₦airaland Forum

To commit fornication or adultery has nothing to do with profession, but,it can influence the person.


Selling beer is a kind of dirty business because u are dealing with customers who are mostly men, and they are men who know how to waste money, not only that, who will be drunk as a result of products you sold for them and they can start misbehaving. Mind you, you can't fight them because of these behaviors, though, you can caution them, but if you choose to fight, they run away and affect ur buz.

Meanwhile, women in general are easily deceived and fell for flashing of money and spending money recklessly.

The question now is that, how a woman will now run a business in which her 99% customers are potential skirt hunters and not still fall for their gimmicks, is the biggest problem o?

Delicate answer I can proffer.

1. Employ beauty girls as ur sales girls.

2. Make sure you are a type of woman who priorities complacency ultimately.

3. Dnt be *toooooo* playful with them (let them know their boundaries)

Even if a man want to do, I think it's honorably to do it far away from places like office, home and worship center, but for he-goats that their 3rd legs have totally taken control of them, they foolishly and dangerously taken risky and shameful adventures.

abobote:
Nothing destroys a man like high drive for sex.

I want to try and do away with all these side chicks

You start now and not procrastinate till tomorrow.

A man dignity should be measured about how he can checkmate excesses of his libido, and not the other round of careless hunting for anything in skirts and start hallucinating like champion.

Many blame devil while some Blame testosterone, and leave themselves for blame, ultimately the embarrassment will rest squarely on you and probably family members.

xtivin2:
See your mentality, we grow from somewhere, these girls are opportunist waiting to rip where they don't sow with stupid sense of entitlement. FYI, there are still responsible once but like I say I pity this generation many of them have become cum dump for yahoo boiz. Sex with them is now strictly monetized they no longer have policy infact they prefer married men more for comfort.

Oga, work and balance financially before you starting another struggle for relationship, stop put two heavy rods in fire at same time.



Meanwhile, you as a guy, u will use to be gov son friend far ahead bricklayer son ok

xtivin2:
Op stop painting things the way it is not. Most of these girls are products of their own pure greed. They will ignore responsible guys without cash but prefer to follow material things because they always like to compare themselves among themselves. See how all of them are into hookup now they don't have regards for young guys until when reality sets in at 30 they will start looking for spiritual alters and be forming prayer warrior. I pity this generation because most of these ladies outside have high body count. For instance I was shocked when my ex sidechick called me last month that she gave birth, this is a girl we still run things till October last year. I just pity the poor husband. To clear your doubt I met her in a place no decent girl should be. That is why ladies are the greatest perpetrator of paternity fraud. Finally most of the good girls are product of good upbringing as parents we should be up and doing.

Any guy without cash not responsible my brother, you need money to take huge responsibility that marriage comes with.


Stop hidden under ur frustrations to blackmail ladies.

toujurs:
Biggest lie. Greed and selfishness is what rendered a lot of ladies still single at early 30's. I am telling you, leave this thing you are saying. Most Nigerian women are easily decieved by what they see, very easy to decieve them, if you have a good ride and a good apartment, where they can come over for the weekend, irrespective of if you truely love them or not, it's when you eat her coochie, that is when she will begin to ask you, if you truely love her, and plan on marrying her. Yea there are decent and matured ladies who understands whats involved getting into a relationship with a decent man, who has a respectful life. But they are very few, very very few, that is why, most guys, just eat these girls to stupor, and dump afterwards, for the next babe.

As if those guys without cars not playing girls as well .

What OP said, is nothing but truth, most ladies became victims mainly cos of unserious guy they knew from beginning.

As if u guys not normally say that, .....I can't date a girl more than three months bf i discard her for new cochies......

mespusinglez:
THE OP NO SHARP AT ALL...WITHIN THAT MOMENT YOU FOR JUST GIVE HER YOUR CARD TO GIVE YOU A CALL...IS IT THAT HARD?

U think everyone turn to dog like you.


