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DoubleFingers:
N/B: This could be a bit lengthy, but please, read to the end.

I have been making preparations since late last year to settle down with my fiancee. I intend going to collect the marriage list this coming April to kick start the marriage processes.

My girl and I are very compatible in almost all ramifications you can think of. Honestly, she's the perfect definition of a supportive wife, well mannered and loyal to the core, just to say a few.

We now lived in different states, but we've known ourselves and have been seeing/dating each other in the same city between December 2016 and September 2019. I even made her to redeploy during her NYSC in 2018, to be close to me because of my intentions for her.

As usual, we've been praying and trying to seek the face of God to get divine revelation.

So on the 9th of this month (March), my fiancee and her mum visited a priest for normal pre marriage talk/counseling. The priest of course asked my girl some questions about me, which she answered sincerely. The priest then advised my girl and her mum to put everything in God's hand and be praying about it.

About a week later (around 16th or so), my fiancée's mother had a dream where my fiancée's hair was cut in the dream. In trying to understand the dream, my fiancee then called her cousin who is a Reverend, and the cousin told her that the dream is a bad dream, that it means "someone is trying to take her glory."

That dream compelled my fiancee and her mum to have two days midnight prayer (19th and 20th precisely) to cancel any bad dream.

Reaching today, my girl and her mum visited the priest again, to let him know about the dream. The priest then asked my girl about her understand of the dream. My girl said it means "widowhood." But my girl's mum was having a different understanding.

In summary, the priest then asked my girl if she had gotten a divine revelation, as to whether we're meant to be husband and wife. My girl said no has not.
Personally, I've fasted and prayed severally to God to show me reasons not to marry my fiancee, but I'm yet to see reasons not to.

Honestly, apart from divine validation which I'm yet to get, I'm yet to see reasons why I shouldn't marry my fiancee. And my girl have been worried since this afternoon, thereby getting me worried also.

Now my questions are:

1.) What does it mean for someone's hair to be cut in a dream?

2.) Is it 100% compulsory that one must get a divine validation to have a peaceful and happy marriage?

Please, your honest contributions will be appreciated.

Mods, please help a brother if this piece isn't in the right section.

And help send it to front page for more response.

Thanks.

Op since you and your fiancée are religious people my contribution is

[/b]Hab.2:2 The just shall live by HIS faith not by the priest faith.[b]

If you believe you are going to die young so shall it be, if your fiancée believe she will be a widow young even if she breaks up with you to marry another person she will still be a widow young but if you both believe otherwise so it will be.

They should all be packed and deported back to their various states

Igbos always want to have more there quota

Mohammed is an adulterer, a terrorist and a bandit.

Oya! Muslim faithfuls come and beat me, am at home..

November1857:
Often times, who wail first laugh last! They wailed in 2015 and 2019 while afonja was rejoicing! Today, one Sick looking old man has send them packing from their ancestral land to refugee camp, where they're busy wailing and gnashing of teeths !

lndeed He who wail first laugh last..

Are Igbos laughing now or they are lamenting.

One of the most important prayers people pray in life is not to labour in vain or sow in vain, as it's now the picture is that igbos years of labouring and sowing in PDP is ending in vain.

Igbos are meant to sow for Fulanis to harvest. In 2023 Igbos will be Atikulating again, they are not meant to rule in Nigeria

That everyone is beefing over Buhari bad government is understandable but for some group of people to base Nigeria unity on Igbo presidency is nonsense.

Igbos should channel their grouse on the political party where they have invested their support and loyalty. That PDP do not fansy the idea of giving presidential opportunity to igbos simply means that PDP considers igbos to lack the political value that could guarantee them a win

One of the instruments most of this Africa pastors used in promoting their works is lies and deceit. I am not a bit surprise

Whenever you here PDP crying rigging like Trump in an election like this you should know they are suffering heavy defeat

And his names are [/b]Ibeh Theophilous Uche[b]

Masterkernel1:
After enslaving all Lagos institutions, please stop the talk and come clean.

Where has your cleanness taking you. And if probe you will be somewhere trying to hit on a maga, pot calling kettle black.

hpk:
Paid speakers... NEXT!

See your pain. You hope someone recognise your relevance to the point of paying you to speak.

Beside instead of hating aspire to one day get the privilege of inviting people you will pay to speak in an invent organized in your honour, that's a better life than the hate life you're living.

He has suddenly become clean and fit since he remains a PDP.

If this happen in APC now PDP will not let us hear word again

PDP the igbos beloved party don't really give a damn about Igbo's. They are after gaining power not minding being fair to igbos even if that power will enslave Nigerians to the Fulanization of the country by the north.

