eyinjuege: Which mothers do absolutely nothing to being money home? Most mothers I know brought something home, and I'm talking about the present grandmother's now in their 50s, 60s and 70s. The current mothers in their 40s, 30s definitely bring something home in Nigeria. How many men can truly handle the family affairs in this current Nigeria with no contribution from their wives?
The mothers in 50s, 60s are they not mothers? Can they turn back of their children against their dad?
Even 30 and 40, how many doing tangible job that is reliable? Money majority of them earnings they send it out from their immediate family down to their mother that has turned their back against their dad
anonimi: Can you please share where he too said that he made Buhari president and wants to be rewarded with Emilokan next year to continue Buhari's failures. Thanks in advance.
Can you show me law that says if I find work for you, I am the one, that must also do the work for u and you will be the person to collect the salary?
Wittyglam: Most fathers cause this by themselves. Most men one thinks raising a family is by just providing and not relating with the kids. Check this video out for more details.
And most MotherS doing absolutely nothing to bring money home, it's fathers that will go out and do all kinds of hard works, to feed, cloth, house and school fees, not only the children but jobless mothers, yet the wives will still have entitlement mentality to turn children against fathers.
For those that are doing that and which are many, they biliv the children come from their body, hence the children belong to them ,much more than their fathers and that, such children must love and take care of them farrrrr more than dad.
To achieve this, they first turn the back of the children against dad, if hatred created, the children will be able to focus fully on them.
I remember a friend once had a bet with me that if I went behind his back to woo his girlfriend for sex and I succeeded, he would give me a 100k.
I actually went behind him to ask the girl to go out with me and she did. It was a prearranged place. The boyfriend was hiding in the toilet of the chalet. I promised to give the lady 50k if she had sex with me and she obliged.
She pulled off her clothes in the room and I did same. As I entered her, the boyfriend emerged from the toilet. Come and see fright!
Anyway, I pulled out of her and I later had 100k to my credit while the girl had shame and was dumped by her boyfriend. She couldn't even ask me for her 50k!
Oga, as it's now, 99% of girls have more than one guy that sliding, they may be dating just one guy o but not one guy entering.
Gone were the days that girls sticked to *virtue of not sleeping around.
Today na money for hand ,back for ground shap-shap.
Romanoff: If it's the wife that has this kind of addiction, will you be asking him to keep on praying for his wife?
Unless that man hits rock bottom, he won't change.
If she can have an arrangement with the office so a percentage of his salary can be paid to her, it's an option. So at least,basic needs can be met on the house with the addition of her own earning.
So I will advise the man to cut his wife to pieces abi.
Ok o, let her start cursing her husband ooo
......that's why u ladies find it hard to have stable and lasting relationship...
Kobojunkie: Do you have work of your own? If not, please find some way of bringing in money to your marriage rather than continuing to depend 100% on your husband please.
If what your husband is struggling with is an addiction, I am afraid there isn't much you can do for him except maybe convince him to seek mental health therapy for treatment to what is mental illness. You can support him in his getting treatment with the love you have for him and maybe also make arrangements to see if he can drop feeding money before he bets the rest.
P.s. Do not bother engaging in the typical fasting and praying rituals on his behalf as those only add undue stress to your own life. Spend that energy instead on working to provide for your family.
Thre isn't much she can do physical, going by ur words, yet u still adviced her not to engage in spiritual.
If prayers are not working for u, does that mean it's not working for others?
Hadeynike001: Good day family,please help me am tired of my marriage.my husband's life is being ruined by betting.He bet virtually every penny. My husband started betting 5years ago.family,friends,pastor and myself had adviced him,he will look sober but at the end he will still go back to it. He doesn't have a kobo in his account.He earn below 100k but I told him if we plan well with my own little salary we will achieve something good.we have 2kids. He drop money for feeding whenever he like.He call different people begging for money to feed us after betting his salary away.I love my husband but I don't know how to help him. I need your advice,please
Betting is an "addition", it takes grace of God to leave body.
Keep on praying for him sha.
Meanwhile, a reasonable husband will do every important things that house needed before commit his money to unnecessary
Feeding, school fees, house rent etc must come before, beer, girlfriends, betting etc.
