole day. He will be inside his room through out...

He has been telling me that he is currently working on going to rent his own place and live on his own and that if God helps him and he is able to achieve that, He will not have anything to do with our family again and that we will never set eyes on him ever again :[ ...

I would have not been bothered by such statement if it were coming from someone else, I would take it as a bluff. But this my son is someone that normally doesn't call people to check on them, not even us his parents..

When he was in his previous University before he dropped out, this boy can go for months, that is a whole semester stretch without calling anybody to know how you're doing, except you call him or maybe he wants to ask for money for something or school stuff....

We have five children and he is the first, the second and third children are away in University, he and the two last siblings are the only one's with us.. My husband refused him from going to University in a far place instead he gives him transport money to be going to his own University from home everyday...... He and his father don't even talk again except good morning greetings. He is only 21 ohh..

Let me give you guys small back story so that you can understand how all these things started.

My son graduated from secondary school (a boarding school) in 2017 at 16 years old... Initially, he said he wanted to study computer science as he said that was the course he loved and wanted to study. But my husband refused and persuaded him to study pharmacy because he worked at NAFDAC and he saw the way pharmacy graduates were living at his work place and the salary they were recieving. He and one of his chemist friend sweet talked him into going to study the course and I guess it was because he was young then and could not challenge his dad then that was why he gave in....

He wrote JAMB but he did not meet the cut of mark for pharmacy (but I later realised his score was good for computer science then)... No public University was willing to admit him for pharmacy then because his score was not good for the course but due to my husband love for the course and not wanting my son to lose admission that year , he decided to go the way of private University not minding their school fees...Long story cut short, my son got admitted into Madonna University where we were paying 1M naira every year.....After 3 years in the school and in 300L @18 years old, he began saying he was not interested in the school any longer, that he was tired of the course, that he's body is no longer in the school and blablabla that he wants to go and play football in Europe...

He came back for holiday during the beginning of covid and refused to go back to the school when they resumed, saying that he was only wasting our money by being in that school and he did not want to continue.....This got my husband really sad and angry....My son stayed home for almost two years doing nothing because my husband was adamant that if he would not go back to school, nothing for him, that all the money he has spent for school fees in that school can not be for waste that he can become a footballer after he graduates, saying no one can become a successful footballer without being a graduate, that it would later affect them in life...

But my son refused. I must confess, my son is extremely good at playing football. That was the talent i can confidently say that God personally gave to him from birth. Infact when he was graduating from secondary school, they gave him the award for the best graduating footballer and he was always the centre of attention anytime he plays at our church events. He friends used to call him "nima" then, I think...

I and my husband got tired of him staying at home for long so I went to meet with one pastor in our street who was based in the UK with his family but comes home sometimes for church related matters. I explained my son's situation to him and he offered to help my son travel out to chase his football career provided we have the funds for it. The man was secondary school class mates with "victor ikpe ekong" who was a former super eagles player but currently a pastor in Sweden. To my greatest surprise he called him on a WhatsApp video call in my presence and i was really surprised...He gave me the man's phone number to keep in contact and also scheduled a day to meet with my husband and have a discussion.. I told my son and he was very happy..I also told my husband and he was eager to meet with him at least, anything to solve my sons idleness at the time..

The pastor came to my our house on several occasions and discussed with my husband. My husband kept telling the pastor, saying he would like my son to be going to school while chasing his football career at the same time, a feat which pastor let us know would be difficult as one has to be dropped for the other. Unfortunately, my husband changed he's mind and said he was no longer interested in the whole footballer thing. He said he knew that my son wanted to become a footballer only because of girls. That he, my son knew that if he becomes a footballer, all the girls would like him, that that was the only reason he wanted to become a footballer, and that if football was his true destiny, he doesn't need to travel out for it to manifest, that he can be in Nigeria and make it from here.....That was how that chapter close like that. Pastor left for England few months after.....

After years of my son staying at home, my husband got tired. One night, he hired some Street thugs to come take my son away and beat him up...my son stayed with them for 2 weeks. When he returned, he said he was ready to go back to school. But my husband told him he won't be going back to any private University again. My son wrote jamb again to study computer science and was admitted into COOU. but my said he would not allow him go to any University that is not in the same state we are residing. Now the problem here was that all the public schools in the state we are staying will not accept you to study computer science unless you did chemistry in jamb. And my son did not do chemistry in jamb because he is not good in chemistry. If he was to study in the same state we were staying, he had to settle for another course, which he did...Now another problem arose. My husband refused to rent an apartment for my son around the school because the school is considerably far from our house, instead he decided to be giving him money (2000) everyday as transport fare to be going from home. This did not sit down well with my the boy and he again, said he was no longer interested in schooling again sef that he can't be going such far distance from home to the school everyday to study a Course he does not even like siting that it would be stressful and affect his academics and that it was unwise to be paying 60k a year as school fees while you spend 2k everyday as transport..My husband got angry and called on our estate CSO to come pick him up. They beat him so badly in public that when he got back home later in the evening, I went to check him in his room, his buttocks and back where scarred and red with huge marks...