Umahi is after all vindicated

Switchman:
Please I Need Your Candid And Long Term Advise, I Am Presently Depressed And Out

This will be a lengthy one but I promise to summarize it as much as I can.

I met a lady in her late 30s 18months ago through an online friend. I was working in Lagos while she was based and working in Abuja.

We chatted for a while before she volunteered to come to Lagos for a visit over the weekend which doesn't seem a bad idea to me cos I believed seeing in person is better than 1 million pictures.

Due to her age and desperation, we met and she liked what she saw in me and intensive talks began on how I can relocate to Abuja and get better job. I actually haven't been to Abuja so I was excited to take that move with the hope of becoming a better person and getting a better job.

I resigned from my job due to some issues as at that time which could had been managed but so I can have more time to visit and see how things are in Abuja before making my final preparation to relocate. She supports financially during those time while I use my car for ehailing business pending when I will finally relocate.

Covid 19 lock down came and all plans were halted due to restrictions on vehicular movements. Fast forward to November last year I made final plans and I agreed to finally relocate but on the conditions that we will need to get a new apartment cos I don't want to move in with her to her former apartment which was a one room self contain, we got a 1 bedroom apartment and I moved in with her. She owns 90% stake on the expenses incurred but in the spirit of hope for a better job, I will upgrade the apartment to have an equal stake in the home.

It's been 3 months now I have fully relocated and we have been cohabiting but it's been hell for me and I just need help on how to get out of this mess I put myself. No job was forth coming and due to the fact that I am home always, I have been reduced to a house help cos I am the one doing the chores, cleaning the dishes and even my laundry though she pays for her own, so many other insults and atimes it's with exchanges of words before I can take a walk just to acclimatize myself with the terrains of the area.

It's really a bad experience for a man not to have a steady source of income cos in a twinkle of an eye the love will vanish.

I love the lifestyle of Abuja cos it is less stressful than Lagos and I will really like to get a good source of income so I can get my own apartment and be free from the shackles I put myself in the name of love.

I really need help now cos I know my days are numbered and it's a matter of time before she sends me packing cos I really don't have the right to the apartment. Please house, I need your candid advise on what to do and as always constructive criticism is allowed.

Thanks

Switchman

Oga pack out with dignity now before you are thrown out. Next time learn that a bird in hand is better than thousands in the bush

The current CBN governor is the most daft of all the CBN governor ever in Nigeria

Is good she's rich but with her excess make she's not glowing

Ahmed0336:
Saw this yesterday and thought I should share. Good old days!!!!!!!!

Lol

From where did you exhumed it?

chiemmanuel:
Man city
Bayern
Chelsea
Liverpool




Bayern Vs city for the final

Dortmund is sending City home, watch it

emerich:
Mancity would demolish all Bundesliga opponents to finally destroy Chelsea in the final.....

City will not survive Dortmund

ddippset:


Bayern Versus City for final?

Can they meet in the semi final and meet again in the final

Mark my word Dortmund will beat City

LosC:
CHELSEA WILL WIN THIS CHAMPIONS LEAGUE

Is good to be ambitious but don't be over ambitious

Those dispatch riders can be too reckless.

Igbo is scammed by PDP

christopheru:
Let's get down to the topic.
If you were offered a Job in Lagos for N150k and you were offered the same job in Ibadan for N120k, which one will you go for?

I have lived in the two places. Some may argue that things are cheap in Ibadan, yes house is cheap, transportation is cheap and some other few things but in terms of value, opportunities sociality, civilization and class I will always chose Lagos with even lesser pay over Ibadan

Islam is a scam. You prohibit alcohol and you collect vat on alcoholic drinks yet your imams hides drinks inside kettles to drink

This is highly welcome

Prospertochu:
I got my girlfriend then now wife pregnant, I wasn't ready for marriage. My plan was to take care of her and my baby while she stays in her father's house, her mother was fine with it as long as I take care of my responsibilities, but everything changed when the scan confirmed that she was carrying triples, her mother said I must marry her because there's no way her daughter will still under her roofs with 3 children.

I pleaded with her to give me sometimes to find my own accommodations because I was living in my father's family house after his demise I stay with his siblings while my mum left with my younger sister.

My mother in law refused saying I must do something fast because she doesn't want people to mocked her that her daughter has gotten pregnant out of wedlock not just with one baby but 3 so I managed to save enough money to get a place for our own but her mother refused saying I must pay her bride price first, I didn't have any more money so i have borrowed from friends and added to the money I had to pay for her bride price. It wasn't a big party just something small, I took my wife to my father family house where we are living now with our triplets but things hasn't been easy for me, taking care of 3 children it's not easy, I am grateful that I am rent free but household bills are killing me.