Meanwhile, if it's girl that try to take number from stranger you will be threatening brimstone and sulphur.

SeaTrade:
So I was at a restaurant having my usual breakfast.
Then few moments later,my girl called since she knows my itinery and asked if she could join.I obliged(greatest undoing!).
Like 40mins after,she came and couldn't sit beside me cos there was a partner of mine right next to me,so she sat far.
Then there was this girl that was like 10ft away from us on another table,all alone having her own breakfast.I don't know her,have never seen her before and I noticed she has been stealing glances at me and then look away when I made eye contact.
Even my partner had to whisper to my ears that someone was checking me out and all(I was well dressed and all,besides man na still fine man ooo ).
Then after a while ,my chick left to get something upstairs while I had to settle the bill at the counter for our breakfast.
Omo as I dey counter dey want pay,this girl came to the same teller I was trying to pay to and asked me if there was an attendant there(cos the attendant left to confirm some prices) ,I said yes and she stood right next to me waiting for my attendant to return so she can pay at the same point whereas there were other attendants that were empty!
I knew okay,this was it!This girl likes the man infront of her.
Time past and my attendant hadn't returned and she tried to spark up small talk,I responded briefly because my chick fit turn up at any minute.Guy I lock up!
The attendant came and I cleared my bill and told her bye.I was pained.This girl fine die and classy,chai!!
I no collect number,I no book rendezvous, nothing!
You know why?I instantly did my cost analyses in my head and figured it wasn't worth it to spook my girl of my philandering ways and lose the stability I enjoy from her over this girl I don't know.
The thing pain me ehn!chai.But nigga gats maintain.
I've never had this type before,the girl too clean,sleek,soft spoken,pretty and classy and young too(max 22).
But I let all this go because I no like risk and shalaye.
And the girl slim,all this kind girls weh you fit hang for wall Bleep them and her lips dey shine like mad!
I really lost today honestly.
Don't get me wrong,I'm a player ,bit sometimes we just can't lose what we have for uncertainty so I control myself.
Chai!!!
But one thing pleased me,it was great to know I'm still attractive. Haven't had a youngling drool over me in a while.
Tbh I thought I've lost it and is all on sugar daddy mode now.
And no,this girl ain't no hooker,she came in her own chauffeur driven Honda cos I saw her at the lot as I left(could be an uber too,I wouldn't know).

This is what we called, clear definition of true-self.

Man shouldn't be fell for every girl that comes his way, claiming of useless testosterone, not even when ur girl is around.

Man should be measured by his ability to put in check his manhood, this will go a long way to shapen ur destiny and increase your self esteem.

You so desire to rule Nigeria, yet u re so fond of leaving in London, what an absurd!


The same thing goes to Atiku and Dubai.


How many times leaders in that places come to relax just a day in Nigeria?

PussyGalore:
But why woyld the man leave his wife for 3 months?

is this enough reason to bring another man to co-habitate with? Or u dnt read before u post?

HarlequinLekex:
Donating money for a church stuff when it is affecting somebody in your family is absurd

Do u know reason why mum did that?

Claiming to be a bias judge on one sided story, portraits you as a big fool on faceless forum.

akwesenana:
Would you?

So it happened that I dropped out from school since 2017 and I haven't been at home. I came back in May though and since then I've been at home being unproductive and stagnant.

Fast forward to Saturday, my mother, who has never given me money even to buy toiletries suddenly gives me money to buy a new shirt and cut my hair all so that I would follow her to harvest on Sunday.

It was my plan to use the money for some other thing and go AWOL on Sunday but because of my elder brother I decided not to.

So the Sunday comes at last and we go to the church. Time for the harvest reaches and she donates ₦20,000. This is someone that my brother has been begging to pay money for me to go to ICT school and get some skills since May.

Is it right to donate to your church when all is not well at home?

Note: Most people were donating ₦10,000. Someone even gave ₦3,000.

