₦airaland Forum

Romanoff:
The way some of you just conclude that single mothers chose wrong is shocking.

You think you can know someone 100%? You've not heard of how people pretend till you marry them and see that they are monsters?

There's nothing wrong with being a single mother. For every single mother, there's a man like you who led to her being single.

Let's be kind, no one knows tomorrow. Even your daughter fit be single mother tomorrow.

If you never marry, just pray make you know marry person wey go deceive you with "good character",cause many will put up a good front till you marry them and see that they are monsters. Na when you enter your eye go clear.

Romanoff:
Separation is not worse. Separation is better than staying and ruining not just the lives of the parents but that of the kids.

It takes courage to separate from a bad marriage.

Until you've been there or experienced it with people you care about, it's easy to judge from the outside.

Amopeekun:
What about the man that was raised by this type of single mother who didn't teach her son anything?

Do you think the man will be good for marriage too?

What advice would you give a close female relative if she brings home a man brought up by a 'supposedly irresponsible single mother'?

Emekaonline:
If not Nigeria being taken for a banana republic, Emefiele by now should have been sacked. I have never seen a governor of a central bank of any country wanting to be president while still serving. It is really a shame

Romanoff:
Better to marry someone who was raised in a healthy environment by a single parent than to marry someone who was raised in a toxic and abusive two parent household.

Ugo. C. Shege.

Just do your research well on the parent that raised her and the circumstances behind her parents separation.

StrongAlphMale:
Comrade Only SIMPs try to prove a point to girl.
Probably to make her know that he has that Money etc. Next time don't bother to prove anything! When she says you're STINGY, and since you don't want to bang her, kindly delete her ASAP and move on. No be her Papa give you money and she isn't working for you either. Trying to prove anything to a girl is an act of simping. No sane man should try that Rubbish.

Autobot05:
You dunno me ... I did it to prove a point to her.

Socratiz:
She doesn't need a lawyer especially because this is happening in Lagos state.

There is a Lagos State Agency she can contact. The government will intervene and the man will not be able to harass her unless he wants he wants to taste prison beans.

I am not sure whether the information should be shared on a public forum like this.

You can send me a mail so that I give you the necessary information

ColdHunter:
I have a cousin who have been in an abusive marriage for the past 12years. Not necessarily physical but emotional and verbal abuse. She is totally fed up as her mental health has been deteriorating due to constant fear. Her husband happens to be a rich but mischievous man and she is worried about what the man could do should she file for legal seperation.

Her concern is that he may go after her if she files for seperation. Secondly, is it the court that determines custody of their 3 children(12, 11, 9). She have already found accommodation but hasnt informed him of her plans to separate. She doesnt want anything from him as she has a successful business.

Are there steps she must take to forestall any bullying?

Experienced people should please contribute.

Autobot05:
That's how one billed me ordinary shawarma when I just met her last year..after few weeks of friendship
Before I said yes or no her next question was " is like you're stingy? " that was when I knew she was a criminal. [i]I bought her the shawarma and deleted her number later[/i].
Keeping a woman as friend these days ehn.
Many are hungry

Kobojunkie:
1. Don't be deceived. No third party can derail a marriage that is not already on its way to being derailed.

sketcherJ:
Imagine her saying the longevity of a marriage isn’t the prize and yet she is still with her husband. If people go ahead with this mentality, then they will
Opt out anytime there is a small difficulty which could have been settled amicably. Where did she put the marriage vows? For better for worse? Till death do is part. That’s what makes marriage different from other institutions. It’s a partnership till you are old and if you are able to last that much with your partner then you have won the prize of marriage.

Juliearth:
You know your boss has a crush on you and you want to collect gifts from him? No, babe! The gift is a bait and the moment you accept it, his flirting would graduate to stage two. That act would also give him hopes that he can actually have you. Whenever he makes such unofficial visits to your office, each sentence you make should be tied to your husband. For instance:
Boss: I'd like to take you to that new fancy restaurant down South tomorrow.
You: That is interesting, sir. My husband took me there for a romantic 5th wedding anniversary dinner and we plan on going there tomorrow again. So, I can't be able to honour your request. Moreover, my husband would not approve of me having a dinner with you.
Boss: you don't have to tell him though
You: I am sorry sir, but I tell my husband everything and he, likewise.
Boss: Okay then. Nice bracelet by the way (tries to touch it)
You: I am sorry sir, but you can't do that, I am a married woman. Thanks for the compliment though. My husband got it for me as a gift.

Boss: I just wanted to feel the bracelet
You: I know that sir, but as a married woman, the only contact I feel comfortable having is_are official contacts.


I don't know if you get my point though.

Be Smart!!!!

Preciousgirl:
I am highly convinced that my boss is interested in me
I can't imagine that my boss left his office yesterday to my office and sat before me. He was jittery all through his convo with me and it wasn't work related. He told me he has a surprise gift for me

Is this also not a clear sign?
Also, as a married woman, can I accept his gift?

Thank u

tollyboy5:
I've heard similar story also. Our head of IT once told us about the lady he wanted to get married too in his undergraduate days but couldn't because he was sure his parent wanted him to do masters while her own parent wanted her to get married quick.

So they ended the relationship, she got married and traveled out, my formal boss did his masters and is doing well also, he has traveled to many countries.
He and his first love are friends, he's married and she's married.

She introduced him to her husband, the day she and her husband came to Nigeria her husband ask my boss and his wife to go out together for a while.
They went and returned.

He's currently helping them to do some stuff in Nigeria. Some people don't understand that it's not everyone that has this sick mentality of wanting to fornicate and every giving opportunity even if it's with a married person.

Jeon:
..

I don't know for them.
Some sees it as fetish, ego booster, domination e. t. c.


Fetish /Domination as examples goes to those sleeping with minors..

But watch as they come here to justify Rape as a punishment for indecent dressing . What an excuse! a stupid one. Ladies in Èro /Buba still get raped, Grandmas still can't escape rape.Married couples do raped themselves [people that are seeing /used to each others unclothedness do rape themselves ] .So there's no shity Rape is caused by indecent dressing .

Otitipupa:
She has been staying with us for over a month now. I don’t even know how they met each other, he just brought her one day and introduced her as his girlfriend.

I have tried to tell him it’s wrong being with an underaged girl but he told me to mind my business. I can’t say much to him because I don’t have a job and I’m squatting with him. He is the one feeding me and giving me money to go for interviews.

He is treating the girl really bad. I sleep on the floor while they sleep on the bed. One night, he wanted to have his way with her and the girl said she was tired. I heard him tell her that she is not a real woman that is always ready to please her man. He threatened her he won’t marry her again. She told him she is sorry and allowed him.

He has slapped her 2 times in my presence. He is treating her like a slave. I am afraid to advice the girl to go back home as she might tell him.

The guy is a notorious cultist and I don’t want to step on his toes. Please how do I report this matter anonymously to the right authorities without it backfiring me.

We stay in a akwaibom

truthCoder:
Following your logic, it is also not permissible to treat snake bikes since the anti-venom is derived from snakes.

This implies that anyone who is bitten by a snake must be left to die a slow and painful death, according to your logic.

Thanks for such a great insight.

Misterc:
An Old Man of 47years broke into a house through the roof.... To Steal and ended up Raping a woman in the presence of her 2year old son

Like how do these rapists sleep at night sef....? Which part of their lungs do they even breath from