That's how real men keep their marriages going......
mii4u: All the pple calling him thief and scammer won't come fwd now, all of them don kip quiet like headless chickens.
The man has challenged anyone to come fwd and prove his innocence wrong, nobody wants to come, na only to dey sing for Obidients ears like mosquitoes main dem Sabi.
I wish they will make it mandatory for all the candidates to make such speech before the election, the thing for just be a one way victory.
1/2 of a trillion he received, what has he done with it, where are the infrastructure to show where the gangantual money entered. No wonder he is bragging that he is richer than America president.
I guess ur mum is the ruler and commander in chief in ur family. This makes u toxic about Nigeria women, cos of mentality you had in ur upbringing.
I also strongly bilived, since ur Nigeria mother ruled over her husband, make u a guy of hopelessness and that contributed for u not be able to relate well with Nigeria's girls.
Ur useless sisters from Nigeria, how are they fearing bro?
what else do you want to check in a typical useless Nigerian girls house whom still Always living with her parents but feeding off a man pocket like a hungry wolf
Please guys I need your help. @mod pls help me move to appropriate section.
I am confuse, needs advice on what step to take next.
the whole thing begins on 25th July when i had unprotected sex with my bf. before then my last period came on the 17th of July. so i had sex just about a week after.
since then uptil now i have not seen my period. Initially I worried i may be pregnant but after several urine and blood test it all turns out negetive. what could be wrong here? This is the first time i am experiencing this.
i have done 4 test myself using pt test strips. but all came negetive. Yesterday I went to a private lab an de used my blood and urine sample for pregnancy test, it stil came out negetive.
Abeg any mediccal expert or any one with past experience should assist with advice on next step please.
Note, my boyfriend is aware of the whole situation. he himself is confused. plus I am 23 yrs old just incase my age will aid in the diagnosis.
U need advice or u go and see gynecologist?
........sign of infertility in future, pls attend to ur health as quickly as possible.
GemstoneJs: I'm always scared/shy of asking a lady to relationship, like i don't know how to make the first approch, what to say and what to ask her. Please I need advice on what to do. Its my first time posting here, please mod move to front page. Thanks.
Ur age not yet fully mature for asking woman out.
With time confident will come up, every guy passes this stage of life.
gshsj: I'm creating this thread cos i want to seek advice. For one, I'm not the typical punter, but i do stake a bet very occasionally. I presently have 12k in my staking acct which i less often bet sef . But, So there's a couple of millions paid into my account through an award for a particular business and the half of it for a certain person. . Since the money will be with me for some weeks, I'm thinking of doing bet Naija with 1.3 to 2 odd Should i try it? Maybe with 1 million and not all... I'm really nervous..lol...i no geh mind... And what has been your experience betting with cash kept with you?
I will advice u to read those bet company website.
It reads..... amount that too big for u to loose, don't use it to stake.......
Didi2d: The person I asked her about is my sisters husband. My sisters husband called her, I thought she would tell me what the call was about but she didn't, so I had to asked her 24hrs later. Be for I asked her, I asked my sis if she's aware of the call and she said she's not
U have bigger problem my brother, u re too inquisitive, infact, ur type can scatter gathering with ur finding out what people are saying here and there.
...... If ur in- law needs u for discussion he would call u directly for Christ sake. "U still went ahead to ask ur own sister again, if she aware of their discussion.
where u said, u wanted to know discussion between ur wife and ur in law , probably at all cost.
I used that to try to understand ur personality, .....u re a type u will like to bring out mountain from ant's hole. (Creating problems where it seems not to exit)
By now, after 16 years of marriage, you ought to have understood 85% of ur woman's characters.
My brother learn how to take away eye (Ignore) from little and minor issues.
Meanwhile, change ur tactics of dealing with her.
1. Be ignoring her on many issues.
2. Stop helping her to buy things from anywhere, no matter how small it's or inconvenience for her (if she complains, tell her you dnt buy it because u dnt want complain.)
If u see something u like and u buy it, if she ask u price, tell her, are u the one that want to pay the money?)
And for the children, if u command them and they do otherwise, discpline they thourogly, so next time they won't disobey ur instructions, either the one their mother says or outsiders.
If ur children fear u, they won't be doing bidding of their mother at ur own expenses .