And this attitude of her is pushing me deep into gambling because I can't realise money to do the least of things.

Right now, I'm waiting for her to send me to fill the gas cylinder so that I can use the change on top to bet on UCL and UEL so that I can register for NIN.

It's so sad when no one cares

Hope u know she has more money to give u if she wanted?

Do Not Demonize church because ur mother refused to give u money. The reason ur mum is treating u like that u hide it but trying to portrait church negatively.

Self deceit and hallucinations combo.

SMJay:
8 HABITS THAT WILL COST YOU YOUR JOB
There has been a wave of Nigerians abroad struggling with their new jobs outside Nigeria, this is not far fetched because there are habits that we all get away with in this country and expect the same experience in a more sensitive and professional environment.

1-Being complacent. Always strive to learn something new. There are people doing all that, and much more. Oh, and not just for those people. Do it for you!

2-Taking too long to reply to emails. I sincerely believe that it is important to reply to emails in 24 hours or less, unless of course you’re on holiday or you have been fighting with a dragon lol. Once or twice will be overlooked, but making this a habit won’t be taken too lightly.

3-Lone wolf syndrome. Have a habit of always wanting to do things on your own? That won't work in the office. "While independence is good in some situations or when concentration is needed to get a project done, generally people who are team players experience more success at work," Brooks says. “Team-playing involves a lot of positive behaviors including giving credit where it is due (that is, not taking credit for work which a colleague did), helping others when possible, doing tasks that aren’t necessarily in your job description, et cetera.” If you’re not seen as a team player, you won’t have the support of your colleagues when problems arise.


4-Coming to office with a hangover regularly. Now you maybe thinking as to who in their right mind would do that. Lagos boys can relate, especially in december. We had an intern who was fabulous at his work, and even though we did not care about what he did outside of work, his hangover affected his performance. His e-mails had several grammatical errors and he made basic mistakes, regularly. Don’t be that person. A hangover affects your productivity. Sure, you can give yourself a free pass once or twice, but that’s where it ends.

5-Saying ‘That’s not my job’ far too many times. Sure, it is annoying when you’re thrust with some work that is very different from what you normally do it even outside your area of expertise. Try to learn new things. Approach the right people, ask for help and get the job sure.

6-Browsing the net mindlessly, and checking out your social media and dating profiles at work.

7-Cursing is another no-no. More than half of employers in a survey said vulgar language is an indication that an employee is not ready for a promotion. i mean easy with the Fword at work.

8- NOT MINDING YOUR BUSINESS, This has been a major challenge for most Nigerians after migrating because "office gist" has been a norm for several years and almost seem normal. Your Colleague's marital status or sexuality is not your business.

Office romance most especially in private settings.

Zonefree:
Tinubu may be in the same league with Awolowo but he's no where near Azikiwe and Ahmadu Bello.

Azikiwe that his influence not gone beyond south East and probably south south.


Infact, Tinubu far above Azikiwe.


U might come first, not making u best ok

Thats why many Igbo are extensively rich, many of their businesses are mixed with illegal and dubious means to enrich themselves astronomically.

DonroxyII:
That's why I said There are alot of In between leading to Illicit Acts not just Ordinary for some because it's beyond their "Control" ... Some people are HyperSexual while Some don't even have enough Sexual Hormones which is just Biological abnormalities!

Not Everybody has strong determination as You and it would be Myopic to assume everybody is capable of being you or becoming you. Nahhh!

The reason why the world is imbalance is because we are all different:

Some people indulge in Sexual Irresponsibleness and Other Illicit vices: Boozing, Gambling etc to Curb Chronic Depressions from Sack from Job, Loss of Spouse, Family Problems, Economic Problems, Societal Inequalities among Others:

I don't expect Everybody to Be like You nor as Strong Willed as You that's why Societies created Governments and Rule to Regulate Us:

My Decision rule is:
Break the Law, Face the Wrath of the Law ...

shine your eyes very well because even if you didn't break the Law, You could still be made to face the Wrath of the law you never broke in the first place ....

