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Strech:
Even 10 seconds men Dem form James Bond for here..make we hear word abeg.

Lmaooo. You know them! Empty vessels always make the loudest noise. 😂

People with actual sexual prowess nor dey make noise or boast.

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Since birth.

Nazgul:
Abeg Waka make I hear word jare.

Your salty tears make me so happy.

Dikegodspower:
He should come back to chelsea

Honestly, he fell from Grace to grass.

I don't know if it's just me but I'm getting tired of seeing Messi and Ronaldo on my screen. (I'm forever a CR7 fan sha).

It is refreshing watching Saka, Rashford, Haaland, Martinelli, Harverz, Mbappe play.

Nemesis0147:
Greatest of all time 💯💯♥️.
He should come to my Chelsea abeg

Make him nor come Chelsea abeg. 🙏🙏🙏

People get typhoid from drinking contaminated water.

Why maximize profit at the expense of people lives? It's just crazy.

So many daft people displaying their moral depravity on the thread.

Disgusting to say the least!

I pray Ngozi is found hale and hearty and reunite with her family. 🙏

Manchester City are FA Cup Champions.

Well deserved win.

Thankfully, Nazgul people are put to shame today.

Ybaby:

I just love the way Akinwumi Adesina is flourishing.

Congrats to them.

bukatyne:
I would check it out, thanks.

Generalizing cloth colour, Winnie is on her own.

@Crocs: have no opinion really, never had one. I have neven thought of its elegance or lack of.

Alright. You're welcome.

She even talked about nail polish colours oh, if I remember correctly.

bukatyne:
I should have put the disrespect in quotes to show that it is just their trauma playing out.

I am not shocked; served in Akwa Ibom and saw ladies driving bikes about. The women farm and care for the crops then the men harvest, sell and keep the money.

Those not into farming, the women go to their business place while the men sit at home and buy fresh goatmeat with palm wine waiting for the wife to return and cook.

A lady was dating a fellow corper and she would cook with her money, bring the food to our lodge and sleep with the guy. I wondered what exactly she was gaining in the 'situationship' considering it is not a case of 'let me assist my man while he stands on his feet'.

Their women were so muscular! Would carry two white paint buckets stacked on each other uphill a stream while the boys were playing at home.

Same thing applicable in parts of Cross River.

When they say their women f.uck and feed their men, it is no joke.

I hailed my Yoruba brothers after that.

Interesting. I didn't know ladies ride bikes in Awka Ibom. I figured A. Ibom is a modern state given the fact that it's tagged "The State of Hospitality".

Hmmm. That's crazy. Thank God them nor born me for that side oh.

It's somehow fuçking and feeding a man at the same time. It doesn't sound right to me at all.

bukatyne:
1. If a young man had a working woman around him, he wouldn't think like that. It just tells me about your background.

2. Traditional men are bae. Funnily, I used to see myself & husband as nontraditional till I said seeing these crop of feminine men.

A. Cool, God bless them.


D. Nothing is as easy as asserting yourself while feminine. And people would sharperly comply.

5. Pele, can be so stressful. And they actually get to enjoy you when in your feminine because you are relaxed and thinking 'what can I do to make you happy '?

Sorry for the late response.

1. Totally spot on!!

2. Traditional men are EVERYTHING and more!
Lmao. How can you say you thought y'all are non-traditional? 😂😂😂😂The milleninal generation is fully traditional.

A. Amennn. Thank you very much.

D. Yup certainly. Assertiveness is the new cool.

5. Lol. So true. We both enjoy when I'm in my best feminine state.

Persephone1:
I borrowed it from Maggie. . Since the day i read it it got stuck. 😂😂😂😂

I've been rolling on my bed with fits of laughter. 😂😂😂😂

I don adopt am too.

Persephone1:

Please stop referring me to that chart, it is irritating my n**ples .

Na this one kill me. 🤣🤣🤣🤣

I cringe when Nairaland mods allow daft topics grace the front page.