My wife and I are always arguing because she keeps asking for more money my salary is 55k I use to give her 20k monthly, 10 monthly to my mother and I use 20 and save 5k she said the money wasn't enough that I am stingy, I now started giving her 25k she is still complaining about the money not being enough. I refused giving her more she started staving me of sex and foods. My family are tired of separating us fighting almost every day, my uncle has asked us to leave the compound because we are disturbing there peace and I had to beg him to forgive us that ur shouldn't be happening again and I cautioned my wife but she is threatening to abandon me with the kids. I have told her to do her worse because I am tired of her madness. I wish I never married her in the first, all I could've do is to take care of my kids and let her be I know it's too late now to change the past but what should I do?

It's not too late if she's not ready to cooperate with let her go, send the children to your mum and add the 25k you are giving her to what you are giving your mum

Everester:
Call this thread anything u want, criticize, mark error, I don't care, I just need ur honest opinion, and pls no one should tell me to go make money.

We met some months ago, I got her contact, and u know the rest of this wooing tricks, but the issue is that she is always like I'm not interested and yet, each time we get to meet, she will like to know every details about me

If we talk on phone, she likes to know my current location, she even know some information about me, which I never disclose to her.

Call me a simp, I don't care, but naturally I'm not like this, I don't do this, I'm guided by my church rules, I'm not women freak, but I love her so much, the first time I saw her, I nearly lost my balance, I started having a breaking voice, when talking to her friends, I really love her, and no one should talk about any redpill here,

But today, I got frustrated, I was like, let's define this relationship, I'm not interested in all this ordinary friendship stuff, I didn't get close to u to have u as ordinary friend, I want us to date,
She was like this is all we can have together, friends!
But still, she won't stop interfering with my personal affairs,

Now I'm scared of not getting into friend zone, if u were me, will u try more to persuade her or u just leave her like that?

And pls, nobody should mention anything like "I'm the plan B" cos I know her so much, she is this churchy type, with strict doctrine, me getting her number sef, was a miracle,

So what do u think, am i been stylishly friendzone, or she is trying to forming hard to get and yet we won't stop talking about me.

She's only playing hard to get, she's interested. What you do is get busy and pay her less attention, maybe check on her through phone once in a week or sometimes once in two weeks then watch how she react.

Adonis86:
As I was going through my phone this afternoon, a lady chatted me and I responded. She said she wants to ask me a question, that I shouldn't be angry with her. I assured her that I won't be hard on her. She asked me if I'm a gay. I responded No. She sent me a screenshot of a conversation I had months ago who I later learnt to be her husband. I asked her why she asked of my sexuality, she said she's suspecting her husband of three years to be a gay. It sounds so crazy to me but I suspect it's real due to the screenshot of the message, where the guy was demanding for sex from me. Now, I inquired more about their relationship as couple and found out he beats his wife often, even during her first pregnancy.

Now, the man confirmed to me that he beat the wife last night for going through his phone conversation and labelling him a gay, due to the kinda conversations he's been having with guys. But in a bid to deny it, he deleted the conversation and beat her up on false accusation. The lady has reported to their Reverend in church, but the Reverend discouraged her from going to Human rights commission or leaving the marriage.

Now, she's looking for more evidence to nail the husband. She wants me to send her the whole conversation I had with the husband, showing where the husband was begging me for sex and sending me his nude pictures. But I don't want to be that instrument she'll use to [/b]break up her young family[b]. Though the annoying part is that the husband is very resentful and not even remorseful about his infidelity and domestic violence. The lady is not educated though wanted to learn a skill or go for further studies, but the husband refuses to send her to learn all those skills. According to her, he once accused her in his shop for stealing 45k, which was not true. He stopped her from coming out to his shop, whenever she comes out to stay with him in the shop, he'll be talking her down in the presence of his friends and customers. I was moved by her lamentations, that's why I had to take the pain to write this. I have contacted the husband on Facebook and inquired about the dispute and learnt the lady was saying the truth. Though I threatened the husband with military arrest if he ever touches the wife. But I'm still scared he might get home and pounce on the wife again for talking to me.

Please i need matured advice from people here on how matured to settle this young family dispute without the poor lady suffering further in the hand of this young man.

You call the bolded family? That lady does not have a family what she has is an error that must be corrected fast.

Sometimes I wonder how some ladies stays in an abusive marriage. If am a woman I will prefers to stay single than for a brute to turn me to a punching bag.

And for those pastors that quotes the scriptures out of context to send many to their early graves they can give their own daughters to the abusive men in marriage

Terrorism, banditry, herdsmen are all business and the power that be is reaping fortunes from it

Taking panadol on another man's headache. No wonder she was kicked out of marriage