If You sin against God of Nature, You will be Punished one way or the Other ...

For You to Sin against God, You head must not be Correct or Over Correct:

God is not Expecting our Head to Always be Correct so pay the price, Seek forgiveness and Move On

U see ur argument is just lane excuses to go beyond ur boundaries by saying, it's devil ni, I dnt know what come over me, which have become a rhetoric among Nigerians.


I insist, that ur homone can be effectively tame if u ready most especially from very beginning.

If u re not myopic, u will ask ur self, why people coming back to their normal senses when they under go psychotherapy and stop doing such excessive?


I have seen number of men who stop being dog having undergone psychotherapy ditto drug addition.

They overcame it cos they fought monster within their system that ready to put them to shame and destruction




U sleep with ur own biological daughter u now hinges it on foolish homone.....

oloyeagbaakin:
Meet this girl recently, my mum told me I should not ask anything about her educational qualification, but she is a hairdresser. Got to know after our introduction that she just finished from J.S.S 3 she did not even go to S.S.S 1 in short she doesn't even have a WAEC certificate. And our wedding is coming soon, what can I do guys?

If ur sermon is real, I think the girl should be worry about u, marrying mummy's pet is a red flag. I pity the lady because of imminent third part involvement in her marriage, she needs prayers and strong endurance for her to be able to leave in peace with ur type who is remote controlling from outside.

DonroxyII:
Testosterone pass Testosterone Bro, Alot of things are Responsible but the Most Important is Self Control Especially when You know the Penis is the Easiest to Put someone in Trouble.

Bro, what u used to train any part of ur body, it's what will master it, if u start taming it before u know, u will have control over it, and if u refused to control it, before u know , the part will dominate u.

....take for practical example of my life experience. I had it in my mind not to have romance relationship with any of lady in my office, neighbor and church long time ago.........do u think I dnt use to face pressure to go out with ladies in the afforementioned locations ? Definitely I normally see girls that are hot and beautiful there, but for my strong self determination, I forced my *body system" to overcome it.......... Since I married few years ago, I have had at least 4 strong temptations to go out with women in area I stayed, it's these women who were seducing me o, but I totally restrained them, I achieved this, owing to self discipline I have adopted prior to the time those temptation came.

Running after anything in skirts.
Watching porn.
Drinking.
Smoking.
Gambling.. are the behaviors that one refused to tame from very beginning and in which it/they has/have dominated him/her over the time and not necessarily that the body system of such person is weak or strong.

........ but for God they would be making all sort of different excuses.

yemite100:
Good evening Nairalanders
There is this particular woman that we both live together in the same house, she is a single mother of three kids (males), this woman has been very close to me and I tried to assist her with the little I have and I have been supporting her and her kids financially. She has been making life unbearable for me due to her attitude, she is not my wife, we are not dating and she want to take responsibility of everything.whenever I buy foodstuffs at home within the twinkle of an eyes everything will disappear and I wouldn't want to say anything or scold her.
I work one day on and one day off in an hotel, this woman works In a nursery School and the money is not enough for her upkeep.
I decided to help this woman get a job where I work, I got a kitchen job for her so that she can take care of her kids, unknown to me that this woman has been stealing foods from the kitchen and most times she will ask customers for money and always ready to keep the change for herself, it was one of the kitchen women that reported her case the the MD and she was caught red handed, I was expecting the manger to sack her alone but to my greatest surprise the MD ask me to leave because I stood as guarantor for her, I pleaded to him to but insisted I had to leave because when the woman was interrogated she told him she has been bringing the food to my house which I know nothing about.
Last week,her kids spoilt my television set and I had to abandon it at the radionic workshop pending when I will get money to fix it
I feel so bad right now because this woman has just done more harm to my life, my good heart has finish me
This is a sad monent of my life and I don't know when it will take me to get another job in this hard time.