This Op is clearly one with Fi fi imagination.

Another thread was created by the Op on May 16th claiming married woman who's been married for 6 years.

https://www.nairaland.com/7691434/married-woman-needs-advice

Klass99:
I missed that diary entry fa 🤣. So far, so good. You're doing well.

Lol. You missed it.

Thank you Klass.

bukatyne:
1. Don't mind the 'alfa meils'; most of them are hungry 'I never chop boys or young boys toying with things above their paygrade' that should be looking for jobs or admissions to higher institutions. When you hear things like 'all career women have sugar daddies' or 'they slept their way to the top' or 'XYZ' or 'where is the work of N100k/month in Nigeria?', you should know the calibre of people you are dealing with.

2. And they would continue to increase. Modern feminism and the West generally have continued to batter masculinity churning out feminine men. Then you have the scourge of single motherhood so no male examples for their sons who either grow up with mummy issues or hate their gender. Could be the reason we have more transgendering into females. Nigeria doesn't fare any better; the boys are brought out with fragile egos that they begin to cower around women who can hold her own and/or try to break her. Bullying is a sign of inferiority complex. I remember when men/guys had the patience to actually woo a lady and wait for her reply. Today, you hear 'are you doing or not doing' via WhatsApp! I love Bobby Valentino's Slow Down, it is a good old school music.

3. I love that you noticed that

A. Female friendships are fun. I also love female bosses, and as I grew more, I gravitated towards female underwear vendors. I can sit in your stall and tell you how I want thongs matching my bras and you will dig out various patterns for that purpose while we chit chat lightly. Yettymuse seems to be a G, she reminds me of Ybaby.

B. 100% pass mark. When you are done, you feel like a lady or a princess.

C. Warris this? I am sure I would have gotten a ban from the court or charged for contempt when I will tell someone sweetly that 'a gentleman in skirt is a crossdresser; I am a lady' . Represented my company in court once and giggled when I was told to address the female judge as 'Sir' and not ma. After the third giggle, she wanted to charge me for contempt and I received sense sharperly.

D. Femininity is powerful. I remember a lady in a tough role then. She would tell you no with a smile that you would 'pity her for the burden for saying no'. She was very beautiful, feminine, had a nice shape which wasn't so pronounced based in the cloths she wore. Then another lady took over (had badass figure , wasn't so feminine and had serious issues that she would dig out her predecessor's mail and be like see 'I am not trying to be difficult; even XYZ said no before'. That's when I learnt that femininity actually trumps sexiness.

5. It is really really key to find that balance when in a relationship. Leading in your masculinity would attract a feminine man; Perhaps she got a masculine man or a man in the middle if the relationship progresses and the woman continues in her masculinity, he would either leave her in that relationship (physically or emotionally) or tilt towards feminine. Some people are not grounded in their 'sexuality' and tilt towards the opposite end of the energy received from their partners. That's why a man can be 'irresponsible' or not manly with woman A and become a perfect gentleman with woman B. Or a woman is a tigress with man A and becomes a dove with man B.

E. You are welcome. And I apologise that I have and would continue to spam your mentions as I redirect peeps to that post.

1. I was totally pissed when I saw comments here on a Nairaland thread that "All career women have sugar daddies" and "She slept her way up the ladder". Such disgusting mentality. That's how I even saw on Twitter of how some people labelled Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala, Chimamanda Adichie an ashawo. If I wasn't amused that day, I'd be lying.

2. I will check for the Bobby Valentino song. Thanks for this.

So true. These days, there are feminine men scattered all over the place and I don't even know what to say about such.
I still prefer the traditional men though.

3. Hahaha. Sure thing. I'm very observant.

A. Yes yes. I love female Bosses a lot. I can say I'm privileged to have enjoyed all female Bosses I've been with in the past. The last one was a female Judge during my law school days, she was super nice to me and she mentored me till I was done doing Externship at her court.