Ever since, he has been going to the school from home and he has become very distant from us especially his dad. They don't talk again in the same house except "good morning sir"...

My son has turned into something else. He can stay indoors from morning till night. I would have said he has started keeping bad company but he does not even have a single friend, not one..Nobody calls him, and he doesn't call anybody...I have five children and he is the first. The second and third already gained admission this year in a private University and are in school currently, so he and he's last two siblings are the only one's with us now..

Why I'm writing this is because I'm scared..I'm beginning to fear that my son might commit suicide, he's beginning to show that kind of attitude.. And the plans he have to leave us forever to go and stay alone, I don't like it ohhhh...

Nairalanders please I need your advice.

I think he got the issue from boarding house.

Meanwhile, did he use to interact with outsiders?

I mean if u know any of his close friends or even girlfriends?

ChineduAPC:
Pls buy sniper and kill yourself on the 29th when Tinubu rule.

Stay in class and learn you say no, go back to school and learn how to interpret English language properly.

U will surely die before 29 to see inaguration of Tinubu.


Anyway, my comment is for intellectual and not mediocre ok.

Tinubu will not be president for a day!.




Even though world has started galvanizing around Tinubu as president.

Meanwhile, if they go home to make more population in their home states and leave states of residences to reduce in population.

If developments that are supposed to be for 1 million residents reduce cos of reduced in population, caused by "dot nation", if they come back after census, I guess IPOB will provide such amenities to cater for Igbo in states of residence.

donbachi:
And when dude start having and gets himself another wife.
She will be shouting everywhere "After all I did for him, suffered and fed him.whennhe had nothing"

Getting another wife when he can not feed his own mouth?

JASONjnr:
It's a very common thing to sleep with any woman, married or single if you know how to constantly get them gifts....

When I got my smart watch, a female colleague, a senior boss, told me of her birthday and was expecting same gift from me.... I boldly told her it will have to shift her pants for the gift to be delivered to her. She gave me a face and a week later she called me and told me why I didn't get her the gift. Told her the gift was at home and that she needed to shift a cotton to receive it. And behold, i did exactly as a I told her.

Women wants money and gifts or surprises..... If you keep doing this, you will earn their love. Then, if you know how to hit the right spot .. they will call you a keeper!

No woman get arouse with a man who feels entitled to their body without doing anything to keep it. Don't forget that you can s#x a girl if she pity's you, probably because you're undergoing some difficulty moments. But she will never see it as a thing! But soon as you attached the sex with gifts, she will always come back for more!

If ur story is not fake.

That ur female boss already in lust with you.

Even if you don't still gave her gift you will still shift her pant.

She only used avenue of watch to convey her feeling to you.

sheriffindy:
The sisi was a mutual friend, we were just friends for 2 years plus and I wasn't even interested in her and she knew. I knew she had a boyfriend which she confirmed..and all was cool.

Going forward, she chatted me up on Whatsapp one evening and was complaining that I'm harsh and not caring and ended up texting me "if I don't mind, I love you", so I was like let's try besides people were like that we fit each other. I also asked about her boyfriend which she told me that they don't communicate like that again (not that they broke up)...I was like ok oo.

But despite this girl opening up her feelings first to me, I noticed that I was still the one trying to correct her into showing affection and care towards me.

On Val's day..I bought stuffs for her but this girl never sent me a single val text till I complained later in the evening via WhatsApp of which she sent a val message...fine.

The next day..we took some pictures with her phone, as I was using her phone to transfer the pics to my WhatsApp..found out that she sent the message val message to another number..that her same ex she claimed they don't communicate well again.
She later begged n I let it slide due to some circumstances that happened with a mutual friend of ours.

Long story short..she wanted to travel to sort out her school stuffs (according to her oo) kept saying that she is scared that I would break up with her once she travels..I supported her to go ahead to sort out her school stuffs that nothing like break up was on my mind.