U finished ur life and not mother of three as u claimed.

When u ready, u will reveal underground moves you had taken to woo the woman. She read ur mind and she capitalized on ur weakness to deal with you, unfortunately you didn't reach promised land before u served breakfast.

What am I say in parable........dnt make opposite sex ur close friend, she would take advantage of u, ur kow-tow movement around her landed u whre u dnt want sir.

ufuosman:
Let his supporters come and defend him
Dis is not something of my turn
If not for greed Osinbajo or Ameachi suppose to be the flag bearer

Those supporting Tinubu don't love Nigeria
With all wot we are still going through in baba govt some people still hv the mind to support dis man knowing truly well of his conditions
I swr una get bad mind

U said it all.

We never see anything yet, thank God bandit and kidnappers are on the jugular of everyone now.
Still imagine people will leave Osinbanjo and vote for Tinubu.

sageb:
you said the truth.
Nowadays, some women are seen as sex objects.

Some women seen or some women projected themselves as sex objects?

Wealthbrain22:
Nowadays every guy says they don’t simp anymore because they have learned their lesson and “matured” but the truth is have you men really stopped simping in real life tho,? Or is it just for clout on social media.

The reason I’m asking is, women have superior power over us men, I mean sexual power..it’s facts. An 18 year old girl has sexual power over the president of America, because as a man you MUST get hornyyy at least once a week. Now tell me, what do you men do with that urge? Most of you swear you don’t masturbate, most of you swear you don’t give women a dime, now In todays generation of Nigerian women, no girl will stay with you and allow you fvck her for free…it’s a myth in 2022, never happens. If you don’t even have a nice car or a nice apartment you will not attract any woman, if you manage to deceive a village girl , she won’t come back after her eyes open.

Now tell me, you say you don’t masturbate, you say you don’t simp, so how do you people cope with all that konji? Are guys walking about exploding with sexual urges ? If that’s the case then it’s really sad, from my observations it’s like this generation has the highest amount of lonely men exploding with sexual tension because of the decay in societal standards set by these women. Because it seems to have a health sexual life in Nigeria you must simp or masturbate, that’s what I have discovered.

So if you say you’re not a simp, then you’re a chronic masturbator, if not how do you cope with your sexual tension,??

First of first! Given money to women is not simp as some pillers bilived o in as much the money is moderate, it's caring.

Meanwhile, you get to age 35 as a man and u re well to do, it's women that will be fighting, dying and simping for u...
.at 35 and above, man will have wider range of different females(16-50) to hunt for.

Wen u are in ur 20s thr is high tendency for u to be struggling financially, and wen u struggling financially, women won't look ur side, besides, u re still small to be going out with ladies/women of 35-40, which are no more hot cake in relationship market again.

marlow1962:
Only in this country I see a 25 years old guy afraid to invite his gal over at home for dinner with the family (too bad)
Even the females are not left out, even at 30 (the unmarried) are still afraid to bring dia guy over for dinner with the family ( except it’s marriage mata, no wonder majority of dem gets old at their fadas house).
Our parents only taught us how to survive ( very good), but majority fails to teach dem how to love others, express your feelings.
At age 20, Nigerian parents already know that dia sons and daughters have a love life outside the family, so I don’t see what’s wrong with inviting them over (interrogate them to know who they really are)

When u have daughter of 18 years old, please and please give her freedom to invite boyfriends to make love on ur matrimonial bed and make sure you re refree and her mother ur wife, is linesman in that very important match o.

When they ask u, tell the whole world that, it's only in this country that parents dnt allow their children to bring lovers and that u want to change the narrative.

culf:
How would they know he is a rapist. In a united compound, children play around and move around freely. Its never the child nor the parents fault. This thing just dey pain me, he for go f**k ashawo na, haba. If only he knows what he was done to that child just because of watin sef

#May God help us and our children.