B. Do you get??! Tell me which lady who doesn't love to experience the princess treatment.

C. Oh thankfully, you've experienced that in court. I always cringe when female Judges are referred to as Sir. I also hate when we're tagged "Gentleman in skirt". 😂😂😂Abi I kuku be cross dresser oh.

D. Lol. I always say my No with a soft, warm smile. My voice won't be domineering, it will be firm but always with a wide smile. It leaves people confused. 🤣🤣🤣🤣

5. Or a woman is a tigress with man A and becomes a dove with man B.

This!!!!!! This is my story, this is my song.

Well, you can't blame me. Man A made the masculinity part of me to jump out. Man B activated my feminine side and I'd be wondering how Tigress turn to cute puppy.

E. Lol no wahala.

bukatyne:
Well, they are strong women who do not want to be disrespected by men. If only they knew that you can cloth a man, feed him, he would beat you up (infact, that's the summary of the IG post I brought here) and give your money to a slay mama to buy Brazilian hair. If a masculine man sees you as a woman he loves and wants, he doesn't need your money/wealth at a base level. Yes, you might have to split bills, have a joint pot, yada yada (if his paycheck cannot take the family home) but what he values is your femininity.

Also, some women are operating from the wounded feminine (daddy issues, disappointments especially from romantic relationships, others experiences etc.) and cannot receive. They see every effort to help/gift from the point of disrespect. I am not talking of a man giving you a gift when he has made it clear he wants sex or relationships and the woman is trying to be smart o

😆 😂 😆 😂 😆 😂 😆 @ Bible said; you have joined Ybaby's Church. That passage was actually talking to men and women in reference to taking care of their aged ones but feel free to use it to knock sense into their heads.

True. I agree that there are women who don't want to be disrespected by men.

That IG post you shared is a common reality these days. It's so sad. I see some women babysitting their Men and I'm always amused by such.

This thing is also common in the southern parts of Nigeria. There are communities in Edo and Delta that the Women are sole providers and the men cross legs and balance at home doing nothing. You'd be shocked.

In Agbor, Delta State, it is women that ride okada bike, keke and bicycles.

The first time I visited there, I was culturally shocked.

Lol. I like some comments from Ybaby. Na sabi woman she be.

Klass99:
🤣. I'm glad it made you laugh because it is not funny when they ask. It annoys me because they want to come to your house to eat food you cooked. They still expect that when you visit them, you will enter kitchen to cook food both of you will eat.

Thanks to an older woman's advice years ago I no dey do that second one of going to a man's house to cook or display my home keeping skills. She told me and my flatmate then, not to do that unless they've put a ring on it. However, we can cook in our own place and invite them over for lunch or dinner, or even pack the food in a nice container and ask them to pick it up.

I don't mind the same question from a fellow woman, because with a woman I know that if I tell her I am coming over she will cook/prepare for my visit and I will do the same thing if she was the visiting. It is not that when I reach her place, she will be telling me she has egusi and stew in the fridge, whether I can turn semo, boil yam or rice for us to eat.

When I wrote it on my diary previously that I don't see myself cooking for Men asides my family and friends, they all came for my head.
Not until I'm sure that the relationship is heading to marriage before I will try that.

Nor be me them wan kill.

Of course, I pack food up for my friends (both male and female) in a nice container or even teach the male friend how to cook. I did this cos he's my closest male friend and more like a brother to me.

Even when I was in Benin, hostel or my father's house, my male friends will drive to my hostel or meet me in front of my father's house and take the food from me and return my food container. Same thing goes for when I bake.

I've NEVER cooked for any lover sha. I don't like stress. I'd rather we eat out, or he cooks. But for me to say let me flaunt my cooking skills in his place, count me out.

Even when I visit my female friends, they're the ones who cook. They won't say "Oya Flaky, enter kitchen and cook whatever you want to eat". I'm the guest and you're the host for crying out loud.