She travelled..but later dropped at a friend's place instead of her parents (of which she didn't tell me initially). Told me she forgot her phone charger while travelling ( a charger I bought for her). Like in the 4 days she spent there..we hardly communicate, her reason being that her phone was down and she gives it to her female friend she's squatting with who hardly stays at home at spends most of her time at her boyfriend's house.
This her friend in question, she never allowed me to talk with her or snap pics with her...when I asked her to buy a charger to keep our communication steady, she gave excuses that where it's sold is far and can't afford to trek such distance and moreover she has no cash with her and they don't accept transfers..like she was just saying it with such unseriousness...as usual in the next 5mins, she screenshoted a low battery image n was off again.

The next day .saw her online and was very angry with her and told her that I'm done with her and blocked her, I now used another Whatsapp number she didn't have to chat her up, with that I noticed she was online throughout that day. She later called me n begged me and I unblocked her...but already I've decided within me that she's another street naija girl pretending with an innocent face.

The next morning, she texted me that she's travelling to her parents place..asked her how come she's been online since with no battery issues, she said she has bought a charger, sent a screenshot of the charger, I noticed that the background of the place was different from where she stays. Also mind you, she never mentioned to me that she had plans of buying a charger yesterday.

She travelled to her parents place..gave her mum to speak with me briefly.

Now during our chats..she would be online but would hardly reply me even when she does..it's with short texts..asked her what's up, she said her dad is talking to her and she can't ignore him, I told her if u're busy with your dad why not tell me..she flared up that I'm angry and then said goodnight and went offline.

The next day,she apologized...but again I noticed that she will be online but whenever I come online and chat with her, she will reply me and then go offline again. One occasion, I got angry and told her that I knew all she has being doing and that she never told me how she got the charger, she cut the phone on me and that was all I needed, found out she blocked me on Whatsapp too which I blocked her as well.

Well,iv sent a text to her that she should not even try talking to me when she returns cos I might beat her Infront of her senior sister (the mutual friend) whom I've told that things are not ok between us and also that she was scared then cos she knew she was going to cheat on me once she travels and I would find out and break up with her.

I just wanted to be sure before calling it quits with her.

The girl in question only needed lust to satisfy with which she succeeded already. she wasn't for once in love with you, her love is in somewhere else. Such girl dnt need the stress you underwent because of her.

......just call wen "urge" comes and use her to discharge. Many of them full streets.

Gone were the days, girls took cognisance of body counts.

FreedomArmy:
We from the south east do not need nor are we begging for senate president under a stolen mandate.
Our position together with all obedient family nationwide is for the court of law to do its job and declare obi the true winner of the 2023 election. The whole world knows obi votes on many states where suppressed to allow for the drug lord to emerge
There is no senate president under a stolen mandate

How many of you? I guess you that voted massively for Obi on this platform before reality down on you.

Anyway, you can still one together on nairaland and distribute position according to how u like on nairaland.

Thortp:
Fault from me.
I found another woman in school, and the relationship ended naturally.
Although we are still good friends, but my conscience ehn.
I'm enjoying my marriage, and she's enjoying hers too.
None of our spouses knows about us till today.
But to be sincere, I still love my wife more than her. So I definitely made the best decision.

How did you know? What if either of the spouse knows and kept it to his or herself and let sleeping dog lies / believed life must move on.


Some people know many but say few o

Youths that are supposed to be in sober reflection because of uncertainty future, if not hopeless the country has put them into, they will be doing gragra forming big boys.

Anyway, I dnt blame you but failed zoo.

pansophist:
Even the word "dispatch" Sounds so rude. Why do this thing to girls? Small time you'll be looking for a virgin to marry.

This is where parents and brothers need to step up and advice women about the nature of men. Just as it's the responsibility of a man to guard his wallet, it's also the responsibility of a woman to guard her body.

You can't be sleeping and "dispatching" women like properties, you won't accept that on your sister, daughter or mother. If there is one thing I'm proud of, it's that I don't use women as properties.

I might be very harsh in my criticism to women (everyone actually), but to use them as a sexual object, then discard like tampon will hurt my soul more than I will ever hurt her.

This is particularly why lots of women whom are attracted to me in real life dislike me, because they don't understand that I'll rather reject you, than use, break your heart and dump you. Na me go suffer pass, not her.

Hope u know that 95% of lady out thr, won't think twice before they dispatch you if they see better guy?

imagrg:
Women don suffer.

This makes true the assumption that girls crave after bad boys and toy with the caring ones.

Na im good for una. Continue to die follow boys wen dey use Una like rag throway.

What did OP says that makes her bad guy?

Is ut only bad guys that normally tired of relationship?