U see, in as much I blame rapist and child defilement, as a parent, u also need to guide ur kids and caution them not only how to relate with people, *males and females but also how to dress.

Out of 10 boys/guys/men, only one that can effectively tame his manhood, I think we are reading hourly on social media, even btw father and daughter.

DO NOT WAIT FOR WHEN DEEDS HAVE BEING DONE OK. DELAY CAN BE DANGEROUS.


not even in face me and slap u apartment ....

blaquebelle:
How are you so sure she didn't take a guys phone to go charge for him. Assumptious snoop.

I have seen countless ladies that I know with their phones using nudes/near nudes as wallpapers. With my experience, 90% of such ladies are unrepentant olosho.

dazzlingd:
Some things u do, try some of these things in countries like US, Uk and u will find yourself in a mess. Why invading someone’s privacy

But nudes and other dirty stuffs are being leaked in advanced country, even celebrities and politicians privacies.

Hope u have the word paparazzi before

Its now clear that Obaseki is not a good leader that can coordinate people effectively in harmony. Yet he hide his delvilsh character for 8 years under Oshiomole.

Abizz:
Fastforwarded.

This man became so nonchalant that he would even take this woman to the official apartment. I mean officials inhabit about 12% of this estate and the apartments paid for by the company are literally just beside each other. You could imagine his gut foolishness, in fact, the foolishness was from both parties. Nothing happened still tho.

About two months ago.
First off, the company does give staff official phones with official sims and the sims come with free call to every official line. I mean, you could make a billion-minute call with zero naira to other staff, although to some selected levels. By default, a junior staff isn't supposed to have one unless the drivers who need them to lessen their phone call duties.
He first abused his office by unofficially allocating an official line to this lady because he wanted to be doing day time "extra cool" with her and funnily enough, despite all he earns, he couldn't buy the lady a new phone. He had to go to the store where abandoned official phones are kept to get her one of the phones. How much dem dey sell phones sef? Man could honestly afford any phone.
Of course he got away with it at first not until last month when this lady and other staff were being driven home and the lady forgot her phone in the staff bus. Someone (I suspect already hated the man and never approved of what he had going with the lady) now went through their chats. Gathered enough screenshots as evidence and sent them to some of the bosses. I suspect it's the driver because only someone with an official line could easily guess the numbers of the top officials. The first seven digits of each line are the same, only the last four are different and the last digits are kind of shared according to ranks. So for instance, if our official line was 0706789-xxxx, only the xxxx would be different and whoever uses 0 7 0 6 7 8 9 0 0 0 1 is most definitely an oga at the top.
You do not have a business with this if you don't have an official line.
The person sha shared the proofs of their romance with the management and my people, after our monthly meeting today. He was asked to drop his car key, house key and the official phone. Just like that. That was it, please submit your resignation letter today and your refusal to submit it before 4PM still means sure dismissal. I watched as he cried his eyes out and in all honesty, I pitied him and the lady as well. The two of them were sent off today with zero compensation. No nothing.

By the way, man was always talking about how difficult life was for him until he got the job. Without being told, you could picture life of a man with seven children and a wife. I could only hope he saved enough which looks almost impossible with seven children. Even me wey still single sef, na blow as e dey come for years till I manage get small sense recently.
See ehn... Promiscuity dey damage things, make I no lie. Na so Egbon take return to trenches. I pity his beautiful wife and seven children, I pity the woman as well and her own three children. I even pity myself wey type this epistle untop another person matter.. Make we sha dey learn sha.
Ire o.

Better for him, he will learn in hard way. Any man who cannot tame his stubborn manhood, let him face whatever calamity that befalls him.
Atimes, I do imagine if it's not testosterone that runs in the body of some guys/men that runs in my body. (When I see them turn to beasts whenever they sight females)

One thing about me is that, I can never, ever have romance in my place of work, my street and my church, not even office romance, most careless type of relationship.